5 Effects Of Alcohol That Destroy Your Relationships

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@MrAdrian231 6 жыл бұрын

Yes, drinking is selfish. It takes the essence of you away from yourself and other people, leaving an annoying idiot in its place.

@lauraclarke8138 5 жыл бұрын

Sober for 18 years now, pray for anyone going through this 🙏

@nancypalacios9840 Жыл бұрын

I broke up with my boyfriend a few hours ago. I don’t think he’s ever going to leave it. He doesn’t do it everyday anymore, but it affected our relationship badly. I don’t know if it’s messed up of me to send this to him or not. He probably hates me. He was intoxicated the whole time when he came home from a party. I’m sure he saw the events that happened differently. He’s not a bad person. He just becomes someone different when drinking and even though I love him I had to let go. My stupid brain has this mentality that he’ll realize he has to change his ways and come conquest me all over again.. but I know that won’t happen. ://

@ursulatroxler7428 5 жыл бұрын

I agree alcohol is not a social thing . It does push you inside of your self . It is a very selfish act.

@rafsoto6760 6 жыл бұрын

I'm sick of being a drunk mess! I'm quitting today. Thanks so much Kevin for your enlightenment & wisdom on this dangerous drug. I'm looking forward to an alcohol free life. Pray for me.

@rafsoto6760 6 жыл бұрын

maciej wrotek yes I do unfortunately && I'm 28 starting to see & feel my life going to the gutter because of this toxic substance.

@KanwarAnand 6 жыл бұрын

humble kidd how’s it going

@rafsoto6760 6 жыл бұрын

Kanwar Anand today is pretty chill I'm a little bored & have some anxiety being that I'm adjusting to the alcohol free lifestyle. But, so far so good last night I woke up drenched in sweat! But felt really good and energized today. How are you?

@KanwarAnand 6 жыл бұрын

humble kidd I am a couple weeks sober. I told my wife today that this is it, I’m going to drink. She didn’t protest. It made me feel worse. I didn’t drink and said we will see tomorrow. I’ve been telling her how I hate being sober, even though it is more good than bad. To be answerable to all those people who say I am the happiest drunk they’ve ever met is not easy, even if I want to quit I may be reminded by everyone just how much fun I used to be. I don’t know man. My drink of choice is beer.

@rafsoto6760 6 жыл бұрын

Kanwar Anand if you truly feel you have a problem with alcohol then it's only up to you to finally make the decision to abstain from it. I used to be the fun, chill, happy cool drunk that everyone invited over whenever there was a get together. But, slowly I started becoming combative, aggressive, obnoxious, argumentative, reckless! People started staying away from me & some family members where telling me I need to lay off the booze. When it starts interfering with your friendships, family and over mental state, productivity and your view of life... it's definitely time to quit. I relapsed 3 days ago but, I'm so determined to really stop drinking and changing my way of life.

@annamaria1929 6 жыл бұрын

Alcohol ruined my relationship. It was the lynchpin for seven years. I was in complete denial. Ultimately it was more important than me. The relentless lying and deceit was the final nail in the coffin. Very sad 😞

@BeckyBlanton 3 жыл бұрын

My plumber, who FAILED to install/fix a toilet after three times, left here cursing at me for HIS inability to function. I have NO patience or use for alcoholics. I RUN AWAY as soon as I find out someone is an alcoholic. Even if they DO get sober, they remain "dry drunks" - hateful, mean, moody and angry. No sane person needs an alcoholic in their lives. They ruin so many lives.

@TheCdchance 3 жыл бұрын

I had to let go of my best friend just today. He wouldnt let go of his drinking buddy. Wouldnt stop drinking. And hangovers 2 to 3 times a week. I can't deal with it anymore. I'll miss my friend terribly.

@ketchup1185 3 жыл бұрын

@luckystr221 10 ай бұрын

I had to do this a couple weeks ago and I’m sure she’s blaming me for it all. It was too much for me to deal with, being her friend.

@AStarryEyedLife 5 жыл бұрын

It’s so true. My partners addiction put so much stress on me to fix it that I now I am suffering mentally myself. And our relationship is virtually gone, and it pains me so. Alcohol addiction really rips away the person who you truly are and hurts so much more than helps. It makes the people you love want to fix everything so bad because they love you so much and they just get burnt out, like I did. If you can't be happy with yourself you will never make anyone else happy either because they will be trying so hard to make you feel love that they end up feeling short handed and one sided. It's just not good. Alchol will make you lose everything. I promise.

@ckay9006 4 жыл бұрын

For me, it's how they lie so naturally to you, are never there for you when YOU need them, you barely see them , it just feels so one sided all the time, like you don't matter or are just a convenience , long silences too, you start to feel worthless and alone ,as it seems to be mainly words and not much action or presence, then because you love them you want to stay and help despite the dispare you feel, then you wonder if your helping at all and if leaving would help us both. ... brilliant times.

