I won't lie, one of the worst habits I have is I'll look at an attractive woman and think "no way she's single" so I don't even try. Smh.

The first mistake is to actually think in leagues. If you are a quality guy, that has his stuff together, there's nobody out of your league.

1. Respect yourself!😁 2. Never change for someone else! 😉 3. Be confident 😎

"What you think you deserve is what you'll attract." So true!

Compare yourself to who were yesterday not to who some else is today - Jordan Peterson

Comparison is the thief of joy. I used to be so down on myself, and reaped what I sowed. Wrong women. Once I started loving myself, everything changed. I love your content! Great job!

@Courtney Ryan The best advice I have for guys to date out of our league. 1.Maximize your look(fashion/body) 2. Get your financials together. 3. Find people with your interest and date the woman you find most attractive from there. Like I’m interested in art, so I’m able to date women who are artist that would be out of my league etc. 4. Be able to teach her something women are interested in. Like I have a buddy who’s a yoga instructor who does really well even though he’s not good looking.

When society, "friends", and everyone else has told you for years you're not good enough, you end up believing it yourself. So later on in life you tell yourself why even bother trying when it comes to even approaching someone special. People don't realize the things they do and say stick with people and can cause problems down the road. The girl maybe "out of our league" so to speak but it would be nice if we stopped telling ourselves that and our friends that. Tell them no they're not and go for it! Build up your friends and those around you.

"What you think you deserve is what you will get" an excellent quote that applies to more then just your love life. Well said Courtney!

one of the most important things you can do to combat this feeling of someone being out of your league, is by boosting your confidence. and contrary to what people may initially think, confidence doesnt come outta thin air from you just telling yourself to be confident, it comes from the satisfactory feeling you get when you put in work to improve yourself each and every day to become the best you possible. consider it as being similar to “hoping you did enough to pass a test and being uneasy of the results because you guessed the answers” vs “knowing you aced the test because you studied well and knew the answers like the back of your hand.”

Courtney, thank you so much for sharing videos like this. I have dealt with many insecurities when facing a woman who seems out of my league, so I don’t try to speak to her or assume she’s in a relationship. Understanding that I must believe in myself and knowing what I have to offer is inspiring.

Courtney, I'm glad you talked about making promises to yourself and keeping them. I know in the past I've brought my own self-esteem down by breaking promises to myself, and when I started keeping them I felt like I could conquer the world.

Love your simplicity. You speak with so much humility and clarity. Your videos are awesome. Its obvious that you are a great one. God bless you, from Belgium

Ego and insecurity is a delicate balance. I have my ego in check and try not to be insecure but everyone has problems with both no matter how attractive or "perfect" someone thinks they are... thanks Courtney I enjoy your soothing personality and advice!

Every time I watch one of Courtney‘s videos I just want to give her a hug and tell her thank you for the help. You’re the best.

I've been binging your videos the last week and I can't believe how much wisdom and knowledge bombs you bestow upon us. You're totally utilizing what you've been gifted.

Your voice is ASMR GOLD! Love the short + informative tips that you share. Well compiled and placed. Your neutral tone of voice is strangely not 'boring'. That is a great thing. Keep sharing more videos. Much love from India

As someone working in mental health, I love the aspects about self esteem, attachment style and self reflection piece that is so important to understand about self and work on and how that impacts relationships. Love your work

Very glad that your channel is growing. You always come off as genuine, informative and caring. I don't do social media however (better for my mental health) so can't participate in your giveaway but good luck to those that do participate.

Your mindset becomes your reality..... Such great words. Thank you Courtney 😘

"Joy does not come from comparison, it comes from advancement". Simon Sinek

I have given up on dating. I've been told that I'm too short (5'7), and that there's no way I'll ever get someone I'm attracted to.

I have 3 older sisters, but I’ve learned more from you in 3 videos than I have from them combined in my entire life. You give incredible insight and advice.

