Thanks for watching! What is one of the best life lessons you've learned?

1. It is better to regret the things you've done than the things you didn't do 2. Stop fearing failure 3. It's ok to not know what you want to do for the rest of your life 4. It's never too late to change or reinvent yourself 5. Someday is not a day 6. Don't wait to travel 7. Focus on experiences, not things 8. You will have to work harder to make friends and maintain friendships as an adult 9. Another person's beauty does not detract from yours 10. There is space for you in this world exactly as you are 11. You will not stick to habits and routines that make you miserable 12. Trust your gut 13. Begin investing and saving with compound interest as soon as you can 14. Your tastes will change 15. Rent the cheaper apartment 16. Let go or be dragged 17. Adults don't necessarily have it all figured out 18. Everyone is on their own timeline, and no timeline is "the right one" 19. It's ok to not be on a traditional path 20. The time will fly and 30 isn't as old as you think it is

'Let go or be dragged'.. I AM SHOOK

I've learned you shouldn't waste energy on people who don't understand the path you're on, who you really are or don't add value to your life. I spent so many years trying to maintain friendships with people who just brought me down, all because I thought I owed them the loyalty. But it's ok to not be friends with people you were friends with in high school or university. People drift in and out of your lives, they're not always meant to stay.

I like myself a little more each year. Like every year of my twenties I've grown as a person exponentially more than just the year before.

Biggest lesson I learned in my 20’s DO NOT SETTLE ON WHO YOU ARE DATING! I wish I told myself this earlier I was in a relationship with a guy who was not right for me for 6 years of my life. I was so relived when we broke up now I’m married to the love of my life and he is so understanding and caring and now I know that I made the right choice!

This is what I needed. I'm 32 and have a twin brother who has achieved so much more than me so it makes me feel like a failure. He's married with a baby and his own house, three college degrees, and a job as a professor, while I have none of that. I have only had part-time jobs, working on getting a certificate in college (I have no degree), have never been in a relationship, and don't want to get married. I know everyone has their own path and goes in their own pace but it's hard to see those around you of the same age moving ahead in life while I'm not.

im glad that I went travelling on my own in my 20s. I couldn't be bothered waiting around for ppl to come with me. I travelled to 20 countries.

“Everyone is on their own timeline, no timeline is the ‘right one’ “ this one might just halve my stress level. It’s my 21st birthday today and I spend so much time just criticising myself for not doing as much my peers but it hasn’t really ever hit me that maybe we just all want different things from lives.

"if you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough." LOVE THIS. I'm going to paint it on my wall LOL

When you said “i hadn’t spent any time living in the real world yet” I felt that being in school for so long I feel like I’m waiting to start living

As someone who is 38, I have to say that the dirty thirties rock! You stop caring what everyone else thinks so much and embrace YOU. It's awesome. Good luck everyone!

I'd add that friendships change as your values change, and that's okay :)

I’ve been a fan of yours for years and feel like this transition and growth over the last 10 years is so relatable.

My mom always says her 30s were the best years of her life, that has always made me feel better!!

I am turning 29 and honestly the closer I get to 30, the more content I feel. I feel like I really grew into the person I truly am. In my early 20's I was a completely different person.

Another thing I want to share - DON'T BE AFRAID TO SPEND MONEY ON EXPERIENCES/EXCURSIONS. Obviously, don't go to the point where you're starving or out on the street, but your money will return, your time won't. It could all be over tomorrow and we can't take our money with us. Take that trip, go on that hike, book that flying lesson, that cooking class, that painting class, learn a new language or a new skill. You never know who you'll meet or what opportunities you'll run into and where that can take you. Life is about EXPERIENCES and taking chances!

Thank you Allison for this video! I turned 26 last month. I think for me the biggest takeaway from my early 20s is that I need to prioritize my mental health. I always invalidate my own feelings whether it's about a relationship, a friendship, work, studies or finances, and just continue to be in an endless cycle of depression. When I turned 26 I decided I will place more focus on therapy, journaling and meditation to heal myself. I feel like this would ultimately make me feel better physically as well.

