UPDATE: Hey there everybody! I recently changed this video from "21 Signs You Might Be Neurodivergent" to "21 Signs You Might Be Autistic, ADHD, or Both" because it was brought to my attention that the signs listed in this video didn't include other forms of neurodivergencies, like personality disorders, tic disorders, learning disabilities, and so much more. They were strictly related to autism and ADHD, so that's what I changed the title to. I hope this clarifies things!

I got 16 of these and I'm currently asking my doctor for ADHD diagnosis test but I'm constantly battling the "am faking it? Exaggerating?" and I just want to cry. The research I've done for it relates so much to my life but still so scared of being a fake/attention seeker, i feel like I can't speak to anyone about it

List for those trying to keep up. 1. Time Blindness 2. Executive Dysfunction 3. Task Multiplying 4. Inconsistent Sleep needs 5. Emotional Dysregulation 6. Special Interests/Hyper Fixations 7. Missing the Obvious 8. Sensory Sensitivities 9. Rejection Sensitivity 10. Auditory Processing Disorder 11. Meltdowns and Shutdowns 12. Eye Contact 13. Rich Internal World 14. Narrow Range of Stimulation 15. Low Frustration Tolerance 16. Shame Based Motivation 17. Stimming 18. Literal or Metaphorical Communication 19. Black or White Thinking 20. Nonlinear Thinking 21. No Brain Secretary

I am grieving the loss of my 26 year old son to suicide, and listening to this is breaking my heart becasue he has these issues and needed help he didn’t get, please everyone help, be better, and love one another

I was diagnosed with ADHD almost 20 years ago, and this video had me in tears because I don't think I've ever felt so seen.

I'm 99% sure I'm neurodivergent, I'm just scared I'll be wrong in the end. I feel like there are so many things wrong with me that I'll get them all souped up and mixed, it's so stressful, I've been daunting on this for weeks researching potential things I might have, I don't know anymore, I just want a community, people who know how I'm feeling you know

"the world wasnt build for neurodivergent people..." yes true. i feel that way about anxiety or introverts. i feel this society was build for extroverts. ... i always suspected i have autism. Highly sensitive really describes me well...

16/21. Self-diagnosed because I'm 61 and it wasn't a thing when I was young. The one about tasks really got me. One task leads to another and another. I really can't imagine doing things another way. It takes me a whole day to clean my kitchen. Apparently it only takes most people an hour or two.

I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar II at 26. I was properly diagnosed with AuDHD at 48. 🎉 Now that I am learning to understand my neurodivergent self, a huge part of my depression finally lifted. Not completely, but a definite shift in the right direction. I am a whole, unbroken human being that just happens to think differently than most others. I now have found so many women across the web in the same situation of receiving a mid- to late-life diagnosis of ASD and/or ADHD. I have recently started using life-hacks, which makes life so much easier (e.g. silicone ear plugs.)

The metaphor of having no secretary in your brain is really spot on 😂 I have tried explaining my high sensitivity to people by telling them my brain has no filter for what is important or not important but will be using this metaphor from now on! Very clear!

Me to my brain: which one sounds familiar? My brain: yes

I love how direct you were! I usually speed up informational videos, anywhere from 1.5 to 2x, but I didn't have to do that for this video. You spoke at an efficient pace, and informed without unnecessary information. Additionally, there's not many videos that cover this subject, especially as well as you did. ✌💜🙂

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I also have C-PTSD, fibromyalgia, lupus, anxiety, OCD and seizures. I just wanted to connect with others and let you know that you are not dumb because you are neurodivergent. She did miss one for us Autistics, which is our love of routines and when there is disruption in routine or a change, we might feel lost, anxious, anger, frustration, sensory overload or have a meltdown. I can list many times I’ve had meltdowns just from changes in routine alone. (Not to forget the sensory overload I was already in.) We autistics also tend to not understand other people (facial expressions and body language) or our own feelings. (Guilty!) some Autistics are good at recognizing other peoples’ feelings based on body language and facial expressions (not guilty). I judge by tone of voice, but that’s not always accurate unless I personally know the person I am talking to. Thanks for letting me vent if you read my whole comment, Autism and ADHD can be hard to live with. Stay awesome everyone!

