4 True Signs that Your Wife Doesn't Love You Anymore and 4 False Signs

4 True Signs that Your Wife Doesn't Love You Anymore and 4 False Signs | Paul Friedman

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These 4 true signs that your wife doesn't love you anymore and 4 false signs will help you understand marriage better and inspire you to do more than just accept what is happening because as Paul explains things all the way to the end you have so much power to get happiness and love from your marriage.
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@elifrancis1093 17 күн бұрын

Hmm, it’s dumbfounding how many KZfaq videos bias this subject as the husband is not doing enough or not doing things just right to keep their wife interested, attracted and engaged. Believe me, as a man married 35 years to the same lovely woman, wives have plenty of things they need to improve on too.

@TheMarriageFoundation 16 күн бұрын

That's for sure. But you asked what you can do, not what she can do. I let wives know what they can do when they ask.

@stevenphillips8041 7 күн бұрын

28 years for me

@kimberlyboldt5213 2 күн бұрын

Yes, this is true. Both in the marriage need to work on themselves. I've been married for 41 years and we are going through problems. No marriage is perfect. The point is how we think. Is it healthy or unhealthy. Right now my husband is very angry. Angry about everthing to the point where he is drinking heavily everynight. That enhances his anger even more. We've attempted to discuss this. I love him dearly. He says he's angry with me. I try to listen and understand. I apologize if I've genuinely offended him. I do have a stubborn streak. But this is not helping. So I try to understand his overall anger. What is causing it. Why isn't he happy? We don't have a typical marriage. I wanted to be a stay at home wife, but financial circumstances wouldn't allow it. I now work 48-50 hours a week so we can make ends meet. He is retired on Social Security. I know the economy is bad and many people are struggling out there. I've guessed part of it. He needs something meaningful to do. Every man does. I keep up my looks daily. I dress conservatively, but attractively. I cook when I can, and clean when I can, but now keeping up the house has fallen on him. And we have a small home. I get why he doesn't want to do it, but he expects me to do it now even after working 48 to 50 hours a week. This has gone on now for 3 months straight. I'm now walking on eggshells, because if I say anything now, it's taken out of context. We are not intimate. We haven't been for 2 years. I miss that closeness. I fear we are drifting apart now. So I wonder now if he wants out of the marriage. Does he feel trapped? Or is he just going through a hard time? He won't discuss his feelings with me. So the only thing I can do is be patient.

@jakestown1952 Күн бұрын

You can only ever change yourself.

@dgim1231 3 сағат бұрын

Amazing how full of shit this video is. I agree with the other response how it's always the husband's fault. The wife never has any accountability. Ridiculous video.

@brucek6563 5 күн бұрын

It's almost 7 years since we've been intimate. She doesn't even want to talk about it. I figured she doesn't love me and isn't interested in me anymore. But as soon as another woman says "hi" to me when we're out, she gets jealous. I don't understand it.

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 күн бұрын

Perhaps you can learn more about women and marriage so your not befuddled? themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/

@richardgulan784 2 жыл бұрын

My wife is a dismissive avoidant. Your ways do not work for them. I do everything you say men should with their wives. She needs counseling and doesn’t see it.

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

Your wife being labeled by you, the man who promised to love her through thick and thin is lacking a husband who will treasure her. Become an ideal husband before you expect an ideal wife, Any complaining you do about her is a powerful erosion of happiness.

@m.s9146 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundation wow! You are so right about a man taking this approach.

@youraccount7003 2 жыл бұрын

I've persevered for thirty plus years with my partner but I was the only one to do the research and the work needed. She just ignored the fact that we were growing apart. I always felt like she was holding something back in our relationship. I've just realised that she has "intimacy anorexia". Which is why she pulls back from throwing herself fully into the relationship. Her behaviour meets every single criteria spot on for this issue. Probably stems from the childhood trauma of her mother pushing her away. Trouble is that it is an addictive behavioural habit which she has absolutely no intention of breaking. In a nutshell, she's shutting off her ability to love and be loved.

@ecgodsmack86 Жыл бұрын

Hope all works out for all husband's and wives!

@PapuchoG89 Жыл бұрын

For reals !! Ungrateful women to start off its me me me take take take entitlement entitlement … nagging

@phanglianteo6856 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. Very good info, practical & most important, it is genuinely honest straight.

@manknowsnothing3796 2 жыл бұрын

I needed this!! You’re so right about western psychology and therapy. Seen so many videos about women not having sex and all of that. This is the video i was needing. I’ve watched literally hundreds of videos and this is by far the best advice i’ve gotten. Even my couples therapist isnt giving me this. Thank you so much. Im going to change my thinking. Also, i think therapy should start immediately after the honeymoon. You need the tools from the start. My goodness, just great info.

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

Get the course for men, Ches, and let the couple's counselor go if you want to make super progress.