One thing I learned in my 20s is that having kids is super hard! Don't hurry into that one, people, especially if you don't have close family or friends to help you regularly. It took me years for it to be more beautiful than it is hard. And if you can, go to therapy *before* having kids. It's a life saver.

I can't say how perfectly timed this video was for me. I really needed to hear this right now, thank you .

My 20s aren't as fun as I thought it would be. I'm hopeful for my 30s though.

I just turned 24 recently and everything you said resonated with me very deeply. Your 20’s are a crazy and confusing time!!

I’m 58 and I’m in the prime of my life!

As a 60+ retiree just delving into traveling alone, don't wait to travel can be applied to any part of your life. My friends can't understand why I would want to travel alone. But they have obligations that keep them from traveling very often. So at any age, just go for it. I really enjoy your travel information videos.

I always say I’m more excited to turn 30 because you have more clarity what you want in life than in your 20s. At the same time, I’m 26, I’m working to earn my bachelors degree, working in progress to overcome driving anxiety, and still living with my parents (I live in San Francisco 😑), and thinking that 30 is four years away is a little daunting. This video was relatable and yet gave me a new perspective!

I’m in my last year of my 20s and the best advice I have is to spend the decade figuring out who you are and what you love. I remember being such an insecure mess when I was younger. Trying to emulate people I admired. But after I started focusing on listening to my own wants and needs, I found my own voice and my confidence improved drastically. Confidence at work, in who I am, in my decisions, in who I love, etc. it’s still a work in progress, but that’s where I focus my energy and it has really helped me become the woman I am today! Love your channel and loved growing up with you through the decade!

I’m only 22 and have learned SO much not only from this video, but other videos you’ve posted, like the things i shouldn’t waste my money on in my 20s 😂 you are the speaking the truth we all need to hear!!

I ended up taking my gf who I met in college to her college prom and we eventually got married in our late twenties, graduated college after having no understanding of what college was nor having any desire to attend college, enjoyed a cool career in my field of study(EET) and had some great experiences along with some bad(heart broken, father passed away, etc). All this led me to me simple saying enjoy the journey! Keep GOD first and Family second!

Summary of the video: 1. It’s okay to not know what you want to do for the rest of your life 2. It’s never too late to change or reinvent yourself 3. “Someday” is not a day - if you want something you need to plan it 4. Focus on experiences not things 5. You will have to work harder to make friends and maintain friendships as an adult 6. Another person’s beauty does not detract from yours 7. There is space for you in this world exactly as you are 8. Don’t stick to routines and habits that make you miserable 9. Trust your gut 10. Start investing and saving asap 11. Your tastes will change 12. Rent the cheaper apartment 13. Let go or be dragged - let go of grudges, accept when it’s time to let go 14. Adults don’t always have it all figured out 15. Everyone is on their own timeline 16. It’s okay to not be on a ‘traditional’ path 17. 30 isn’t as old as you think it is

Allison - I've been watching you since your beginning and I'm turning 30 in about 2 weeks, so we're about the same age. :) I was wondering if you would have touched upon a certain topic, yet I didn't hear it, so I wanted to share it. For the ladies - PLEASE do not make your entire life about chasing a man or needing to find with or be with a man. I have had so many female friends lose themselves over a guy and cut their friends out and it's just a toxic way of life, IMO. On that note, just because you get into a relationship or get married, please do not toss your girlfriends because if that relationship comes crashing down or gets rough, you won't have anyone to turn to. I'm obviously not saying don't have relationships, and I went through 3 break-ups in my 20s, buuuuut you do not NEED a man to take care of you or to support you. I run into so many women that just can't be single for any amount of time and were constantly looking for or chasing a guy and couldn't go without that constant chase... They would break-up and within a week or month, be onto the next one. You're allowed to be single, work on yourself, and just let things happen naturally. You also do not need to feel scared once you hit your late 20s and are not married or aren't in a committed relationship that could turn into marriage. I know women in their late 30s and even 40s that are single and never married, yet they have a ton to offer. Your self-worth, who you are, and what you're capable of is not defined by a partner or another person. Have your own sense of identity, separate from your partner... Your own hobbies, goals, dreams, ambitions, friends, all of that.

