4 Challenging Things God Will Use to Align You with The One

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How will God align you to "the one"? Here are 4 challenging things that often happen when God is in the process of aligning you to the one, the right person he wants you to marry one day.
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@rachelsharp7495 12 күн бұрын

Being a young woman who never really had a good, healthy, Christian male figure in my life. It is so helpful and a blessing to me to watch you and your teachings and your advice. Thank you for being faithful to God and for what you do.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

I'm so glad the content has been useful!

@TheKristaendicott 12 күн бұрын

Same!!!❤

@colleengilroy624 12 күн бұрын

I’m an old woman who never had a good healthy Christian male figure either. I too am getting much help from your videos and biblical teachings. You’re helping us ladies of all ages. Thank you 😊

@CupcakeChan2611 11 күн бұрын

Saaaammmee

@kimvroom310 5 күн бұрын

Thank you sooo much ❤️❤️❤️🙏 me too 🙏🥲 God bless you! 🙏🤍✨️

@Aatifah 12 күн бұрын

1 - Realizing you have to let go of someone you thought was the one 0:20 2 - Having to sacrifice one relationship desire to experience the fulfillment of another relationship desire 1:49 3 - Beginning to face that one fear that has directly blocked you from a healthy relationship 4:38 4 - Beginning to accept how inadequate the one is to fulfill you like you thought they would 6:25

@ashleessingingsensations7294 12 күн бұрын

Amen!

@user-zi5km2px7r 12 күн бұрын

Use peace as your navigator. If your idolizing someone out of or in, be assured God WILL REMOVE them.....

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

God bless!

@AnnTutorials-ot4ef 12 күн бұрын

Few weeks ago i cried out to God and surrender this person that i have been chatting and Video call with for 6 months..i like him we just met online we have both have similar beliefs/values he is also a christian and single for how many years...Since the first day we met online he is just so relax and seems like very content for being single...like he did not give me any hint if he likes me or what we just keep on communicating online..so i keep on waiting if he will say something bout his feelings...but one day i just decided to surrender and let go maybe this person just want to build friendship with me....fast forward ...this person confessed that he likes me romantically...and when i heard it i just feel peace then wondering why i did not feel butterflies in my stomach like before when i haven't been baptized and become christian...till now we continue our communication and i keep on praying for this man.

@nicholastracy4915 12 күн бұрын

I understand, don't overthink it. Overanalyzing things can really harm your ability to feel their beauty. You CAN know a person in spirit, he's probably revealed things to you other girls in person may not even know. I'm in a somewhat similar situation with someone, it's unprecedented for me, I never talk to girls online. We know of/know each other but it's been years and years, and likewise connected over our shared faith. There are no guarantees, I place no expectations on her she's in a difficult situation that's not easy. I have my own struggles. The incredible blessing is just having someone I feel deeply for who is in the faith, not like all the other girls I used to know on these streets out here. I've literally passed up so many chances for things with other women, secretly, just text her about mundane topics lol. Even if nothing transpires between us physically, being in touch with her has brought me closer to God.

@AnnTutorials-ot4ef 12 күн бұрын

So true about dont overanalyze things and about maybe something revealed to me like the first day i can just feel the peace and contentment that he has of being single for how many years but when i start to like him my heart aches for this man but what i've mentioned he did not give any hint that what my heart ache more and decided to surrender him to God...a bit funny on the next day that is the time that man confessed that he likes me

@marnie7714 12 күн бұрын

Butterflies are actually not good. Those of us from bad relationships know the butterfly feeling. When you talk to people in securely attached relationships, they feel peace not butterflies. Butterflies are our nervous systems warning.

@JillCee 6 күн бұрын

Watch for his fruit and fruit of the relationship more than anything else. Actions always speak louder than words. Take it one step at a time.

