Here's the 12, I took notes :) 1. Repeated reasons/ excuses of why you can't overcome situations. 2. Constantly thinks others have an advantage over you. 3. Negative feelings are always blamed on others. 4. Believes the world is against you 5. Constantly replays the past without growth 6. Often feel stuck 7. Doesn't take encouragement or advice 8. You feel powerless in the circumstances in your life 9. Your story is disempowering to you. 10. Constantly feel that you get the short end of the stick. 11. You tolerate abuse 12. You don't know what you want. Great video! Very insightful

Great video! I would add a couple of others: 1. A sense of entitlement: feeling that others owe you something because you are suffering more than them, and 2. Reduced empathy for the suffering of others: feeling that, as you are always the chief victim, whatever problems other people have are trivial by comparison and so you don't need to care for them.

This was such a revelation for me. I didn’t know that I was looping the same old thing all over again. I really need to stop using my past as an excuse

It never crossed my mind that I might have a victim mentality until I started watching videos and reading articles. It leveled up my mindset.

This is the biggest fuel of addictive behavior. Helplessness

That was the kick in the pants I needed. Thank you.

Had to go back and watch this video again to remind myself. The flesh loves to be a victim, we have to make the decision to do the opposite of what we feel in order to become am overcomer. Thank you Lord for the Holy Spirit!😃 This is a daily and lifelong decision, there will always be reasons and circumstances that make us want to maintain a victim mindset.

Lord, I pray over any person watching this video that is struggling with victim mentality. Help us to remember the power of the Holy Spirit, for You gave us power, love, and a sound mind. In You, we have a sound mind, not a victim mind. Help us to change our mindset and transform our lives. Your Word said that we are more than a conquerer (Romans 8:37). We will no longer give the enemy power over our lives. You defeated the enemy already, Lord. We love you Jesus. Amen.

Thank you! I need this! I’ve definitely made progress, but I see things I need to work through...Mark you have such a great way of teaching and breaking down!

This is so crucial for my own growth in this journey with Christ. Breakthrough happening, as I reflect as well. Thank you so much for this video that you filmed! God bless x

This was really good. Wow. Thank you for sharing this, it is refreshing to hear all this.

I hate the term victim mentality it seems like a toxic word you have been victimized! So you're hurting from that but we make it a negative and basically victim shame them for being hurt. One must mourn, feel the pain, or process the pain & trauma that happened to them but I get the mentality part of this word is them then holding stagnate (after a few weeks or many months of being held there) in the pain or being unable or unwilling to process beyond it so it then becomes a problem but this whole word needs a better rephrase.

This is excellent. #11 is the only one I’m not doing. I share my abusive childhood bc I’ve thought it was being transparent so ppl would know where I’m coming from but it ends up with me being toxic to myself. My victim hood has been my identity. I know now why I feel stuck is bc I am. I’m stuck in this belief system.

Very helpful! I was just feeling the Holy Spirit in past few days exposing this in my life and found this. Wowza! Good stuff and I love that it lines up with scripture!!!

This signs are related to me. It's so eye opening and shocking to learn these facts. Thank you. Powerful video.

Amen to this video well explained and clearly thought out thank you!

This is amazing! You deliver this message with such love, kindness, and clarity. Thank you for sharing this message! ☺️🤓

Super video! Thanks!

Thank you so much Mark bro. Stay blessed!

Thank you for the clarity. I am sharing this now!

Thanks so much for this video.

Thank you so much for this video ! I needed to hear this.

This video was so important, thank you.. you broke it down so well. I am at the tail end of a 3 year long psychological moratorium. I have admitted, studied and understood my trauma and identified my abusers and the ways which my dysfunctional family has hurt and hobbled me. Check. Now that I understand what's wrong, I realized that I am afraid of the future where I KNOW what's wrong and I don't have it as a crutch. I've read that this moment is so crucial in developing into adulthood that from here the road splits into 2: either I continue limping in the future, allow my issues to consume me which makes it now MY FAULT or I..... change. Bloom, blossom, forgive myself, let the past go, discipline myself. I am trying snap out of it..... thank you

Very enlightening and empowering, you touched my heart. Thanks

This is powerful thank you so much. Can't believe I've been doing this all this time

Great video! Thanks!

