3 Stoic Practices That Ended My Crippling Depression
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@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
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@omarsheikh988 2 жыл бұрын
The only book for your all answers are in the Quran book, give it ago then speak.
@EasyHeat 2 жыл бұрын
Ezdrummer2 on that kit rock. I have the same kit ; )
@cesarpreciado4285 2 жыл бұрын
This is a good philosophy, next to Buddhist philosophies you should check it out.
@themacocko6311 2 жыл бұрын
I tend to like the Eastern philosophies better overall. Marcus is actually my least favorite stoic philosopher, too.
@themacocko6311 2 жыл бұрын
The hell are you doing with a chick that needs/is/has to "shit test" you in the first place?! If you tolerate girls playing games with you, then you get girls that play games with you. You beat the game by not not being subject to the game.
@consciousandaware 2 жыл бұрын
“ You are in control over yourself not outside events “ understanding this really changed my life 💯
@lunchboplays7050 2 жыл бұрын
Dude not if ur in jail or with strict parents 🤣
@ajgiza9866 2 жыл бұрын
epictetus
@lunchboplays7050 2 жыл бұрын
@@ajgiza9866 ? what
@RygelXVI 2 жыл бұрын
I must disagree. We are not even in control of ourselves, no totally. We can controi some of it, but if we have bad genes there is nothing we can do about that. We are not even in control of our minds. Some can control their mind a little bit of with a lot of practise, but for the most part our minds are out of our control and stay so no matter how hard we try. The illusion that we can control our minds is caused by peaceful life and is due to sheer luck.
@gtcspth6916 2 жыл бұрын
well by controlling yourself you can control outside events
@tomsawyerpiper9412 2 жыл бұрын
Stoic philosophy in three easy steps. 1: Recognize that to live is to suffer. 2: Recognize that you cannot change point 1. 3: Accept suffering as the universal truth it is and stop caring when it happens to you.
@ilqar887 2 жыл бұрын
Can I also consider my chronic pain number 1 rule?
@Sashimiburger 2 жыл бұрын
Isn't that just Buddhism?
@thepopeshat8029 2 жыл бұрын
That's easy to say, harder to do.
@AdityaRaj-rh4fm 2 жыл бұрын
Man would mean a lot if you elaborate point 1, cuz acc. to it, what's the point of living then?
@ilqar887 2 жыл бұрын
@@AdityaRaj-rh4fm to find joy in suffering
@AhmetKaan 2 жыл бұрын
*"Sometimes you must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain because life's greatest lessons are learned through pain."*
@soulgoodkitchenllc9524 2 жыл бұрын
Woah
@spoopyscaryskelebones3846 Жыл бұрын
@@soulgoodkitchenllc9524 hoaW
@alainbellemare2168 Жыл бұрын
If you survive
@vatodivino Жыл бұрын
damn that’s a bar💯
@julisa3394 Жыл бұрын
nagato was spittinnn💯💯🗣🗣
@stoogey1 2 жыл бұрын
Number 2 hit me hard. From the age of 9-14 my mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle died. I was angry, mad, frustrated and upset thinking “why did this happen to me.” I’m about to turn 43 and it took me this long to turn it into a positive. I’m starting a channel to give people tips, tricks and motivation to help people grieve in a positive way.
@adversary7038 Жыл бұрын
God damn bro u went threw some shit, I hope you’re doing well now, May God bless u
@himara6302 Жыл бұрын
You are an absolute inspiration. Stay strong.
@stoogey1 Жыл бұрын
@kit katt feeling like I was a failure for not saving any of them
@ivanathompson1414 Жыл бұрын
❤
@IsaacJoshi 2 жыл бұрын
There are only 3 things that are certain in life, death, taxes and Cole posting the exact video I need at the right time.
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
hahaha
@snubdawg1386 2 жыл бұрын
ok then it's obvious why you have depression
@thelondoners-lifeisart 2 жыл бұрын
Haha - awesome 👏
@caveman354 2 жыл бұрын
Wether cole posts or not, we all must remain stoic!
@swiftumbra2748 2 жыл бұрын
@@snubdawg1386 Because depression can be genetic and people have predispositions to it. Being depressed isn't a choice, facing it and learning to live with it is.
@care4rami 2 жыл бұрын
Marcus Aurelius is literally one of my favorite people to read about. Ever since i started following values of stoicism, i’ve gained more respect with not only myself, but also the way of life. one of his quotes that always stuck in my head was “It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.” 💫
@dylon4906 2 жыл бұрын
"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment."
@kartikhegde533 2 жыл бұрын
I'm sceptical about all things. But Stoic principles make sense to a large extent.
@davidg7639 2 жыл бұрын
so how to begin to live?
@firetopman 2 жыл бұрын
Memento mori.
