The experts need to stop matching opposites! “She’s outgoing, and he’s shy. She’ll bring out his playful side”. It never works out!

They also need to immediately expel any abusers. Chris from S12 should not have been on camera as much as he was. He and Paige needed to be removed once we saw how poorly he was treating her

Good list. I’d also add (1) Get rid of the ability for couples to spend a few nights apart or move out of the shared apartment - unless there’s a legit safety situation (2) Stop filming couples who call it quits (3) Interview friends and family as part of the vetting process vs looking in their nightstands

Stop matching dog lovers with non dog lovers.

I truly hope the producers watch this video

I agree with you. I miss how it was in the beginning. It seems like the couples were really interested in getting married than just being on tv.

This show needs Tamara to be the "Expert" on what the fans & internet want to see changed. Tamara has way more incite than all the experts combined!

The main 2 for me are 1. Stop ignoring personal differences. 2. Stop the group interactions

The experts need to be involved with helping rather than the couples helping each other.

Great ideas. The show should hire you as a consultant. I really think the cast should be kept apart from each other.

My fave seasons are when there are success stories… least fave… crashing & burning relationships. They need to do better!

They should also consult friends and family during the matchmaking process to gain further insight into each person. Show the family/friends a profile of who could be a potential match to get a sense of who the person would be most compatible with.

They need to revamp that psych evaluation or sessions they do with folks. I hear there is a questionnaire with a lot of questions. How do some of these crazies get by, Alyssa, Chris, the tall basketball player guy, Mia, I think her name was, I think she was in the Dallas season....the list goes on and on.

"...the dating pool is filled with pee" 🤣

When Dr. Pepper revealed on one of the Decision Day show a couple of years ago (I don't remember which season) that she and her husband lived apart my husband and I looked at each other and said "what the heck!". How can you be taken seriously as an "expert" when you don't even have a healthy marriage. Yes, yes to allll your suggested changes.

hey Tamara , the show needs to bring you on as a consultant ! this show is on life support after the worst edition the Denver debacle ! I host a watch party and several of my friends are unsure if they want to watch the chicago edition ! my biggest advice to the show is to pick from the thousands who apply only those who are sincere in wanting a marriage ! background checks, talk to friends , talk to their priests, talk to their co-workers, etc. in order to weed out the ones who only want to be on T.V.

The highest rated (and most talked about) season of mafs Australia was the one where two people cheated with a different spouse because they didn't like theirs. It's rather sus that that's when the US version started the shared complex thing and their matches got extra bad. I truly believe they are trying like hell to create a swapping or cheating situation for ratings and attention.

I agree with all these! Especially the expert intervention and compatibility. There’s marriages that are still intact today because the experts visited regularly. I LOVE when Pastor Cal checks the spouse that’s clearly out of pocket. And with compatibility, this is a given! Kids, finances, pets…how do you NOT ask these questions when matching people?

In my opinion, it’s definitely not easy finding men who are genuinely interested in settling down/getting married. Been on and off dating apps for several years in a large city and it’s a jungle out there! So…I actually do have SOME grace for the “experts” when finding people to come on the show. People can put up a good front when they have ulterior motives (money, fame, etc). I also think that people honestly think they want something serious until they are suddenly in something serious and then the sh** gets real and they bounce. I love all your recommendations and they should hire you to help them!!

I approve this message…Denver needs a redo. That was a mess 😂😂😂

😂 I always skip these specials so I hadn't seen these silly poses. Kirsten doing yoga in jeans😆

Good list..yes...BUT, I would change the name of the show to : Moving in after 4 dates. Have couples meet & go on 4 dates. If they like each other, they move in together for 5 weeks. If they still like each other, send them on a “vacation”. If they return from a one week vacation still liking each other, they can meet the families and friends. If that goes well have them spend 2 weeks apart. If they THEN want to get married, THAT is when there is a wedding. The ridiculous weddings are NOT celebrations of love!!!

I hope that there is more expert involvement and less group hangouts happens in Chicago.

Great tips, the show started off as a social experiment on TLC, now I think that its only for entertainment. I don’t think they care anymore about the marriages.

Tamara...We had a son and his wife in another state having her 3rd child so we gifted them a month of Hello Fresh.....which got the 2 older boys and Dad working together to fix all the meals they needed. They loved it.

