Which is completely hilarious because they actually think they would listen to them! Like why don't you go to work and try to tell your Boss how to do their job, let me know how that goes for you if you still have a job at the end of the day! Then maybe you'll understand how damn stupid that piece of advice really is!

Yes it's a perfect example of how women actually do not notice most men. And then assume that the men they do notice are "all men"

This is why you hear so many women talk about how bad men are. They've taken their experiences with the bad boys that they picked, and make that assumption about all men, because they don't see the others. They don't really see them. There's so much psychology in this video, evolutionary and biological psychology. It's also one of the reasons why modern feminism is absolutely failing women. My mother's feminism was spot on.

Reading it cold like that really makes women sound completely out of touch snd unreasonable.

Excellent work man. Commenting for the algorithm to boost this thread.

This saved me twenty minutes man,thanks😉

@@MrHastah i always summarize it in the description as well for people

@@MrHastah I'd still recommend watching the video for her explanations. These are just points.

i do it cuz i am a muslim

me too@@khabibnurmagomedov489

Not necessarily. Most guys need to reach the stage(mindset) where they can reject sex with an attractive woman . If they can get there they own the game

It took me forever to figure this out. I’m in my late 30s and very inexperienced. I’m always rejected by the guys I like. And it finally started to dawn on me in the past couple weeks that I may be quite a lot more attractive than I assumed I was. The guys I go for are usually not wealthy or particularly handsome or fit. And it may just be that I set my standards too low and these men already knew it before I did. They knew I’d wake up sooner or later and realize we were a bad match.

Yeah, but if they keep rejecting attractive women and it becomes a pattern, something is wrong with them. There is such a thing as sociopathic gays who like to torment women (they probably had abusive mothers). They’re not nearly as evil as ped0philes, but they’re very problematic.

thank you Jackie!

Yes! Put the information in the newspapers and the news networks.

Nah this is the straight truth bomb of it all. We are stuck in a cycle because the most evil men have the most power. Especially in this context. So they end up then training most women. Like she states here, these women are now training men to act differently. In my life i was assumed to be a type of person. An alpha. It came with ridiculous assumptions that i would be available. But i am an intellectual and only really enjoy challenge. So i never took any of the cake. But i got to watch how people are. People train each other and now in these times we are being trained to be assimilated by an artificial intelligence and robots and to reject each other and give up life's pleasures. It's sad that our cyborg self being. Our digital identity is giving up our culture of passing down wisdom. The world changed to storing knowledge and to educate fields but we gave up guiding relationships. Maybe we ask our parents and older generations. But the error is that it is book read. This is what we need. Observed and lived wisdom. Share it and act the same. We have to fix then next, current and old generations before we can really all get better together. We may be the best we've ever been as an society, but not as individuals.

I know based on attraction research, women don’t see unattractive men, men seem to be annoyed by the sight of an unattractive suiotor. You can debate if annoyed or invisible is better, but pair invisible with hypergamy and yup it’s a thing. Also had to learn that if you just listen to how people higher in neurotisism describe the world and interactions with people, it also kinda screws things for youZ

Yeah Most Modern Women, Maybe even Previous Generations too, Have a Selection of Tall Dark and Handsome, When that as U say Women's "Honest" Observations can Be Skewed. I AM a Ginger Ninja and I Get a Ton of Ahmazing Looks and Responses from Women due to My Natural PowerFull Silent Masculine Presence Alone My Energy and Magnetism. I have Been told By A lot of Women that Ginger Is Super Hot, and I Know Myself Pretty Well so I Agree with them though they Make Me Feel Invincible. With the Last Blind Spot I Need to Be A lot more CommUNIcative and Set Boundaries to Be more Solidified and Express My Needs. I Mean I AM an Empath and I can Read So Much!! So I just Naturally Do things With Women, But Most Women Don't Read Me Well. So Even though I want Women to Be Telepathically Sexual, then i'd Be Hoping for those Really In tune Women Which R Rare.

For real

@Jaime Ares that is forever a good thing. Living in comfortable lies is the only bad thing

@Jaime Ares it is a good thing being what separates her

Actually it’s pretty liberating. Victoria helped me and others realize that we’ve been playing the game wrong this whole time.

Only men who are strong but agree men should not date a woman with that attitude.

