If she wants to divorce the man, why should the man care about her emotions?

Women wear two masks. The first comes off after marriage. The second comes off after divorce.

Never cohabitate. Never marry. Priortorize yourselves men. Red pill truths are saving men.

How to fight for your marriage? go and make yourself coffee. This might or might not bring your partner to come back but this will be good for you... such a clickbait. This is not how to save your marriage but how to pretend to be a coach without any knowledge or ability to actually help.n

Accountability is a woman's kryptonite. Women enter a relationship as they enter a business transaction - they "feel" to be entitled, that they can gain stability, security, social and economic safety - it is not about the man that provides, it is about them - what they gain by it. It is an outlier of hypergamy/biologically ingrained female preference, to "one up" a man, to find a better one at her disposal. As soon as she feels you are not enough, she replaces you, regardless of what you provided/achieved/contributed/created. A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family. A woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.

They do die inside but it is because they have emasculated their husbands to the point they now no longer love their husband. They do it to themselves.

They have a switch to the relationship and the sex & its on or its off for the husband but not all the other guys in the world.

No she is cold because she checked out the marriage weeks or months ago.

Needed this today. Thank you.

Women usually decide to divorce a year or two before they do it

Im doing better thanks to a few tools you have given me. Thanks lm still working on anger, 30 yrs later in relationship #2 but doing it better now

Men are victims of woman because we have put up with so much from them we keep to ourselves but yet still in the end we get vilanized & get our hearts stomped on & our family & children stolen from us, along with everything we had, & it is because of one thing only, l trusted a WOMAN. Do not trust woman guys ever any.

And 30yrs later l still hate her for what she did but thankfully in silent l thank her.

Was married 13yrs - Mine waited until we had just bought a brand new house, had been in it 8 weeks, new boy moved in took right over, and l got papers handed to me with my cloths & my truck & locked out. Pos woman

SHE copes by hiding her feelings. She's still a piece of sh*t. And l know there's 4 miserable people now not just 1, her.

Five years married to the love of my life and we had a two-year-old. Divorced because of not being compatible with each other anymore. She became from a loving person to a completely different person and just five years the problem I have why I can’t let go is because we remember the old person that we fell in love with. And that person does not exist anymore you gotta remember the current person not the past and that’s how you will move forward. I figured it out. It’s still gonna be hard. It still hurts every day but you’re doing what’s best because no one deserves to be treated bad specially, physically and verbally abuse should not exist and do not stay with that person that does that.

She (as in woman) is not accountable or responsible just cause she is a woman.

My wife blindsided me with this. She is bipolar. She was planning future plans with me telling me how much she loves me and after watching our favorite movie, tells me she’s leaving.

Exactly what I'm in the middle of after 22.....almost 23 yrs of marriage. She's in business mode, and I'm a wreck. Such an insightful message in this video.

Thank you

Thank you. This was pretty insightful and I would not have let myself believe this unless a professional had explained it.

Most women don’t bond…. They take until the well runs dry.

I don’t need to hear anymore. If she can’t regulate her emotional state and be willing to take accountability for her behavior. I am tired of being treated like crap and constantly getting blamed for everything. Good luck to anyone that wants to go through this.. all the effort and sacrifices will end with splitting the family up, assets and the money. Don’t get married. As for the video, I thought it was very accurate and spot on.

This is sooooo spot on to what I went through just several weeks ago. Thanks to Racheal and her network I’m doing much better now. Keep it up Racheal. You make a difference!!!

Thank you for this

Is there a way to come back from this?

Remember men, it's your fault. You didn't make her "emotional safe" But Chad made her "emotionally safe" 3 minutes after meeting her in the bar. So safe she went to the bathroom with him 3 minutes after meeting him and now has his unit in her mouth. You are to blame for not making her "emotionally safe" Modern women get a huge thumbs down. They are so full of it.

So let’s look at the opposite view- a woman who is denied money, told how to dress and what to do, has no autonomy in the marriage- she should leave too, right? Luke 11: 32 “They are like unto children sitting in the marketplace, and calling one to another, and saying, We have piped unto you, and ye have not danced; we have mourned to you, and ye have not wept.”

