Love it! It is making a better future.

Thank you for this quote. I needed to read this ❤️

Wonderful. I love to hear these kinds of comments.

Glad you are safe. Abuse should not be tolerated and everyone needs to decide for themselves if it is safe to stay or leave.

This is so true

Im right there right now... I miss my wife a lot but she would constantly yell and hit me repeatedly for some of the smallest things, but now that shes gone every part of me is wanting to fight for her to come home, and try for us to make this work, but at the same time i cant because of how she is... Its hard, and it just hurts a lot.

That’s the issue. The church keeps teaching us to love them; keep forgiving your abuser; act loving towards them. I understand that because emotional abuse has no physical scars; the church believe that it’s not so bad. But the scars on your heart; your mental health; your physical heart are so mindblowing. It’s actually worse than physical abuse

Neddie2k, acknowledge they exist, figure out what you have learned from them and then file them away. Choose how you are going to look at the marriage and your wife.

I am so sorry. Try saying, when you talk to me how I am talking now I will discuss this, otherwise I won't engage with you.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you. By doing this Ill be setting a good example and planning to exit in a positive way. Theres alot to this brief advice, and I wil apply it.

"I don't like how you're talking to me and I'm going to leave the room (house?) until you're calm."💖 💖 💖 💖 💖 💖 💖

Rosser Scott, I hope so.

I'm praying for your as a man who is trying to heal and save my family as well.

Monika Olha, honored to be on your team.

I have heard that, yet when I get talking to people down deep they identify with hate as fueling the indifference.

You are welcome, Train With Zein Faith Fitness & Fun! I appreciate you being on the channel.

You are so welcome

Exactly!

Calichic, yes, the parties need to be willing to work on the marriage.

be-set-free, thanks for commenting.

Same problem and question is in my mind too Calichic 🙂

Always.

I don't have any that specific. Look for the principles in the videos and how they can be applied to you. Consider a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com so you can interact in our community deeper.

Lori Carini, I hope you can find a way to peace either in or out of the marriage.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV My hope is in God Alone. I am trying to help my husband with his inner healing, but I've got to remember that this will probably take a little While. Trusting that God will do His Deep Work though His Word and His Holy Spirit. Thanks so much for your prayers 🙏❤️

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I went through it with my husband. No matter how hard to tried I was always to blame. God lead me to leave before I started to hurt myself in self hatred. Now I see I was codependent. God is healing me through therapy, Celebrate Recovery group and praying daily. Song of Solomon TPT translation has ministered so much to me.

Open Minds Eye, good suggestion. The communication will only work if we are truthful.

Or being stonewalled. Purjury alienation from my children criticisms daily complaints I've screwed up in a lot of ways but I try to make things work but it takes two to make things work in a marriage. At this point it's getting worse and worse almost un salvageable. It's demonic the Great lengths my wife has gone to keep me away from my kids when I was an active father now I can't even hardly see my kids and she's making it more and more difficult. I went to jail for leaving messages about praying for my wife. Benevolent messages. Just because something is legal and action that one can take does not make it ethical and unethicality is most probably sinful but it's also constitutional. I have so little faith in the justice system I need to get a lawyer to try and defend my rights if there are any. It's aganizing and depressing to wake up everyday knowing your kids aren't there and that you can't do anything about it. I've made a lot of mistakes and I've been honest about it. I have a lot of people holding me accountable and myself holding myself accountable and of course the Lord is holding me accountable. But at this point my wife is just using the system to her advantage and weaponizing and exploiting our kids against me. We both make mistakes in our marriage I have maybe one or two apologies in all of our marriage from her I've apologized as accurately as I can when things happen. I've even apologized and I probably shouldn't have. My biggest failure is not leading the family in a Christ centered way. I pray for my wife daily I'm very upset very hurt discouraged depressed hopeless. It's like I'm in mourning everyday.

@@TwoSoundsatOnce "be still and know that I am God" put all your trust in the Lord and love him with your whole heart. Serve him, and he will deliver you from bondage. Continue to pray for your wife, yourself, and children. We have a faithful Father who is working everything together for our good. Sending prayers to you and your family.

