5 Biblical Ways to Dress to Draw the Right Man to You

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What does the Bible say about women's clothing? What should she wear and not wear if she wants a godly man to like her? Here are 4 biblical ways a Christian woman can dress if she wants to draw a Christian man to her.
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@Ruthbaby175 4 ай бұрын

Modesty begins in the heart. It includes speech and conduct as well as clothing.

@michellemoore4585 Ай бұрын

This! Absolutely correct!

@margaretturner4467 4 ай бұрын

When I was a younger Christian, I remember Pastor saying, let the Holy Spirit dress you. That set me free.

@eiguajardo 4 ай бұрын

and is true, my wardrobe was a mess, not bc of inappropriate clothes, bc I didn't have a style and it was all outdated, but He got me a new wardrobe and must say He is very classy

@sarahk758 4 ай бұрын

So well said. Love that.

@realestatecoach8626 4 ай бұрын

So true!

@jobotmang 4 ай бұрын

Indeed.

@Kingdl351 Ай бұрын

Very deep! Thank you!!

@shellbell8062 4 ай бұрын

I love that the Proverbs 31 woman is clothed in fine linen and purple (not that Im about to wear purple anytime soon) as it implies that she was elegant and well dressed. My interpretation is that Godly women still want to be attractive to their husband / boyfriend while also being modest and respectful at the same time.

@BMILBOCKER10 4 ай бұрын

Amen!

@jillianwickham31 4 ай бұрын

I have an Amplified Bible and it clarifies that she clothes herself in fine purple linen like the priests wore. She sees herself as equally valuable in the kingdom! 💜

@lashondarochell7584 4 ай бұрын

I totally agree with you I'm a Godly woman and I make sure that I'm modest yet still fashionable

@tulip811 4 ай бұрын

She has STAFF because her husband is RICH you naive virgin

@thorpsewinglessons5913 4 ай бұрын

@@lashondarochell7584 Well said.

@cherisebeekman 4 ай бұрын

Well said! If your purpose is to attract a godly man, dressing in a way that makes him biblically obligated to look away from you to avoid temptation is not serving your purposes!😂

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Amen!

@marieperpetuemoncoeur2954 4 ай бұрын

Thank you! I was about to comment this…That is the only message behind the video for me.

@cinnabun715 4 ай бұрын

I love the way you worded this ❤ it wasn’t a slam on either gender. But we both bear responsibility for our behaviors 🙌

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

Men can undress a woman in a burka.

@toomanypages 4 ай бұрын

I’m a female who works in retail and sometimes the way the younger AND older women dress, I have to look away. 🙄

@lynnodonnell4764 4 ай бұрын

I dress tomboyish. I like the ruggedness of men's clothing. Do I still feel FEMININE ? Yes, very much so. I like wearing a bandanna in my hair. I like wearing earrings: , 'pearls', dragonflies, butterflies ... I like wearing garden gloves printed w floral motifs. I like wearing my own homemade vanilla 'perfume'. I like doing yardwork, gardening, and landscaping that I can manage. And I'm 70 years old.

@eringrey9297 4 ай бұрын

I am you 28 years younger 💕 I love this time of year - digging in the dirt and planting flowers and watch God’s creation blossom. Blessings to you :)

@lynnodonnell4764 4 ай бұрын

@@eringrey9297 🕊

@sharoncrawford7192 4 ай бұрын

My almost 13 yr old granddaughter is like that. She likes to dress like a tomboy.

@lynnodonnell4764 4 ай бұрын

@@sharoncrawford7192 That is why women started wearing trousers- for MOBILITY. All throughout history it was obscene to see a female's ankles. Peasant women did wear their skirts MAYBE to MID CALF. Anything past that and that woman was considered 'advertising'. Try to imagine doing field work in the 16, 17, 18 centuries with YARDS of fabric slapping around your legs preventing freedom of movement. A yard is 3 feet. Easily 3-5 yards was crammed into a waistband and ALL that yardage swamping about your legs. You have to plant, harvest, collect ,carry, heave or transport your efforts. Would you want your legs unhindered like a man? I know. I've made medieval garments! I recently met a 24yr old homeless gal who THINKS she's BINARY because she only wants to wear pants. And wearing pants means your a boy. We had a looong talk. I told her I use to be very athletic and still felt feminine on the inside. That I wear carpenter jeans because I do factory temp work and I NEED TO MOVE. And I like doing yardwork and gardening and I dress like a tomboy because I NEED TO MOVE. But I always FEEL like a woman, a female and touch up my tomboy look w feminine accessories: earrings. necklace w a dangling charm. fun bandanna to keep my hair out of my face. This young woman is SO CONFUSED w all this gender crap! I hope I can be a role model for her in some ways. God Bless ♥

@Jvel-bq6qx 4 ай бұрын

Many clothing are sexual, they make them that way for attention. The low self esteemed don't always think right. If you have the holy spirit within you, then you won't dress unappreciated, nor act that way. What is on the inside will show up on the outside. Today many women are not modest, they can't train up there kids to dress modest due to there spiritual blindest as a parent. Low cut, too tight too short clothing. See thou it how the wome of the street and world dress. If we are born again spirit filled believers you won't buy things that are sexually unappreciated, unpleasant, unsure. You would be under the holy spirit when shopping and our daily living.