I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 30. 38 years later and having a son on the spectrum, I'm beginning to think that anyone diagnosed with adhd should automatically be tested for autism. So much overlap. I ticked almost every sign.

I’m 61 and have been living with something that is very similar to what you have described. I learned to manage many things. Had a 25 year career and raised a son, but how much easier and better my life could have been if I had educated teachers, doctors and parents on these conditions. 💕☮️🙏🏼

Thank you! Im a 79 year old woman who was recently diagnosed as having ADHD. I protested the H part, but learned it is my brain that is hyperactive, which explains why I often jump ahead of whoever is talking to me and (rudely and often annoyingly) finish their sentences. I asked my therapist if I might be on the spectrum and she pulled out a book and asked me a few questions that I answered. She said she thought most people exhibited some of the signs, and that was normal. Hmmm… I watched this twice and then watched your previous video on self diagnoses, and then rewatched this one. I answered 15 questions, no problem. I think numbers two and 21 are the same, forgive me, I may be wrong, and I don’t really understand #5deregulation. I was often punished as a child for my low grades and not paying attention. My mother often said “she marches to a different drummer, but usually comes to the correct conclusion”. “Back in the day” these symptoms were considered disciplinary problems. Times have changed.

it took me 21 years to realize that most of the things i do aren’t what neurotypical people do and now i’m reevaluating my entire life

I need these people to start a support group. I need others like myself that understand me. I am all of this and more, life couldn't be any harder to just be.

My Neuro divergence is making it difficult for me to listen to this video I keep having to go back and repeat what you’re saying I really appreciate your knowledge and truth for us folks whose brains work differently

Sweet baby Jesus I’m not crazy! My whole life I’ve been told Im stupid or brilliant. But a common thread is im always confused as to why people can’t be direct with what they need. I am at 21/21 and laughed all the way through this video. Life changing. Thank you

This felt like someone was reading my life off of a list. This has genuinely gave me so much insight & i will be studying this more, maybe i can figure myself out a little better. Thank you

I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, and it has changed my life for the better. So many things finally make sense, and I understand now why I always seemed different from everyone else.

Being this way cost me my relationship. We were only together for a year but there were things where she’d think I was ignoring her or always felt like she was gonna leave or wasn’t great with regulating my emotions. She would always think I’m gonna cheat and I’d go nuts because of it so I would vent to people and she found out. Then when she ended things and I tried reaching out to her to explain more, she said it was creepy. Even tho she’s the one who wanted to get married after dating for 3 months and never meeting each other’s families. When I told her I believed I was on the spectrum, she would say I look to normal. But everything added up. She would always say I take what she say way too literally. So when she said something and I acted based off of that, I was called immature. Being this way does help in ways tho. My ability to create metaphors is actually amazing. Sorry, rant over. It’s still fresh.

I've never had learning troubles (I have always did very well in school, I love it even) But I relate to a lot of this. My thing is, I can be hyper, loud, annoying when I'm by myself (or around people i'm comfortable with (which is no one really)), but when other people come around (specifically people I don't know, and distant family) I'm quiet, When they talk I listen, rarely give input, never ask questions unless its life or death, Only speaking if someone speaks to me...Its like i'm 2 different people. I don't open up about anything about myself to ANYONE unless it is a very very specific circumstance....i don't know anymore. :)

This is one of the most complete and concise, well defined descriptions of being neurodivergent that I've found. I'm an autistic therapist with ADHD. I'll be sending this video to a lot of my clients.

This Video really help me with my son that has been diagnosed with ADHD years ago.

Pretty much everything you've said here resonates with me massively, I'm 36 and have only just got the ball rolling with an autism diagnosis through my doctor. I'm sick of wondering why my brain seems to work differently to other people's, I spend so much time being angry and frustrated, rushing through life but never being able to focus on a given task and never achieving what I set out to achieve. Thanks for this brilliant video!

I developed a note taking framework that solves the secretary problem.

