4 Types of Speech to Avoid

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4 Types of Speech to Avoid | A Monk's Perspective
Nowadays, people are starting to see them importance of improving one's mental health. They are changing their habits and behaviors, thought patterns, and so on. But one area that people may be unaware of or neglect when doing self work is their speech. In Buddhism, speech is one pillar that is critical to our well being so we need to pay attention to it. In this video, I share four types of speech that we need to avoid and 5 tools that we can use to help us along the way. I hope this wisdom from the monastery is helpful. Enjoy! #monks #buddhism #mentalhealth
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0:00 Intro
0:46 Why we neglect speech
1:03 Lens of the West
1:43 Lens from the East
5:05 False speech
7:53 Divisive speech
9:18 Harsh speech
11:33 Pointless speech & idle chatter
12:32 5 Tools to help
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@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Which type of speech do you need to currently improve on?

@halfdeadwizard1009 Жыл бұрын

Speech altogether because I have Asperger's and when I make music it helps my voice sound more normal

@bryangandy6720 Жыл бұрын

I consciously try not to engage in idle chatter. Even perfunctory chit chat turns me off. Sometimes people get uncomfortable with silence. That can affect other people’s peace/state of mind. I need to be alone after being around gossipy/overly chatty people simply to recharge my mental battery. Excellent tools and tips, Nick! Grateful🙏

@VAMPTECH2 Жыл бұрын

Harsh speech. Onto myself as well as others. What wonderful wisdom you bring to this chaotic world Nick!

@myfuturepuglife Жыл бұрын

@@bryangandy6720 Me too. I love silence.

@RA-qp9nc Жыл бұрын

How Nice a place would this world be if All the people could Speak/ Think like you Respected Ven Nick . Living in city life one has to Experience/ Face / Tolerate Exactly all of the Above..

@katrinalivingston5017 Жыл бұрын

I have a co worker who likes to talk about what other employees do. I told him last weekend that whatever they do is their choice. That is gossip and I don't want to engage in it. Thank you Nick.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful Katrina! Well done with the boundaries 😊😊

@Mr.Monta77 11 ай бұрын

It would have better to embrace your coworker’s weaknesses with compassion and try to engange him in dialogue so that he may increase his awareness about the consequences of wrong speech. I suspect your approach only had one result: that he now also talks about you. And of course, it is unhelpful for your Ego to tell yourself you are more pure and morally developed than your coworker. He may have other qualities that is far beyond your own capability. Also: we need to remind ourselves that everyone we meet carries a heavy burden that is invisible to us. And so does your coworker. Better try to help him create awareness about how he can improve his behaviour and maybe help him share the weight of his burden? Then you also have found a friend and removed or reduce his bad habit. Gandhi says: Our aim is not to eliminate our opponents but the to eliminate the adversity between ourselves and our opponents. Deep mind, that.

@twinkletoes1507 10 ай бұрын

@@Mr.Monta77Well said. Thank you.

@riyana9960 Жыл бұрын

I played this video twice because it’s my speech that’s not just landing me in trouble but also like you said causing a dent on my mind. My speech is harsh, false and accusatory at times and I would like to begin my talking less. Thank you for these wonderful reminders.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wow!!! Beautiful. Thank you for being so honest… now just keep working on it mindfully. You got this! Please keep us updated on your progress 😊

@riyana9960 Жыл бұрын

@@nickkeomahavong01 Sure 🙏🏻

@charmainevandermerwe3841 9 ай бұрын

I identified my speech as a big problem in my life and relationships with people. I have quiet a loud voice, and people see my tone of voice as harsh or being angry a lot of the time. also, I have a nasty habit of talking too much and over people. This is a big problem for me that i am struggling with. So glad i found this video, would definitely be working on this aspect of my life from now on.