@timktmusic 12 күн бұрын

I've already had two "she's not the one" experiences in the past 3 months. Also, I feel like the Lord is telling me to deal with my issues first before I get blessed with a godly woman. But it's easier said than done like I might have to wait way longer than I thought 😔

@danilaroche1156 12 күн бұрын

Better to wait. Make sure you don't incur any soul ties or even heavy making out. Guard your heart & body or else, you'll be heartbroken. I got tied to my ex just making out.

@timktmusic 12 күн бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 yeah I'ma have to stay sexually pure while I wait :)

@Tinkerbell8714 12 күн бұрын

I’ve experienced a few of those “he’s not the one” this year as well. Didn’t get to actually date any of them in person. I feel God is helping me deal with my issues so I don’t carry this baggage forward and affect my husband to be with it.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

Keep being faithful to the Lord. Dive deep into the process of loving God and following him and he will take care of the results he wants for you!

@lapris7380 12 күн бұрын

You have to learn how to be lead by God before you can lead a wife and household. Allow God to prepare you. It’s better to take the necessary time preparing yourself now rather than not waiting, jumping into a relationship that’s not meant for you, and having to spend even more time fixing it than you would have if you were obedient to God in the beginning. Trust him he has good plans for you. Focus on your relationship with him and he will add everything else. Don’t make a relationship and a wife an idol. Learn to love by loving God and he will bring you your person when you are ready.

@jennhawkins5356 12 күн бұрын

Mark, it amazes me how God…His Holy Spirit uses you! This isn’t only for singles. Something very sad, but real is this is also something that currently married men and women of terminally ill spouses are facing. We thought they were our forever person, they weren’t good for us, but God has been revealing to us that we need to surrender to God’s sovereign will and plan to step into what He has for us.

@Strive1324L 12 күн бұрын

I can relate to this, just recently I accepted that someone I thought could be THE ONE wasn't. There are signs, if it works you'll know it and if it doesn't no amount of effort can fix it.

@rebeccacirillo2494 12 күн бұрын

Thanks Mark! 35 and been praying for 20 years and still have yet to go on my first date. I never thought God would take this long 😂

@danilaroche1156 12 күн бұрын

My beau changed his mind about marrying me. At first he was so clear. He said his OCD & mental health issues prevented our relationship. I'm willing to let him go but it's hard. I loved him.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

God bless as you follow the Lord!

@sh6460 12 күн бұрын

Ty Mark. Working through my issues, too slowly at times. I pray as I do that I can be open to the one God has for me.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

Amen, God is good!

@kelseydamons4336 6 күн бұрын

These recent few videos you've been posting have been so ON POINT IN MY SEASON 😭🔥🔥🔥 Praise God!!

@vegansinthewildover5023 12 күн бұрын

Yes, I’m at #3. I’ve been hiding behind my debt as a reason to not yoke myself to someone. But that seems to be dissolving.

@ashleessingingsensations7294 12 күн бұрын

I've let go of number 1, and 2, a few years ago, and number 3 I'm going to have to let go of. I got abandoned by my dad when I was 4 years old, and I have a far that a man that I might get into a relationship with a man, that he will leave me, just like my dad did. However, I can let go of this because the Bible says," I will never leave nor forsake you".

@alogan9502 12 күн бұрын

Yes to the first one, currently in this season of letting go of someone who I thought was the one. Now in a season of absolute isolation. It's sooo hard.

@JesseOaks-ef9xn 12 күн бұрын

I just want to see people be happy in their relationships. My marriage didn't work out and I know most of the blame is mine. It takes prayer and study to navigate a possible marriage relationship. Don't stress out, God has got you covered.

@ModernTraveler 12 күн бұрын

Well this was… written for me. I was engaged up until February, so there’s point number 1. And it brought up deeply seeded abandonment issues from my childhood… so there’s point number 3. And the person I’ve met lives with a spirituality that inspired me to walk closer with Him and get baptized.

