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"The true manipulator never has a reputation for manipulating" - Gill Bates

Sounds like master manipulators would fit the role of bosses very well.

The silent treatment, being unable to say no to them or talking in circles are the most common signs I’ve experienced! They’re so painfully obvious, and yet so effective - these videos are extremely helpful with recognizing these manipulation tactics! Thank you!

I used to speak my mind in the heat of the moment in most times just to quickly regret doing so. Now I tend to do the "Silent treatment" not because I want to be passive aggressive but I don't want to speek before I think about it. Great video!

From what I've noticed in real life, master manipulative people have a few very common traits : 1. Never say what they really think, they only say what they know you would like to hear 2. They come across as kind and good intentioned (it is the mask they wear) 3. They never get visibly angry and never argue directly Master manipulators never show signs of ill intentions, this is what makes it even more insidious.

In short, if they act like Rashta, they're a God at manipulating. From: The Remarried Empress

These are great tips! I’ve been trying to become a better manipulator, and this video has been a big help. Great stuff!

Sometimes I come here just to listen to your voice 😂 it’s so warm and comforting. Thank you.

Manipulation is easy, the hard part is being a good person and not do it even though you know damn well it would save you problems.

I would like to point out that the act of ignoring someone is not always manipulative. If someone is verbally abusing you and you didn't do anything to antagonize them, then ignoring that person actually is a reasonable response to verbal abuse. On the other hand, if you did something to antagonize the person and then ignore their response to it, preventing them from healthy resolution of their feelings, then yes, that's manipulative abuse.

I just saved myself from a 6 year intimate relationship with a MM. When I ended it, he told me he thought it was a great decision that I was ‘taking control of my life’. And, hoped we could still be friends. He always said we could talk about anything, that I could ask anything but we never did. This was so accurate on all 10 signs!

Thank you Psych2go, this video was really helpful for me. I dated a diagnosed sociopath. He would always dodge my important questions about him, and always ignored me when i stated things i would like from him in the relationship, like communication, and i see that it was a sign of how he was very manipulative. He would even make me question my own beliefs and morals. Now i understand more.

I spent the last 8 years of my life believing I was manipulative, when in actuality I was gaslit by a narcissist into believing so. Nearly this entire video resonates with what I believe about myself, except that I wear my flaws on my sleeve and am VERY quick to apologize. I'm starting to feel this entire thing finally unravel itself backwards, and I can't even begin to describe how better off I am.

Is- is that Rashta in the thumbnail or am I just imagining it? That's so fitting, I don't hate her but she definitely is a manipulator. I love this channel so much! Edit: What I meant was I hate her actions not her as a person, though I'm starting to.With her past I can't blame her wanting to keep the safety she has, but her actions are still inexcusable. Sovieshu though- Edit: 1K?! I'm famous now, hehe Edit: 1.9K?? Jeez you all are inflating my non existent ego, ah thanks for the heart!

Ur video and content quality has really improved a lot.

ive been going through so many emotions with someone... she makes makes me feel horrible about myself, and she is extremely passive aggressive... all my friends are supportive... but i must say, some of videos i've been watching from this channel has really helped for me. must say thank you!

First sign: His name is Light Yagami/Kira.

Whoever is the animator, narrator, the people who run down this channel, etc. please know that ilyall

This video was interesting to watch just like all the other videos, I love how they add anime or game characters sometimes too

I’ve been through tons of manipulation so I really appreciate these videos

"They often use others for personal gain" ME: OH MY GOSH! IT'S SOVIESHIT AND TRASHTA!!!!

i never thought that i would see trashta as a thumbnail for psych2go 👁👄👁

Loved the symbolic use of Chess pieces through the video. Best use of stylistic device, well chosen! :)

hey, i love your content and your way to draw thing, thank you for all your work :)

