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People with PTSD often get triggered by someone or something, thats why they avoid socializing

This made me cry because i finally feel understood. Continuing to use tools to heal. Thank you for sharing this for us ❤

-I get in an fight/ flight modus when people I love or like, makes me feel unsafe. Thinking they are going to hurt, abonnen or abuse me.. Be patient, I will come back after a while, and then be able to talk in a calm state. -I handle stress badly, so as much as possible I try to stay in a calm state. So please don't stress me, lol

Triggered my girlfriends DV trauma by saying things to her when i was drunk. That blew up so bad that she said she doesnt want to see me and she needs space. Said she doesn't feel the same way about me at the moment and she doesn't know how long it will take for her to feel better. Just asked me for space...from being part of the daily life, I am now nobody. She said she understands and knows I am sorry but she said it doesn't change how i feel. She had a massive physical reaction when we met to try and discuss things however that didn't last long as i could see she was really uncomfortable. So i excused myself. No contact now at all and all i can do is wait. God knows how much i hate myself for triggering her and how sorry i am but it is what it is and I might lose her for good.

If I could just make all my family and friends watch this them my life would become a whole lot better.

I have severe CPTSD. I was surprised there was a name for what I've been living with. The points Dr.Snipes states are all 100% true. I live daily seeing the "leftovers"...the scars from my perpetrator. Makes it way too hard to forget. How do we deal with that? 😢 Thank you and God bless

If you are in a relationship with someone with PTSD, cPTSD or Borderline personality, what symptom of theirs do you struggle with most, and what strategy helps you cope?

This is excellent, thank you for this - you're fantastic at conveying information concisely, but in an engaging manner

This is my life...literally. Thank you for putting it into words

One of the more useful videos on the subject. Thank you

I actually have cptsd along with mdd and anxiety. nobody really understands about the crowds and how it triggers me. I just need someone I know next to me especially at line in the store or at the mall

Thank you for this I was diagnosed with CPTSD thank you for this Doc Snipes hallelujah 🙌🏻 a great help for me 🙌🏻

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For BPD: The worst is when they push you away and say "I'm never going to talk to you again." For combat PTSD: I get worried about sleep walking.

OMG thank you so much for this video. It describes my actions to a t. I also suffer from ADHD and autism. The superintendent at the blind School bullied and harrassed me. I kept telling him that I did not feel safe and I kept asking for a union representative and he kept denying it. I asked three times and he kept bullying me over and over and over. Are publicly requested his notes and he kept saying that I was emotional about the situation and he could not understand why I was afraid of him. I finally got up and ran out of the room after telling him multiple times that I feared him. I have read his notes hundreds of times and this video makes it clear why I did not feel safe. He is a superintendent with a psychology degree and he does not understand my behavior. He also demoted me and then wanted to fire me because of my behavior. He refused to put me on FMLA when I told him I was having a mental health breakdown due to my toxic workplace. Thanks again for what you do.

Love the analogies you use.❤

This is fantastic 👏🏼 Appreciate you 🥰

THANK YOU for that description of some of the dysfunctional issues that arrive for those with disorders, remedies for care givers of those with disorders to manage, since i've experienced the test of it and no need to elaborate here.

Great tips for helping someone, &: how to take care of yourself when feel your walking on eggshells & keep doing wrong things? Thanks

I have CPTSD and was married for 30 years to a spouse who has BPD and I don't recommend it. Tip one: Don't do it. Tip two: Don't do it. You can't fix broken & this was not for a lack of trying. Even though we divorced over a decade ago and have not so much as communicated with one another since then, they still suffer with the same condition & so do I. The symptom that caused the most distress was their ability to lie and manipulate the system in order to cause the most damage to my reputation as possible. The only way to cope was to finally terminate the relationship. Cheers

As a victim/ survivor of causes of diagnosis cptsd. I recommend I stay single and not interested in commiting to anyone but myself care from it all.

Thanks for this video and all of the information provided. I'm just starting a relationship with someone who shared with me that she has a cPTSD diagnosis, so I'm trying to get up to speed on both cPTSD and how I can navigate the relationship and be supportive to her. This is all very helpful.

