Eye contact is #1. ....and it needs to be more than one second. You got that right Stephen!

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and he just recently told me about your channel and how much advice and help he got from it. As the "top" in our relationship, now having watched your videos, I understand perfectly where he got all his info from. You are a treasure trove of information and I too have learned a lot after he told me about you.

'When i look good, i am a baddie' nice... love the hair❤

Three years ago posted but still relevant to this day. Thank you for posting this video. I’m at a place where I am ready to receive this type of advice about self care. I’ve been doing self care for a long while now and I think you nailed all the good points in this video. 🤗 thank you for the affirmation.

This is my first time your channel. You have very good advice and I enjoyed it. I already do the things you mentioned and I just needed to hear them again from you to help my confidence. Thanks!! 😊🏋️‍♂️👍

The best, least obvious, and most fruitful advice is the idea of knowing WHO/what kind of person you are trying to attract. If you're looking for a relationship this is especially true but it's even true of hookups (for example, we often are baffled by chubby chasers but they may be very conventionally attractive and more attracted to the overweight version of us than the crossfit-perfected version we achieved after self-flaggelation: we would be the last one to know that we failed to attract someone because we were simply too diligent in living up to our own or some "good" advisor's sense of what we had to be. While the "chaser" is certainly not as common, the type is real, and the same principle applies to every other trait and corresponding preference). The speaker says "guys aren't going to want someone who is shy," he says "don't come on too strong," and adjures us to "have a couple of guys youre talking to," all which are ridiculous and bogus generalities that can easily MESS YOU UP and cause you to constantly miss the person you're actually most likely to attract, retain or be happy with! To wit: a moderate (but not inhospitable or positivelyvstandoffish) degree of shyness could be exactly WHAT attracts someone to you; a sense of emotional sincerity and actual concern for whether the object of desire likes or approves of you, a quality often described as "clinginess" may (in moderate, non-pathological proportions) be precisely the magic elixir for someone battered by or simply absolutely sick of the near sociopathic levels of non-committal and "NSA," "use-and-discard" mentalities pervasive in certain scenes and subcultures of the dating world (News flash: this is definitely not all scenes, not even in the city you think you know); single mindedness of relational intent or interest, where you communicate, even early on, that you're NOT seeing someone else, that you just so happen to NOT be hooking up with other guys, that you just so happen to NOT have a "last signed in/last active" tag on your Scruff/Grindr/Etc. profile that appears after even your first date and is not linked to correspondence with the person you just met (and actually liked), could be the very thing that turns off that person. Disterested, not nonchalant or overly independent vibes could be the decisive factor in REPELLING men who are quite over either what they perceive to be the hollow pretense of permanent emotional detachment, a style they associate with past frustrations, or the perceived immaturity of perennial indecision, or the perceived selfishness of ever-optimizing vacilation (the opposite hints and manners could be the skeleton key to attracting such persons). Admittedly, the conventional "fitter, happier, more productive...pig in a cage on antibiotics" profile who bikes to work and is well on his way to be team leader at SpaceEx that is encouraged in the video could also be the cat's meow for the tool you're keen on nabbing. Our sad, corporate controlled culture (both gay and straight in almost equal measures) overemphasizes goal-driven, careerist facades as "attractive" and Gordon Gekko like independence as "admirable," prompting a prominent minority (or, at certain jaded age groups, maybe a majority) to desire the exact OPPOSITE: ascertainable vulnerability, emotional/practical/situational/literal availability, room for following a partner in one's life and not just pursuing one's own goals or career with "confidence", which is NOT always sexy to everyone, especially the person with whom you may be most compatible but are not yet conscious of). A certain degree of the conventional mentalities and aptitudes is typically attractive but only necessary insofar as it coveys a basic stability of person or means of survival, and non-manipulative intent - in fact, even stability may not be strictly necessary to attract someone and a degree of instability may even prove appealing to certain folks for various reasons). We OFTEN confuse the ideals of who we think judge us, or the areas in which we judge ourselves with the qualities we think we need to evince in order to attract others to us. This is a great mistake that's very difficult to unlearn. The qualities that attract others to us, however, are not dependent on the ways we may judge ourselves, based on past conditioning or formative experiences. Such experiences may even be subconscious in their origin and level of operation within our psyches. This tendency can be so strong that we may even be running a desperate race to please a past partner, a no-longer present parent, a since vanished consuming object of past attraction, a close but judgy friend whose ideas we didn't realize we'd internalized, or even a boss whose validation we greatly seek or sought at one point that is not applicable to the needs or desires of the person with whom we are presently meeting, dating, living with, or even married to! Know WHO you are trying to attract or keep near: it may not be the same as the man you think you need to be; it may in fact be the very man who is the awkward, unscripted, not fully put together, nervous, clingy, slightly directionless, not perfectly goal oriented, not fully astute or self-actualized guy you actually ARE, amid the raucous storm that is real life, versus the plastic exterior manicured to deny life's reality.