@nickkeomahavong01 9 ай бұрын

Wonderful my friend. I’m glad you’re able to recognize your patterns clearly and honestly. From here, you can start to make adjustments 😊😊

@jayr.617 Жыл бұрын

The bird and insect sounds and the peaceful room behind Ven. Nick is lovely.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

@mindfulnesswithmatt Жыл бұрын

Always grateful for how you break down the teachings into something so digestible, thank you. For me, a lot of these types of speeches translate into the saying "sometimes things are better left unsaid" and I always try to practice that when I find false or divisive speech on the brink of slipping out. Much needed reminder

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Matt! And yes that’s a wonderful saying 😊😊

@neerusengupta1129 Жыл бұрын

It is always so nice listening Buddhist teachings in your calm and gentle voice. Thank you venerable Nick.

@Qwuiet Жыл бұрын

Morality (things to do, and what not to do), concentration, and wisdom is the path to peace.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Sadhu Sadhu :)

@cherylferreira3752 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for teaching me to think before I say anything. My mom always told my siblings and I "if you cannot say a good word then don't say anything." Peace be with you.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Yeaaa I’m glad it’s helpful 😊

@joelgriffin8222 Жыл бұрын

I either talk a lot or not talk, there's no in-between. There are three scenarios where I tend to talk the most: 1.) When I'm trying to make people laugh 2.) When I'm happy and excited for something or happy and excited to see someone 3.) When I'm nervous

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing Joel! I love the observation 😊😊

@joelgriffin8222 Жыл бұрын

@@nickkeomahavong01 Thank you, Nick. I've found your KZfaq channel to be so helpful for me lately. I, like many other people, are very appreciative of your words of wisdom 🙏

@katiepunch42 Жыл бұрын

I am exactly the same. I hate awkward silence so always feel the need to fill the gap and this is what I need to work on. I need to be happy with the silence, which is ironic as I love my own company and silence when at home.

@gracevalentine1666 Жыл бұрын

A Buddhist therapist? Perfect!

@jeffreyjackson5229 Жыл бұрын

Your point on how we speak "however, whenever, and to whoever" we want to is exactly why I keep my distance from specific family members. I must protect my health.

@Peter-vy5bw Жыл бұрын

It's good to have you back Ven. Nick! 🙂 This is probably one of the most important issues in our world today; the lack of thought, compassion and sincerity in the words we use. As you eluded to, words can be harmful to both ourselves and others. One of the things I discovered awhile ago that I find as a helpful reminder which supports your teaching on this subject is the 3 gates of speech, a quote attributed to the great Sufi mystic Rumi that goes like this: "Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates; Is it true?, Is it necessary?, Is it kind?" Such a simple thing that can save so much hurt. 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Oh that’s wonderful! Thank you for sharing 😊

@nimb1333 Жыл бұрын

This is quite striking. Thank you for sharing.

@shippy365 Жыл бұрын

Thinking about this...one could practice this in thoughts too, e.g. thoughts about self: is it true (or just stemming from negative beliefs about self, not reality)? Is it necessary? Is it kind?

@Peter-vy5bw Жыл бұрын

@@shippy365 Absolutely!

@AshleighMcCarty Жыл бұрын

I used yell at other drivers in the car all the time (road rage). It was obviously really negative and since I made a point to stop that, I've been less angry in general. Good information - thank you for sharing it.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!!! I’m glad to hear that you have been able to improve this. It’s quite a big deal. Keep it up my friend 😊😊😊

@rickjensen2717 Жыл бұрын

...be impeccable with your word... welcome back Nick.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Rick! I’m glad to be back 😊😊😊

@angelicaheien9585 Жыл бұрын

I tend to over share simply as a way of attempting to truly connect with others. The "why are you sharing" is something I need to slow myself down and train my brain to think prior to telling others things. Another great video with new insights, thank you and have a great day!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful Angelica! I love your insight and honesty. This is great work that you are doing. Keep it up 😊😊

@joelgriffin8222 Жыл бұрын

Doesn't that mean that that particular speech has a purpose, i.e., "attempting to truly connect with others"?

