I don’t feel any loneliness, I LOVE being alone..

Growing up being surrounded by narcissistic parasites. I embrace peace and quiet. Narcissistic people can not be alone. They panic.

You just described my whole existence. Im 46 . I am alone, im lonely. Im also safe from any more trauma. Its a brutal cycle .

Once I was in one of the most remote villages in the NWT of Canada. I went for a walk alone for a few hours in the Bush and felt, once and for all the deepest and most profound sense of NOBODY AROUND. Truly and utterly alone. I relaxed for almost the first time I could remember. I felt better.

The difference between being alone and being lonely is that you choose to be alone but feel being pushed into loneliness (as an outcast). The best advice I can give to struggling lone wolf brothers is: “You have been marred, you have been scarred. That's not OK, but YOU are OK. You'll never heal and always feel the marring you got and the scarring you got. That's not OK, but YOU are OK. Now that you have them, the mar's and the scars that are not OK - feel free to choose them, feel free to use them in stories you tell, in songs that you sing in paintings you paint in music you play And be all OK. (Yes, I really just came up with this one!)

"...and this loneliness won't leave me alone" - yes Mr. Otis Redding, we're slowly catching on.

My marriage was a trauma bond for 25 years. By year 12 I had become an alcoholic and addicted to drugs. I hated me, I hit bottom, I had kids and I needed to change, I got sober for me so I could be better for me for them. I went back to school, I started my own business, I pushed to be better and find the guy in me that I missed being, I was alone in a house full of people. We divorced five years ago and it was the best thing that happened to me unbeknownst to me at the time. I trauma bonded three more times until I finally realized what I was doing. I’ve been alone for four years, I drive truck, I have one amazing hobby I’ve always wanted to do. I totally enjoy being alone, I see my positive none toxic friends that I’ve kept in my life as I cruise around in my truck. Life is simple, life is basic, life is peaceful and trauma free. I’ve seen what I’ve done and I know what’s good for me. I’ve been sober 16 years now and have a few very good friends. It’s all I need in life. It’s peaceful finally 😊

The difference between solitude and isolation is an invisible line you cross somewhere in your mind, that then permeates through the rest of your being. The trick is being able to know where that line is, and how to find the right side of it to be on. And then being there. Thankyou Fraya, wishing you well 🙂

Needed this. took me years to realise I wasn't weird for being a lone wolf, it's just how we roll, widowed young and working by myself I spend most of my time alone and need more . I'm starting to embrace being alone. My motivation died along with my partner so still trying to get that back and enjoy creating again. PS You have beautiful eyes, something my partner also had although hers were brown, she could make me putty in her hands just looking at me with her smile.Even a lone wolf can miss the company of that one person that was special to us.

Geesh, hits the nail on the head. Not sure how one becomes an expert on this topic, but I'm glad it's being recognized as an archetype. I've been living this reality for 60 years and have always just considered myself a freak and outcast. Thank you for the validation. At this point in life I'm not sure if anyone would or could have a relationship with me or what that person might look like. My former marriage and all of my relationships have been a struggle since alone time is so important to me. Would be a great topic for another video. Best

I sometimes feel like my narcissistic traumas have ruined my life, but in retrospect they were lessons I had to learn, otherwise they wouldn't have repeated. So, to my ex-narcs...thank you for making me wiser. Hope you get a chance to experience compassion some day...starting with yourselves.

Hello fellow lone wolves. I felt alone so much more when I was younger and actually had a wide circle of friends and was pursuing relationships. As Ive aged, I have realized that I enjoy my own company (and fur family) more and I'm in a creative state more often. After being alone for quite a while, the thought of sharing my bed or my space with someone is not appealing at all. Yet it would be awesome if I could find someone like myself and we could have our own houses with a shared area. Close but not intrusive. Thanks for pointing out the addiction to wanting relationships and falling into patterns with much disappointment.. I'm past that now. A partner would be nice but is not required for my own contentment. Love n peace

Most of my favorite moments have occurred when I've been out in nature miles from anyone else. That's the only time I feel uninterrupted. The older I get, the more I recognize my need for it as a healing and regenerative tool. Excellent synopsis! ❤

