I work in HR and this is ALWAYS a nightmare. They are either in each other’s face all day or bringing their issues to work. THEN, we have to hear all the details when it starts falling apart. My advice is DON’T DO IT. Trust me, it’s not worth it!

"Never get ya honey where you make ya money"

In college I was intimate with a coworker. The next day everyone at work knew what we did, how we did, and where we did. After that, I NEVER talked to another coworker in that fashion again.

I dated my coworker. We kept things outside the office and in the office it was strictly professional. Fast forward to today, we have been together for 8 years and married. I was lucky it worked out. Avoid the office romance or be super extremely careful.

When you break up, you’re stuck seeing them every day. As well as- seeing them flirt with other people, hearing them talk about the people they like or are dating, having their new partner come into work to see them, having to see them with their new partner at all the company gatherings. You’ll want to quit, or will quit, so you don’t have to be around them.

I will give you the No #1 reason "Sexual Harassment".

Dating a coworker depends on how valuable your job is to you. If it’s a job that was not easily attained that you very much enjoy and has good pay then I suggest NEVER engaging in any dating or sexual activity with co workers. If just a job that you can easily replace then all bets are off for the right piece of ass.

Sound advice my friend. As a collage once said: “You don’t get your meat where you get your bread!

Here are my notes (hope it helps): 1. Company policy 2. You look unprofessional 3. Office gossip 4. Productivity decrease 5. Absance makes the heart go fonder 6. Work life balance (work main subject) 7. Arguments (no space to deal with it) 8. Breaking up (healing prices) 9. Her dating someone else at work 10. H.R. Sexual harassment

Fellas, please listen to O.G.!! Resist the temptation to hold hands with Suzie! 🤣😂 If you do have interest in a coworker (romantic or sexual), don't express that interest until YOUR LAST DAY.

I think every guy needs to hear this.

For everyone that’s commenting that they dated their coworker & have been married for anything longer than 10 yrs, that’s a beautiful thing. But the present day working environment is a completely different landscape. Great vid OG

Thank you addressing this topic. Never have I ever dated a female co-worker throughout my job experiences. Every job I worked from retail to warehouse jobs, Co-workers would spread gossip about either talking about whomever they were sleeping with by accident or someone has a crush on. As for me, I was always aware that it was unwise to date/mate a female coworker because I didn't want my name in the workplace gossip. I was accused of being gay by both male and female coworkers because I didn't engage in trying to date/mate female coworkers at that time which was untrue and hurtful. The reason why they assumed because I wasn't try to holla at a woman while working like the other guys were doing in the workplace, but rather being professional and productive. Some employees really don't understand how professionalism really matters in the workplace because your personality, work ethic, and reputation is on the line rather than trying to hook up. I also want to point out that there's a time and a place for engaging with women in such places like a lounge, parties, festivals, and so on. I stay on the grind until this day and hard work really do pay off. Keep up the great work 👍

Certainly would be weird seeing your ex walking around the parking lot with the next guy. Nice vid!

My guy this is on point. I've dated two co workers at a previous workplace and both of em blew up in my face. 1st, not only did we see each other every day, we saw each other every weekend too. I got tired and eventually made up a lie to not see her one weekend and when she didn't bite on the lie,it was the beginning of the end. After the break up, man the very next day I got a smack outa nowhere. 2nd time round, we didn't see each other that much on weekends but in short, after we broke up, she dated another dude at work and man I wanted to strangle the guy every time I walked past them being all lovey dovey but I didn't so I learnt the hard way to NEVER DATE MY COWORKER AGAIN

The job that I currently work on, I see this all the time. You tend to get caught up in a lot of “He Say, She Say”. Also, you run the risk of being sent to HR if you say the “wrong thing” to a female & she feels offended by it. And the romantic relationship (or sexual) goes SOUTH between you and that other person, the AWKWARDNESS is extreme!

I dated my superior once and had to find a new job. She wanted to keep it a secret but it got out and just stressed her out. Her personality soured really quick after she lost control. fun times.

I used to date a girl at work back in my twenties, it was cool at first then it went bad. We used to go jr. high together where I knew her and she knew me. I applied for a new job at a department store and she was sitting there and called out my full name lol. We were friends at first as always and we lived five blocks away from each other. The was job was a good walk home for the both of us but she take a cab until I said to her let me walk you home, it was a Spring afternoon. We started liking each other more and until I asked her to be my lady and see said yes . We saw each at work, at lunch , after work and days off. She would show up on my block while I was playing basketball, I had no time to be me. After a year and half we broke up over something stupid and from that point I was able to breathe again. NEVER DATE SOMEONE YOU WORK WITH 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽

Never crap where you eat ... wiser words never given to me by an older male co worker many many years ago. I saw so many other guys lose their jobs and sanity by dating co workers. I stayed away from all that no matter how attractive a female co worker was.

