My ex-wife left me during Covid free 30 yrs. I was blamed for everything, also had late diagnosis Autism. I wasn’t perfect husband but I did my best and did love my wife, I haven’t killed anyone or myself. I’m now beginning to understand who I am now so I do feel reborn but with a lot of sadness looking back on the person I was and how I was abused and scapegoated by everybody, including those I trusted.
@user-tp2fj9lz7u3 ай бұрын
Typo. I meant after 30 yrs of what I thought was a sound marriage.
@RP-zu6ti3 ай бұрын
@@user-tp2fj9lz7u Same here, 20 yrs, and she blamed me for everything wrong
@BillAllan13 ай бұрын
"You can heal without her. You can move forward without her." -- Thank you for this reminder, Rachael. Huge takeaway.
@Jer29_113 ай бұрын
What is sad is that it goes both ways. Men are not the only ones to have these thoughts or feelings after their spouse of almost 25 years just decides it is over and cheats on them. It has been 9 years and I am still struggling. I wish everyone watching this video the healing and peace they seek.
@urbanart73253 ай бұрын
My wife told me that she can't give me intimacy or even look good for me. I asked for divorce after 20 years of sexless marriage. I mentioned divorce several times and it's happening. I also lost my desire for her.to be honest ith myself
@urbanart73253 ай бұрын
I don't blame my wife for seeking a lawyer. I threw the D card too many times she finally picked up the Divorce card and said that I can't take my words back. She wants to take her agency back and to stop feeling insecure in our marriage. I can't blame her
@urbanart73253 ай бұрын
Exactly. I am seeing a therapist to find out who I am and my dark side
@donkhron55903 ай бұрын
I wish you well
@JohnT10503 ай бұрын
Had a bad day but your video has really helped. "all driven by positive intentions". so very well said. This is a very good video and explains much of what goes on with many a man.. It's a shame that our life got turned upside down for reasons we cannot fully understand. Someday, I hope you can address a huge difficulty in understanding how a person we loved and cared for so many years could do to us something we could never had done to them.
@antonvandenheever441025 күн бұрын
This vid clarified a lot of what I was not aware of, learned a lot, much appreciated!
@bobsmockusАй бұрын
Needed this today. Thank you.
@kentr.13913 ай бұрын
Right, it's very harmful to men dealing with women that can't control their own behavior,actions, and emotional stability, because a man is just looking for a good mother of his children, it's not all about her and the guy just wants to be a good father and husband to his family, but the women are too childish and another thing, why don't women have goals or dreams? rather than some sexual fantasy with a complete stranger
@petrzunt9323 ай бұрын
thank you
@dalord632 ай бұрын
If you are really hungry and you see some food on a bear trap, reach over and grab the food and nothing happens it seems normal to keep trying to snatch some food off the bear trap. The important thing to learn is when the bear trap finally closes and you lose your arm, don't keep putting your other arm in the bear trap. If statistics show that 45% of the time the bear trap will close and you will lose your arm but you do it anyway? If you lose your arm, the fault is on you, not the person that set the trap.
@soundjunkiea224 күн бұрын
26 years since the divorce. Still asking why!!!! Don’t be me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@anoushiravannarvani58573 ай бұрын
Pretty smart woman ...articulat and on top of her subject ...like
@kentr.13913 ай бұрын
So blame the man for playing by the rules, and say she became bored with him , because of some mythical emotions that are usually wrong, and blames her betrayal on the guy ,by the way quit calling it cheating,its not a game, the proper term is betrayal
@ChrisPuckett3 ай бұрын
Getting remarried, Not Dating and staying a slob are the 3 biggest mistakes men make after divorce
@carlmarch95912 ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯
@lplp154618 күн бұрын
1. In marriages today, women are the weak link in the relationship. One of the many reasons, are if she doesn’t think she’s the center of attention 24/7. She will go behind your back in secrecy and file for divorce, and Meanwhile, the husband is working 60 hours a week to provide for his wife and family. Don’t get married it’s not worth the risk. Save yourself from being the next victim in the civil courts system. Never take counseling advice from woman. Date them, pump and dump only.
@enjinman2 ай бұрын
Sum this up QUICK men please UNDERSTAND THIS WORD HYPERGAMY too much blah blah going on here you are welcome.