@siuzannavyshneva6312 12 күн бұрын

Thank you for this message! At this point in my life as a thirty-year-old, I believe in love as it unfolds. I dropped the whole premise of "the one". I know there is a God-ordained marriage. And there is also a mockery of marriage, orchestrated by narcissists all over the world. I believe it's great that I never dated anyone and only kissed three men in my whole entire life. And I believe that's actually awesome because I let in Jesus first. I'm a believer, and that's my biggest blessing to date. God knew that I would be alright. And I am. This might be "living in the last days," but it is still as magical as the first days. God Bless!

@MCharlerySmith 12 күн бұрын

Great teaching, Mark! May God bless, direct and increase!

@siVertueux 12 күн бұрын

This is amazing and Godly wisdom! WOW

@sharonshirah9389 12 күн бұрын

Mark, you are precious and such a gift! Your spiritual insight and advice are an absolute Godsend! God bless you & yours. Thanks so much for all you do. 😊🛐✝️

@TheRiver77 12 күн бұрын

I appreciate your ministry brother, Lord Jesus bless you! ♥️

@enojelmeli 12 күн бұрын

Thank you for this timely message. Could you expound on why you believe that most of us have to go through the experience of thinking someone was "the one" and discovering they're not?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

Mostly because of the odds. You will meet thousands of people but you will only marry one. Thus, it is very likely that we make some mistakes along the way. Additionally, finding the one is a process and a journey rather than a one time act. A part of learning to find the real one is to figure out what mistakes we made in immaturity so we can mature. Just some thoughts, there are more reasons too

@juvilynseva4708 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for this video I have received a confirmation! God bless you and more power!

@Earthsbodye 12 күн бұрын

#1 is sooo true I cannot believe it. I found out the one I thought was not true, when I turned to God, He showed me my future husband. It's very interesting

@marleeisnarlee 12 күн бұрын

Thank you Mark, you're awesome. Your videos have really helped me through this season of relational difficulty. I hope you are blessed in your own relationship!

@jamillamunar6774 12 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for this! God bless you!

@jelenahristov4094 11 күн бұрын

This video is so timely for me. Thanks!

@mariadanielaveraursic7246 6 күн бұрын

Spot on Mark!!! Abused during childhood… the elephant in the room … thank you for including that sensitive topic… even if just a little

@datcollegegirl23 12 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for these videos, they have been immensely helpful so far as I navigate my life, God bless you Mark! All the best 🙏🙏

@tinag8774 12 күн бұрын

Thank you for this message In the name of Jesus Amen 🙏🙌🙏

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

God bless!

@am1995am2 12 күн бұрын

This sounds like a good idea.💯😊

@dianne247 12 күн бұрын

Thank you Mark. Great timing!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

All glory to God!

@dianne247 12 күн бұрын

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger yes and amen!

@pascalcjelninso6571 12 күн бұрын

Thank you and God bless you, Mr. Mark.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

My pleasure! All glory to God!

@lvgrl78 2 күн бұрын

Very interesting. Thank you

@leoopamindagapioso2581 12 күн бұрын

Watching from Philippines ☺️

@jackyloudoble808 12 күн бұрын

Same here

@leoopamindagapioso2581 12 күн бұрын

@@jackyloudoble808 saan sa Philippines?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

All glory to God!

@jackyloudoble808 12 күн бұрын

Visayas. Ikaw?@@leoopamindagapioso2581

@4d.4c.4b4 12 күн бұрын

Bless you Mark, thanks

@moenlightening 11 күн бұрын

Thanks Mark!

@noellekoki7860 5 күн бұрын

Personally, I met someone who is very loving and good. However, we have a six year age gap given that he is younger. It bothers me a lot but I love that he loves and respects me. I’m praying to God to reveal to me if he is the one.

@RealJonNewton 12 күн бұрын

You must've talked to my pastor before you made this video. Each point and example was scary accurate

@heroickyle7572 11 күн бұрын

#1 happened to me this year. I surrendered her to God even the prayers I wrote in my notebook about her.