@graceb9765 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate so much. You feel like in the end you become codependent on them because 24/7 you're worrying about them constantly. It breaks your heart when you're trying to help them but it becomes a struggle with their emotions everyday. I know you posted this a year ago but if you're struggling Al Anon really is helping me through the relationship. Eventhough we've broken up having the support to understand everything that has happened me has helped me so much. Hope you're staying strong and gain that strength you need ❤️

@twinsma14 2 жыл бұрын

“One sided” that’s the stage I’m in. I feel so conned out of my love. I’m angry and have pulled back. I miss my best friend so badly, but my best friend has another best friend that he would sacrifice me for in a heartbeat. Just sad

@AStarryEyedLife 2 жыл бұрын

@@twinsma14 I’m very sorry that is happening to you. The best thing I ever did was move on from it. I had to realize that after years of trying to fix the problem it wasn’t going to happen. He has to despise to get the help and there’s no way to save him from himself. I’m sorry 😞 I promise it will hurt more if you delay your own healing though. Set the example he needs and think of yourself first.

@twinsma14 2 жыл бұрын

@@AStarryEyedLife I'm trying. I just can't abandon him. Too hard right now. After enough continuous neglect, I. Sure I'll be more then ready soon. Thank you so much for your advice.. no friends care about this issue anymore

@victoriaoshea4865 6 жыл бұрын

"Jekel and Hyde, Bi-Polar", I totally relate. Another great video Kevin. Thank you for the articulate wisdom.

@robsteries 3 ай бұрын

Same here, I'm done with it

@autumnvalley 3 жыл бұрын

So true. It's all about facing your problems.... I wish people realized that it can affect relationships and your body and that if you try to overcome it things may indeed get better!

@mariahansen6200 3 жыл бұрын

I fight all I could to make my ex partner Happy, while she was drinking. I really dont know who she actually was, because she was always affected of alkohol. It was everyday almost and it escalated sometimes, during hard times. She put all blame on me, denied everything, acted childrish and selfish. Some time she came back after me again, then she missed and remembered What comfort and pleasure I had bring in her life. But is surrely soon ended if I didnt deliver enough .

@steeven23 10 ай бұрын

I am so happy I have stumbled upon this video, thank you for confirming what I have been thinking about alcohol lately. I am thinking about quitting drinking alcohol and we think we should normalize not drinking. Drinking is so normalized and getting drunk is associated with having fun, this is quite problematic.

@steveswayze1012 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for these great videos. I'm on day1 again after several attempts the past few years. I appreciate your efforts to share your wisdom and experience!

@sheepshearer2705 6 жыл бұрын

Another great vid kev. Bang on again. Thanks

@ironjohn5914 11 ай бұрын

Drunks will be Drunks. Let's lock them all up in a giant room!!!! 🤣

@BlkDiesel 6 жыл бұрын

Blessings Kevin!!! Another great piece of insight and information on the effects of alcohol on your relationships. Just wanted to add some perspective of my own via my own research and journey. Although alcohol is a depressant, I am of the mindset that it affects every individual differently dependent on your chemical makeup. 2 people given the same type of alcohol can react totally differently. One can become overly joyous, more outgoing and happy while the other can become violent, loud and obnoxious. I just think it would be making a blanket statement that alcohol effects everyone the same, because it is really an individual affair. All in all abuse of the substance is not good for anyone and that is a statement we can all agree upon. Great videos Kevin... continue onwards and upwards.

@sonlightoils Жыл бұрын

While your correct it doesnt take away from the fact that alcohol isba dangerous drug and destroys the body, mainly the brain and liver longterm. It also effect everyone around the individual. When looked at from a spiritual standpoint the work alcohol in Arbiac is al-kul and it means body eating spirit. All alcohol is a low vibration and causes a person to disconnect from the divine due to it makes their body vi rate on a very low frequency. Spirits await the person to become drunk so they can take over which is why people arent their normal self when drunk. It is the # 2 drug killing 3Million per year. There is no benefit to it. It's a killer. Why do you think they call liquor "spirits". Think about it

@TeenieBeee 3 жыл бұрын

Watching made me cry cause rn my husband is all i got he's been great to me but then he started to get into alcohol and the relationship has really changed its like he's a different person drunk and whenever he's getting drunk im by myself I'm by myself most of the time and sometimes idek where he is sometimes and idk if I have the strength to leave him cause I am so in love with him but I'm trying to get him out of it but I recently gave up on saying anything cause it turns into a fight or he just thinks its a joke I'm hurting everyday...multiple breakdowns...idk what I can do to help him anymore but I know I have to wait till he is ready to change but idk when that will happen. But this was a great video thank you!

@HabitsV2 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Tina, I'm sorry for the trouble you are having. I'll do a quick video for you over the next couple of days. Hopefully I can ease your pain a bit.

@TeenieBeee 3 жыл бұрын

@@HabitsV2 i would love that thank you so much. its good to know im not alone in this and thank you for all youre doing for people.

