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1 Sign someone isn't ready for a relationship: 1.) I like them.

Imagine actually being in a relationship

I think for me the biggest sign that I wasn't ready for a relationship, to anyone wondering whether they are or not was, that I simply got terrified at the mention of sexual attraction to me by the person I was seeing for a few months. I was terrified of saying "I like you" back and I always felt like I wanted to escape when they started flirting with me infront of others especially. I liked them back, but I couldn't shake the sense of dread and even panic when I saw their name light up my phone screen. So I talked to my sister. She had the same problems as me, and she gave me a lot of good advice. If you always say "No" to everybody you meet because you're unsure, shy or too cautious you'll most likely seem unapproachable and emotionally distant. It's good to move outside of your comfort zone and give people a chance. But if you're feeling scared or don't enjoy your time with them, then don't feel pressured to stay in a relationship with that person either, don't try to headbutt your way through these feelings. You can try talking to the other person about them, and depending on how they respond you might actually overcome them. But if you don't, there is no shame in admitting to yourself that you are not ready. Eventually you'll know when you're ready and feel safe with a partner. I'm 24 and I still have never slept or been very intimate with anyone. The older you get the more pressure you feel under to have the same experiences as most people your age group. But if you're not ready or prepared you don't have to force yourself to catch up prematurely. You will meet someone who will understand you with time, and your worth as a person isn't dependant on anyone else or what you have or haven't experienced in a relationship with someone else. Work on yourself on your own terms and your own time.

I have just left a girl yesterday who wasn't ready for a relationship and was giving me all the signs that are spoken in this video. Makes me proud of my decision even though I like her a lot.

“Relationships end because once the person has you, they stop doing the things it took to get you.” 🗣

I want a relationship but I don’t want to bring my insecurities on someone else , I need to work on myself

Maybe the reason you're so bored of stable relationships isn't that you're scared of wasting your life with someone you don't love, it's because you don't know how to love someone if they care for you. It stems from emotional neglect as a child, but learning this kinda helped me realize why I always go to unavailable, problematic, and toxic partners. You've never actually felt healthy affection, so you believe that love is when the other person doesn't care, or worse, doesn't like you.

Signs I'm not ready for relationship: 1. my mom will beat me up

I'd rather focus on fixing my mental and financial problems and then think about getting in a relationship Edit: I've social anxiety and I don't think a girl would date a guy who doesn't even have basic communication skills

1- They're going out with a lot of different people 2- they often bring up their ex 3- they don't know what they want 4- they're flaky 5- lack of progression in your relationship

It’s true we should be secure and stable before connecting to someone in a committed relationship - but as a lot of psychologists say “we heal in the context of relationships”. The trick is to find a person who is also willing to do the work on themselves while you do yours and have healthy mutual communication on the journey. That’s the hard balance to find!

The talking about Exes thing is contextual - if they are constantly talking about how great their ex was or how much they miss them then fine but if they are talking about things that were negative - that could potentially just be their way of telling you how they don’t want to be treated.

Am I the only one who has never dated but is just watching this to learn?

Yesterday I realised that I am not prepared to be into a relationship, even though I always dream about being into one... But I need to heal myself

"If they are always late it means they don't see you as a priority". Me who always gets late when I really wanna try to work on my appearance and be attractive: 😬

Imagine being happy and someone actually looks at you the way you want to be

Major Signs He's Not Serious About You: He doesn't want to know your “story” He bails on you… often. He doesn't open up to you. He doesn't make future plans with you/ avoids talking about the future.