I love the explination of thoughts being a spiral. Like, for me it feels like building a tower of comfort and then just teleport spawning everywhere in the world. I could have autism, but definately have adhd

Yeah, one of the things that really annoys me is when I say something factual a "normal" person responds with "everyone is entitled to an opinion". Well no, there is a difference between an objective statement & subjective statement. One is a statement of fact & is therefore always true all the time, while the other is opinion or preference. What is so hard to get about this? Dah!

I’m starting to think that there aren’t ANY neuro typical people on this planet or at very least THEY are the minority 👀 like idk why they aren’t the divergent ones at this point 😅 It’s always great to see people like you sharing this information that helps people who aren’t diagnosed feel seen 🖤 you’re awesome

I'm an HSP, but I also have some of the traits associated with autism like meltdowns and special interests. I'm looking into getting an autism assessment, but I'm not sure if I'll meet the diagnostic criteria because my communication difficulties are pretty mild. I like the term "neurodivergent" because it makes me feel like my experiences are still valid, even if there isn't a diagnosis that fits me.

I have autism with ADHD & have almost all these on this list Got diagnosed at almost 3 years old & will be 22 a week from tomorrow

I'm diagnosed yet here I am watching the entire thing

Thank you for doing this. You’re so clear, right on point and a pleasure to watch. This video helped me realize why I felt so different all my life. Not sure what to do about it, and the confusion is kicking in, but now I know I’m not just “broken” or “weird.” Very much appreciated! 🤗

I'm almost 27 yo now and this is my first time knowing the term 'neurodivergent'. I've felt most of the signs my whole life. Thank you for the explanation it's been almost 3 years since I rebuild my life and now I have more understanding to keep myself going forward 💛

this might sound weird but i got a little emotional when you said welcome to the community, I've never been fully diagnosed, only been told I possibly have a dissociative disorder but they weren't qualified enough so I stopped seeing them. I've never felt fully welcome anywhere, so thank you

The analogy of the secretary was excellent! Meditation gives you that secretary and then some!

Thanks for this. Just subbed :) the analogy of the brain not having a secretary is a fantastic explanation for how I can get so quickly overwhelmed.

Im now fully grown and I have to say adhd is a blessing I never had the problem to feel anxiety since I make drawings for my life

Got diagnosed with ADHD last year at the age of 31 and all these traits finally make sense! Thank you for a really kind and welcoming video

I know I'm ADHD but now I'm wondering how accurate that diagnosis was. I can relate to 19 out of 21 of these examples. I do also come from an extremely traumatic background so pinpointing exactly what my issues are have been frustrating and challenging. Either way, thank you so much for sharing this!

Whoa! You have just helped me to realize why me and my daughter have a hard time understanding each other. I am an HSP and both my children are neurodivergent. My youngest is dyslexic and my daughter was just admitted into the gifted program at her school. Where she communicates in a literal way I speak metaphorically. This is amazing information for someone like myself who has such a neuro diverse family. Thank you!

Nailed it! 21/21! If I ever feel like an imposter because I'm self-diagnosed, I will come back to this video.

stop describing meeeeeeeeeeee

My 38yr old son (on you tube btw) Told me he was going 4 a diagnoses a little while ago & he sed "Mum I think you may be too😢😂 I didn't know wether to laugh or cry anyhow on Autism awareness day he recieved his diagnoses & I was quite shocked,as we'd all thought he'd found life a breeze and we thought he was the most perfect person in our life who handled everything in this world as a star...I didn't know much about Autism at all, my first look at Autism was in that old Dustin Hoffman Movie...Anyway listening to your "list" of 21 characteristics, I knew from 1, This is me 😮 & I could of easily ticked off all 21...I'm Flabberghasted & v.happy to use that word, Which I rarely have occaision to the "Flabberghasted" must be my fave word of the mth...Anyway big thanks 4 helping me to see ,It would make a lot of sense of my life x❤x

woah, I got 20 of 21. I've been researching about autism for 5 months already and almost every time I watch videos like this I relate SO much

Recently I was diagnosed with C-PTSD - decades of not knowing what was 'wrong' with me, but now the diagnosis has helped me tremendously and neurodivergent characteristic is also new to me. this is a fantastic and so helpful break down of the subject. Thank you for putting this up and doing it in such cheerful and non-judgment way.

