I think I checked almost 30 of them. *sigh*

About 8 of the 34 proved to be arteries of my self sabotage. The two missing: Depression & sleep. (Not into the pills, know I need to exercise to get the right chemicals flowing) still experimenting w/niacin -ref: Bill w. In "food matters" I could be well rested & feel overwhelmed.. then sleep to check out. *I know action is my cure & motion creates emotion. Glad I took notes on this second viewing. Bless you! & thank you! For your gift! -Darren

sometimes I am avoiding myself.

You hit my nail on the head with: waiting to know everything I can before feeling comfortable starting... I am a classic overthinker (#5 type on the Enneagram) and I am perpetually afraid that if I don't know enough (become competent) I might fail and be humiliated. I also fear making mistakes, and having to go back and do something over again. I even hate going shopping and forgetting one thing! I constantly feel foolish for forgetting something or doing something not exactly perfectly. I'm working on being okay with not being an expert and not having to be perfect to jump in and get started.

All of them

I do both of these behaviours - approval seeking and living to expectations. It created a 42 yr old woman who doesn't know herself.

@@swoozle2378 It's never too late to change

I hear you. It's a big nasty one, isn't it?

@@juliakristinamah Procrastination is a bad habit I inherited from genetics.

I don't think there's a gene for that - but you likely learned it from your parents.

What would happen if you couldn't maintain it Duane?

I do all of these too

Glad it connected Kim

Yasss! GET IT! Life is too short to stay on the sidelines.

Give yourself compassion Adriana - growth is hard. Looking inward is hard. But you're here and you're doing it. Don't forget that.

All this stuff I am listening to is amazing. Learning so much thank you !!!

What are you preserving yourself for?

@@juliakristinamah Special occasions. I'm only to be shared sparingly...

@@juliakristinamah What are your "heart-centered go-getters" going to get?

Amen brother

@@juliakristinamah Amen!🙏❤

Chris Hill ♥️😊

@@NenaLavonne Aww Thanks!

Glad you're here Lizzie and glad it connected.

Lizzie ♥️😊

Really glad those metaphors connected

Really glad it connected brother. Time to get out of your own way?

Julia Kristina Counselling I appreciate it so much. It absolutely is, I need to break down the negative through patterns and the crippling fears that have been eating me up and stopping me from doing certain things to leave my comfort zone!

Get it girrlll!! YOU have amazing things to offer this world.

Thank you for your kind words corrine, it means a lot ❤️🤗 /sending virtual hug

What's the truth?

Glad it made things make sense Jamie.

Good for you for being willing to do the work. It's not easy, but so worth it.

Glad it connected.

lol. Funny how those hard truths can be hard to hear!

@@juliakristinamah isn't that the truth thank you Julia we're getting me through the hard times this one hit home take care of the children they are our most precious resource🤾‍♂️🤸‍♂️🦄🌻♥️🧸😁 much love and spiritual hugs keep up the good work you are a bright and Shining Light into my darkness helping me see things I could not or would not before🇺🇸🦅🌹👍

@@juliakristinamah oops that should have said for getting me through but you understand👩‍🎓😁👍🌹

I'm so grateful to hear that Mama Bear. Thanks to you and your partner for being here.

You can do this April!

Awareness is the first big step. Now, do you have thoughts on how you can change this behaviour?

Julia Kristina Counselling no i feel like it’s hard to resist most days

What are you willing to do to move through it?

Lol- glad it connected brother. And I hope you're waking up to yourself and learning and growing rather than dying ;-)

Thanks brother. I'm really glad it helped. Good for you for having the courage to look inward and do this work.

I hear you. I've struggled with those ones a lot too. What's the first step you could take to get past those?

I think the first step is recognizing when I'm avoiding thing because of the fear and doubt.

Welcome here friend! Glad you found us. So what's one of your takeaways from this talk?

Julia Kristina Counselling that I have a tendency to think that I’m on my own team and I want what’s best for me so I don’t see myself as a threat to my own well being, but In reality sometimes the best thing for me is the thing that I don’t technically want long story short: I am spirit soul and flesh, (subconscious, conscious, body) and the body is sneakily at war with the spirt and soul sometimes, kinda like, 3 people in 1, thanks again!

Hi nice meeting you.

Lisa marie Kunkel hello nice to meet you to

@@juliakristinamah Hi you have helped me with all ur videos. Everyday I listen n watch keep life going. Love to you n family

Silas Cochran Yes, if we were as kind to ourselves as we are to others, our lives would be so much happier!

@@shirleykaye4344 yes ma'am I am working on it I am getting a little better I'm eating better and I tried to surround myself with things that make me happy you have a great day big spiritual hug from Silas😁🤸‍♂️🇺🇸🧸

Holy $#!t, (chills in the best way)...epic video, thank you thank you, liked, shared with many and gonna come back for more.

Did you loose your "why"?

@@juliakristinamah how do you find it once you've lost it?

I'm really glad you're in the Shift Society and getting so much out of it.

Thanks brother. Glad you're here.

Dawn-Marie Barron Hi, Dawn-Marie! I am totally with you. Grief piled on top of grief landed me in the hospital in Oct 2017, in critical condition. I am still dealing with working through the grief. And, while all that old grief is unresolved, my uncle died this past September and my aunt died this past December. I go to a bereavement support group, which is often very helpful. If there is one near you it would be worth it to go to a meeting and see if it is right for you. I am so sorry that you are having to cope with this pile of one thing after another. I am glad to read that you are aware of your feelings, that you are taking steps to move forward, even by following this channel. I put up signs all around my house to remind me of a truth that my brain resists believing. They say “Nothing is permanent. Everything changes. This, too, shall pass.” Reminding myself of this helps keep me going. No matter how happy or sad we are, it isn’t permanent. A fact of life is that change happens. I don’t deal well with change, so having these signs in almost every room in my house helps me get grounded into reality. So far, you are still alive, you are still functioning, you are still taking on adult responsibilities. And so far, you have identified the main sources of your sadness, frozen state, your extreme feelings of loss. Identifying a problem is the first step toward solving it. So, you have made that first step by writing this comment. It is ok to lean on others for support and help. It is ok to grieve. Please allow yourself to feel your feelings. I care, and there are doubtless many others who care. You are so much stronger than you realize. I know, I hate that when people say it to me. But it is true. You have been through and are still in hell, and you are still standing! And know that you are not alone. Grief really sucks. We both have work to do to accept our reality and move forward. We can do it! Now I know there is a kindred spirit out there, you, who understands my roadblock, and you know I am here understanding yours. One of the goofiest things I do to comfort myself is sing the “Sing” song from Sesame Street out loud when walking one of my dogs. It really helps!