Just had a thought. If we were kinder to ourselves we most likely will be kinder to our children. 🥰

I will not make a baby until I finish watching all of this channel’s videos ✨

"We want our child to feel loved, but it's not our job to make them feel loved." Thank you for this, it helps a lot❤️

I am having parenting guilt for yelling at my 16 year old yesterday. ☹ It's alot of self control for me to not yell at my kids. I grew up in a very hard and emotionally damaging family. I know this takes time and I know that I used the tools that I was given. I just feel I'm never gonna get there and it breaks my heart. 💔 #FeelingHelpLess Thanks for listening

Since I can't go to therapy because of Covid. These videos are such a life saver. Thank you 🙏

This helps me become a better parent - I thank you from the bottom of my heart💕

Great words. Smile . Cause when you smile, they(your child) think ....... Dr. Paul.

Respect to this couple. Absolutely love them! 💗

I'm watching this while feeding my 6m old and he stopped drinking his bottle to smile and giggle at you both 🥰

My son has ADHD and he feels everything so deeply and with much more intensity ....My husband is amazed by my acting skills these days..even when I want to scream my head off..I tell myself to keep it kool..😂. Thankyou so much for the video.❤️

In many previous videos you had mentioned calm voice calm body! When feeling enraged we need to take a few breaths first collect ourselves and continue! Also you said mean what you say and do what you say! What about in times that they try to manipulate you especially when your already being manipulated by the government? I'm a single dad and have found most of your videos very helpful! I think police officers could learn deescalation skills from you 2! In fact I think it should be required for for officers to be evaluated by experts like you 2! I think society would feel safer and might even be able to trust them again but other than, everyone who takes an oath to our government, I think should be evaluated by you guys! I think that's would be just as important as keeping our children happy and healthy! You might as well work your way up to the U.N.! Lol

You guys finish each other's sentences. 😋🥰 Thanks for all the needed reinforcements...and inspiration!

Love and Boundaries goes together. Boundaries with Kids is a good book.❤️❤️

Great video, but I especially appreciated your discussing honoring their choices and how you referenced that right after recognizing their autonomy. My oldest is almost 18 and I had to honor his choice to live with his dad in another state a couple of years ago. Boy was that hard, but I think I helped to honor him as a young man in that. My other son is 8. I learned a lot since my first son and implement those things, a lot of what you’ve mentioned, and I’ve noticed such a huge difference. I remind my 8 year old that God has something really special created just for him in this life and all he has to do is walk in truth. Most topics I ask him what he thinks about it and don’t give any opinion on his feelings but rather talk about proper responses to such feelings and then allow him to choose his own actions and consequences of each action. Good and bad. Thank you for also bringing up not trying to create mini-me’s. You guys are doing a great job!

Thank you all sooo much you have saved my motherhood and parenting! I love being a mom Of 5 girls even more! Forever grateful!

It's nice to be reminded that the limits I have set lately around Covid can be seen as love - it is love. My kids have taken it well, but I have still felt bad about keeping them holed up inside. Thanks for reminding me that this is love, and my kids might even feel loved because of it.

Such an apt video for me to watch now. I was feeling depressed as my kid wasn't reciprocating my love towards him. And I think I got the answer now listening to you. Thank you so much for this topic taken up and it's beautiful delivery. Wish you all good

much needed and appreciated video! and perfect timing, too! thank you so much ❤

Thank you so much Dr.Paul and Ms.Vicki for always reminding us to become a calm and positive parents.🥰

Lovely parenting video as always.. Thank u so much dr. Paul

Another awesome video. Thank you!

What a great idea for a video! Thank you!

I have been following you and watching all the videos you guys posted and literally taking notes on my note book devoted for parenting! Making my husband watching them too! Thank you so much!

great pair with really valuable suggestioms

Yesterday morning we were walking home from the market and our 3.5yo wanted to stop at the playground. I wanted to get home as my husband was about to leave for the week and I wanted to Say goodbye properly. I was sorry about her being so upset and wailing savagely, but I was convinced about going home. She recovered phantastically from that disappointment. She even looked happier after I stood my ground?! I observe that regularly, so surprising.