@mad4hats797 8 ай бұрын

I’m going through the same thing with my husband, it hurts so much to watch someone crumble

@TeenieBeee 8 ай бұрын

@@mad4hats797 im so sorry you're going through this no one should ever go through it but I hope your situation turns out better than mine i had to leave the situation got too abusive. I pray that your situation doesn't end up like mine and your situation turns out better🥺🙏

@florida10100 3 жыл бұрын

I love having a drink but what I find is that I just drink to much to fast. I Iove the feeling of being drunk but absolutely hate the feeling the next day. The danger of alcohol is when it becomes normal to drink and before you know it your drinking every night and always come up with an excuse to drink because you just convince yourself to do it whether it’s stress or just having a bad day. Knowing at the end of that day there’s a reward of a drink can keep you going. The key to stop drinking I think is replacing it with something as equally as pleasurable. I’m not an alcoholic but I have found it’s becoming more normal to drink. I could easily stop drinking but I just need to replace it with excercise or some other form of a productive hobby or interest. I have gone completely without drink many times and the natural feeling of being healthy definitely out weighs the temporary feeling of being drunk. I hope this does help people.

@JM-wq3ps 3 жыл бұрын

That natural feeling of being healthy outweighs to temporary feeling of being drunk. I ❤️ that!

@dang9269 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks man good advice. Iv been drinking when not with my partner and it definitely changes me ...when we text I become passive aggressive and its pushing my partner away as when I'm sober I'm completely different. I'm going to stop drinking from right now

@BeckyBlanton 3 жыл бұрын

You can't help an alcoholic.They're self-medicating their past trauma and don't have the courage or ability to face their pain. Only 17% of those who "try" to get sober ever do. The rest die drunk, alone, hated, and useless.

@MassiveChetBakerFan 6 жыл бұрын

Great video.

@kingjamesmayo8232 6 жыл бұрын

Thank u great video

@MamaBearBevie 6 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU

@shaunattwoodOFFICIAL 7 ай бұрын

Well said

@davidjames3164 4 ай бұрын

This of all videos this really resonated with me

@TheSLK1973 3 жыл бұрын

Just met a lovely man.....I have discovered he is an alcoholic...the lies he tells are unbelievable...not sure I can carry on

@triphop1681 3 жыл бұрын

💯 on point.

@gerhardmaritz7632 11 ай бұрын

Thank you

@sheepshearer2705 6 жыл бұрын

Kanwar. 3 cans better than 10. But seriously try putting couple cans of non alcoholic beer in your fridge for when you feel the. Urge. I got two in my freezer I'm bout to have but I just got in from a long run. Works for me. Good luck

@crissieroserose 2 жыл бұрын

thank you

@ryanhutchison8958 4 жыл бұрын

It sound like my ex wife .. she blame me for eveything but she couldn't keep a job .. so I paid for eveything ..... she be came a 2 sided person and I never know how I was getting and we became homeless cause of it

@mariaaugustakruse5006 3 жыл бұрын

👏👏💐

@johnbarker3308 3 жыл бұрын

I must say im not an alcoholic sorry i drink once in a while but my girlfriend just accused me of my habbit i drank during the cookout i dont go out and being paranoid

@mikaelhawke23 5 жыл бұрын

Key word is moderation and responsibility. You don’t have to avoid or give up alcohol entirely, a lot of things are bad for you. Even good things like healthy dieting and exercise do the opposite if it completely takes over your life. So long as your balancing out your alcohol intake and have supportive people in your life you’ll be alright.

@andrewhernandez9857 4 жыл бұрын

Not for alcoholics....

@mikaelhawke23 4 жыл бұрын

Andrew Hernandez not necessarily true. Even an alcoholic can chose to drink again in moderation, whether or not they stay that way is on them and no one else. Self discipline and responsibility lies on the individual. Unfortunately even non-alcoholism can become another form of unhealthy addiction as well, depending on the individual of course and how they cope with it. If a person isn’t mentally and emotional healthy and balanced then no amount of avoiding alcohol consumption will truly help them because the alcohol was irresponsibly used for avoiding a deeper issue.

@andrewhernandez9857 4 жыл бұрын

If an alcoholic can drink again in moderation, that person isn't a real alcoholic. Trust me, moderation goes out the door eventually. What is your information based on?

@mikaelhawke23 4 жыл бұрын

Andrew Hernandez, from my experiences, listening to everyone else’s experiences and listening to studies and professional input. However you don’t need to be a professional to understanding alcoholism and how to handle it. That being said, I’m not what so ever suggesting an former alcoholic should try drinking again just because I have my own opinion on the matter. I’m pointing out that going from non alcoholic to former alcoholic doesn’t work for everyone, even in they never binge again. Unless your physically, mentally and emotionally comfortable and responsible with alcoholism and alcoholic drinkers then you’ll never truly recover or overcome from the negative experiences with alcoholism. You can’t be free from alcoholism just from putting down the bottle.

@thinkislamcheckmychannel 2 жыл бұрын

Selfish? I'm alright Jack attitude

@memorialgardens1664 2 жыл бұрын

💪🧠🎵💙🙏❤️

@ClipsForGames 3 жыл бұрын

Gees man you don't have to be so negative about alcohol man wow this is some good to it you know.

@thinkislamcheckmychannel 2 жыл бұрын

They will question thee concerning wine, and arrow-shuffling(gambling). Say: 'In both is heinous sin; and uses for men, but the sin in them is more heinous than the usefulness.' Quran 2:219