"I don't hate people...I just feel better when they aren't around." - Charles Bukowski

“If you don't have many friends, that means you have a lot of life experience.” - Søren Kierkegaard

I never tried to be alone, it is just something that has always been there.

Childhood plays a huge part in the LW mentality in adults, I feel: if you've been neglected, rejected or abandoned by people in your early life there's only so many times your heart can put up with it, then it shuts down and you resign yourself to the LW life and deal with it as best you can. Yes, it's not ideal - most people ache to be loved and part of a 'group' whether that's friends/co-workers/family/relationship - but Life is what you make of the cards dealt to you and if that means being alone is the road you must walk, walk it with dignity and no shame.

Being a loner is the easy part. The hard part is convincing my family members that I'm not depressed, i just like being alone.

Being a loner is much more peaceful but I've found that it's important to have shared experiences with people who care about you. The problem is, you can't rely on people to be consistent throughout your life. Most of your relationships will change, people will leave or you might leave them which can bring a lot of pain.

What drove me into depression was not being able to understand why I ended up alone. What drove me out was recognizing that I needed to be alone in order to thrive and embracing the life of solitude whole heartedly.

I'm a lone wolf with employment. I've been in too many bullying and toxic environments. I had so many painful and debilitating experiences they've actually given me ptsd. I'm picking up the pieces and healing, trying to figure out my next step, and knowing I have to face my fears but sometimes I feel frozen. I am reading books on joy, on boundaries, on communication.

Being alone is a power that only a few have mastered. I'm not lonely, I find being alone to be enriching.

I can't begin to tell you how grateful I am for finding your channel... you're helping and I thank you

Thankyou 🙏 I love how you explain the benefits of solitude, when all around us society gives the message that there is something wrong with us if we are alone

This video resonated with the deepest part of my soul and gave me a new meaning and understanding of this phase of my life. Thank you very much!

As from my experience, being alone might be boring sometimes but it is MUCH better than being among toxic people. I still love being among people but it must be the right crowd. Being in the wrong crowd (toxic people, people who's values are not matching your own, etc) is really a hell.

Thank you, man. As someone who is constantly in a battle between needing solitude and longing for close relationships I found this video somewhat comforting

I love this video! thank you for making it. I often deliberately put myself in solitude every once in a while, and though there are worse days, I do think that these periods are very important. they make me appreciate myself and what I have, what I'm willing to stand for regardless of majority's opinion and why. after a period being alone, I always come back as a better person/friend, because time away from people makes me appreciate them more (expect less), understand myself more, communicate more clearly.

Thank you for this video😊 Was really helpful

Your video describes me beautifully. I am by nature introverted. I like my socialization in small doses because I find that I don’t often meet the expectations of others. I process slowly and so can’t keep up at times. I am 74 and have spent quite a lot of time in the company of others. I have yet to find a place where I feel like I belong or people that I feel are “my people “. I do not have any family connections so I spend most of my time alone rather than putting on a persona that isn’t me. I am alone but not lonely. I understand what you mean about the coldness of being alone. I feel it too. Even though I have made great effort I have yet to find that warmth, companionship and sense of community that you speak of although I have witnessed it in very many others. My consolation is that we seldom miss what we have never had.

I think for most people, the part about solitude that really works is being able to have your own private space. So much of how we live and how society works tries to deny that.

This episode is the most powerful motivation for me as I relate and connect everything which is being said. Living in a place where social expectations are just the opposite of what I believe this channel has helped me a lot. Thank you so much❤ ❤

I like your posts. Your honest introspection and the credit you give to your sources, allowing further exploration.

There's no need to commit to sticking with solitude or socialization. Both are needed, like seasons, like day and night. I like how creative people get that when you are socially quiet, good things are happening. And when you're more out doing stuff, that's fun.

Excellent statement on the lone wolf! At 72 I find my greatest peace while alone. Knowing there are a few good friends and family members available to chat with and share deeper disclosures keeps loneliness and isolation at bay. Many of your readers would likely feel the same.

This is my favorite video of yours, good work and thank you

You make some great points, it’s true, we sometimes seek solitude because we are running away or because it’s important for the human experience, but it’s closer to nature to think of this as a temporary state, meant to renew and redirect the individual with life within communities.