You tell them Tamara.

I think the same building habitation was due to production's financial and convenience reasons. Also, don't forget that in the early days, couples each traveled to a different spot for their honeymoon. Pooling resources is cost-effective, but it makes things ripe for total chaos, as Denver so incredibly displayed. (I am surprised that they haven't married the couples at the same time. A group wedding, LOL!) Give the couples some time to 'gel' a bit before bringing everyone together! They can also do away with an "expert" going to check the cast's fridge and nightstand. That is SO played out. They can also get rid of the stupid bachelor/ette parties. Nobody wants to see strippers grinding on the cast, and folks getting drunk on a party bus. Do better, producers! 😒 Lastly, on Decision Day, give each person a paddle to hold up: Stay Married, Divorce. I don't trust that we are getting the 'locked in' answer. Also, someone, after hearing what a spouse said, can change their mind on the couch. Naw, we need those answers locked!

My notes would be: 1.To combat cast members from complaining or lying about how they didn't get matched with what they asked for, during the Meet the Cast Special, we should see each cast member's audition interview where they describe what type of partner they are looking for. 2. the meeting of the family and friends should happen after the honeymoon. 3. to keep the audience engaged, cut the season down to 15 episodes max, this includes the reunion.

Tell 'em, Tamara! I hope they listen to you. I've been watching since season 1 and MAFS has hit rock bottom!

I truly hope the producers see this Tamara. Your suggestions are all really good! If things don't change, IMO, they aren't going to have much of a show left! I'm kinda of scarred from this season anyway! They were all so badly matched! WIthout your recaps I would have been completely out this season!

Hello Tamara! Totally agree! Dr. Pepper has been on the show since season 1. However, her time should be over. These experts took zero accountability and were practically nonexistent. I have mixed feelings about Dr. Pia...I think she forces intimacy on couples. We need new experts and production team! They need to stop so many juvenile group interactions. They are there for romance, friendship is last. Opposites do attract, however certain things are just non negotiable and recipes for disaster. You can't match a raw vegan with a carnivore, or two very timid individuals alike because they will bore each. There needs to be a balance and matchmakers have to respect people's preferences! I wonder what this will look like in Chicago and then Austin for season 19....😮

100 💯 Tamara they need to take your advice

I agree with your suggestions. I can only add that there needs more compatibility in matching in all of the critical areas such as, religion, educational level, finances, looks, whether to have children and cultural backgrounds. Psychological tests and interviews of family and friends. Too many angry and abusive people have slipped through the cracks like Chris, Alyssa and Zack's wife. There was even one who threatened bodily harm. Thanks for sharing some suggestions to get one of my favorite shows back on track.

Mafs need to see this video, take notes . U r so right. They really need to go back w the experts with the hands on.

I agree with your points and I would also say that solo therapy should be mandatory for all cast members A lot of these cast members have childhood trauma that they haven’t worked through. Knowing their attachment style and (somatic) therapy is so important.

It seems too manufactured and fake now. They need to focus on really matching serious couples and not just drama for ratings

Really good list, Tamara. I find myself skipping the first couple of shows, until they actually get to the weddings. Then, I skip all the nonsense after decision day. I didn't even watch this seasons decision day - why bother with this group. I wonder what the ratings were like this season. Thank you, Tamara! 🌸 🌷🌺

Dr. P doesn’t even live with her husband

Great list! This show needs to change! They need to make sure they want marriage. Also, if the show wants the couples to have someone who can relate to being married at first site, bring back couples that have made it work to mentor them. Even some of them that didn't work, that can enlighten them on how they failed and what they wish they had done to .ake it work.

Yes, all the couples don't need to live in the same complex.

The first season 123 never had them stay within the same complexes. Watch them seek their own apts

I say it every week TAMERA FOR A EXPERT ON THE SHOW!! Great video beautiful black goddess 💯✊🏿🤘🏿

Get real life experts. Experts who are clinical practitioners. I agree with focus on more positive things, but they won't, there is no drama in that. You are spot on!

I definitely want to see more family/friend interactions. Possibly include them to help the show pick suitable mates for their loved ones. The experts are not doing a good job with that so why not include the people that know them best? Also, I agree they must live separately from their cast mates to get a more realistic experience.