@dianaaavula4306 12 күн бұрын

Master I will be waiting for you still

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

God bless!

@realitychecks9877 10 күн бұрын

Hallelujah. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@andreacattx 12 күн бұрын

Hello thanks I really appreciate these videos❤

@user-kg6go5kj9i 12 күн бұрын

I’ve been going through my trial for almost a month, I’ve been weeping to God nonstop for almost a week, I’m trying my best to forgive my ex for how badly she’s hurt me but I harbor so much anger and resentment, I genuinely wish the best for her. I’m praying that my trial ends soon even though things seem to not be getting better, I have no idea if it’s the wrong timing for my relationship, I just want my suffering to end.

@classicfitness8478 12 күн бұрын

very nice :)

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

God bless!

@rashunr1 11 күн бұрын

I have always been a good young christian man and have always done right by in my relationships and have forgive so many times time after time. They have been coming mentally unstable lately and I'll continue to keep my trust in God regardless.

@alanaaar 10 күн бұрын

I hesitate to click on these videos sometimes lol because I know I will hear exactly what God wants me to hear, but at the same time I don't want to hear what I know I need to hear... if that makes sense. One day I'll be married and remember all the times I watched these videos in anticipation for the one.

@bcruz8893 12 күн бұрын

Will God have you meet “the one” when the timing isn’t right? And what is a sign that she is “the one” but it’s just not the right time?

@izabelamis7784 12 күн бұрын

Amen to that !!! So true. I recommend a book called “The heart.21 days to transform your life “ by R.Hirtler to anyone who wants to do a heart check, heal from past traumas, lies that your heart believed in. Great for everyone but especially singles who what to be married one day:) And of course your book Mark “Christ centered dating” for later stages :)

@Budster8770 12 күн бұрын

All 4 of these things are for me.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

God is good!

@dingding2487 11 күн бұрын

I truly thought my husband was the one too. I married him without hesitation though God showed me all the red flags. Now Im dealing with separation and it's extremely painful. I wish I had spent more time on praying and sought for my calling before the marriage.

@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz 11 күн бұрын

Another thing I learned watching women struggle with relationships is simply this. If your not actively communicating face to face with that man then you're not dating him. He's going to talk to other women. 😂 Lock him down if you don't like that.

@fabianpatrizio2865 12 күн бұрын

I want this guy's hair 🙂

@JesusistheOnlyWay222 12 күн бұрын

I wondered if you speak about the counterfeit eg vashti vs Esther, nabal vs king David

@bonnieyuse5876 12 күн бұрын

I was Abused as a Child...it only affected my Relationship because I tolerated it from my X...I thought I had to Fix Everything before I could ever be in a Relationship...I was Wrong!

@RFCM24 10 күн бұрын

Could you cover on the topic of obsession...i think that could be helpful for both males and females? ...i myself learned obsession isn't great its ok to miss someone but not to the point of being obsessed

@FloridaMarlinWrangler 12 күн бұрын

I been talking to a female i thought god had for me becuz she is also christian and yet when she opened up to me she said that we are jesus christ himself. That made me cringe. Time to move on. The right one has to be subjected to Christ and read the bible. This girl read the bible one time long ago and now follows a wacky internet prophet. I pray for God to have mercy on her soul

@hillarymacadam424 12 күн бұрын

Yeshua Ha Mashiach is our Holy Husband but how do we become Dedicated and Consecrated to Him and have a mate/ spouse?