@susancruz729 Жыл бұрын

Yes. It is not a set of behaviors but a disposition of the heart. An attitude, as you say. So I don’t have to feel bad if someone does not say “I love you” every time they walk out the door, or forget my birthday or our anniversary. I would trade ALL of that for the gentle hand of empathy. One flesh........

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

desire is the enemy. Unconditional love is the cure

@fayezurrahman8141 Жыл бұрын

Very gentle, very amiable, very special psychological speaker, so insight so much perfect speaker. God bless him, I seldom like on line speaker, but this gentleman is the best.....

@ayc5136 11 ай бұрын

Your explanation is spot on!

@shaquitah1983 2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what made me pull back from putting in as much effort. Thank you so much for this clarity for our marriage. For so long I thought I was overthinking it when I wasn't. Sometimes I didn't know why but now it makes sense.

@irishsavage8715 Жыл бұрын

He’s better off without you

@allenpeters1828 Жыл бұрын

Thanks sir very good it help alot

@denniscraig2027 2 жыл бұрын

I like this your the real deal on this stuff.

@m.s9146 2 жыл бұрын

His advice is amazing. This is exactly how I felt before leaving my ex husband and filing for divorce.

@RayMak 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for your wisdom

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

You are very welcome🙏

@1969bogdi 2 жыл бұрын

You’re almost correct when you say there’s a lack of education regarding marriage in the western or more so in the American culture…. I would add more to that notion by saying that there is too much poisonous/wrong education in US regarding marriage. This negative “education” in US comes from the media, the tv series, tv shows, which provide plenty of bad examples where the idea of divorce, and happiness after divorce becomes the normality. And then the couple counselors are telling you that you have to do more , perhaps, etc…

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

I agree, however, keep in mind that right education is like a light in a dark room and dispels the nonsense conveyed by the misinformed.

@TheJavsolo69 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundation indeed you are wise, I wish to learn the ways

@kenster67100 2 ай бұрын

Dude is clueless. Woman will.still be miserable. The true beta male. Guy was a toxic female in another life

@olatokunbohashiru7836 Жыл бұрын

Thanks I came across your site, I need this so much to advise a very troubled adopted brother whose wife is violently abusive

@finngamesknudson1457 Жыл бұрын

So far this video seems to be about fixing reparable relationships. Generally when man does not make wife feel loved enough to make effort to love back. If one is in a violently abusive relationship it is time to run. As brother you need to be prepared to accept him into your home until he can rebuild his single life. If STBex is violent enough, he needs to go to shelter specializing in abused spouses - and you need to be prepared in case she blames (and becomes violent toward) you.

@recycledknowledgeispower2011 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@davidmazariegos4456 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your sharing your wisdom!

@abdiabdullahi1249 Жыл бұрын

thanks you so much

@cat4099 Жыл бұрын

😔 great listen Thanks

@lovewords 2 ай бұрын

Saving my marriage one video at a time ❤ thank you so much

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

I love to hear that. Go for it!!

@yusufzubeir2565 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Sir, indeed very good advice!

@bubasprint Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@abdulshafaq7157 Жыл бұрын

Thanks 💯

@imana4838 6 ай бұрын

Spot on

@yawoyfisinmedms4365 Жыл бұрын

wow amazing video thank you

@DivorceStoppers Ай бұрын

Very good

@alanpyropyro7707 2 жыл бұрын

I hope it's not to late for me neither just pushed my wife away due to my Insecurities I was an asshole for An Entire Week no talking being angry being negative . Now that she seems like she is done I'm dying inside feel guilty and alone

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

Changing one's self is a process that requires a plan and the proper tools.

@alanpyropyro7707 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundation Omg I'm like dying idk what to do anymore I don't know if I've lost her completely 💔

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

get the course. you need much more than just the videos here

@alanpyropyro7707 2 жыл бұрын

I did realize One Thing . And That's just to change for the future and be a positive person . I talked to her and I took full responsibility for my actions . We are taking it Day By Day To be Stronger Then Ever 💪👌

@stever2118 8 ай бұрын

Thanks, marriage guy!

@josephrivera4233 2 жыл бұрын

Just found your channel. Hope it's not to late for us.

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

If you are that point then it would be a good idea to look at our courses themarriagefoundation.org/

@waledawodu8442 2 жыл бұрын

I’m in your boat, a sinking boat, and I’m hoping the same. Hoping it is not too late.

@jt8713 2 жыл бұрын

any updates?? how did it go??

@josephrivera4233 2 жыл бұрын

@@jt8713 she’s gone, said she’s in love again. 32 years gone.