As per usual all things you said CORRECT, 100/10 👌🏾🔥I absolutely agree. Your commentary just reminded me that this show currently isn't made for couples to thrive. Instead there's all these negatives and set backs.

I enjoyed your advice on changes. This has been a long break between seasons. What date are they going to start showing the new group in Chicago?

The couples don't need to live in the same complex and go on the same honeymoon.

I loved your list - especially separating the couples (I don't care if they make friends), getting new experts (who know the app dating culture) and involving them regularly - BEFORE there is an issue!

You are SOOOO spot on with ALL of it!

Excellent review and I agree 100%.

Well said, Tamara! I hope and pray the producers and experts hear you!

I say get rid of group hang out all together.

They need to get real relationship therapists.

Well stated!😊. Hopefully they will watch this video!

Thank you 🙏🏾! Thank you! Thank! I am so happy to see someone expressing everything I’ve been saying for several seasons now.

Wow, agree with every single suggestion. They need to hire you.

This was really good 😊

I agree with all of those, and have been saying for years. They need to go back to the same format they had in the beginning. All of the couples go on separate vacations from each other. This way your allowing them to spend time with their spouse and not the group. You cut down on the pressure of competition "have you yet?" and let the couple progress at their own natural pace. I don't have a problem with the living arrangements, but don't put them in the same building where they see each other all the time as you said. Yes, I agree 100% ALL of the experts need to go, and they need to go back to them actually being involved. What we are getting is "Well I've been told that...." what, you're not even watching the couples as their are being filmed, you're getting your info from the producers ??? The experts have checked out and are only there for the $$$. When you call it quits.. YOU'RE DONE!!!. If you decide to get divorced, bu bye, your gone from the show and don't want to see you any more Orion/Lauren etc. Go back to work, and we'll call you, don't call us. My last suggestion, stop finding these people threw media pages. We were told that hundreds of people are lining up to be on the show that want to be married, we don't need actors, or people looking to grow their business, or just looking to grow their Insta page with followers, be way more selective then you've been in the last 5 years.

I’ve been saying the same thing for a while now! Especially about them having to find their own place to live and to stop all of the group hang outs. Like maybe throw a few dinners and I guess the group trip can stay, but other than that, it should be about the couples marriage. And yes, I’m also not a fan of the fact that the therapist aren’t as involved anymore. They do need some fresh therapist. Maybe the old ones don’t need to leave, but definitely need some younger ones to push back on the dumb things the older ones say. Lastly, its 2024. I’m surprised there haven’t been any LGBT couples yet. I really feel like they haven’t had any because the old school therapists wouldn’t know what to do with them.

🤣”The dating pool is full of pee”🤣

This is a great video!!!! Can you send a link to the producers of the show?

Did you recap the show prison brides? I remember you talked about it before but I forgot what happened with it. I binged watched season 1 the other day and it was good.

Great ideas!

Thanks!

Seems like the experts leave because they are now vetting the next season. Quantity over quality is the result! I think the show is a mess now because of the vetting process POINT BLANK PERIODT‼️

I don’t think anyone should be “scouted out”

AMEN! This is not "FIND YOUR BESTIE AT 1st SIGHT" Thank you Tamara! PS Hello Fresh, I believe, also has vegan, vegetarian choices.

I agree about the experts. Especially Pastor Cal. His advice to couples on the verge of divorce is always the same which is usually something along the lines of, “You both are great people. You need a person like this in your life.” He doesn’t seem to get that if there are no romantic connection or people are fundamentally incompatible, it’s not going to work. You’re right about Paster Cal and Pepper. They are pretty out of touch. Let’s get some younger experts.

They need to hire you immediately!

AMEN!

Agreed 👍

Mmm great

I hope they take these advice seriously.

Hello fresh looks great!!!!!!

Yes yes and yes

I think they need to go up and age

Your fabulous

Season 13 was the last money talk season and one of the last enjoyable ones.