Yes to part 2.I can see you’re gonna be a success in Spain.I know,I’m a Latino.Love you,Stephen,from Brazil.

Don't worry Stephen. Your hair is amazing and I wish I could style my hair like that.

I felt so witchy when u were mentioning manifestation haha will try it thx for the tips!

I am amazed at how u love and accept urself. Like u say okay u might not like my hair I know it looks different but I!!! Love it. So inspiring

me who's gay and an introvert 💀

Hey I just subscribed! You have so much great content I’m gonna be here all night 😝 ❤️ from Australia 🇦🇺

Omg your eye contact is so good!! I'm sure you must attract a lot of guys!

@StephenBrenland, I've got to say that I love your content, I always come to your channel when I'm in need of help in sticky situations, you just fill me with joy and knowledge, love you and also your style as it's so unique! and the hair... well. GAWWJUS, so yeah, but one thing, so I'm in school right now and there is this guy that everyone is saying is straight but I'm not so sure and he keeps... saying hi making 👀eye contact but I really don't know whether he really likes me or not as I've fallen for guys and been heartbroken so yeah keep it up Stephen! Thanks so much :)😘💛

Thanks for that feminine masculine advice at the end!

With Love from Amsterdam! Good Luck for you handsome!

Me watching this cuz I’m trying to get a daddy

Love the hairstyle !

Dear Steven Brandon my name is Kelly and I've been watching yourself for the past 10 years I just want to say hi and yes I would love to see more of your shows but I think you're in the most handsome person there is and I think you're beautiful and good luck on everything that you're doing I like you with all my heart and I love you with all my heart and my soul don't ever give up on your love life cuz I am having a hard time mine actually and I just want to say good luck on everything that you are as a person

It is so crazy how much he is my type

Make a part 2 to this. Please!

Tis is the best advice giver

Just subscribed thanks a lot for the advices. There is a guy in my college’s library and he looks at me a lot when I’m there at the library I think he likes me and I’m really interested in him but I’ve never dated anyone yet 🤦🏻 I’ve no idea what should I do and I’m too shy in talking with guys. 😭

I need to work on my approachability ☁️

i am a witch so i got the manifestition to a point

I love your hair.

Can we get a hairstyling tutorial? 😍

Very nice. Thank you.

When I catch guys looking at me I just give them the middle finger 🤣

Am I the only one who just can't help but being clingy? Idk but, it's weird not to be

U know I really have this one problem and I would like some feedback. I am like u a very peaceful guy and have chilly vibes I guess so many dudes like to spent time with me but its mostly streight guys. They also look to keep looking in my eyes in a brotherly way but if I try to flirt they get angry and feel betrayed. So I found out if a streight huy really likes u he might also look u in the eyes with „love“ but its not a sexual love, its so hard to know the difference

My boyfriend loves me for who I am… he tells me just be you he will love you for who you are 😊…

I usually date as many dudes as possible or juggle them because l don't know where each one is going to lead to. The one who takes me the most seriously is the one l will concentrate on. I will put into a relationship just as much as he does. If it isn't a joint effort, then l will shift to one of the other dudes that l was juggling in the first place.