Exactly! She’s saying, “I want feminism all day until I’m with a man. Then switch it off and have him pay for everything and treat me like a princess”. In what universe is that fair?

ok so they end up finding another guy tho? And u get nothing?

u guys have lost the protective instinct women crave. They give u babies, their entire love, life, beauty, loyalty, sense of life....it's more than a fair trade in their eyes

@@mynonleatherlife Many men are walking away from marriage because it’s simply a bad deal. Many men support children that are not theirs unknowingly, and pay ludicrous amounts to wives who initiate 70% of divorces, which is above 50% currently. Sense of loyalty? Most women give ‘Chad’s’ their best years, there is no debate in that. Any other remarks?

*Yea how she explained it made so much sense... I was like duh, why didn't I think of that.*

I always see my friend post these sayings on Facebook, women saying the same thing in FB groups, a similar saying on twitter etc, so I would say they are lying, then I sort of figured it out in what a woman says is different to what she actually does. Pay attention to actions rather than words.

Ah, I never grew up without a father and was just as ignorant until this video!

@@Amdecreations. Totally agree!

read the unplugged alpha by richard cooper

u could have loyalty, romance and sexual freedom if you are in an open or partially open relationship

@@mynonleatherlife but that is not true loyalty. You are just fwb with a label at that point.

@@bigmike9486 it's labels all the way down

@@mynonleatherlife I can’t believe that anyone could honestly believe that.

Mike...seriously?? Liberation and romance most certainly DO work together. It has for us...for 43 beautiful years. ❤️

Agreed, the reversed setting would be totally different :D But I do think women do care, that's what they do. They just don't understand. We are just so differently hardwired. I truly can understand the confusion on both sides. For me, this is sooo fascinating. We just need to know what buttons to push and when to do it. And when we do, Oh boy, oh boy! :)

I'm confused. Are you saying the more dates he had the less sex he had and the reverse would be true for women?

@@bromance3496 no

@@ovidius2000 well are you gonna tell me what he meant lmao

@@bromance3496 uLackLogicMan.

Could put all her videos into chapters. Start with a history of her relationships and what lead her into starting to spread this advice. Would be a best seller

Im honeslty in shock trying to fathom just how different our perspectives are

I think she had at least one book. Try to find her YT page

Church

i don't see how the fact that they have a blind spot/selection bias there justifies giving up women forever. we aren't all statisticians

@@mynonleatherlife Your other point of the female blindspot on how easy it is for woman to get male interest for intimacy, compared to the 80% of men, was enlightening. But realizing something, and actually experiencing it, are two different things. Some of us have had enough rejection, friend zoning, being used for validation, it hurts, I'm done, and I'm not alone. I appreciate your vids, and await the onslaught of the white knights.

We average guys have to work smarter and harder than Chad and Tyrone, but there's plenty of ass for us. Help Becky raise her bastard spawn and you'll have access to all sorts of hot women + 10 years.

As a single and childless aging woman (late 30s) I can tell you that we often confuse a man’s attitude or energy with actual alpha male status. You can be ugly and out of shape with no money and no future, but if you give off an arrogant and toxic vibe, we can be foolish enough to mistake that for being a badass masculine attitude. I think what needs to happen is that high value men need to start acting like they’re high value. As I get older, my eyes are opening to the reality of all the high value men out there who don’t adequately value themselves. If you make close to or over 6 figures, never, ever, be nice to a woman unless she fully submits. If she doesn’t submit to you then she is for the streets. But you have to be man enough to demand submission from her. The reason she ends up banging drummers and ugly low income guys is because they had the nerve to assert themselves and their dominance. An attitude of dominance is a choice. If more rich handsome successful guys adopted this attitude they would be unstoppable.

Also, how many women have you rejected? I hear all these mgtow guys complaining about getting women when we live in a culture where it’s never been easier to hook up with a woman. I encounter men with standards that are too high on a daily basis.

wow thank you so much Jordan!!!! It means a lot that you think so as a woman. So you agree with the 5 blindspots?

@@mynonleatherlife I absolutely do agree!

My question is why should they be secrets? There should be healthy communication on both sides about who we are and what we want.

@@keltecdansafety. Exploitation of women

@@keltecdan hi, i think it might be because these are all blindspots, meaning that is not a completely understood trait. a person who reflects a lot and analyses her mind like she does in the video, might get a grasp of these concepts and understand them. furthermore, accepting these as truths and sharing them with a partner might feel uncomfortable/cringy/loss of power, so this might be why are seen as "secrets"

Great post some woman are bordering on brutal with men they aren't interested in and it's ugly when you see it because it's uncalled for.

