Sometimes she doesn’t want him, she just doesn’t want him with you

"He is stuck with her for the rest of his life, but you're not...RUN, Run,RUN!"

I’m so over dating guys with babymoms most men don’t know how to put their foot down and I’m not here for it

The issue is this, most women don't know what they want until another woman has him. Then she watches him happy & growing with another woman. Many narcissistic sisters go through this. Play too many games, until the man gets sick and tired and walks away, into the arms of another woman.

My baby mom is why I am strict on my dating I refuse to experience anything close to what she was

Baby mama may also receive mix messages from the man. A reason to believe reconciliation is possible. Proceed with caution.

RUN! NEXT!!!! Why would you want to get/be involved with this mess???? YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!!!! #selflove #putyourselffirst

You should do signs that he isn’t over his baby mama

1: She tells him 2: cause problems in new relationship 3: tries to alienate father from children 4: calls at inappropriate times 5: competitive with ex 6: extreme dislike for stepmother that did not cause break up 7: brings up past relationship 8: jealous of his new life 9: Assaults/stalks you 10: Flirts with him tries to get his attention 11: always tries to find a reason to talk to him 12: gloating about life being better without him 13: Perfect coparenting until he gets in a new relationship

That’s why baby daddies are for single mothers to love. Baby mama drama is not meant for a chick with no baggage.

My husbands ex asked him to take her shopping in exchange for sex. He said no. Then a few years later she left a relationship and started calling my husband just to chat and he allowed it to go in for a bit! We were married by then. Leave if this is happening. Save yourself the pain that I’m dealing with 16 years on. These types of exes don’t stop if your man has weak boundaries.

How to handle her? Break up with him. Not worth it because he’s clearly still tappin the ex.

If she’s not over him , that’s his problem and we need to subtract ourselves

My advise to all the baby mama’s is don’t call,don’t text and don’t make yourself a fool. It’s really hard to be in this position,I know and you can act crazy because it hurts. The fact that you have to be a good mother and still see your ex move on can make you bitter. It’s not fair but life is never fair. Get down on your knees and pray to God for a better man,because you also deserve happiness ❤️.

Step 1) He has a baby

THAT LAST ONE!!!! She was totally chill with him til she found out about me. Then the devil was released. Lmao

Don't ever get with someone with an ex wife. It's literal HELL.

I'm currently married to a man who has a daughter from a previous relationship. I was young when I met him and didn't know how it really was, but I personally would NOT recommend it at all. I love him very much, and we have 4 kids, but dealing with the mother and daughter is a nightmare not worth it if you are young and have options!

Run ! Run ! Run! 😭😭😭😭

And this is EXACTLY why I refuse to date men with kids. Hell no. I don’t have children and I’d prefer if he doesn’t have any either, and ladies they ARE out there.

Lol Im watching this videos but my boyfriend don’t even have a baby mama and my boyfriend don’t even exist 🤣🤣🤣

At the end of the day, every woman wants to be #1.

You just described 9 out of 13 things my fiancés ex does. And its breaking me

Ladies this goes on forever and ever....children are grown and married, but their momma still can't let go.

You were on point, and straight to the point!

I am so sad and frustrated. He can't see her manipulative behavior

You are absolutely gorgeous .. makeup and hair is ON POINT

i'm bout to run.. this is all i had to hear! thank you!

The business of raising a child!!!!! Brilliant Ms. Naja your wisdom will help not just reduce stress for all involved but. Whole lot of potential.legal issues and costs!!

Great Advice! Wonderful delivery!

My husband told his bm not to call him late as a boundary and his baby mom got angry and she won’t let him see his kids. Every time she calls she acts like she’ll let him see his kids then when it’s time she brings up the past and starts cursing him out, cursed me out and wished death on our current baby together now she’s cut off all the way my husband is hurt but she’s disrespectful and won’t even let him see his kids she pops up every other month to do that so he changed his number

Omg. You just described the struggles I go through with my boyfriends baby mama! Thank you. Thank you

Eye opening. Thank you for helping me move on. He is just not that into me. I get it and step aside gracefully. 🙏💞

Amazing. I've been telling him this for two years. Amazing.

Your number 9. I'm so glad I found this vid

Great non-bias analysis..love it

I needed this!! Thank you.

2 years I been going through this, the harassing, pop ups, stalking, stalking my sisters. I love this man dearly but I just can’t anymore. It’s ruining my sanity and could possibly jeopardize my freedom 😣 This pop up on valentines was the last straw. this video confirmed what I already knew

Best advice I have heard. Thank you for sharing

I really needed to hear this ❤️

I'm about to get married in a few weeks. My sons mother found out when I am going to get married, she wont let me see my son and she wont talk to me when it comes to my son. She mentioned that if I marry my fiancee she will ghost on me and I will never hear from my son again. Plus I am waiting on my legitimation case. I even wanted my son to be at my wedding. I shouldn't have never gotten with her to begin with. Especially if they have a mental disorder and baggage

Be careful which of this advice you believe, you never know what that man is telling his children's mom when you're not with him. She not acting that way for no reason Hunnay...and it isn't always bc she wants him or to bother anyone--things aren't always what they seem. I would say practice grace, patience and respect as much as yourself is involved. If he has right intentions toward you, then he will make sure any issues are resolved openly, thoroughly, peacefully without it harming the kids or sowing discord between adults. I think when all this is happening, it's bc he secretly trying to have his cake & eat it.🤷🏽‍♀️

Thank you. I needed to hear this

This is exactly what I go through with my son's father's ex. He has three children with her and she is the queen of stomping boundaries and not caring that he has moved on. She has made it clear to me that she hates me simply because I'm with him. She's constantly texting him about stuff that has nothing to do with their kids. I'm fed up with feeling like there's another woman in my relationship and I've told him either he handles it or I'm gone.