@yvonnegurusamy1471 11 күн бұрын

So there's 2 people in my life at this point one is ticking all the boxes but I feel some inconsistency then the other is not as spiritually inclined but is showing consistency what do I do then? I'm so confused 😕

@serinamilborrow7636 6 күн бұрын

Ive staŕed to have feeling for soneone at church but recently discovered that he lives with his girlfriend of over 10 years. He is born again but they are not married. The reason theyre not married is because his girlfriend was previously married. I enquired about him because i wanted to know his status. Niw i find myself praying for him so God can move him to no longer compromise his salvation and to bring his girlfriend to salvation so that she can change her mind about marriage and if it is that God has other plans that they would part ways and through it all my feelings are growing. I serve in the church's coffee shop and the only time we spoke was when he ordered coffee😢. Why am i so attracted to this person could it be because ive been praying for a Godfearing man. Please advise

@clemsonvoorheis3923 9 күн бұрын

1-4 Guys, make more money until you die. That's the only way she'll marry you and stay with you.

@pearlwilliams1772 10 күн бұрын

Just wondering, like.. If I'm close to God would he let me meet him (my future husband) young? like 15 or 16?

@karenac670 10 күн бұрын

I was thinking of another man while in a relationship do you think this is God telling me to go to the other man?

@LiminalSpaces777 12 күн бұрын

This is too confusing, just going to completely forget about this entire debacle of mine, and let God handle everything. Now closing this video at the halfway point. Goodbye.

@FLP90 10 күн бұрын

I’ve been through number 1 numerous times, like how many more do I have to go through before he is actually finally the one?? I was just rejected by a guy I’ve been friends with and developed feelings.. I’m told to move on but then I’ve heard of some stories of the guy who rejected the girl at first just needed time and eventually comes around, so it’s not impossible

@lynnd.5135 10 күн бұрын

Was in your situation and he just married a narcissist two weeks ago. 😢

@FLP90 10 күн бұрын

@@lynnd.5135 Sucks he will have to learn the hard way! The guy I like also mentioned how the girls he’s been trying to pursue all like playing games… and there I was not playing any hard to get type of games and he don’t want that.

@lynnd.5135 10 күн бұрын

@@FLP90 that's the problem. It's almost like the nice girl finishes last

@MaryMargaretteWhite-ek5tn 12 күн бұрын

Slick one 😂…..see how he works 🙃

@Seraphim7 12 күн бұрын

Bruh….. the Brotha I thought was the one proposed to someone else . Jesus?!👀 Not a Coincidence I saw this Video..

@lynnd.5135 10 күн бұрын

Mine just got married two weeks ago 😢

@SoccerEric34 12 күн бұрын

Thanks for the wisdom Jake Gyllenhaal!!

@ashleessingingsensations7294 12 күн бұрын

His name is Mark Ballenger, Not Jake Hylenaal. No replies, please.

@SoccerEric34 12 күн бұрын

@@ashleessingingsensations7294 no. This is Jake Gyllenhaal. He played in the new RoadHouse movie.

@Praveen-jg6jn 12 күн бұрын

the fourth point is a bit unclear

@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz 12 күн бұрын

The Mexican woman I love just has to forgive me for all the times I was unintentionally harsh or rude when trying to uplift her. She's intelligent and gorgeous. Sometimes I can really say the wrong thing but I mean well. She'll figure it out soon enough. I've got stuff I'm doing in the meantime. I can't help my love for her. I've had feelings for her for 7 years. So. One day when she spends time with me she'll figure out I'm good for her heart. She's a little sensitive.

@user-xh7bf6rp6s 6 күн бұрын

Mark, I do not agree with you. God will not choose someone or align you to someone else. We have our own choice. And not all will marry.

@chrisfish9405 12 күн бұрын

The "one" doesn't exist this is ridiculous teaching

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 12 күн бұрын

You are using your own definition of "the one." I use that phrase to mean "the person God has planned for you to marry." The Bible clearly states God has a plan and will for us. I think it's ridiculous for someone to think God doesn't care about who you marry. The one doesn't mean the perfect one. applygodsword.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-one/

@photographyenthusiast9941 12 күн бұрын

I think “the one” definitely exists for many. I also think many others mess that up royally. I started looking out with enthusiasm and hope…. which has since transformed into apathy and boredom the result of the realities of certain human behaviors that are rampant these days.