@mrmc2465 2 жыл бұрын
I agree Marcus aurealis and big Joe Joyce are the only 2 lads you'll ever need
@AhmetKaan 2 жыл бұрын
*Whenever I feel like giving up, I just think about why I started.* I don't know you personally but I wish you the best in your life. You are loved and needed. - a personal development KZfaqr 🙃
@punithrahul1379 2 жыл бұрын
I subscribed you when I seen your comment in hamza ahmed and ice coldjt channel Can you name any other productive KZfaq channel Your channel is subscribed and hitted that bell
@JeremyStittsandtheJourney 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks bro for the motivation
@IsaacJoshi 2 жыл бұрын
@@punithrahul1379 Rahul I make productivity videos also!
@punithrahul1379 2 жыл бұрын
@@IsaacJoshi I seen your videos Subscribed it but make sure to upload atleast a video every week without fail Off topic question.. Are u indian born or your are parents are indian sub continent
@danaep.3501 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this .I wish you health and happiness
@GrowthMindsetChannel 2 жыл бұрын
"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." ~ Marcus Aurelius 🙏😊 Love the video Cole, thanks for creating another banger
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@noexcuses5524 Жыл бұрын
It is all about our mind. Some people they become a prisoner bcus of their mindset
@smhere Жыл бұрын
"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius As a reader of "7 Habits of Highly Virtuous Stoics," I've realized that true wisdom comes from taking action, not just debating theory. This book has given me the tools to cultivate daily habits that align with my values and help me become the best version of myself.
@vickieakers9014 11 ай бұрын
How could anyone possibly hate this guy ?! Helping people improve their lives has got to be the best thing you could do in this world .. I love this guy
@Nik-wu1iv 2 жыл бұрын
Lady Gaga's "Rain on Me" helped me in my journey to fight depression. I just accepted that there is a high possibility that I may never have 100% happy days 100% of the time, so I should just celebrate a small event that made my day better and ironically just roll my eyes when crappy period doesn't seem to end.
@nihilist6008 2 жыл бұрын
Hahahah you need lady gaga to come to that realisation?? 🤦♂️😂
@toxiccool6205 2 жыл бұрын
@@nihilist6008 it does not matter which route wisdom is acquainted.
@nihilist6008 2 жыл бұрын
@@toxiccool6205 its pathetic.
@KrisVic91 2 жыл бұрын
Nobody will ever have 100% happy days, 100% of the time my friend. There is nothing wrong with you for having bad days.
@censedfear 2 жыл бұрын
@@nihilist6008 Being a douche bag to people on the internet is quite pathetic.
@walkingdeadxx1723 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Cole Me and my wife had an argument yesterday , today was filled with frustration and negativity. After watching this , I woke her up and kissed her told her I loved her .
@LordDante-oj7jo 2 жыл бұрын
You should have ignored her until she came to you.
@anasikon8976 Жыл бұрын
Silence is never an option
@1_Alistair_1 Жыл бұрын
@@LordDante-oj7jo that's not being rational. That's only gonna hurt both of them
@mattsomething4371 Жыл бұрын
Lord Dante. You can’t control the situation at all so your comment is useless.
@dogeprissy9850 Жыл бұрын
After she fucked some other guy lol.
@TheDhammaHub 2 жыл бұрын
Stoicism and the Eastern schools of thought really have a lot in common!
@owengonzales53 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah kinda reminds me of the idea of being unattached from buddhism
@Julian_Bertsch 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly bro, I‘m working on a video on buddhism and I realized that stoicism and buddhism have a lot of similarities
@TheDhammaHub 2 жыл бұрын
@austin smith well, if you discover the current moment, you practice and thereby do spiritual things... mindfulness leads to presence ;D
@LeileeBaker805 2 жыл бұрын
🧘♀️not in control of external events
@robinle2971 2 жыл бұрын
That's why they're saying stoicism is the Western Buddhism ^^
@dantepepper 2 жыл бұрын
It's simply amazing how these ancient teaching translate so seamlessly into modern daily life shows no matter how complex life can get all human have common principles that can improve our lives despite our differences within ourselves and our times
@oneidea1121 2 жыл бұрын
Civilisation starts way sooner than depicted. “History is a set of lies agreed upon” -Napolean Bonaparte
@mikeymorrison272 2 жыл бұрын
I spent most of 2020 (first nine months) extremely depressed to the point I thought about suicide. When I started reading into stoicism (especially Mediations) and getting more spiritual I got much better. A year later and I am proud to say I am the happiest I ever been
@ayoolukoga9829 Жыл бұрын
Then certain philosophers of the Epicureans, and of the Stoicks, encountered him. Acts 17:18
@fearson7831 Жыл бұрын
Same, lately I have gotten more spiritual and welcomed God into my life even though I am not religious
@care4rami 2 жыл бұрын
the fear you feel is a survival tool. it helps to keep you alive. just don’t let it turn you into a coward. 💫
@anthonycushman2990 2 жыл бұрын
👍👍👍👍👍
@staceyonthesocials 2 жыл бұрын
"Why would I choose a mindset that makes suffering and the mistakes I make more difficult to deal with", so good🙌🏽
@samuricexful 2 жыл бұрын
The first step is to get off of social media and stop interacting with all those angry and depressed people. You are the people who you spend time with…
@ryk6207 2 жыл бұрын
The funny thing is, I’m repulsed by those people IRL, and yet I tend to get sucked into their shit online.
