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5 ways to protect yourself from a narcissist

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The Shumake Way

The Shumake Way

Күн бұрын

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@ErnieLeblanc
@ErnieLeblanc Жыл бұрын
1. Move slowly, 2. Don't be impressed, 3. Trust(nope), but, verify, 4. Do not engage in Arguments(Reactive Abuse), 5. Say what you mean and mean what you say, 6. Never get in Too deep
@nuday777
@nuday777 Жыл бұрын
Demonic spirit in them. Was married to 2 and raised by one. SMH. I’m healing through the trauma. It’s real people
@wizzdom1511
@wizzdom1511 Жыл бұрын
Do you think you attract them?
@hannahkevilynn8138
@hannahkevilynn8138 Жыл бұрын
@@wizzdom1511 I think you can attract them. The downfall is not knowing what the abuse was and how to heal while looking out for it again. Once you know what you know run🏃‍♀️
@lee4153
@lee4153 Жыл бұрын
I was raised by one, and I have a child with one. It's hell.
@tonisanders3289
@tonisanders3289 Жыл бұрын
The devil has children. The Bible says that you will know them by their fruit. Anybody who goes out of their way to hurt people, lie, argue, stir up confusion, is nothing but the child of the devil himself. There is no other way to put it. Your advice is on point. They get a rush from arguing and from chaos. James 4:7 says, " Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you". Another great video you made here. It's much needed in these crazy times. May God bless you.
@creating1_c1999
@creating1_c1999 Жыл бұрын
And be glad that he flees.
@Dr.DwightD
@Dr.DwightD Жыл бұрын
I have learned to wait, before hopping in the bed with people, because it just confuses things, and leaves me completely open to manipulation. As humans, that is one of our greatest weaknesses.
@creating1_c1999
@creating1_c1999 Жыл бұрын
Very smart!
@Ruthforme
@Ruthforme Жыл бұрын
You couldn’t have put it better. I too had a relationship with a narcissist. If you see any of these signs, 🏃🏽‍♀️ run, quickly. I left with a one way ticket, along with my peace and my child.
@MissBec
@MissBec Жыл бұрын
I would qualify this to include toxic people in general. 5 ways to protect yourself from Narcissistic and Toxic people in general. I would also add to point 4. Do not allow yourself to be baited.. to be baited in any argument, pity party party or narrative that has you focusing your attention on them and feeding their vampiric need for for other peoples energy/attention.
@creating1_c1999
@creating1_c1999 Жыл бұрын
My favorite phrase is: I don't need to know anything accept that you are in therapy for it. If you aren't, I am one and I charge by the hour.
@DailyPositiveAffirmatives
@DailyPositiveAffirmatives Жыл бұрын
Awesome video! A lot of narcissistic tendencies are so normalized in society today and sometimes difficult to identify.
@thelove6168
@thelove6168 Жыл бұрын
After dealing with a narc I'm done. Happier alone.
@prettysavy8994
@prettysavy8994 Жыл бұрын
I've dealt one for 10 years misery .....everything you said is 100 percent true
@newnightstarhair4572
@newnightstarhair4572 Жыл бұрын
Very informative! Thank you for sharing this! Hope a lot of people can avoid falling into narcissist trap! 🥰🥰🥰
@missellz7630
@missellz7630 Жыл бұрын
All my baby dad has is air Jordan’s and fake jewellery yet won’t give a dime to his unborn child still lives with his sister, and lied about being employed to a big company, all smoke and mirrors should’ve done my research, worst person Iv ever met in my life
@Cat-sx6ep
@Cat-sx6ep Жыл бұрын
gurl we need to swipe story they blame women all the time however these types go around lying and ruining folks lives for no apparent reasons. I talk about my situation to help others and stop blaming women becase it takes two
@krystaljohnson3368
@krystaljohnson3368 Жыл бұрын
This is definitely the truth, everything I experience for 10 plus years👏 I'm praying people help others to not go down these roads!!!!
@nodozhit
@nodozhit Жыл бұрын
Well said. And well received. BONUS TIP #7: Don't become the hypocrite.
@CoCo_Moody
@CoCo_Moody Жыл бұрын
I dated one and was married to one. I have learned, grown and moved on. Your video is very accurate and these are great tips!!!
@OPDNETWORK
@OPDNETWORK Жыл бұрын
I got out omg 😱 you are so right unfortunately i have a child with one the worst shit ever
@TheWirelessWoman
@TheWirelessWoman Жыл бұрын
This was a good one. All facts... Narcissism is real. It's growing and expanding. People need to wake up.
@ReenaBINA
@ReenaBINA Жыл бұрын
I know 1 way …. RUUUNNNN
@tonisanders3289
@tonisanders3289 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 I know that's right!
@nomfundomasuku2443
@nomfundomasuku2443 Жыл бұрын
Me and you both girl.. 😂😂😂💃🏽
@BrendaBaBoom
@BrendaBaBoom Жыл бұрын
Yup. The runway ….🏃🏽‍♀️….
@frankdavf4599
@frankdavf4599 Жыл бұрын
Hear everything and treat it as a fake as a lie. IF its true you ll know
@NatashaRaisorGlam
@NatashaRaisorGlam Жыл бұрын
All facts, thank you. I love your set💯
@jessicajackson1200
@jessicajackson1200 Жыл бұрын
Id like to add one to this list, have strong boundaries and see how they respond when you lay down a boundary, narcissists hate boundaries. If they wont respect your boundaries and continuously push them get out.
@NalaMahal
@NalaMahal Жыл бұрын
I dated two narcissists (well now I know that’s who they are) and those times I never knew why they kept trying to get me to break my character. Literally one told me to yell at him after I caught him cheating. I honestly didn’t care because it was over to me. He got mad because I it was that easy for me to walk away. The other one got a one “fuck you” over the course of 8 yrs we were involved and rather than blocking me, he tells me “I’m not mad at you,” then kissed me.