Very well put I agree. Regarding this blind spot of women. A big factor is biological ignorance I think particularly when it comes to understanding the differences between the psyches of both men and woman. People don't understand how much biology influences our behaviour . For example being aware of the general mating mechanisms or strategies both sexes employ which are hard wired into the animal layer of our subconscious , people don't understand them. The majourity don't realise how much these impulses influence our decision making most are unaware of their existence which leads to each sex judging the other's behaviour towards the opposite sex through an irrational lense . Womens mating strategy basically is Hypergamy- they will always seek the best option possible for a mate and drop the rest like a stone if they find what they deem a " higher quality" male. It's probably nature's way of securing stability for offspring allowing life to flourish it's quite understandable from that view point. Men often don't understand how this works they can't handle the rejection which is a much more common part of life for men than women . This leads men to judge and hold resentment towards women I think. I've come to understand that woman are basically the embodiment of natures selection process within the human race. Mens mating strategy basically is to mate with as many females as possible - to spread their seed as much as possible. Again understandable from natures point of view to ensure life flourishes you see it throughout the animal kingdom. It doesn't mean men don't want or seek stable relationships it's ideal for raising a family but they always have that urge in them for other females which has to be controlled and mastered . The lady described this urge quite well describing it as a hunger that needs feeding I couldn't put it better. When men commit to a relationship they are giving up their mating strategy and fighting against their natural instincts there's a lot of sacrifice and effort in that and it's a beautiful thing when it's for a loving stable relationship but it's still a big thing which I don't think woman understand or give credit for at all. The lovely lady in the video often talks about the qualities in men that woman are attracted to but often don't admit. The reason they don't admit to them is due to bad teachings spawning out of ,post modernism ,modern feminism, and wokeism which have increasingly filtered into society in my opinion. Mens nature has almost been completely demonised due to an overcompensation by these movements perpetuating such narratives of an ruling patriarchy in everything , "toxic masculinity" and notions of gender being a " social construct ". You have generations trying to live by philosophies that are detached from reality and their own human nature. This for me explains the self conflict that women experience when what they think they want doesn't align with what they actually want and explains the confusion and resentment men experience when they try to be what women say they want but get rejected because it's not what they actually want 😂.

@@The_Philosophical_Pugilist Thank you. Regarding the evolutionary mating predispositions of both males and females, which you incidentally summarised so well....I've always employed the analogy of a modern, commercial aircraft which, give or take a few manoeuvres, can basically be programmed to get from one side of the planet to the other using nought but it's "auto-pilot" feature. The "auto-pilot" can however be switched off entirely and the plane can be flown manually and guided to wherever a skilled pilot wants to take it. Even though we as human beings (male and female) posses evolutionary programming when it comes to mate-hunting and relationships, we too, are capable of switching this "auto-pilot" off, and inputting our own steerage to a large degree. Trouble arises for many however, when they try and input their own steerage WITHOUT turning the auto-pilot off. It results in the plane receiving TWO sets of conflicting instructions which may utterly contradict eachothers aims. If for example, men and women fail to understand and embrace that they each possess many, many millennia of evolutionary impulses in terms of how they are programmed to evaluate eachother, and think that they can now just grab the "joystick" and take control of the process, basically re-writing the rules because societal influences make them believe that they can....then they're just going to end up doing battle with their own evolutionary "auto-pilot" which is STILL exerting its own very powerful influence as a guidance mechanism. All that happens when you give a plane TWO sets of conflicting inputs, is that invariably...the plane just crashes and burns and arrives NOWHERE successfully. Yes, men may well be programmed to "spread their seed" and yes, women may well be programmed to invoke "hypergamy" etc....but these are evolutionary "auto-pilot" manoeuvres which CAN be switched off once men and women become aware of their influence. If the mutual aim of both parties is to forego their evolutionary impulses in order to create and nurture a relationship which they both see as a "primary" desire, which will supply far better satisfaction-dividends for each party than either seed spreading or hypergamy would.....then human beings are capable of doing this. They can only do it successfully however, to the extent that they're each fully aware that their respective "programming" will still try and influence them NOT to do this. The only way they can turn that evolutionary "auto-pilot" off within themselves is to first of all....acknowledge that these evolutionary impulses actually exist, and that their influence is very powerful and persuasive. Men need to be honest about their "seed spreading" impulses. Women need to be honest about the influence "hypergamy" exerts over them. A mutual "deal" has to be struck between both parties that neither of them will ever let their innate, evolutionary "auto-pilot" kick in and compromise the relationship. After all, what are traditional marriage pledges of lifelong exclusivity with eachother....but THIS !! It's basically two people entering a contract of vigorous self-control which demands that either party will not allow themselves to be governed by their evolutionary impulses anymore. It's obviously much easier to utter these pledges than it is to actually live by them, as is evidenced by divorce rate statistics, but it's NOT impossible. My own parents have racked up 60 very happy years together, and I myself have 30 years under my belt. Is this because the urge for "seed spreading" or hypergamy has never raised its ugly head? No. It's because those evolutionary impulses have been consistently rejected in favour of a far more rewarding life strategy. To all intents and purposes, the evolutionary "auto-pilot" has been switched off. The plane has been flown manually, and in my parent's case especially, it's taken them successfully to a destination of their own choosing. Namely, a long and happy pair-bonding that's yielded (in spades) the many practical and emotional dividends that go with that. You spoke about modern women being in conflict with what they currently "claim" to want versus what they seemingly "really" want, and how this has affected male responses also. I couldn't agree more. Whilst modern women are doing battle with societal "constructs" etc and attempting to redefine themselves in those terms, there's still many millennia of feminine hard-wiring within which is making this a very confusing and incongruent venture for many. It's hard to see these things as being nought but the "birth pangs" of a more enlightened generation where relationships are concerned, and if what we're witnessing is some kind of negotiation which is meant to invoke men to see women in a different light, then let's just say it's not a very flattering or enticing light at present....