These sound like for people already in a relationship rather than everyone

I wasn't searching for a relationship & I wasn't ready for one, but my partner convinced me by being perfect and understanding - we've had rough patched up until half a year in due to my insecurities and worries that had washed up from previous (abusive) relationships I'd been in. We managed to sort all out and work through them, and now our bond is stronger than ever. I'm glad I asked him to be with me after we'd met, even though I was so terrified to be dating I cried when doing so. We live a country apart but we'll both be moving to a new place in my country soon, I'm more than happy I took the leap - I plan on marrying him a year from now when we've lived together for a while & all's settled down a bit. We've been together for over a year now! Always stay open, but don't actively look if you're working on yourself. At rare occasions you get very lucky

A relationship can be so amazing if both parties keep working on themselves and working together. Deconstruct and then reconstruct TOGETHER. Build and break as a team. Remember that being apart also constitutes being together. Don’t lose yourself them or them in you, if only to be in love. Learn from each other. Build them into the vision of what is their best self. Realize that an argument can have destructive vibes but is, in reality, constructive IF YOU ALLOW IT TO BE SO. You’re a team. Be a team.

So basically, the entire time, out of everyone I've dated or liked, I'm the only one ready for a relationship? For years I've been told that I'm not ready, but the people who tell me this date multiple people alongside me, are confused where they are with me, and have unresolved feelings for others, while I commit squarely to them and communicate everything every step of the way. Every day, I've believed that maybe I wasn't ready. Now I find out, I'm literally the only one who was ever ready that I've met. Damn, I'm pissed lmfao.

5 Stages of Progression in Relationship: 1. Attraction & Romance 2. Reality sets in 3. Disappointment 4. Conflict get resolved & Growth in healthy partnership 5. Stability & Commitment

“Did you relate to any of the signs mentioned?” Me: All of them, instantaneously. But I’d rather be unready and dating while getting my shit together, than ready and steadily focused on one person only to get my heart shattered for the 4th time☺️

So... I am the 'not ready' person in the scenario... Someone has a deep, longing crush on me, but the break up from my EX crushed me, where we aren't even friends, and I simply can't move on yet... I have been open to them that I am simply not ready, but they try to think of any angle to be with me. As the 'not ready' person, I will say that... I have feelings for them, I just don't want the label of 'relationship' yet. If you like someone who isn't ready, give them their space, distance your feelings and just try to be a friend. They will realize that you do care about them, as I know that my suitor cares about me by respecting my space and my healing process. After all, distance does make heart grow fonder, as the famous quote goes.

my boyfriend broke up with me an hour ago, i’m binging these to help me

To the early squad reading this: *sending virtual hugs to everyone who needs it, always stay safe*

Being single is better than hurting yourself and others when you aren’t ready!

I’m 23 years old and have never been in a relationship due to my fear of ruining a friendship. Familial and platonic love has always been the most important to me, and I still try to maintain friendships from childhood because I’ll always have love for them. The thought of someone meaning the world to me, then potentially breaking up and having to forget about them, is terrifying to me, especially since people always say you shouldn’t be friends with an ex 🤷‍♀️

Staying single sounds a lot better, than dating and just hurting yourself. Edit: seeing as how this comment has been gathering attention I'll take this opportunity to wish everyone well. I hope you all find happiness in yourself and the things you do. 💐

Ok, KZfaq is watching my conversations confirmed.

A dishonest and/or indirect person is not ready for a relationship.

I had to help a friend who was in love with a person over text. They tried to go on a date irl but their partner used a lot of excuses, the feeling was bidirectional but the other person had problems with depression and emotional unavailability due to grief over some deaths of close family and friends. I had to help my friend understand that even if both liked each other, if one person isn't ready to commit to a relationship, forcing it is even worse. Finally they texted each other saying that it was beautiful meeting one another, that there were feelings, but they both understood that a relationship couldn't happen while the one with the emotional issues didn't get over them. A bitter story, but at least not a tragic one

Me: Ready for a relationship. Global pandemic: "No you're not."

1. They're going out with a lot of different people 0:48 2. They bring up their ex, often 1:52 3. They don't know what they want 2:33 4. They're flaky 3:00 5. There's a lack of progression in the relationship 3:30

i see a lot of myself in the person that is emotionally unavailable to date… but i just hate how we’re portrayed. like we’re selfish and don’t care about the other person. i have so many sensory issues and a major aversion to saliva and bodily fluids and smells that can make it so off putting for me to be with someone. i also grew up with a mother and father who hated each other. I was never raised with parents that showed each other affection. i also grew up with a super submissive mother figure and i didn’t realize that women have the right to say no to things they don’t like. sex feels extremely unnatural to me, like a terrifying universal dance that nobody taught me the choreography to. i don’t even know what i’m supposed to like. the only reason i distance myself isn’t because i’m an asshole and only care about myself it’s because i hate myself and i’m so scared that i will disappoint the other person and ruin their life.