This ironically and paradoxically came up in my feed. First off I'm cough cough a Male, but I consider myself to be a lone Wolf and sonewhat of an empath with a twist. The events of the last few years have consolidated my self propelled, universal calling and inner quest for the truth of all things hidden in the Matrix of things in this messed up World. So after many deep dives into hidden information, or really unraveling the disinformation of many things that I questioned.😮 There are many very dark things I've come across where Ive had to put my empathy on my sleeve and let the negative energy of these truths to go through me so to speak. Or I wouldn't be able to continue, or I would just get too affected by it. So I became stronger and that's where the Lone Wolf comes in.. So your message really resonates with me in so much as there are similarities as the Lone Wolf, in that I've come to really dislike society as a whole, but find it very hard to connect with people, because after doing so much research about many topics and hidden truths, I find people in greneral are clueless to whats really going on, that they're so distracted, so aloof, so shallow and so programmed by the negative media fear mongering and so I can't relate to the normies I like to call them. So just really trying to find myself and my pack, but its a variation of how you're describing the lone Wolf Empath. Its been a roller coaster ride, but hearing your message of inspiration came at a good time. Godspeed!!

Oh my goodness! You are talking SO much sense that I feel like I’ve stumbled upon my holy grail. I’m 53 years and fallen prey to those trauma bonds way to many times. I can’t thank you enough 🙏

She described me in college , now that I’m married with kids , I feel more at peace , yet I still crave my alone time, and I love spending time with my wife and kids. I’ve learned you have to compromise , your time , it’s not always on your schedule , sometimes on someone else’s. That’s a bitter pill to swallow.

I realize how much time I need and I really like spending time alone.ive been this way my entire life. Being around people wears me out so I don't have much longing to be social. I do enjoy attending church, but I leave immediately after service. I like to myself and enjoy my own company.

This describes me very well. I am a very creative and empathic person, but I also become unfocused, unmotivated, anxious and depressed at times. I feel other's feelings deeply. I dropped out of school, went on to graduate college with a 4.0 GPA, then a doctorate in clinical psychology and a long career. I was a dedicated musician. But still I need to learn. You've given me some clarity, Fraya, that I will now begin to recognize and work on in myself.

I’m not BY myself, I am WITH myself & connected to all of divine creation💝🙏💫

You are so spot on with your description. I am 70 years old, and have been a lone wolf empath all of my adult life. I feel deeply for people that are suffering, yet I can only spend a short time with them. Having PTSD and depression, I must protect my own emotional well being very carefully. I am perfectly happy being by myself, and when I feel the need for company, I visit one of my carefully chosen friends. And they are all OK with this. I was addicted to alcohol, but also to building and collecting things. My Ex was my trauma bond, and happened exactly as you described it!. She often accused me of being obsessive. Thank you for making this video, it made me feel much better about myself! :)

This is my story 3000% . This really makes sense and gave me chilling goosebumps. I am glad I stumbled upon your channel.

Okay wow you really just put my personality into words lol.. I’ve gotten a lot better when it comes to the trauma bond aspect because I realized how important alone time was to me.. so now that I allow myself to enjoy being alone it’s a lot harder for me to get roped into a situation where I might bond to someone bad for my mental. Now my creative side is flourishing! Thanks for this video! It feels good to see so many people similar to me in the comments! We may be lone wolves, but we aren’t alone wolves! 🤘🏽

This is a great summary. All of these aspects tie in to the cycles I end up getting caught in. After leaving a relationship I'll hyperfocus on one of my interests. After a while I'll get bored/lazy and abandon the good habits I've developed. But with a brain that is always churning out hypothetical scenarios it's easy to fall prey to marketing and get caught up in another interest. Letting imagination take control instead of focusing on the reality of your situation. The hard part for me is being alone I'll fall back into familiar habits that may not be in my best self interest. The benefit of other people is having someone to help guide your energy. The downside is the people that will use that energy selfishly. So often you'll still find yourself extremely selective in who you associate with and too many negative relationships lead you to become more and more wary of others intentions. It's also hard for normal people to deal with us. We'll have this need for intense interaction and then say, "Okay you can go away now."

Thank you! I’m loving being alone! But I was struggling with wondering if I’m okay? Your words are so helpful!! Thank you ❤

Spot on!!! INFJ go hard in trauma bond cycles 👉🤪💨

This was absolutely life changing.