Is that trashta?? Perfect reference

Aleena: i personally have BPD, and i used to be, well, pretty toxic and had a LOT of these traits, and i admit that i was indeed a master manipulator, at certain points i even had other toxic people in my life to "victimise me" and blow my reactions out of proportion to gain sympathy with other friends who were good, when in all actuality i was only mildly upset and used those toxic people for validation by having them "make it up to me", or sometimes for aid in helping me on a video game to gain a "profit" in the digital sense. eventually once i started cutting out the toxic people and getting more into psychology, i started redirecting those manipulations solely to people who were good to me and took advantage of their kindness, and eventually, i realised i was in the wrong, but i had been doing this for years that i lost sight of what was manipulation and what wasn't, it was second nature at that point, baked into my behaviours, and eventually, one of the good friends i took advantage of, Aubrey, i had asked her "what exactly am i doing wrong? explain it to me" and she said something along the lines of "you act like you always have an angle" i think it was, or "you just act in a way that always hurts me" and i thanked her and it was a real slap in the face and i started bettering myself. i went around and asked my friends and started second guessing everything i did, constantly worrying how it came off, if it hurt them, and eventually learned real quick who was still toxic to me, because they got mad at me for ludicrous things, and they wanted the stability, even if our friendship was toxic. eventually, after a couple years, i got pretty good at not being manipulative on a daily basis. i still had a long ways to go, but now, year upon years later, i'm a hell of a lot better, and now have only a couple symptoms of my BPD left that i need to fix, and work on with our therapist. it took a long ass time to get here, but now i can be proud that this story, is just the recounting of the dark, and black pages of the story of my life, written in blood ink to represent how much i hurt others, and myself, and that those pages now do nothing but collect dust, and serve as dark and ominous reminders of how bad i can be, and what to never, EVER become again.

You style and voice and yanfei💥give me calming down while watching

OH MY GAWDD Is that Trashta, from the webtoon The Remarried Empress, indicated at 3:57 ??? goshhh that was real smooth

My mother used to give me the silent treatment for days ever since I was 10. I would get on my knees and beg for her to just speak to me again. But eventually it just became normal and I find myself almost doing it to others, I have to stop myself because I remember how it felt. For awhile I thought I was secretly manipulative like her.

Thanks for the tutorial!!

Recently I stopped talking to a friend who had a lot of these tendencies, at the beginning of our friendship I always felt inferior to her, and when she would deploy these techniques I never really realised it. Later on though, after I started building up my confidence and a backbone, I did start calling her out whenever she was manipulative. At one point she tried guilt tripping me, which I called out, then she tried gaslighting and lying to me about it which I also called her out on. After that point it kind of wasn't the same. After she left my city, where she was staying for a couple weeks, she started taking hours to respond which was very unlike her and started lying about what she was doing and so I called her out on it and told her if she didn't want to talk to me then the least she could is just tell me, and the amount of excuses and lies she made. Like oh I'm just not in a social mood, or I haven't had any time, etc. And she finally admitted at the end that she didn't care about me anymore or want to talk to me anymore these days, and that was it. We stopped talking, then like 3 days later she sent me a TikTok out of nowhere and never said anything. At first I was kind of relieved because I still wanted to be friends with her. I valued the time I spent with her, I liked her personality when she wasn't manipulative and acted childish and excited about different things, so I responded and I sent her a TikTok back but she never responded so I got annoyed and deleted those messages and simply asked her if she sent that TikTok by mistake and she still hasn't responded 4 days later. Is this another manipulative technique to see if she still has my attention or could have this been a genuine accident and if so why wouldn't she say it was or why wouldn't have she deleted it after she sent it if it was by accident?

If somebody is a master manipulator you will most likely never find out he/she is manipulating you

You will never leave a tough discussion with a manipulator/narcissist and be like, “We really got somewhere with that talk.”.

Nice, I have all the signals and the disorders symptoms, what a perfect personality and life :D

True manipulators don’t get caught for being a manipulator If you find someone who is truly manipulating you (on purpose) they most likely wanted you to know.