@lw6138 4 ай бұрын

I don't think a lot of women have experienced being with a man who sees only her. It is a joy and a delight, and an incentive to protect their passion at all cost.

@CrowTRobot618 4 ай бұрын

I think you're right. I personally haven't. It's been a dream and desire of mine from the time a girl begins to think about such things.

@COSMIC-NINJA Ай бұрын

This is sadly very true. But I’m Happy for those women’s who do have a good man 😊

@carriegaylor8859 4 ай бұрын

Well said! Frumpiness does not equal Holiness.

@YeshuaKingMessiah 4 ай бұрын

What ppl call frumpy generally means modest lol Fashion isn’t necessary in any way. It’s a money waster honestly.

@bobbieschendel3144 4 ай бұрын

I get this. You arent closer to God because you wear oversized sweatpants and sweatshirt. And its not attractive. I think some people have the idea its more godly because it covers more of your body, and it does but its not wrong to wear clothes that fit as long as they are modest.

@javaskull88 4 ай бұрын

Now, we need a video from Christian women informing men how they should dress.

@davidingram1016 4 ай бұрын

Good point, my wife thinks I look sexier when I’m dress in a suit / tie ! We dress up for church except she will ware slacks on freezing cold days and might slip on unseen ice.

@doesnotFempute 4 ай бұрын

my husband occasionally wears kilts that are shorter than my skirts. I told him he has a jezebel spirit 🥵

@lds251 4 ай бұрын

👏Too many men look sloppy. If they just got off work it’s one thing but not to care about how they look most of the time shows disinterest.

@JesusistheOnlyWay222 2 ай бұрын

@@doesnotFempute 😂😂😂😂😂

@MadameLovely1 4 ай бұрын

This video is very redemptive coming from a male perspective that encourages other males to be accountable for themselves while addressing the principles behind how women can be mistakenly viewed. This is the most balanced presentation I've seen on modesty and dress geared towards women...honestly. Spoken like a big brother. It's such a sensitive, sometimes triggering, and controversial topic. Thank you for your courage in "going there" and for handling it with such care. Sending it to a few friends....

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate this encouragement! So glad it was useful :)

@Cclearly9 4 ай бұрын

Agreed. This breakdown of modesty was very tasteful and responsible.

@johannees622 4 ай бұрын

The Holy Spirit is the best designer. He gently convicted me of certain things I used to wear like the really short tight shorts at the gym or the small cleavage I would leave on my work shirt. Now I even opt for more simple jewelry pieces. I find myself more elegant now. Spending time with God truly changes things from the inside out. Love this video. ❤

@caitlinoneill4479 4 ай бұрын

A former Christian woman friend criticized my chin length hair while telling me men like long hair pulled back in a ponytail 😐 if I had thick hair like her I might do that. She also made fun of my wearing Birkenstock's instead of sexy heels! I don't care to incite a man sexually. Besides, the Birkenstocks help with neuropathy. Too much judgement so we're no longer friends. Thank you for the male perspective Mark.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

So glad the video was useful!

@AWDTH1111 4 ай бұрын

I’m a man who LOVES chin length hair. Just be yourself.

@stephaniescott5757 4 ай бұрын

Be you! The right one will come

@BetterTogether300 4 ай бұрын

Do ur hair in a way that makes you look most attractive. However, stats have been taken to discover men prefer long hair visually, and they prefer smaller waist to hip ratio that they can see n observe in your clothing. (Experts took stats on this) You could buy a hair addition and use this with your hair styles when u will be around elegible men. It wd add to initial visual attraction.

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

@@BetterTogether300seriously?!

@dressamilk 4 ай бұрын

The shape of our body can make choosing “the right” clothes more difficult. Curvy women or women who workout tend to show curves no matter what they wear. If we show less skin is often better but sometimes a pair of jeans and a simple shirt can show curves. It’s not easy being a woman. And it’s also hard not to wear short clothes in a country like Brazil (my country) where it’s hot almost the entire year.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

This is certainly one of those issues each Christian has to walk with God on (Romans 14 is a great place to read for issues like this).

