See I don’t mind she/her pronouns but I don’t feel like a man or a woman so I’m confused. I don’t really like expressing as female either. Idk.

Thank you. I am in my 60s and I have struggled with the gender binary for decades. I’m in counsel for gender exploration.

I'm in my 30's and I'm figuring things out. I identify as non-binary and possibly genderfluid, but I also feel like I'm still learning what those terms even mean and what they encompass. I'm honestly amazed at younger people (teens and 20's) who seem to have their identity figured out and who seem to KNOW who they are and own it. Something for people to keep in mind is that much of the resources and support that's available these days just wasn't around or wasn't as easily accessible even ten years ago.

I knew I was trans since I was 8-9. But I was raised LDS and the gender norms they have are very strict. I struggled with crippling depression my entire life and no one could figure out why. Not even me. I had repressed my identity for so long. I eventually left the church and in 2020 took the time to do some self exploration. At 37 I accepted myself as trans and immediately as soon as I came to terms with that my depression lifted. I've never been happier and life has never had more purpose. I'm a very happy aro-ace trans-fem non-binary person now. Age doesn't matter, be yourself when you know who you are! Thank you for your content!

I started using the label demigirl for myself recently and it's really nice. It might not be the final label I use, but I think it's a more comfortable spot to continue exploring from than "girl", which while not exactly wrong also feels oversimplified to me in a way

I identify as nonbinary and I think I always knew but I originally classified myself as androgynous since I was small. I never knew I would be the “Q” in LGBTQ; I just thought I didn’t belong. But I’m glad to not only be an ally but also apart of the community 🙌🏽❤️

When your ADHD bumps into your enby, so your need to feel like everyone likes you overrules your desire to change how you present, because it's better to feel attractive/inauthentic than authentic/inattractive. Anybody else? Lol

I’ve said this before, but your “signs you might be non-binary” video is what started me on my gender journey, so thank you! I think allowing things to change is important, and something I especially struggle with. Especially as a gender fluid person (and even that label could change), it’s good to remember that it’s okay for one name and pronoun set to work for you one day, and something different could work better the next. And that it’s also valid for me to not know because my brain is tired and more focused on college finals…

another tip, if you already have started your gender journey and have been through a lot of identities, you may notice a pattern. I am bigenderfluid(when you switch through multiple genders at the same time.) Some signs that I was bigenderfluid, I went through a lot of gender identities that were related to gender fluidity. if I identified as a static gender, I would then try to force myself feel that gender if when I didn't. And I've also been through genders that were partially one gender and partially another gender. Another example, if you go through a lot of masculine genders chances are, you're.....a masculine gender(not 100% guaranteed, keep in mind)

gender is confusing. I've been trying to label myself as stuff, but then when I do I realize that maybe another label fits me better. And also the level at which I experience dysphoria fluctuates a lot, so that doesn't help. Thank you for this video though, makes me feel a little better :) Edit: so I came to the conclusion that from now on I identify as non-binary. I realized my mistake was that I was looking for a label that's going to be permanent, and because I don't currently know my exact gender (like in what way I am non-binary), it stopped me from identifying with a specific word. But this video reminded me that I can always just change the label I use for myself. So, I identify as non-binary for now, and when I figure out something more specific about my gender, I may switch to that! Thank you again Lynn for this video, you basically got me out of my gender crisis lol. Good luck to anyone out there reading this who is also questioning their gender identity ☺️

Please make a part 2! I initially found you for your ace content (as a fellow ace person) but recently I’ve been exploring gender more. So, I would love to see a part 2!

I just found your channel today, but I already love you and your content. You helped me understand myself and embrace myself

“Labels are there for the person who uses them to feel more comfortable “ I needed to hear that

I started my gender journey in the '80s as a child, but I'm still figuring it out. (I'm almost 40!) The internet taught me that I wasn't all alone in this and that has been the biggest help along the way because when you think your experience is "just you" you don't look around for others to help you understand your experience.

It's really freeing the tip about allowing yourself to use a label even if you are still questioning. I feel like society puts a lot of pressure into anyone who is questioning their gender and/or falls outside being cis. Just a few months ago I had an exam from finishing my degree and I remember one text of reading comprehension that stayed with me. It went something like this(not completely accurate of course): - Defend vehemently what you say today, even if it contradicts what you said yersterday - My gender journey started with a lot of videos including ones of you Lynn, thank you for helping me in all this mess that is questioning one's gender identity.

