Your video series is giving me a lot of helpful perspective and hope. I'm in a fairly new (under 2 years) relationship with someone who has OCD. I didn't really understand it at first, and unfortunately I fell into the trap of starting to perform a few of his compulsions for him when he asked me to, because he instantly became less anxious whenever I did, which brought immediate, though temporary relief to us both. I now regret my ignorance in thinking I was helping him at the time. Gradually he added more and more things for me to do to help him, which began to frustrate and anger me. It was too late before I began to realize I was merely indulging his OCD and that IT was taking advantage of my willingness to try to make him feel better. The genie is now out of the bottle as he seems to have become dependent on me to perform a variety of compulsions for him, with new ones popping up regularly. I explain to him that I should not be doing these things. He's not ready to believe that and tries to convince me that it is helping him address his OCD. I now know that it's just the opposite. This condition is awful, for him and for us. I love him and I want to help him. We have a lot of work ahead of us. Thank you so much, Katie for sharing your informative, compassionate guidance, experience, and advice.

This video has opened my eyes on how I’m enabling my husbands compulsions.

Thanks! As someone living with a person suffering from OCD (who's in the middle of wanting help and not wanting help), I really appreciate all the content you have here on KZfaq. It has provided me more information.

Dear Katie, please make a video about post partum OCD/depression/anxiety. I'm terrified of getting pregnant and especially time after giving birth. Because I suffer with OCD (pure O). If I didn't have OCD, I'd probably have a child long time ago. But OCD is stopping me. Thank you for your videos! They helped me a lot! 💗

Thank you for sharing this. This video helped realized that I am giving in to my sons ocd. It’s really hard not to but now that I know it makes it worst I will take this advise.

This is so hard to hear having to deal currently with ocd , I hope we all get better

Katie is doing amazing work her good deeds are really appreciable with her efforts I would like to add on some extra points. Read power of your subconscious mind and understand deep within you are not thoughts u are soul who watches them.

I’m constantly telling my husband how bad I am and he has always been the best at reassuring me that I’m not bad and we are all human. He’s the greatest. And yet still I cannot overcome

An incredible video. Rarely see this particular kind of content. It’s almost content for a comedy sketch. I wish I could have some sessions with you (for my relationship OCD)

ART helps. Anyone nurturing helps pull them out of their head. Finding a rhythm is soothing. Watching You Tube or videos of doing something they’d like to do and see how to overcome the steps help so much. Getting stuck is a step not taken. Connecting with someone gets momentum to stay outside their or our head. I almost think OCD is a very outer spectrum form of autism. Knowing we are lovable, and valuable, and useful to others is vital. We are not children of a lesser God. We are sensitive ones needing momentum to get out of our head and safe place, in order to engage in the world in a comfortable way as often as we can. Thoughts and feelings may change and we’ll be ready to push on for as long as we can, and it will be okay. Dopamine reinforcement.

I enjoy your videos these videos help me,I'm really suffing bad at the moment

If someone has a question about ocd, please let me know. I'll try to help you.

Love ur videos thank you so much

My sister has severe OCD and I’ve had severe OCD but have recovered. Thank you so much for all this advice. I’ve been to hard on her to just stop because I forgot how hard it can be

Thank you ....

Katie, please make the video on how to help someone with OCD who DOESN’T WANT HELP. It’s really needed. Thanks.

It’s not easy to fight -be patient (It takes time) Take to about goals Understand role of reassurance Two Tips - Allowed to reassure that your there for them Outsourcing worry: Reassurance doesn’t work -Have to deal with short term pain (cruel to be kind How to not reassure? Practice not responding with certainty I don’t know 🤷🏾‍♀️ Have a conversation, I’m not going to do it anymore Doing things for them Work together to fight the OCD Help them to enjoy things outside of OCD

Yr video is help full 👍👍

Dear Katie, please make a video about body Dysmorphic disorder/Coping strategies.

I just found your channel and I just want to say thank you. I hope your tips and advice helps me. Do you have any other tips for a beginner for managing my ocd? My ocd is mainly active making sure i turned off something or checking lights over and over. Thank you Dr. Katie

If I refused to follow the cleanliness regime, I seriously think she would do something catastrophic, either to herself or me, Fifteen years ago I had to take her to Hospital in a catatonic state, so the only way round it was to give her control, ---- 100%. Control.

Thank you...iv lost my partner and quality time with my son❤

Hey, How to gently break their habit if we have been giving them reassurance for a while? and it’s really hard to take a No from the person who suffers it feels like they are denying help even though they need it the most.