@dealingwithfeeling763 Жыл бұрын

I love your teaching on correct speech. It is a constant thing I find needs attention in my life. In Quaker meeting we call this integrity. I came across Quakers in my 30's. Living with honest simple plain speech made my heart feel much peace. I plan to listen again to this and abide. Blessings 🙌

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful my friend! I love the word integrity. It’s so important 😊

@jens6754 Жыл бұрын

And now I'm going to replay the video so I can write this all down. Thank you!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful!!!! 😊😊

@markusmeyer6391 Жыл бұрын

I've been struggling with mental illness for as soon as being a child. And have had many traumas. Now, I'm healing form an episode of psychosis, in this psychosis I did things that I regret a lot now. I hurt people and hurt myself in ways I would never in a normal state of mind. I was meditating heavily before the episode, it has helped with moderating the pain. Now I am tormented by guilt and shame. I want to be free of this suffering.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

No need to hold on to the past my friend. Just learn from them and cut it off. Make amends and start fresh 😊😊😊

@lollylula6399 Жыл бұрын

Markus I'm sorry to hear of your suffering. I went through various traumas and had psychotic episodes in my 20s. Some people don't metabolise B12 in a regular way and so either taking a supplement under the tongue or through injections helps. Once I started taking B vitamin supplements the episodes got much better and then I had B12 injections and the psychotic symptoms completely went away. Sometimes in recent years I start getting 'sticky' thoughts or start getting paranoid I take under the tongue or a B12 injection and it sorts it straight out. Not had an episode for 15 years now. Over the last couple of years therapy is helping me to process through the earlier traumas and psychotic episodes. But I wouldn't be in such a good mental place as I am today without Buddhist teachings and practice and meditation. John Ruskan's Emotional Clearing Process has also helped me massively, it's heavily based in Yoga and Meditation practices. Keep going with your meditation practice, I'm sure it's the best path to freedom. You've got this 🙌🏼

@snoozyq9576 Жыл бұрын

I feel the same shame. I even had psychosis myself last year. You deserve all the love and happiness 💜

@CarmenMulder Жыл бұрын

Missed you. Good to hear you again.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Carmen! I’m glad to be back 😊😊😊

@jasmineflower9411 Жыл бұрын

"some speech can actually taint the mind" ....very true Bhante...🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

@summerrain888 Жыл бұрын

Whoever is guiding you in to these videos is doing a great job. Your videos seem to show to me exactly when I need them and with what I need most in that moment. When I'm watching your videos I feel like you're talking only to me because it feels like you already know what I'm going through. You have been a great support on my journey for two years now and for that I want to thank you and the entire line of masters.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much for your beautiful message. I’m glad the videos resonates with you and keep on doing the work my friend 😊😊😊 please continue to keep us updated on your progress!

@summerrain888 Жыл бұрын

@@nickkeomahavong01 Oww, thank you I will 🤗. With much love and great respect. 🙏🏻

@kayleenschaeffer1401 Жыл бұрын

This warms up my heart ❤ I feel the same way 🙌🏼

@madhurimamukherjee4823 Жыл бұрын

I was waiting for more than 3 weeks for the next video and am so delighted to hear your kind wisdom after such a long wait! The tools are really helpful. Specially the point where you said to ponder as to why we are sharing this ! I am definitely applying these tools to bring more peace to my mind and work on myself. Thank you for helping us into becoming better persons 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much madhurima! And thank you for your patience and support. There was definitely a longer gap than usual so I’m glad to be back 😊😊😊

@annlaing8714 Жыл бұрын

I think we forget words have power and don’t think of what is said and the effect the can have on people. Love and light to you always 🙏🏻❤️

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Yes so very true 😊

@apeacelily5151 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for these messages. Someone once said to me, 'Those who gossip with you, gossip about you.' I tell the children I teach this too. I am always telling them to think of 3 gates their speech should go through before it gets out; is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? It's a long process but it's a start. ☺