3:22 I wish I knew about rejection sensitive dysphoria when I was a kid, but then my entire selection of friends & eventually family would have taken place, so education can change someone's life completely if done at the right point in their life.

I feel such a strong connection to everything you mentioned in this video. Wow. Thanks for it. It’s a relief to understand (finally when I’m 33), that I’m not a lazy childish crazy psychopathic unicorn pretending to be normal (and always failing this mission). I’m just different and it’s okay to be like me.

Around 14 and I’ve been recently diagnosed with OCD. Executive dysfunction and shame-based motivation make my life way harder than it should be 🙃

Wow, I feel attacked lol. I just learned this term last night and now researching it. Every point you said fit. I cried when you described #9 and #10 because I had the most backlash for it and I believed I was just stupid, now I realize my brain works differently than most. I have an average IQ but it's so hard to function like normal people do. Now I get it and I can seek help to finally succeed in life. Thank you! 🧠

My problem is that any time I bring this up to a doctor or psychiatrist they dismiss it as depression without giving me anything beyond the most basic of questionnaires... It would be nice to see a specialist, but there don't seem to be any in my area. I am legally blind so transportation is a huge issue for me. Needless to say I feel incredibly frustrated...

Diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Chiari Malformation...Undiagnosed ASD and ADHD....after medical research and personal experience videos like this one, I am certain that at 45 years old I finally understand what all the tests at age 5 were for and why I struggled SO hard even though I was "super intelligent". My parents decided NOT to tell me the results of all the testing, however they did agree to have me skip a grade (they passed away decades ago so I can't ask anymore) and I am learning that who I have been my whole life had real reasons and I'm not "just a problem". That's life changing. Now I can learn from others thanks to the internet and learn how to live a productive and less stress-filled life! Thank you for sharing. ❤

This video really has me asking myself questions that I never asked myself before.

I'M 21 for 21. I'm on the severe side of the ADHD spectrum and have been on meds for years. I've spent so many hours of so many days of so many years doing everything possible to keep my neurodivergent to myself. I spent years terrified my neurodivergent would put a big huge glass ceiling on my career--but no more. NOW, I'M TALKING.

yesssssss. Tiktok has made me learn so much about myself. No wonder I've always struggled so hard. :(

I can totally relate. I'm an educated person, but I just feel so inadequate professionally. People treat me like I'm stupid, but I know I'm not. I'm very awkward and afraid of rejection. Now, I think it's just because people don't understand me.

I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 but yet I relate to a lot of things listed here