Holy fuck you guys are smart

@@donnietobasco9791 well stated. Can I throw age into the mix? Evolutionary seed spreading programming is not only about quantity but about finding the most fertile. I think men do a good job at overriding our auto pilot on that one. In fact, men put laws on the books making the most fertile of females off limits. This is never mentioned.

The book "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha talks about this, if I remember correctly. Especially the concept of multiple paternity (that multiple people can claim to be the parent of the child and involved in raising them) in Pacific Islander cultures and elsewhere. VERY interesting stuff and very thought provoking ideas on sexuality.

The cultural anthropologist was lied to there's a big thing about it

Sex is not a sin for other cultures all over the world. It is just a biological act. Only Christians see it as a sin.

@@prashanthb6521 right.. non Christian civilizations are extremely progressive and successful, like the Middle East, Africa, India, etc... Oh wait.

@@Alphaproximita it’s an absolute misnomer for these humps to say sex is viewed as a sin in Christianity. Getting married and having sex with only one partner who you love and create a family with is a wonderful thing and saves you from disease, mental illness, and frivolity.

I have noticed that some men are intimidated by their position. Afraid of the blow to the ego which comes from rejection. Happens to me every so often. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

It is not as impossible as it may sound, being an emotional rock as a logical man, what is needed is first and foremost letting out emotional trauma and frustration in the best possible way (like telling someone close to you how you really feel, crying and screaming in anger, whichever is needed, perhaps destroying some unimportant things in order to let out the aggression in a non-harmful way), and not giving a F**K about what anyone else thinks of you, secondly learning to not suppress your new negative emotions that will no doubt come, but instead to HANDLE them in a logical way, telling people exactly how you feel about how they treat you, yet in as kind and constructive a way as possible. Also, remember that all these horrible suppressed emotions you may feel inside, very many women feel similar emotions yet perhaps 10 times stronger or more. No wonder she wants a man as her emotional rock, in order to help her handle all the emotions she cannot handle herself, even when trying to be logical. Thus she doesn't want an insecure "nice guy", she wants a secure good guy with some bad boy traits showing he doesn't take shit from nobody, and is not afraid of offending others by speaking his truth, also he believes enough in himself to not be needy for just any woman, especially not anyone who disrespects him. It is important also to realise that very much of the dysfunctionality of both men and women is partly caused by society's backwards rules (created by our rulers in order to subtly oppress us, while deluding us into believing in "democracy" that is mostly for show only), although part of this dysfunctionality is also always caused by internal vices (or seeds thereof) present within us, uncontrolled subconscious forces we need to admit the existence of, and learn to integrate and control, in order to change them into virtues. Thus, in order to empower ourselves as men and women, it is important to not follow the rules of society merely because it is expected of us, but to respect only those rules we understand the good reasons for the existence of them, deliberately breaking those rules that do us no good, and do no good to others either, except those rulers who don't deserve to rule, and other bad people who selfishly exploit these rules. It is important to realise we have often been victimised in our youth, but equally important to refuse to stay victims, and instead take responsibility for fixing our own life, because nobody else can do that for us. Our oppressors and tormentors who don't want to allow us to be ourselves, these people are not our worst enemies, instead our own fear, gullibility, victimhood, beliefs of inadequacy, unreasonable hate, prejudices, delusions and ignorance, these are our worst enemies, and they exist within our own personality. They cannot be solved through either hate towards others or through self hatred, only through honesty, self love no matter what, self education and internal healing and self discipline, finding out who WE wish to be, rather than how others wish us to be, and then pursue manifesting this through our currently broken personality, no matter what it takes, first internally, then externally.