@nureinherz Жыл бұрын

thank you. Blessings back to you

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my friend 😊

@barehope Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your thoughts and thank you for sharing

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

It’s my pleasure! Thank you so much 😊

@shrutijoshi553 Жыл бұрын

Well & detailed explaination venerable. Currently working on talking less with self. Only necessary self talk. Sometimes I hang board around my neck mentioning "In silence" & sometimes on my bed room door I hang board "In silence" So that people around me dont disturb me & they will not misunderstand me when I don't talk that time. Silence refills energy in me. Lots of Metta to everyone.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful Shruti! We have a silence badge at our retreat center as well 😊

@marisaharris298 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the good humour in teaching us acceptance of our foibles. It helps us have more gentleness with our selves, that our flaws do not mean THE END.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Marisa 😊

@joycebanda7581 Жыл бұрын

Wow! Nick you are brilliant. I have actually cut off people who gossip, complain from my contacts!! This video to me just comfirms that i did the right thing. Thankyou so much, keep them videos rolling you are creating change in all of us who follow you and actualize your teachings.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much Joyce for your kind words 😊😊😊 hope you are doing well my friend.

@barehope Жыл бұрын

I really needed this video. Thank you

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful my friend! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊😊

@garlicgalore Жыл бұрын

Thank you for bringing together your life experiences and your studies to explain some very important teachings in a way that my western-raised brain can hear and really integrate. I feel very fortunate to have found your channel.

@constancesmith7975 Жыл бұрын

Yes, very helpful!!! Thank you very much for all your insight!!Blessings to you!! I quit phoning, or receiving calls from people who jump right into their talk, nonstop....without asking is this a good time?? Monopolizing conversation....I only listen... (ret nurse, i do active listening very well) ...i will make sure they are well, and sometimes respond with texting. I quit following people who are crass and flippant... Thank you again!! I am listening and sending out what u share!!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Constance. I’m glad you’ve found ways of navigating through the various situations you’re faced with. Keep up the great work 😊😊😊

@WarrenRCG Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Brother Nick 🙏😌 I have many issues but, thankfully, speech isn't one of them. I'm more of a listener, anyway. Your teachings will be taken to heart, as always. People close to me have some of the traits you speak of. It's difficult when it's family. We will continue to work towards a positive result. Be well. 🙏😌

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my friend 😊😊

@priscillaturpin7575 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Nick 🙏🙏🙏 I believe we need to think before we speak 🙏🙏🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️

@joankennedy1148 Жыл бұрын

Thank You Nick for such a helpful topic. I was particularly taken by " why we share". I hate gossip, as I see it as collateral and food to satiate the ego. Your content was very thought provoking and relevant. So glad to have you here again. Sadhu🌻

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Joan. I’m glad it resonates with you 😊 I hope you are well.

@Prince-of-Whales666 Жыл бұрын

Well, that brought a few home truths ! Thank you venerable Nick.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful my friend! Thank you so much 😊 I’m glad it’s helpful

@iwantcheesypuffs Жыл бұрын

You just described 90% of the content of conversations at work in my life. Some of it which I contributed. I need to change that.

@elixirdelatierra Жыл бұрын

Thank you for breaking down these essentials so clearly, and for creating this safe space for us to look at ourselves more mindfully. Much love from Spain 🕊

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

It’s my pleasure Carol. Thank you so much 😊

@irminsulwotan6413 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Nick. I love listening to your wisdom!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my friend 😊

@evanioviana2630 Жыл бұрын

This is a such important topic, Rev. Nick. Cheers from the heart for your words full of wisdom and guidance

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much! I’m glad you found it helpful 😊😊

@chriswilkes4350 Жыл бұрын

I loved this talk, Nick. Thanks so much!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Chris! I’m glad you enjoyed it 😊😊

@chriswilkes4350 Жыл бұрын

@@nickkeomahavong01 You are always a gift to us, and you always have something helpful to say. You are very much appreciated.