@kathyalex778 2 жыл бұрын
100%
@lilcreaper007 2 жыл бұрын
So true my dad would always tell me showe your friends and I'll show you your future .stop being around losers and energy vampires
@upbestsalt1551 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not 18 yet and I'm low on money
@ladybird491 Жыл бұрын
@@ryk6207 same here. And then I be like damn. 🤣
@olubunmiolumuyiwa Жыл бұрын
This really makes me appreciate God and my mum more. Without knowing it, she's followed stoicism by following the Bible. She always says "Do your best and leave the rest to god", "don't speak too much", "no matter what happens, God looks out for you". Right now i'm going through the withdrawel of a breakup and i see that in the end, it leads to a greater purpose. Thank you for making this video
@ayoolukoga9829 Жыл бұрын
Then certain philosophers of the Epicureans, and of the Stoicks, encountered him. Acts 17:18
@kerenstar13 Жыл бұрын
The teachings of Jesus Christ encapsulate every thing we need to know and do to live a life that will unite us with God our Creator, after our life on earth 🙏
@shasmi93 Жыл бұрын
I mean, if it helps you, right on, just know that man-made religions are a lie. All of them.
@olubunmiolumuyiwa Жыл бұрын
@@shasmi93 I started having faith in God and Jesus a few months after making this comment. My understanding of the world has become deeper and i've been led to a deeper purpose. I agree that all man-made religions are a lie. That's why I'm a Christian and not a Muslim, Jewish or other. Because Christianity isn't man-made. It's real
@shasmi93 Жыл бұрын
@@olubunmiolumuyiwa na dude. Christianity is also a lie. But if it helps people than more power to them. I’m just telling you to be careful with anything church related because that’s how religions suck gullible people dry. Be aware at all times when you are doing ANYTHING Christianity related. Because it’s a lie and scene made to take advantage of people.
@LK-vf9uc 2 жыл бұрын
I wish our children were taught these principles at school. Complaining, anger, depression are too widespread in today's society. Very good video, thank you.
@alevez2004 2 жыл бұрын
I still don’t grasp why this happens
@frostskog7958 Жыл бұрын
@@alevez2004 social media stuff my dude
@CobraDove1111 Жыл бұрын
Please wake up. Schools are public indoctrination camps to make children into dumbed down, obedient debt slave adults
@Rihcterwilker 2 жыл бұрын
Stoicism has such a simple, yet powerful message. I was worried about a situation that happened at work, and just by listening at this, i feel relieved.
@rorocio93 2 жыл бұрын
Luke Skywalker ❣️
@pauldirc.. Жыл бұрын
May you make video on what's the purpose of life ( I am having existential crisis ) and what is happiness , yeah I know these are philosophical questions and you are not philosopher But I want to know your perspective
@Rihcterwilker Жыл бұрын
@@pauldirc.. there's a movie that plays with the concept of wanting to understand the meaning of life, called Martyrs(2008). It is a psychologic thriller, with some explicit scenes, but it touches on the idea that life has no real meaning, you're the one that has to give meaning to it. Knowing the meaning of life would render our journey in this existence pointless, so we have to make an effort to spend our time in the most enjoyable way possible, and i don't mean it in the sense of pleasure, but learning to enjoy the simple moments in life, appreciating a quiet afternoon with our family, having a conversation with friends once in a while, or even taking some minutes to read a book or watch a video about a topic of our interest. I think it is a little cliché, but that quote that says "enjoy the moment" it's the most correct way to live. The present is all we have, so there's no need to bother with the past or the future too much. We should definitely do our part, study, exercise, try to improve ourselves, help whoever is in need. For external events, that is beyond our control. As Spike from Cowboy Bebop would say: "whatever happens, happens"
@Breakaway-ic5gj Жыл бұрын
@@pauldirc.. The meaning of life is to live, so just keep doing your job, the things you need to to live, you probably only have one life you might as well live it because there are a lot of fun things in it. Or there just is no meaning at all, but that allows you to make your own meaning. True happiness is not any sort of material wealth, because things such as expensive clothes or food or a car, are just the normal variants of those things but overpriced and fancier. True happiness is just found in the little things of life, look out for them and you'll find them. Generally it's stuff like helping others, doing the right thing and even putting a smile on someone's face is a really good feeling. If you don't get thanked, that's fine too because doing the thing is its own reward, as deep down we love ourselves the most, more then other, so our opinion of ourself is more important than others. Our opinion of ourself only improves by doing the right things, being selfless, helping others, being kind to them but if they don't thank you and even get offended by you, it's fine. Do listen closely to them and try to imagine what they are thinking, because if they point out a flaw, you can correct yourself, correcting yourself and apologizing is a very great act aswell since it's your own will and you made yourself better, therefore improving your opinion of yourself. So if you get thanked, very cool, if not, then it doesn't matter because of the reasons stated above. This is what I can think of off the top of my head
@RevDrCCoonansr 2 жыл бұрын
From experience. If you pack down all of these emotions without a release, you will eventually break. Food for thought. You can be stoic, however you need an outlet for the emotions you think you are letting go. This guy has this channel. Find your outlet before you journey down the path to stoicism or find yourself middle aged with regrets.
