Well. That's all my friends @~@

Woah! I'm second!

This will help me in future if I'm dating...

What about a video on OCD and what to do against it?

Those are my friend name felicia

Yeah

Because my father is the abuser, I can't do anything

So true

when you just realised thats the situation you’re in right now 🥲

@Krishna Patel Violet is a beautiful name.

Thanks baby. So are you!

Yeah.... About that.

Im not but thx anyways

Ok this man deserves an extra like but it’s a shame that I have to change it to 70 lol

I'm not nobody cares

My boyfriend is the same way. Gets mad at me for being sad and tells me I'm too emotional :(

I’m so sorry for what you experienced.

@@marinareviews9072 believe me he’s not the one then, the right one would hug you and let you know why not be sad or feeling that way, i had to tell my self that every time till i decided he didn’t deserve me and i left. They don’t deserve our good hearts💀💜

@@yaslingalicia7007 Thank you for that

Mine bullies and torments me and tells me I’ll never find someone that loves me and he literally admitted to cheating on me and threatened to expose me

That is so amazing. I am so proud of you, its been 8 months how are you holding up

Hollywood has conditioned us to believe that it isn't true love unless you're rapidly cycling between "intense passion" and "intense suffering"

Obviously duh

Very true. I was in an emotional and mental abusive relationship for 2 years before I told him off and told him I was done and told him I knew he was cheating, of course him being a narcissist that didn’t end well but I was prepared.

@@singer07872007 The part nobody prepares you for is how sometimes you catch yourself missing that person. Even if the relationship was a living nightmare, you end up having to argue with the tiny part of yourself that wants to go back. 😭

Yup

How do u time travel

@@texasrepublic2332 They're a member of this channel, so they can comment and view before it's posted.

That's really kind of you!

@@Gyum-gk8nc woah thank kind stranger

Thankyou! 😔💗

My husband had an affair with a co-worker for nearly two years the last nine months of which I was pregnant with our second child. I found out about the other woman the week before my due date, I felt so terrible and moved back to my mother's home for 2 month with the kids after birth, he kept on apologizing to every member of my family and they all begged me to forgive him, I moved back to our home and I still had that feeling something was off, I felt deep down that I have been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillow or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more, my in-law were also very verbally abusive towards me. Wasn't allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to I had to be ready for an argument, everyday I was reminded that I am not nothing and that was not worth fighting for and that don't meet the standard of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me an had a girl friend after seeing the text and pictures, I became numb. I have been a good wife. I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who help me extract enough information from his device. Someone on here share a link to the hacker who helped me clone his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him through a remote link sent to my email,I was able to access all of his text, email, Facebook and Instagram chat real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him on Instagram by searching his 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞👉👉👉👉@𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐥_𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐳 on Instagram

What if ex of 6 year comes back after few months of breakup and claim to be changed but you don't feel the change(he became emotionally abusive in the 6tj year, threatening my friends, humiliating me in public and and vandalising college property, making scenes in your college for 9 months) I still love him but i don't think he is right for me anymore Although he did care for me a lot But based on what he did last year, i had no option but to leave, i tried to make things right by sacrificing but he kept doing same thing. People stopped talking to me in my college.

Wow!! That is the exact sentence the abuser always told me!!!

Amen!!!😓🙌💫

Oh my god i relate too much to this…

This is what my narc said to me. He says it all the time. 😢

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We are here for you!! How many points did you relate to?

@@Psych2go 10 of these signs

i related to 10 as well! im in shock to realize how much of these actions i took for granted are big red flags!

How has your healing been ? I feel sorry for myself knowing that I put up with this and didn’t even realise I was being abused

Thanks😌

Thank you very much!

Thank you for this!