@glennhess8492 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this blessing. I definitely need to work on idle chat. I was having a great day and you just made it better. Thank you ❤️🙏

@oceanmermaid3700 Жыл бұрын

I have always tried to be careful of what I say because once it's out there, you can't take it back!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Yesssss! That is very true 😊

@klausw.5612 Жыл бұрын

คิดถึงChiang Mai, important speech, important to remember always 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful 😊😊😊

@karinedutemple842 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so such for such an interesting video! You definitely help me to learn how to be more mindful of my actions, speech and thoughts. I was looking forward to grow on a spiritual level and better myself. Hearing your lessons have made a huge change for me and I'm really thankful for the help it brought me. Thanks again and be well Venerable Nick! Hi from Quebec (Canada)!

@ZabXyzx Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing these videos Nick! I started watching in the beginning of the year and let me tell you how much they have helped change me for the better 🌻

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wow! I’m glad the videos have been helpful. Keep up the great work my friend 😊😊

@BenoNetto Жыл бұрын

Thank you Ven. Nick! These teachings will help a lot! 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️

@wildoctober1513 Жыл бұрын

So happy to be able to learn from all your teachings, thank you 🙏🏻

@effinator Жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes; our spoken words are powerful. It is very interesting what we do on autopilot... been actively trying to listen more and be more aware of the words I chose in my speech. Thank you Nick, your chosen words are appreciated and bring lots of clarity.

@galespressos Жыл бұрын

Thank you for being here. You help so much with basics and sometimes reminders. For those who have slipped or fallen into these patterns it’s especially helpful and welcome. Thank you. Never thought I’d be here to need to hear this but it is very much so. Thank you.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Gale. It’s my pleasure to share 😊😊😊

@yurikab2799 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Monk Nick! I always look forward to your videos! It’s a great way to remember the important things in life.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful! Thank you so much 😊

@Diabeteslovewithdee Жыл бұрын

Hi Ven. Nick, thank You so much for your teachings to be kind and be at peace with ourselves. I definitely will be practicing and being more mindful about talking LESS. Your teaching is always very helpful. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. 😊

@annakuk3950 Жыл бұрын

Hi Nick, thank you for this video❤️as everyone, I am "guilty" of some of the points you said. Now, my mind is filled with hate and rage, as my land is suffering so much due to war, that Russia is doing in my country. There is lots of hate and rage, and it is really hard to cope with these feelings. But your video is amazing reminder to try not to "host" this spreach and feelings. Otherwise I am very talkative. It is feature of my character. I live by my own, and in Corona time lack of communication was so bad for me, that if I would meet someone, I would be just talking, getting rid of all the words, that were unsaid by me :) I still figuring how to work on that. I am very communicative, and actually people do love chatting with me, it is just I know I talk too much...

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you and your country. Sending you so my blessings and please hang in there. This is a challenging time indeed so we just need to be mindful and do our best. I’m glad you’re aware of your experiences so that’s a big plus 😊😊😊 keep up the good work my friend! Please stay safe.

@amyosullivan8629 Жыл бұрын

thank you very much for this video Nick, I found myself pondering about this topic a few days ago so the timing of this video is immaculate! I found the notes at the end of the video particularly insightful into this topic

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wow! I’m so glad to hear that it came at the right time. I’m glad it’s helpful Amy! Enjoy your day 😊

@jillharrison3800 Жыл бұрын

This is so very helpful and I especially share too much. I feel I have to explain everything and need to be more disciplined. I just feel sad that I’ve not done this earlier in my life but moving forward and feeling positive. Your mind is for you to control it just takes time sometimes doesn’t it . Many thanks to you and Buddhism is in my heart always .

