And let's not forget, a gentleman treats women of all ages with chivalry and respect and not just the ones they are romantically and/or sexually interested in.

One item you might add is going out to warm up the car during the winter, or bringing the car to the event entrance in the rain Even after 35 years of marriage, this behavior still makes me feel lucky, valued and special.

I absolutely love this video. One thing my wife loves that I do for her is open her car door. I also make her breakfast every morning. I work from home, so I have more availability to make breakfast while she is getting ready for work.

Any good father teaches his son manners and appropriate social skills.

My take from this video is that we should all be chivalrous to everyone………maybe just call it good manners, or courtesy.

Maybe obsolete but something my grandfather always did for my grandmother that I found endearing was filling her car up with fuel.

Great video. I took your advice and now carry a handkerchief and have offered it to women who've become emotional and my god I was hero...such a pro tip, I sincerely appreciate you!

As a millennial woman, I do appreciate old-fashioned chivalry. I think the majority of the points mentioned in this video are basic respectful behaviour, and I approve of them 100%. Somehow, many people simply don't think of offering small but thoughtful gestures like these. That goes for both men and women, by the way!

Offering your jacket when its bad weather and carry heavy things. Thoose things should a real gentleman do 🎩

Holding a door open for women, men, families, etc. Seating your date by pulling her chair out and pushing it in as she sits first before you sit yourself.

Offering her the better seat in a restaurant every time.. 🖖🏻😎

Thank you, Gent Z, for adding beauty, refinement, and kindness to this world that has become so coarse.

Gentlemen, remember that these guidelines apply to traditional ladies only, they do not apply to modern women.

This channel is GOLD, thanks for the great content.

Yes these are all good suggestions. It is important for gentlemen to treat ladies with respect. I also hold the door for them too. One can always find some wild eyed feminist who does not like any of this but I don't care. I do these things, not because they are incapable or weak or anything like that, obviously they are not. This is my way of honoring and respecting them. I have found the majority of women even in these modern days appreciate that.

Excellent video and lots of good tips. I would love to see you do a version of this video on traditional acts of chivalry that never go out of style. Like pulling her chair out for her or giving her your jacket if she's cold. Things that are really just polite but have that air of classic chivalry that's scarce nowadays. I'd love to see it brought back. Thanks for your time and hard work.

One act my wife likes and is happy I still do since dating era always open her car door when we getting in & always open up umbrella n hold it above her between car & building

This is a wonderful video and I can confirm all the points mentioned from my life experience. My first wife was pretty much the sort of an Amazon, tall, self-reliant and confident, but she still loved my chivalrous behavior in many ways. My second wife absolutely loves it, when I do all the things you mention in your video. Especially the last one made me laugh, because it has happened quite a few times that she made the wrong pick and preferred the meal I just ordered. Being the gentleman that I am, I had a few times the dinner I didn't order. But more often we just share our meals. Only exception: she doesn't like lamb, so whenever I order it, she sticks with her choice 🤣.

Pal, I stand when a lady comes toward(s) my table.

A chivalry point not mentioned? Always pick her up in an immaculately clean car,with inspections,registration,and insurance,in order. "...the way a man treats his car,is how he treats himself..." - François Berleand as Inspector Tarconi

Well as a more 1950's kind of guy most of these don't even apply, myself and my partner don't take our phones when we go out together on a date or just to the pub for a pint. Most of this is for people who cannot detach from the modern world for 5 minutes and give those minutes to a person you care about. Making sure a lady gets home safe is a must though.

Holding a door open for a woman to pass through, even if it's a stranger. And opening the car door both arriving and departing.

Nice companion piece to "Why Men Should Offer Their Seats To Women". Well done James.

Something that people appreciate is when someone keeps the door open for them that they're about to reach. It's just polite, not necessarily something just by men for women. It's something my parents taught me to do.

Thank you Gent.Z

Acts of chivalry is still well respected and sometime even expected in the east--Eastern Europe, East Asian etc. My mother(Asian) used to ask me to help other woman carry their suit case upstairs at the stations when I was a teenager. Well needed video for gents today!