@vonellescott
@vonellescott Жыл бұрын
I feel so drained 😫 and he's gaslighting me and trying to make me look crazy.
@TheShumakeWay
@TheShumakeWay Жыл бұрын
The only way to get away for good is to go straight no contact. Leave, block him on social media (might even need to go as far as deactivating your own social accounts), don’t answer the door, don’t answer the phone, don’t allow him to catch you walking to the car, tell everybody in your circle if there’s anybody left what’s going on so they know not to bring messages to you from him and also so they’ll know how to respond if he pops up. You have to completely erase him from your day to day life.
@latonyanarcisse7112
@latonyanarcisse7112 Жыл бұрын
Yesssss
@amaj_lex
@amaj_lex Жыл бұрын
I remember my ex came over for the first time. My mom called him a bull$....er. she wasn't lying. He def was a narcissistic now that I think about it
@creating1_c1999
@creating1_c1999 Жыл бұрын
It's a huge learning experience if you are inclined to evaluate your relationships.
@tyb1rdp464
@tyb1rdp464 Жыл бұрын
You need a podcast. Great voice, Great Content, and Real Content.
@Blackscubaqueen101
@Blackscubaqueen101 Жыл бұрын
This is so on point! Thank you for this content. I just cut one out of my life.
@Toatekaha
@Toatekaha Жыл бұрын
Great video as always👍🏾
@barbaramohler6895
@barbaramohler6895 Жыл бұрын
You nailed it! Thanks for the rules, that’s helpful in remembering.
@Rabiecakes
@Rabiecakes Жыл бұрын
Wish I could have seen this video 7 years ago....😭
@gigijohn316
@gigijohn316 Жыл бұрын
Very informative video!
@APRMinistries
@APRMinistries Жыл бұрын
Thank you brother 🙏🏽
@blackamericatelevisionnews7842
@blackamericatelevisionnews7842 Жыл бұрын
My ex boyfriend from 20 years ago was a narcissists. He was a control freak. Luckily we were only together for a year. When we broke up, I was so happy. If I would have stayed with him, he would have beaten my ass.
@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax
@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax Жыл бұрын
On point with all of it!
@VLoveTarot
@VLoveTarot Жыл бұрын
excellent points and I agree 100% with all of them. Also, setting boundaries and limits works wonders.
@mackss9468
@mackss9468 Жыл бұрын
Super observant and very clear, thank you!
@lolatylar2882
@lolatylar2882 Жыл бұрын
🙏🏾 stay prayed up with these type of people.
@janejohnson6912
@janejohnson6912 Жыл бұрын
All those things are entrapment. Like a mouse in a maze. Trapped. They need those things to adore themselves as a shiny diamond ring to attract you. Plus because they are empty. They will become you the things you have told them you love, like and need in relationships. The shell of them will allow them to assume the persona, and what you need. Play acting the person you told them you need. Then that person disappears and the real them shows up. And you are there waiting for the fake them to return. Nope not unless they need to.
@Liz11124
@Liz11124 Жыл бұрын
The best video describing a narcissist thank you
@monaedawson4523
@monaedawson4523 Жыл бұрын
Good points
@LadyLikeLu
@LadyLikeLu Жыл бұрын
Great content! On point as usual.😀
@takarastar9129
@takarastar9129 Жыл бұрын
Excellent Tips
@tyrarice7318
@tyrarice7318 Жыл бұрын
😭😭😭It's sad to say this, but I am truly a witness to everything you just said. My ex-husband was a narcissist when I didn't have the slightest idea what a narcissist was but I still should have paid attention to the red flags!!! And I have a catering type personality...I could write a book about waking up and smelling the coffee from living with a genuine narcissist.
@AaronaCreates
@AaronaCreates Жыл бұрын
I remember your videos👍🏽 good to see you back making content. I’ll hit the subscribe button today
@SuperSurvivor4
@SuperSurvivor4 Жыл бұрын
“That kinda look like him…”. 😂😂😂😂…That had me laughing the way you said that…Everything you have stated is correct.
@homehere9817
@homehere9817 Жыл бұрын
Love the new look! U look you have roots tied to Native American!
@go_away_now
@go_away_now 8 ай бұрын
Sounds like the manager that hired me in 2021
@Cat-sx6ep
@Cat-sx6ep Жыл бұрын
Yup i cry at times i was out of the dating game for over a decade the lies after a few months starting to show he was staying with his elderly parents cause he had no place to go but told me to help them, he stopped working despite I met his at a job training becuase he refused to pay child support however he post his children pics everyone on FB , he slept with his sister in law etc. it was crazy I was like a therapist for him demonic I did everything by the book and told him to leave me alone for good after a few monthsgood part his family at least warned me they asked me to come by ad when he was not looking told me about him indirectly I got back my life however lost a bit of funds which'swhich was a business plan thank God. folks improve your discernment as a parent it hard o believe someone woudl future fake to steal and abuse just sick.
@aj7009
@aj7009 Жыл бұрын
💯% Accurate 👍
@anxious6023
@anxious6023 Жыл бұрын
I disagree with you on one thing, these trolls are a special kind of stupid.
@mememarcia329
@mememarcia329 Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯
@audrianagordon7871
@audrianagordon7871 Жыл бұрын
😢😢😢
@Lucylu723
@Lucylu723 Жыл бұрын
I do like these room videos, but I lowkey miss the spontaneity of you just speaking your mind without the structure, it makes it easier to relate to you, that's just my opinion.
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