@l.boogie429 4 ай бұрын

So just make sure your intent is okay..

@dawnstonerock4253 4 ай бұрын

Loose clothing is cooler than tight clothing every day. ❤

@A51793 4 ай бұрын

The way you dress says a lot about you. dress to honor God not to impress people

@ncp5957 4 ай бұрын

You're a woman, don't try to hide that. But don't USE it for the purpose of tripping some man. Your heart's intention is important. God will let you know if something is ok or not, listen to the Holy Spirit's leading. Men are responsible for themselves too, we can't control their thoughts 100%. Some trip whatever one wears:(

@who4259 4 ай бұрын

I used to hate hearing this topic in church cause of how judgmental pastors would be towards us women. But this video helped a lot & didn't feel judgmental at all. Thank you pastor.

@caribbeankpoplover 4 ай бұрын

The fact some people commented without really watching the video 😭 I think you really presented this topic with a lot of respect and Biblical scriptures to back up your points. 🙏🏾

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@miami220 4 ай бұрын

Thanks again for this Mark!! Living in Miami it's tempting to fall into the culture of dressing more provocatively. I certainly don't want to attract the wrong kind of attention or cause anyone to stumble. My first priority is to honor God in everything. May not always get it right, but always striving to be more like a Prov. 31 Woman each day. God bless you and your family :).

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

God bless you too!

@ThroughMyLins 2 ай бұрын

@miami220 I used to also live in south Florida and I know what you mean, I saw women dressed more scantily than when I lived up north, even at church. I think the humidity and culture encourages minimal clothing. I really had to take a stand against giving into a more worldly look, but men do respect women more if they don’t show everything. One of my old friends who actually brought me closer to the lord, she kinda drifted after moving from Broward to south Miami. She has a very risqué Instagram account I recently stumbled across, I couldn’t believe it! So yes, we have to be aware if we are giving into culture and not dressing in respectful ways.glad you are focused on honoring God, it will bless you! 🌴🙏🏼💯

@miami220 2 ай бұрын

@@ThroughMyLins thank you so much for your comments and kind wishes. May God bless you too ❤️

@teresajohnson7727 4 ай бұрын

Modesty is a heart condition, and thank you so much for addressing this subject as you did! Excellent content, imo!

@nyasmith-assis5168 4 ай бұрын

What do I think when I am getting dressed in the morning? Does this match. 😂

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

lol :)

@12Messenger 4 ай бұрын

You should be thinking am I causing temptation

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

@12messenger I feel like you didn't watch the video

@AutumnLuvsJesus 4 ай бұрын

I’m thinking “do I look homeless?? I look homeless, lemme change…” I need to put some effort in, girl 😂😂😂 At least you match!

@cherish867 4 ай бұрын

Well I think when I get up in the morning. Should I get dressed today! Well, that’s just for my day off really.

@storieswithgrandma1068 4 ай бұрын

I like what he is saying about what temps a man. My husband has a problem with flesh colored clothes. It causes him to do a double take. Men and women should consider this.

@lynnp456 4 ай бұрын

Flesh colored clothing has always been horrific and just keeps getting worse ROFL it seriously looks sooooo bad , I'm from NY I know style 🤣😅

@BetterTogether300 4 ай бұрын

Flesh coloured looks naked.

@cherish867 4 ай бұрын

At one point on my route, there was a billboard with a woman in flesh colored clothing. It always made me think there was a naked woman up there. It’s a wonder there weren’t more accidents over there.

@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere 4 ай бұрын

Came to support you in the comments, Mark cause I know the hateful comments are coming 😂. God bless you - and as a woman, I agree ❤

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

lol, yes, I knew it would happen too. People read the title and freak out without watching the video, lol

@thewrestlingchick-tamara 4 ай бұрын

I'm here to support you as well.

@Arlene_DOTK 4 ай бұрын

Here to support Mark and this comment. It's amazing how people can't hold their tounge, listen, and learn.

@MonicaAndLulu 4 ай бұрын

Loving others, hating pride and selfishness, and not wanting others to stumble (we all know lust can be so hard on men) all lead to wanting to dress modestly. Also honoring your future husband, honoring your temple, self respect, and respect to those around you including children.

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

Lust is just as hard for women - that little thing in the hand that both men and women are watching porn on. There's as much rape in countries where women are mandated to cover completely head to foot.

@eac-guy7272 4 ай бұрын

You got that wrong. What was Gomer wearing when Hosea was sent to get her?