Thank you

It happens to me

Mine uses his adhd as an excuse smh

@@digitaldrea same 😔 and I have adhd too

My friend going through challenges in her relationship- she is such a wonderful woman- he hates it that he looks much older than her---- she has a jolly personality and he is serious type-

@@Manifesting_Secret_Sketchbook sounds like he is insecure and going to try to put out the fire of her spirit so he can control and keep her like a prized possession. He is scared of losing her. She is probably so kind that she sees the best in him as no person is “all bad.” So sad. He’ll be hard pressed to admit it even realize his inner feelings of fear.

That or their gender either.

The word blame is toxic in its self. Life is not about blame. Mistakes and misunderstandings are part of life

I stayed for 3 years... I’m so upset it even happen to me

I have nowhere to go /:

I can't I have no family or anyone to turn to and not means of income

U won't believe how fast 4 months turns into 4 years and then 10 then 18. I could puke

i aslo experienced every single point too...😔

Unfortunately my childhood trauma list reflects all of these 😓😓😓

That is my childhood right now lol

Im sorry for both of you..I promise the light will come through and everything will be better soon i hope! im not sure what your beliefs are but im going to pray for you both. you will get through this!❤️

Yeah my last partner checks 10/14 signs...the worst part is that you doubt that it’s actual emotional abuse, and I keep having to remind myself that it was real, and it was not ok.

My background for my phone is literally “what I want for Christmas: a mom who doesn’t make it seem like they hate me “ :/

Thanks for sharing this with us! What advice would you recommend to those who are in this situation?

Psych2Go that it doesn’t matter who you are with. Girl or boy, friend or family. It can happen to anyone, and the sooner you try to realize the signs, the sooner you should try your best to break free from that relationship.

@Joni G Thank you Joni :)

I'm currently dealing with this

Same

Same

More people need to think like you! Good job :)

Thank you so much for your kind comment. This means a lot to many :)

@Krishna Patel Positivity is the best way to confront this situation. Be positive. Have you tried praying, idk if your Christian but God is here for you. I’m having trouble with the same problems right now, maybe not as extreme, I’ve lost all my friends over quarantine and my sister yells at me and verbally abuses me, we have to keep our mind on the positives. Pray to God, tell him you need an escape, try to make new friends. I know it’s hard right now, because of quarantine, maybe try online. A way to find positivity is to find joy in yourself, you don’t need to rely on others to make you happy. What are some things you love to do? Do those things find joy in what you love. Things will change I promise you that.

@Krishna Patel I’m sooo happy for you, it’s always good to hear that God is doing great things in all of our lives!!

@Krishna Patel I’m glad your doing better!!

@Krishna Patel I’m a teen and I’m still trying to live while my sister pushes me down to put herself up. I don’t think I’ll be able to escape this until I go to college in a few years. I hope I’ll find peace someday

Sounds like he's a good for nothing. I hope you get better and stay safe. :)

Same, he would say things to me like you’re so fake your love was fake I curse you , !!!Damnn I’m so glad I’m over him

My soon to be ex said the same!! I've wasted so much time on him it's ridiculous! He very mean but in public he pretends to be nice friendly and outgoing but behind closed doors he a demon

Respect begets respects.understanding and communication are utmost and leaving aside pride and ego.

I know it happened to me also almost everyday.

It happens to me too much with family, friends, i cant even trust no one, it's pathetic...

they also wanted us to "talk" but when we bring up that we're unwell. they don't care or either "i don't ever want to hear that (sad/bad thought) again". sure there will be no next time..

You find out who really cares about you when you need someone the most. Actions speak louder than words.

@@delll372 Exactly! When I want to talk to people I just want people to reassure me that they're there for me, but I always get "I can't do anything about that, you should go talk to your therapist about that" and it's like, I already do, that's not the point... It feels like I'm only being pushed away because it's not a problem they can solve for me :(

Abuse occurs when expectations/entitlement about the relationship exceed compassion for the other person. Remember that abusive people actually feel like they're the victim for not getting enough attention. As long as you're compassionate, willing to accept that the other person is still a separate person with their own life to live, and eager to accept your own faults + put in the effort to grow and improve upon them, you should be fine. 😁