The ending brought me to tears. Hearing that the lone wolf is actually looking to not be alone spoke so deeply about how I feel currently. The transition phase mentioned really sums up where I feel like I am presently, and how I crave authentic intimacy and connection with my brothers and sisters in this life. I just need to find myself first.

I never comment on videos but this was like the re telling of my introspective thoughts on being a solitary person! Thank you extremely for putting my existence in words so eloquently!

Excellent video. Thought provoking and it certainly resonated with me, as did your conclusion. Thank you. I will investigate more of your videos. I loved the simplicity of the animation. Beautifully done. Thanks again.🙂👍

This video was so elightning to me. Thanks for sharing it.

Minimal human interaction is all I need to satisfy my social craving. Like going out once in while or a chat on the phone.

To all the lone wolfs watching , welcome to the pack .

There is a thing about friendship that people who talk about it never mention. Friendship is always talked about in an idealistic, "disneyfied" way but there are many so-called friends that just see a friend as an entertainment gadget. Something that can be replaced with a game or something similar. Nothing to have empathy with or care about just a tool for making background noise. I don't understand those people and they are one of many reasons why I am a lone wolf too.

Thank you for such a beautiful explanation covering all sides of the story..🙏😊 You are absolutely right at the end part as well ..

Loners are old souls looking to connect with other old souls

I became a loner after being hurt by a few of the ppl closest to me. I’ve always been reserved but still somewhat social. I took a few years basically pushing everyone else away, I needed time to love myself and find what about life I really enjoyed. I realized I don’t hate ppl, I was surrounding myself with the wrong ppl who would end up hurting me, because I wasn’t always in the best state of mind. Now I’m more social since I’ve improved, better ppl are around me and it makes me appreciate ppl who are close to me. I still spend alot of time alone but as long as you don’t develop bad habits while alone, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t be bitter about the pain and hateful towards other humans. Beautiful video👏🏻

Transition at 10:44 gives time for thought, prepares you for the turn in the narrative. A masterpiece. Congratulations, such a peaceful and clear way of clarifying an issue that goes deep into our lives. Thank you

An entirely wonderful piece of work, well done and thank you!

“They’re a wolf who elects to be alone temporarily as they try to find a mate and find a place to have a family” Really felt that. Feel like I’ve isolated myself as I’ve been trying to look in the mirror and face my own reflection. Letting go of previous habits and addictions to create the life i desire. A wolf who cant look after himself cant look after his pack.

Through solitude, I learned more about myself compared to what I once knew. I grew as a person mentally and emotionally. Of course, I would not want to experience this ever again and everyone else should not for what ever cause but, I think everyone must go through this period in life. Even if you are a victim or forced by circumstances or your self, being alone is a learning experience, a soul-searching and purpose-finding journey. You are never alone if you are contented with your, self.❤

@16:07 so true😊 This video is so well articulated. I really appreciate your research into this topic. It's highly relatable. Thank you for the message. Very well delivered 🙏🤍✨

I needed this. Thank you.

I’m a Lone Wolf 🐺.. I’ve been in “ survival-mode “ and have been w/o friends + family and have battled everything. Tough.. YES. But being alone is also addictive.

Exactly. The wolf leaves the pack to create his own. That's what we should all strive for - to find our own pack. A place where we belong and a place where we can truly be ourselves. Find people who allow you to be you and who make you better person.

Thank you fot only this video but this channel as it really spoke to me and my life situation. You convey the messages very well. God bless you!

It's a period of healing, to restart things with better knowledge of what kind of people to aviod and what kind of people to let in 🤗 Good video! 🙂

Ever since I experienced discrimination, double standards and injustice from people around me, I have become a Lone Wolf!

We destroy ourselves by seeking other people.

Thank you, man. This has touched me deeply.