I'm in the middle of this mess at 24 years of I guess not knowing her and finding out she never loved me "that way". I have ASD and didn't understand that until recently, the diagnosis pushed her away more. She is going to come out really well and hid the fact her dad is a millionaire lmao. You know what it's really not worth it, I say fuck this planet. I will give sometime but I would rather go then see her be so happy after fucking me over so bad. In separation she is already out having a great time i guess. So you tell me....why would even bother putting up with this anymore............rejection and abandonment. Dating LMAO are you kidding in the era. It's done and I am glad that I know I will not be lying in a nursing home hoping for a miracle. Sorry that how I feel.

Rachael slammed into the wall hard...ouch

Nice,,, I could talk about the last many years,,, I'm tear a blaaaa, I can't word right,,,, I've have been in hospital many times... I want too go back.... My bed-hayyy <<< sorry,,,, I've asset to go back to the hospital ,,, NOP,,, apparel <sorry, I'm ok...NOP,, good video

She acts this way because she *is* this way...your relationship with her was always a transaction. Losing her marriage to you is like being paid a fortune to dispose of an appliance that she's unhappy with. Women do not love men as human beings. Women love men for their utility.

This is very well presented and articulated. Im 9months in after 28yrs, agreed-very mistakenly-to leave our home and place of business. I stayed with friends and tried to find work and eventually had a complete break down, suicidal and broken. She has moved on quickly, after convincing me it was all my fault im starting to see some small pinholes of light through the darkness and grief. I was literally thrown out like i was garbage. I am not a villan, i dedicated my life to her and made the mistake of trusting her with mine, i would never treat anyone the way i have been.

This video is excellent and so refreshing to hear someone discuss. I'm going through the actual divorce now after being separated for almost 15 months. To the entire world she's the happiest person alive but like you said she kept every single thought to herself that led to our divorce. She never once told me she needed anything other than what I was providing, I even asked her occasionally what I could do better and her answer was always "You're amazing and I could never ask for more." Looking back that obviously wasn't the truth because we're here now. Comparing the way she's acting now to the way she must have hid everything during our marriage is SOOOO eye opening and helpful. Occasionally during child exchanges she's let slip how stressed she is, how tired and overwhelmed but 99% of the time she's GREAT! lol...Stay strong everyone. Every hard thing we go through with this situation can make you stronger if you do the healing and repair the proper way.

Don’t blame anyone but yourself.

When you read some of the comments filled with anger towards women you realize how many men are hurting, thats why they are coming & commenting on a video designed to help heal their pain. It shows why someone like Rachel is needed today. So many hurt men looking for love & solace in a tough world

This video helped me understand better. It's appreciated.

That mask is ugly

Her behavior or lack if emotion goes back to her relationship with her dad and her coping mechanism. Her true self is getting revealed by her stoic attitude. Good question: will the divorce make her happy? I hope to fund happiness with a feminine, intimacy loving woman after 20 plus years of laying next to a frigid woman.

So true..As my wifecand i going thriugh a divirce while living together her survival mask annoys me while i am angry at the semise id a 32 years marriage even though i brought up the divorce. Her stoic vehavior is contra to more emotionally volatile behavior, cant let go of all the years of labor and funacial support

What to do for women who hates that person and fears to live again with him, and not able to trust again and again because it happened 2-3 times and his family also very negative towards the women, then how should a women deal with it, how to trust that person again n again, bcoz for him its his pattern, of breaking the trust .

The negotiation book is by Chris Voss, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. It’s a great read.

This has been so helpful, thank you

Women act cold because they are not acting

This happened to me 💯 percent. My soon to be x wife sat on the couch and was scrolling on her phone and she acted like I wasn’t even there packing up to move. Very crushing.

Wow, that was powerful. Thank you.

Good insights Rachael. Curious, have you experienced a divorce yourself? Or is your experience and knowledge coming from working with others actively going through lost marriages? Survival self mask is absolutey true for both parties. Well said.

That is some spot on stuff right there! Good grief!

1) Men love women. 2) Women love men for what they provide.

Some females wont tell you what they are feeling i think that u are supposed to know but you can't read there mind its not like old times anymore used to be people had true commitment and for the most they stuck together thu good and bad times good luck for all you committed men stay strong be patient and it will pass