"He was looking for the one, but instead he found someone"

THIS

That line almost brought me to tears.

It got me emotionally over a boyfriend I never even had 😭😭

💯✔💔💔💔

your comment is amazing

yeah, they both had character development

He found out that there's no such thing as love..only relationship. And she found a richer guy that she wants to be married with..

Its an equivalent exchange I guess

Summer used him, he grew up to be a better person.

this is fax

What does that line mean? I tried to find my own answers but i just can't get it right .

KarasunoCrows i think it's like "he tried to find the one" like the one and only meant for him, the perfect person for him (like usually when girls that live too much in fairly tails look for the one and only prince charming from the fairy tail that is the one for them) and in that process he actually found "someone" like someone ordinary, someone normal just like how he is normal. Like instead of trying to find someone perfect and following his unresonable standards he found someone ordinary who isn't perfect but is good to him.

@@asobimo5532 thank you. That makes sense ✌💕

@@asobimo5532 well said

Yep

Honey the faucet's not working

Who knows Ikea can be deep too

Yep that was poignant and I totally missed it watching the movie

Timestamp it

Thank you very much 👍

Also quick side note, what I always found weird about those types of analysis was that to me it seemed Tom was the manic pixie dream boy, quirky guy who loves random bands, works for a cute card company, draws pictures on people's arms, in general has a hopeless romantic way of viewing the world, and in the end was the one struggling to leave the fairy tale and deal with what he really wants/needs. Definitely refreshing seeing this film not delving into how Zoe D. is a quirky girl but actually the person who arguably was the mature romantically cynical person in need of some pixie dust!

Joey Nathan : woah I never saw it that way before but wow

​@@joeynathan6073 That's really profound. Summer was just listening to the Smiths and that was all that made her "manic pixie". Then indeed all the critics who called her a manic pixie dream girl because of her previous roles in other movies are basically succumbing to the same mistake that Tom made. That's hilarious man, well spotted.

@@joeynathan6073 Thank you! I thought I was the only one that is always baffled by how people thing Zoe is the MPDG.

Sane lol same, but hey, I'm not mad

same-oh, but i like these types of videos 👀

me too

Haha same

Facts

I'm glad it helped out in someway

Wow. I'm so happy for you!

That sucks :/ But ultimately, that's the shit that makes us the strongest

@@thatgirlinautumn5995 and smarter. :)

@@Muchamuchacha Haha so true

Hey someone finally noticed 👍

lmao

Leo and ryan should just say fuck it all and runaway together.

@@mrhuntalot123 lol underrated comment.

He's literally me

yeah, I kinda hated that "bitch" lol. I was young when I watched it and neven knew how to watch movie atm. Need to rewatch.

I never understood why some people made Summer look like a bitch when she made HER intentions/feelings about relationships CLEAR. Tom was acting like a douche all the time - remember the scene where Summer got harassed and he didn't react UNTIL the guy called HIM a loser - god, I hate guys like Tom who are "hopeless romantics" and have this idea of a perfect partner but put zero effort into a relationship when it's not about getting THEIR own goals fulfilled. Guys like that don't even realize how much they're expecting from a partner without providing themselves.

That marks the difference between them. Summer knew Tom´s dreams and ambitions and cared enough to push him towards the right path. Tom didn´t had the same interest in Summer´s inner life. In her party, he gave her an architecture book, when is HIS interest, not hers. Summer husband, in the other hand, asked her about HER book (her interest) and perhaps was more motivated to learn about her, instead of force her into a mold.

@@Sleily Summer was using Tom as an anchor while she was banging other guys on the side. She ditched him as soon as she secured a stable relationship with the guy she really wanted. Sorry but she is a bitch.

Black French If someone tells you they don’t want a relationship you should listen to them.

That line hit me heavy. That I almost fell in depression....

What did she mean by that?

“You are not worthy enough to propagate your species”

@@ry4nmaster That she was never sure of how she felt about him. But with her husband, she was.

At first I never get it. But now I do, she meant that she wasn't sure that she loved him.

Right. I saw 500 Days of Summer after watching Hitch, because the ending of Hitch was unreal.