I was in a relationship with someone with the last 2 traits for 1.5yrs. It was so frustrating because on paper they were great but they were so wishy washy and unwilling to move forward with the relationship. They were always happy to keep everything as basic and easy as possible and I felt like their mom more than anything. It was so unattractive to the point where I lost all romantic feelings for them ages ago, but I kept trying despite being the only one putting in the effort because.. they fit the bill, so I thought I was the problem. At the end of the day, they were very nice but completely unequipped to handle a relationship. Eventually I got them to admit as much when I was thinking of ending things. I worry that they're going to be alone for the foreseeable future because they are so comfortable in mediocrity. They're still a friend of mine, because ultimately that's what we were. Friends. But.. I'm happier now. Much happier. And they taught me a good lesson that just because someone is a nice and responsible adult, it doesn't necessarily mean they're relationship material.

Well, well, well, let's find out.

"You simply aren't important enough for them" 👽👽

There seems to be a stigma in today's society that if you're not in a relationship, not actively looking for one or don't want to be in one, that you just don't seem to truly fit in. I think it's worth noting that, many people in our world today live in many different circumstances, some who are genuinely happy being alone, some who are slowly opening themselves up and working their way towards finding someone, and others who love their freedom or are working on themselves before they try to even seek love. When it comes to relationships, we definitely shouldn't be so demanding of people. There are many ways to be happy and love can definitely happen at any time in anyone's life when they want to finally seek it out.

Watching this makes me feel nobody is ready for a relationship, myself included... Until you see everyone you like with someone else and feel like trash!

Me, chronically late to everything because of my terrible time management skills and memory of a goldfish...

i know i need to heal myself first, because i don’t want to include my significant other and future children in my own complicated mess just because im not healed from previous trauma that causes me to hurt them when its totally not their fault. until i am not healed i dont want to be in a relationship same goes to my future partner. i hope you choose to heal first.

I agree. For me personally trusting a person is very hard and has often led to disappointment and heartbreak.

Lol I dated a girl for like a month after meeting her on a dating site. She ghosted me for another month and then I found she was engaged with someone else. Regardless how long I was with her, that shit hurt. More than fucking anything. I've been having trouble getting into relationships; let alone friendships these days, because people treat me just how you shouldn't treat someone.

This just showed me that I'm not ready for a relationship

I know I'm not ready for a serious relationship, I just like hanging out with friends.

this was a PERFECT time to find this in my feed. i don’t want to keep being strung along, i needed the flags to be pointed out like this.

I would like to mention that #4 has grey areas. I have severe depression, so being on time is often very difficult. And I am also chronically late because I like making surprises and stuff for him and I’m a terrible time manager. He’s the most important person to me and my best friend as well. I always make time for him when he wants to hang out, I’m just a bad judge of time. So if they’re late, ask what’s up. Don’t just assume they don’t care. I know for me, it’s either a really bad mental health day and I’m having trouble getting myself together or I just managed my time badly. 🤷‍♀️ (I’m not usually SUPER late, just 5-15 minutes or so. Depends on what’s going on.)

The guy named relationship : *VISIBLE CONFUSION*

I love the fact that you are putting all the references in the description. This gives you so much credibility over all the other channels doing similar topics but without any mention of references or, indeed, without even saying whether they have any experience of the topic. Thankyou! Now, if you could reference the scientific papers/articles/books too rather than just other magazines and news blogs that would be awesome.

Most dating relationships are certainly not about wanting or needing commitment. Think of the progression (if there is any progression) as-- casual interest, significant interest, exclusive interest, and finally, commitment interest.

My gf exhibited most of the signs at first, we went from the first phase to hell on earth pretty fast. I did realize however that she wanted to be in a relationship but was sabotaging her chances of doing so out of fear of failure. Because her past relationships failed, she always assumed I would be just one more. She was stuck in this loop. Took a few years of commitment and dedication but we finally reached the last phase.