Thanks many times for your work. You'll always have a follower from Mexico

Social anxiety that i developed over the last few years has forced me into isolation. I used to love being around ppl and found it easy to see the beauty in each person and refrain from judging their 'flaws'. Now i avoid being around ppl as the anxiety and being overly self aware, and being ironically super judgemental of every action i take (i also project that judgement over people) has created a recipe for misery. However today i realized that its better to accept those feelings and thats its ok to not wanna be around ppl, and guess what, im starting to feel better. Pls forgive my rambling i just felt like venting

First off thank you very much for video. I have been a loner all my life and my perspective on this has changed significantly over the years. As a child I felt an outcast in my own family, I did well in school but questioned things early on when I realized a lot of the material is absolutely useless. I am now happily married but aside from my spouse, I am very very distant from society. I see no benefit to having any participation in a society so focused on the meaningless and whose values are very far from aligned with my own. I avoid the news/media like the plague, I have a very small circle of friends and I do not like being in public unless necessary. I prefer being alone because humanity is simply not worth the effort anymore. I have watched my fellow human become the more self obsessed, greedy and especially oblivious to the hardship/pain of others. I have spent a good portion of my life alone and I have always preferred it. I have always held the belief people will do good given the chance but I am less and less of a believer of that daily. I have met many people who made me wish I was alone instead of enduring the presence for as little time as humanly possible. I think some of us are not meant to "fit in" to society and they are occasionally labeled as outcasts. In my experience this is usually done by those who have not actually experienced what they judge. I prefer to watch society at a distance, watching for signs the focus on the meaningless has shifted to something better. I do see the value of interacting with others more, and when they earn that right by being decent people long term, then I will consider changing. But it's been close to 50 years and I currently feel I will be more distant in the future, not less.

Very good video. The last section was especially interesting. Thank you.

Thank you for sharing your perspective. There are times for solitude and there are times for being with others. It never has to be one or the other,

I am that lone wolf. This video hit deep. You beautifully explained my solitude experience. I watched it several times in a row and it helped me understand what I have been going through. I live alone, I chose it, I enjoy it. But yet, sometimes the loneliness sinks in painfull, unbearable agony. My solitude can without warning flip on me, cause depression and hopelessness. It's tough getting out of those holes alone. Videoes like yours are a valued company and give understanding. Thank you for you

I’ve always lived like this, moving between periods of being alone and being more familial with friends. Right now, I’m in my lone wolf stage, enjoying my peace and freedom while I continue to heal. This is a beautiful video, thank you.

Love the video and knowledge imparted in the script. I’ve been alone for now 17 years and the last 12 of those, in a quest to know and improve myself, work on my Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and have found some wisdom and am ready to rejoin the pack, find love and hopefully know which boundaries to set so that my inner peace remains there!

Great video ! I love the open conclusion where thriving towards the lonely wolf can also just be a mean to heal oneself !

I've come the to conclusion that all the problems in my life have only come from other people. I've been living solo (more or less) for years and I love it. I don't seem to cause myself any problems. Humanity is in a strange place and I think the social order is falling apart rapidly. Why take the risk dealing with other people when they don't provide enough value?

This video resonated with me strongly because I live alone and don't get involved in others lives and yet I have to endure people who constantly talk about me behind my back who seem to not like that I don't conform to their ways of life.

Hey, I can't thank you enough for your video :) I've been struggling with identifying as a lone wolf and this really left reflect a lot. Also I love all of your work, it really lets me strive for greatness💪

Thank you for this 💙

I’ve been a lone wolf for the last 3 years. Through out my early 20’s I was really social and was in multiple relationships. Every day I was hanging out with friends or girl friend. When I started getting closer to 30, being around people all the time started to get annoying to me. I still have friends and female company one in a while. But being alone is the happiest and most at peace I’ve been in a long time and I love it!

The symmetry of the lone wolf's life and its delicate balance between isolation and introspection is something I deeply resonate with. Your video offers a tableau of solitude that feels both whimsical and profound, much like the world inside a snow globe. It's a singular vision, beautifully executed.

Really interesting video! Thank you for sharing

Well done! Thank you for a wonderful video.

This is an _excellent_ essay. Focusing on one topic lets you explore it in depth, with time to share your personal insights. I enjoy hearing your story, as much as you're willing to share with strangers, and this tighter focus emphasizes how each idea is meaningful to you.

The only thing better than a pack of one is a pack of two. I was/am a lone wolf & I met a significant other that is also a lone wolf. We both never thought we could “click” with anyone the way we are with each other. Needless to say we’ve completely changed each other’s lives. Waking up next to someone you love doesn’t compare to much of anything else. We’ve definitely had some challenges but in all it made us both realize that true intimacy is an even deeper peace than solitude. Don’t give up on finding new member(s) for your pack.

