*_This is such a BIG misconception so many people have_* Being introverted does NOT mean having social anxiety

"introversion or social anxiety?" _b o t h_

Plus : You love being alone but deep down you want someone to find you !

I practice how to say "present" in class in my head like every time.

“Introversion or Social Anxiety?” Me: *yes*

Has anyone ever avoided asking someone something for the fear of sounding stupid or annoying and then immediately regret it?

Now imagine being a shy, social-anxiety ridden introvert

Group of friends: **laughing** Me: *they’re definitely laughing at me*

Me: wants love and affection Also me: the fear of being known

I literally have prepared conversations and things to talk about just in case I’m forced to have a conversation with someone

Anxiety: See these people over there? They actually hate you. Me: What? No! They probably don't even think about me! Depression: Ever.

love how people in this comment section is talking about their own problems and I relate to all of them tbh

Teacher: *introduce yourself* *Me having panic attack*

“you’re turning down invitations to social events” i dont get any

i get so anxious to the point where when someone approaches me, i end up sounding cold and uninterested, like i’ll just mumble a “hi” and not even make any eye contact. i feel bad afterwards but it just feels like something i can’t control

I always thought I was an introvert, but recently I realised I have social anxiety. I would always get super nervous going to my English class because I would have to speak on that class. The whole time my palms would be sweaty, I would get a really dry mouth and I'm sure everyone thought I was weird. Goings to maths class I would be fine. I get scared going to the library at university in case all the seats are taken and I'll walk around looking stupid. In the past I would make plans with my friends and just before I would cancel or want to cancel because I suddenly felt kinda scared and that everyone hated me and didn't want me to come. I take ages to become comfortable with people as well and hate meeting new people, I like them once I'm comfortable with them. Whenever I goto the shop or restaurant I rehearse my order multiple times. I would never go to the gym by myself for fear of looking stupid or being watched. I would thunk about every conversation afterwards and how I should have said this and that. I remember a lot of the times when I made a fool of myself rather than the times I was happy and liked. I was super comfortable with my ex boyfriend but it turned out he was narcissistic and abusive. So now my social anxiety is so bad and my self esteem. I stopped talking to my friends because I felt that everyone hated me while saying they liked me like my ex and that they wanted me to go and stop bothering them with my existence like my ex while telling me they like me and want me around. Woe is me. I feel too messed up to go to a therapist because I have too many problems but I can't really cope with life. So now I'm just writing this in a random KZfaq video and no one will read this comment but hey at least I got my feelings out.

Mom: Just talk to people Me: 😑

Me: writes a joke in the comments Also me: what if people don’t like it? I’d better delete it

Experienced this before but, the time when you're having a silent anxiety attack and you start to think "Am I only behaving like this for me to say that I have social anxiety and attention?" Makes the situation worse😀

Why does the KZfaq algorithm know me better than my parents?

Not gonna lie but even sending a message to a group chat scares me. And the fact that they put it on seen

*says something in public chats* *deletes the messages because you think they will judge you for being yourself*

Does anybody else think of how to say “here” during attendance but then sound like a dying frog 😭😭

I get so scared when someone stares at me when I go out. I feel like they are judging the way I walk or the way I look and every single detail. I know they are probably not but the fear has been there since I was little. I have talked about this with my mom and she says it will stop if stop caring about what they say but it's not that easy. I also get super red whenever I talk to somebody and my hands start sweating a lot. I'm super akward

Does anyone else over analyze small convos that they just had with people? Like they go over it over and over just to make sure it wasn’t horribly awkward or something??

me: i have anxiety my anxiety: u just want to say u have anxiety to be quirky me: oh phew i dont have anxiety my anxiety: well yes but actually no

My anxiety after a good time with my friends: Anxiety: They definitely _hate you_ and think _you are weird_ Me: But why? Give a more logic explanation Anxiety: because you talk too much/too little Me: But... when our best friend does it, it’s normal... she’s really nice actually Anxiety: YeEEEeeaaAAAh BUT IS WEIRD WHEN _YOU_ DO IT

*Everyone in this comment section is so relatable… like-* _I almost want to become friends with all of you just because I have no one else~_

Me: *starts typing in a group chat* Anxiety: THIS IS AN AVENGERS LEVEL THREAT

I just dont talk to people because i physically cant find a topic i think they would find interesting

Why does it feel like it's deeper tho. Like, I'm not afraid of people, I just don't want to hurt them or their feelings. If I'm not worrying abt that, I overthink if I'm being clingy or annoying or dumb or weird. It's like someone's always watching and judging no matter what I do. As long as I'm in a social setting or public in general, it's like the judgement never ends. And don't even get me started on thinking abt how you made someone feel or how you hid your feelings or how you came off in conversations hours and even days ago.