The years between 30 and 40 go even faster! And as you might expect, 40 is also not as old as you think. Lol. I have friends my age who have kids who are 20, some in elementary school and then there’s me over here with a 5 and 2 year old (I’m 43). There is no “normal”’ timeline for adults. I wish I hadn’t struggled with that so much and that I had just lived my life with an open mind and spirit without paying so much attention to those around me.

This is exactly what I needed. I'm 26 and literally can relate to practicaly every point that you made.

Great video! 38 y/o here and I agree with everything you listed. The whole “adults don’t know what they’re doing” is so true. I was in my late 20s when I read this article listing advice those in their 30s would give to those in their 20s. The piece that always stuck with me is “No one knows what they’re doing.” Several months later the same publication put out advice 40 year olds wanted those in their 30s to know. What was on the list? “No one knows what they’re doing.” Kind of like your moment with the “let go” quote, this changed my whole outlook. No one ever has it all together, and we are all figuring out life as it comes along.

I agree about the haze after 21. I am only 25, but I often still say I am 21 because that is the last birthday I actually remember or looked forward to.

I was in a very complicated and frustrating situation in life. I'm looking for a job and I'm not even sure it suits me. I graduated from college twice and now live in a different country but I found your great videos on youtube and it gives me hope.

I’m 22 and a recent college grad. I NEEDED this! Thank you ❤️

I recently discovered your channel, as I'm planning my first big solo trip to Alaska next month! Your travel vlogs are so beautiful and inspiring - I hope to capture a fraction of the magic on my trip. One of the biggest life lessons I've learned so far is that your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you'll have - it's the only relationship that lasts from your first day to your last day, and it is the foundation of all other relationships in your life. You have to spend every moment of your life with yourself, so put in the effort to know, love, and appreciate that person! I think solo travel is an incredible way of doing that.

What you've said in this video is so spot on! I'm turning 28 in January, and my life hasn't gone exactly as I planned. Once you've gained more life experience, you begin to realize that there is so much you can't control. For example, my Husband and I were living in Atlanta with full-time jobs. COVID-19 hit, and we both lost our jobs. So, in the blink of an eye we drove cross-country home to California. Now, we both work at a grocery store and live with my parents. Definitely didn't see this coming, but I've also come to realize that LIFE IS SHORT. The material things no longer matter to me, saving money is super important to me now. No matter how much you plan, we're all still kids wandering this world; nobody has life more figured out than the other.

I needed this so much. Thank you.

This is the pep talk I've been needing!

I love these types of videos!

Allison, I just love your videos, thank you!

this was so helpful, I appreciate your insight!

Great advice, thanks! Love your videos.

This really resonated with me! Thank you!

This is great. So reassuring and relatable .

Just found your channel and I’m really loving your content! So informational and wholesome💗

that was so raw and authentic, lots of love!

I absolutely love your videos. They resonate. Thank you for sharing!!

Yes to the part about friends! I just moved to GA from a different state during the pandemic so I have zero friends. I started my own channel to help me connect with people and not feel so alone!

❤️❤️❤️love!!! One of my favorite videos of all time

I love this video Allison

I love these videos, feels like chatting with an older sister.

loooove this video....super shook at many of these points!

I really enjoyed watching this video. Great content

That was gold, and so was your speech!

new here! I love how open, honest, and personable you are. :)

I’ve just found you today and I’m loving all your videos. You are exactly what I needed right now 💕

This is indeed therapeutic. Thanks a lot. Learned a lot from you

I love your authenticity so much; thank you for sharing what you have learned

this is a really well done video, i like everything you said!

How perfect that this came out today, really needed this 💕

Thank you for sharing, so many helpful points. I need to stop saying 'someday' I want to get more organised, plan and act!

I've seen a lot of these types of videos on KZfaq and yours is by far the best one! Love your content! ❤

That´s a fantastic video!! Everyone should watch it! I was deeply stirred by it

Hello Allison! Thanks for posting this! You have inspired me and I think I will do a list like this in August when I turn 30!

