They are cowards actually.

They dont want a partner. They want you to WORSHIP THEM

It's a blessing to be discarded or abandoned by the narcs.

They actually have NO CONTROL. Only false control.

Only people who have gone through this abuse can understand how much courage is needed to stand up. The guilt, shame and fear they instill since our birth numbs us. Edit: Thanks for the likes, but it is a sad reality to see so many souls go and going through this pain.

A person who has practically experienced this and survived narcism can only be able to guide and help others ! Thanks Danish for helping other people who are suffering ❤ You are strong person

"As an empath you are rooted in truth and honesty"

“Your rage is honest” ❤ I’ve never thought about this before. But you are so right. Our rage is honest, their rage is manipulative. Honest rage is something that they don’t understand.

Last part is the best. They should be afraid of you. You have empathy, you are grounded in reality, you can grow, you can heal. But they can't. They are not worth to be afraid of.

This is exactly why I was discarded. I showed my nark that I was not going to be controlled or manipulated. These people are very vindictive. Fearlessness is a threat to them. If you are in a relationship with these people, get out ! The situation only gets worse the longer you stay! Things can go from bad to worse within seconds. It's difficult for third parties to identify their behavior. They are master manipulators and sway people to side with them without getting to their true nature.

I told him "I know you tell all your friends that everything is my fault so they won't like me. I really don't care if they like me. I have my own friends." He doesn't answer. ". I constantly tell him that he should google narrcissism to understand his goofy behavior.

Perfectly said. FEAR. Keeps the victim stuck in the drama. Shatter fear. Calm mind, cool voice, unfazed appearance and genuine detachment- steps for breaking out. YES - PROJECTION is their favorite weapon 👌

My husband is a narcissistic, and after 6 years of trauma, I have finally decided to divorce him. Your message was really helpful...

Standing up to a monster is not an easy thing to do. My father just like yours. We have a lot to be proud of.

Narc parents are the worst nightmare you can ever have in your life. They will make your life a hell especially if you are a minor person. It's hard to escape when the victims doesn't have enough courage, financial support, etc.

Anyone who asks why abuse women don’t just leave need to watch this video. No one can understand what these people will put you through, while being kind and charming to everyone else.

You are brilliant! I left domestic violence against my young children and myself. You describing your father is what I got from my husband and father to my children. I was with him for 17 years. He destroyed me. I'm now a single parent, to 8 year old twins. The boys and I are now settled, peaceful and happy. It has taken 18 months for our souls to heal. Thank you Danish.

Thanks for sharing. These people are pure evil. There's no remorse, no shame in them, just a massive, fragile ego that can never be satiated. I was fearless and got a nasty smear campaign in return. When he started threatening the people who still talked to me despite the smear campaign, it backfired on him. There is some karma in the end, but you have to be strong and hold out no matter what they do. Thanks again.

Being discarded by a narcissist is the most devastating. The lies and smear campaigns are unbelievable. They really leave a hole in your social circles.😢

This message is spot on… they even take away your will to live. Everyone and everything is taken from you. you begin to lose sight of who you are. The tears and pain within feels unbearable ,you even begin to question if it’s you …when u feel like this , hold on tight it’s almost over. Just know it’s not you… my heart goes out to everyone whom dealt/dealing with this kind of trauma . May God give you strength , peace and comfort ❤

My mom is now 80. She controlled my dad until his death. I became her caregiver and took over my dad's role. She displayed all the narcissistic signs my entire life. I have taken her abuse for my whole life. Now she upped the horror by treating me like my father was. Finally, after 5 yrs of this abuse, I have taken my power back. All the things you stated she is doing. I had to decide to distance myself from some family & friends. They seem to believe her crap. It has been difficult. I don't have the strength to continually combat the lies they seem to believe. I do feel better in my soul, but at times, it still hurts.

"they are stuck: that is their karma..." Well put! Thank you for this.

"Your rage is honest, it is transparent" I love you for that, man. Hugs. I wish you more strength!