Me: shy + introvert + social anxiety = Combo set

i'm so jealous of everybody else, they find making friends so easy. some girls will just walk up to me in school, talk to me, and call me their bff. they have huge friend groups, and are even dating. then there's me, so afraid of being judged, one friend, and kind of "acquainted" with other people. but i honestly am so fucking scared of being with people. edit: ik this is kind of annoying but- 2.2 k likes? oh my god i've never gotten that much thank you so much!!

"5 signs it's social anxiety and not introversion" Me, an introvert with social anxiety: *Confused screaming*

This hits hard when you're starting to lose touch with your friends that were special to you because you're picky on who to be friends with since you're also an introvert

When you think you might have social anxiety but also don't want to go to therapy because you're afraid of your parents judging you :)))

Me: "dad, I don’t know how I should introduce myself to others, I'm kinda nervous" My dad: "just don’t be shy..." Me: "mhm... yeah thanks, never heard that before." When someone says to an introverted person, or someone that has social anxiety, something like: "don’t be shy“, "just talk more" etc. Then it's like saying: "oh you can’t see ‚cause you are blind? *just see* "

"Anxiety or introversion?" How about both

Having social anxiety is like having multiple choices on how to deliver a sentence and predicting the type of outcome it will get. Theeen you just decide to say nothing.

I’m an introvert with social anxiety, and its hard because I’m more prone to wanting to stay home, and being ok with it. I feel so much better when I’m completely alone. But I’m afraid this will lead me to becoming a hermit. Sometimes I think I want to be. I want to stay home forever, and I never want to talk to anyone again. But I know deep down that’s not what I truly want. I want to be alone, but not lonely. I care about my friends and family, and I want to do things with them. I want to go out and experience things, but I’m usually too scared to try, and when I actually do its very exhausting. With that said, I think social anxiety is just as hard for extroverts. They feel the best around people, but they are too scared to interact. They desperately want and need to be around others, but sometimes they are too scared to leave their house, or even talk to people. Anxiety sucks >:(

Me: writes something in a group chat and is about to send it My brain: what if no one likes it or makes fun of you for it Me: better not send it

Ok I'm probably just weird but hear me out. I am an introvert, and sometimes I can talk to people and start conversations in a heartbeat...but sometimes I feel nervous and scared how people think of me. It also happens when I'm around judgemental people. The weird thing is this happens RANDOMLY. I could be loud and obnoxious and then chill and very quiet.

Have you ever talked excitedly to a friend about a topic you’re interesting and then slowly realize they’re not interested in it nearly as much as you or at all so you gradually stop talking?

I remember the phrase that helped me to cope with social anxiety having convos with people - “You are not the clown to entertain them”! 👌 besides think how little or none we actually think of others but ourselves. Switch the focus, care about your well-being (for example say “I’m going to this party for MYSELF” etc)

“And you leave new messages unread” Bold of you to assume people message me

Teachet: Please tell us a bit about yourself. Me: *I was born at a very young age.*

Yup I definitely have social anxiety 😕 I was kinda questioning it but i over think before things happen like for ex: we are walking in the store by myself and I start to break a sweat like “I prolly look like an idiot”, “why do ppl always stare when others walk by jeez?!”, “omg!! did I bring the card oh no oh no wait I got it!” “what are we getting again oh yeah let’s hurry up before the line gets long and ppl stand behind me *sees people in front of me and people trying to get behind me in line* I can wait a bit” “😓 I really don’t want to wait In Line with these ppl but moms gonna get mad I’m taking so long and more people are coming in the store! I wanna leave so bad” and then my heart starts beating hard in my chest to the point I can hear it and feel it and see it and I’m sweating buckets my ears are read and I’m blushing like crazy thing about how dumb I look red sweating and dressed like a bum (bc I have no sense of style) wishing I just stayed home thinking back it seems so scary but when I explain to people it seems to them like I’m lazy and don’t wanna leave my house, my mom laughed at me when I got back in the car and after I went through something like that she asked me to go in and by soda and I cried and begged her not to make me go and she yelled at me for being lazy and dramatic but I was more scared of going inside then hearing her yell at me and call me lazy dumb and dramatic

"Social anxiety or introversion?" "Both? Both. Both is good."