@@CFSworks This is a double-sided weapon and we should put extreme care into drawing healthy boundaries. Let's say you are dating a person who is emotionally unavailable, gaslighting you, untrustworthy. You 99% become insecure and start putting blame / questioning their whereabouts. So the other person puts blame on you saying you are controlling (while they keep meeting other people on dating apps, saying that you are toxic for not giving them trust while you should, and that you are not compassionate enough because you don't understand that for them commitment is hard). You see what I mean? I think we should be very careful when talking about compassion, because that is one of the biggest doors into manipulation. *Informed* kindness and compassion for the other person are key. And compassion for ourselves too, that does not mean entitlement. Again, it's a healthy balance matter. In any case, very likely if you wonder whether you are the abuser or not, you probably aren't...

@@AlisInterrail There is always such a thing as too much of a good thing. "Not being abusive" does not mean "the relationship is healthy."

@@CFSworks yeah, that is right. I think many people struggle with this though, and stay stuck in unhealthy situations..

@@AlisInterrail In my experience at least from seeing that play out in other people, 90% of the time this is because of projective identification. The abuser *knows* abuse is happening, so can't deny that, but denies that they're the abuser and instead projects onto the abused. If the abused identifies with that projection, they can begin to act out the role (perhaps they get irrationally angry upon sensing their abuser's suppressed rage). It's a pity because it makes the gaslighting work a lot faster than otherwise. Unfortunately it's really hard to tell who's responsible for what in a projective situation like that. But both parties will be aware that abuse is happening, they just won't be able to agree on who is abusing whom (and maybe it's going in both directions). In a situation like that, the relationship should really just be ended.

so proud of you, you are ver strong and it is never too late to take back your life

You're not alone. I pray you're out of it now

@@etienne5456 thank you

You’ll get through it! I promise! 💜💖💛💖❤️💓💚💜💙💓❤️💖

That’s a sad fact..

Can say from experience that this is true 👌 oh how wonderful it would have been if only things didn't go wrong

Thanks for sharing. Have you personally been in this situation before? :(

Respect begets respects. Love and understanding and communication is the best romance. Balance and partnership is important.

I felt this

@@atticus5748 Good. Now suffer with me

❤️

Anyone suffer by fusing tacos and burritos?

@@crushelnast6657 You need help. Serious help.

I wish i knew what to do. I don't know where to start. I'm an emotion reck with depression. My partner plays with my feeling with negetivity. Then he tries to get close to me like nothing he said meant anything 😭

@@rafaelaguerra4744 If possible, you should leave. That's the sort of thing my ex used to pull. It's not fair to you to play with your feelings and confuse you, and if you need help leaving, ask a trustworthy person (a parent, sibling, aunt/uncle, etc.) to be with you when you say you're leaving. It's really scary and tough, but you will feel so much better!

@@rafaelaguerra4744 How are you Rafaela? Hope you're safe 🙏🏼

Im not😢

Sometimes these people have a huge amount of insecurities and issues themselves and will even try to make you out to be the abuser. It seems very common for women to do this to men as society will not believe men easily.

Absolutely I am a victim of emotional abuse from someone whom I thought was a friend.

My mother was like this to me and my big sister when I was a toddler my parents were addicts

@@justinalee7306 after being in therapy for months and rebuilding my self esteem, I think I can safely say that these people don't really know what a mature relationship is. They are incapable of communicating and blame it on you. It's the very typical (and also fair in that case) treatment that a child expects from a parent: the parent is supposed to sacrifice her needs and to understand the child without questioning, because biologically the child is still not perfectly able to communicate them. Except, these people are adults now. Move on, you definitely deserve better :*

@@AlisInterrail Thanks for the kind words and encouragement! I’m so sorry for what you went through, and I’m glad you’re feeling much better now. This gives me the courage to keep moving forward and keep working on myself. Thank you again! 🙂

INSINUATIONS is the perfect word

Omgosh your "" happen to me..