@claricesmith9528 4 ай бұрын

This video was great Mark! I’ve always been modest in dressing, and different from the world. Thank you so much ❤❤❤

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@NaileaGuerrero 4 ай бұрын

Love how you often clarify what you mean on challenging topics like this. ✝️💟

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

God bless!

@pauca2014 4 ай бұрын

I think you have spoken a very balanced word and gave a good modern day translation of Gods advice in the scripture. Wordly spirits are sneaking into christian mindsets and we need to be aware of the devastating effects it can have in our lives.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate the feedback. God bless!

@manichairdo9265 4 ай бұрын

Great stuff. A Christian is clothed in the righteousness of Christ. Even the most modestly dressed woman can be adulterous in her heart even if she dresses as a frump. As can any man who appears wholesome on the outside.

@GodAgenda 4 ай бұрын

Very balanced view on dressing. I don’t understand a christain that has been translated from the kingdom of darkness to the kingdom of light still dressing like women from the kingdom of darkness. Leave all worldly appearance. If u wanna be christlike be one and stop vacillating ❤

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

God bless!

@eac-guy7272 4 ай бұрын

What do women from the kingdom of darkness wear?

@orangeblossom1769 4 ай бұрын

Intentionally immodest clothing. @@eac-guy7272

@GodWokeMeUp 4 ай бұрын

This is one of the best videos I've seen from a male explaining these things. There's some people who are given the gift of communication and you sir are one of them! Excellent job! 💯

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful! All glory to God!

@4Benji5 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. I love watching these videos still as a married woman. One of many resources that keep me pointed in the right direction in my relationship as well as helping others. Even in marriage I've been confused at times knowing how to dress, how to divert wordly advances but also communicate my femininity to my husband and in my daily life. I think I've finally found the sweet spot of not falling into the frumpy trap you mentioned. I've been on both wrong ends before, dressing way too enticingly than appropriate, and then dressing almost masculinely to try to divert attention and began to wonder why I wasn't approached the same way as guys did other women. It used to be a pain point but now on the other end I understand. If you wish to get married your posture should be that you want to please your partner (your PARTNER, not every rando on the street) and display the intent of your heart. That means both rejecting worldly ways that diminish and hypersexualize our bodies, and yet displaying a delight in the particular image that God fashioned you in as opposed to the masculine. It can feel frustrating at times, but it's worth it to dive in and seek God with all your heart on the matter. He will make things simple. And I even had to dispel ideas the media puts out of what's attractive to a man. The things that attract my husband most to me are so, so far from lingerie and mini skirts. It baffled me at first, but honestly it's sad we are so misguided. I'm grateful for the godly love and desire God puts in a real man's heart

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

So what on earth are the things that attract your husband to you? You were either too frumpy or too hypersexualised, trying to display a delight in the way God fashioned you, avoiding being too masculine, dispelling ideas from media, and God kept it simple. It's not miniskirts and lingerie and it baffled you at first that you were so misguided. I'm not any more enlightened about what perfect clothing your 'real man' likes??

@kennethfok 4 ай бұрын

If you say lingerie and mini skirts attract your husband, I would say it’s perfectly normal. Men are wired in such a way because the lust and attraction is what causes their sexual arousal and we all know in biology how it works for sexual intercourse to take place. That is why God created a marriage relationship as something sacred for man and woman to enjoy and that is why there is a need for modest dressing everywhere else with the exception of being with your spouse in the bedroom.

@cliftafrizzell4687 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for calling men to be responsible for their own actions.

@legendarystudioclips6018 4 ай бұрын

Those comments at the very bottom are there for a reason Mark. Ignore them. They clearly haven’t watched they video. So many men and women too, dress very seductively. They show off their body and that just is not very Christ like. A true man or woman of God dresses in a way that they respect their body and those around her or him. God bless you Mark.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Amen, we have to have our heads in the sand to think this isn't an issue for all Christians, men and women, to consider in these wicked times. The Bible talks about it, so clearly we should too :) God bless!

@ThankyouJesusGirl 4 ай бұрын

Pastor Mark, God bless you! You truely are a courageous pastor here on the internet, who fears God and not people. A lot of leading christian male figures will never go here in fear of backlash and losing followers. This message is necessary and straight on point. I say Amen to it. Thank you Jesus for pastor Mark.

@g.williams2047 4 ай бұрын

A well made video, I agree with your points when speaking as a man. On the tomboy issue, the small details will do wonders. Feminine accessories or hair are usually all that’s needed.

@lisadeangelo244 4 ай бұрын

Thanks Mark! I appreciate your thoughts and guidance.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

My pleasure!

@pamelagonzalez7684 4 ай бұрын

Excellent info!!