Just keeping track and talking cause I wanna talk haha 1. Time blindness. YES I definitely struggle with this. Sometimes minutes feel like hours, but other times they feel like seconds. 2. Executive dysfunction. I can't tell you the amount of times that this has affected me. I want to do it, I'm really trying to, but my brain.. or maybe my body.. won't let me. 3. Task multiplying. I actually don't struggle with this one too much. But my dad does, and he shows many signs of neurodivergence aswell. 4. Inconsistent sleep needs. Yeah. Not much else to say. Sometimes I sleep too much, normally not enough, never just the right amount. 5. Emotional dysregulation. I hate it, but I definitely fall into this one. No matter how hard I try, my emotions always find a way to show through. One second I'm calm, next I'm mad, suddenly someone made me laugh and I can't be mad anymore. And I'm definitely sensitive. 6. Hyperfixations. Yes!! My main one is evolutionary biology! I just love learning about it so much!! 7. Missing the obvious but picking up on the subtle. My friends always have to point out obvious things to me, but then I see my friend pick at her finger weird and I know something is wrong. 8. Sensory sensitivities. I haven't worn jeans since I was 5 because I hate how they feel. I also was super picky with foods almost purely because of texture. But when I was little I didn't know that so everyone thought I just didn't like the taste of things. So that led to plenty of misunderstandings. Luckily now I can medium boil my eggs and order thin crust pizza to still enjoy the taste of foods with textures I don't usually like. 9. Rejection sensitivity. I just recently found out there was a name for this. For the longest time I didn't know why I thought such mean things towards myself. She ignored you because she hates you following her around like a sad puppy. She wasn't distracted, she heard you, she just doesn't want to hear your annoying voice. Maybe it would be better if you just left, if she really wants you around then she will stop you from leaving. I'm glad I finally have a name for it. I'm starting to learn how to manage it now that I know it's not something everyone just learns to live with. 10. Auditory processing disorder. My friends find this one very annoying haha. They'll say something and I'll be listening the whole time but as soon as they finish I'm just like ".. what?" And I also hear their words all messed up sometimes. "The mokey ate jubilee" "wait what?" "I said it's funny how June's next week". 11. Meltdowns and shutdowns. I don't often struggle with meltdowns luckily. Once every few months I'll get one, but no more often than that. Shutdowns on the other hand.. I kinda had one just yesterday. My friends got into an argument and I later told one friend in private that she went to hard on the other one. She seemed mad at me now even though she said she wasn't. I just.. stopped talking. Instead I wrote down everything I wanted to say because it was easier. It was almost an hour before I felt like talking again. At one point I broke my silence to answer her question. "It feels like you're mad at me now.. are you mad?" I pointed at no. "Are you sad?" I pointed at no. "Then what do you feel?" And the only answer I could think to say was "empty". 12. Eye contact. I used to struggle with eye contact, but now it's easy with people I'm comfortable with. Strangers are hard though. 13. A rich internal world. I have the BIGGEST imagination. My dreams almost always follow a plot and are usually lucid. I have recurring dreams that just continue from where they left off like a movie. I also daydream like eveeryday. Just random stories that seem interesting and I see where they go.

There is really no such thing as a 'normal' human being. We are all on various scales of every way we think, learn, perform, cope with life etc. etc.

I never considered the fact that I could be autistic…but I relate to 11 of these things you listed in this video. Specifically task multiplying and inconsistent sleep needs. When you were explaining what those are my eyes went wide and I thought to myself, “That is SO ME.” Maybe these just happen to be relatable to me and I’m not autistic/have ADHD. I’ve never been diagnosed but I was surprised at how much I related to these things

Yeah I had most of these. I’ve known/felt different my whole life, but was passed along all throughout school. I truly don’t know how none of my teachers told my parents that they suspected me of autism. In 5th grade I performed the entire Charlie and the chocolate factory soundtrack with the dances to my music class. No one stopped me, it was supposed to be a talent show and I took up the entire time.

My husband actually told me I might be Neurodivergent because he knows I have bad ADHD and came across this term. I checked off every trait in the video. Honestly just thought this was how I was but I definitely didn't realize my childhood trauma caused my brain to be this way. I think I'm going to try to work on it..

Smart lady! I didn't know I had adhd till my daughter was diagnosed. Now, all my struggles make sense.

I’m 48. Story of my life. Every. Single. Thing. I feel like I’ve ruined my kids in many ways because they picked up my own bad habits. The auditory thing. Sometimes I FEEL sound….if there’s too much going on and something is abrupt and loud I feel it as if it were water poured over my skin.

Oh. #10 describes my hearing problems spot on. One more thing into my ADHD/autism bucket. Must say, that's the first time I hear about this one. The "delayed processing" bit really hits home: I often start asking to repeat something I "didn't quite hear", and literally a couple words later realize that I heard and understood everything perfectly fine. Or sometimes I start replying and realize that what they said isn't what I first thought they did.

i think i might be neurodivergent so i tried to talk to my mom about it but she says i’m not.. she thinks that just because she got a psychology degree she can just diagnose me with whatever she wants and completely disregard what i say i think i have

My son fits many of these. It took us a while to figure it out and I feel bad about that. He struggled in school but made it through high school. He is now in his element studying to be a graphic designer. I accept him for who he is. ❤

It’s cute that autism is now the hot new trend. Anxiety is so last year

I'm a diagnosed ADD, BPD, BiPolar, with the complications of rheumatoid and osteoarthritis conspiring against me! I am so pleased to find this channel and group. Whether it's a form of madness or just left brained thinking, it's nice to be in like company. Please don't misunderstand me, I have a peculiar sense of humor but I don't mean to upset or offend anyone. 😅

Omg! For years I’ve been told I had bpd and that ended up being wrong. Then CPTSD … THEN ADHD!!! Now this! Makes so much sense!