All this talk of chivalry and not even a mention of glorious battle, mighty steeds and splitting lances. Snuffbumble I say!

Another act of chivalry (that wasn't included in the video), that very few men do these days, is if you walk with a woman, you need to walk on the part of the sidewalk that faces the road. I think it can apply well in modern society too.

Enjoying the content. As an older gentleman in London I see a lot of younger men making school boy errors when it comes to lacing, the size / style of laces and the actual lacing technique - (straight lace / criss cross etc). A real shame when the outfit and shoes are sharp, then the laces spoil the outfit, fine detail I know but it matters. One to educate them on Gent Z

Excellent video. 👏

Helpful!

Thanks a lot !

I appreciate your effort in these videos. Can we get a video on being a gentleman around other men

I find it a little tragic that many young women are so unfamiliar with courtesy rules that they don't let you do them correctly. Jumping out of cars, running into a restaurant first. I would love to hear your opinion on communicating to women on how to take those gestures and play their role in this

Can you please do a video on workout clothes/outfits! Thanks!

One gesture I am torn about but I like is standing up at the table in a restaurant when a woman goes to the bathrooms, comes back from the powder room etc.. I saw it in the Mad Men series and want to integrate it but the women I know say that this is excessive.

Women don't appreciate much anymore but I will continue to behave in a respectful manner.

Holding door open for woman going in. This is tricky. My brother was in the Peace Corp. Ghana. The Africans called the US Men cowards because they open the door at a restuant and send the woman in first. In their culture the man enters a restaurant first to make sure it is safe for the woman. My Peruvian friend, who was everything a gentleman could be, took his sister-in-law to the thrift store for "just a few minutes" and wound up sitting outside in the car for 45 minutes. He was angry and argued with her for taking so long but even whilst arguing he got out and opened the door on the car for her and made sure she was in safely before closing it.

unfortunately, nowadays, those men are rare!

I’ve discovered your videos not so long ago, and I haven’t found anything about passing a door. Here in France, according to a book written by the Duc de Brissac (one of the oldest families in France) there are two ways of considering it: After opening the door, the gentleman should go first in order to meet the unknown/danger; - The gentleman should go in last because “ladies first”. Il difficult to du both though 😅… What is your opinion? Daniel Gabé

2: offer to do it but don't push at all about it. Also, not do it just for women but for your friends too. And if you want to do it, take into account your personal safety too since you matter too. Also, it shouldn't be you who always escorts your date home. It should be your date escorting you too. 5: turning the phone off can be a bad idea. In cases like if there's an emergency or something it can cause issues. A better idea is to have it in silent or vibration mode, and just not be on the phone. 7: lending your phone should be reserved for when you trust your partner a lot, since it's quite intimate way taht shows your life. And of course not wanting your partner to check your phone os not bad. Having a private life os not something bad. 8: it's a bad idea when the relationship is fresh since there's not enough trust between you yet. The best thing would be if you meet at designated place at the start. Then after consent is given for you to pick her up. OR for her to puck you up. A man shouldn't be the only one who's putting effort. 9: offering to pay for Uber should be reserved for when the relationship is more serious. 11: it highly depends on the level of seriousness and intimacy in the relationship. 12: anyone regardless of sex, should be offering their seat for pregnant women, disabled people, elderly and also kids. Men and women are equal. Giving your seat to another person eceb if it's not in these categories is chivalrous, but not offering or not giving your seat to a woman that is not in the above categories, shouldn't be seen as shameful/bad 13: if you go halves on meals, then only do it with foods you enjoy. If you don't want to eat something you aren't obligated or cannot be forced to eat it to accommodate your partner. And of course, if you end up eating one meal and her the other, you're only paying for your own.