Being discarded by a narcissist is the best thing that could ever happen to a person. Having a narcissist show interest in you is the most dangerous thing because sometimes it means they have identified you as someone who is weak minded enough to manipulate. You do not want this! I divorced one after being together for 8 years. I'm going no contact when I move out.... That is the only safety.

They will run away. They are cowards! When confronted with TRUTH, they implode

He thought he was tough when I was a child because children cannot defend themselves; but if he only knew how capable and strong I am as an adult. Much more than he knows.

FEAR is absolutely the major tool they use, and we don’t even recognise it we are so busy trying to please them to bring back the wonderful soulmate we believed them to be in the beginning. Overcoming our fear is not easy. But we do need to keep working on it. Overcoming the fear keeps us on the road to recovery.

I went through the violence, lost a tooth at the side of my mouth. I've never replaced it! It's my reminder of my strength & to never engage!

When I tried to make my parents understand about my narcissistic wife that a narc will never change, my parents asked me to focus me to concentrate on prayers, asking to pray/do pooja daily so the vibration will help her change. This is how most Indian parent will react. Only a person who read or been through these things will understand your pain.

THIS was the purpose of your suffering. to share the wisdom you gained from this experience. to heal others who are suffering from the same situation.

100%true!! My ex did this and everything else! He physically tried to hurt me and my boyfriend ( now fiance) I was willing to go through hell and live in a cardboard box rather than stay with my abusive husband of 12 years. His abusive escalated with each passing year. Watching him hurt my kids was more than I could take. Court dates galore, criminal trials, restraining orders, cops being called daily, losing all my "friends " to his smear campaign , almost being killed was still better than living one more day under the same roof as him. The saddest part was my ex continuing to hurt our kids in order to hurt me. He definitely achieved total destruction, but God is good and he helped me rebuild my life. I found a wonderful man who treats me like a queen. I didn't even know a man was capable of treating me so well. God is continuing to help me daily, but PTSD is no joke. It is a constant battle. I hope you all find your happiness with God helping you fight your battles 🙏 God bless you

It took me 38 years to understand narcissitic abuse Thank you for this. I suffered seriously in the hands of my narcisstic mother.

Thank you Danish❣️. So true. I set a boundary, was screamed at and left in the car on the side of the road 🙄. I'm not sure how he could play that off as being the victim, other than I stood up for myself, and "didn't shut the F up" as instructed. I'm out. I am so grateful, and more fearless every day. Thank you for sharing your story.

The part your father missed was that everyone already knew he was the offender, the provoker, and they admired you for standing up to him. If I'm mistaken, at least your subscribers admire and respect you for breaking free from your father's abuse. You are a great leader, Danish, and an inspiration to us all. Thank you.

Hearing your story broke my heart, you are a warrior I am so glad that you were able to garner all that courage to escape the brutality of your father. You are truly a warrior and an angel, my best wishes for you.

That’s the point, it’s exhausting to play these mind games . Most normal people want to relax as they age, live a life that is easy , honest and helpful to self and others .. to deal with a narcissist one has to constantly become active in playing mind games , guessing the next move. This video has been very validating 👌

My husband attacked me in his rage, and I ended up in psychiatric care with major depression on medication. That is when he stopped physical abuse because he knew the psychiatrist will report him to police. Chicken shit. I didn't know about narcissism back then. I blamed his madness on him not being able to find a good job. Once he found a good job, he got cancer and died. I was devastated cause I thought he would have changed. Later on I went through emotional and mental abuse from sibling and that's when I found out about narcissism and finally understood what hell I went through. God will give you the same problems until you learn your lesson.

I'm a survivor too! Only someone who has been abused this way can understand the relief of finally being free. I am so proud of all of you for taking back your lives. And, I'm proud of myself too. It took 4 years to get divorced from him and I suffered every abuse imaginable. I am finally free. I've been discarded and couldn't be happier about that!