_Timestamps_ 0:55 - They don’t always seem intimidating 1:24 - They assume that humans are inherently evil 1:48 - They find a practical necessity for manipulation 2:22 - They like to embellish stories 2:47 - Their phrasing is ambiguous 3:15 - They use passive - agressiveness 3:52 - They often use others for personal gain 4:22 - You are scared to say no to them 4:49 - They talk in circles 5:24 - They are diagnosed with a personality disorder Hope this helped :)

Silent treatment can also be a trauma response because the person is afraid to voice their true feelings

Thx for the tips was looking for more ways to manipulate 🙏

The simple thing to do is to treat everyone based on how they act. Because at the end of the day, we'll never really know whether they were truly manipulative, or it's just their personality. So we act based on how they act. That way we won't make a mistake. We won't mistreat them. We won't hurt anyone. And we won't hurt ourselves either. That's the best way to resolve anything. Respond properly, correctly, and not overdo it.

Me: *sees the title* ...hm. Also Me: *sees character* Ohhh Christ, here we go again with the Empress of the Thotlands.

Omg is that Rashta and Soveishu? You guys are amazing lmao

Trait no. 9 matches with me a lot. I talk in circles when questioned. I choose my wording carefully, know how to change a topic (I'm a professional there), and the conversation is still normal, and kinda systematic too. Heavens

The thing is... As a borderline that have a boderline mom and a boderline grandmother, I hate manipulation and I hate that people assume that I am trying to manipulate them. I almost never lie (if I try people just know, I am a terrible liar), and I try to always be empathetic, admit my mistakes, I never assume people are trying to be evil, I think they only don't think as me. But, I am really sensitive, cry easily and explain my reason and way of thinking in a deep way... And as I am a boderline and my bf know, he, sometimes, think that I am trying to manipulate him with my feelings! I hate that so much! I am just expressing how I feel! I not even trying to make him do what I want, I am just explaining my side. So I really hate this word and hate the assumption that borderline are manipulative. This is really confuse and make me feel terrible. I feel that If I tell people how I feel they assume that is a manipulation... This is really terrible.

“Charisma has three points. The nature of a hero or prophet, the ability to simply make you feel good when you’re around them, and the intelligence to eloquently talk about all sorts of things,” - Saiga Jouji (Psycho Pass) Ever thought of making a Profiling video as I think this video is somewhat close to the meaning.

And this is why I’m not friends with this girl anymore. She’s a GOOD manipulator

The intro is a great way of manipulating viewers into subscribing. What a great example!

Thank you for teaching me how to be a master manipulator, I now manipulated a lot of people and I always get what I want no matter what.

People who watched death note... Ohh yeah it's all coming together

To the person who've suffered emotionally from manipulation, best to learn from it and move on. My experience tells me it isn't worth battling with manipulators because they will manipulate their way to winning. It won't make you less of a person to give up or avoid interactions on a manipulator. Manipulators mix well with manipulators and the earlier you recognize this, the better.

A manipulator can pretty much be summarized as one word: a coward. Someone who hides behind a shield of lies and deceit and avoids the consequences of their reality. You can tell they didn’t grow up with decent parenting in their life. Which is just as equally sad as them having to rely on cowardly behaviors in the first place. Honestly, they’re more of a disappointment than anything.

I just looked up the VO for the first time bc her voice is soothing and beautiful and I was curious what she looks like, and holy shit idk what I was expecting but it wasn't that! 😂😭🤩

Love the Rise of the Shield Hero and Remarried Empress reference.

LOVE the Remarried Empress reference 🧡✨

Well sorry sis couldn't finish your tube ...youtr sound is very beautiful, its make me fly into dream world in a second..

Very Good analysis

There's another good one an old "friend" used to use: he would sit there and pump up someone's ego by telling them how awesome they are, and everything they say is funny, and pretended he resonates with them so perfectly.. Subsequently, they'd drop thier guard

in all honesty, i feel like everyone is a manipulator but in their own way haha

i reallt liked the video just wanted to say that the yanfei is so cute

YOUR VOICE IS SO BEAUTIFUL, I WONDER ABOUT YOUR LOOKS.

I believe humans are born innocent and good, and it's our environment that shapes us.

Me, who has all the traits: -It isn’t what it looks like I swear-

y u the only person that actualy made me sub 2 u on the first vid!!

This, explains me so much. Man.