When you do break up she most definitely will start hanging out with another co-worker because while you were dating, trust me those thirsty guys were hitting on her and talking bad/lying about you to her.

Great points brother, I made that mistake early on in my career and promised to never do it again and I have even told other folks how big of a mistake it is. Salute OG

Could not agree any more, as the old saying goes, "Don't get your HONEY, where you make your MONEY" I have seen it done successfully, but tread carefully when trying to date a colleague or just don't do it at all.

I would add to that. Don't date anyone in the same building as you. It makes for awkward situations when you break up and you have to share the elevator together.

I had a lot a friends do this and I learned early on that you don’t mix business with pleasure.

I was taught at an early age by my O.G. Uncles: "NEVER dip your pen in company ink! " To be fair, I did "tether the line" once with a (former) coworker ... after I put in my two-week notice 😉👌🏾

Great points. This is part of a bigger rule to not mix business with personal. Don't hire friends or family to do work for you. If there's a problem it will hurt the relationship.

I made this mistake once when I was about 21. Thank God it didn't get THAT bad but it definitely shook up my personal life in a bad way. Never again.

I see it ALL THE TIME at my Job! I just put my Thriller jacket on and eat my Popcorn...

this video is absolutely right! I learned the hard way twice dating coworkers

Man, I wished more people heeded this advice! Things may seem great at first! ...but it can snowball out of control quickly. At the cost of your stomach acid and your coworkers that have to deal with the inevitable fallout. Don’t be dipping your pen in the company ink!

I dated someone that work in the business next door and how the companies operated it was if we were coworkers. When we were together things were great however when we broke up (his decision) the hurt began and watching him go about his daily affairs as if I never existed was beyond heartbreaking. I believe when you are truly into someone you do not mind seeing them everyday and if you are creative you can add mystery to your romance. The trouble and hurt begins when things go wrong and you breakup.

AGREED ! I had this experience ( a few times 🤕 ) in my youth and learned my lesson the hard way, boss and co-workers. More importantly, Anytime either one of you is seen interacting with anyone of the opposite sex it's assumed ( you're dating) ! That "side eye" we got we earned ! 💯👌❤

My generation had a saying that I have lived by my entire career and it goes like this ...you don't sh** where you eat !!!! Translation you don't do anything that could cause a problem in the workplace or worse hurt that income !good advice from the style OG salute sir !

When dating a co-worker that first kiss can be the kiss of death

I knew all of this but I needed the reassurance.

LoL 😂 I dated a co worker, been married going on 24 yrs now♥️

I agree but it's not the worst thing...my wife and I meet as co workers and it was really kool that way. We're married more than 5 years now and to me it's been the best decision. Most people may not have the time to look for a relationship outside of work due to harsh work schedules and online hook ups don't always go well so most times building a relationship at work, once it makes sense and is safe enough may be the best course of action.

I needed this video two months ago.

I totally agree with this. Why mess your money up for a fling?

People spend more time at work than they they do at home or anywhere else. It’s natural to date on your job because those are the people you spend the most time with, but it rarely turns out well. & once you do it you learn your lesson & never want to do it again lol

Also, AVOID partying with coworkers or at least hold it to a strict limit.

I’ve always cringed at the idea of this for some reason.

I learned this phrase early in my career- “Don’t crap where you Eat.”

I see this so much on my job, It's like high school how everybody is dating each other. There's one young lady who is on guy No. 4 that she's dated at our workplace.

A fantastic video which should be mandatory curriculum for every professional man. Great as always, Jeff...thanks for this. Salut!

Bro, I learned this lesson the hard way. I dated my former female co-worker for four months, then I proposed to her two months, planned a wedding three months after, words spread throughout our city civil service agency. Ears and mouths were shocked were engaged. My future mother-in-law and I did not get along. Relationship ended December 2019. Lesson learned. Never date your co-worker!

Thanks man ! You really changed my whole plan since I wanted to date my co worker. I agree with you 100 % , warm greetings from Mogadishu Somalia.

I concur with you brother OG . It's just a very tough task dating a co- worker. Like you said missing ma girl the whole day spices things up, which I won't be able to experience if we see each other all day at work.