Always have loved that hair cuteness 😘❤💛💚💙💜 growing up closeted was always carefull not to look too much in a cute guys eyes was afraid he would figure me out ,your right though have had to let them catch me looking in their eyes in order to get there attention was hard to do at first but your right look them like a beautiful sunset that you don't care who sees you looking 😉that's very sage advice as allways cuteness 😚🕊PEACE 💜LOVE AND UNITY 🌏WILLPOWER ♆

Tnx for advi.. 🥰

awesome

"They dont want somebody whos shy" i disagree, so u think they prefer someone who doesnt stop to talk or watch in their eyes all the time and stuff , it doesnt work like that

#1 be attractive

I’m watching this to learn what to do to stop attracting dudes

Bro, I am dying right now

Eye contact has always been a problem for me because of my adhd. My question is how can I work on my issues with eye contact? Love from Minnesota

How do you attract guys when I am not the most self-confident person. Like most guys my age am looking for a younger companion.

thank you it was really helpful being indian

9:32 I love this

Your beautiful and unique just the way you are queen

Most guys are quiet 🤫 they don’t really care how you look!

Jesus, I really dont know, but I found myself this guy, it's very hard to find him now, and I am just afraid to write Hi, should I do it, even if it may not be him?

I just want to get married

You manifesting for a man is sooo funny and real

nowadays the only way to attract guys is to be muscular or have really low body fat levels, even the stocky guys demand that you be in top shape

you have really pretty eyes

I am 14 but I hear u

The only thing is looking at guys can come off offensive sometimes to “certain” guys.

U r fine u r my role model

but what if we’re shy?

Mis Rona ,ok,it's not a joke but 😂

#1 don't come for sex Its better when you make the connection first

Be hot and act like cute....simple 😂😅

🗿im not gay but im just here for curiosity

if i cam just hav an AI that can summarize this

Can you give me tips for bottoming please

TURN UP YOUR MICROPHONE VOLUME. I can't stand barely being able to hear someone's video on full volume!

I am attractive to a gay Person I know we will hit it off we get to know each Other he is my daddy

I know nothing about gay culture and im gay wth???

Cute ❤

You are truly beautiful.

You are so cute

Bom dia meu amor ❤💋💋

Come to Brazil and merry me Lol... So beautiful WOW

I want this video to translate to Burmese languages

How old our you ,please don’t get annoyed

Try saying. That you're hoping to get married. Growing very old while raising your own, little family, together...??? Then, gauge potential reactions. Ok!😊 ✝️

you are so beautiful

Olha 😋😘😘😘❤❤

I have a lot of guys dming me

Straight stereotypes suck.. this is a w.

Show up with thigh highs, panties and a bra under a trench coat and have a pizza in one hand and a six pack of beer in the other.

When you are so gorgeous, men will come to you themselves. When you are a balding guy with low income and nearing 40, you're gay life is over. You don't even want to be picked by anyone. 😂

U r beautiful and I wish I was with u

I know you feel lonely. And you feel that you can't get a woman that you want. But God created a female as your helper. 1 Corinthians 11:9. “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” Try to ask God to find a female that you desire. I am not going to condemn you because we all have sinned. John 1 [8] If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. [9] If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. [10] If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. Ask God to transform your mind. Romans 12:2-3 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

I want a or 2

I know I come across to strong I realize this by listening to u I swill get more into self care and find a way they can easily approach me as I say I am in love with a white guy , I am looking for a husband universe provide me with a slim white guy , a feminine guy cas the sex is better to me . I went on social sites for a hook up I was used I don’t do no more I want to see more often in ur videos

Omg when it comes too body language I’m so bad at making eye contact cuz idk how long to make eye contact also I’m neurodivergent so yeah it’s definitely a bit harder than for a typical shy guy

You are so cute