Wow you nailed this I told my son the same thing she is always bringing up the pass and he has moved on so she pull his daughter away

Great Video! NEVER Date, Or Marry A Single Parent! Don't Surrender To The Buts, Ifs, And "Ands" Scenarios! The Risks Are Just Too Plentiful!

Omg I’m dealing with each and everyone of these things. I just want my freedom. I just want to be happy with the blessing that God gave me. I no longer wanna deal with these women. I’m truly blessed to have my lady and I only wanna provide her with the best happiness ever.

First it was my boyfriend and his daughter taking a family trip together... somehow now his baby mama wants to come... Puerto Rico 5 days.. without me... he said “will smith” does it... lol you’re not will smith tho... I respectfully bowed out of that... I already knew what drama that was going to do in my life and mental health....

Girl your hair is bomb 😍

Slightly off topic but I have to say this 😅 you are literally the first person I've ever seen that looks STUNNING with green eyeshadow on 😍😍😍😍❤️👌

Oooh Chile as a step mom bio mom did all of this. I screamed when you got to the part about showing up to the family events in scantly clothes 🤣 she tried it but I stayed home to stay out the jail

Thank you for this. My man is coming over for a longggggg conversation later about this baby mama drama bc I’m done. I’m going to have him watch this and if there are no changes made I gotta step out. I love this man so much but I’m tired of her threats and disrespect.

My husbands bm hates me since day 1 she’s hated me and I have never ever done anything to her

My ex's baby mum calls my boyfriend to help her with things around the house which irritates me and she says it's for the kids she knows that he will do anything for the kids.. she doesn't like me for no reason and doesn't want me around the children so my boyfriend has to separate his time

Excellent video

Omg this is 100% true !!! I got attorney to help me see my son she got mad but everything you said is proof of my bm not overme. Plus she even stated that thru fb msgs which I used against her

Excellent video thank you

All I heard was run. Yeah it looks like I’m single again.

Anytime she contacts him it’s because she wants him to leave me so they can “be a family again”.(btw she has a new bf) Even if he was a single Pringle it still wouldn’t work between them, she a bipolar narcissist that can’t let go. Very frustrating that she has no respect for her relationships or the relationships others.

Great video I’m goin through this right now with my child’s mother she move in immediately wit a new man so I moved on and she still sends I love u texts smh iv gone no contact except 4 keeping my daughter fully still connected to me

I'm glad I came across this. This helps a lot. I'm the Stepmother and it has been pure hell.

Thank you, so much of what you said but home.

My boyfriend ex is s nightmare. She meets everyone of these. We now use an app called talking parents because she was texting and calling and causing issues. Even texted at 3 am. Don't waste time on women like this. Use the app!!!

Facts . Everything you just said is straight fact , lived it still live it at times.

Seriously needed to hear this, I recently married and am trying to establish a relationship with my stepdaughter and I’ve never experienced or seen this type of behavior. It’s disturbing.

GOOD VIDEO...You nailed it! My fiances BM (not bowel movement) is unstable. Just as you said, she's fine as long as she thinks he's single but wigged out the moment she found out about me. She's not only not over him, but also jealous of me because i have my shit together and really don't need any dude to hold me down UNLIKE HER who scams dudes for a living which is how they met BTW. Now she has him in court with FALSE accusations of Domestic violence just because she has no other cards to play. Why can't she just be a REAL WOMAN and co-parent with him like normal mom's? oh that's right, she's unstable! I pray she grows up cause i'm not going ANYWHERE!!!!

I’m 3-4 years in stepparenting and I’ve been called crazy abusive and followed to my car. And the time I’ve tried to have mommy time with bio and connect she brings up inappropriate questions and comments about the past. We moved state so I deal less with it but it is definitely boundary issues. I quit talking to her mostly.

SHE BELING TO THE STREETS!! 🎉🎉🎊🎊🎉🎊

My boyfriends sons mother is 13/13... pray for me 😕

I took your advice to run before I ever saw this video. I am very happy now😁😁😁

I can't believe this. How did I become this? Thank you for the wake up call. I'm literally the woman I used to laugh at. I'm trying to be aware. I'm actually the one who asked him to leave. What in the world...

My man's BM told him he could only visit his child at her home for them to play the ps5 there... ha! I nipped that right in the bud because there is wifi and electrical sockets everywhere. She got some act right real soon knowing i wasn't a pushover!

SHE BELING TO THE STREETS!! 🎉🎉🎊🎊🎉🎊!