There’s this older man I turned down and he is mad . Now he is playing passive aggressive .. almost hitting me with his forklift twice .. cutting in front of me at the time clock then letting me clock in first . Finding objects to accidentally trip over around me . I’m honestly ready to report him. I do not feel safe .

Don't get laid where you get paid. Great vid brother!

My mother always told us, "Don't $hit where you eat." Although the language isn't polite, the message is on point!

10 Reasons You Should Not Date A Neighbor should be next

It's funny I was warned about this when I did it, I was really respected at work and always got my things done. When we started I got distracted just like you said, lol got in trouble at my job for the first time ever. Luckily I only worked at that job for six more months before getting a better job. Plus we never had an argument in that time so I didn't have to deal with that awkward situation. Still together today at a year and a half later so sometimes it works out. So long as you both keep progressing in life.

Learning from experience, I was demoted because of the productivity dropping while dating a colleague Also, there was no qualms about her comparing work problems with relationship issues, while at work. She ended up quitting after my demotion, but the damage was done and though we are still distant friends, I had to learn the hard way...the fact the manager encouraged our relationship and penalized me when it ended really taught me a valuable lesson. I no longer work for that company...

On point! Expand your game. The lowest hanging fruit is not the sweetest 😉

I started working at a pizza shop when I was 18 and I was on my second day when a dude walked in looking for his gf and he looked pissed. I said, I think she's in the back hold on. She came out and he started yelling at her about cheating on him. The guy she was cheating on happened to be another co-worker, he comes walking out and a yelling match started. Luckily we had no customers at the time. So these two dudes are face to face and the girl is yelling at both while everyone was yelling at everyone. I'm just standing there like "I'm about to see some shit, alright!!" the bf pulls out a knife and stabs the dude she's been cheating on in the shoulder. The now ex bf takes off running out the door, 911 got called and I'm trying to help this guy so he doesn't bleed to death. It was a wild work day. The ex bf got 8 years in prison and they both got fired but I found out that they got married a few days later, she got pregnant by her ex but told her new husband it was his. She tricked his ass. The other girl who worked there who was friends with the other girl quit 2 weeks later so I didn't get the "Jerry Springer" scoop anymore. I got promoted in two days of work. That's when I decided "Never date or get with or mess around with co-workers" it could lead to bad news.

I dated one and married her. We kept it very discrete and both quit within five months after years of working for that employer. She was the first woman I’d ever dated anywhere I’d worked. Had opportunities, though didn’t want to deal with what would’ve or could’ve been drama filled work life.

People need to realize that being employed these days is a PRIVILEGE. Why risk your job? Although O.G. touched on it, the possible negative effect that workplace dating has on your colleagues cannot be over emphasized.

Depends on how you both handle things in the work place. We only came around each other on quick breaks going for a walk. We worked in different departments so it made it easy. Hung outside of work. Getting married next year!

Dated someone at work, when it didn't work out everyone in the office had a good time at my expense. Wasn't a good experience.

My dad always said, "Never look for meat where you make your bread."

I know someone that is with two females at the same time in the work place. Meeting one girl in the parking lot while the other girl is upstairs working. They will go back to their desk a couple minutes apart so it Won’t look like they was together, so the other girl or other people can’t catch on to what’s going on.

I have done this. Have had good situations. Although ultimately it ended badly, it wasn't because of the workplace. What I will say though is I wouldn't do it again. Ultimately, who's for you will appear in any format in your life. Peace.

I agree it's not a great idea. I have seen colleagues who date and break up, very messy. Accusations start flying, its even worse when one of them holds a senior position.

You are so right, Jeff! I've definitely been there. We broke up, and here I am sneaking back to her area to see who's hitting on her......don't do it! 😂

All valid points Jeff. I couldn't imagine working with my wife. Absent's makes the heart grow fonder.

Learnt this the hard way!

I'm heartbroken now. We broke up and he hooked up with another coworker 😪.

Dating a coworker is like playing with fire🔥

Keyword is ‘date’, can I still engage in other consensual activities? 😅

I needed this brother because there is a new girl that just got hired at my job recently and she’s attractive. However, me too culture and knowing that everybody in the workplace doesn’t serve my best interest. I need to keep my livelihood and stay out of drama

Bro you have killed every subject I've been telling my friends for years!!! I fully support your channel keep the videos coming!!!