I'm 27 now, never had a girlfriend, now barely have any friends, and the thing that keeps me going is plumbing/working all day until I go to bed. I literally don't do anything else. I get up, I go to work, I go to bed. Weirdly enough, I've been "fine" with it, now I had a bunch of ADHD videos in my feed and here I am contemplating

I've watched a lot of these videos, and there are things here I've never heard about anywhere else--like task multiplying and time blindness.

thank you for that conclusion. the thing i'm most afraid of in this is self-diagnosing and being wrong, but i relate to so much, but not to everything, so i think "nah, i'm just.. i'm nt. totally" it's such a frustrating back-and-forth between denying it and being like "well, maybe.."

I’ve noticed I can relate to a lot of this. I saw a POV of someone with ADHD and it described my life. I think I might have ADHD but I’m not hyper typically. I have been finding it hard to focus in school but I somehow still get the information that I’m being taught even though I’m very fidgety. I’m passing all my courses comfortably except for one which is French and there are a lot of extroverts and social people that I really have a hard time having a genuine conversation with. I have had people notify me that I am constantly associating things with trains (it’s my hobby) and it often feels a little awkward for me. I’ve also noticed I’m really bad with small talk and eye contact. I typically look at people forehead or face cheeks as some way to help with talking to people (especially new people). I’m also very sarcastic when talking (again especially with new people) but I can be somewhat serious with people I know. I sometimes need prompting to get school work done (not too often). I’ve also noticed I do a lot better in smaller groups of people that are neurodivergent. I have two friends that are on the spectrum and we are like two peas in a pod, but people who aren’t neurodivergent I don’t feel as comfortable. I have a few non neurodivergent friends and I feel fine one on one with them it’s when there’s many. I kinda feel like the dumb immature one. I feel very different and not as connected with them. I have also been in many situations where I have no idea how to react or respond. I can’t turn my brain off at night, I constantly have thoughts running through by brain. I never know when someone likes me or not, all the time I’ve had someone point out that someone likes me and when I’ve had hunches that someone liked me I was wrong. I’ve had people tell me that I should get tested. (Nothing in specific) but idk what to get tested for or I’m just over exaggerating or it’s the effects of the pandemic or am I stressed. I don’t know what to do honestly.

Also inner conversation. That never stops. Always there. I was shocked when i found out others dont have it

It's a good thing to tell people about possible symptoms BUT you have to be very careful. For example not being able to hold eye contact can be a sign of low confidence... different sleep times can be caused by the amount of work or stress or free time you have and so on. These signs mentioned in the video CAN be an indicator BUT can also be caused by a million other reasons. So don't get insecure!

Thank u! You're so comfortable to watch didn't got bored a sec I WATCHED AND UNDERSTOOD ALL YOUR SPEECH WITHOUT GETTING DISTRACTED OR BORED You're AMAZING 💕

I’ve suspected something was different with me all my life, but it wasn’t until I became a mom and got one of my kids diagnosed with autism and the other with ADHD that I started to suspect I may have similar condition to them, I was thinking maybe a type of autism but actually the more I check about ADHD I realize it’s what matches exactly. Interesting video 🙏🏻 got 21/21 signs

21/21. I was diagnosed with ADHD well into adulthood, but I've often suspected I may also have autism. My head's a real fun ride.

As someone who has lived with a lifelong chronic illness I'm home a lot now in my older age. Between the diagnosis from non professionals, no longer being on pain meds and critics there's really not a lot of people I want to hang around anymore. Unfortunately the world has become more negative. Unless it comes from a doctor I'm not listening.