It’s like Lynn knew I needed this.

Thank you for this. I'm one of those "older people" you're talking about--I'm 58 and AMAB. Turns out my mid-life crisis is a gender crisis. I haven't been HUGELY dissatisfied with having to be a boy but it's always felt to me like putting on a performance, and there are a lot of girly things I like too (skirt go spinny!). So I'm trying to work out whether I'm transfem or agender or genderfluid or nonbinary or what, and how to express that outwardly. Anyway I owe a huge debt to you and to all the younger people out there who are putting words and framing around something I spent an entire life not having words or framing for.

I don't mind being male, I don't identify as a girl or nonbinary and I like using masculine terms to refer to myself or presenting masc. Although, and I don't know why, when someone specifically addresses me as a man/boy etc. it does feel a bit uncomfortable. I don't know how to explain it, it's kinda like feeling a disconnect between my biological sex and my gender I guess, if that makes any sense. Maybe demiboy but that also doesn't seem right to me

omg i love your video, thanks for giving me the courage to be myself in this dark and grey world

Hi Lynn!! I’ve probably said this before, but you’re one of the main reasons I was able to figure myself, so thank you so much for your content. I’m really secure in my identity as genderfluid now. (still working on sexuality haha) I like your videos, have a great life :D

as a person who only recently started questioning my gender at 36 it sure a struggle i been through labels already. only started because after many years of being forced to play the role of my assigned gender etc. even though i known from a younger age i'm not all that and struggled to fit in and felt discomfort when having to express myself in usual fashion . the struggle of trying to explore behind closed doors tricky. ( more so if said family or people around you are stuck in the mindset of binary m or f gender id only etc. ) so i decided to do what i should've done years ago explore my other half( feminine side ) more properly by coming out as a femboy( needed to do something) loving it but hating it at the same time because of the extrreme questioning i been doing about myself . going from omg im this to wtf am i? am i broken am i just what i was ment to be all this time. trying to undo over 30 years of forced your a m you must not do f thing etc. not easy when exploring. like in my gender id im not entirly sure if i''m binary mtf , non binary because im not solely/strictly m or f in my id. i feel comfortable with one label for awhile but after awhile i'm like am i this or that and switch/ discard it because of x or y reason. even if it makes me look like a fool or a dummy or a confused person to my bro the one who actually cares about what im going through. i must say though you do have alot of helpful vids. i'm leaning towards non binary based on my past and recent exploring of myself. i barely use my binary gender id name anymore and i barely like seeing the label of myself being m. currently i'm using genderqueer as my non binary label because it generally feels like me . of course could change. trouble with non binary is has alot of flak for being a non recognized gender id for documents in many countries including the one i live in. even tough many countless people have lived outside of the binary for years and years before it became the standard m or f and the person going to behave like their assigned gender id only based on their bio body. sorry just needed to put my experience on here as i am struggling at the moment. ups and downs. (embarrassed by the above )

Right now I’m identifying as a bisexual demi-girl but I can’t figure out anything. I am constantly confused if I’m a gay boy or a lesbien girl or what I am… the best thing that I’ve come up with was a unlabeled unlabeled and that’s really confusing to me, even. I haven’t told anyone for two reasons: I’m into theater and theater can be very stressful and you have to be PERFECT. I was born as a female, and if I change into anything more than a demi-girl, I know I’ll never get a role again, unless I’m fully transitioned as a full girl (or demi-girl) or a full boy (or demi-boy)…. My other reason is my partly homophobic, fully transphobic dad, and that’s pretty self-explanatory. :/

For me it's that I'm starting to realize that I don't care about my gender. Or pronouns for that matter. While also questioning if gender and pronouns actually matter to me or not at the same time.

Thank you

Hi

I’m so confuzzled but going through your videos has been helpful. I’m getting more comfortable with the idea of gender-fluid but I’m still not sure what I want my pronouns to be if I decide that label fits me. They/them feels safe but I don’t feel nonbinary. I’m comfortable with he/him being AMAB but I also really love she/her and don’t mind when people use she/her to describe me. They/them is also something I enjoy being referred as though because it doesn’t paint me one way or another. This gender identity thing is a lot to handle but I just don’t align all the way male or female. And I don’t align with neither. I think I agree with Jax in that gender sucks lol

It took me a long time, but I’ve learned I’m girlflux nonbinary, and I’m very happy with that identity

These tips are great!