@essay7425 15 күн бұрын

Watching this video over and over to remind myself to reflect and work on the way I speak….it is such an important topic…and we tend to forget about that quite often….so thanks that we have your wonderful videos as a treasure and resource - I‘m learning so much from them 🙏 Regards and all my best wishes from Germany

@genevieverouet1340 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Nick. May we all take these tools into consideration and stick with them ! Life would be much more pleasant ! Looking forward to the next video.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

@ReneeRidgeway Жыл бұрын

I am so grateful to you for sharing important and useful ways to communicate. I find it hard to talk in a community of negative chat to engage and be present when people engage in negative things. Thanks for helping with this. 🙏🏽🤗🙏🏻☮️💕

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Renee! Thank you so much 😊

@anthonyphillips111 Жыл бұрын

Alot of people including myself tend to use sarcasm to be passive aggressive and to dump negativity on people. I try to speak plainly as possible and only say what needs to be said combine that with honesty and loving intentions toward others that's what I'm practicing

@jeffreyjackson5229 Жыл бұрын

The segment on teenagers and harsh speech so true. You remind me of something that my mother once said to me that was harsh. To this day, I have never forgotten it. So you are definitely on point.

@lorij9649 Жыл бұрын

Thank You So much! So far I have had to watch this twice. And I need to watch it a 3rd time as I can just feel it in my gut.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful Lori! I’m glad it’s helpful. Yes please keep coming back to it and continue to use it as a resource 😊😊

@gettagudenhei8355 Жыл бұрын

Thank you,💚 these talks are always helpful.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my friend 😊😊

@ileanapretotto4872 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to find the video, I was a little worried about you because of the time passed without your wisdom. Thanks so much for all your sharings, so helpful. I love to listen to you, you help me to be a better and happier person. Shado.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊 I’m glad to be back

@sabinamock4799 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Appreciate your advice and wisdom.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome! Thank you so much 😊

@Introvertboo.444 Жыл бұрын

ever since i have been watching your videos like a week now everyday mutiples ones at once it has completely changed my whole perspective and mindset on why we clutter in the first place and the meaning behind why we act the way we act and behave the way we all humans do , the meaning of having addictive patterns and what caused those patterns to becomes a habit , im starting to change and fix up my bad toxic lifestyle and habits and i’ve decluttered almost everything out of my bedroom and life in general because i’ve realised i didn’t need items to show of or look cool or look like i was made of money or to attach to something because i was lonely or coping with internal trauma or depression/anxiety and ocd , i downgraded to just having what i need and being okay with being a simple person with just herself the only thing she owns is herself i been meditating everyday and my 2 note books that i own are full with all this chatter and words because now being a minimalist and owning nothing i’ve become a book worm and just want my days to be involved around books / note books and my phone and meditation and that’s all . i’m also moving out of my city to start a new lifestyle with a more calm quiet rural area so i don’t get sucked back into the city’s rushed chaotic lifestyle that’s always moving and full of people. i’m meant for a quiet life an introverted soul just me and my quiet mind at peace. thank you soo much if i could shave my hair i would also 😂, i’m living below my means now and living cheap and not trying to show or trying to spend loads of money on nice things because i was insecure and wanted to fit in with the rest of the world but truth is i don’t want to fit in i like being seen as boring or quiet or she barely talks i like being different and just liking who i am not trying to change myself to be liked or look normal . i love me and so should everyone on this comment section you are amazing god created you in unique way different to everyone else don’t be normal be unique be what the future needs and break the patterns and cycle of always wanting more more more . have less because having less means you have the world and nature eveything is around you that you need nature will fulfill you how often do we walk in nature and our minds feel at peace and not rushed or wanting to do everything at once . we feel renewed and just in the moment we should feel like that everyday do less give more be simple.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing Jessica. I’m glad these videos are helpful. You’re doing great work. Please keep up with your meditation practice 😊😊

@foxmacnamara8809 Жыл бұрын

Hi Nick! Great advice as always. I've been turning to your videos ALOT lately. Life just keeps on happening, they say when it rains it pours....I feel like I'm in the middle of a hurricane recently, UGH. Times have gotten super tough for us and it's so hard to see any light at the end of this tunnel. One thing after another, and then another and repeat. SMH. I feel so defeated. 😔 Thank You For Remaining A Constant My Friend.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Oh no. I’m sorry to hear that. Hang in there my friend. Sending you my blessings from Thailand.