This is so on the money! I was looking for a Bible based video and this is PERFECT! I'm working with my group on this currently. This vid says it simply and says it all!

Very inspiring video that got my attention. Thank you so much for showing me who I became❤

Thank you so much for this. I relate to so many of these and have been suffering from this. This has been so so helpful I will listen to this again and again. May God bless you Mark!

Thank you so much for this video! I have a friend who’s in an abusive relationship and I was watching this to kind of understand her thinking more, but this video also made me look at myself.

This is powerful. Thank you

Amazing video, man. All the things you said were true. It's often hard to find material on the 'victim mentality' topic, and it's weird because it's a common mentality that lots of people carry around. And a lot of us are going to meet people like that. So thank you so much for this

This was an excellent presentation

Great video! It was very informative.

Very powerful video! God bless your ministry 🎉

Thank you very much for making this video!

Oh my gosh! This hit So hard. Thank you

Awesome teaching as always! God Bless MARK DEJESUS!!!!

Thank you for Wise Council am Truly Grateful .

Powerful message

The learned helplessness theory of depression absolutely suits the issue you are sharing, hence, trauma etc. Nicely put my man! Keep it up.

THANK YOU!!!

This speaks volumes to me so much I thank you so much for sharing this! I didn’t realize how it’s been stunting my growth God Bless you ❤

This advice, information , counsel is right on. And what I need. I have been an over comer but now I’m not. I think I have to get the book. Thank you for sharing all this wisdom.

Great Video!

Thanks for this great video!!!

Oh me! Thank you very much for this!

I am an atheist and this was still helpful and eye-opening to me. Thank you.

This is powerful!

This is a great video for identifying someone else's behavior too! For the longest time I dated a person with this victim mentality and only felt terrible that I could never get him to believe in himself or see the positive things in life. I felt useless. Any obstacle or small problem would throw him off and he'd show off all of these symptoms, but now I know that it wasn't my fault for not being able to make him happy, he just had a toxic mentality that I could never change. The only person that can is himself.

Thank you.your video was so helpful for me.

I just experienced getting feedback from doing #5 repeating the story. I immediately thought about this video and I'm rewatching it. It was so good to see the feedback in action and to know what they meant. Now I will be more aware of it. Thanks so much for the video! 🎉

I appreciate the message - not encouraging victimhood is so important! I discuss how some people get validation & encouragement mixed up particularly when it comes to this topic in the last video on my channel as well, from a parenting perspective. I hope messages like ours empower people to avoid labeling themselves a victim! I just subscribed to your channel too, keep it up.

I have a friend that checks out all of these boxes. At first I really believe that her life was just that much harder (given her childhood circumstances) and I tried empathizing with her and giving her great advice to get over her struggles and negative attachments, but it seems like everyday she would regurgitate the same story and how everyone was always against her. At first I hadn’t realized that she was in a victim mindset (because her childhood was so rough that I thought the trauma was so overbearing). But one day, I was at the dinner table with her, and she said something that shocked me! We were talking about how we shouldn’t have invited a specific group of friends over one time (because they were very annoying and wouldn’t respect boundaries) and she then mentioned the name of another friend that we shouldn’t have invited over. When she mentioned his name, I asked “why? What did he do? He was fine the whole night?” And she said that he had forced her to take cocaine. I was shocked, because I was there that night they both took cocaine and he never forced her to do anything. I was the one who saw her hesitate and I told her “You don’t need to do it if you don’t want to” and he kinda egged her on before saying something-along the lines of “If you don’t want it, there’ll be more for me”. She ended up taking some still. In that situation, she could have said no, I even reminded her that she could have said no. But she did it anyway. And because she put pressure on herself to take it she feels resentful to the wrong person. When she said he forced her, it all clicked and made me wonder if all the things that she told me that had happened to her really happened to her or because she let it happen to her. And because she didn’t listen to herself she now feels resentment but projects it on others and blame others. When I caught her in her own “lie” she started crying and saying that everyone always tells her that nothing happened etc. But now I see why...she creates a whole narrative in her head for situations where she had the choice to refuse but didn’t listen to herself and now it’s somehow someone else’s fault. The fact she started crying when I called her out on her bullshit really made me angry...because how dare you accuse a good friend of my like that...knowing damn well you are responsible for what you took. He never forced her to do anything.