Absolutely enjoy hearing your thoughts on not only this movie but on many of the topics you talk about in your videos. Your down to earth approach and honest insights into developing a relationship is so nice to hear. Unfortunately so many of us carry with us damage to our confidences and self esteem that date way back to our childhood. Boys, and girls for that matter, seem to learn by their interaction and socializing with others their "shall I say not so true" place in life's lottery. This continues to be reinforced by the often times cruel treatment that goes on between the sexes as puberty and the onset of adulthood sets in. We don't seem to have "life coaches" for all the times we face rejection, failure, or setbacks during those tough times growing up and end up trying to figure everything out on our own. So it should not be surprising that by the time one is in their 20's either a person has figured out how they perceive they are seen by the rest of society or if they are lucky enough to have developed into a more heathy and confident person. Your comments about the interaction between the two main characters was spot on. I did feel that Alice Eve's character was initially interested in him because he was safe and she didn't think she would get hurt be him but then ended up felling for him. Of course both main characters were influenced by their friends, and not in a positive way, much like we are sometimes influenced by what our friends think about how we should live our own lives. I am a little surprised that nobody has seemed to mention it, or if they did I didn't read it yet and that is the a conversion between Stainer's (sp?) and his old girlfriend at the food court late in the movie. The line by Stainer's ex-girlfriend that went something like " Its not that you weren't good enough for me, you were plenty good enough, its you weren't good enough for yourself" was a powerful line to think about. It resonates so much with what you are trying to convey in your videos and what we, at least myself need to continue to remind ourselves of. Please continue your thoughtful work on your videos. You offer a fresh and positive insight into helping us grow. Thank you! P.S Love the Sinn 556i.

The thing I like about your channel compared to all the "alpha male" youtubers out there is: 1. You don't scream every point at me, and 2. you actually give realistic advice and don't just use your video as a shortcut to promote your latest new sponsor or grooming product

My boss is one of the most attractive women I've ever seen in my life, and she's showed signs of liking me but i COMPLEATLY freeze around her. Just her presence in the room locks me up. She has to know how nervous i get because I turn red af when i get nervous.

I like the way you give advice. So personable and easy to grasp. Thank you for being an advocate to men. Much love and peace to you, Courtney Ryan.

@ 3:11 "What you think you deserve is what you will attract" .. pure gold .. I have one myself "what you believe will happen is what happens".

from my experience women judge on looks. you can try to go after attractive women but if she doesnt think you are up to her standards physically she wont want anything to do with you. people tend to be highly judgmental that where a lot of people put so many people on pedestals because so many people put looks as a emphasis of importance.

Damn last time I was this early,she just got up and left 🤣

Thanks for commenting on this movie. I just watched it on Prime and found it refreshing. You are very encouraging and make great suggestions.

I really like this! A lot of us get horrible and incorrect dating advice from movies, so debunking them is a great way to debunk bad habits

Such an important topic for everyone! Great video Courtney 💯

Courtney, another great topic to break down. Many women consider it a curse, having amazing looks, as it gives off the ideas you just mentioned, and they actually have a hard time attracting a quality man. Women are not to be feared, just go up to one you find interesting and just act natural. She'll either find you bold for trying, or say no. Eventually you'll come across the right Woman who finds your confidence irresistible.

Your voice is magical 😊 Keep throwing light of your wisdom and experiences❤️

Thanks great advice the last part hit home I used to think because of my race I wouldn’t be able to get the women that I wanted because we’re not the beauty standard but I just lacked confidence and I was insecure this video gives me hope🙂

Movies like this just give guys false hope that they will find that unicorn.

Some of my biggest regrets in life are from not getting _the hint_ from women who liked me, but who I thought never would like "a guy like me."

Wow another great video Courtney and no i have not seen She's Out of My League yet but i have seen the trailer for it though, now i also have to tell you that i unfortunately suffer from all three of the things you talk about in this video, my story and why i suck is a long one and i don't want to bore you with it but thank you for your continued videos and advice and also Congratulations on hitting 100,000 subscribers and have a wonderful day okay :)

One thing you touched on a couple of times is the different perspectives people have. In the movie, she was insecure about something with her looks and people might never know. She also didn't mind about his fitness. Only he did. You may not be in control of your wants and emotions, but you can always be in control of being considerate, which includes remembering that others might see the world in a different way. It helps to just be open to that and see what happens

“Lebron James MIGHT be better at basketball than me...” Damn, shots fired! 😂

I remember the “oyster puddle in his pants”. This was hilarious. Great video my friend.

Thank you for posing these videos you are truly a inspiration for all of us especially me.

Whats the name of the music you have in the background? So chill. I love your content it is so authentic and true. You are so wholesome. Thank you for caring and sharing your advise, it helps so much.

All you said was true, I just decided myself that I wasn’t going to bother with very attractive women. So I immediately skip over women that are too* attractive because of the likelihood that they turn out to be narcissistic and also I work very hard to build my self esteem so have it be torn down just because I accidentally knocked on the door of a narcissist is not fair at all. So I decided that as long as a woman has certain personal traits that I was going to ignore most of her shortcomings in the beauty department. It’s still hard because life beats you down when you find yourself trying to date out of your league and encounter all of these jackassess and narcissists throughout your life. It’s one thing to beat yourself down but ultimately it all comes from one or a few bad experiences you had with someone that thought too highly of themselves in comparison to you.