I feel you 💔

I can relate as well

relatable

Thanks for sharing! We want to let you know that you’re not alone! How are you coping with this situation so far?

;-; I feel you....

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Or lash out and if you do, it just gets worse...

I wish I could like this comment twice. My ex would go 12 hours without saying a word to me, then hop on Call of Duty and talk to all these guys about what she did today, what she's doing tomorrow, what she's planning for Christmas. And I'm just sitting there like.... Oh, I didn't know that. Or that. You're doing that tomorrow? Your mom said that? You like that movie? Pre-edit: I thought you said "able to be sensitive but not (TO) you. Well, I can relate either way. They're sensitive but you're not. Just another way to make you walk on egg-shells and shut you down. I feel you...

@@biteyalmighty7874 sorry to hear that would make me so self-conscious

Narcs are all about double standards but they can't handle a taste of their own medicine

It’s a very depressing situation at times especially when they give you the slight sense of hope when they’re emotionally available but just keep manipulating you

Tbh even tho I know it isn't my fault I still feel like I should have noticed the abuse beforehand- dark times indeed

Thanks for sharing. Do you personally know someone who might be going through this?

@@Psych2go unfortunately my mum went through this

It is honestly bad, because at first I didn't know anything, since I was my first relationship, and it got to the point where my family was telling me to stay away and that it's unhealthy, and my sensitive self was very overwhelmed and didn't know what to do.. So it's a rough ride..

But egolessness is the cause of depression. Ego is how you see yourself. Your image. When you lose your ego you feel empty and purposeless Life's not so simple

Let's agree that having a balanced self-esteem would be a good thing to do

@@muhammadel-badawy7067 yes

Hey. I would have really appreciated that from my partner yet they never did that. Instead they left me, labelled me as manipulative, and jumped right into another relationship. I have been out of it for a week battling my self worth, insomnia, and emotional pain.

@@ClassyEnding I can imagine how you feel. It's been almost an year, doing therapy and now I've started taking antidepressants, I feel much better now and am able to work on my issues in therapy.

@@NicoleCamileSantosAlexandre keep growing. I am starting my own mental health treatment too. The best of luck on your journey

Well done for your honesty and self reflection - that's already massive progress in your life!

Heidi Mounsey,You are beautiful 🌹🌹,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

You deserve so many nice things leave her....

I'm so sorry, you deserve better! God bless.💚

She isn’t worth ur time. She is a horrible person for that. I hope ur doing ok

I see :( How many of these points described her?

@@Psych2go point 5, 6 7, 8, 9, 10, and 12 are the points that mostly describe her, so quite a few of them.

Aw man :(

Wow! Good job!

How dare you >:[

Oww... That actually hurt...

How do people do this

That’s so true! Have you ever experienced this? :(

@@Psych2go yes

@@Psych2go I've experienced it too.

Maybe our souls are connected!

So it’s not just me? I’ve been thinking the same every time it happens

Podobnie.

Me too😢

I hope you are doing well now. sending lots of love and virtual warm hugs to you. hope you have a great time.

Thanks 💖💖💖

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What are your thoughts after watching this video?

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Thank you for your support!

I kinda know how u feel but my story is a little different

sending much good energy, you will get through this. fuck kathy, i appreciate and love you.

@@lacyyyy thanks it means alot

@@shinoinuzuka3727 🤎

It must be some weird family dynamic going on. Ask your Mom how would she feel if she was in your place.

Good advice!

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Focus instead on unique and precious you. You CANNOT change another person. Look into al anon if you need support with this.

@@ohdear2275 Well, you can change another person....

You can't force change when the other person doesn't want to do it.

@@starlite04 I'm not forcing them...I'm just trying to encourage it...

I feel the same.. My mind says that u r being too sensitive, u r strong enough, stop crying.. Even I feel like crying until I run out of tears. I think it's due to bottling up our emotions for a long time, and being made to feel guilty or ashamed or weak for being ourselves or vulnerable, that has lead to these unintentional thoughts rooted in our minds.

Wow.