Jesus said, perfect love casts out all fear. Stop leaning on the narcissist to give you love that you can only get from yourself. Be filled from WITHIN, not from without as does the narcissist

Im so sorry what your dad has done to you 😢 You created an amazing education channel where you are able to speak out of your trauma what he caused, and now you help other people. Your dad should be proud of you! I feel you, just managed to get away from my toxic relationship. Your channel helped me a lot. God bless you 🙏🏽

I am so shocked to hear this as I am going through these things daily in my life because I live with a narcissist...and the pain is hitting me too hard. Just don't know how to deal with it... whenever I get fearless I have been punched, slapped and kicked. I am now in fear. This video helped me to understand their rage is to get maximum supply just for them to live a life they want!

I'm a NPD victim of a NPD parent. Now undergoing therapy. Struggling in all aspects of my life . I can definitely relate to all this

If you stand your ground they will not be able to do anything. Trust me. I went through this with a raging sociopathic narcissist. As soon as i was in harmony with my being they were scared endless. You are able to paralize and expose them! Never be afraid, never give up! All will be worth it!

I’m so sorry that happened to you. 😢 My mother did the exact same thing. It’s absolutely brutal.

I’m so proud of you having the courage to go to battle and fight. I’m the scapegoat of a covert narc mother and standing up, calling it out as an adult and the venom is terrifying. I can’t believe how scary she still is, just like childhood but now, I know and I’m an adult.

It was so satisfying to reach that point of fearlessness and they cannot control you anymore.

Cat knows the whole thing Love it

It took taking a trip abroad that I recognized I could overcome my fears. That the abuse inflicted upon my children and me (even the dog) had to end. This change of mindset unleashed a new hell until I escaped. The grieving phase that comes with overcoming your fears is hard. Many times I almost reverted to how things used to be out of habit and had to fight against it.

Hello Danish, love the cat! So pretty. I am now completely fearless, and my mother in law can’t stand it. I don’t post on social media anymore, I only talk to my love ones in person or individual text. She still stalks my FB and messenger. That’s how she used to control me. I turned on my active status accidentally the other day. For less than a minute and she flooded me with stuff. Long story there, and as recent as yesterday. In this life, so much pressure to have every single social media platform, and post pictures of all your favorite moments. I’m fine with only You Tube. Danish , I’m so sorry for what your dad put you through as a kid. Thank you so much for your knowledge and experience!

Best explanation I have ever heard. The Fear is their biggest tool. They inflict it on every level. And they never run out of ideas to make you afraid.

Chaotic and dramatic are extremely accurate when describing narcs. They are monsters and I will always fight. No more fear. These are devils.

This is everything I have experienced. So accurate and comforting to us. Outsiders do not believe that this actually happened because their experience of them is so different.

Danish you nailed it. My mother is just like your Dad. She smeared and defamed me from the time I was a kid. She even poisoned my Dad's mind. She has used legal system against me ,it's sad that people believe these evil people.

Darnish I have seen numerous video on narcissim but nothing like your experiences. Its real and actual mindset, behaviour of narcissist. Its a disorder and needs awareness. Continue your good work

Exactly! I used to be sad when the narc left, now I’m happy that they’re gone….I feel like saying to them, “don’t threaten me with a good time!” Lol 😂 Their rejection is definitely God’s protection! Stay strong & keep moving on!✨💪🏽🤩💪🏽✨

Amazing listening to this, spot on, it’s like you told my life for the past 17 yrs (3 yrs with the narcissist but I was deeply wounded that he used my son in his rage to revenge on me) with the narcissist I married and had one child with (he stole him from me through the court system). He did threaten me when I called the police on him when he choked me and he said that he’d do ANYTHINGto take my son Away from me if I leave him. I ended up with my son on a women’s shelter and after three weeks of stay there the narcissist dropped a report on me to the child protective services that I abused our son). After that I lost the protection at the women’s shelter and the horrible court battling for four years were mentally exhausting and I was very depressed and disappointed in whom I married when I actually saw rd flags. Don’t thing for a second you will change someone to become a good person, they will not. You get what you see in the beginning. Leaving him was like leaving 10000 demons but regarding me little son back then 2,5 year I will never get over it. I have not seen my son for 13,5 yrs nor spoken with him because of the narcissist. The legal system believed him but I was discarded. I just will never get over this and I am reminded many times a day each and every day. My poor baby, I am so sad that an innocent child were used by him in this process to get even on me for leaving the narcissist due to mental and physical abuse, it was the nightmare of my life.

im glad you got away from your dad.