Hyper awareness is incredibly difficult and is nonstop. I don't want to live my life in solidarity, yet I crave it. I set boundaries that ended up I cut myself off from society. It used to be I was constantly helping or fixing people whilst taking on their feelings and pain to be my own. Then you realize you as an empath are always held to a higher standard b9th personally and professionally (constantly living up to and the one who was expected (a life lived by double standards) which for me was a life lived under constant judgement. Great content and wisdom. I subscribed and liked. I wish you happy holidays. Thanks for creating such relatable content. Kashton

Wow. This is the best summation I’ve heard between codependency and relationships!! Fantastic!! This should be plastered everywhere for culture to reflect on.

Wow! Sounds like me 💯. Down to the self sabotage.. Ive accepted my alone time and Im happy with that. Been controlling my emotions also.

80/20 really describes the life I like lead. Life with my spouse and kids isn’t bad cause they all honor my need for time alone. And they have their own varying levels of need for interaction, and we somehow have a balance. Being forced into too much outside interaction can upset the balance. I did fall hard for my soul mate and have a period of disenchantment, but we worked through it and are now very happily married 22 years. And all the reasons I initially fell for him are still valid.

Ha! As my 12 year old grandson said; “Grandpa I’m not worried about being home alone, I’m worried about not being home alone” I love that kid.

Idk how this video ended up being recommended to me, but I’m so thankful. I feel so seen and understood it’s scary. I’ve experienced every thing you said, especially the cycles of addiction (which I never knew how to classify, with people specifically). Thank you so much for the perspective and advice!

Finally understand the Trauma bond. Thx

I'm listening to this right now and it's a s if the universe palced this video in my youtube feed just at the right moment in my life. I have chills as I'm listening to these words. I can relate to all of these traits so much it's kind of spooky. I've struggled with interpersonal relationships my whole life because of the way that I am. As a child I would spend hours on my own, perfectly content because I was very creative and I would come up with all sorts of things to keep me entertained for days. When I did bond with someone like a childhood friend, I would care about them deeply. I was always very selective but once I chose someone it was for good. But somehow these relationships would always become a sort of addiction in a way. This transferred to my now adult life. I'm perfectly happy alone but feel so lonely and I've tried relationships but I somehow end up with partners that, like you said, put me up on a pedistal only to toss me in trash afterwards which has traumatized me a lot and makes me reluctant to get involved with someone again. Because of this I struggle with my creativity. Almost not allowing myself to do what I know I love as punishement or I just lack the motivation or inspiration to be creative anymore these days. Especially when I'm going through a heart break.

Thank you Fraya, for your accurate description of the Lone Wolf Empath, or as the subtitles said, a Low Molf. Creativity is my passion, my reason for getting up in the morning. I have KZfaq, a coffee maker and a constant supply of marijuana. Haven't had a relationship in 16 years, been severely disabled for the last 12 years and I spend all day pondering, life, existence, motivation and inspiration. I'm content to be on my own, genuinely.

I had no idea i was a Lone Wolf Empath till I watched this video. You've just explained my entire life to me as if you've known me fo or 20 years.

This was so timely for me. I've actually written myself a poem this morning. 😢

So true and spot on ..I am a natural lone wolf in a very messed up world

This video was unbelievable for me. I have spent many years getting on the other side of most of the things you reveal in this video. You are so right and it is refreshing to find another human out there who truly understands the nature of who and how I am as well as many others. I am a Lone Wolf, INFJ-J Empath, and have spent countless years after my marriage ended learning about who I am and how I'm wired. I am so glad to have found your channel and am now one of your new subscribers. Thank you.

always shy away from "identifying" with anything [i.e. lone-wolf empath] because it forms a "me' that is decided by society, but what youre saying hit me in the core; intriguing.

Thank you, Ma'am!! I appreciate your time! No wonder I'm always so exhausted and on edge I'm always in my feelings. I love just as deep as I go when I'm down has been the story of my life

Excellent! Well written and well presented. Thank you!

Thank you! You've helped me realize I shouldn't expect myself to feel guilty about wanting to be alone. Because I don't and rarely feel lonely. I've separated myself from toxic family members (shared trauma cycle). Chose not to participate in the once annual expected family get-togethers. I'm over it. Moving on. Making my life my own.