What if they don’t want help? 😩 looking forward to that video 😂 the insisting things be a certain way that doesn’t really make any logical sense which triggers OCD rage is really what I’m having a hard time with…. 😩 I feel so sad for anyone dealing with severe OCD 😢

Hi I am sixteen and am terrified of becoming an evil person and loosing control of myself. I find it terrifying that people do evil things and I don’t understand why. I suffer from intrusive thoughts and I keep thinking is this what bad people have and why they do bad things. I constantly need reassurance that I will not become or am not evil and things are getting really bad. I think it is ocd because I have compulsions that go along with this and it is causing me a lot of distress. I feel like I just need certainty that i will not become bad or that I am not bad and it is making my life hell. I can’t think of anything else, I can’t do anything, and can’t sleep. I am starting to lose hope I am so scared. What should I do?

Who cares about them though I am the one with OCD. I am the one who needs help. So who cares what they think isn’t it more about what I think about myself and the changes that I need to make for myself in order to be a better person.

Can you do a video on schizophrenia/psychosis-themed OCD?

I have a compulsion with checking blood pressure, how can I get past this?

I’m trying to understand my boyfriend who has OCD a little more. He is pretty open about it, but i suspect he is not completely aware all his compulsions(sprry if wrong words are used, english is not my first language). Some of his struggles with ocd is thoughts. He can get fixated on a single thought for days, maybe a week or more. For example he can ask me if i was sad or mad a particular day, that maybe was a week ago. I dont remember. Most likely it was nothing. My question is can “monitoring” feelings be a type of ocd? I have noticed he always studies my face, if I am tired he will always question me if I am upset. Even when I tell him I am tired after work. He will keep on pressing. Or he will pay attention to how I breath for example. He will think I am sad, and I don’t know where he gets it from. But he tells me I looked sad. This things have been building up over time. He can think I am irritated because I walked a little faster than I “normally” do. I didn’t use emojies when I answered him, so I am mad at him for something, when in reality I was busy doing something. I love him so much but it can honestly get so exhausting, and to be honest it makes me really self aware and insecure. I can tell he doesn’t mean to make me feel that way. I know I should talk to him, but I’m also scared of planting new thoughts if that makes sense

Are you doing CBT via face to face virtual sessions ?

My 12 yr old son has recently expressed some OCD tendencies and how they are upsetting him. One thing he always does before leaving the house is he asks me if he has everything he needs. Then he calls out certain items that he knows he needs to have. I will then confirm for him that he does in fact have everything he needs. Is that aiding his OCD? Should I respond with, “I’m not really sure. You should check.”

Appreciate this video BUT a script prepared before hand will definitely make your presentation more professional.

Thanks mam. How to compare the thoughts with clouds? Can I imagine intentionally think like thoughts are passing like cloud?

Katie could I reach out to you please.

Hi Katie I've been watching your channel since 2018! .... but I don't think I've quite made some break throughs in my Exposures because I don't think I've added the magic ingredient yet? where I make myself feel worse? lol ..... of course I've thunk bad thoughts and NOT performed a compulsion .... anyway my OCD seems devious, I will give an example, "if I don't wash my hands or close the door 8 times, I might get cancer in 4 years" ..... or forget about the rituals, "I might get cancer in 4 years" unless I pray, wash my hands, unthink the thought ..... can you point me a video Katie where it can segue way into my fears? Now I might get cancer in 4 years, I might get cancer in 4 years .... there isn't a feasible way to NOT do a compulsion, make myself feel worse AND wait 4 years and beyond to assure myself I won't get cancer? Or get killed in a car off a bridge? lol I have this weird OCD that appears to bully me into saying "this bad thing will happen in such and such number of years" since we can't fast forward time, any of your videos or techniques you might point me to to help me live with the Uncertainty that a such and such bad thing may happen when? ...... or could you segue into how similar this is to fundamental OCD anyway?

I don’t understand how could be helpful not give reassurance to someone who’s asking owo like ‘in the long therm they will learn not to ask US for reassurance’… but they may find other way to find it (maybe more dangerous or unhealthy?), so which is the benefit? I don’t want to sound angry, just questioning because it doesn’t feel right or helpful (but again, I’m translating from other language so maybe I didn’t understand)

I want to let intrusive thoughts pass away, but will it work if I first make a quick gesture of rolling my eyes to express boredom?

Shefet bro Shu ocd m2ayar don't think about it even if you feel distressed I trust myself mn Abel fakart ano ma sarle shi but I didn't trust myself and I gave in don't do it again I trust myself that nothing will happen. It's just a sound. Do not think in your house m2akad

Actually im watching this video to help myself 😢😅

You did your hair and that background on purpose.

rambling... not helpful

This is complete bd and you are a person who does not or never suffered. This is nothing that is helpful to me. This has nothing but frustratesme. Really you don't have a clue

British accents on a chick ain't cute.