It's like they know what I'm going through right now and I hate it

Can’t be ready for a relationship if you’ve never been in one before in your life! YEEEEAHHHHHHHH!!! 😎 🎸🎸🎸

I’ve seen number four in a few of your videos I’m pretty sure phrased differently throughout… I’d like to point out I’ve been accused of this and have lost relationships giving the wrong impression, I was recently diagnosed with severe ADHD at 27, and came to understand this was why that happened. I really cared so much in those situations and really tried hard… sometimes the person isn’t “flaky” they may have undiagnosed or diagnosed mental health struggles that could contribute to the situation as well, and if you care for them you’d be doing a wonderful thing giving them a chance to show you how they really feel, rather than assuming their priorities from your perspective. A relationship is a team, and communication is very important too, as it can prevent or help to minimize damage from these situations.

Signs when someone isn't ready for a relationship: I ask them out, they say "I'm not ready for a relationship"

I felt bad about bringing up my ex to my new partner, but my ex husband took his own life a year ago so I'm still in the grief process and he's been such a darling about it

last night i just had someone tell me after i confessed they werent ready.. this video just feels to come at the right time.

I really needed this. I've been wondering for a few days, and today I didn't even talk to her for obvious reasons. But it all redirects to me being curious if she loves me or not / if she's ready or not. It hits differently. I really needed this and the timing couldn't be better

Find someone that is willing to work on both of your problems together. Understanding that both of you are flawed and you are both willing to work on each other is key. When one partner feels they are right and the other is wrong constantly that is a relationship killer.

These relationship ones really make me look harder at my bf and see if he fits any of these signs

me checking if i should ask out my crush or not

"they are always late for plans and dates" Lmao I'm late for everything no matter how much I want to be there😂 I'm just really bad at being on time for everything

I prefer to be alone, people are a pain in the ass

Did you guys had secret cameras to know what happened between me and the guy that I liked? OMG🤣

Divorced for 6 years and still can't find a girlfriend. Two dates and they were one and done. Online dating isn't working for me.

The last three are pretty helpful to me right now. Gave me some new perspective and thoughts about my current relationship and that I'm not an overly emotional crybaby. Thank you!

I had a break up then met my soulmate we confessed our feelings to each other and he gave me suffiient time to overcome the trauma and helped me alot now we are really happy together

I love how they constantly say thank u , it makes me feel all warm inside ❤️❤️❤️

In my mind I my dought myself... The most remarkable in life when you find that person that balances your life. Everything with this person makes your life more clear to navigate threw your problems to keep moving forward no matter what. This person brings the spark that makes both of your life's better together..

I'm working on starting a more intimate relationship with a friend that I've known for almost 20 years. There's always been a connection, but the timing was always off. Now we are both single-me recently divorced, her widowed. She is still stuck on him, but I feel there is great potential for us. I'm going to stick it out as long as I can, because I haven't felt like this in years.

He keeps bringing up his ex. I already felt he wasn’t ready and this just set it in.

Nothing like finding someone to be on the same page with...I love it❤️

This made me feel a lot better about my relationship. There’s something I need to go fix

I've never been in one my entire life but I don't feel pressured to do it yet. Imagining it seems cute and nice but I am just getting used to loving myself and enjoying my own company.

Thank you, for giving me the assurance that it is okay for me that a relationship more than a year ago, never blossomed. She went off with a few dates other than me, frequently brought up stuff about her exes, pushing me away, not sure what they expecting from a relationship, constantly using me to achieve her goals. I deserve better, she's not.

Oh boy here we go time to relate everything I hear in this video to that one person I know 👏

This would’ve been very helpful last year

Weird, we always seem to place being in a relationship on a pedestal. I think we're happier just being good to people.

The last guy I dated asked me if I was seeing anyone else. Caught me so off gaurd. He looked pretty relieved when I said no just him and after that we had the let's get more serious talk and it was great

*starts singing Ready as I’ll ever beeeeee!* from tangled

The being late thing hit me in the gut. When you have ADHD and time blindness is a real thing, yet your partner just sees your lateness as a sign that you don't care. Oof!