@hollymarie84 4 ай бұрын

"What does that look like? I don't know.🤷‍♂️ I'm not a fashion expert!" I cackled! 🤣🤣🤣 That caught me off guard for some reason. Thanks Mark, I needed that laugh today! 🤗

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@jayhambee7930 4 ай бұрын

This was well thought out and presented. And, it's so refreshing to see a man with the courage to go where so many other men fear to tread.

@Arlene_DOTK 4 ай бұрын

Great video and message, Mark! You are always fair, balanced, and most importantly; following God's principles 🙏

@Natalie.Garcia 4 ай бұрын

Excellent and respectful approach. God bless you.

@lisamostert8246 4 ай бұрын

This is fantastic. Very well articulated! Thank you Lord Jesus. Zimbabwe 🇿🇼

@mustafadoaa1788 4 ай бұрын

Great video, thanks

@cindysmith8258 4 ай бұрын

You are a blessing…

@TheLadyValerie 4 ай бұрын

Good job on explaining-I know this one was tough. Thank you 🙌

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@tinathomas2312 4 ай бұрын

😊thank you so much for sharing this so many pastor or preaching not to wear certain things on a woman as if it's all on her to make a man not to just after a woman. Each person is accountable for their own actions.

@candacethorbourne3424 4 ай бұрын

Awww Mark, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic! :)

@joannayeung3705 4 ай бұрын

Love that, women dont have the right to say to the men that they are wrong for being temepted by the way they dress. They are just being real with their desires. I have a friend who dress like the world, she complains that men find her attractive, but by the time she got to know them, they all were after her phyiscally.

@pibly7784 4 ай бұрын

There’s the POINT.😊

@eac-guy7272 4 ай бұрын

How does the world dress? Why do women get the blame for men's lustful mentality. Women in the Middle East only show their faces but they still get SAed

@pacificchick8750 4 ай бұрын

Yup. Don't advertise what isn't for sale.

@eac-guy7272 4 ай бұрын

Again men are excused for their sins but wonen are inexcusable. I suppose for centuries the indoctrination will take some more centuries for people to realize that. You all make yourselves sound like the ignorants in the times that the earth was spherical and not flat.smfh Women of the middle east show only their faces but are still SAed

@citrine_111 4 ай бұрын

i am not Christian but these similar values are present in hindu scripts as well new subscriber here :)

@tinag8774 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this message Amen 🙏🙌🙏

@caitlinpojo2701 4 ай бұрын

Amen Brother Mark… I prayed about dressing the right way the other day. Thank you for sharing what the Holy Spirit led you to share!🙌🏽

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

So glad it was timely! All glory to God!

@dyonneb3318 4 ай бұрын

So timely I did the same a couple days ok

@girlygrandma5990 4 ай бұрын

It’s about spiritual thing attached to people not clothing

@rachaelnuchols764 4 ай бұрын

Great video ❤

@user-tn9pi2vn6t 4 ай бұрын

Great message! Thank you, Mark! I noticed it is Colossians 3:17 instead of 19. I really like your quotation and went to Bible app to highlight this verse then noticed this minor typo 😊

@user-xz4ht8kn5o 4 ай бұрын

Very well presented, thank you.

@ThisOnesForYou5 4 ай бұрын

I like the insight in this video. Pleasing God should be the top priority. When we're seeking Him and spending time with Him, He reveals what this looks like in unique ways individually.

@jmgb2954 4 ай бұрын

Awesome video Mark! Ignore any comment that does not compliment this video as they either didn’t watch the whole thing or just completely disagree. I have been watching your videos/channel for years and I absolutely enjoy your content. God bless! 🙏🏼

@danjelavrbanec1787 4 ай бұрын

Very nice.. Thank you and God bless your life 🙏✨🌹✨

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

God bless you too!

@LizaLavolta 4 ай бұрын

This was very balanced. I appreciate this

@Unveiledtheblog Ай бұрын

I could literally watch your videos in an episodic fashion 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼love this

@lesliebergquist9 4 ай бұрын

It’s funny because since I was a young girl I have been very modest and have dressed accordingly all of my life. Now I am 5’9” and weigh in at 137 pounds which means that I am of average weight but relatively tall. As a result of my build I frequently wore feminine suits and blouses because it worked for me. The suits may have had a skirt or pants. Weirdly I noticed very early on that men were drawn to me despite my modest appearance. When going out for the evening I wore silky pajama suits or long sleeved dresses that didn’t hug every inch of my figure. My mom used to tell me to leave much to the imagination. Young women today need to understand that this is very true. What’s more, they respect you, don’t push the boundaries, and take time to get to know you.