Just want to note that manipulation can also be unintentional, a lot of people end up using manipulative techniques without realizing especially socially. I believe so long as they're not making it a trend or intentionally doing it to harm you it's not necessarily something to hugely worry about. In fact, it is very common in family dynamics, someone may sway you to do as they wish with your best interests in mind too unintentionally purely out of wanting the best for you. I'm not excusing people who are blatantly manipulative and actively use it as a means to get what they want. But more avoid being too critical of others who may exhibit these traits on a subconscious level. It's very easy to get lost and start distrusting all those around you, I know I have a tendency to have trust issues around others. Best wishes to all of you, and if you are being quite rudely manipulated on a consistent basis, cut that person out of your life or don't fear saying no to them, try not to resort to emotional responses either, most people will tug you in their direction to get a reaction out of you, invoke a response and in that control, they can provoke the response they want.

Bipolar isn't a personality disorder, it is a mood disorder. Like Major Depressive disorder.

This is a current thing that's happening in my life with my mother's relationship this video really helped

Thanks for your videos they help 😊

JAJAJAJA Y PONEN A RASTHA EN LA MINIATURA, LO AMO XD

I felt like a manipulator before, but i am not sure, if it is just because of me being an INTP. I mean, observing structures, for example social structures and being fascinated by trying to crack the code or understanding the system in combination with an own set of morals which often do not follow common belief seems like a solid foundation for a manipulator. If you add "thinking of yourself as smarter than others", that seems almost predetermined...

Loved the animation btw

i love how you tried to manipulate me into subbing >:D

I had a friend who always said “everyone just uses everyone” which mad him think it was good to use other people. That made me mad cause no, I don’t have friends because I have an intent to use them. He would excuse his manipulating by the argument that he was “helping” me. I feel guilty cause he manipulated me for about 6 months or so and I just pretended i wasn’t aware Mkay I usually hate those comments who thank for the likes but bro I was just venting so ty

My little brother was a master manipulator. He’s adopted and had trauma from his biological family. Thank God that the trauma is gone!

i love this artsytle!!

Trust and honesty is the most important part about a relationship. It's sth that is built up over time from the moment folks enter a bond. Every time there is a lie, one side will doubt the other person and become distrusting. It's a cycle of distrust fueled by a chain of untrue statements and people who need to involve themselves in a stranger's relationships by making unacceptable online comments. And if this relationship happens to be a romantic one, one can be sure there will be a lot of arising problems if proper communication is missing, especially if both parties actually never met. Gettin to know each other is a matter of mutual trust/interest and shouldnt take place online... At least not for that long and not in the eyes of the public. I need to able to trust my friends and a potential partner. I cannot address potential lies etc. If both are not allowed to communicate like real people do. I wanna be able to sit down and talk honestly without the involvement of 3rd parties throwin rocks at us over the span of months... All i wanted was an equal partner that knows how to communicate so we can build trust. Someone who asks me where my boundaries are.... respects them and doesnt make a game out of our feelings... The fact it happens in public makes it all worse cuz ppl dont know how to not stick their nose into other ppl's relationship. Some just dont approve and will say anything. I am far from perfect and sometimes bottle up my feelings. Especially if the girl i like is involved cuz i wanna trust her in knowin what she is doin. I dont appreciate strangers stickin their nose inside my relationship to the point they need to make comments that come across as cyberbullying. I dont want my relationships to be displayed in public for everyone to comment on.... especially when i know some folks dont like me regardless of what i do. I wish i could ask her what her needs are. But there is no open communication. It's onesided.... and it is not a good foundation for any type of relationship if communication is missing. Even worse for romantic ones.... cuz it makes me doubt if they care for the well-being of our future. Why not tell me what is goin on... why make us both fall asleep cryin when it doesnt have to be that way.... Where i come from people look each other in the eyes when start sth with one another. I am sure it is mostly like that in most parts of the world. No idea what is happening. Genuinely. I cant tell u more than that...

0:58 So... is no one going to talk about how they referenced Malty from Rising of the Shield Hero? Very good example of a charming manipulator. Edit: 2:11 Yanfei reference from Genshin Impact.