@ricksantiago9768 2 жыл бұрын
Yes very valid point! How would you suggest someone release their emotions? What works best for you?
@RevDrCCoonansr 2 жыл бұрын
@@ricksantiago9768 I'm not a practicing pro so I wouldn't. I can say it's different for everyone so work with your professionals to figure it out.
@Respect2theFallen Жыл бұрын
Ya ive been practicing this basically for my whole life without knowing there was a word for it and few explosions were had when I got in few fights at school or yelled at family. Then pretty much went back to being stoic for about 10 years and exploded and went to a dark place. I would like to have a happy medium but it's difficult
@JulietteKernDiamond Жыл бұрын
@Rick Santiago exercise, Journaling, therapy, yoga!
@leonelpenarosario8044 2 жыл бұрын
I think anytime you feel great about something you are doing, you're not wasting your time at all. You're enjoying your existence and it's ok, we don't come to live working or doing things we don't feel comfortable doing. Instead, I think we really waste our time when we procure feel drained by things that simply aren't worth it or that we can't control. A big hug for you all!
@connorkearley7381 2 жыл бұрын
hserno
@derealratos6332 2 жыл бұрын
@@connorkearley7381 I agree. Almost everything I do on a daily basis are things I want to do, things I am proud of ^_^
@KathleenJean53 2 жыл бұрын
I have been sick for six years with Lyme disease. Over this time I have had many responses to this challenge, a lot of regret, a huge feeling of loss, imagining what I would have accomplished in those years, what my life might be. I have come to accept things as they are, do what I can, do less and be ok with that, do what I can. The letting go and letting things just be has taken a lot of thought. I do have power over my mind, not anything else. I do have the ability to laugh, laugh at myself and live in the moment. I still have worry but try to push through it to some positive thought or action. I know I need to work on thinking before I speak. I often forget and regret things said. Less is better all around. Slow is better. Intentional is better.
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
You are strong as hell for that! Keep going and thank you for sharing
@12kenbutsuri 2 жыл бұрын
I don't think you ever went through clinical depression before, from what you suggest. That isn't how it works at all. This is the same logic as "just be happy" with extra steps.
@miriamb2367 2 жыл бұрын
I think stoicism is more a reorganization of values, meaning that once we start valuing virtue more, anything else that happens to us, will hurt us less. We won't become invincible, just we devalue certain things and value some things more.
@jordyvandeven3954 2 жыл бұрын
you're right. through that reorganization of values, you start to realize how insignificant some of the hardships are. you remind yourself of what you value, and in turn of how lucky you are to have those things, despite of those hardships that you may go through.
@toadsagetimmy 2 жыл бұрын
Stoicism saved my life and helped me battle leukemia for three years
@sparkstudies1675 Жыл бұрын
Did you get cured?
@toadsagetimmy Жыл бұрын
@@sparkstudies1675 yes I won
@sparkstudies1675 Жыл бұрын
@@toadsagetimmy Woo!
@patriciacedenogonzalez8978 2 жыл бұрын
I loved this phrase you said: "I need this sort of setback so I can look at things more objectively and stay humble". Great insight!
@biondna7984 Жыл бұрын
All my life I've wanted to speak plainly and concisely, in complete contrast to my usual stream-of-consciousness rambling. I'm diagnosed with ADHD, am a multimedia artist and writer, so it seems like this just comes with the territory. But whenever I've paused, used silence, and spoken carefully and plainly, I love how much more powerful I feel. I really like the responses I get from people, too. I'm continuing to work on this. And I much prefer learning and moving along, to the boring sound of my voice complaining.
@rhyssalman9169 2 жыл бұрын
Agree with this entire video, but I think it's just worth being careful too with this stuff. I went through a phase a few months ago when I wasn't feeling too good mentally, so I decided to live my life based on stoic beliefs, and I think to a point, it made me a bit like a zombie. I had soooo much emotion wanting to be released (good and bad), but for a whole 3 months of my life, I was silent to so many emotions. I definitely still follow some stoic practices, but I just think it's worth looking way into before committing to it.
@Cal-El 2 жыл бұрын
I had went through a phase very similar. I learned the hard way to balance it. So much pent up emotion.. it only takes the right trigger for it all to release- when you least expect it. I personally found that keeping stoic values while having daily decompression methods in isolation, is key.