This is the BEST explanation of my battle. Thank you! ❤ I can send this to my friends or anyone else who doesn't understand me.

Hey! I needed this video 10 years ago😂😂 thank you so much for the incredibly eye opening insight!! Also, I laughed because by the end of the video you were also identifying yourself as one unlike the first half. You rock!

This is so amazing to hear. I am sitting here listening to this and crying a bit. And I love your hair!!!

Thanks for the clarity ❤

I’ve had to be rude to narcissists to get them off my back. Goes way against my character, but it’s the only way they get the message. I’m not their supply. You are not their supply. Be rude, tell them in no uncertain terms. Make them associate pain with you.

I hope this helps fellow empaths. Imagine the narcs you have to deal with in a babies cot. That is what you are dealing with. Meditate and try not to take it personal. Just stay mindful if you find yourself ruminating and nip it in the bud. Just accept these ‘adult-babies’ are in society, and give ‘em a wide birth. Let them throw their temper tantrums on their own.

Nailed it. Points of internal conflict can make one vulnerable to the "toxics:" Setting and maintaining appropriate boundaries and identifying unreasonable expectations is hard. If you like to be supporting in relationships, you can go too far, give to much. Pathological types readily spot your kindness and caring nature and exploit you. Their increasing expectations creep up and leave you feeling tapped out.

Thank you so much this was perfect timing, I've been in a vicious cycle for a long time. This is a much needed key for me to understanding it all!

This is so weird because a couple of days ago I started calling myself a Lone Wolf! I wanted to put that on the back of a jacket and saw myself wearing it. That's very cool!!! LOVE this!

Here after this video turned up in my Recommendations; Various times I’ve actually been called both a lone wolf and an empath, so I’ve been familiar with both terms, but I’d never seen them both used together before somehow. Then I saw this video and BOOM!! It sooo clicked! Love this video, so many things about what you’ve said here which resonate for me, especially flight/flight trauma cycle and the creativity! Brilliantly insightful video, and I love your presenting style! Subbed! 🙌

This has given me a lot to think about, thank you!

The absolute best I've ever seen or heard...so very true..every word

You just described the past 20 years of my life Fraya. I'm stuck still, with breaking out of my cycle of laziness and procrastination, trying to find something to get passionate about again and forge ahead to develop a better and more fulfilling existence. Is it too late at age 46? I like to believe that it isn't.

Love myself, love my friends, love being alone. Am a deeply empathic artist, writer and motivational psychic counselor. Solitude is my renewal space. Being in recovery (and remission) from addiction for years brings wisdom and peace of mind. Add daily meditation and prayer for a lovely life. And a pretty house, minimally furnished with lots of art, big picture windows overlooking a spacious garden view. Trying to keep myself from adding a love affair. I simply can’t afford one because I’m building my career(s) and when I fall in love I can’t think of anything or anyone else. Hard to believe I’m having so much fun all by myself, because, as I’ve said, I’m not by nature an introvert. I think I’ll have ice cream and coffee for breakfast while waiting for a new, surprise client calling for a reading, try on some clothes, watch an episode of “Downton Abbey” and call my friend “T” who needs help with her website. What a life! ❤

Thank you so much. I feel so heard and seen and understood. ❤️

Thanks for this video! You made me understand a lot about myself, especially how I love being alone yet still profoundly enjoy the company of (a very few select) people. So thank you for the great insights!

You done explained everything I'm currently going through. Thank you.

I just separateed from an NPD spouse. And this desribes me to a T. Long road ahead but I seem to be doing ok with the solitude. Lots of self-evaluation. Can NOT repeat the same mistake. But trusting again is going to hard work and lots of prayer.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND VIDEO. THIS HAS GIVEN ME SOME CLARITY ON SOME MATTERS.

I'm glad I stumbled onto this video, you nailed it completely about my situations of past and present!

I cannot sleep and I clicked on this a few minutes ago. Fraya ..This hit so hard, I am both relieved and shocked. This describes my whole life better than anything I have ever read, studied, or listened to..ever .. It is so accurate, it hurt. Thank you. I have been berated by others and I have berated myself for every single thing you said. Now, at least, I know what I am. Do you offer any way to help me to learn how to live a healthier life? Thank you so much.