Courtney is so right, it's more important what's in a person's heart and mind than what the top surface 2mm of skin looks like! Not always but sometimes physically beautiful people know they're attractive to others and so don't always work on themselves or their personality and rely on the looks. Having said that, there's also many people who are beautiful on the inside as well as the outside and probably get tired of suitors just approaching them for their looks. If you can't connect with someone or they're just shallow, it doesn't matter how good looking they are, it will be ultimately disappointing. Look with the soul, not with the eyes!

Thank you so much for making this video, it's really helped me. I have to keep tell me that everyone is insecure about something in their life. I find it hard keep that in mind. But at least I will get there eventually, so until I'm going to enjoy singlehood until I meet the right person for me. I really enjoy all your video their are very refreshing and helpful. Thank you again talk care.

All of the signs described me. I need to trust myself and believe in myself more. Thanks for a great video.

It took me 10 years to learn these. I live my life to the fullest now, i do things that make me happy, i surround myself with positive fun ppl who make me a better person. I love humor and im kinda weird at times but ive learned to embrace it own it and turn it around and use it to make ppl laugh. Ive been told im the comedian of my friends. I love to make ppl laugh and see them smile so thats what i use to meet ppl, hopefully one day ill meet a woman that will appreciate everything about me. Until then im living life and working on being happy

2:36 "Just because someone is better at you than something" is my new motto 🤣

You did an absolutely amazing job, especially at 4:00 to 4:43 it was really inspiring and emotionally intelligent and I felt very connected there!

Hey Courtney...thanks for the great video and your dedication to the channel. I really really appreciate what you do. You are very beautiful person inside and out :)

She went with the hot guy first, then she hurt herself, now she is not brave enought to date someone who she is really into: the hot guys. But as soon as she meets a reasonably good looking guy who fills out other preferences too, she will dumb the looser. That's the real story. Saw it so many times in my life.

A girl who I have been friends with on and off for almost 10 years now recently told me that she was very in love with me and just got over me. She apparently didn't want to confess because she assumed that I obviously wouldn't want her back. I've known her since I was 9 and I always thought she was wayyy out of my league. At one point I liked her too but I didn't think it would go anywhere. I'm just here because I want to process wtf happened ahahah. I don't want to start anything because I have to go back to university after winter break but I need to know if she is still into me. I feel like I'm just starting puberty again ahahah.

I am one of these guys.....having totally given up on dating at 35. I've just realized over the past few years that whatever it is that women want, I just don't have. I'm never going to be the guy that makes six figures, is 6 feet tall, and has a six pack. I'm the guy that will treat a woman with respect and dignity, but then we get friend zoned cause "we are too nice" or "you're just like a brother to me." Your advice is great, and I love the content. I really do. But some people (like myself) are just meant to be alone.

Courtney, you’re phenomenal! I absolutely love what you do and I love your Content. I learn something new every single time I listen to one of your videos! Just want to help me so much.

I saw that movie too. You are so right about insecurities being made up stories and rackets in our head that are created. If someone grows up with either low or no self esteem about how they look and think that they are unattractive then all of a sudden lots of people find them attractive at one time, what a change that does for someone's self image. That happened to me when I was 16. The first 15 years of my life I always thought I wasn't very good looking then when I was 16 I met lots of girls in the new town that my family moved to who thought I was good looking. At first I didn't believe it or have any self confidence about my appearance but the more girls flirted with me at school the more I believed it. Unfortunately I was like alot of women that need validation from others before they believe that they are pretty. For me being a guy though it was the other way around. I know that most guys have to find their self image improvements on their own though without the help of girls flirting with them to tell them that though so I felt lucky. Sometimes unfortunately I let this attention go to my head though.

I wish there was an alarm clock with Courtney's voice just counting backwards from one hundred. I would be dead asleep by 93....so soothing....

There was a time when I was shot down hard for even daring to think I was good enough. Fast-forward to today and the tables have turned because I have realized my value.

Courtney, you are awesome! Thank you for helping me become the best version of myself!

I actually have the movie "She's Out Of My League" on DVD and I enjoy watching the movie

A valuable advice from a high value woman named Courtney Ryan! Thank you. ❤️👍👏

Great advice! I wish I would've come across it before my last relationship. Thank you.