@derealratos6332 2 жыл бұрын
Yep. Stoicism emphasizes waiting, then mindfully responding. It also teaches us that when we feel negative emotions, just accept it, and over time it will pass. The key is to practice this every day, so the negative emotions do not build up
@chrismartell6135 2 жыл бұрын
Stoicism doesn’t mean being emotionless, it means that you don’t have to act based solely on them in the moment. Self acceptance of emotions is a healthy emotional practise - they are not to be repressed! (Speaking as a heavily repressed person!) 🌱 ✌️
@shaddowmystwolf 2 жыл бұрын
Nobody cares
@definitelytre3649 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah with this its best to pace in it. Go by it day by day step by step…you probably felt like a zombie because you were “detoxing yourself” a little to fast with heavy pressure. I think thats why people fall deep onto the wrong side and not cautious of this. Its basically a way to improve life from mind to body but with pace every day of your life. I have been crying for the past weeks just going in that deep thought of emotions and letting them roll
@moadharrat7760 2 жыл бұрын
I think the thing that could end your sadness is this quote " Momento mori " Just think about it , if you're gonna die , why bother feeling negative feelings and wasting your time on them like it's the end of the world ??? I hope that help someone 💛
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
Helps, but not that easy for some people unfortunately
@moadharrat7760 2 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings well , i think that it would be easier for religous people , hope you and everyone a great life 💙
@thetriplets2854 2 жыл бұрын
I love how every video is high quality and from the heart. It isn't something you spit out for money. Thank you for the meaningful videos!
@holdenludwig_ Жыл бұрын
19 years old driving home with a buddy from school I just graduated 5 days ago, 16 year old girl runs a red as we were going through an intersection… Multiple hospitals, coma for 8-9 weeks, minimally conscious for a 4 months. This was my payment for half assing my way through high school. Yet here I am, proud as hell. I am just appreciative of how a terrible accident has ended up being one of the gifts from the lord, universe or spirit. Please remember PACE positive attitude changes everything. That has brought me this far.
@danielspackman7159 2 жыл бұрын
Cole my man this video is gold. I respect the mindset you have equipped yourself with. I don’t know how old you are, but I’m 27 with my own family. I watch you videos to improve my mindset from depression and negative thinking
@KudoOne 2 жыл бұрын
I just gotta say dude your channel has really awoken my persepctive on life and I really can't thank you enough. The fact that you don't have 1 million subscribers right now astounds me. I really hope you make it and reach your dreams because you sure as hell have my support. All the best man.
@wrmlm37 Жыл бұрын
Stoicism taught me, among other things, is that you need to allow for your emotions to be set aside when making decisions. This was one of the most difficult skills for me, as I had been a severely restrained, by necessity, emotional thinker. Don't believe your feelings! Believe what you say, do what is meaningful to you, and demonstrate who you want to be through your actions, not just your words. The other skill is embracing obstacles. This was amazing for me. Thanks for your take on this.
@TenSecondSongs 2 жыл бұрын
This is important shit.
@Cynic-0055 2 жыл бұрын
You and the 10 Second Man are my favorite. 🥰
@DanSung2021 2 жыл бұрын
@@Cynic-0055 you are my favourite
@SuperBhavanishankar 2 жыл бұрын
@@DanSung2021 you are my favorite
@tunakiller72 2 жыл бұрын
bro the timing of the video.... really needed this
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
@MasterCast001 2 жыл бұрын
Everytime something bad happens to me, the same day, you upload a video exactly talking about it and helping me through it. I can't thank you enough for your work, keep doing it. You don't know how much good you're doing.
@ArtByHazel Жыл бұрын
Stoicism is direct to the point. Simple. Being present is a gift. ❤
@ayoolukoga9829 Жыл бұрын
Then certain philosophers of the Epicureans, and of the Stoicks, encountered him. Acts 17:18
@aaronkernan2810 2 жыл бұрын
This video was so good! You didn't just focus on using the practices in really tough moments but even in moments such as failing a test or spending too much time slacking, the little things that can add up. It made the video more personal imo
@hrvojestilin6256 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are life changing, keep up the great work, we need you Cole and we are also here for you too 💪💪
@Julian_Bertsch 2 жыл бұрын
Great video, stoicism was one of the philosophies that completely changed my life, just the idea of not worrying about the things outside of your control was a huge realization for me 🌊
@nicholaslubke355 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Cole just wanted to let you know that you are really helping a lot of people and i think what you're doing is great. Youve helped me a lot in the past few months which have been very hard for me. Thank you.
@T-Bone93 2 жыл бұрын
My depression period went over a couple of years. I didn't know how or where to start again, after thinkining i had lost everything. The first moment it got better was to accept everything there is and trust "the universe" or god or whatever you want to call the greater part of us and taking the responsibility for my thoughts and behaviour. It's a lifetime practice
@jmanciaz 2 жыл бұрын
I wanted to thank you for posting this. I have always loved Marcus Aurelius' idea of inter-connectivity in the world through phi (the golden mean) idk how I came across this vid being the perfect mixture of my current struggles and Stoicism, but I am at a pretty low point in my life with divorce, COVID wiping out some of my family, medical school and toxic "friendships". Then I ran across "how to stop hating yourself" which is something that I had realized that I do and didn't know where to start to correct it. AND THEN HOW TO BE ALONE.... I am studying medicine in the West Indies and with COVID triggering a curfew and being completely surrounded by water... I am the most alone with my thoughts that I have ever been. These 3 videos have helped me so much and I've jotted down pages of notes. I can't thank you enough. -J
@BrettMaverick 2 жыл бұрын
Great video man!