I’ve watched a lot of videos and had many psychiatrist + therapy appointment and read books about neurodivergence because of how much my brain makes me feel unloveable and unable to be understood. This video is wonderful!! I was crying 5 minutes in because you mention things I’ve had since childhood that for some reason no one, not even doctors has talked about. You’re awesome and deserve all the best things ❤

I’m 99.9% sure I have autism as well. I was diagnosed young with ADHD when I was 7 years old. Because of the ADHD despite showing many signs of autism they believed it was impossible to have both at the same time then so they went with the diagnosis of adhd with mutiple behavioural disabilities. But the idea of going to the doctor to go through the cycle of diagnosis and getting gaslighted stresses me out makes me rather stay home where it’s safe despite knowing I need help.

I was diagnosed this year…I’m 35 … and my whole life I believed the negative crap ppl beat into my brain…now I learn to accept myself and love myself.. but it’s hard but also wonderful..and what I am mainly happy about is to try to be myself..mask less and learn to adapt to not give an f what ppl think of me..lately I join after work drinks and I noticed that I am not overthinking every single word I said anymore..or at least less..because I am great and funny and smart and unique and fun and if others don’t feel that way it’s their problem not mine! I hand back over all the bs I took over the years..

Also the dreaded message in your report card: "Has so much potential!" / "If only they applied themselves more!"

Thank you so much! I discovered ND tiktok recently and between that and this I'm pretty sure some of what I've been berated for, or felt was just me being unworthy, is actually undiagnosed ND of some sort. Some of what you listed I've always had, and some has slowly gotten worse since I was gifted with ptsd. Maybe I just noticed it more over time of watching the other issues. I'm 57. You'd think someone would have noticed. The biggest plus for me is the relief of knowing there's a reason, that it wasn't me doing everything wrong. Such a relief.

Wow- I’m diagnosed with ADHD and have been questioning for Autism and wow- I relate to a lot of these, I feel seen and heard so..thank you.

It's my firm belief that narcissistic parents destroy autistic people. This was on my mind, seeing as a malignant narcissist tried to be a mother figure, and did a lot that was damaging.

I have pretty much all of these…when I was hearing still, I had APD. When I had more vision, I hated eye contact, but then eye contact is key after becoming deaf

This made sense to me. I have 17 of the points you raised. It's extrordinary to see this all in a 10 minute slot. If anyone gets that, for me living with the 17 points you raised it has meant ... leading a life of moving furniture constantly in my unit, plan plan plan and then plan again, buying a 'dementia clock' to track day and time, I have no sense of social cue's - zip/nothing. It's kinda cool to see this and kinda weird to see it as well. Thanks for sharing :)

Oh my gosh I feel so so seen even though I've been diagnosed as a neurodivergent, I still love to learn so much about it. Thank you !

Love this, personally I think if society realises that by saying im different isn't a threat to anything only myself assertion

Wow! This is the first test I scored a hundred percent on!

Thank you so much! I'm in my 40s and just now they think I have ADHD and I know I have seasonal affective disorder/ depression. I was diagnosed with a " learning disability " in the 80s before they really understood us. I get frustrated easily especially when they think I'm not intelligent but rather I get bored quickly and it's hard for me to focus. Then I get hyperfocused on a topic then they say I'm really smart and they don't understand why I change focus on to something else. I feel like I really like mental puzzles and data but if it's not stimulating enough, I go off into the realm of Alice in Wonderland.... it's really frustrating. Your points resonate with me. Now I don't feel crazy or alone. Thank you! :)

I asked my mother (an ex-teacher's aid for diabled and neuro-divergent students) if she thought I had autism. After dating someone, and talking with people that have ADHD/ADD, I feel like I can have a conversation without 'being annoying' or 'distracting people' form my original point. Planning to get a diagnosis soon.

I love the way you speak,it's clear and concise. I believe I have ADHD and have come to this conclusion over time. Unfortunately, I'm now in my 50s, and besides it being impossible to get a GP appointment in the UK, I truly do not believe I will be taken seriously enough to get a referral for a diagnosis.

I noticed that people with Autism and or both ADHD have a passion for certain Movie characters . Ive seen these traits in my grandson when he was little, who is now 30yrs.

Wow! I am 44 and have just realized that myself and my 3 daughters all have almost all of these "symptoms” I subscribed to your channel so I may learn more about Neurodivergence before this day I have never heard this term. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Also thank you for welcoming me. ❤