3 years ago I was dating the guy of my dreams. He was charming, smart, funny and nice. Just when I thought he would ask me to marry him he dumped me. I was devastated for months asking what went wrong. Then I realized all the small details I ignored, the way he never wanted to make plans about the future or the way he never paid much attention to my needs. That's when I realized all along he never truly loved me. It's mind-blowing how you don't realize these things when you're in the relationship.

As a 19 year old virgin who never dated in her life, I’ll pay attention to this video for future reasons ❤

If you want a guy to fall in love with you. Go for a man that wants a relationship in the first place, and actually genuinely care about him. Half you women all go for guys that don’t even want a relationship with you/in general

Two decades ago I married the woman I was in love with. After a few years she stopped talking to me. 7 months of total silent treatment and I was done. Gone for good. I will always love who she was, but that doesn't overcome who she became. There is a saying, "The only thing you have to do to kill something in your life is to stop talking to it." That saying applies to addictions, self-doubts and relationships.

A man only leaves a relationship he was using for his own betterment.

How can you truly love someone you don't really know? It always bewilders me when people say they're in love after a couple of months of "dating". Sir, do you even know who I am beyond my looks? it takes time and bonding experiences to truly see someone's core. How they act under stress, how they act when they can't get what they want when someone's rude to them etc. Please girlies, take your time with men, don't fall in love with a fantasy, and embrace authenticity! Life will become effortless.

Men fall in and OUT of love ALL THE TIME. It’s their best talent.

Margarita .. I appreciate you mentioning the narcissist type of man that depleted his woman in order to get supply .. this was my case little by little he chipped at my self esteem .. I had no idea kept trying to make things work .. when u know better u do better .. I am working on healing my childhood wounds

Married 15 years to a guy who never really loved me. It was just out of convenience. 😢

The truth will set you free. Like the sprinkle sprinkle lady said, unfortunately I've been very naïve.

I would add the forth type. The man is immature. He doesn't know what he wants. He wants to have sex and take no accountability, but he doesn't say that directly.

Girl!! Your advice for people is always spot on for me. I have been working through anxious attachment for years because of your help. I feel as though i made it to a great place in my life where i can hold strong and i changed that part of me for the better! Thank you so much. (I also noticed that your outro music is playing at the wrong time in case that you have not noticed!

Under 18. but, I might as well watch this, to prepared for my future relationships.

hi margarita, i found your videos because i realized I've been dealing with anxious attachment and limerance. Just like you, i had an absent father and a single mother that had to work for us to survive. You're videos have opened my eyes on why i couldn't make relationships work. I honestly felt hopeless, and thought my obsessive and needy behavior wouldn't let me have s normal relationship. It was to a point of being scared of dating and not being able to be with men that seem interested in me. I hated my behavior. you're like a big sister that i never had. And I've been learning basically from scratch how to better myself and have a healthy relationship. ❤❤

Hard truths. Appreciate you sharing. Sorry ladies, it needed to be said. Been there so I agree with these points.

Margarita you know your stuff!!

Hard truth - but No.3 is on point.

thank you so much for this! recently i've been in such a bad place mentally bc of so much external stress in my life and i realised i've been extra harsh on my boyfriend who genuinely is the best man ever (he puts up w a lot of shit exactly as mentioned in point no. 3) and i felt really guilty. so i made up my mind to work on improving myself and i'm so so glad i came across your channel today! it really opened my eyes to a lot of things i'd been ignorant about up till now. you're an inspiration ❤️

I love this. Thank you.

Wish I could have tea with you Margarita I love how you think and I feel like it’s so rare these days !

YESSSSSSS......Gave , gave gave! FACT! Ladies she's right on point! Often when its not love, they jump from one woman to another, if they didn't love you❤!

"People don't abandon people they love. People abandon people they were using." -unknown

pozdravlyayu vas s rozhdeniem lyali! Ya vas lyublyu, zhelayu vam vseh-vseh blag!

Depleted can...of spam. My new favorite phrase ❤

I have left women and it usually was because I didn’t really love her as you say. However I also have left women that I wanted to make it with because the relationship turned toxic, or bad for my health.

8:50 nice ad!!! love the product idea. hope it works in reality

Words of truth !

I've loved your content for months now. You've helped me with self image and self worth to a point where I'm not even a fan now lol, I can literally finish your sentences sometimes because we think so alike now its insane!!! I understand this is your expertise but could you please make a few videos about abundance and money matters? YT is cluttered with so many repetitive videos I just can't No one can do it like you!