Love your video's helping me ao much thank you

Yes, yelling with sporting games or video games like some people do can startle you

Have had PTSD for years never got help When Beruit Anniversary a couple years ago all that I repressed and made light of came and I finally got help I have a long way to go and it’s hard on some days .

It can be something as far as where you sit your money can freak someone out, and I had a rule in my house money had to be in your purse your wallet somewhere, but it wasn’t allowed to be on the counter I mean that seems maybe OCD, but it’s more of a trigger from a trauma! But what’s interesting about that is overtime it’s gotten so much better I went from PTSD to complex PTSD and I like see PTSD better because it fried my brain to where I didn’t feel crap and I know that’s not healthy but not honest, it was easier to deal with the depression, and not feeling or not feeling at all then it was to deal with anxiety if I had to pick a pick depression any day over anxiety❤🙏

Excellent advice.

My Friend have suffered from a SA trauma and I don't know how to help him feel better and come back to life. be a happy person again. it has been one month. and he is still feeling same and tell me he can not forget it, it is still like it was yesterday, I am on long distance and can not visit him because of Visa problem and idk how I can help him forget it. I hope this helps me to treat his trauma, and bring joy and happiness back in his life. I wish all of you quick recovery.

I leave the blinds open at night, so the natural sun comes in and wakes me up in the morning because I have too much trouble regulating sleep.

I've been with my wife for 24 years. She doesn't know what I went through in Combat. I dont talk about it. I have severe flash backs and get triggered by certain smells and sounds but I tend to go in protective mode of her. I have severe nightmares and she soothes me and has been so loving and supportive and that has helped tremendously. I feel like we have Both withdrawn do to my condition. I absolutely cannot stand civilians I'm only comfortable around other combat vets or my wife. I dont understand why I get so angry when I'm out shopping and there is someone else in the isle but I wanna react and I dont understand why.Alot of times I think of offing myself because I feel so guilty that I lived and my friends died.

I wanted to ask you on the subject of autoimmune diseases due to pre-existing non-avoidable stress levels, is eczema or singles or hives a symptom of the autoimmune system being attacked?

Though we’re not in a relationship anymore we are talking again now as friends and I’ll always love her even though she doesn’t see me like that anymore so I wanna be whatever I can be for her and this video is helpful for friendship too, thank you 🙏

Thank you for this! I learned a lot of new things but also feel validated in my efforts to support my loved one.

Thanks!

I have the teeth grinding and stomach upset. Also sleep problems. And of course I am frequently dysregulated.

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Do you have some advice for a couples where both suffer from CPTSD?

Imo I feel like you should heal before going into another relationship because it can make it hard on the person your dating

Thanks

Thank you so much

I told the women at a breast center that I jump so doing medical procedures like a core biopsy of the breast is important to let them know that you’re jumpy, or if your kids are snapping a table up in the back of a Highlander then that can make you jumpy, so you need to let them know ahead of time because it does trigger you make you jump in when you’re driving a vehicle that’s not a good idea

I don’t want to go anywhere bc people will ask how I’m doing and I hate lying. But I don’t want to tell the whole story.

Everyone has triggers, and no one can prevent every single one of them. The problem is that when one is triggered, there is no room for forgiveness and understanding. Ironically, that's what the one triggered wants, yet they don't give the same response that they ask for. Relationships ends and that's that. Hard truth

It’s terrible when someone with PTSD lashes out and falsely accuses when they are triggered over a normal thing. Inflexible thinking and impulses creating lash outs that are destructive.

❤ thank you this video I forwarded to a few people in my life that are left due to childhood trauma and then for more major TRAUMAS in my adulthood. isolate, I have autoimmune disease. I just found out I have cancer and I don't think I've felt safe my entire life. Only now at 48 years old with health issues that are life-threatening. Do I really take a look at myself and my addictions throughout my life and why. Sometimes I think I'm getting better but just two days ago I've triggered and it took me back to two years ago. The people that knew me before my PTSD. I only have two girlfriends left, but they still struggle to understand as I'm still in a situation where I'm powerless I've been fighting to get out of that situation for three years now I hope that one day I'll be able to find someone who will allow me to do the things that you mention in this video in order to heal

I was a volunteer firefighter and severely injured I fear hospitals and sirines make me remember what happened 😔its hard to deal with at times I've witnessed friends brothers die I can't go in the fire station without breaking into tears hospital's make me uneasy because I died 4 times because of my injuries I can't talk about this sorry I'm remembering now

I have CPTSD and found this very helpful in knowing what to ask of my partner to help help me. It's hard for me to articulate to him.