I totally agree with u. My narcissist father has turned my children against me. Being a widow I feel tortured from every end.the pain is unbearable to me.😢 my life has been turned to hell.eitherways.sometimes feel like ending mylife😢

I'm sorry you suffered like that at his hand. I understand. Mine kicked me in my shin around 12-13 years old with steel toe boots he was wearing because he said I wasn't moving fast enough and he was hangry. He sure did try to squirm out of it when I showed it to him years later, but everyone knew. We were all there, and we all gift got abused that day.... Bless you for sharing and helping us to feel like we really aren't crazy. :)

Ive also noticed that my fearlessness causes them anger when its directed at a situation, that doesnt concern them, but would frighten them, they become angry and controlling because they would be frightened.... So im thinking that they are pretty fearful - as for what youve said here - soo true!

Sharing ur harrowing, deeply personal experience here, Danish, I can only say that you are a spiritual war hero unmatched here on earth: how u managed to confront ur narc father with all his demonic mental and physical rage, leaving him as a wounded, pitiful animal but he, still insisting that he inflict you to the point of annihilation is nothing short of God's desire to set you free once and for all! You defeated and rebuked the devil and are now divinely protected, as you broke the family's dark/evil generational curse of narcissism! Ur ancestors and ur viewers deeply love and are humbly grateful to you, Danish, for fighting the good fight and winning! Ur suffering and perseverance brought you, ur ancestors, ur family and we, ur viewers, our freedom! (big heart)

Wow! You nailed it! 4 year custody battle and 15 years of smearing. Thank you for reminding me of my strength.

You each and every word is true. At point number 5, taking revenge is one of the core natures, they use everything like finance, your child also. The same I am facing

Oh my gosh! You’ve just described my situation. Thank God I stood my ground, fought back in silence. No contact! Ex-narc self destructing big time.

You just described my relationship with my ex husband. At the time I didn’t realize, but watching videos like this has helped me understand. He was controlling and angry and yelled and put me down. Ot got physical along with the mental abuse and isolation. I finally left, and he tried to get me back with being nice and promises. But when I said I wasn’t going back, he blamed me, said I was crazy, and said, “Yoire dead to me”! Ot hurt at the time, but thanks to you, I now know why. He also smeared me to others, saying I was a wh*re and tht I went crazy and left him. He took all he could from me in the divorce. Ot was so horrible tht my mind blocked out a lot of it. It’s very hard to recover from that kind of abuse.

Survived extreme narcissism from 2019 to 2021. The narcissistic manipulated me into believing that I wasn't successful or happy with my life, then went behind my back talking shit and spreading lies, later bullied, abused, falsely accused and mentally harassed me by projecting their false assumptions on my character, career and overall personality. Your video is very relatable and informative.

I’m experiencing all this. But I’m separate from him finally after suffering for 25 years. Once you come to know about their patterns it will be more easy to handle their behavior ! Be courageous and keep yourself safe.

These lessons are so powerful and true they should be taught in every single school...

I know from my experience in having been narcissisticly abused by my sister that the need for control, at least in some cases, is due to insecurity and anxiety. She also hated me, which it took her drunkenly attacking me a few times to get. I still don't know why, but that's because I know I was there for her when no one else was. Perhaps the fact that no one else was around, and I didn't go around making a big about being her older sister (by only 10 months!) is why she found that so easy to dismiss, or perhaps its just because she always let me know how superior to me she always thought herself to be. I'll likely never know, because I stopped contact after her gaslighting me when I was providing her with child care support every week. Her response? She perjured herself in order to punish me for taking care of MYSELF first. Nobody needs abuse from those they support. She never supported me once.