Ellen the overcomer. I like that. Great workshop.

this was good! thank you! 😊

Thank you so much

Thank you, this video made me see my growth in real time. This was me once upon a time and I would have ticked all of these! Thank you God for setting me free 🙏

I decree and declare me being victimized will not be my story to carry, I decree and declare I will no longer be and feel victimized and bind myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ to a winner's mentality while binding to hell all victim mentality and binding to hell every lack of freedom from a victim's mentality, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with those with a victim mentality or those that victimize others while lacking a winner's mentality, in accordance with john 10:10, romans 8:37, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this whole message, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

Nailed it. Happy I found you.

This guy just defined my present state of mind😳... Thankyou.

amazing !!!

I’m glad he said your problems are legitimate and you are likely a victim of abuse. It’s nice to feel validated like that.

Awesome content - Destroying victim mindsets is so important! It's something I discuss in the latest video on my channel as well, & providing a blueprint for my child on how to be tough & not embody victim mentalities. Thank you for the content.

Omg 🙈 thank you so much.

I didn't know till now that I was having this mentality and need to improve upon it. Looked back in past that it has developed since childhood that I didn't notice this mentality now. Just need to be aware of my thought process and break through this sort of mentality. Thank you so much!

Great work. 👏👏👏

Great video! Our society is plagued with this self victimization mindset that result in much of the entitlement mindset we see, so glad to see your video in helping making the world better!

there was a while ago i got out of this mindset but i completely see what you mean by finding it all too familiar and it fools us into feeling safe, its how i found myself going back and forth. i recall an ex telling me i had to get out of this mindset yet it really threw me off when they were tolerating it, and it was the same story we kept throwing back at each other like it became contagious. they kept so much to themselves as a defense mechanism, which in turn lead me to not knowing they were feeling 'stuck' and i let myself be provoked to say somethings i regret which i felt no control over, but it is our own decisions to what we say/do. we need to be in the present, not stuck in the past where we get lost to thinking we have no control of whats already happening to let history repeat itself. we always have a choice to move on. history only repeats itself when we let it do so. we both had this rejection mindset, like the one time i said something wrong, they refused to see me past that. as far as they were concerned, i blew it and it was hard to see myself past that when they couldn't, but we can't rely on past to keep replaying if all its doing is hurting and leaving us feeling 'stuck'.

thanks a lot for making this

As if you just held a mirror in front of me, thanks to God it's a fading rusty mirror already! Unfortunately your books are not posted to where i live, but the videos are great great help, thank you so much!❤🙏

I need help with this. Great information and video!

Very important topic... God bless you

Great video.

Yikes! I say or do many of these things you've mentioned and I don't like it! Thank you for this video! It was tough to hear but it was extremely needed.

Wonderful 🤗

Fantastic

I'm so glad you went over the story replay. Unredemptive sharing. This is a big one. We will often tell the same old story with no movement or help around the bend. It's the same old replay. This creates patterns.

Excellent video

Thanks so much

My sister has a victim mentality, and every time she does something wrong (like recently she maxed out her credit card buying clothes and shoes that she didn't need) she would find some crazy way to blame it on our mum or anyone else in the family, (mum also paid all her debts). I don't even want to talk to her.