There's an entire profession that is built on manipulation in its entirety: marketing. Going by the comments here with so many references to anime and game characters, I think the manipulators are doing a splendid job of playing people for fools.

As a person who experienced all those things for the past four years, this is very true, and I wish I found this video four years ago everything she did was based on this video she manipulated me into being her little doll and doing anything for her and the reason why was because I used to be very social and very interactive, and I used to sing and do karaoke and dance like basically the entertainment of the family and she was jealous. I multiple times told her that she can join me by singing and dancing, but she always denied for her. It was like a race, and she wanted me out and she got what she wanted but the thing is don’t let people get to you. It’s best to let it go the more you hold onto it the more it hurts. Trust me I know from experience and honestly I never thought I would be saying this but I’m kind of happy this happened to me

To the people who are running this channel. I just wanna say Thank You for providing such contents. I've learned a lot and grown. If it wasn't for you all, I wouldn't have this sense of understanding. Not just people around me but myself as well. May God continue to bless you all.

can we take a minute to appreciate how calming her voice is !

1. They don’t always seem intimidating 2. They assume that humans are inherently evil 3. They find a practical necessity for manipulation 4. They like to embellish stories 5. Their phrasing is ambiguous 6. They use passive aggressiveness 7. They often use others for personal gain 8. You’re scared to say no to them 9. They talk in circles 10. They’re diagnosed with a personality disorder Hope everyone is doing well, and if you’re not, keep your head up, you will be soon ❤️

1:23 where have I heard that said a lot before?

having been raised by a manipulative mother, i've learned to tell when someone's trying to manipulate me, it's actually easy for me to identify, but i show some of these signs in myself because i know how to avoid letting manipulation get under my skin

I work with this type of person. For a time it was like torture, dude always tried to embarass me in front of other co-workers (especially when we had new ones for training), but later on I guess he realized that I'm not an enemy. We had many moments where I was just seconds from snapping, when it was noticeable, he suddenly stopped. This willingness to do psychological damage - instead of physical as you would normally expect out of someone who wants to hurt others - seems so devious to me. The guy is basically like a Chihuahua. Big talk, all the time, doesn't shut up. He must've went through a lot, but I'm not feeling sorry for him a bit after all I went through with him. I never really disliked anyone, I always tried to find something on a person to like, find a way to connect. With him, there's only co-existence. If anyone who's reading this is struggling with a similar person, know that what helped me was seeking a therapist and sharing it with my other co-workers. (In your case, it can be friends, family, classmates, anyone) Until I told them, I thought I was in the wrong, but I know I'm not. And I know you are not either. Share what you're feeling with someone, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and know that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.

This is painfully relatable. My father's like this. And only now that I'm an adult did I understand my mother's sentiments of him.

2;53 oh my God! some family members told me the same phrase many times in one hour. They said that is my life and I can do whatever I want but kept insisting on telling me what I should do. SO toxic! The worst is when they mention the relationship you have (relative, friend etc) in order to convince you that they care for you, as if you are not more likely to be destroyed by the people closer to you

If someone tries to make you think that they deserve anything from you or get angry if you dont do something, or act like they are entitled to certain things. That is most likely a manipulative "friend"

What I find particularly difficult, is when others perceive you as manipulative, but you sincerely don't do so on purpose. Ultimately it feels like you're involuntarily toxic to the people around you. For instance, as someone with ASD, social interactions are very hard and draining on me. Especially when I have to put on a mask to act socially desirable. As such, when I'm in my private, comfort environment, it becomes outright impossible for me to "fake" anymore. Meaning the loved ones who see me in my direct environment tend to see me at my worst; when I'm crying, when I'm clearly angry or moody, completely drained of energy or freaking out about stuff. Sometimes that gets me accused of manipulation in order to get my way, or to get sympathy from others. But by all means, other than just avoiding everyone altogether, I don't know what I can do to "not" make them feel that way. I hate having them see me that way as much as it must be unpleasant for them, but I cannot prevent it. Also, when I truly have a breakdown, I reach a point where I become outright mute. It's weird and scary to me as well, it's like I forget how to talk. Like I can think of words, but they won't come out of my mouth. I just become completely unresponsive. These breakdowns always happen in situations where there's a lot of stress and anxiety, so often during fights with others. These people then take it as "me giving them the silent treatment" while again, it's not like I deliberately "ignore" them. Even when I explain my issues to someone, it is something that's incomprehensible to them, so such situations keep on being upsetting to them regardless. Overall it's truly frustrating when you want to work through your issues, fail to do so, and know you're impacting the loved ones around you negatively in the process.