Don't worry I think we know, the reason it should be that way is so that people know that it's okay if it ends. So people appreciate what is mentioned here, the growth

@@reaverkai Actually I just like the acting. It's just so impactful while pleasant at the same time. Nowadays people act like tough guys and try to get under your skin and deceive. This movie shows a different way to act and communicate. People in it are just so honest with each other.

I knew a girl who always went on how she was going to find someone and they would be happy forever, and I said "you realise how unrealistic that is" and she looked at me as if I was speaking a foreign language. Anyway, because of that and me being adamant about not dating, she kept on trying to set me up with guys I didn't know and kept on being all snooty about it.

+Crom Yuise Hell no. Romcoms are meant to be opioids. They are meant to be funny, fluffy, to make us feel good, and give us an image of the reality we would want to see, the magic, the happy ever after, the beautiful part of love... because real life is 500 Days of Summer. For this kind of experinces, we have a genre called: drama.

its funny for me, because i (man) was summer for so long... friendzoning every girl because she wasn't the one. until i found the one, and the tables turned and i was Tom.. friendzoned by the one..

Im tom but a chick. I just have to take the good lesson i learned from him and leave the other stuff behind because there will be another. And for him i will be ready

@@Velociferon im apache helicopter

Same here man

It is really painful. Just another Tom here

@Nolan M. but you can see they fail over and over. Making a statement that perhaps the real joy is in the journey itself.

Thats not a doomed romance idiot that is a movie that tells us how our unrealistic expectations and impulsive behaviour can make us lose THE ONE

@@Andymandyrocks You call me an idiot and your grammar is not on point... mhm. And it is a doomed romance if we cannot differentiate reality from expectation. Thus you are basically agreeing with me. The one does not exist, just people that makes us happy, and something doomed does not mean it cannot have a rebirth, as it did in Eternal Sunshine of A Spotless Mind.

@@erik6276 grammar nazi spotted 😂 nerd 😝

@@Andymandyrocks lol, am I supposed to feel some sort of way by being called a "nerd"? What are we? Kindergartners?

When I got together with my boyfriend I didn't really have that extreme phase of thinking he's perfect or whatever what many people seem to experience. We had been friends for years at that point so I knew his personality somewhat well. I valued (and still value) aspects that contrast my perception of reality and thus helped to keep the both of us in a more balanced place. (I was/still am somewhat depressed, troubled by irrational thoughts of self hate mostly, and he's the type of guy that tries to see the world as it is. So having that rational perspective helped me and in return my emotional perspective helped him understand complex emotions better as he has trouble understanding social cues and such due to him being on the spectrum.) Sometimes, though, I wonder if I missed out on all those hopeful thoughts about the future. I see friends of mine talking about "their one" and how they'd like to have kids one day with them or travel the world and buy a house and... we never really had those kind of talks? Like, ever? Or just being hopelessly in love and talking about that. I know I can feel like that, but it's like we experience that on our own thanks to each other, you know? There was a conversation one day that got close, but not quite, it went somewhat like this: me: "I can't really remember much of my life before I was, like, 10 or 11 years old. Everything else is just memories of what people told me, not actual experiences I can visualize. Kind of a bummer that I don't remember such a big part of my own life. (jokingly) Watch out, thirty years down the line I'll have forgotten about this, too." him, dead serious: "Well, then I'll just have to still be with you in 30 years." I kinda just laughed really weirdly in response to that because I didn't expect him to say that at all and it hit home in that moment. We haven't been together for that long, officially, but unofficially it's already been about two years, depending on how you count it. We'll be going long distance soon and as I feel somewhat/pretty damn afraid of that kind of near future, I wonder if skipping that lovey-dovey phase did us any good. I would love to have at least somewhat precise, realistically obtainable ideas about the future but it's hard to talk about it to him as he isn't sure of what he wants out of life yet (we are both fairly young) and doesn't really react that well to the feelings of not being sure and possible expectations he might not be able to fulfil that come along with that. I love him very much but I can't shake off the doubts about this uncertainty or at least the lack of hope that is the result of not knowing what to hope for. Honestly, I have no idea why I started writing this comment anymore, but towards the end it just ended as feeling the need to spell out my feelings somewhere where they can be read, I guess. Hope, I didn't completly miss the point I was trying to make in the beginning, but at least I feel better now. Have a good day to whoever is reading this.