Thank you for this video - I really enjoyed the break-down and the bibles response to it. Could I ask you do another video on how to avoid misidentifying a mentality of: ''Self-victimization' vs 'Self-gaslighting' and scriptures take on it? I can imagine that many people who are searching for this video on their own are trying to grow and may not be 'self-victimizers' but rather those accustomed to being gaslighted - now using this video to confirm they are the earths largest victims, when rather, they are simply craving (as many humans tend to) to be validated - and God has already done this.

I haven’t listened to you in a while.Thank you for this info!

Great video I need to work on not to be a victim all of my life yes I struggle with it to sometimes because what I did in the past I still have lots of guilt years ago and need therapy.

This is really good, Thank you, keep teaching Pastor🙏🥰The Lord is doing miracles in me in a short time, but we need to do this for a while, we need comfort and peace safety before we can listen, I wanted to hear from Jesus, after narcissistic abuse. and people we can trust. 🙏🥰I am doing freedom in Christ by Neil Anderson, it’s amazing 🙏🥰

I love information on the Internet. What I don’t personally find profoundly helpful is people asking me to subscribe, like, hit the notification bell. By now, everyone on KZfaq knows what to do if they like or want to subscribe or hit the notification bill. We don’t need to be told we don’t need to be told we’re gonna miss out on. If we like your content, we’re gonna subscribe and will follow you. It’s wasting precious time for your channel to be telling people that when they just want you to get into the content. I say this in the nicest way possible. I want your success.

Do you have a video exactly how to overcome these tendencies? Thanks! Great video!

The hardest thing to get them realize they need help. Their ego is on the way.

This video hits the nail on the head for me.

Thank you

victim mentality is about failure, face-saving, and the ego

Very informative video. I have a friend who has this inpenetrable fortress of victim mentality. He's very hard to deal with sometimes. Oh, and please buy a popfilter for your microphone.

Excellent

Great video! Thank you so much! I do have a question with regard to number 11: you tolerate abusive and negative relationships. you describe a sharpening moment to break a victim mentality. how do you differentiate when it is the moment to leave the relationship instead of stepping up within the relationship?

I have been dealing with what you're talking about for 40 years, I guess the Holy Spirit sent me here. I'm 48 years, no relationship, no job, no track record of employment, I just recently gave my life to christ now only to realize that I was dealing with victim mentality for 40 years. Now, you have given me a solution I feel liberated. I was thinking of lying on my cv to get a job but the Holy Spirit won't let me I kept getting convicted. All I'm hearing in my heart is to use my faith ... everything you've said seems to be pointing towards me. You are heaven-sent I feel liberated. it's 4 am in the morning in the UK and I just couldn't sleep, then the Holy Spirit asked me to type in victim mentality then bang! it was u saying exactly what I have been dealing with without missing a thing. wow, I need to follow every idi biddy steps of your advise. Thank you and God bles you .

I just sent this video to my favorite Aunt. I hope she’ll listen to it 💖💖

"The victim story becomes a protective mechanism." So true. It becomes so intrinsic, and it precludes the possibility of anything ever being better or worth the risk. A disease for meaning and worth to be sure.

Its related to me...thank you

Just my notes. WATCH THE WHOLE VIDEO. Victim vs. Victor 1.) Repeating the *reasons* you cant breakthrough or have good experiences. Be honest. But dont get stuck! 2.) You think others have an advantage OVER you. 3.) Your negative inner thoughts blame past events. Take action! 4.) Thinking the enemy is targeting you. 5.) Replaying the same *stories* of pain. Break free from the loops. 6.) You speak of being "stuck". Need new understanding and applications and decisions. 7.) You dont take in helpful feedback? Do you listen and try to grow? 8.) You feel powerless about your circumstances. 9.) Your story is disempowering you. It feels "safe" because its familiar. 10.) You feel you get the short end of the stick. Rejection. 11.) You tolerate abuse and negative relationships. Stand up for yourself. 12.) You do not know what you want! Choose! Create an action plan! THANKS FOR THE VIDEO!! This was a very possitive Christian point of view. Thank you :-)

AWESOME!