3:55 love the Remarried Empress reference!! Yeah I saw a few people who said that if Trashta was the MC we would hate Navier, but I disagree because she is very manipulative and we would've known from the start if that's the case.

Came here to check whether i was actually manipulative or not, cuz I've been thinking that for a long time...I AM 🙂 I've noticed it from the past 2-3 years that I've become more introverted also I am on a higher level of observation compared to others around me, I notice almost everything around me. I am often seen as a quiet person people often misunderstand me for someone who wouldn't do or say anything, and yeah i wouldn't either but just not anything physically (i clearly know everyone's triggers and sometimes get the urge to do something, i know it sounds evil but i could call it my reaallyy guilty of a pleasure, to play with people's minds). I KNOW how i can easily manipulate ANYONE around me into my favour and can even make them go crazy. But since i am well aware of the consequences I don't use it against them. It happens rarely, but the last time it happened i was feeling a little bit guilty, i don't mean any harm to people around me but sometimes i loose my conscience and am no longer in control of my thoughts, they take over my mind like black clouds in the sky 😵‍💫 I'm sorry if this seems totally random (which it is 😅) but it all just came to my mind so i thought maybe share it with someone to see if anyone else relates. (If someone can tell about how to control it please do....) Thank you if you cared to read till the end ❤🙏🏻

I used to be quite manipulative in a general sense. Now, I still have those tendencies but I use them to support more reliable and honorable traits such as leadership. I’m very direct and thoughtful while remaining flexible and rooted.

I’m curious to know why bipolar disorder. A mood disorder, makes people prone to being a “master manipulator”.

These kind of video wouldn't need to exist if the world wasn't that bad... But we need it, so, we have to accepting that, we have to accept this world, even if sometimes it seems to be complete shit

i have learned so much about manipulation to the point that i call myself out whenever i do it and apologise and give myself a timeout in the corner.

very off topic and late as i just found this video today, but i really liked the little yanfei here! 2:19

This was definitely a blast from the past. I used to be one of those manipulative people. I’m glad I’ve moved on from that stage in my life.

7 out of 10. This video is no joke. Met a guy who seemed so shy, introverted and innocent. He had a good IT job and dressed normally but WOW what a monster he turned out to be. He emotionally abused me so hard I got sick and nearly died and while I was recovering, he continued and I was close to suicide but he accidentally stopped it by showing up right then. He ofc continued even after that, despite having pleaded that he hadnt understood how bad I was hurting and blaha. In reality he would tell me the most awful things about me and then smirk and wait for a reaction (he never got one, my intuition told me not to react so I waited until he left to break down) When I confronted him about it and asked why he told me he was after my reaction, he would blame it on the tv. "I saw it on hannibal, I didnt mean anything by it" Manipulative people are MONSTERS. They have NO empathy which is why they can lie so easily, no empathy and NO consciousness.

My so called friend is a manipulator. He once implied he was gay maybe to identify whether or not Im gay as well. Now, I no longer see signs of it. We've had numerous conversations where he narrated his manipulation skills and he also implied how much he knows of social situations. He never makes eye contact with me and always cuts me off when I speak. The guy is a great storyteller as well. I think my other classmates are also in it as well all targeting me. But it doesn't take me long to realize. Now, I'll play along and see how they'll manipulate me so I can learn something from them. You won't be harmed from manipulation if you know how to extract good in it. I just act oblivious but deep inside I read them really well. They do not realize I am only using them as an environment to develop myself. Now, I'll just act weak and play with them

Thank you. I'm going to manipulate people so much more effectively after this.