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks dude
@emmadeofsteel 2 жыл бұрын
First time I've seen one of your vids and it's very refreshing that you take such a candid, honest and creative approach to your content. You're awesome for doing your part to de-stigmatise mental health (as well as eating plant-based and being a drummer), you may never know how many people you've helped and reassured by sharing your experience. Hats off to you, Sir!
@yinconscious 2 жыл бұрын
Talked about stoicism with my creative writing teacher just yesterday. Great timing cole!
@RealFireAndGlory 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you about health and illness. I almost died 4 months ago in the hospital, so I’m thankful for my improved health.
@abhimanyusharma2489 2 жыл бұрын
Hey there , I hope you all are safe and fine .... and enjoying your life .... stay positive and stay calm ....
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
Ditto
@YungNio13 2 жыл бұрын
I realized I naturally do this to the extreme without even knowing what stoicism was. Those 3 points are things I preach to my friends all the time
@TonysSauceYT 2 жыл бұрын
Things do happen for a reason & I know for a fact that I stumbled across this video for a reason, this helped me soo much! Thank you for this!
@pavansendhil2438 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Cole and everyone! I'm not particularly depressed but I've had several setbacks recently. This video completely switched my stressed state of mind, I don't know if everything happens for a reason, but that mindset is so much more helpful.
@ianthethird7955 2 жыл бұрын
I love github
@onemorecatplease710 2 жыл бұрын
acceptance of what happens has been life changing for me. My mom died almost 20 years ago, up until last year - in my head- i someone kept magically thinking i could change it and was so afraid of accepting it. One day i just let it in, i’m finally healing.
@zngcete 2 жыл бұрын
Simply the best video I've seen on Stoicism. I appreciate how you focused on application of the principles rather than regurgitating what's already in the books. I've subscribed.
@kenneth_ol 2 жыл бұрын
Two of my favorite things, Stoicism and Cole Hastings
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
:D
@ceban9014 2 жыл бұрын
I just want to be ok bro😔 I just want to feel enough, i dont want to feel so tired, lonely, and worthless anymore. I want to stop bringing a negative vibe to people around me cause of my insecurity , but i just cant stop. My head is full of dread and bad thoughts. Even if i know that those voices r lying, i just cant fight them back. I dont know what to do anymore, i've tried it all : working out, healthy sleep, reading a book, etc. But it just doesnt worked..
@abhimanyusharma2489 2 жыл бұрын
Disconnect yourself from rest of world and give some time to yourself.... and explore nature and its beauty .... workout , healthy sleep will not gonna workout for you if you're unhappy and sad from inside .... so first achieve a inner piece and then look the world how beautiful and amazing it is ..... hope you get my point ....
@thegabbcorner 2 жыл бұрын
don't put so much pressure on yourself to feel good right away. I've been there, constantly beating myself up, being my biggest critic. What helped me was patience. Knowing that I'd have more bad days and acknowledging the small growths. Eventually, the good things will compound and you'll see life differently! Don't be so hard on yourself either. Stop worrying about what other people think of you and start loving yourself.
@FranQuijas 2 жыл бұрын
Man I feel you so much. The truth is you’re getting better because you’re putting the work into it, maybe you don’t see it or feel it right now, but when you least expect it you will see how you’ll perform better in your overall life. The only thing that you have to work on is on being compassionate to yourself, and accept your mind as it is, let the judgments be judgments and it’s okay to not feel okay, feel every resistance you have. Sending you love man, I resonate with what you’re saying so much, so I know how you feel
@eskimojones23 2 жыл бұрын
Magic mushrooms
@dominicrivera7170 2 жыл бұрын
I think many people have been through a certain level of having to deal with depressing vibes as a hurdle in life, including me. Have you tried following God and Jesus Christ? I reccomend you do. That did it for me,my eyes were opened and my soul was refreshed. I realized the voices in my head were actually demons trying to make me fall and give up. I needed angels and the power of God to strengthen me and bring me out of the pit. Philippians 4:6-7 Psalms 34:4-8
@Xbox360tutmodz 2 жыл бұрын
Congrats on 200k! Can’t believe how fast you’ve grown this year! You deserve every sub plus more
@terryvans1420 2 жыл бұрын
What your girlfriend did was genuine disrespect. Not a s**t test. Your reaction was natural. Not stupid.