I'm a lone wolf empath. Well done Fraya!!!

Thank you thank you you are right on point. I feel all of this, keep the videos coming.

I really appreciated you posting this Fraya. Thankyou and look forward to watching your other videos. 🙂

Wow excellent work you have beautifully articulated, precisely what I have been commonly described as alone, wolf and path, or a sigma and path. In fact, I started a group about a year ago with that title in it was very short descriptions, of what kind of person would be most commonly identified, and you are spot on, nice job sharing it with my group and am encouraging them to subscribe and comment their views. I look forward to more videos on various topics regarding archetypes traits in human behavior. How nice of you to show up on my feed!❤

As far back as I can remember I wanted to be a social butterfly. My father put an end to that when I was 12 and he got 'friendly' and friends wouldn't come by any more. It got worse and I am still just dying for social contact. I am no contact with the awful family but just don't have the skills to belong to groups. My greatest desire has become to own a hostel in somewhere like Algeria or Morocco, so I can be surrounded by happy adventurous (socially adjusted) young people. I missed that entire part of my life :(

❤❤ thank you for you wisdom!! This resonated so much with me and how I have been feeling!!

I would just like to say thanks for doing this seriously. People pay to hear this stuff and it’s helpful thank you.

Love being a lone wolf, a reform extrovert. I live off-the-grid

This came along at the right time for me. 8 months off alcohol. (also 8 months after a brain pres and seizure) 6 months after getting dumped by a long term partner. And three weeks into a tolerance break that looks like it will actually be a permanent cessation of cannabis usage. All of December, I have been rapidly cycling between depression and mania. I have been experiencing much reward in this period but I also feel like a danger to myself in either cycle. (deep despair to impulsivity. back and forth) I have to try and make art today. Thank you for recording this video. And, I mean thank you very much.

Thank you. Words I needed to hear 🙏

Well said... I can tell you - in my case addiction is not allowed. I will no longer accept anything or anyone who demands of me. Ask if you wish, do not demand! My acceptance of who and what I am came with a requisite soul reflection and retooling of my needs and satisfying others needs. I was a victim of naive abuse from a post WW2 divorcee. Catering to others was fundamental to my Mother - to me that turned into rebellion of "acceptable behavior". I gave up on responsible forms of close relationships - they always seem so transactional. Therapy hasn't helped - but alone times of long periods have proved cathartic and empowering... Thank You for this - I am a Lone Wolf Empath! I never knew!

I'm 64 now, late-diagnosed (at 56) with autistic spectrum condition (and I mean 'condition', not 'disorder!) I am and always have been highly-sensitive and creative. I first learned to shut myself away at around the age of 8, after my experiences at the hands of others at school (teachers as well as fellow pupils) led me to understand that other people could pretty much be divided into 2 groups: those indifferent towards me, and those hostile towards me. I'm a published fiction writer and poet, and have worked for the last 20 years in the social care sector - principally as a carer for people with learning disabilities. My experiences at the hands of others could easily have turned me into a misanthrope. Whilst it's true to say that I hold many people in contempt, and have very few people whom I trust implicitly, I nonetheless am deeply empathic, and always support the underdog, the marginalised, the oppressed, the dispossessed. My sensitivity can reduce me to tears over the death of a wild animal - but it has also fed my creativity, my perceptiveness, and my deep desire to be available for any who need help. I live alone, cannot ever imagine cohabiting with another human being again, and look forward to Christmas Day entirely on my own with my books, my thoughts, and any online friends around the world who may need to connect - virtually all of whom will be fellow autists, people with mental health issues, etc. Although I am alone, I am never lonely. Yes, I have had my struggles with addiction - but these were largely fed by my sense of inadequacy at not being able to be like everyone else, and fit in. I no longer see that as inadequacy. I see it as my main strength. I'm what you might call an extroverted introvert. I enjoy performance - singing, acting, being in a spotlight. But it has to be on my terms. And afterwards, I go off stage and go off by myself. Parties? Never! Likewise ordinary social occasions. Onstage, I control the situation. In any other social context, I don't. Oh yes... I have attracted plenty of toxic wolves in my time (they also, naturally, fed addictions)! I have an instinct for them now. I have developed my instincts over many years and have learned to trust them. They're almost another 'sense' for me. I know when I'm with the 'wrong' people, or in 'wrong' situations. Through my writing, I'm a natural and strong communicator. That communication, though, requires - for me - a high level of detachment. That sounds contradictory, maybe - but I've a feeling you'll know what I mean. You see so much more when you're on the outside looking in than you are ever likely to see when you're on the inside and right in the thick of it. That's my take on it, anyway. You're so right on the 'trauma bond' issue. I fall hopelessly and helplessly in love, and very quickly - and always with people who end up being emotional vampires. I avoid relationships now - but I have a much better relationship with myself! I take much better care of myself that way. I no longer feel I need the 'validation' and 'sense of completeness' that many people say can only come through having a significant other in my life.