@sarahm5128 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing a well-balanced viewpoint on this subject from Scripture. Really good video! The Lord has brought me to the same conclusions through those verses as well.

@AutumnLuvsJesus 4 ай бұрын

How sweet it this 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@08prema 4 ай бұрын

I wonder what God thinks of me running around in Pj's? Dressing up is too tiring.

@WildnUnruly 4 ай бұрын

Going to church I remember a few things. Why am I going? To worship. My focus is on God. Who is God? The Alpha and the Omega. The Creator. He is a King. I dress to not be a distraction to as few people as possible. I dress in my very best because I am going before royalty. The King of Kings. What I tend to wear: Plain clothing, nothing short, tight, shiny. Nothing that is unclean or stained. Nothing that shows off allegiance to sports, company, job etc. Nothing that speaks to the amount of money spent on an item of clothing, no labels. I don’t wear any jewelry that is ostentatious. In my time in the military we wore stud earrings. Gold, Silver or Pearls. And a simple wedding band, watch, single necklace. Conservative hairstyles. And simple neutral tone or skin tones for make-up. Again nothing shiny or over the top. No lash extensions, red lipstick or lip gloss. Hemlines at the knee and to the ankle. No exposed arms to any blouse, if my top has no sleeves I add a thin sweater set or blazer. If I had to describe what I looked like a Bree Van de Kamp type. I don’t think of men, attracting or repelling, they don’t cross my mind. I do think of women and little girls in particular. I don’t wear things that will cause a child to want them. Example: shiny stuff like diamond earrings. But that is me. My thought process when I dress to attend church. Or Christian functions. At home it’s jeans and t-shirts, sweatshirts. At work it’s a uniform so I don’t have to think about that. For an event like a wedding or party, BBQ etc. I follow the lead of the hostess but tone it down if she’s not as conservative as I am. I don’t wear a swimsuit anywhere without my husband around. We normally go out on a boat or spa at home not around lots of people.

@Occupied_South 4 ай бұрын

Excellent. I am a traditional Catholic who reveres modesty and I approve this message!

@abigailboyd2534 4 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@geralt_rivia1974 4 ай бұрын

nice.advice.😊

@bellathereader1328 4 ай бұрын

As an older woman who has always tried to dress modestly yet fashionably, this is a genius video! Great principles to work from😊

@DDee-oi6kn 4 ай бұрын

It's what's in their heart that should attract you to a person, a kindly heart, a compassionate person, a Godly person - not what's on the outside.

@louk6196 4 ай бұрын

What we wear is an expression of our inner selves. We really do “wear our heart on our sleeve.”

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

@@louk6196and if you live in some parts of Africa, you swear pretty little. Maybe a few beads on your neck and nothing over the breasts. It's really so much more culturally dictated than you realise.

@allauk8790 2 ай бұрын

I wish you would illustrate some of this topic.

@empea3837 3 ай бұрын

I like how you biblically support your points while lovingly and intelligently refute the potential legalistic fear-based comments that may be may come your way regrading this and all the topics you cover in your videos.

@bmc348 4 ай бұрын

Very well put because there's different things to consider, like body shape. There are things perfectly fine for some girls to wear that I can't because I am very curvy in certain places. I keep those things in mind when shopping, or I can slightly alter an outfit to be more appropriate. But I also ask my brother about outfits I'm on the fence about. He's really good at gently telling me if I shouldn't wear it 😂.

@terrinelson855 4 ай бұрын

I dress for comfort, not for fashion.

@gingerlemon865 4 ай бұрын

It's hard for us curvy girls 😮‍💨😔 ... No matter how covered up I am It's just fitted. A flowy dress for a less curvy girl is fitted for me.

@dreamwavemermaid 4 ай бұрын

Embrace your curves!! Who cares if the dress is a little tight. Godly women in the 1950s and 1980s had style and showed off their feminine body and still attracted Godly men.

@JoyleiaJo 4 ай бұрын

Profound, surprisingly.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

God bless!

@sarahk758 4 ай бұрын

Intention is key. Bindi Marc has some great videos on this very topic. When getting dressed, it comes down to this- are you asking yourself ‘what makes me look the sexiest?’ If so, chuck it.

@elainebmack 4 ай бұрын

I have found that no matter what you wear, men will be attracted to you. I met my first love when I was walking along wearing winter clothing, hat scarf, big coat, etc. I have never worn revealing clothing as it does not reflect my personality at all.

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

Very true. There is more rape in countries where woman are completely covered up... Head to toe

@user-lv5qr1ru1h 4 ай бұрын

How a woman carries herself counts too. Confidence shines through. Speech, tone and content are also important.