I guess it’s hard to instantly build trust without a little gaslighting.

I should send this video to my wife.

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I knew someone with ptsd and their behaviour was all over the place. 1 day treating me so well, next day changing again. Trust became an issue due to their indecive behaviour as well sometimes. I feel i didnt know her symptoms well enough to understand the problem might not even be me

Thank you so much gor this one, I always respected that my worst symptoms were when I was in my own house. Never liked domestic life, do you have suggestions to minimize triggers at home.

It feels very burdensome to the ones I love

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i dont understand what feelings are, when i get triggered my body starts to twitching - muscle spasm and before i used to get in flight or fight response but now i stand ground but i cant control my body spasm and it last for days or weeks till normal but i can manage to act or hide my spasm after light sleep but after 8 hours with other people i start losing grib over muscle spasm and when i experience that reminds me of past my muslce starts again to spasm and its hard cause i react like im being hit or on my way to run away but i know whats up, another problem, i dont feel tired even after 1 to 3 hours sleep in a week then suddently i crash and sleep for 10 to 16 hours in a single day then it goes back to 1 to 3 hours a day sleeping to 1 to 3 hours a week of sleeping then crashing again and it keeps repeating and lasted for i dont know how long time anymore :/ im tired but dont know how to feel it. im too broken in mind to understand what my body says, im trying hard to be normal, i know who i am but i dont know me anymore. what is wrong with me, hearing sometimes the sound of skull gets broken, cant forget the eyeball, cant forget the smell, cant forget the times i almost jumped, cant forget those time i almost made a bad day for drivers on roads, cant forget my mom yelling in pain over the years, cant forget the day she almost ended cause of my dad, cant forget the times i was trapped, cant forget those people that said that i should end myself and i almost ended too many times, cant forget what my dad did violently almost everyday, cant forget those days my dad talk me down over nothing, cant forget and i get confused, i am not hungry anymore and food taste like food but i dont enjoy food anymore, i eat tho, i work at a small kitchen, it helps a little to make me eat, i really wish i didnt suffer from this, who cares anyways, im not worth it to you, im worth it for me, i shouldnt be here and be written this, why am i still alive? this isnt possible, i think normal till i get flashback, its like having a normal life and suddently there they are those bastards(memories) and its mixing with present time bringing me down without i am down, too broken while being high functioning, somedays i just want to let go and its like the trauma in it self where i cant escape. i dont dream anymore - i stopped dreaming when i had my last fake friend that used me and starved me till my weight went from 62 kg to 51kg and i am male 39 years 178cm, the person made me help and used up my money by manipulation and something went wrong inside my mind and that person was the reason to c-ptsd to kick in like hellfire cause of friendship that lasted for 4 years and that person manipulated me after i told about my past :/ I DONT TRUST ANYONE even if i want to trust others I CANT i just got to keep going :) maybe those bastard(memories) too many times and too many different episodes btw will eventually be meaningless, how do i get well again :P i dont care anymore and just living day for day, i dont really have any hope anymore, i will still keepfighting for a better life and that i get to see the next day keeps me going on but i know somewhere i have given up allready and slowly destrying my body cause who cares :D dont give up you who read this, may you find peace you whom suffer from ptsd or c-ptsd, get help ASAP unlike me cause i dont think i ever will be normal, Denmark dont want to help me but thats okay, i think i might make it till i get old but dont care if i go early, i just hope that it doesnt go this far for any other :P it sucks to be in this state, i want to live but i dont want to live and still, here i am. mtf all those people and there are too many, i cant forgive and i cant forget. im srry,

Any tips for someone with silent BPD(me) trying to help their partner who has cPTSD? Bit hard when the cPTSD parter literally helps the silent BPD one with exactly what needs to be done but dissociation comes into play because of previous flashback of cPTSD partner. Feels like a vicious circle that never ends. Thank you.