@rumi2320 Жыл бұрын

I was waiting for your video. Thank you very much for this knowledge.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my friend. Sorry for the wait!

@val_in_balance Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this insightful video, and for adding the tools and strategies at the end! These are things that I work to be more aware of and improve on every day😊

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome and yes please utilize the tools. I’m glad it’s helpful 😊

@h.m.3-L Жыл бұрын

Ven .Nick , thank you so much for this very wise and helpful teaching. I have two acquaintances who come my house uninvited separately and can talk literally for hours. I do not wish to be unkind but it so tiring and I find myself making up excuses to make them leave. So, thank you for helping me understand this problem.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Oh no. That sounds like an uncomfortable situation but I think your wisdom will know the proper course of action to take 😊😊😊

@dulanigunawardena3478 Жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏 Thankful to you, Rev.Sir.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️

@kathrynbrown1572 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! So appreciate these guides.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️

@sheilahapted1568 Жыл бұрын

I find your teachings most helpful and enriching within my life. For many years Since my 20's I have practice mindfulness and meditation but sometimes I can forget to fully follow my basic philosophy. So when I read and sometimes re-read your teachings and come back and stay on my correct path. Thank You for your positive energy.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Sheila! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊

@mariannedovani-shotton4997 Жыл бұрын

Whenever I return to watching your videos I get reminded of how amazing they are. You speak so clearly and the points you make are so accurate and are always covering issues that I can relate to. Recently I have become aware of the chatter in my own head and how it's been getting me down, hence many of your points really made me think. I need to continue working on how I speak to myself and others. Thank you for sharing...a unique teacher with so much wisdom.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much Marianne! I’m glad it’s helpful and yes please continue to be kind to yourself. 😊

@suecastillo4056 Жыл бұрын

Hello Dear One! This is such a wonderful video teaching!!!Thank you for the reminder of mindfulness❣️I hear your words many times and they truly guide me !! I know you were put in front of me for many reasons,with lessons,lessons lessons! Needed to hear this today!Always get what we need! With gratitude, love, peace and health always🕉☮️❣️🥰🙏🏻🌟🙋‍♀️

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much sue! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊

@kathysullivan559 Жыл бұрын

Hi Nick, excellent advice that I really needed reminding of and going forward today, I will be practicing these important new tools - thank you so much for another educational and helpful lesson on how to live with a more pure mind.

@SundayBoy72 9 ай бұрын

Reflection 11/9/23. Sick at home but still complete my meditation routine 🧘‍♂️ It is true that words can kill. I will try to be mindful to speak good and direct positive outcome. Thank you teacher.

@nickkeomahavong01 9 ай бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️

@christinebarone2151 Жыл бұрын

I find some people really don’t listen, they listen to respond !!! Its frustrating !

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Ohhhh yes! This definitely happens. Haha 😆

@theblackvelvet23 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful video and wisdom :) Thank you so much for sharing us this valuable advice 🙏 Also I really appreciate the face on how you respond to every single comment of everyone :) It requires lots of patience, huge heart. Thank you thank you thank you so much for being present in this world for us ❤☮🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my friend and I try my best 😊

@jackiemarney7818 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Ven.Nick so inspiring.Blessings from South Africa 🇿🇦

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Jackie. Thank you so much 😊

@katherinewong2901 Жыл бұрын

Love the course correction idea/support! ❤

@KC-ku2ew Жыл бұрын

So grateful to have your helpful advice🙏

@lisamarielindenschmidt649 Жыл бұрын

This is SO helpful! This has been a real struggle in the workplace. I am going to post these 4 types on my cubby at work as a good reminder! Thank you!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful my friend. That’s a great idea 😊

@catherinewalters2803 Жыл бұрын

Hi Nick! I am a faithful follower of your teaching. As a blind American I have taken great comfort and becoming a Buddhist. Your videos are essential for me because I can’t drive to a temple. I enjoy nearly every part of your videos with one exception. When there is no dialogue it would be great if you could have an audio description of what is happening. I don’t know if this is possible. It is very helpful for those of us who have little or no vision. Keep up the great work in spreading the teachings of the Buddha.