Me when Im alone: I wish people would pay attention to me :(. Me in a social situation: AAAAAAAHHH oh no ohno oh no what do I do ohno dont look at meplease look at someone else

When I get anxiety attacks, one of the things that crosses my mind is “Are you making yourself feel this way so that you can say you have anxiety?” It’s such a horrible feeling. It makes me feel empty and fake. Edit: Your feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t been diagnosed by a professional, you have the right to feel what you’re feeling.

I'm crying rn i feel so understood. social anxiety is so uncomfortable for me and it's caused by my own family. i want to improve, enjoy, forget about the trauma my family has caused me. i need help how do i get help I'm from a third world country and I don't know how to ask for professional help, and i also can't afford it! I want to get better

I used to have panic attacks on the way to school, ending in me ditching and lying to my family about going and wandering in town doing nothing all day for no particular reason. I had a good group of friends, not getting bullied or anything. I didn't have problems with my grades either. But I had that terrible uneasiness creeping up to the point I was crying and couldn't move anymore...

I avoid texting people back because I’m also awkward in text messages too :/

where’s the “im the cousin that isnt close to anyone because you’re too scared to converse with relatives at family gatherings and usually hide in your room until someone knocks on your door or yells for you to come out and say hi” team? 😌 very specific, yes i know.

*you're not alone* i used to be a socially anxious extrovert but have been healing myself for a while. i can proudly say that i'm a normal extrovert again, but it wasn't easy! don't be hard on yourself for being human, and if you want to heal, don't force yourself to take big steps ❤️❤️

I’m always thinking of different possibilities to EVERYTHING.

Where's my "I hide in bathrooms during parties" team at?

Sign 1: You don't socialise in Minecraft multiplayer

A+ on the format choice of multiple scenarios from different perspectives. This is a great format for displaying contrast effectively. Thank you.

When I meet new people they literally have to wait for more than 5 years till I get really comfortable around them

when you get scared because the teacher says "say here" in attendence and then gets to your name

i literally talk to myself 24/7 and i would think of scenarios on what would happen if i do go outside and i practice it

Sometimes i'm like: yeah I have social anxiety And sometimes i'm like: nono i'm just an introvert But sometimes is: nah I just dont like to talk that much Then I remember I talk to myself 24/7 and repeat it OVER and OVER again

I was just like this. But recently I started slowly improving by implimenting this into my life. "Don't think too much. Just feel and experience". I know this is hard but you gotta keep trying if you want to break out of your bubble instead staying inside it like a prisoner. Trust me, they won't think of you everytime like how you think they would be. Everyone is minding their own businesses. I know you'll get there so start with baby steps!

so i told my mom i have social anxiety like a month ago and she just laughed at me. and now she comes up to me like, "oh why dont you talk to me about your problems." "i can tell you are stressed about something." "why are you sad?" i mean... maybe because you kinda make fun of me?? like, tf.

I'm an extrovert with social anxiety, a LOT of people don't realise that they can go together.

2:54 “cant stop taliking about naruto” YALL CALLED ME OUT SOOO BAD I LITERALLY SKIPPED A HEARTBEAT---

With every point it exposes me more and more. It's just literally an explanation of me.

You know It's gotten bad when severe social anxiety hunts you even while sitting with your own family...

And then there’s the people who have a mix of both like me 😂

fr dude being alone and being able to control everything around you is amazing

"You don't like being out in social situations anymore because you're constantly worrying about how others are perceiving you, and how you might come across to new people who don't know you and might think you're weird and they don't get you. And because you won't stop talking about Naruto." " You don't enjoy the social activities that you used to." "You don't maintain relationships as well as you used to." I'm pretty sure Hinata Hyuga from Naruto has anxiety.

I found my people 😂 Reading all these comments make me feel less lonely and better about myself ♥️

I literally plan conversations in my head, but as soon as those become a reality I freeze

Thanks for making videos on different disorders. I feel like this every minute

Definitely dealing with social anxiety. I’ve been avoiding for years. I’m tired of trying to cope with it alone.