@emmalineallen7129 4 ай бұрын

I really don’t have the chance to dress up, I wear a t shirt and leggings or shorts most of the time for work. But when I do I feel so good and really do enjoy it.

@franoliva2075 4 ай бұрын

The place of worship were I attend the woman still wear long skirts/dresses/no jewelry/high heels/makeup all natural. Nowadays its difficult 2 find " conservative clothing." 😢😢😢

@matildamaher1505 4 ай бұрын

Absolutely right

@COSMIC-NINJA Ай бұрын

I know it takes a lot of courage to make videos like this, but I just want to say that as a woman I appreciate when you make these type of videos, because you have a very good non-judgmental way of explaining it, and that will actually attract more people to listen. 🤗

@zabrinatheteacher 4 ай бұрын

Teach.

@shelbyartist9152 4 ай бұрын

Holy means set apart; not perfect.

@ftmrivas3043 4 ай бұрын

Interesting perspective. I think people should dress modestly but it should be an individualized approach as people are different.

@dancerballet4353 4 ай бұрын

I used to wear appropriate clothes to look very good but modest and godly at the same time for last 10 years and no one at work noticed me. I was a single woman in the team of engineers man. So it doesn't work. I want to add that I am also attractive so I think I purposefully covered the best of me to be invisible. Never again.

@username00009 3 ай бұрын

Perhaps they were simply being professional. Why would you want any of your coworkers to be interested in you?

@EmmeStAnne 4 ай бұрын

Mark I am a woman and agree with you 100🎉❤

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

So glad!

@GillianAdendorff 4 ай бұрын

I would run a million miles from incredible arrogance, narrow-mindedness and judgemental criticism. Scripture is very clear on why do you see the speck in your neighbour's eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? This says so much about the internal truth and justice of your heart.

@esmeraldablossom 4 ай бұрын

Sometimes women dress in a particular way because of society values, which sometimes these values are distorted. So, if a man is interested in a woman, instead of rejecting her straight away because of the way she is dressed, he could just talk to her about it nicely so she can understand why it's better to dress in a certain way. She may have some good qualities which other women dressed in an acceptable 'Christian' way may not have. Then, it's up to her to understand and self-improve or reject the advise/suggestion.

@rosierb852 4 ай бұрын

Usually if you’re seeking a husband you should start preparing and seeking God’s counsel for that. Don’t turn to men to tell you how to dress no. Talks to God and pray. I have been in God’s counsel since last October when he revealed to me why I’m not married. I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist. He revealed everything to me about myself. Lately now that I left the relationship and it’s just me and God, he revealed to me about my appearance not just fashion just overall.

@BookofJoshuaVerse24-15 4 ай бұрын

I don’t have any criticism for this video. That’s amazing. Yes ladies, what he said. This is the first of his videos that I’ve seen. WhataImpression.

@jucadvgv3449 4 ай бұрын

i'm going to turn 70 this yr. so keep in mind, please, and remember that's where i'm coming from. when i worked it was in a law firm and, prior to that, in other offices. i'm 5'2" and at the time was less than 100 lbs. i wore dresses and suits that fit my tiny figure well, and i wore other boho outfits with pants. with all of these i usually wore 3" heels. even after the '70's i still loved a somewhat hippie look and still, as old as i am, i try to find bell bottoms. until i started gaining weight at around 50 (and at that age most people still guessed my age at 30 or so), i still liked 'vintage' clothes from my younger days. also, since i hadn't gained weight i still wore my clothes i had kept. that meant business suits, long flowing dresses, hip hugger bell bottoms, crop tops, and shorts. see-thru lace tops had matching camisoles underneath and were mostly business attire. now, as old as i am and no longer working, as well as having gained quite a bit of weight, i go for comfort and wear jeans and t's. beginning around age 18 i started going to a church where i always wore jeans, and that's what i still wear. finally, as old as i am now and with my weight gain, i've lost most of my feeling of feminity, but when i was younger i used good use of make-up, conservatively, to accentuate good facial points and minimize the bad. also, i loved to hunt and fish and did so with a couple of guys i dated, but even in that attire (which i also wore at other times) i was able to feel feminine.

@CrownedJulz 4 ай бұрын

This video is so ON TIME! For the past month or so, I've been so turned off/ interested in woman that wear tight/ revealing clothes. For me, it's immodest, and women that wear tastefully attractive clothes has been a big attraction point to approach her and inquire if she's a believer.

@utamu777 4 ай бұрын

As a woman it's a blessing to see a man appreciate modesty in a woman. Thanks for sharing.