Love that quote!!! “Let go or be dragged”

you’re PREACHING in this video 🙌 i’m not in my twenties yet but this advice is exactly what i needed

So concise and to the point !! This is how you get your point across. Great video 🌸

This really brought me some comfort ! Thank you so much 💚

Awesome vid ! I was feeling lost and stressed , but now I'm feeling mellow and excited! Thank you!

very good inspirational and motivational words. Thank you so much!

I've been watching you since you started KZfaq and now I'm 30 too and this is relatable and raw. Thank you for this ❤️

I am 21 now but I really enjoyed hearing these! Thank you for sharing.

Really love this video! I just turned 20 a month ago so this was great advice!

I love this background!!

this video was so concise and well-said! I'm 21 and I really took these lessons to heart - i love all your advice videos and your youtube channel in general! you're so inspiring to me and are the reason I started to consider solo travel. thank you!!

Great video!!! Thank you

watching this the night before my 20th birthday; thank you for sharing all these nuggets of knowledge!

Turning 29 today and I can relate to SO many points here! Thank you so much for this video, Allison.

I loved this! As someone in their 20s, I have definitely struggled with many of these and working through them. Thanks for sharing!

Love how you’ve grown, Allison! I’ve been watching for over 10 years now and you’ve evolved so much! 👊🏽

I’ve watched a lot of these types of lesson videos. Yours is undoubtedly my favorite, I agree with everything!!!

I really needed this! I feel excited about my life again and I haven't felt that way in a long time. Thank you for making this video ♥️

I agree with everything you mentioned in this video! I am currently 24 and have been learning about all of these things the hard way haha. I love the "let go or be dragged" and trusting your gut. There have been countless moments when my gut was telling me something, I refused to trust it, and ultimately paid the price. Love your videos! I always learn so much from you!! XOXO

You are so wise for your young 30 years. Love your content and always look forward to your next video. ❤

This is the kind of content I need in my life 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I could watch sit down chatty videos all day long and will search them out over any cleaning, makeup, clothing style video any day. They speak to me so much!!

LOVE LOVE THIS VIDEO! I learned to let go of a lot of things and not get involved or care as much about other peoples drama's and problems that were directly related to me or anything I could do.

Love it! I always say "Someday is not a day of the week."

This was a such a goodie! First video I’ve seen of yours and being 20 yo I’m starting to think a lot about these kinds of things. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to the next decade of my life 😊🤘🏽

Allison thank you for taking the time to put this video together! What brand is your long sleeve, that color is gorgeous!

So true! I really appreciate how down to earth you in this crazy beauty industry!! I LOVE your point about the “scarcity concept” that just because someone else does have doesn’t mean I don’t have... ♥️

Hey Allison! I've been following you for years and I'm so glad to see the shifting in your channel, I love this kind of content. Also, LOVE your background. Do you have a room tour? Something about decoration? I'd love to see more as I'm doing an entire re-do of my home:) Thanks

I love what you said about it’s just as important to find out what you don’t like as what you DO like! The process of elimination! So true. I’ve felt like a failure at times because I’ve eliminated so many options and changed paths so many times but I’m getting that much closer each time! Thank you for this perspective 🙏🏼 ❤️

I loved your vid!

Thank for the advice.....love this video

OMG you posted this video right when i needed it the most! 20s are really hard and I'm only at the beginning :( Thank you again

I am turning 20 next week and have already started dreading getting older but you saying that 30 is pretty cool and that you are going to enjoy it even more just gave me so much positivity about the life I have left to live :)

Such a great video that I will be looking up to :D I'm in my twenties but I can especially relate to the process of elimination and don't wait to travel. The trip to LA this year changed my life!

Love how you brought up the taking your spot mentality. I experienced this being done to me with work opportunities. I realized that we shouldn’t tear each other down. After that I adapted: don’t hate elevate. I help anyone that I can move up/reach their goals. I also stopped comparing myself to others. My time will come and everything happens for a reason. I also realized that there are other things to worry about then what others are doing/getting. And also I realized how tiering it was to compare myself to others achievements and how unhappy it made me. Now I worry about me and push myself. Turning 31 on Sunday =]