Love this one

So helpful, I think we have to love them unconditionally no matter what, they deserved to be loved, then they will bloom like a flower

Thank you for your videos they help me a lot.

Yesssss! So good.

Thank-you for sharing, i was searching gor just this topic! I was unsure how i was going about things with my toddler and a balance is a good thing. Bringing up healthy children in this world is key for their futures! Thank-you so so much from UK🙂

Vicki and Paul - thank you soooo much for that video which came just in time! Love everything what you have said and I second your every single word 👏. I have 3 daughters age 7, 5 and 2 months. Before my last daughter was born, I spent more time with my older girls, even if it was mainly homeschooling in recent months. Every evening we read the book before bed time and had kind of routine (still working on it). My baby was born and many things naturally had changed and I didn't have a clue how big thing it is for my daughters until last night... my 5 year old went to the toilet at 11am and instead of going back to her bed, she went quietly downstairs and closed the door, leaving the lights on in the toilet and in the corridor. When we discovered after few minutes she's gone from her bed, we went downstairs and saw her just sitting on the sofa... hubby said she looked a bit shocked when she saw him. No idea if it was a sleep walking (never had happened before) or just emotional escape but she admitted she feels loved less nowadays because I have less time to spend with her and her sister... this totally broke my heart because I do love her "no matter what and even if" but I know she is right about me having less time... I think I need to remodel and rethink my day and schedule to connect back more with my older ones... they love their little sister a lot but they need to still feel loved themselves too... maybe even more than before. Thank you soooo much once again for an eye opener Vicki and Paul. Love from UK 💓

Thanks for making this video, I have a two year old, and her Dad doesn't pay any attention to her, and I want to make sure she knows she's loved, and feel secure.

I wish there were classes that are pushed more either before you have kids or when you are expecting. Videos like this, love and logic.... would be so helpful, instead of messing up and looking for help when they are preteen/teens.

I would be wonderful for a follow up to this video to help us redirect our frustration to stop ourselves from going down the road of the yelling. Sometimes when we are in that moment, the adrenaline and the chemical flood doesn't allow ourselves to back away from the explosiveness of the frustration.

your videos are always on point and very much appreciated! wish i still had a gameboy!

Your videos are wonderful!

Nice video, great advice!

God bless u!

Lol I love the saying love them no matter what and even if .... it’s close to what I say but I’m an 80s baby so I say to my three teenage girls (day a prayer) is “ well ok well whatever I love you so ......” and then I roll my eyes and just walk away. Lol they know Were both not receptive in the moment and we both need to cool down but ........ whatever I love you........ I need to go lay down. Or WE NEED TO LOWER OUR VOICES TOGETHER 😤 lol I’m learning .... that’s why I’m here. These videos are so refreshing. Thank you so very much.

Girls got style!

Hi, I need to hear your videos for guidance. I am a widow and so much is on me with my two boys (13 & 15 - almost). I watch you videos every day. Thank you for what you dp.

I really enjoy watching your videos, especially when Vicky (spelling correct, I hope) joins you. Thank you.

I feel so bad. Feel like I'm not doing enough for my daughter. I have such bad anxiety about it. Shes 9, I feel like I'm running out of time. Thank you for your videos.

Question. If I've been yelling have I completely ruined the relationship, their mental stability, etc? At what point is it too far damaging to them? And also, how do I undo any damage from the yelling ive already done? It was my parents MO... so its been hard to do better. Always said i wanted to but now that im a mom i feel like im failing at the not yelling goal... its discouraging.

Step mom here…Any tips on how to implement these changes with a child who splits time between two households?