@CrownedJulz 4 ай бұрын

@@utamu777 no, thank you for holding yourself to that standard. You'll be a blessing to your future husband if you're not already married 😁

@KJ-lb4tj 4 ай бұрын

I wouldn't be judging on looks at all... But character of the person.

@Mirjana-oz3mv 4 ай бұрын

Timely!!! I saw that many christians don't care about this so I was wondering if me trying to do the right thing makes any sense

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 ай бұрын

So glad it was timely!

@marthamoloi.hissoldier 4 ай бұрын

Someone once told me I dress like someone wife. That really confirmed that i am indeed dressing appropriately Majority of the people I use to hang around with really exposed a lot of skin and I’ve never been able to do that. I truly thank God for this one❤😊

@Mirjana-oz3mv 4 ай бұрын

@@marthamoloi.hissoldier GOD bless you sister!!!! Proud of you❤️❤️❤️

@JesusChistLovesYou 4 ай бұрын

Good topic thank you for your thoughts! It’s so true and it’s so important for us ladies to be thoughtful and considerate of how we present ourselves. Not only in day to day shopping, but especially at church where men, married couples and young children are going to have a relationship with God and get closer to God to repent and at work where they’re forced to go and make a living for their family. Womens dress and have they behave absolutely have an effect on men. If he sees a woman in short shorts up to her behind or mini skirts and high heals he will notice and he will at minimum struggle to not look and lust. It’s also not practical. I live in Florida a hot state too so I get it sometimes it’s unavoidable especially at the beach. But seriously I wear jeans and long sleeve shirts a lot, long or knee length dresses are beautiful and more feminine than mini skirts and just as cool. Longer shorts are just as comfy and cute but please not at church or work! 55-85% of men and Christian men, and even pastors are in porn addiction and many more are fighting to refrain from it. How do you think the husbands and wives feel when they go to work or Church to try to get the help they desperately need for their marriage that’s been plagued by lust and porn addiction only to see that women in church are wearing shirt shirts and miniskirts? Yes lust is a man’s fault and he needs to do the work no matter what! But also how we dress and present ourselves is our fault and it’s up to us to find that balance between conservative, modest (covering chest, thighs, belly) especially at church and work! It just is not fair and not godly either. Love your sisters and brothers and God enough to consider others and respect them, have a true fear of the Lord.❤

@Glory_Jesus123 4 ай бұрын

Well said, Actually we should make sure whatever we're wearing glorifies God

@theresakunda4407 4 ай бұрын

I live in New York and have had different seasons of fashion trends. When you dress conservatively you get no attention. Note: there are very, very few authentic Christian men. When they see a lady, they still interact with her like she was a babe or fast woman. Sadly, the provocative women of all ages have made it so difficult for women who are ladies.

@user-rm3pt7jc3f 4 ай бұрын

The thumbnail shows outfits like there will be outfits shown but there aren't any outfits shown at all ☹️

@gatehouse5209 4 ай бұрын

Mark, I doubt I'm within your age demographic regarding your ministry (only an assumption). I just find most of your content is geared towards the younger crowds. Do you have insight for mature Christians (50+) regarding relationships? If not, do you have any suggested platforms like yours that might?

@tashenaanderson9987 4 ай бұрын

The last guy I was with had a problem with my tight clothing I thought he was trying to control me

@lollydiston445 4 ай бұрын

A woman I called a friend wore a tennis outfit to church. I imagined the men around her having a hard time focusing on the sermon and their prayers, and it changed my attitude toward her.

@username00009 3 ай бұрын

Perhaps she went to tennis first and didn’t have time to change?

@gigicollins3498 2 ай бұрын

@@username00009 She should have changed her clothes. A tennis outfit to church is ridiculous.

@GrantJacobs-vt4zn 4 ай бұрын

Cool video , My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@GrantJacobs-vt4zn 4 ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach her?

@GrantJacobs-vt4zn 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up online. impressive

@wendylederer367 4 ай бұрын

I don’t need anyone telling me what to wear or how to think. God isn’t concerned with what you wear. I think he cares about what’s in your heart.

@SeoJun-Sara97 4 ай бұрын

When I was in my teen, I thought I could attract this boy I was really into. So I dressed up and behave just like most girls that time. I thought with my good looks and popularity I could get his attention. Nah! He actually fell for the modestly dressed, plain looking but the nicest girl I have ever known. They are married now and now I can actually see her true beauty.

@roselucht4583 4 ай бұрын

Dress beautifully and be elegant. Don’t show the world precious aspects of you meant to be intimately for your husband. Honor your body and others! True attraction comes from the heart and a woman dresses what’s in her heart, she will pay consequences- good or bad by attracting good or bad to herself through her dress.