I literally can’t go to the store without someone cuz I’m to scared to buy things infront of a cashier

I love how people express themselves in the comments section

It feels good to know that I'm not alone.. I used to think that I'm weird and now all these comments makes me feel better .. I was always the silent one in my class..I hated convo with anyone other than my besties.. even with my best friends, I always preferred texting more than talking... I felt awkward and found hard to talk about anything but I can text for hours.. whenever I talk in front of people ( I was always forced) my hear beat so hard that I can't breathe straight, my hands start sweating, I can't even talk without messing up words, shaking, shivering...etc ..first I thought it was just stage fright but as time went on.. I realized I have social anxiety... Thank you psych2go for making this video and helping many around the globe who is facing these problems..

Talking to people is just such a pain and exhausting I feel like my energy and time is being wasted by talking to them

me sending a message message: seen *no typing on other side* me: *s c r e a m s*

Am i the only one that starts walking weird when someone is watching me like my leg just stops working and i cant control it.

it’s even worse when you’re extroverted because you really need social situations to function but you just can’t do jt

im sitting alone in my room crying because ik I have social anxiety but my but my parents won't think I do and its honestly breaking me I can't leave my room and I even feel uncomfortable around very close friends and family and it hurts so much to tell people that you dont want to go to the movies when all you want to do is go to the movies but you can't because by the second add you will be in the bathroom crying wishing you didn't come and this is hard for me and I want help but im to scared to ask because of the last time I asked for help my family shot down my emotions I love them so much but that really hurt me

"You don't maintain relationships as well as you used to" *jokes on you, I've always been this bad at maintaining then*

I remember when I was 6 years old and one girl who was older ask me: "Why don´t you talk?" I remember clearly how my heart rate went up, I felt so scared at the moment. Finally, I gathered all the courage I had just to say "It scares me..."

Im impressed that you accurately said all of my problems.

I am studying health and social care in college I have seen a few of your videos and I find them very useful I love to listen to them and I am learning more about mental health by watching them :)

Man these comments really make me feel more comfortable, knowing there are more people here like me, also i wish i was invited places, or messaged. I can go days wtout getting a single "whats up" or anything

My anxiety: **exists** My dog: I’m about to end this man’s whole career

The most therapeutic things in my life have been when I volunteered at a homeless shelter or when I was doing my internship. Getting that social experience is crucial to combatting SA. Unfortunately not much volunteering going on right now due to COVID, but yeah that's what's helped me the most, because you step out there and realize that people are not thinking those horrible things about you and that you actually can tlak to people...and the pressure isn't just on you to start/carry on/end a conversation. Silence is allowed and doesn't have to be an awkward thing:)

I love how calm her voice is just when I was about to have a panic attack

This may sound strange but whenever I go to school I can go a whole 6 hours without saying a single word if the teacher calls on me my heart always sinks immediately I sometimes stutter and other times I say the quickest response right or wrong just to get out of the situation, There's three people that I can properly socialise with because I've know them for so long (Two are my family and the other my mum's friend) but socialising with people in general scares me I always say "I need friends" but then when it comes to making them I'm a complete cowered I over analyse everything and it's gotten to the point where a single "Hello" scares me...

"won't stop talking about Naruto" Anyone else feel like they've just been called out

Thanks for this video. And not only for this. I learn about my self more than i expect. Thanks.

Wow, this is super helpful and informative! I’m actually an extrovert but just have a lot of anxiety. Didn’t know that till today

I was at a Sunday school meeting, and the teacher told us to introduce ourselves. She pointed at the person infront of me (but I didn’t see because my vision isn’t the best) and everyone looked at me so I stood up and walked to the front. The teacher was still talking to the person infront of me and i was stand at the front confused. The class then laughed and said that I wasn’t suppose to go but let me anyways. Lemme tell you I had the worst panic attack and couldn’t breath, I couldn’t even talk properly when introducing myself. I felt like crying and you could hear it in my voice. When I was done I sat down put my hood on and didn’t talk the whole class like I usually do. I never went back again.

Sometimes even when I’m alone, I feel like someone’s watching me and there are cameras everywhere

I am an introvert who used to have social anxiety. I still tend towards social anxiety but I worked at improving that. I like going towards people in some situations and don't have trouble with social events. But I need my alone time, it is such a bliss. There is so much stuff to think about.

I'm glad you made a video about this, because I sometimes see people list social anxiety symptoms as signs of being an introvert. Which could possibly cause people with undiagnosed social anxiety to not reach out for help, because they think you can't do anything about it because it's "just part of being an introvert". I've seen seen people say stuff like, "haha yeah I get so anxious around people, I can't order for myself at restaurants. You know, just ✨introvert things✨ lol!" Like... I'm pretty sure being an introvert isn't supposed to cause extreme anxiety.