I am an Ambivert I realized. I can be both.

Thank you for this, I'm blown away 🤯❤

Stumbled on this and you've literally just nailed me. Nobody's ever done that... this makes so much sense. Thank you ❤

If you learned how to be alone you are never lonely. All 3 mentioned traits hitting on spot and are expressed - in my personal case - with an Human Design "Manifestor" and an INFP-A (Mediator) personality. Getting known some rules from stoic philosophy helps to keep your thoughts in check while you are with yourself and living out more the creative side than the tendency to addictions. It is advisable to reduce screen time to an minimum and carefully picking your partner for life. Once found, tell honest how and who you are and be as much as you can loyal, honest and forthcoming to this particular being. My personal advises for a meaningful journey with those traits.

lone wolf empath=fearful avoidant/disorganized attachment.

Wow! I don’t think I have ever come across such a succinct and spot on description of this trait, let alone identifying it. Thank you so much for this amazing and helpful insight.

Wow. I didn’t know I needed that. Thank you 🙏

I haven't felt lonely in 4 years. Probably because I believe women like me and want me. I also left my narcissist. But I didn't leave just her. I left ALL women.

Any other ADHDers in the comments?! Felt this to the core!

This was delivered in a very easy to watch way somehow, thanks. Hope you have a great holiday.

Wow. Thank you. I was speechless at the end. Your 13 minute video explained what's been happening to me for decades. Now it all makes sense. I hope more people are made aware of this.

I'm pretty sure she's just making all this stuff up. A lot of statements about "lone wolves" but where's the evidence, where's the logic for her assertions. Sounds plausible, right, but really she's just making stuff up for youtube views. Hey, you're not a lonely shut in, you're a lone wolf with special abilities that set you apart. We love to hear that, don't we. All these labels, and attributes, are meaningless. Being a lone wolf is not a personality trait, its more a result of the circumstances in your life that have nothing to do with you. There are many, many people who go through life alone, because for one reason or another have not formed those connections even though they would prefer to. You're not special, you're just another person whose alone.

I just feel like I've seen the most important video after a decade-long quest for understanding that I've pursued for a variety of reasons. It describes a large part of my life so much that I wish all those who are only at the beginning of this search to see exactly this video as soon as possible. Thank you Fraya. Instant subscription.

Wow. I didn't know I needed to hear this. Thank you. 😊

Thank you for this video!

I’m feeling grateful for your passion and insight. I expect a lot of people who see this are going to be able to be accepting of their conflicts with being alone, maybe find the determination to get themselves through the tedious and difficult phases of creating.

this is such a relief to hear!! I feel all of these and my friends, family and wife don't really understand it. it makes socializing difficult and people think I'm just being selfish and distant. So frustrating! thank you for creating this video!!!!!

Thank you, I needed to hear this. Now it's all fits.

It took me a lifetime to begin to understand what you sum up here. I only wish I had stumbled upon this decades ago, it would have save me a LOT of introspection and suffering. Be blessed for the help you give others.

I'm thrilled you made this video. You really hit the nail on head with it. You must be one too. Much love to all the lonewolf empaths!

I receive this message from every part of me that it resonates with. Thank you for sharing your words and insights. God bless you

This video revealed to me the truth of my nature with unbelievable accuracy. Thank you for your incredibly helpful insights!

Thank you for such a great video it is on point!

Wow! So much of this resonates with me and I have found it very helpful. Thanks!