The thing i came to realize is that majority of people don't understand how things work. In the same way the rich are very few, most men haven't yet understood women and why things are the way they are. But i know you can learn if you want

@@henrikljungstrand2036 Damn if some were to understand this my friend, people’s lives will change so drastically. The only thing is, it’s like a part of your own self discovery to become a modern day society Buddhist priest. If that makes any sense. I had to find my own self using everything you’ve mentioned to some decree. And now I’ve spoken & can relate to all ages of life, the old the young and current generation. It’s as if people can genuinely see you! for who you are without having to hide behind your ego or shyness your whole life. And the way society portrays how women & Men are supposed to be, has affected our way of living to an extent we’re we are misunderstanding one and others beliefs & desires. Now I don’t know if you understand where I’m coming from or what I’m talking about 😅 but I just wanted to say that your spot on with what you said in your comment above👍

Men suppress their emotions for other men, not for women.

That is because that is their world. When think of fishing they assume we walk in a boat and fish magically jump in the boat and the best is to filter out the bad fish while still docked. When a man fishes we got to do the work. Weird analogy but when we mention our issues they think GOD this MAN IS AN INCEL LOSER and assume something is wrong with us. After all they have 9 orbiters at all times and do not ever need to work on their game. Just be pretty and men line up

Very true

this means so much to me. I am so touched that u get what I was trying to say. I totally agree with you that it stems from misunderstanding.

Man up.

She was aware of men's issues and totally dissmissed them! We are women! There is nothing we can do to help ourselves! We will all share the top 20 or die alone, no settling

Who knows, maybe the 80 percent will have enough pot, porn and ai girlfriends to keep themselves from tearing down society since they wont be having families 😂

thanks Josh C!

thanks so much Red Dwarf!!!! I appreciate that. I'm glad u liked it.

thanks a lot!

Feminism is the antithesis of truth and they would be triggered just watching this video

100 they dont care

Exactly. Many of them (my mother included) speak from the perspective of a successful marriage and they’re like “how could you not want to?” Idk. How could I not want to play Russian roulette?

@@lordofgingers survivor and champion selection in relationships creates a lot of bad advice based on rare opportunities that are not easily duplicated. The reality is men have to work with women, and hear them plot their divorce strategies and affairs in the break room all the time, and to us it doesn't like they are committed to anything, so why would they want that commitment from us? A lot of them want the wedding, and the honeymoon, and that's it. It's a fantasy they are in pursuit of.... I am protected from marriage pressure in relationships, my approach is alright you want to get married, sounds great, let's meet each other's in-laws, (if they are supportive) let's get pre-marriage counseling, and a pre-nup signed in the presence of an attorney, pick out some rings that don't cost a fortune, (you want to do things the old way, and want real diamonds, heh, have you ever heard of a diamond anniversary) and then make our engagement official. My goal is to make the engagement as arranged as possible. It slows things down and takes the focus of the rush towards fulfilling wedding fantasy. And you would think that you wouldn't need to do this with divorcee's but many of them want to double or triple down on marriage. Also, my premarital conditions before any of this is considered is that a woman be fertile, and willing to have my children, and not an alcoholic, junkie, hoarder, or endless eater, because weddings, honeymoons, and marriages serve no purpose for a man that isn't making a family. If it's just about sex, there will always be hookers and mistresses, and women who are done having kids, and don't care about commitment as much as the professional house wives. If it's about relationship, a woman who actually loves you sticks around even if you deny her, at least for a while. Hell, they might even divorce you and still try to win you back over, whenever they missing you. My goal in any relationship is to show a woman that my reservations against cohabitation and marriage are not absolutes, they are premeditated based on all the couples I've seen, all the marriages and all the divorces. They are not much different than the kinds of standards women have for spreading their legs.... if and when they have standards for that. I try to make relationships about love & comradery. They start asking about marriage, it's time to talk about responsibility, and exclusivity, and the purpose of marriage (once supported by Church and State) being procreation and family management. (Not hurdle on the path to divorce. Not a fantasy. Not an acceptance that Happy Wife = Happy Life.) You can actually reclaim your masculinity just by being hardcore about marriage. It frees you up to be loving, and possibly even very committed, but also standing your ground on a important issue. It's a good break up condition if she wants more than you will be willing to give. I personally don't like stringing women along, so I'm right up front about it, at least when they actually want to talk about it.

