Raise Your Standards - You Deserve BETTER
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@kenthawley5990 19 күн бұрын
Know what you are worth. Be prepared (and dressed) for every circumstance. Stay humble. And for the love of God, surround yourself with positive, fun, ethical people.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Well put! Thanks for watching!
@DrDaveShows 19 күн бұрын
4:38 Twenty years ago I was laid off working for a telecommunications company. I was 47 and age discrimination in IT is real. I received support amazingly from a letter of my former professor who told me 30 years previous that I would never be satisfied with a single degree. I went to school, got my MBA, then my doctorate degree, started teaching in universities, and now have been promoted to a Full Professor 20 years later. It is NEVER too late. Everyone gets a second act in their life. After Act One, where you are an actor in your own life in a play written by others, you have an Act Two, written and directed by yourself. Write your own script. Make yourself the hero. Then finish your play and take a well deserved bow.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Love this! Very well said!
@andrewdenny5571 16 күн бұрын
Kudos to you friend
@theyoodoo 18 күн бұрын
As a watch collector, one thing I delight in doing is wearing a nice mechanical watch to work. I never worry about it. I bought them to wear. Others may not wear one at all or might wear a cheap one to work. I think its a mark of distinction and always wear one, even with jeans and t-shirts.
@rvboyett 19 күн бұрын
On insults, I 100% agree with your response to that. I would only add that when you ask the person to explain themselves, you have to look them dead in the eye. It’s intimidating as hell to a lot of people.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Absolutely!
@user-xh5gd5vf2c 18 күн бұрын
I like to get a professional shave with a straight razor. It takes time and you feel great when you're done. So worth it.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Love that!
@nedmerrill6228 18 күн бұрын
I went and bought all new clothes based on your videos.
@alwayspooh1588 18 күн бұрын
I deserve a supermodel for a wife, a Bugatti on my drive, a body like Ryan Reynolds, and a bank balance like Elon Musk! Then I wake up, and yep, it is still just me!!!!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Haha! Me too!
@brianz28lpe 18 күн бұрын
Agree 100%! After I got divorced and out of the military, I wondered why it seemed every year more and more people felt comfortable being disrespectful towards me. I was because I let depression etc stop me from respecting myself enough to stay in shape, dress properly, and over all carry myself in a way that demands respect conciously and/or subconsciously. That's how I came across your channel, actually.
@jongurn00 18 күн бұрын
Depression gets the best of us brother! You’re not alone and you can overcome it. Stay strong! ✊🏻
@Newbill17 18 күн бұрын
This is a message a lot of men need to hear. When you establish boundaries be sure to do it calmly and with style, that really puts someone on the defense. Usually, they’re wanting and expecting an angry reaction. Don’t give them the satisfaction. Don’t lower yourself. The last point really resonates with me. It took me a long time to move up that ladder. I l have always believed that the higher up you are in society the greater your obligation to treat others of lower status with respect, dignity, and compassion.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Well said!
@canadianpatriot1387 17 күн бұрын
I was injured on the job. Now I’m in my sixties at university, being retrained for a new career. Your never to old to learn.
@carloc352 14 күн бұрын
I totally agree. I have a colleague who has a long first name, but I always take the effort of writing her name in full, when texting over Teams. It’s a matter of respect.
@40OverFashion 12 күн бұрын
Absolutely!
@ryanstanton12 19 күн бұрын
When he said T all I could think of was Tony Soprano
@IanP-et3fv 18 күн бұрын
Life experience has validated the saying "You get what you tolerate". Long time viewer, first time commenting. Keep up the good work.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you very much!
@paulstaples8089 19 күн бұрын
Cigars are not my thing but spoiling myself? ….. now you’re talking! 🤣
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Ha! Thanks for watching!
@bikepackingadventure7913 19 күн бұрын
I took your advice and just bought a £3000 mountain bike. Why not, I’m worth it 😏 Want to turn women off you straight away - smoke, smell of smoke and have your clothes smell of smoke 🤢. As a none smoker, smokers absolutely stink. Don’t care how good a woman is, if they smoke is a huge red flag and a no. Shows how such a low standard they have with their own health.
@davidgaghan 18 күн бұрын
100% about treating service staff well. Just like some countries expect you to serve time in the military, I think people should be made to work a year or 2 in either retail or hospitality just to get a true sense of what it feels like and to ingrain in them the correct way to treat these people that work it as a permanent career.
@paul0wen65 18 күн бұрын
Speaking truth to power, John. I've done this on a few occasions. I used to frequent a now more popular brewpub in my hometown until I and the friends I surrounded my/ourselves with notice the changes. We migrated to a taproom more aligned with our values and no regrets. I have made new friends in the caliber of your video. As you said, the key is to give the respect you wish to receive. I think many of us grew up with the respect is earned mantra but for myself, and I suspect others have concluded giving the respect will be either be reciprocated or as you said, a favor will be done for you. Great one, good sir.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you!!