@@rubyrootless7324 I'm gonna hv a ldr too:(

@tony hu, i agree, instead of saying «person without flaws» i say «the persons full potential». When i fell in love with my significant other i saw his flaws, but I also saw all of his potential. This is often why women are accused of trying to «change men» after they get togther.. because when the first feelings of mindless love diminish , the women will try to get their men to act out the potential that they fell for in the first place.

This is absolutely true

Yep. As a Jungian psychologist would say, you projected your "Anima" on her

People need closure

Yeah me too. But I used to be the Tom of the situation. I over romanticized things and read into situations that weren’t mutual. Granted, sometimes I was led on to believe it was mutual, but often times that wasn’t the case. It’s because I was lost and broken, and I grew up watching romantic comedies that taught me that if you’re lost, someone can come in and save you. But really, you have to save yourself. I now sympathize with Summer, because I want to work on myself and my goals. If love comes along the way, then it does-and even then that love may not last.

After the 10th time you figure out women are heartless and just terrified of being poor. You can bet if he'd had the highpaying job she'd be a damn limpet mine.

Nova Sky yo stop being an incel and get a life. Women aren’t after your chump change.

All relationships are a power game. The one who cares less has the upper hand. Never lose the upper hand.

these days “incel” is just a slur that means “guy who did a thing I don’t like”. The blackpill is spreading for a reason. It’s 100% true. Hypergamy is real. Deal with it.

My most recent upload is of me and the girl (I call her Shooting Star because the first and last thing we did together was stargaze at a beach), so if anyone wants to see more of me and Shooting Star it's there.

TheSpriteStory - Wow. I think I’d feel kind of voyeur-ish. But curiosity also has me ... Edit: Curiosity won. You should def write this up. You have a gifted way with words. Folks are right. It would make a good (but sad) movie. Peace to you.

That is so fucking mature and inspiring I love it

Damn man. Sorry to hear it, I've had my fair share of romance fails, the doomed ones are plentyful. But remmember this-what you have suffered for has just given you more reasons to feel it again. Never give up on what and how you want to feel.

Dude this fuckin hurts to read.

Thank you!

Just have to be highly developed in your observations with a good dosage of unbiased opinion/ open mindedness.

Hey it happens to everyone man

Oof. Brutal.

@@Stranger_In_The_Alps right

A Little Sad That He Wouldn't Listen To You About The Way You Felt Regarding Being Romantic. But Would The Outcome Had Been Any Different Had He Listened And Compromised?

@@PlanetaryPluto To be honest it probably would have made all the difference. I was head-over-heels for him because his shyness at first came across as him being just as non-romantic. I felt like we had chemistry and I could tell he was interested but he would never get mushy, he wouldn't touch me randomly, he wouldn't flirt. I liked that the most. I guess some people think it's weird but my ideal relationship is something where we already feel like an old married couple. We're not all over each other, but I can rely on you. That's what I'd like, and no matter how much I told him 'I'm not romantic, I don't like cuddles, I don't like flirting, I don't like PDA' he didn't get it and thought he could make me like it. Then again, you can't change a person, and he was obviously not that way in regards to romance. So even if he was faking his non-romantic side, he probably would have grown as disinterested as I became.

@@StarxLolita Would I Be Wrong To Say That Was A Failure In Communication On Both Sides? Mostly On Him Because. Well He Wouldn't Listen. But. You Also Kind Of Assumed What You Thought He'd Be Like. What You Said To Me About Your Ideal Relationship Sounds Very Warm And I Kind Of Relate To The Sentiment. I Don't At All Think It's Weird - But Did You Communicate/Tell It To Him Like You Just Told Me? Uhm. I'm Essentially Trying To Figure Out If Better Communication Would've Helped In Avoiding Undesirable Outcomes. You Both Were Very Much Into Each Other. But The Way You Expressed Your Feelings Were Polarized. If He Had Been Better At Listening And You Better At Explaining... That Could've Lead To You Both Making Compromises. Meeting Each Other Half Way. It's Not About Changing The Person You're With. I Don't Think Anyway. I'd Say It's About Understanding. Maybe You'd Have Still Been Together..