@prettygirlgamer09.27 2 жыл бұрын
How dude? She can't get her hair braided professionally? That's like me going to get a haircut by someone else and then my spouse gets upset cause they not doing it. Make it make sense 🤣. I remember one time in my life, I use to get mad over stupid shit like him too, so I can relate. But the argument was pretty unnecessary and he said that himself.
@terryvans1420 2 жыл бұрын
@@prettygirlgamer09.27 How do you know hair braiding is all that happened? Those who want to be trusted should not act in ways that calls their actions into doubt. Trust is earned.
@hialeah1234 2 жыл бұрын
@@prettygirlgamer09.27 what girl goes to their boyfriend's house to get her hair braided? Girls go to their girlfriends house, do it themselves or go to the salon. While he probably shouldn't have blown up through text that shit is questionable as fuck.
@fiercelunarhavoc4627 2 жыл бұрын
@@prettygirlgamer09.27 Bro, who said Skeep was a professional???
@sommerprettygirlgamer2719 2 жыл бұрын
Y'all got trust issues. I get what PGG saying. If you don't trust someone,of course you gone doubtful and think the girl did "something else" when getting her hair done. But still, the way he acted was wack.
@formerevolutionist 2 жыл бұрын
"Take care that no one hates you justly." -Publilius Syrus
@emiliosalazar9962 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for putting out these videos, they are truly helpful for people who are struggling.
@Crazyibbes Жыл бұрын
Thank you for showing up and sharing this.
@luxypher7475 2 жыл бұрын
2:16 this is actually the correct reaction but maybe you shouldn't have done that over text. It's good to let her know the boundaries in the first stages, you did the right thing mate.
@aidanmays7825 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Best not to lose your cool, but you definitely need to draw a boundary there. Imo that's the point of the shit test. She wants to know you can stick up for yourself and set the rules without falling apart like a child
@MrRinre 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. What was she trying to test here? To see if he was a beta? Bro if he didn't confront her or do anything, she's going to walk all over him in the future. Basically a test to see if she can do what she wants in the future without repercussions.
@swordsnorchids1997 2 жыл бұрын
My problem is with shallow and meaningless connections within our modern society and feeling very hurt, lonely and misunderstood.. I’ve been through a lot but it’s still difficult to have compassion and empathy for negative stuff cause there’s too much bad stuff in the world already but we can actually heal and elevate ourselves though it won’t happen magically.
@happyvickytoria 2 жыл бұрын
Set out to be the meaning you wish to see in society
@beboduh 2 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for being so consistent with uploading these gems. ❤
@lindareversamezcua6283 Жыл бұрын
So glad I stumbled on your channel when searching for "stoicism". Love how your words are heartfelt.
@Luis-tm2gp 2 жыл бұрын
Best. Intro. Ever.
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
Hahaha thanks
@mustknow2487 2 жыл бұрын
To everyone who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the darks thought, the over thinking, the doubt exist your mind right now. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life.
@ivoryquays6661 2 жыл бұрын
Superb presentation. Great editing. The message comes through loud and clear.
@iflrt63 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was looking for!! Big thanks Cole! ❤️
@ZarinaMachaAuthor 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent video Cole, and all very true. They key to inner contentment is to let go of the things we have no control over and to pause before reacting. Accept the things we cannot change :)
@thatsmellsdelicious5146 2 жыл бұрын
1. say less than necessary and think before u speak (Especially when that threatens the ego.. accept that it’s normal to have the reactions/emotions that you go through) 2. accept what happens as a positive for yourself and the universe 3. focus on what u can control, discard the rest (for example what they think abt u)
@nicethaddy5955 2 жыл бұрын
You deserve all the subs in the world man. Such a great video.
11 ай бұрын
Awesome video, Cole. Keep'em coming!
@parallelfinn 2 жыл бұрын
On the contrary I became too stoic, didn't express myself and bottled up my true feelings. Being silent in the face of conflict usually avoids the conflict at the time, but you'll probably hold onto that internally.
@Jo-hs1ix 2 жыл бұрын
i just want to say thank u, cole. for this video
@ColeHastings 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@tourdeforce2881 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for keeping it concise and relevant
@jackfrey6239 2 жыл бұрын
This is really great! Thanks for explaining it so succinctly!
@vinnydesteur9051 2 жыл бұрын
I used to have Dark thoughts and feeling lonely for a couple years and what i did was when i lied in bed, i prayed to "the universe" with all the people i know (friend, classmates, People i play sports with) in my mind that they would be ok, and to the universe to make it worse for me if it would mean that they would be better of.
@christdeveloped 2 жыл бұрын
Great video Cole, practice 2 is ESSENTIAL and very needed in my life! Cheers.
@sicosismusic 2 жыл бұрын
YES ! Bro, never let ppl force your hand. Hope u are feeling a bit better G. Your videos just keep getting better & better. What u do is like a Mind Manual, Peace as always homie from the UK. Thanks ,yet again.