Thanks! this makes me feel good keeping these in mind while I thought about my relationship 😌 helped me get a clear sense of things. communication is key 🔑

For me it’s always the ones I want the most that it doesn’t work out with. It’s like a depressing loop, so now I find myself trying to not want anybody because I already know how it will end.

HA! I was right. So many in the gay communtiy think that dating several guys at once for an extended period of time is what dating means, but ive always pushed back and no one understood me. There's only so much dating around one can do before a direction for the relationships needs to actually be established. If youre trying to be in a monogamous relationship but youre emotionally attached to 3 or 4 people at once, something is off

Me: *waking up feeling good today* KZfaq: *Recommends this video to kill my hapiness and hope*

The last stages of that relationship progression really got me. When I struggled with why I suddenly stopped feeling that super strong attraction for my girlfriend at the time, I thought it meant that I didn’t “love” her anymore. But rather I was just learning that relationships aren’t always peachy keen. But I didn’t learn from it. I struggled with that for several months, as i focused more on why I wasn’t feeling that way instead of realizing that it’s normal and that real love stems from choice and not feelings. I convinced myself that it was the right thing to break up with her, but the little things and the privilege of loving her kept coming up after, and it’s still a struggle. If you ever feel like you’ve lost feelings for a reason you don’t understand, it’s okay. Talk it out with them and decide how to work out the inner conflict together. Be mature, and don’t make rash decisions. I hope you make the choice that leads to happiness for the both of you. ❤

This video gave me some clarity on what happened to me 2 days ago & it’s a shame because I felt she was really special by how caring, understanding & supportive she was to me.

Multi-dating is just a screening process. I think its healthy, and works in order to find the right one. Obviously you should never lie if they ask you if you are seeing someone else.

Just at the right moment when I though of a girlfriend, I’m not ready yet my introvert side doesn’t allow me 🤦🏾‍♂️

The merry-go-round is where the gifts keep on giving. Improve yourself and stay pure/honest intentions

I have anxiety and depression and use to think so much about being in a relationship. I only have 14 year, but, still thinking about that. I'm trying to focus more on me, grow up my mentality and be more secure about myself. I really don't want to give someone a bad experience, i want to be a good partner at all and solve my personal problems first.

I am grateful for your channel. One critique; sometimes on life's path to find one's purpose, they find their love, but, they must put it on hold. As long as the heart commits, more time, more speed towards an end goal of being together, is not the answer. Just because someone stops to find their purpose does not mean they aren't ready; although, sometimes it does. The Alchemist by Paolo Coehlo unpack this better than I. Cheers for great content in general.

I’m steadily realizing that as wonderful as it would be to be in a relationship, I’m not ready for one right now. I’m currently talking to someone but I’m not putting in as much of effort as I could. I need to talk to her tomorrow and tell her the truth😣

After years of therapy I have become less interested in dating. I have the mindset to treat people how I would like to be treated. So often this ends with them using me. I struggle with the balance and setting boundary’s.

I hate to see all the people that are so scared to love again because of the pain that they went through in the past I just want to let you know guys, there are some good people still here on earth It’s hard to believe but it’s true Don’t give up

He is unsure of what he wants, but that's because he's incredibly introverted, and I'm his first girlfriend. He loves me to death and makes me feel like a princess, but he gets nervous because it's new to him. I just really try to be patient and make sure he's comfortable while also ensuring that I'm getting what I need. Like today. He apologized for being distant because he's been working so much. I told him it's ok and he doesn't have to apologize for anything. He works hard and he has a good reason to be doing that work. 5 days a week for 8 hours. It's understandable that he's tired and doesn't always want to talk. He relaxes with his video games and movies, and I would never blame him for that.

gotta be honest i just want to hold someone when i sleep, and get frisky with every now and again. if the feelings are there bonus. i just have a hard time opening up to people sometimes.

It is awesome to learn about the signs that the person isn't ready for the relationship