I listen to many narcissism videos but yours is cut above what I have heard before. Thank you for sharing. I went through all the stuff you talked about. The silent treatment, the discard, the smear campaign, for me even spiritual attacks through black magic. I thank God all his plans fail and now he is quiet and looks at me with amazement when ever he sees me. That was my brother.

Bless you Danish. This is such a difficult topic for outsiders to understand. Danish, YOU have claimed victory for yourself, and now you are helping us other survivors learn to find victory for ourselves, and regain our self-respect. You have accomplished something huge here. You turned your own personal tragedy into a tool to help others. You are amazing because you describe these things so clearly and plainly. You are helping me so much. You’re even helping me more than my own therapist is able to do, even though she is a very very good therapist. Thank you.

Yes. Experienced all these from ex-husband, family of origin, and a few previous bosses! The more it happens, the more courageous I become because it no longer surprises me.

My ex was jealous of the dog!! My kids, everyone and everything, “ you love _____ more than me” he fell asleep while talking. They don’t give a shit about anyone but themselves. When I told him I was leaving for real and he knew it, he started crying and was shocked! When I didn’t coddle him he started the silent shit. The last thing he said to me was “I don’t want this! I never cheated on you! You are a narcissist! Then he smiled that side smile pure evil! He told me I would come crawling back to him! When I left he told everyone I abandoned the family! I moved states away with my son and his wife and he told everyone “I have a unnatural relationship with my son” literally told family and friends I was having sex with my son!!! Why else would I leave him!!! You can’t make this shit up!!

Thank you so much Danish for your great message. Its really better to be fearless and stand for your truth no matter what the narcissistic person does to you. They're not worth it at all

I am an accident baby. Mom never wanted me. never let me do anything fun, and let my family abuse me often. I joined the Army when I was turned 17, to escape the inevitable doom of where my life was headed. All the males in my family were either dead or in jail. The recruiter told her that he would wait until I was 18 before taking me if she signed the consent. She tried her best for 11 months to sabotage my departure, with countless guilt and bs. Didn't work. My mom was mad because she knew she couldn't control me any more. When I left, she threw away all my stuff, collections clothes everything. Then she wondered why I never wrote or called after finding out. After two years of blissful living without her chaos, she called the Red Cross and tracked me down just to start her narc shit up again. Much more happened but I'll spare you. I have to confess, and I hate admitting it, I am glad she is gone from this world.

First and second husbands were Narcissist, wanted money, possessions and every thing they could get! The flying monkeys were all set up to harm me mentally. Good thing my religious leaders were ready for my support and didn't cause me problems. The husbands kept taunting me. It's all over now, 10 years for first and one year for the second. First one threatened me, second one had violent tendency in front of me and I left with in the 30 minutes. Thank you Danish, you are another wonderful person to teach us recovery and healing!

Danish, you just wear that scar like a medal. That's your permanent mark of your courage and strength. We all have scars on the INSIDE, for sure-- but sometimes we have no choice to wear them on the outside. I would rather have a scar than to be another minute spent in narcissistic abuse.

Thank you that is exactly what I needed to hear to help with the next stage of dealing with someone who is acting exactly as you described. Respect to you for standing up for yourself also 😊

I love all your videos Danish because they are well thought out, informative and engaging. I am sure you help many empaths keep their sanity when the narcissist tries to take it. You have helped me tremendously, thank you!

I can relate to your personal story, appreciate it. Great insights as always.

My father was a monster especially when he was drunk. I stood up to him when I was 12 yr's old. I was holding my baby sister with mom hiding behind us. Dad was raging at her+ trying to hit her. I do not know what I said to him. He crumpled at my feet + started crying + slobbering. He held me in contempt until he died. My family made my life a living Hell.

THANK YOU for confirming that the narc will try to take away children for revenge. My mother did this. I got my child back within 6 weeks, but my precious daughter went through so much. It almost killed me, too. Some things can never be repaired.

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. You are shedding great light into this topic. You described the feeling so well. Very helpful

Thank you for your transparency and truth sharing what you've experienced. I appreciate your channel.