I honestly can't do all that 😕 maybe I just should find them different parents and be over with it🤣😍😍

New Diagnosis: Emotionally Incompetent Parenting Disorder❤️❤️. We have posted your last week video at selfhelpchampion. Thanks Doc

Good to know these things. I suppose my daughter has troubles because I did not give her structure and boundaries. How could I know!!? She is sick, grown up(acting as a kid). God forgive me

YES!!! I hated it and still now as an adult still hate it if/when my parents told me "youre just like your Mum" or "youre just like your father" and it was even worse if said in anger. But i strongy dislike it being said at all now in pretty much every context because of how its been used.

My semi-adult kid is so much taller than me. I can’t get into his level... lol 😂 (just kidding) Thanks for the professional and wise advice. I have shared your videos and channel to many of my friends who have been experiencing teenagers challenges! Thank YOU!!!

as much as I yell at my 4 year old son, he tells me he loves me every night before sleep...... yeah, I think I can do better even though he tests my boundary every day ;)

no matter what or even if even if they misbehave with us even if they use bad words we have to stay calm.how can this be?

I've heard in other parenting tips/advice that it's okay to be angry as a parent and to let your child know you're angry as long as you do it as calmly as you can and talk about your feelings and what the consequences are vs. yelling or losing your cool. Would you agree? I mean anger is a normal emotion and it should be okay to express that to our children when their behavior is making us angry or frustrated right?

Can you please stop looking at her like you're waiting for her approval 🤣🤣🤣

Do these also apply to single parents of toddlers? The boundaries of authority/discipline are blurry when the child doesnt listen. My two year old is hardly talking and does everything dangerous. My anxiety is through the roof. How do you stay calm in those moments where your tot is about to jump off a table and you need to stop it from happening?

What do you do when your child doesn't realise how important their choices are right now and what serious trouble they can get into? Or they're just deciding it's not worth listening to? My 12 Yr old switches off if he doesn't want to hear or think of consequences.. I'm trying to stay calm but scared of losing him... Should I be brutally honest with him? 🌻🤔

Level ?!! My son is 6’1” at 12😂 So I will need wear heels around the house 🤣

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I have an odd situation thata going on with my oldest, I call it odd but its scary, so long story short I have my oldest child up for adoption when I was 17, my child is trans so for tje respect I will say my child as to keep in gender neutral, but my oldest child came back into my life and I amd her father were given custody over my child, we found out later because said child told us about the abuse that went on at the hands of my family members that adopted my child, so my child has panic attacks, is afraid to be confident, and when asked to do something has a panic attack, we are currently doing grounding techniques, breathing, and working through the panic attacks, my child has done extremely well, but my child and I both have cptsd, which vibrate off of one another, so my question is, what is a good technique that can help my child gain more confidence in themselves and beleive in themselves more since my child doesnt feel secure enough in themselves?

When I put my hands on my hips my 3 years old daughter does the same thing right quick

how can I honor my adult Childs choices when I do not agree.

How about adult children?

I try to talk calmly to my children but they literally start yelling over me before I can get my words out. They just don’t listen to me or my husband no matter what we do. We try ti discipline and we get nowhere. It’s very frustrating.

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It seems the whole world has gone topsy turvy with so many adults having traumatized childhood. Which is causing so many emotional and physical diseases which do not have a cure. And there is no hope. The human raise is under some sort of curse. I used to believe that love made the world go around, but it is not so. 🙏

She is too defying, and I can't handle anything anymore. If I knew this years ago, perhaps things would be different. I will have to send her to other family. I have health problems. Because of my ex husband and family problems. I hope to find a counselor to help me find a solution. I can't be calm... Because I can't focus to work and then provide for the child, oh so that is the reason...

No, the calm voice and calm face does not work! Some are way to stubborned and don t care abt your calm voice and face !

Children spell love as T-I-M-E Women have left the home to work for the corporate world. This is the problem.

Sigh .... I should have got fixed at birth... 🤪🤣😓😜😴

Mr and Mrs Menendez still love their Sons who killed them brutally 😢 I hope 😅