Never dip your pen in the company ink

NEVER, REPEAT, NEVER DATE ON THE JOB!! It will be EVERYONE'S relationship. What if there is a breakup or even a quarrel, it will be hellish. What about those outside the relationship gossiping about the two of you? What about HR? The only way to play on the job is if you are passing through as a temporary worker, 3-6 months,so if things go south, you will be leaving soon or can just bounce at will. Never s#/t where you eat.

I would never, ever-ever-ever-ever-ever date a co-worker again. I did not cheat on her with a new girl. In her mind i did. The new girl flirted a little, but it wasn't even like that. Long story short, she requested that I get relocated. I got relocated in the building and lost a promotion. Had to hear gossip about me. Had to avoid her at meetings. It's NOT WORTH IT! Great Vid, Style OG!

Office gossip is very true… I had a situation once where a coworker stayed the night at mine, and then we went to work together in the same car - Apparently me and her were spotted outside of work by another co-worker. The next day, Two co workers got to work early and waited outside a shop near our workplace JUST to see us in the same car haha was so embarrassing on their behalf.

I stay away from flirty coworkers. I respect myself a lot

Sound advice... I'm at work to perform and move up in the company. Dating a co worker will slow that process down....

salute jeff. i found that out the hard way been there, done that. but thank God i found someone we've been happy 20 + now and i love going to work and coming home to my lady.

I got here early and I’m giving you a like!

11th reason, she's married.

My one coworker is pretty fine but I wont tell her. Would rather be her friend everyday than make things awkward

This is a great and funny video because I walked in those shoes! She was in call center department and I was in the maintenance department so i think that helped us out and we dated until we got married! Lol we been married for 6 years now but... Your right about all the points in this video and I think the only way we made it is because of different departments!! Great very Salute and Respect OG 👌👍💯👌👍💯

I needed to hear this today!!! THANK YOU!!!!

Been there, done that....got the tshirt too. LOL. But it is a very good rule to follow. Of course I was much younger when I didn't and didn't care, man that thang gets messy when you try to get serious. So heed the warning yall: DON'T shit where you eat.

Great job jeff you did it again every real O. G already knows this

i work at walmart and there are people in the same store dating all the time . BUT my job in walmart is being an undercover Asset Protection agent. if HR finds out i'm dating an associate they will automatically think i can give them ways to steal and getaway with it . i'll tell ya there was this one girl i drooled over i asked her for her insta and she gave me it, but didn't follow me back. i'm pretty sure that happend for a reason. ignoring her from this day on. i love my job. no way i'm loosing it over a crazy LATINA chick forget it buddy

100% truth! Thank you for posting this, employees really need to see this!

So so true. I made commitment @15 to never date a coworker. Now I'm 32 and just recently dated a coworker, why? She was about 2 xfer to another location and she was pretty much the one to ask me out, also on a dry spell and she was cute and aggressive. Went on one date and she had told me she told another coworker about us who also told others. I warned her that if she tells how great we are other girls will aggressively go after me, now I can control myself but the jealousy she will get will strain the relationship. I experienced this in school and why I never wanted to take it into work. After 2 dates i stopped talking to her. Felt like she had a bf.We were never physical. Had I ignored my intuition I feel like one of us would have gotten hurt. But just reminder why I made that decision 17 years ago, and all the repercussion that can come from a sour relationship at work.

You are absolutely correct. I know from experience. I will NEVER date a coworker again!

It depends.....worked for me. Don't work toether anymore, but something to be said for being with somone with similar values...Just have to have two mature individuals

Too late lol we kept it on the low but its awkward when we run into each other. Highly recommend against lol

It's stupid to do it especially went working on the same department, I did it, get fired but one my bosses likes me, got reinstated on one condition, to be transferred to a different location. Guess what I was totally uncomfortable working their everyone knew the reason why i got transferred, everytime I passed it's either my other coworkers gossiping , staying silence. At the end I quit by my self.

I laughed throughout this WHOLE video! 😂😂😂 I was involved (only once) with a co-worker (yuck!), back in 1989 (yuck!). I haven't done it since (thank GOD!)

Yo this video is 100% accurate! SALUTE, Jeff!!!!

It’s always a no no for me when it comes to coworkers

I won't I really agree with it but at the same time I can't disagree with it cause my parents are married 25+ years and where did they meet, at work. but do they currently work at the same job, no

Great video and I enjoyed it and keep bringing great content and have a blessed day

Sometimes hard to do. But good, solid advice.

The way I’ve alway heard is, “Don’t get your meat where you get your bread.” Great vid O.G.!