Thank you for this brilliant piece - empty nester in the final healing stage of a long painful journey. Waking up to the art of non-toxic friendship as a desire not a need.

Love the video, love your Words. Thanks. Caring and sharing.

Exactly. I’ve been on the path of the lone wolf for a few years now. When people asked: don’t you get lonely? I replied I’m my own best friend! This time of solitude has helped me connect with nature,love,myself,… and showed me that you’re never really alone. And looking at it now, with your complete explanation, I realize I was searching my pack. And I think I found it… To everyone out there having doubts, just relax and trust the universe… It will listen.

"It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson~ Thank you for the video! Through your solitude it seems you went deep within and then burst out into the world sharing beautiful messages and videos. I'm grateful for you and your work! Loneliness is the shared condition that ironically brings people together. This loneliness drives us into the depths and can give us a deeper understanding of not only ourselves but others. Forging a tribe of seekers and creators. To all my lonely friends around the world. I feel you, I see you and even when you think you are alone in something, there are groups and communities like this one where you can find like minded people who can encourage you from all around the world.

This brings tears to my eyes, Beautiful!

Thank you for the wonderful vids!

A wolf that can walk his path alone and with his pack is very powerful be both 🐺 ❤️

This is the first time I’ve heard about the “other side” of Lone Wolves. The family aspect of the pack and Alphas as parents. Very interesting premise and it opens the mind to view a simple concept in a whole new light. Thank you. ❤

In a time like this when my heart has taken enough, your channel brought back joy to me. Thus I feel proud to be what I always use to be 'the loner' 😊 but today in a different sense i.e. my soul connects here because i am amongst awakened souls all put together in some shape or form and we understand each other’s language....the language that speaks depth😊🙏🙏🙏....glad to meet you all

The idea/ research on the 'dispersing wolves' is new to me. Wow! The keyword is temporary. They (wolves) still find their way back 'home', or perhaps start their own path/ family to reconnect. I can compare this temporary withdrawal to a social media detox. I have noticed that when I took a break for a while on some social media platforms and then returns a few weeks, or months later- my feed feels less toxic 🙂, (Perhaps some big tech companies way of encouraging us to come back to their platforms🙂🙂). I can come back with more energy, and/ or interest. I can also share new stories taken from my voluntary isolation experiences. I love being alone. Its so comforting. Taking a solo ride on my bicycle feels so good. But perhaps, some balance are also necessary. Just like in your other video about the 'flow state'. Being alone can set a condition to enter that state. When the mind becomes too chaotic, Take a temporary break. Dont force force flow to happen. Allow it. (Learned about the flow concept from a book by Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence)

The wolf howls at the end hit differently after watching your vid. I'm a introvert by nature. Since I was a 9-10 I used to roam forests and graveyards alone at night. Still my favorite times. Now as a adult , I learned I need others , people that I can trust. And no matter how much I want to be alone, my closest friends and family come before my desire for isolation. Now when it comes to retaining a partner ... that's the hard part. I had a lot of relationships but my individualistic nature always translated to my partners as distant and not giving them enough attention... when in fact i was thinking about them all the time. Oh well. maybe ill find someone that understands. Edit: great video as always. Thank you.

I really connect with this one. I've recently lost my family through divorce and have returned to this lone wolf state. The idea that this is a temporary phase while I heal myself gave me an overwhelming sense of peace. I am not doomed to live here forever unless I chose to. This is only a stage that presents me with opportunities for growth and self realization. Thank you for what you put into the world with your videos. They have been a major part of my healing journey and I am eternally grateful.

Hello. I just found your channel a week ago and having been watching all your videos, when I have time. I like especially this one, about the lone wolf. I tend to reject labels about myself and about others, but I would definitely say that I am a lone wolf. No, I do not hate people, but find it very tiresome to deal with people in general. On top of that, I love freedom and I am very independent. I really like my own company and the peace that comes from the absence of discussions and disputes. As you said "the lone wolf chooses freedom from the tiranny of the pack". And, I can understand your reference to fending for yourself in a Scandinavian landscape. I am a person from the south of this world who have moved many years ago to Scandinavia. This cold place made me discover myself, my courage. I pay glady the price for being a lone wolf. So keep up the good work. Your videos are very good.

You have great content, man! Very good!