@noName-kn1lx 17 күн бұрын
Truth to power, your values etc? all woke gobbledygook
@user-vg4hk7th7m 18 күн бұрын
This is a good one,John. And a great reason to go out and get some good clothes, or get some tailored ... those better outfits immediately raise your level
@paulv8453 14 күн бұрын
I like this channel. I used to dress well in my 20’s wearing slacks, button up shirts, nice belts & ties & now that I’m in my early 50’s, I think I dress too casual.
@anthonynguyen2343 17 күн бұрын
Thank you
@CoachSteveJandS 19 күн бұрын
Vetting is crucial. A divorce can cost thousands, asking deep questions is Free... 😮🎉
@daviderdelyi2204 18 күн бұрын
Hi John, Great video. One of the most important messages ever delivered. 100% agree with setting standards for yourself and how you expect to be treated by others. It will command instant respect. At 56 years old I'm totally ok with thinning the pack of people in my life that can't or won't conform to my standard of respect. I've gone out of my way for many years to respect other peoples standards but not my own. That changes today! Life is short! Why wait! Also, for the 1st time in my life, this year on my birthday I treated myself to a birthday weekend getaway to Los Angeles CA. It felt weird but man it felt great. So much so that I'm gonna do it every year! I hope your message resonates with other guys out there that like me just accepted people's behaviors and disrespect. Thanks Jonh!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Appreciate you David! Thanks for sharing!
@calculatedrisk9172 18 күн бұрын
You don't deserve much of anything...you EARN it.
@paul0wen65 18 күн бұрын
We all deserve respect until proven otherwise.
@jongurn00 18 күн бұрын
Nahh we definitely deserve respect and to feel good.
@southerngirl773 19 күн бұрын
So True!
@andrewspeed9118 18 күн бұрын
Life lesson (learned the hard way) - People treat us how we teach them to treat us!
@alwayspooh1588 18 күн бұрын
John, this is one of your best videos! We do deserve better, better in everything. Also, yes we should treat ourselves every now and then. Great video.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Absolutely! Thank you very much!
@Theo-ul8qm 19 күн бұрын
Love this message John! I don't see, though, what raising your standards or respecting yourself have to do with 'treating yourself'. It's nice to get the more expensive Uber or wine, sure, but you should expect respect from people regardless of what car you arrive in or what wine you drink. And, quite frankly, being financially responsible is a form of self-respect, because it keeps you in a stable position in relation to your future. So I would think twice before making a connection between 'treating yourself' and respecting yourself or demanding respect from others. I'm sure that if you saw some of your viewers' closets, you wouldn't tell us to go out and buy a new shirt, because we already have too many 😅
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
It’s not about the wine. It’s about treating yourself better and having higher standards for yourself. It starts with you and how you treat yourself. It has to start there.
@garrettclements62 18 күн бұрын
Excellent advice! These are the points that I tell my sons. I recently treated myself to a new high end suit and made to measure shirt. Those types of things absolutely make a difference in my life and my self worth. You cannot love others without loving yourself. Great work.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Well said!
@chrisbray3227 18 күн бұрын
Couldn't agree with this more! In a previous job role as an international trainer, the standard corporate dress code was jeans and a polo shirt. I ALWAYS made a point of wearing a three piece suit to the extent that I became known as The Man In The Suit. Not only did it change the way that I felt about myself, but in comparison to the way my colleagues were treated I got so much more respect, upgrades and was generally viewed differently. How you treat yourself has a massive impact on how others then treat you!!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Absolutely!
@DesertMav 17 күн бұрын
This video is spot on. As a man, respect means a whole lot. There are times where you may have to swallow your pride, but overall, one has to demand respect. I also agree with treating oneself every once in a while. For example, I have a car project I need to work on and after I finish it, I'll go out and grab a nice meal to celebrate the completion of said project.
@hoozat007 17 күн бұрын
Excellent video, John. I delayed watching it for a day or so because from the thumbnail I thought it was going to be about dating (don’t need that, I’m happily married). I completely agree with your points and I’ve been making more of an effort to practice all your suggestions for the past couple years. I feel good about myself.
@matthewcormier8744 19 күн бұрын
I dress well for the pleasure of looking Good I respect you and your content KZfaq Creators are awesome
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you so much!
@jonsandstrom2356 18 күн бұрын
All great advise as usual.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@DougHardy541 18 күн бұрын
John, this is right on point! Dress well, act like you are the $hit, and others will treat you as such. If you can’t believe in yourself, then in the wise words of Master Yoda, “That is why you fail.”
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@ronm6585 19 күн бұрын
Thank you sir.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Most welcome Ron!