@jt8713 2 жыл бұрын

@@josephrivera4233 sorry to hear man i hope you find happiness if you havent already

@mics1694 2 жыл бұрын

Is it just me or did you just list three signs that she doesn't love you instead of four? Because I'm really interested in hearing number four

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

It happens, as I don't plan these talks, But, the main point of the video is that you can do something about it rather than be fatalistic.

@zivilerasinskaite9418 5 ай бұрын

Could you do a video on love and what it is in general ?

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын

Wow! You want an easy topic, don't you LOL... Start repeating "I am love, I am Joy" with ever deepening attention on your self, the soul, and you will knoow it. Words can in no way define love. You can only realize it...and you can! 🙏

@kakandolo1 2 ай бұрын

Well done Paul God bless you

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

God bless you, too

@douglaidlaw740 8 күн бұрын

All love is unconditional, otherwise it is only approval. Some couples pledge to stay together for only 5 years; we have been married for 50+.

@TheMarriageFoundation 8 күн бұрын

You arre right that true soul love is unconditional when we have gotten there. But most of us are not there and so consider yourselves blessed

@cnjcroya1323 Жыл бұрын

I'm about to love on my wife ❤️ it was almost as if you were talking straight to me. You are so right.... I have to change some things because I have been a real dick lately. Thank you so much for your advice and my God bless you abundantly as well as your family 💯

@sarahmyob6862 Жыл бұрын

Boy I wish my husband would think this way! He won't do anything with me..

@jtough7499 11 ай бұрын

Mine says she loves me. She said that she is in too much pain. Shoulders and hips. Stress from work and self-image after 4 kids that she has no drive at all. We still have intimacy, just not sex. I'm hoping we are okay.

@TheMarriageFoundation 11 ай бұрын

Learning to love, unconditionally, is how to rise above the mind's inclinations, including bodily rebelion, which tend to control us. Most people love, but not deeply, from the heart, the soul. This is normal in a world that consumes us with "how are we doing" impositions, so we teach how to push the mind back and how to cultivate love from within. Then, as you learn these natural skills your love will be clear to her. At the same time we teach the rules of the marital road.... themarriagefoundation.org/ we want you to succeed!

@davelord8039 11 ай бұрын

Wish I had heard all this many years ago

@Zimbertica Жыл бұрын

My girlfriend of 7 years dumped me this past Mother's Day, said she didn't love me anymore. I know it's because I stopped listening to her and appreciating her and making sure she was seen and heard and validated due to problems in my own life. I lost the emotional connection that we had. I realize my mistakes and am working on changes and living my best life. We are still friends and will co-parent our child but I do hope that working on myself and rebuilding the emotional connection will reattract her.

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

you need to use a process for change such as what you would have from the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/

@jonquebyrd3105 2 жыл бұрын

What if it's the wife that's the issue and the husband is doing the work? What if she's doing all the stuff your saying the husband is doing?

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

The same ideas apply.

@Ironstarfish 12 күн бұрын

Mine is always on tiktok but yesh its always seems to be our fault. No wonder men arnt getting married anymore

@TheMarriageFoundation 12 күн бұрын

You can have a great marriage and it is not your fault because it isn't a competition but you as an individual can change the dynamics of your marriage themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/

@82DevilsNDisguise 3 ай бұрын

What if it’s too late?

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

It is rarely too late but it may be. Write to our counselors (it is free) and explain what is going on and they will tell you, honestly.

@palmerpowermotorsports6924 5 ай бұрын

Ok, what do ya do if your wife will not change, will not work on our marriage, nothing. I have been 200% for 3 years, been together 22years, I'm tired. Real tired

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын

No matter how hard you work on your marriage untill you work on yourself and do it correctly nothing will change.

@robertgoodrich8953 4 ай бұрын

Divorce her. Life is too short

@barbswander9174 7 күн бұрын

@colindavidson6483 11 ай бұрын

I have trouble confronting my wife about these feelings. They’re clear as day and I do so much to let her know I care. Communication is a real issue

@TheMarriageFoundation 11 ай бұрын

Confrontation is never a useful tool of communication. May I suggest you look into our course for men? I think you would do very well with it. themarriagefoundation.org/

@dagdabran5108 Ай бұрын

Rhis is the issue with western thinking. Love as we think it should be is not how it always is. Marriage is not about live but a partnership. If you remember it is for better or worse rich or poor. It is work to be married.

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

You can have love in a safe environment so don't be afraid of that. Learn to love unconditionally and you will realize what marriage is all about.

@belle8i 2 ай бұрын

My man has bouts of anger and negativity and wants to fight about the most trivial things. It's getting on my nerves and I'm losing all attraction. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster. He wants to be around me all the time and I just need some space. He gets upset if I want to get things done or have downtime for myself after my physical job. I feel like his mother, not his wife.

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like what is "normal" so get one of my books to look for ways to improve your marriage

@EtopEtim 8 күн бұрын

Exactly what my wife says. 😂

@albertpacheco2909 19 күн бұрын

My wife works full time and says she wants to find a part time job.