I'm definitely one of those who really fell in love with my girl. It happened totally unexpected and it was a blast in the beginning. Everything felt so right. Then we had to step into (very) long distance. There was a plan for us to be together, but it was always changed. The point is...I feel she has changed. Either that or I only got to know her better. Anyway, she critizises me a lot, is impatient with me and will extremely rarely find a mistake with her own behaviour...and if I try to calmly make her aware of a couple of things, it's 99% of the times seen as an attack and leads to a fight. I'm trying to be the understanding one...I let her interupt me, I'm patient, I let her talk for hours, I stopped telling her when something she says hurts me before I really reflected on it, etc.. She was complaining that I was in my feminine energy too much. I hadn't heard of the concept, so I educated myself...after she educated me in a pretty harsh unloving manner. Now I've seen some narcissitic tendencies, but I would never accuse her of that since I'm not a psychologist. However, I'm wondering if it could be that her being in her masculine energy (because I'm too much in my feminine) leads to these tendencies/behaviours? Or am I being just totally blind and the fact that she regularily makes me feel like a doormat has nothing to do with any of that...? I feel so drained and slowly the thought of leaving comes to my mind....but I really love her. I don't wanna give up....I don't know what to do.

Number three nailed it for me. After 35 years I fell too he 70%, I'm alone but not on the back burner. I'm my own "beast of burden" now. It just killed any romantic that was in me for her anymore. I now know what having an arrogant sister is.

Please do a Video about a Strategy to heal myself as I am the third category. All men is crazy in love with me but I get so anxious that I ruin all the relationships. I definitely need a 6 steps plan or something like this to work on, I have this problem with anxiety only when a relation starts not before

It becomes a financial hardship trying to keep up with expectations… love has limits…

Thank you

These reasons seem convoluted except for the 3rd one. A man leaves a woman if they don’t feel loved and there are 3 basic factors that every man needs to feel loved: 1) to be appreciated, 2) to be respected, 3) sex. If you are not providing those three basic male necessities then your relationship is untenable.

Every man has left me, including an ex fiancé. This video honestly makes me very depressed. How do I change this? I already listen to your KZfaq channel regularly. I know I have the anxious attachment style

What if your trust issues turned out to be right ? He would walk all over my boundaries throughout the relationship and promise to change. Yes I take accountability for being crazy at times but only after being hurt by what I found out. Now he’s wanting a divorce after I found another woman from work in his phone.

Many years ago I was attracted to a woman that I met at work. I wanted to ask her out BUT could not because she was shacked up with a guy who also worked at the company. She lived with him for several years but then they split up. She showed interest in me. At that point I now felt uncomfortable trying to build a relationship with her since I knew she had been having sex with a co-worker for years. I went out with her (only once) but just couldn't get that image out of my mind!! So as a result I don't think 'living together' is a good solution. Women will always be big losers when they restrict themselves to one person. Try dating several guys and stay independent!

Hi Margarita! I’ve recently gone through a break up, right before Christmas. It has been really tough for me as we were living together. What’s been extremely challenging is that we are in college together and attend some of the same classes and both of us are really struggling. I’m wondering if you have any advice? It’s so hard seeing him everyday. Your videos are so great, thank you for what u do🫶🏻

The song at 11:07 what is that? I love 😍 also, Agree with all you’ve said. Thank you for your wisdom

I believe there are many many reasons people fall out of love or one person falls out of love, theres not a cookie cutter reason for every situation period. Sometimes two people grow apart that were once very much in love at some point it was meant to end. Not everyone is meant to last a lifetime together, its just a fact. Also it can be that the timing was off, my best friend dated her husband, he broke up with her and 10 yrs later met again randomly and have been happily married for 22 yrs now, he wasn't ready at the time and honestly neither was she. It doesn't mean someone didn't love you enough sometimes its not that at all.❤

Let them know Margarita!!! 🗣️

All the men I have met have drained me 😢 I'm not interested anymore 🎉

Normal men are romantics, and normal women are practical. You are speaking about the 10% of men who 80% of the women are intimate with. A regular guy is not going to leave his wife unless she drives him away. Respect goes a long way and leave "Chad" alone.

Coffee/tea time

What about routine? I know men that have fallen out of love because they took the woman for granted and the routine was always the same

We never stop loving, you take it away

it’s literally like you read my mind lol

Can you please do a video on perfectionism?

Correct, Amen! It was all lust!

Very interesting

my dearest margarita ❤️ thank you always for the amazing content you share ❤️

He brought my self esteem so low with no boundaries with in laws. That I became this crazy woman.

My husband and I have been together since we were 18 and he has been running for years. He is now at the point where he runs 20 mile runs every Saturday. He is insanely fit and I feel bad bc I don’t run but he still loves me. I thought he’d want to leave me eventually because I only run 1-2 mile runs, lol. I am nowhere near being as active as he is and I get a little insecure knowing when he goes on his runs, that there are other women who are running in a serious way, like he is.

I was forced to get my first girl friend, because she was considered to be nice. Of course I did not really love her, so she later left. I thought this was a good decision for her, because she probably found out about my strange passion. Later I married my true love. Despite all the challenges, we are even after 20 years still together. Yes, really being with a woman together you truly love is of help for the relationship 😋🤷‍♀️

Thanks for helping me figure out my life. I never loved any of the women i was with.... thanks once again for delving into the inter santum of the male brain. Once again, another clueless female trying to figure out why her spouse left her. A great place to start is your youtube advice

Men leave if trust has gone .