She betta tell the truth! Boi!!!

Thank you ma'am.

I went through the absolute worst babymama drama in history...he was still messing with her... Went back and told all my personal business to her and even showed her naked pictures of me...I will never date another man wit kids ever again...

My step son’s mom had the audacity to come to the restaurant entrance to get him during a Father’s Day lunch before food was ordered! Another one, was when she called wanting to talk about how his friends are going to come over and to come play with them instead of being with his dad. I’ve never ever seen this before! To see my SO being treated so unfairly....gets my blood 🩸 boiling.

Everything you said is what my fiancé bms are ! But same time bio parents should mature adults when their is kids involved ! It’s absolutely hard dating a man with kids ! I just know if it was vice versa that I wouldn’t like my ex be a problem to him or my family . Seems like it is both . Sometimes I feel men try so hard to ignore what she is doing but at the same time ignoring it causes more drama and problems . I truly feel like it’s up to the man to set boundaries and not let them get to him or his family head with this . Even with court order they try to make it extra . People say find a man with no kids but it not very rare depending on age . So many people have been in divorces or separated relationships with kids

Wow that’s scary u just described my baby mama in almost every way 😳😳🤭🤭

Yeah I have experienced this, the baby mama was too crazy

Yesssss his ex is simply bitter she has done bout all of these things grabs running shoes 🏃🏾‍♀️💨‼️

I been thru this with my husband ex wife they got a son together... when we first got together she was about so much drama..and always said she wanted a relationship like how me & my baby dad was because me and my husband can go with the kids to his house and hangout without all the drama because me&him just want to make sure our son is happy at both homes..but it took her a long time for us to get there with her but we been working on it together now she will call and want to stay on the phone with me for a hr or longer..

Love this and going through this right now. This is my 1st time dating a man with a child. I just met their son and he called her via FaceTime for me to meet her and she had a huge attitude and hung up. Sent him long ass text message trying to say that he’s a bad father and he’s not. She turned a great weekend into drama! She does want to be back with him. She’s said that and he made it clear to her that he’s moved on and in love with me.

Baby mamas be crazy.... 😬

GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

This is so true!

It's REALLY hard to just "get over" someone you were madly in love with and thought yall would be together forever and have a family with kids involved. He never was really in love with her.

This is exactly 💯 % what I have gone through. My ex used our 2 daughters as a tool 🔧 to hurt me as the father and my parents. Money 💰 first and foremost, then when it seemed that the kids gravitated moreso towards me and their grandparents all hell broke loose. It caused the girls to be dysfunctional, confused, depressed..even affected there educational processes. It has gone on for many years. She got married and moved on , which I was so happy. But that didn't solve the issues at all.. I just want my now 20 and 24 yr old daughters to have functionally successful lives...

Its the run for me ❤

Do you have a video on 13 signs the baby father that’s not over his bm?

I’m dealing with many of these and my bm has married another man!

On my cuzn that’s exactly what see say she ova happy with her new man 👨 and my daughter got a step daddy. I just laugh 😂 and say Ight G ball

These type of relationships are just very unnatural. The “stepmother” often resents the entire first family. Dad often has trouble giving enough attention to his children. Baby mama often resentful for abandonment. Children get harmed by all the drama and having to live in two houses with no one truly being happy. It’s sad.

I'm fully in the middle of everything. You just said everything I've been experiencing with my new husbands borderline ex. You said things I keep saying to him but he isn't seeming to be willing to hear it and deal with it or accept it. It brought me to tears and gave me justification finally that all i've been saying is in fact so true. I don't know what to do. I've read and listened to hours and hours of podcasts, articles and books. you nailed it. Finally somehow who talks about the impacts it has on the new woman. I need more of you in my life. I don't know what to do next. It's been five months since our wedding and everything is crumbling.

WOW!!!! You just described my husband BM TO THE T!!! Unbelievable!

She's not stalking me but she has me blocked on Facebook when she doesn't even know me. I've never met her face to face even though I've been with this dude for three years because every time she comes around I'm not there but like I said in another comment, she's made it clear she doesn't like me. When I first met his kids she made the comment that she didn't believe he was with anybody. Now if she was over him then why would she ask that? I'm not stupid, sometimes I think he's just playing dumb because he doesn't want to deal with her drama or he's not over her either and doesn't want to admit it. Either way I'm tired of being disrespected. He claims he has to keep her happy social let him see his kids but I told him that there's free lawyers that will help him fight her and that I would even help him with it because he asked for my help. But I'm over this crap, either he handles it or I'm gone because I'm tired of there being another woman in what was supposed to be a two-person relationship. I told him that's sometimes I think he's really not over her and he just needs to admit it otherwise he wouldn't been able to her behavior.

This bought tears to my eyes. I’m a stepmom and I’m dealing with 12 of these. It’s so hard and I love my husband so much but she makes our lives hell. I constantly wonder if it’s worth it.

thank you ❤️

I feel like you are talking to me , same situation

child support do not make sure the man's get their visitation right they make sure you get the child support money but they don't make sure visitation right it's sad when the child get older they know happened why they Mama kept the child away from their daddy and they realize what the woman do with money