@curtislund8322 18 күн бұрын
Really great advice, thank you sir! I will remember this.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Very welcome!
@jamesmerrill8545 18 күн бұрын
I am a (part time) martial arts instructor for the past 25 years and I tell all my students - "To get respect, you must first give respect" - respect is not just handed out, it is earned, additionally you can not respect another until you respect yourself. Something I believe the world is lacking as of late. And yes you and I deserve better, as we all do. It is up to each of us to seek it out and go after it. I truly enjoy your videos sir, much respect, you are appreciated. Thank you.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Much appreciated! Thank you!
@jongurn00 18 күн бұрын
I normally disagree with the phrase “respect is earned” but the way you describe makes perfect sense! Give respect to get respect. Thanks for that small nuance to my thinking!
@jessiesims3450 18 күн бұрын
100 percent agree
@rbfarrell1 18 күн бұрын
Yup, need to take a trip to Thailand again soon. Go where you are valued.
@TheBlackToedOne 18 күн бұрын
"Birds of a feather flock together". "You attract what you are". It's one thing when a friend gives you a hard time but someone you don't know or just met? If they get a little smartass going, personally I found if I just look at them for a few seconds w/ a confused look on my face and then ask, "I don't get it", it does take the edge off a little bit. If they double down and explain then I ask, "Why would you say that?" Another thing I'll say after a relatively new acquaintance takes a poke is simply, "interesting". When they ask what I mean by that I tell them it's interesting that we just recently met, they know nothing about me and yet they are still comfortable enough to make that kind of statement. Even if the person is too thick to pick up what you just put down, anyone else watching will see it.
@chrisb3902 18 күн бұрын
Great video and timely message John!!!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@ninjakris3004 19 күн бұрын
Absolutely… Belgium n Netherlands next week. Love doing / buying things for myself. Gotta take care of #1! LOLO
@Angelbonilla1982 18 күн бұрын
John always gives good advice!!🎉🎉
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@nettsterr 18 күн бұрын
Spot on great video, keep em coming
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thanks, will do!
@toleranceapparel 18 күн бұрын
This is a great perspective on improving your own situation. A nice twist on the Golden Rule. Thanks for the video!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
My pleasure!
@Lordrixson5489 18 күн бұрын
Excellent advice mate! An essential self esteem boost! 👍🏻
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@scottpage4229 18 күн бұрын
You’ve motivated me to get 4 pair of pants altered , they fit awesome.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Yes!!
@michaeltootikian4402 18 күн бұрын
Great video John
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@Luke10Experience 22 сағат бұрын
Very good clip, thanks! Also the good book says do unto others as you would have them do to you. You nailed it!
@timothycreed3452 18 күн бұрын
That's it. Getting a couple glasses and a charcuterie at Bottaia this weekend for myself. Time to treat myself. In other news, went to Zarka on WInchester yesterday for the first time. Great cigar lounge to hang and play pool with friends.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Nice! Do it!
@robertmaxa6631 18 күн бұрын
It pains me to spend a larger sum of money, unless I've planned well, in advance, and physically have it on hand.
@dr.hookyeah2883 18 күн бұрын
This is great advice. Do little things to treat yourself better and it will have an effect exponentially on the rest of your life. Particularly in your professional life also, thanks once again for having the beautiful older woman in the thumbnail!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Absolutely! My pleasure!
@anthonyrondolino8148 18 күн бұрын
Good stuff
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Glad you enjoyed!
@dalecarlson7294 17 күн бұрын
Your last comment was key. Treat others as you want to be treated!
@Joey21071 19 күн бұрын
When I was younger I was very into cigars but mostly the smaller ones. Only had a nice big cigar when I felt like it. Mostly it was those tiny ones.
@rwtindall 18 күн бұрын
The Ascots are awesome!
@jproog41 18 күн бұрын
I love this John. I think a lot of our fellow men need to be reminded of this on occasion.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@TheBenjaminHigashi 18 күн бұрын
Great video. Lead with respect, then go from there. Keep up the great content.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Much appreciated!
@SpamMouse 17 күн бұрын
Raise your health standards by not smoking. 👍👍👍
@ProfWho-ut5he 18 күн бұрын
I have high standards and that kills my dating success.
@paul0wen65 18 күн бұрын
Same. I'm more than ok with maintaining those.
@abbasalkawiz2228 18 күн бұрын
Thanks John, very informative video.. we are waiting for your home workout routine with dumbbells.💪🌹
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
You got it!
@noName-kn1lx 18 күн бұрын
I would add treating others better and with more respect.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
True!
@761jared 17 күн бұрын
You're going to find it's very difficult to better oneself if you surround yourself with negative thinking people. My ex-wife said everything would fall apart if I went back to school when we were married. It fell apart anyway. After the divorce, I got my degrees and now make 3x more than before, while traveling often for work and pleasure. I've seen more of the world and of the US than many, respectfully dating different women, experiencing multiple cultures... something I never would have been able to do had I listened to my ex.