@@tixeright9120 I agree with pretty much everything you said but two points I really want to single out there “she might even try to win you back after the divorce.” No she overplayed her hand and realized you were the best pick of the litter after all. People who operate on this auto pilot cave people mating strategy instead of using their frontal lobe to override and take responsibility (a cool ability humans have) is what causes a lot of problems like these plots concocted in your workplace conference rooms. The second point really drives it home and women don’t get this. The standards they have to give access to their bodies? That is what we see as their equivalent of the standards we have for commitment. As you said there are no absolutes in life, but I’m not gonna take a woman who turns her nose up at sacrifice and accountability seriously

i was talking to a 20 year old girl yesterday telling her i might get married but only if they changed the laws. and she looked at me innocently and said wait, what laws?...... they dont even know... they're too focused on themselves to even find out 1/3 of men just quit the game

I also wish I knew the things I am explaining at 28 but thanks so much Peter

So maybe just date a man then.

OK fantastic!!

I am glad u agree, karell t

@@mynonleatherlife Very welcome..

thank u very much!!

@@mynonleatherlife my pleasure

oh good, I am glad u think so. are u a girl?

@@mynonleatherlife probs not lol, never know doe

@@mynonleatherlife you are so genuine and sincere. You should make a video with girlschase-loving chase ... he is a social genius and perhaps the only one to have theorized and able to understand profound female concepts such as vortex

@@deepshadow1 i checked him out, he does seem really good, i subscribed

@@mynonleatherlife in the youtube channel is hector castillo. among the girlschase team I would put hector alek rolkstad and chase lover the best and founder of the blog. I recommend that you read chase's articles on the blog and I hope you will soon make a video with him. he is one of the greatest and longtime pioneers of seduction

thank u so much and thanks for sharing the videos too, that is very kind of u. Well I owe it all to my bf BEARDO and my male friend "philosophy junkies" cause they both help me understand the male gaze and male culture better as well as the comments I get from you guys on my channel.

@@mynonleatherlife awesome , thank you

@@mynonleatherlife your openness to learning about the male perspective is unusual and admirable. In my experience, there is often a tendency by a woman to discount, get defensive, push back, etc., when a guy attempts to call her out on one of these blind spots ..which makes it even more difficult to get traction towards having an honest discussion. Call it a blind spot about the blind spots.

That is so true and it was another big blindspot I wanted to talk about but was saving for the next blindspot vid and that was exactly what you are saying that they have no idea men have these different issues. They project a hypermasculine projection on to men probably because of this selection bias. I had the exact same thing for so many years. The bubble actually popped the day after I worked at a strip club for the first time and I walked down the street and saw men completely differently. Now I see how off I was originally and that most men are insecure when it comes to women, unsure of what they want or how to act, struggling with women and to understand women

@@mynonleatherlife Interesting. So that first day in the club showing off your sexuality is when you saw it, the depth's of men's insecurity? I think it's more than just selection bias. Men like me legitimately try to hide in plain sight. So to a degree it's our own fault. We run this program of "don't bother anyone, especially not women".