My anger often reminds my wife of her father.

so easy on paper

If you prefer to be alone and not engage with the people in your environment, are you considered to be avoidant? If so, is that considered to be a problem that needs changing? If so, then that goes completely against the advice of abuse experts who tell us to cut off the abusive perpetrators and everyone connected with them.

I am dealing with a husband that has Cptsd😢 it really makes me feel bad and sad and manythings. Its hard and its a lonely life. He don't want to trust anybody. He has no friends. He just want to be inside the house. Sleeping the whole day. Too lazy and easily gets mad in anything. I didn't know that he has it before we get married. I just found out after 4yrs of getting married to him. I almost end up quiting to our marriage. Please help me what will i do.. he said he dont want to get into medication or treatment anymore.

I experience all of these things as someone with cptsd, anxiety and being highly sensitive. The trouble is my partner is both my supporter and the one who causes the most trauma. How do I handle the situation of wanting to avoid reminders by not wanting to watch the same movies as him and feeling bad because it causes him to feel disappointed by not being able to watch the things he wants to watch with me namely rated R movies??? In the end no one is happy because he feels disappointed and missing out and like I shouldn't be so sensitive but I am not okay to endure the triggers just to make him happy either.

I have all of them

I apealed but none to answer and push resposibiltie to my side, I filled the forms on time ,afraid to admised have hearing. I had letter to envidence.

What if she neither communicates what she needs nor is willing to hear my solutions?

I'm SEEING THE DISREGULATION NOW

Is there a way ptsd can become cured? My mom always leaves the lights on and closes the blinds when she goes to sleep she doesn’t sleep until she knows someone’s gonna be up all night. She blocks a locked door with a stool, bag, and whisk. I’m gonna try to help relieve her anxiety and take on some duty, but by doing so will her anxiety fade? Will she still need her door blocks? Will she still need to leave the light on? Will she still need someone to stay up and watch the house? Or does she need those constants for the rest of her life to feel safe and happy?

I need help. I believe my boyfriend has PTSD! His parents used to fight and yell a lot when he was little, so he triggered by any kind of yelling. Well we had a fight and I yelled at him😢 (long story) and now he really won’t talk to me. It’s been a month of back and forth, he gets hot and cold. I don’t think he wants to breakup, I’ve been giving him space. What should I do?! I’m so worried he’s going to leave me! 😢

At what point when my loved ones reach Treats is it technically abusive towards us I’ve gone as long as 11 days without seeing my spouse while he shot himself in his room to do think that soonest him watch TV read books work on his model airplanes etc. he has abjectly refused for years to seek any sort of treatment that would give him some coping mechanisms at what point do I have to throw my hands up

What do you do if both you & your partner have cptsd & one person’s coping mechanism (yelling hurtful things) is the other person’s trigger?

Does anyone know if she has a video about how to help someone heal from CPTSD? I completely understand and agree with the importance of making them feel safe. But what about transcending the trauma? I mean, does someone like myself have to keep my fiance wrapped in bubble wrap for the rest of my life and never go on adventures? She has been overactive and angry for over seven years and was the same with her ex-husband for 10 years. Her traumas started years before that. I love her to death but it sounds like there's now healing happening in this video, just the secure partner making changes to accommodate the traumatized partner indefinitely. What about exposure therapy?

behind made trubles ,always didn't feel safe

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What if they will not talk Just very argumentative. Help

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My wife has had an abusive father.

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I'm always in flight or fight i dont remember accident so all I do is anylize that day over and over its been 5 yrs im fine one day then tripin the next day. I get startled by alot its crazy ill see the person walk in he says hi I say hi then I get startled. Plus with the mild brain trauma it's difficult to control my feelings. I prefer to b alone don't like being people I get over whelmed n confused I've asked every1 I know to help cause I can' buy clothes trouble making decisions and being over whemled by everything in the store. I have every symptom up there. I'm sitting in the car we stopped at stop sign ibsay a car conming down the road I found myself telling myself not going to hit us n 2 secs later I freaked screamed like a girl that the car was going to hit us. Mind u I never saw the car hit me the guy drove sidewalk n speed up n ran me over all I know I was found 50 feet on other side of fence landed my soccer net it was a hit and run. He's threaten me 3 times after that. I don't know why he tried to kill me haven't seen him in 15 yrs. It's been 5years n I am still learning. Are u still learning