Abusers do not and will not change. The false and deadly belief by marriage counselors, society,. Churches etc. Are not experiencing the abuse of every kind. Emotional, verbal, physical abuse is an outdated concept. It is now all called domestic violence for a reason. Stonewalling, gaslighting, and all abuse tactics are uses by psychopathic and ASPD cluster B personalities those who " lack empathy". These men or women only enjoy watching you suffer. Please read that sentence again. It's covert in the beginning, and insidious. You have no idea it's even happening. See a therapist who has EXPERIENCE with cluster B personalities. Most DO NOT. God did not put you in a marriage to be abused by ANYONE. Or on this earth to be abused by anyone. I almost died in a psychopathic marriage I had zero idea it was happening. Why? I was told by others " be a better wife, forgive constantly, and " I'm sorry" Was enough. NO! Active repentance is enough . Sorry is an action not a word. Use the rule of three used in psychiatry today! First lie from one individual my misunderstanding . Second lie by the same person? Their misunderstanding. Third lie from the same individual? Any person you have a dishonest interaction with? A pathological dangerous personality . Run and don't turn back. It is not your fault!!! It is a defect in their mind that was never normal and rational to begin with. Please consider this message. Ask yourself" Is this were I am willing to allow my children and I to die"? I asked myself that same question two years ago in a 20 yr covert psychopathic Marriage were the abuse became severe in last six months . No physical attacks.... He was just trying to kill both of us without our knowledge..... Don't ask. Do seek to get out ASAP if not now. Call a free 800 domestic violence 24/hr phone number and ask their guestions. No one deserves what you are really dealing with. With love and many blessings

If you can do so safely then together but if there is abuse happening and you are not safe then it is not a good idea to put yourself in that situation.

These steps aren't about fixing the other person's mistakes. They're about becoming a better partner and imo that makes you the winner anyways. This is also not about a marriage where abuse is the norm. It's about fixing a good marriage where something has gone wrong. We all abuse each other sometimes, it's sad, we don't like to admit it, but it happens because we're all humans and broken.

Thank you for helping to explain what the video is about. It seems there are a few people who are a little confused.

Courtney P, this is for a marriage that is having a hard time, not a habitual abuser. There is a big difference.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV you need to say this more clearly

Some abuse is so hard to come back from. 2 year affair, being called horrible names. How can that person love me? I can't nice them into loving me. Even if he did those things due to his own pain. I just don't want to try again and get devastated yet again.

Mryam Jawed, I am not condone abuse in any form. If you would like to contact me you can do so through my website, drpauljenkins.com.

Mariana, you don't have to keep attempting to heal your marriage. It is your decision where you want to go from here. Figure out the life you want to have and then go for it. Realize there will be consequences for leaving, but if you are up to the challenge, you can do this.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you for your message.! 🙏 Let’s assume for a brief moment I do want my husband to hear me, love me and change. Both of us change. Where do I turn for help and guidance? (For me to heal and us to listen to each other? He is willing to try anything now whereas for years he refused) What are the first steps? I am open heart and all ears! ♥️ Thank you again for responding to my message.

I am not sure. It depends on what you think you can do to help her. Would it be better for her to get some counseling?

aneber1811, thank you for sharing that with me. I don't want anyone to be abused and that has to be dealt with first.

Mau Tse, this is not for a habitual abuser. This is where someone gets off track and we want them back on track. There is still good in the marriage.

Any abuse is not "off track"!

That is an option. Some people don't see it that way and hang on for a long time.

That's why I'm leaving cuz he thinks all is forgiven no not even close

Eva Joseph Sleem, no one should be abused. Seek help to end the abuse. See what programs are around. Your husband needs help.

Please seek help. Your safety and the safety of those around you comes first!! Sending love. You're so strong. God calls you precious and does not accept abuse of any form. If he is willing to change then he will need to change his behavior. Has prayer helped you in this hard time?

You should go to the police, hire a lawyer, move safely away from him, plan ahead, and seek counselling for yourself as you are being abused.

Call the police every time

Ms Pretty Kawaii, mental problems make a relationship difficult. I hope you are taking care of yourself.

I understand, I hope you can get to a peaceful place. Maybe counseling so he could hear from someone else.

Sheen Boo, glad you liked it.

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Paper Clip, leaving is always an option.

meincamera, it is always a choice to leave a relationship. Not everyone is there at this time and some need other options. It is all about the options and YOU decide.

Matthews 20, I hope that is not what you take from this. Try watching some of the other videos to see if they are helpful.

No, don't allow disrespectful behavior from anyone. Communicate your needs if your needs are not respected, then have consequences. Example: when you're ready to talk to me with respect, then I will engage with you. And walk away. If the disrespect continues then you must make a choice. Always take care of yourself and value yourself. Sending love and prayers