I've learned over the recent years, that it is not the solitude that I crave, it is the peace. If I am with people who makes me feel at peace, I much prefer this over solitude. However, I've been living alone for more then a decade, I'm not sure if I would be ready to swap ALL my alonetime for company at once :) Thank you for another video, that ibspires reflection

"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." -Carl Gustav Jung

..great video, absolutely agree with the final point. Thank you

Ever since I started being one I’ve thought I was like that the whole time, but the truth about it really hits the heart. Thanks for making this video.

"Yearning for solitude, I wandered into the wilderness of loneliness, only to discover that the silence held a haunting emptiness I never anticipated."-me

A philosopher is sitting on a bench, thinking deeply about life in his solitude. Then a random bypassing man comes and sits next to him by saying “I’ve seen you alone and decided to accompany you here”. Philosopher answers: “My loneliness started when you sit next to me”.

Thank you so much for your insight - always good to hear the same thoughts that occur to me from another human being

Thank you for this upload. Was in healing trying my best to be in introspect phase, yet negative spiritual etc of good etc intervention of those that arent alive come and go so often. Gave me hope though.

Great video, as always. Thank you. I spent decades believing that I enjoyed my own company and wanted to be left alone. As I grew older and, perhaps, a little wiser, I came to understand that what I really wanted was a break from the more damaging relationships in my life and to build a new 'pack' which supported my needs instead of imposing the needs of the pack upon me. It took a long time and quite a few painful failures to understand this. Now, I accept that I need close relationships in order to be happy but, newsflash, I can choose those relationships!! As an ambivert, I still treasure alone time but I've finally admitted to myself that I also need select people in my life as well.

I think everything comes back to the philosophy of the yin-yang. And also carl jung's study of taking both the brightness of the light and the darkness of the shadow to live completely. I'd like to think of it this way, You need darkness to set up the reason to get back to the light Neither of them can exist without each other and finding the striking balance is what we need to do imo. Cheers

That last part really resonates with me. In my current "lone wolf" life, I have the urge of connecting with a community of people who embrace what I value: mutual respect, sincerity, and acknowledgement and appreciation of the agency of others. Starting online, and, eventually, having a piece of land somewhere with a self-governing constitution that demands the same. I love people, but I hate society.

I really appreciate how you have disassembled the concept of the lone wolf. My personal opinion based spending time as the “outcast” yet having to work in a very collaborative way for survival is that the hedgehog dilemma is only a dilemma if you think pain is wrong. Pain just like sadness, anger and etc. are normal parts of life that we cannot and should not push away. The issue is when things approach “extremes”. Negative emotions are just as instructive as positive ones. And wholeness only comes when we accept the whole of life, negative and positive.

I would prefer to be unalone but I am not like others, and others are not like me. If I wanted to compromise my integrity, I would have many friends, but I know that I don’t fit in, and that my contentedness lies in my hands only. Not in people, not in their perception of me, their opinions or any other circumstance which is beyond my control. In order to accept yourself, you need to make sure that you ARE who you SAY you are. Not the loudest person in the room, not the most popular person but the one that you ACTUALLY are.

This was quite insightful, I never thought of myself just being alone only so that I could properly prepare myself to find people who I truly enjoy being in the presence of and I truly can manage being with them. I don't know when I would be prepared for that, if I ever will but for now I'll enjoy the comfort of being by myself and my own thoughts

Can’t thank you enough. You’ve just described the lone wolf I have been and maybe -my future plans to reconnect… excellent video!!❤

I have been around your content for a while now but you haven't ceased to amaze me with the way you handle metaphors and analogies. Thank you so much for producing videos like this.

In search of connection, I distance myself from an individual or group who devalued, disregarded, belittled, used, abused, manipulated, took me for granted, or alienated me. Attempts to connect precede isolation, lone wolf is not a choice but the only path to endless possibilities. It's a journey, not destiny or fate as others perceive.

I was recommended this video soon after a new friend called me a lone wolf, and I agreed. I believe your explanation helped me understand myself a bit more. Or at the least start a thought process

I never meant to be a lone wolf, but COVID forced it upon me. I was actually a stand up comedian before COVID hit. Now I’m just a person who drinks beer alone every night, and gets anxiety everyday I have to face people.

i love to be alone , its not lonely, it just feel freedom , no one can’t bother you , no one can’t have you , its priceless.