Tamara thamks I agree with everything you said and have watched USA since day 1. They started that sneak peek thing with the lady that turned all the tables over... yeah it takes away...as a fan of the show I'm actually watching to see the relationships play out. They also started the housing support program i think the Charlotte season? I think its after one woman was homeless... so they give them a place now and they stopped the tell your expenses qnd bills after Gil and Myrla and the space guy also before that the guy who lied and said he was a teacher...and a yoga instructor and he was a cleaner at the studio.... I don't need the crazy sneak peeks I don't need 1 million episodes.... people also now quit ever since Im a nice person dropped out there was a trend. I love Dr. Peppas as Cam from Pat and Cam calls her and Pastor Cal who has been married 2x I believe but yes they are not in touch with some of todays dynamics... But whatever they do and no matter how annoying Im still going to watch and hope you commentate. But this is the 1st season... I honestly just listened to your commentary for the final 103987766 episodes... You keep me entertained and I appreciate your storytelling style ❤❤

The first thing they need to do is get new Experts!! I think their expiration date has expired!

I think that MAFS USA needs to take the flair of MAFS Australia where they couples aren’t legally married. The veil has been lifted so many times that no one TRULY takes this show seriously and it is causing its ratings to suffer. If they just agreed that this show was just for shits and gigs and purely shenanigans it would be a lot better.

they need to drop down to 3 couples again... agree with your list 100%

MAFS Australia is available on KZfaq.

MAFS has been fake from the start. The main difference this season was that it was more obvious because all of the matches were so obviously bad. By the end of the honeymoon, the show was down to one possible couple where the husband didn't want to consummate and had declared that he didn't think they should move in together no matter what they decided. And, there were almost 7 weeks of trying to go along to comple with their contract. No surprise that FAKERY, INSINCERITY was all we were gonna get. Fans should stop blaming the couples.

I know its Married at First sight but at this point imma need them to secretly have a MAFS app and everyone has to swipe right and left on people before they create the couples. Then they can guarantee there's attraction. At this point lie to me like they did in the last season.

The experts on successful younger reality dating shows could possible help. Maybe maybe not

All good points! I agree with them All! Most of the individuals for the last few seasons, clearly have 'their' own Agenda! For example: Orion and Laura! Thanks for the video

I liked it at 1st it was more authentic...I think I first tuned in towards the end of season #2 ... Yes the couples didn't know each other thru the season the I think they had joint bachelor/bachelorette party then they got together mid way then at the end those that made it had a little toast... and I feel they showed more cute things

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Brava, Tamara! More happy pairings, less conflict, please. We viewers really do want to see marriages succeed! Your suggestion #6 is my top one. This season at least there wasn’t much disagreement over children/no children, but two couples had major conflicts over religious beliefs. Come on! So basic.

Lifetime needs to hire new experts. Pastor Cal and Dr. Pepper come from a different Era. They are older and set in their ways. They are stuck in the 1950s to 1970s way of dating and marriage. The world isn't like that anymore.

Be real! On camera at all times! That should be rule # 1

Other changes: the changes should be able to see how the couples interact when the couples are together and alone. Have a dinner party three times during the season with all couples. No more. Give the couples recommitment mid way in the season. Let them leave if they want to.

#6 1000%!

I actually don’t mind that the show gives the couples a place to live because in the first few seasons I thought it was annoying that they had to figure out where to live for the 8 week long experiment and then figure out where to live long term. I think it caused more issues on the new relationships. I do think the couples should honeymoon separately. And the experts need to be more involved. I like the MAFS Australia setup with commitment ceremonies on a weekly basis. I think during the matchmaking process, the experts need to interview friends and family to find out who the person actually is. Too many times I see friends and family who think the person is crazy for wanting to commit. The whole point of the show is choosing people who want to commit to marriage.

I'm actually enjoying love is blind a lot more.

Excellent video. Season 17 was the worst yet! What the heck were the experts thinking! So poorly matched! The show was a turn off

Let people at least see pictures of each other. They even do that in some countries where they are not allowed to go on dates before marriage. Even the parents are allowed to interview the potential spouses. MAFS takes too many chances by marrying total strangers whom they have basically selected based on some written questions and limited interviews. Further, they know nothing about the selectees extended families. They match too many people with different attitudes about soending money. Last please stop matching wealthy women with broke men. Why would those women want to sacrifice themselves to marry a total stranger who is broke. They keep making the same egregious mistakes and getting the same life-altering (PTSD) results.

I agree. Season 17 was awful.

And people should be paid to manufacture a story line and not a marriage.