@@PlanetaryPluto M8, I think you're projecting too much. I'm just a stranger on the internet, you don't really know how into each other we were. I told him plenty of times, sure, and he'd go 'oh yeah lol I'm not romantic either' even though it was clearly just him trying to connect with me. It was just a relationship that wasn't going to last. We were going different directions, anyway. Nothing to it, it's just how things are sometimes.

@@StarxLolita Maybe Just A Little. Perhaps You're Right Though. I Was Just Going Off What You Told Me. I Guess You Believe In Fate And I Don't.

Zoe ?? The girl's name is summer.

Well duh, XD First off it's not gonna fit, if you know what I mean XD (Sarcasm over)

Tragic, perhaps. Also gross.

The genre of the movie is another one, dude. (Sarcasm)

Of course

@@WilliamBarryRobertsbitter dude

@@WilliamBarryRoberts Bro... You missed the entire point of this whole video.

@@boborson5536 Women do not think like men. When she dumps your ass, it is not to "help you find yourself"....she found a better deal. Swallow the Red Pill my friend.

@@WilliamBarryRoberts most often, the woman dumps the man because he wasn't marriage material to begin with. Feelings/connection/chemistry are not enough to make a marriage work and raise children. Many men are immature dusty looking for a woman to be their provider and sugar mommy. Swallow the red pill my friend

Lol it doesn't "just happen". She found a better man. She was not that into him from the begining, just using him coz she was lonely.

Hypergamy defined. She’s never yours, it’s just your turn.

Going through this now. Been going through it for years now. Can't seem to accept that it won't happen. But each day I am trying to let go slowly of the dreams i had. This too shall pass

Yeah I also was not too fond of Summer at my first viewing but with time I really changed my mind over it.

I just finished this video but doesnt the last part of this video essay talk exactly about that? They clearly go over the fact that it “wasn’t a one way street” and that Summer also learned from him. They show his disillusionment and Summer’s comforting and reaffirming of his previous beliefs. They go over the fact that both characters have grown and the last meeting was the final push for Sam(?) to grow.

Nobody Reads My Comments i am a fan of romantic movies, and about time is my favorite😭

"I like it when there is sadness, suffering and pain in romance and I hate it when there is none of that." Then you'll definitely love Blue Valentine.

Watch a moment to remember a korean movie

About Time is one of my favorite movies. It goes so far beyond the love stage and really matures.

I actually really dislike romantic movies, The Notebook, Dear John, Leap Year, etc. Basically any movie that follows the same old clichéd formula (boy meets girl, they fall in love, they get into a fight, they get back together, happy ending) But there's something about 500 Days with Summer that's so special. It's in fact my favorite movie, I don't know if you already saw it since your comment is 6 months old, but I really suggest giving this movie a try, it's really good and it's almost an anti-romantic movie, it really deconstructs the genre

I hope things will go well for you.

hope it will get better soon fast

Thank you I take a lot of time to find the right one

Glad you liked it 👍

Aww.. I might have been on the other end. Because im a hopeless romantic

@@toy8745 you mean keep trying for a partner? This is what worked for me but if you want that person to love you keep trying

Oh my god, I need to know how you can manage you keep that person as a companion without falling in love again or feeling tortured by stronger feelings you can't live up to? Yesterday I feel like I had a similar talk with my own ex and best friend... she kinda needs me as a companion even though we chose not be get back together, and I have no idea what to do about it, because I feel the same way, but I'm afraid of torturing myself with lies and thinking it's all just weakness that I cannot just say no and cut ties.

5 times?!

I'm glad the video was helpful in someway 👍

shoutout lindybeige

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Thank you 👍

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I'm glad it was helpful 👍

I'm glad it's of some help 👍

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Thank you very much for your kind words