Always enjoy the videos and the advice and reminders but one thing i've always wanted to ask is have you ever thought about doing an intro graphic and outro? Enjoying watching as always

This will be a tough comment. While we all can amount to the best version of ourselves make no mistake, you do not control outcomes. Ideally, you will attract what you deserve. However, today's modern pitfalls are loaded with girls aged 18-35 who will undoubtedly overthink, lose feelings or worse abondon you based on what she wants. In my 35 yrs on this planet take it from me, your only shot at real happiness is your purpose, mission, life's ambition. Once you center her in your world you are a goner. She is there to add value NOT revolve around it.

I’m 38 and still struggle with this...

I appreciate your truth and research. Fellas the best advise is just focus on your life and your big goals, become better everyday than you were the day before and the law of attraction will follow. Stop overthinking, start taking action and say NO when needed. Bless you all

You are very well spoken! This was very sound advice! Thanks for the reassurance!

Making promises to yourself and actually keeping them so that you build your self esteem and trust with yourself, I love that 👏👌

"We accept the love we think we deserve."

Hey CR .... everything you just said makes sense!!! Thank you 🙏🏾!!!!! Good for you

Brilliant content, very informative, straight to the point, keep up the great videos 😀

Hi Courtney, do you think insecurity is a result of one's nature or one's past experiences/ baggage? A video on the reasons for insecurity will do many people much good.

Your channel is growing faster than i am.. and i had an 18 year head start🤣🤣😭😭.

I love this video. You never know who likes you. I found out in college that a bunch of girls in high school said they would have dated me if I had more confidence. And the whole time I thought I wasn’t good enough for them! Go for it guys! Otherwise you’ll look back with regret at all the missed opportunities. Also, Courtney didn’t you say in another video that you thought this movie wasn’t realistic and that the two main characters wouldn’t have worked out in real life? Especially because she’s a 10 and he’s a 4 or 5?

Many people treat rejections as credit application that was denied (and reflects on your credit score for a while). Meaning every time you approach someone and get rejected, it's not "you don't have anything to lose" - you lose confidence, possibly respect with friends, possibly reputation.

Yes confidence is the best thing one can possess!😁

Unfortunately, #3 is my downfall... Courtney you are so correct! After years of counseling/therapy, sadly, I can not move beyond the past trauma in my life and it has caused the ruin of many friendships and the two short-lived relationships I have had in the last 20 years. My mind is my own worst enemy....... *Sigh*

Hi Courtney i just wanna say thank you so much!! These videos on your channel help me a lot..

I like your voice... Its so soft and soothing...almost hypnotic!!! Thank you for a great video.....

You should do a response video to Fatal Attraction. That would be informative.

A lot of this content is amazing. People could really learn and grow in this channel.

I've just subscribed to your channel I've watched a number of your videos now and you are an inspiration 😁 thank you

Courtney.. the content you put together is legit things men silently think about. Appreciate the little jewels you drop on your channel. Even confident men have moments where we need to reflect on our values and rather we are lowering or raising them. Great job! 💯

No. 3 is so true. The prettiest girls I know have tons of insecurity issues, and those can easily turn a 10 into a 7. In the end, a healthy amount of confidence is the sexiest attribute and it directly translates to a person's performance in certain situations as well 👿 😀

Courtney could you do a video about dramas inside a relationship and apologies? i did my girl wrong and she told me to never talk to her again, haven't contacted her in 1 year i really would like to be able to talk with her or recover the good vibes i used to have with her but i have no idea of what to do or how to aproach the situation, before she told me to not talk to her again we had some dramas where i tried to explain myself for something bad i did to her and she thought i was lying and didn't allow me to talk, she kept thinking i was lying to her

Love how your videos feel like a chill conversation

Hey Courtney, I've really enjoyed a whole bunch of your videos,...thanks for what you're doing

Whenever you see a beautiful woman just remember - 90% of her beauty can be removed with wet wipe.

She`s NOT out of my league, I`m out of her league. Truthfully speaking, I know who & what I am & have to offer.

This channel is changing my perspective for a lot of things 👌🏻

Very truthful video! Thanks!

Do you think you could do a video on how to approach and talk to a girl? I had a really awkward moment yesterday with one 😅

1:50 'I think these things could help you guys and also justify watching rom-coms for content' 😂

Thank you. Thanks a lot courtney. You’re doing a great job. 😇

Great movie analogy. The heart wants what it wants. They had great friends in the end.

i feel like some of this "believe in yourself" advice could get construed into a sense of entitlement.

To be fair, Alice Eve is in a league of her own, and damn, Courtney so are you 😊 Thanks for another inspiring vid!

Thank you for making this video. Have a great weekend.

Thank you Courtney, you give the most great advice.