Went into this expecting to disagree like I did with the previous one about offering your seat on public transport, as i dont consider myself chivalrous at all, only to find I actually do most of these. I suppose a lot of these also fall under the categories of common courtesy and being a decent partner. I think I'll start pulling the seat out for my girlfriend..

Excuse me, but I feel the need to correct you on your very first statement. Actually treating EVERY HUMAN BEING with respect and courtesy is a huge part of being a gentleman.

You forgot the sidewalk rule. Have your lady walk on the inside of the road

Women like these things? Hardly a surprise to hear girls want a guy to pander to her. You're off the mark with this list as dating recommendations - any guy who follows such a list religiously will be discarded or put in the friend zone. I'm not saying a guy should be rude or disrespectful, but he'll do better if he keeps an air of mystery to keep her guessing. 1. He calls when he says he will 2. He makes sure you get home 3. Not cancelling last minute 4. Texting throughout the day 5. Phone off at dinner or date 6. Wanting to meet friends and family 7. Lending your phone 8. Picking up for a date 9. Offering to pay for her uber 10. Knowing how you take your tea 11. No post midnight booty calls 12. Giving you his seat on the train 13. Sharing two meals

I never offer to pick her up on the first date, especially if we met online. I feel like offering to call her an Uber also would be a safety risk in her eyes since she’s giving you her address. Driving her home, on the other hand, is a different story.

I think its much better to give your seat to someone in genuine need be they pregnant, with young child, blind, injured or elderly than just because its a woman - I actually believe a perceptive woman would see this act and hold you in higher esteem as you nod and wink to her ;-)

What’s more chivalrous than offering a woman a seat on your lap on a crowded bus … it’s a win win 🥇

how many women turn their phone of at dinner……….. None…!

Opening the door for a woman, and opening a car door for a woman. Both show deference and respect.

Dearest Jamsey , did you immigrate here or is it just a visa ?

First off, chivalry was never a written code; it was inferred by the people of the time. Secondly, while courtly manners were a part of the romantic concept of chivalry, they were simply good manners. Deferring to women was an effort to restrain sexual violence and violence in general. As far as 'modern chivalry,' those acts are simply good manners.

Do this and get ready to be walked all over upon. This is crazy.

Not to be anal retentive about decor, but I think you need a long light bulb for your banker’s lamp. It looks like you have a standard bulb there that illuminates only half of the shade, making it lopsided. I have that exact lamp and long bulbs are essential. But great video!

One important point the survey did not bring up was how a man treats his mother. This is not really a act of chivalry either but how you treat your mother says a lot about your character and can be a big green or red flag for women you date.

Just common sense...

Most of these apply to people in general, be it a business partner, a friend or a family member.

A nice followup might be 'Acts of lady-like behavior men appreciate.' Can't find that clip anywhere.

I held the door for an asian girl once and she stalked me around the store for 10 minutes.

We need to be careful not to take what women (or people in general) say at face value. Of course women want us to text them throughout the day, they naturally crave attention. But once you start giving them too much, they’re turned off and it’s easy to start chasing their validation from there. Don’t fall for the trap of believing women know what they want. As men, it’s our job to lead. Have boundaries on your time and attention, let her be a little upset. If she really likes you, it will only make her want you more.

I am a huge believer in chivalry towards women and men, although my belief in equality between the sexes means I am also a huge believer in making no difference between the sexes. All the things I was taught as a boy to do for women especially, I have long since abandoned. To do otherwise is, IMHO, rank hypocrisy.

why using a phone during a meal rude? i never understood it

Never, ever urinate on her hat unless specifically invited to.

Haha 69

Maybe I’m ignorant but I thought the”hook up culture” was just about getting with someone for sex

Chivalry is dead and it ain't coming back. Let it go.

No. I’ve been watching your content and I love it. However with this one I strongly disagree. Modern women are not built to appreciate chivalry so better not waste energy nor time.

Could a woman get upset because you are offering your seat? I have never seen that, not in Cuba my home country not in Russia. Maybe is a thing of this woke dumb thing?

No woman is worth of this, though.

i love woman