5 Signs it's time to WALK AWAY from a Dismissive Avoidant

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In today's video, Coach Court gives 5 Signs it's time to WALK AWAY from a Dismissive Avoidant
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@nunya6346 2 ай бұрын

I’m with an DA and it’s hard!! I understood in the beginning and tried to be patient, at first we only saw each other once a week he told I could come by his house anytime (we live five minutes away from each other) but I didn’t want to intrude I wanted him to call me and say he missed me.. mind you we’ve have some great times! But every time I voice my concerns he shuts me down, it’s like he make all the rules in this relationship, i don’t ask him for anything but time and it’s like asking him for a billion dollars 😒 I’m at the end of this but it’s hard to let go

@philipsparks6089 8 күн бұрын

I have tried to talk away, but 3 days later he started messaging me again and its so hard. I care for him so much and its hard knowing someone cares, but isnt willing to give into their emotions

@EternalLove.1111 Күн бұрын

why not leave?

@mjc21706 4 ай бұрын

Just went thru this, it’s painful when you love and care for them but I can’t take the emotional roller coaster. Walk away!

@Nami66148 19 күн бұрын

My last date with my avoidant was last week and tomorrow is his birthday and after I text him Happy Birthday then I will Walk away 😭😭

@philipsparks6089 8 күн бұрын

@@Nami66148how are you feeling now?

@Nami66148 8 күн бұрын

@@philipsparks6089 I’m good I said will just do it and move on and I’m fine. I didn’t want to have any regrets of wondering should I have wished him a great day ? I feel better that I did send him a birthday wish and he replied back with a thank you and that was enough for me

@safiahussain9252 2 ай бұрын

I have been with him 2 years invested everything time, love, financial help but their was no commitment from his end, his priority was eveyone apart for me, so I walked away 5 days ago, it hurts like hell but I know it’s the best for me in the long run..

@cv-edf1023 29 күн бұрын

Same situation here….getting a little better every day. 💔🍀

@philipsparks6089 8 күн бұрын

How are both of you all feeling? I have tried and tried and tried to invite him to things, communicate, show him hes cared for.. and only after 2 months. Its so painful when he wont reciprocate what im investing

@EternalLove.1111 Күн бұрын

be strong ur smart

@meagandekkar6377 15 күн бұрын

My pseudo-boyfriend is a DA. His autonomy is the most important thing in the whole world to him no matter what it costs loved ones and friends. Apparently he doesn’t mind being vulnerable because he’s always asking for money.

@LiaR8886 18 күн бұрын

I wish I could send this video to my avoidant BF. These are exactly the things he has been doing. He's already refused to get any kind of help for himself. I've gotten pretty depressed. It's true he knows exactly what my needs are in the relationship and chooses or is incapable of doing any of it. I love him and it is going to hurt to walk away.

@peacebalancetruth 6 күн бұрын

NEGLECT INDEED 👀🤝🏾.

@EzazHazarika 25 күн бұрын

valid points - thank you for sharing the check list of dealing with the DA!!

@ceceliaruss6940 Ай бұрын

My ex is an DA, I am struggling with truly letting him go. We love each other. He has improved in some areas like communication but we spend less time together. Idk how we can get back on track.

@youtubeaccountserio2633 14 күн бұрын

You can’t ever! With Avoidants it never works

@peacebalancetruth 6 күн бұрын

🤝🏼🤝🏾

@chrissharkey9644 3 ай бұрын

That was fantastic! Thank you. I’m in no contact You just helped Me make the right decision if they come back!

@EternalLove.1111 Күн бұрын

my mental health was affected crying and negative energy he activated my nervous system....never again

@IamCoachCourt Күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that

@auclayton 4 ай бұрын

Great video! 👏🏾👏🏾

@EternalLove.1111 Күн бұрын

2 yrs on and off rollercoaster mostly based on lying cheating manipulation...he went on vacay w an ex while he was w me..i was trauma bonded and knocked him off a pedestal ...i just want to ghost and never see him again...theres nothing good abt him...goodbye tt all the best....i deserve better i deserve respect love and trust

@IamCoachCourt Күн бұрын

@@EternalLove.1111 that’s not ok

@carlyrota1639 5 ай бұрын

Hi Coach Court! My goodness has this been exactly my experience! It’s validating to hear. The process of walking away from the DA is one of mixed emotions. I am becoming the person I always needed by giving myself the energy and love I outsourced to unavailability dynamics. I’m asking myself more empowering questions now like what does my heart want to create today? Or what is my heart needing today? Having my own presence for my feelings of pain and for my dreams is bringing in more experiences of presence and creativity.❤️❤️ When I decide not to entertain the avoidant, I can streamline my energy to actual reciprocal and fruitful use of my life energy.

@zeusimgreek2619 4 ай бұрын

So true for 2 years that was my relationship with a girl had to leave and be free of it

@Winter-pk1mv 3 күн бұрын

Thank you 🌷

@Angels444. 24 күн бұрын

Ty so much.

@MrSamIAm39 28 күн бұрын

They aren’t human.

@pandorapink1227 4 ай бұрын

Good video

@IamCoachCourt 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for always supporting the content 🙏🏾

@philipcrocker 2 ай бұрын

Just realized I'm 5 for 5 today. Do they ever ask for your help??

@smonaful 4 ай бұрын

3 strikes you're out

@IamCoachCourt 4 ай бұрын

⚾️

@bobbooey45 26 күн бұрын

I let her foul off about 40 pitches

@philipsparks6089 8 күн бұрын

Hes cancelled on me twice.. ghosted me for 21 hours once.. next time something like this happens with no apparent reason, im out. I cant handle the emotional rollercoaster

@swizzcapz 4 ай бұрын

This totally described my relationship with my recent ex.

@voyageswithshyeasha1398 5 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@karlar2478 4 күн бұрын

Yes they string you along for years, living double life’s behind your back.

@_sams923 5 ай бұрын

Do these DA change for others? I find it hard to emotionally let go for fear that he’ll be happier with someone else because I lean more AA.

@sheliasmith2884 4 ай бұрын

You know they won't based on study it's a pattern it may last for a moment but when that person needs more what do you think will happen. They will leave or the other person will.

@terrycraig6386 4 ай бұрын

Pplease speak louder in later videos.its too low. Otherwise, very good information.

@Archi-B24 3 ай бұрын

Guys I need advice. I started dating a girl and suddenly after roughly a year she became noticeably (to me) avoidant. I'm not sure is that true or am I discovering that I'm anxiously attached. How can I tell the difference? I really like her & I thought she really liked me too but I'm not sure if giving up on our relationship now is a good idea or not.

@SinfulGoddess1 2 ай бұрын

You could be anxiously attached with her still being an avoidant. Often its when the avoidant pulls back it triggers the anxious. Within there being. Soul level. Also an avoidant feels the need to pull back when they do care. They’re afraid.

@rebekahhawkins1318 Ай бұрын

She likes you… WHEN she wants to or uses you…. You will become the only thing in her life that she puts below everything and everyone else.

@philipsparks6089 8 күн бұрын

@@SinfulGoddess1im an anxious person currently pursuing an avoidant. I want to help him and show him I care, but he genuinely wont let me. I have been cheated on frequently and I constantly fear hes cheating because he just disappears.