Hello Margarita . Could you make a video about marriage after having a child ? How this balance between caring for your husband and child be maintained?

I totally loved my wife of 18 yrs. She quit working & used me for money. When I left, she was shocked. I still love her.

11:05 Why have you suddenly added a weird music overlay over what you're saying??

Margarita the music was loud at 11:05 😅

No woman, no cry- Bob Marley.

Margarita you look amazing ❤

1 and 2 for my situation and he and my sisters old lover had an emotional affair

‘Men fall in love when it’s convenient to them’. True. It’s usually when after competing with their male friends on the number of chick they took to bed, they are then competing with those male friends who are getting married (usually around the age of 40) when they are done with playing around.

Do one for why women instead of men

I disagree 100 percent. I filed and divorced someone who I deeply loved. We even went to four marriage counselors in a 1 1/2 year period. One of the reasons, and believe me, there were more, I was tired of crying at the rate of at least once a week, and when I wound cry, I would physically hurt. I would feel sick. I will never feel that way ever again and I won’t cry in front of a woman. If I need to cry, I will exit and cry by myself.

Mostly wrong reasons are what you have outlined here. How can you possibly know about men's perspectives as a woman ?

Early squadd

Easy answer, men can not be monogynous Done

1 reason. Time

Then run to another

Congratulations every time you were saying something important, you were interrupted by an advertisement or music!

Conversation? No.

There days, there's too much nonsense being mistaken as important, it's a lot of energy expenditure. Some people are more materialistic, others more spiritual, etc, etc, etc. it's probably better to just create a simple life for oneself, and develop some peace.

Ugh I’m the third example, I ruined it with my codependency & anxious attachment style

Margarita, how do you get your husband to want to take you on dates and trips. He used kids as an excuse, which is true we have a little one and one on the way, I just wish he would bypass that and have a strong desire to take me out and spend quality time with me.

Hi I am from India my husband is not leaving me but he is lies to me for another women and doesnot respect me either. what does that mean

Men fall of out love due to narc abuse or cheating.

May you please tell where to find a video how to get an ex back...haven't found one within your podcasts

I love her so much, but the smacking... Ahh, it's so hard to focus for a misophobe:((

I don’t agree with all of the content and this is why. I have been married for over 40 years. I put up with the intolerance and negativity for many years. Communication breakdown. Please don’t assume any dispersions on her. We just grew apart. I left for my own mental health. I am trying to grow and heal as she is as well. Sometimes it just doesn’t work

Women, never take advice from other women when it comes to anything

Reason a man will fall out of love with a woman. She treats him differently and starts acting more harsh towards him. Perhaps she made promises and broke nearly every single promise made to him. Using something as an excuse just to keep the relationship stranded in the wings

What the hell these are same things I could say of men , and in the west is where a man takes a woman’s resources, ain’t even sounding right, so first 2 reasons are just relating to the western culture . Though you say a good lot of things

Accurate. That's what happened. Except she didn't deplete herself, she was a do-nothing and I had to do everything.

Isn't a better topic, why are you with a man like you have described?

You should make a video about your SO being addicted to p.o.r.n. I've been married for 5 years and he thinks he has no need to seek help. So yeah. 😭

Have faith in Jesus alone to be saved ❤

Because they are ignored and used...

Maybe you should teach women to be adaptable to their men, in addition to being the best version of themselves, since men need to put boundaries for a woman to find it safe to stay, since you saying you know men put up with bullshit that leads to divorce, so advise the women right to know that they should adapt to their men, and men should leave a woman that doesn’t adapt to them, the feminine should be malleable.

It's disgusting how women never thought that the possible reason men fell out of love is because of them. Never to admit or see through themselves. These content and the comments it self proves how women would never hold themselves accountable and will always point men as if it is always their fault.

Because women already have a man lol single me 😂

Girl, discuss women’s character of always wanting change. You even said that men put up with a lot of shit, and women file for divorce, can’t you see that a man putting up with a lot of trash is exactly why women end it, and the man is leaving because he has been familiarized with women always trying to opt for better, so he doesn’t put up with a lot of shit.

as a 50 year old man, I can honestly say, you have no idea what men think, and have zero clue as to why or how we fall in love, stay in love or fall out of love.

Don’t listen to her, it seems like men are out to prey. Somehow she doesn’t fully get men, I tell you as a man, Men want to give and know they are not being taken advantage of, and we giveeee because it’s in our nature to give

God I haven’t heard so much rubbish in my life!

Thank you for working so hard and diligently on this podcast, Margarita. Cannot imagine how you get everything done, but we’re grateful🤍

Wait, explain why the woman is the "center" of the relationship, as you mentioned around 4:10.

"Drained her resources?" Cleary, it's the other way around. Women bail immediately when there's nothing left to take.