@nickp3949 2 жыл бұрын
It sucks for me because my thoughts are intrusive. I have OCD, along with GAD and PTSD. I know, a lot of letters lol. But basically my thoughts are always intrusively attacking me, I can’t control them, they give me massive anxiety, and I’m always in fight or flight mode. Every day feels like the world is ending. I haven’t had true peace in years. I try to meditate, but it just makes the thoughts attack me more. Anything I do that is positive, my OCD tries to turn it into a negative by attaching extreme negative thoughts and worries to the positive thing…which makes me stop doing it because now I get a serious trigger and anxiety attack any time I do that thing. It has made me go to unhealthy coping skills such as drinking and masturbating too much, just so I can be at peace for a little while. I just want peace. I’m not depressed, and I work over 40 hours a week, I really like my job. But my mind is never at peace. I can’t even begin to attempt abt kind of stoicism when I can’t even control my own thoughts. I have zero control over what I think, it’s honestly terrible. It’s like the “pink elephant” thing, if someone tells you not to think of a pink elephant, you’re gonna think about it, and you can’t control yourself thinking about it. That’s me, except it’s all the time. And the thoughts focus on the scariest things imaginable, sending me into a panic attack because of the “what’s ifs” associated with thinking about those things. This causes me to do rituals so I can “reverse the thought” so to speak, and then the anxiety goes away…only for the entire cycle to repeat again. I have the meditations book (and other books such as the secret, the art of war, etc…but my mind prevents me from being able to enjoy these things, and it turns them into a negative experience.
@kkkjkk641 Жыл бұрын
I think I'm in a similar state of mind without having anything diagnosed officially. The only coping mechanism that works consistently is sports or even taking a walk and hard physical labour. Maybe that can Help you too... Unforunately, I often forget about that fact myself, but it's the best I have.
@TitoSilversax 2 жыл бұрын
To those watching this video looking for answers to their depression remember this please: it’s ok to feel depressed - it’s not your fault… it’s also more ok to ask for help for how you feel.
@none377 2 жыл бұрын
I just found your channel and now I'm watching video after video! Your content is helping me man as I'm going through some emotional pain at the moment. Keep doing what you're doing!
@MrBebop0 Жыл бұрын
Stoicism is inspirational. A philosophy that leads you to see life for what it is and making the most of the moment. So simple yet strong.
@Jchamaon 2 жыл бұрын
Much better than your last thumbnail, friend! I prefer to concentrate on your wise behaviour and encourage it than to criticise your slips.
@singledadsurrogacy 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like i never expected to be happy as an adult so its not much to deal with
@mercedesperalta2995 Жыл бұрын
This is a tremendously helpful video. Thank you so much, Cole Hastings!!!
@jefflistner4516 2 жыл бұрын
Big high 5 bro!! Thank you so much for making this one, I totally appreciated it more than you could imagine🙏🏼!
@Frshmlk 2 жыл бұрын
good video cole hastings, needed this lately actually, everything happens for a reason 😳
@avantigayxian952 2 жыл бұрын
This man is carrying my mental health
@freeshrugs63 Жыл бұрын
You are a remarkably insightful young man. Thank you for posting this.
@bjrnnorman8916 Жыл бұрын
Man this guy is a gift bro, shout out to everybody
@ronivangingoyon7778 2 жыл бұрын
Im currently reading Donald Robertson's "How to think like a Roman Emperor" side by side with Meditations by Marcus Aurelius as translated by Gregory Hays. However, ive read the meditations like 3 times already. I guarantee you some self realizations of epic proportions. Ryan Holiday's The Daily Stoic book and journal is also a great companion. Life becomes more bearable and meaningful.
@martindominikus8825 2 жыл бұрын
The moment she (constantly) tested you, you should know that she's not worth it. If both of you are really an adult, you know how to avoid temptation and speak respectfully to each other.
@castronator29 2 жыл бұрын
Easy to say, hard to do. I mean, leaving someone that you know that may be not for you.
@harveymacaurog8823 2 жыл бұрын
Those words are exactly what I needed this time. Thank you.
@harijsmalkauss4415 2 жыл бұрын
Great channel and content! Your voice calms my mind.
@DoctorIglooman 2 жыл бұрын
in the past, i tried to apply stoicism in my life. i believe that there is something good about letting genuine emotions come out. i think it’s like what charles aznavour refers to as “cries of hatred that are the final words of love.” emotional responses are a much more meaningful connection between what’s going on in your head and the people around you than words, or factual statements. stoicism fits well in an individualistic environment but it can make it difficult to connect to others. i guess this is just a heads up; watch out with stoicism, it’s not a perfect ideology (which it never intended to be) and it is not always harmless to yourself✌️
@CliffordFajardo 2 жыл бұрын
I agree, we should let genuine emotions come out with intention and care. I've heard some people (not referring to you) say they thought Stoicism is about repressing emotion; I don't believe that to be the case or at least for me that was not the impression from the readings. Bummer for those teaching others that it's about repressing emotions, its not. It takes a whole life to learn how to live and the books of the stoics have been helpful for me ever since I found out about them 4 years ago. Cheers and I wish you the best🙏
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