WOW! I've never heard this side of narcissism before and I can give examples for everything you've said. My mother told me at 17 that she didn't love me bc you can't love someone who isn't afraid of anything. Almost 20 years later I still remember the quote exactly bc I found it so odd. And thanks to you I FINALLY understand it. I want to express my thanks to you, truly, having insight on the exact story that happened to me feels so good. ❤ you're the best!

Thank you so much for your postings, Danish. You have been extremely helpful.

I found your channel recently and I love your videos! You are so concise and well spoken! Thank you!

One thing I did with my narcissistic parents is start calling them by their first names instead of using the titles of "mom" and "dad" because to me, those are earned titles. It took them drastically aback and my mother went silent and refused to talk directly to me for a bit, while my father acted almost like he was afraid of me... I did this after having my son to solidify the boundaries I had been laying down the entire time I was pregnant so that they would know that being in my sons life was not a right, nor do they have any power or control over my decisions as a parent. If I include them, then that is a gift from me. They talk a lot of bluster behind my back (according to my little siblings) but they dont dare cross me directly, and I have called them out publicly when they tried to accuse me of things. Basically "hey, you said this during our last phone call and I would like to know what I can do to prevent accidentally causing you distress like that again" - by doing this in front of people they end up backtracking saying they weren't talking about me at all. It also shows others that I want open communcation and "care". Its almost intoxicating having this power over them now.

How very very far you have come in ur journey, Danish! Could anyone be more inspiring than you and your experience dealing with these monsters. No therapist can match the richness of ur story in their practice. The narc recovery community is stronger due to you. ❤ Be fearless!

Bless you Danish. I’m sure you are bringing awareness to many a souls and saving many lives. I’m in this marriage for 38 years and faced everything and have survived without knowing there’s something known as narccism. I am on the way of becoming fearless and your videos are a big help.

Thank you so much for sharing your story Danish, you are an incredible person 😇 Your videos and all the wonderful people who share their stories in the comments are really helping me in my healing journey.

Thanks for telling the personal story, about your father. I went through something similar My youngest brother pitted our parents against his siblings. That brother is a champion liar and we all know now. My parents have passed on and several siblings of my younger brother figured him out. He is so pathetic. It will never change. He is 57 years old. Narcissists do get worse with age.

Thanks for sharing your story Danish! Set in the Indian context your Coachings are a true help. Thanks for the support and guidance!🙏🏻

This explains some behavior I didn’t understand. Thank you!! It’s amazing to know this!

Thank you so much for these videos Danish. My mother's been out of my life for a long time but she's trying to get back in and create problems for me. These videos are helping me to remember why I have no space for her in my life and why I'll keep it that way.

So sorry that you went through all of that. My dad was the same. I'm going through this with my sister-in-law. Everything you are saying is RIGHT on!!! She's on a smear campaign against me right now.

Omg! I am so sorry you were so brutally abused! I have a son, and the idea of being so cruel to him is ghastly to me. I am so sorry you went through that! 🤗🤗 I cannot believe I EVER became obedient and compliant. I was NEVER such a person, not unless I was getting someone who worked WITH me as a PARTNER, who gave EQUAL cooperation, not someone who wanted to lord over me as the "boss." I would NEVER try to boss around or dominate any other human being. But nor will I be dominated. Especially when it's coming in the form of being treated like a doormat. I let fear rule me for far too long. But never again. I feel like I have FINALLY broken free from that fear. I just hope I can get strong enough to hold onto my resolve.

Has been eye opening.We are going through a lot.Thank you so much.God bless you.

You are an amazing person. You took the terrible things that happened to you and turned them into a good thing for yourself and now are using it to help other people. I applaud you Danish ❤

Thank you Denish for this VDO. I'm going through exactly just that. The narcissists (him, his girlfriend and his parents) are attacking me hard using the legal system. It is so important to remind yourself that you're solid inside and are aware of what these narcissists are up to. I am keeping sane despite all the difficulties I'm going through. Your brilliant video is a big help. Thank you.