@jillknowles5015 Жыл бұрын

Nick, hope you are well. Your wisdom is enlightening, as always. Thank you. Xx 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Jill 😊

@jeffreyjackson5229 Жыл бұрын

"The speech that we display makes an impact on our minds"- powerful statement. This includes self-speech, i.e., our thoughts. We may not consider it so, but that's speech as well.

@AMY-bt6ny Жыл бұрын

Grateful 🙏 for the teaching on this topic. Very useful and helpful for me. Once again thanks for being my spiritual teacher 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much. I’m glad it’s helpful Amy 😊😊

@filipaferreiraa_ Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. This is a such important topic.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️ thank you so much

@donaldsimons2429 Жыл бұрын

Welcome back, Ven. Nick. Great to get a new video from you. It is a refresher course, actually, on the topic of speech. I recognized it from your book Buddhist Cleanse. All good information. Hope all is well with you. Donald Simons

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

@marcijlo Жыл бұрын

Thank you Ven. Nick for video. I would like to up my awareness of everything you mentioned. Blessings from South Africa!

@faizak1299 Жыл бұрын

Very grateful!

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

@ms.steveygolden1118 Жыл бұрын

Appreciate this so much Nick. These tools are great plus I can come back to the video & breakdown all that happened in a negative conversation😇 My side of it plus theirs.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!!! I love it. It’s always great to reflect and continue to improve. Well done Ms. Stevey 😊😊

@ms.steveygolden1118 Жыл бұрын

@@nickkeomahavong01 We've got to start somewhere with our talk both self talk & talk with other's. The foul language & the tone. It's not necessarily what we say but HOW we say it also. This video is much needed BCUZ it is step by step WITH the reflection possibility🥳 I love this & will celebrate it! ... often

@djalexia Жыл бұрын

@Nick omg… firstly I wanted to thank You 🙏🏻 for your so ever helpful videos-these gave being helping me out a great deal psychologically, spiritually and to tame down the hardships that life it presenting to me throwing curve balls, so many lessons to be learn and mostly to be recognize . At this present time I am in “ higher” water and I must to come back to shore to again been cuddle by a gentle seaside breeze caressed by a gentle wave 🌊💯♥️🙏🏻

@cassvanessa5 Жыл бұрын

I love this video. Thank you 🙏

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Vanessa 😊😊

@emilyreyes8922 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Venerable Nick for these reminders. I am sooo guilty of all those mentioned in the 5 tools. These are friendly reminders which are so very helpful to me. Bless you.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome! Glad it’s helpful Emily 😊😊

@senani97 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video ❤️ I often speak too much, non stop but that's gonna change from today. Thank you.

@nanaorangejuice9283 Жыл бұрын

Hello , i enjoy your channel a lot. I think many people not only western background people enjoy and learn from this channel! Thank u for providing meaningful, bright, easy to catch advices. Even my country is Buddhist country, i sadly dont know the basic things about buddism. Actually there is no opportunity to learn about buddist way of thinking in daily life, people somehow dont talk specifically. I really really learn a lot from this channel and enjoy. It makes me calm and resetting my mind

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much my friend. I’m glad these easy practical steps are helpful 😊

@nicolas_lin_chan Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing these teachings! If I may, I would like to make a request, would it be possible to make a video about the other conducts of Buddhist ethics, in addition to the four verbal actions: the three bodily actions and the three mental actions? Again, thank you very much! I use your videos not only for my personal development, but also to introduce other people to Buddhist concepts.

@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the suggestion Nicolas. And thank you for the support 😊