" The grass is always greener on the other side ..... just be grateful for what you've got! " That's my attitude to being trans. Like a illusion, or even a delusion.

I don’t know if I’m a demigirl or just a girl, I don’t really know how to know because I don’t feel anything. What does a girl feel like?

You are a beautiful person lynn you have such a massive caring heart love you so much lynn you make the world a better more accepting place

Yay im the first one to comment here hi Lynn awesome video thanks for all you do

This video is really helpful cuz I was like feamal no nonbinary bo maybe demi girl or maybe non-conforming but I still don't no what I am yet

Here’s my thing: I accept all pronouns. Someone can call me a boy and I’d completely be okay with it. But I don’t personally identify as he/him/his. Sometimes I do wish I was a little more manly and sometimes I wish I was a little more girly. But I don’t identify as a boy or girl. But I’m okay with all pronouns. So as of right now I’m stuck between gender-fluid and nonbinary.

I'm still not sure where I sit. I like the term demiboy (I'm pretty sure my pronouns are he/they), but then it's really difficult deciding whether I'm specifically genderfluid or just non-binary.

I know it's okay to change it at any time but I hate lying to myself so I overthink and get stressed about it and it makes me not want a gender

Im only a teen, and it's really hard for me since i wanna have long hair and she/her pronouns but want a musular body and wanna be a male, and it's so confusing for me

Ive always questioned my gender even as a young child. In time I found out that I am intersex which resulted in many surgeries starting as child and then more surgery and cancer as an adult. all related to sexual development. My DNA is male yet I carry the gene for breast and ovarian cancer for which Ive been treated once before. I would like to transition to female but I cannot take estrogen because of the risk.

Step one : have someone you trust enough Step two: your back at step one....again

I’m doing a bit of questioning and there’s a possibility that I’m demigender. Does anyone know any ways I could look into this further?

Another good thing is YOU DONT NEED LABLES.

im straight and im trying to understand it all about it

I actually started questioning last night. Since a year or two ago, I’ve been gay cis man. But, I don’t think being a cis man feels right. Idk what I would be, though.

2:58 yep true

Do you felt like considering yourself genderfluid was a mistake or a valid part of your life that ended It's ok if you don't want to answer

I think I'm a broke man trapped inside a multi millionaire's body.

My dna test came and said I am 100% COCONUT

I am 40 years old and I have just assumed that I am agnder... is it too late?

a lot of the times, hearing the pronoun “they” for me just bothers me and i don’t know why, but ive had dysphoria and lots of gender envy when i see a skinny muscular woman, or tatted guys with mustaches someone help please 😂😭😭

1:10 yea

I'm asexual, gay, genderfluid and transgender.. Is this possible?

I am so confused right now. Like I feel like a woman and I like the pronouns I have but sometimes when I wear femme clothing I hate it and then other times I don’t. I always love wearing masculine clothing but I don’t always like to feel masculine. Sometimes it literally grosses me out when I wear dresses and things and other days I love it. When I’m in the gym I wish I looked like other males I see but I don’t feel like that all the time. Sometimes I wish I was flat chested and other days I love my breasts the way they are. I am just uncomfortable and lost.

i was watching this at 5am bc i don't sleep and that's when I cant even think and I'm stupid and a child and I dont know my own gender

i’m a young person and i feel as if my gender fluctuates in a way? i never feel like binary like 100% woman or man, it’s just sometimes i want to present more feminine than masculine & the other way around. sometimes i wonder if i’m just tricking myself because when i see pretty people, wether it be man woman or neither, i wish i looked like them. i also don’t really experience gender dysphoria, just sometimes i feel sad that i look really ‘girly’ and my parents always refer to me as one.

I'm 41 and just came out as enby. Thank you for acknowledging the age thing.

Honestly, I've been questioning for at least... I'd say 3 years at this point. Still not sure where I stand; I don't quite feel like a man or a woman, and the nb and agender labels don't really feel like they suit me, but I'm fine with any pronouns. At this point I might just need to start experiment more instead of mull over it and not do anything. The way I feel, well, feels complicated.

WERID People!

Cool video, ama go listen to James Marriott and cry 😭

Maybe try finding a hobby instead?