@@ahrengroesch8774 idk what happened but the next day as I was walking down the street it was like all the men on the street had transformed before my eyes and I saw them as they were and not like scary hypermasculine super-sexed cold unfeeling people I realized I had always seen them as. The fear had dissapeared over night--very odd but so real and vivid in my mind

And it really irritates me that we have to go to an obscure comment section to even have these discussions. Wokeism has completely tainted the waters of honesty when it comes to relationships and the conversation needs to be drilled tf home that 80% of men are not even looked at by women

@@cazmars5360 We can pop that bubble any time we want, but we have to wake up to the fact that we do it to ourselves. Plenty of people are talking about this stuff if you know where to look.

thanks James!

yes that is actually a blind spot I wanted to add in but couldn't fit and will go in my next blind spot video. I hope I will be able to get it across but they project an image of hypermasculinity on men and therefore think it doesn't hurt men like it does. I agree it's a big big blindspot. They're also very threatened and scared at times due to the sex negative beliefs we have all been brought up with so it brings up a lot of fear, shame and insecurity when men approach us in a way that we sense is only for our appearance or to get sex. But the way they act can be extremely damaging and hurtful to men, u are right

Women usually do have empathy for scared men. But empathy is not sexual attraction. Being insecure enough not to approach a woman is in itself very unattractive and boring. There is no right for either men or women to have a sex partner without doing the proper work, which mainly comes down to internal work of self love, confidence, setting healthy boundaries, not being needy, and taking it slow, calm and playful. It is also important (for both men and women) to cultivate an abundance mentality of "i am the price, anyone rejecting me is merely losing out, culling the dating pool so i can find a better match for me". Also, instead of whining about being judged by women, you should do the same with them. Not judging a woman shows you are a low quality man i.e. unattractive. Women expect high quality men to judge them, because they do, and usually only women of high enough quality get the price. The best way to get a high quality woman (or any woman) is to BE a high quality man with self love, confidence, self respect, and a rich life outside dating. And to judge women for who might be a good enough match, and judge not only based on appearances, but actually test women during flirtation and even more during dating. Most women love this game, and want to prove themselves to be good enough for a non desperate, hopefully good man interested in her.

@@mynonleatherlife The best i think women can do in the dating game in order to be "fair" towards men, without settling for less than they desire and deserve themselves (women should also be secure enough not to settle for just any man, just like men should be secure enough not to settle for any woman), is to be brutally honest, yet playful to a guy who is flirting with her in the wrong way, like telling him "Come back when you have learned real confidence in yourself, and maybe i will change my mind. Confident men who know what they want and do not flatter women merely to please us are SOOO sexy!" Guilt tripping women merely for not being attracted to weak men will not solve the issues, just like guilt tripping men for not being attracted to charmless women will not solve anything either. All men and women who seriously wish to enter the dating game in order to hopefully find a good partner have to do the hard work of self love, confidence and making themselves successful and attractive, and then flirt lightly and confidently with neighbours, coworkers etc or with personal ads or dating apps, until mutual interest is sparked. And those who just desire one night stands will have to cultivate either hyper masculinity or hyper femininity to some extent, and use hookup apps or flirt confidently with others at a bar or nightclub.

@@henrikljungstrand2036 People who are condescending and say "just do the work" never actually spent more than a decade of their lives doing the work with no success. So screw off with your condescension and simplistic advice.

👍 Thanks,@@henrikljungstrand2036!

thank u Ciel A. Do you have any topics u would want a vid on?

@@mynonleatherlife Hi! Personally I would benefit from more info about dealing with “bratty” behavior. Texting is also a challenging space. I feel like I could be getting better results. However one of the things I love about your content is addressing areas I didn’t even think of or consider. Cheers!

@@ciela9263 Those are fantastic ideas, thank you. I will consider those topics

Lore yay I'm so thrilled to hear that. I appreciate it a lot that u understand the nuance there with how these are blindspots not evil malicious premeditated actions!!

Um, yes. I would watch the hell out of that episode. 👍

Same good call

Hell yeah

*We need to spam Fresh&Fit to react to this video or get her on the show.*

Would be wonderful to see.

thanks so much Victor. I am so glad you understand the message I was going for and don't just see it as more reason to hate women. You put it so well too. Have u got a lot out of stirling's advice?