@deepaktaruna 15 күн бұрын
which color belt to wear with white shirt , blue denims , white shoes ?
@grozwano 15 күн бұрын
Good video
@felipedacruz3670 13 күн бұрын
Fantastic video 🫡🫡🫡
@40OverFashion 12 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@michdico9591 18 күн бұрын
I'm sure that you've seen the movie, "Stupid, Crazy Love" where Jacob (played by Ryan Gosling) takes Cal (played by Steve Carrell) clothes shopping and tells him, "Cal, be better than The Gap!!". Don't need to go crazy, but we can be better than The Gap!!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Great movie!
@tobias1752 18 күн бұрын
Mmmh, the Porsche thing.. I‘m going to decide wether I’ll buy a manual Boxster flat six or a bmw m 440 Cabrio this autumn.. the goal is a Mediterranean road trip from Germany to Spain via Italy and France next spring .. a thing a wanted to do for the last 15 yrs…
@rwtindall 18 күн бұрын
one vote for the Porsche!
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
What a trip!! Do it!
@chuckcribbs3398 18 күн бұрын
Not into cigars, but I love the smell. What cigars do you recommend, John??
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
It’s all personal preference, but I like more moderate strengths.
@noName-kn1lx 18 күн бұрын
Pay to get cancer? No thanks
@MrDanthemaniam 19 күн бұрын
I get what you're saying, but it's not hard to imagine everything you said except for the cigar ad coming out of the mouth of a tatted up young girl with face piercings and multicolored hair then the argument just falls apart.
@mtbdavenavarro 18 күн бұрын
F yea
@guyh.4553 17 күн бұрын
I totally understand and do the name issue. Believe me, with my name, it gets mangled all the time! So, does buying an electric water hose timer count? LOL As far as the age going back to school, that's a rough deal for us "old" guys. I'm speaking from experience. I did it. Not only are younger than you but there is generally no one around your age to study with or even socialize with. Giving respect begets getting respect. "Legend"ary 😁😁😁
@StrokinTip-rd8wk 17 күн бұрын
The school thing id prefer someone speak the truth. Sometimes you are 2 old to recover the money spent on the schooling itself. If money is of no concern go for it but school isn't always a smart decision.
@omarcortes5754 19 күн бұрын
Having standards and know what you are worth is completely ok but is also important to not turn into an insufferable person. Yes, raise your standards but try to stay humble.
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
Exactly!
@Toms2ATime 19 күн бұрын
I'm not sure I understand the part about getting rid of people that disagree with your opinion...people who agree with everything you say are aren't friends, they're bobbleheaded "Yes" men. Just because YOU think it's a great idea doesn't make it so, and a good friend is one that helps you examine that...
@CoachSteveJandS 19 күн бұрын
I think he is speaking more to enforcing Boundaries...
@noName-kn1lx 18 күн бұрын
People who tell you the truth are invaluable most people lie to spare your feelings
@40OverFashion 18 күн бұрын
I never mentioned or meant differences of opinion. It’s more about setting boundaries.
@Toms2ATime 18 күн бұрын
@40OverFashion Understood, BUT it sounded more like those "boundaries" were being set by difference of opinion...in other words, the opinion was the boundary.
@bodhi9464 22 сағат бұрын
Learn how to smoke , light and enjoy cigars .. Edward Sahakian ~ davidoff of London 🇬🇧 (KZfaq)
@Rob-iv1qt 18 күн бұрын
Geeeeeze John if I did all the stuff you talked about i'd have no friends at all.....just kidding!
@scottwallace1 18 күн бұрын
“Treat yourself to something new”. Financial counselor perhaps? If feeling better is reliant on ‘treating yourself’ to a new shirt, or a massage, or any material or consumerable good?…..just put a blindfold on and run into busy traffic and put yourself out of your misery already. Now the question I ask myself is, arterial or freeway???
@noName-kn1lx 18 күн бұрын
Lighten up francis
@DrWilliamMartinPhD 18 күн бұрын
Deserve should not be in anyone's vocabulary. You earn things...you deserve nothing.
@jongurn00 18 күн бұрын
Nahh! You deserve respect, to be treated properly, and deserve to feel good about yourself. If you feel like you have to earn that from someone they’re already not worth it. (Now the Porsche you do have to earn! )
@profesorbernalgerardogarro5681 15 күн бұрын
Hello John. I really like your channel. But please, don't sponsor cigars. Cigarettes and CIGAR = CANCER. Don't encourage people to disease😢😢😢. I lost my grandmother for that vice she had. I am sure there are many other sponsors for what you do. Besides, cigars or smoking in general are as far away from style as are the most opposite things in life, like love and hate!
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