@TheMarriageFoundation 19 күн бұрын

It's time for you to improve your connection with her themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/

@williereed508 Ай бұрын

Women will leave you in a heartbeat 😮

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

Men will, too. One must be educated to make their marriage work

@Teamster83 5 ай бұрын

Why is it always the guys problem

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын

The problem is with the person who feels the problem and the solution is with the one who makes the right kind of effort.

@qreousm3372 4 ай бұрын

It is always the same story. Guys are always at fault.

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

Only love can replace fault finding/ Women sometimes say the same thing because it is hard to hear that we can improve ourselves, but with the proper use of will we can change our lives and our marriages.

@maga1475 3 ай бұрын

Yeah... The more I tell her how beautiful she is the less interest she has towards me.

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

Marriage is about developing a connection between soulmates, not just saying this or that. Unless she feels your love the words will be empty to her.

@tametra_lasha Жыл бұрын

Is once a week too much for "girls night out?". Men get together at least once a week for sports. I want to understand, NOT spark a debate. Help!

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

If girls night out is like for Bible study or doing art together then its fine. or something else that is enriching then its a good thing. But if its going to a bar or to gossip, than it is not lady-like and is bad for your self and your marriage.

@tametra_lasha Жыл бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundation Thanks for responding. I wholeheartedly agree!

@myc7779 Жыл бұрын

That is very bad

@robertgoodrich8953 4 ай бұрын

If you need the company of other people than your spouse once a week, you need another spouse

@bamassage Ай бұрын

I used to think humans were the most intelligent creatures in the world. But are we brilliant? This kind of video makes me think we must be taught about everything, including something that is supposed to be natural, like a relationship between a man and a woman. Think about it: in the days of our grandparents, the relationship rusted for a lifetime, but they didn't have this kind of teaching. Instead, they just approached relationships naturally and traditionally. How about animals? Who teaches them? There are monogamous birds and animals... Who teaches them how to live together for a lifetime? Either we are not as bright as we want to think, or something is very wrong with modern society.

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

There is a lot of selective thinking in your comment. Life is simple when you learn how to love and live in joy. Otherwise, it is pretty complicated.

@ronniepemberton1942 16 күн бұрын

Sounds like they have nothing in common

@roytoy Ай бұрын

Lol... its always the guys fault according to yet another expert. Why do you think we golf, play video games, go to the movies alone, get outside of the house second jobs? To minimize the time we have to spend with her! We are not attracting her? It's a two way street pal.

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

Some men feel like you and end up miserable, not hearing that their understanding of women and marriage is off. Others dig deeper and then choose to change.

@triciatrish7253 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!!!! I. almost lost hope of finding men who would understand this subject of making love instead of sex.. Such important teaching!!! God help us.. Especially the young generation so exposed to the cheap thing. ..

@WiseRuler Жыл бұрын

I get it now, I experienced this a few weeks ago. My wife is a bigger girl but I was so passionate about how I got to hold her thick thighs and just enjoy her. That wasn't just sex it was love making.

@817sports Ай бұрын

Listen with 2x speed

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

or, calm down, be patient, and absorb what you hear😀

@RowlandSunday Ай бұрын

Unfortunately everything said in this video is true. And unfortunately this speaks directly to some of us who have experienced this for real.

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

You CAN turn things around, don't give up themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/

@carlodonnell146 2 ай бұрын

Her girl friends are bad influence.....

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

That may be true but it is far from the big problem of not having learned how to connect from the heart

@carlodonnell146 2 ай бұрын

Are women always right...and its the mans fault?

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

Men do think that, and women think the opposite. Learning how to bridge the gender gap is a challenge for both genders.

@scottmoore5576 4 күн бұрын

If the wife has bpd none of this advice will work. She hates herself so nothing you say or do will change her attitude. Sorry pal its not always the man's fault. The only option is to move on. Churches teach the same thing. "If the husband loves his wife like Christ loves the church his wife will come around" In most cases this is true but their are contentious and abusive women where this won't work and the Bible speaks of them as well.

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 күн бұрын

I assume that one does not leave his wife because of an illness but stays with her out of love. The vow is "in sickness or health" there are no "so she comes around" vows. If you want a great marriage you can still have one. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/

@LastRebel1978 2 ай бұрын

If you make your part better she will do more of the same. Did all those things it’s never enough for a modern woman. All the have is excuses and no accountability. You can’t think you know a woman as a man. Sorry you weren’t her first choice and she’s a victim of her own fate. Princesses. Nope all of us don’t think we’re great but some give and some take

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

Marriage is not about give and take, Its about love and give. You can blame society if you want. Or, you can learn about marriage (take the course for men or at least read one of my books) and get happiness into your marriage