@@mynonleatherlife Thank you. Yes, you both are a high-grade goldmine of usable and actionable knowledge. Especially the kind that helps not just hyping one's confidence up, but setting the guy's fundamental mindset right. Because the stuff in and the way you (and Stirling) cover in your content is so deep-core clarifying of the real "state of affairs" in dating/sex dynamics, that once you learn and understand it, then it's impossible to continue getting just as frustrated and self-doubtfull as before over the surface/symptomatic issues e.g. women's over-pickyness, entitledness, flaking etc. So going forward one just calmly knows you have to roll with the punches and can better navigate, negotiate and dealing with them - especially mentally. Happened to me thrice last week alone: one flaked-out after rather enthusiasticly agreeing to a 2nd date (ex-b.f.-relationship restart-attempt..), another didn't even show up or texted anything since clearly and gladly agreeing to a 1st date, and a 3rd one I don't even remember what the deal was.. and the 4th/5th? agreed to a 1st date for tomorrow, but I wouldn't be shocked anymore, if than one also flakes out for whatever reason despite probably the best and short text chat I've had so far plus a super fun later phonecall and date-setting up two days ago - apropos the blind spot no. 2 - I know how bad streaks go :-/ ). Thank you again and God bless.

@@victorg3232 exactly the attitude I wish more people took...very awesome

thanks a lot for the kind words. Like I said in the video there are many honest women around but I am very glad it helped

@@mynonleatherlife You're welcome. I wish there were more who spoke up.

great point! yea women hear about this but we never experience it first hand...like we never have our dad actually yelling at us calling a crybaby or whatever happens...so we really don't feel it on a gut level and can't understand the results from it as well as other guys can I'm sure

Hello Robin!

thanks :) im glad u like it

Yep...you nailed it!! 👍

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But that's a fantasy just like the perfect guy. The perfect guy is actually found in pieces in multiple guys. That's why they can never find a perfect guy because he doesn't exist. They are delusional

As a sensitive bloke myself, I recognise that women want a sensitive man , but cannot deal with them because they fail to recognise that what upsets them in a relationship can also upset a man. ~In the same way, they also fail to understand that many of the foreplay activities a man might do with them would would be appreciated in return; back to the one way performance expectation always placed on men. In case you are wondering, I do like women, but they seemingly fail to want me.

@@RS-xo7rd I guess I’m a “sensitive” type as well. But it’s never helped. The moment I suffocate my feelings and just act like an animal I seem to attract women. Like at the bar I’ve had women many times approach me when Im in a mood of not caring anymore. All I’ve learned from women is they hate sensitive men.

you're right they do but but trust me there are plenty of blind spots on both sides.

Oh my God! You're right! Women ARE supposed to be the more empathetic gender yet they are SO clueless to certain aspects of sexual dynamics.

Women are not really empathetic as you think, even tho they are suppose to be so. More men are empathetic from what I have observed.

You really need to get to fucking earlier on as a man as you said, thank God I got mines, at whatever expense, hahaaa

That's why men are so valuable

@@Baz_09 some men only, very few imo, those who do the work in all aspects of life

If we stop simping and paying Only fans to get them to like us and over testing they will stop asking this. Simple

And whit those type of things we can get better on to that. What i mean is: discovering and becoming self aware that we were missing a lot of stuff from ourselfs is painfull asf, but at the same time confronting that fear and making it to the other side is what makes posible the upgrade, the better in they selfs to literally see everywhere. That would pay off

Dude, she wasn’t into you. You are chocked to the brim with romantic fantasies.

@@Pimp-Master thank you for your awesome revelation. How did i not figure this out. Wow thanks so much. Now I know

God damn this is the same fucking thing that ı experienced. We broke up like 10 month ago and it was so fucking stupid , we were talking on phone and all of a sudden we argued then never talked again. She was the love of my life and we were together for like 5 years and we experienced every fucking thing we could experience. And ı waited for her to come back because she was the one that got cold all of a sudden and she knew if she did come back ı wouldn make it hard for her. 2 days ago ı got tired and messaged her, now she is playing games doesnt say no bot doesnt say yes neither.

Woman don’t know what men wants

Looking up Kevin Samuels and stephon cold put you on some game it will change your life 💯

thank you Steve!

Foreign women are very different. Feminism doesnt conflict them

Women are the same everywhere.

"gratification"? Most men are desperate and have no standards, so they'd happily bang anything that breathes.. And they usually are not great lovers and come before she does, so good luck getting "gratification" when 99% of the times by jumping on the first male you meet all you get is bad to mediocre sex. Nevermind that many men despise such easy women, so that's the underlying energy while she f+cks you (while probably thinking about someone else).. But of course if he's really sex starved then his energy will be a beggar's one, wow how enjoyable to mate at that level lol