6 Negative Stories You Tell Yourself And How To Change Them

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This video talks about negative emotional programming, what it looks like and does to your thinking. Watch this video • How To Stop the Cycle ... for more on negative relationship patterns
Your early life experiences with your parents, siblings and other people in your life leave an imprint on you that carries over into your adult life. No one’s life is perfect because we are all imperfect people and make mistakes. We say the wrong things, don’t do enough of the right things, etc.
So the imprint that you’re left with is a mixture of positive and negative experiences. If you have enough positive experiences to fill your emotional cup, you can process the negative experiences and compartmentalize them in a way that they don’t dictate every aspect of your adult life. The negative experiences have their place, it’s not like you can’t remember them, but you’re able to shake them off and keep moving.
If the sum total of your experiences were negative or you had some early traumatic experiences that disrupted your normal emotional development, you imprint becomes predominantly negative and affects the way you interact in the present day. So instead of having an emotional cup that’s full most of the time or is easy to refill, you have a hole in the bottom of your cup. You can’t keep it full and often gets depleted.
How does this effect your thoughts and outlook on the world? You develop what’s called maladaptive schema in Dialectical behavior therapy, in this video I refer to is as negative emotional programing. This programming creates distorted stories you tell yourself. These stories keep building and strengthening when your emotional cup gets depleted and you’re working hard to fill it back up.
So here are 6 types of negative stories you can come to believe and let guide your behavior.
Abandonment story
Dependence
Unworthy
Disconnection
Mistrust
Failure
Video Chapters
0:00 Start
0:19 What is Emotional Programming?
2:03 The Abandonment Story
3:24 The Dependence Story
4:30 The Unworthy Story
6:12 The Disconnection Story
7:34 The Mistrust Story
9:18 The Failure Story
11:19 Ways To Break Through The Thinking
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@therealtulip 2 жыл бұрын

“Children can do a lot of damage to other children.” I’m a living testament to that. I believe a lot of my negative beliefs about myself and a lot of the negative emotions I experience can be traced back to how other kids treated me when I was a kid. Bullying is not taken seriously enough by parents and teachers. There’s this kind of “Boys will be boys” attitude about it (even though in reality, girls can sometimes be devastatingly mean to other girls too) that shifts the responsibility to the victim of the bullying. That’s what happened to me most of the time, and the truth is I just didn’t know how to handle it.

@michellenunez6092 2 жыл бұрын

I WAS JUST THINKING THIS TOO A lot of the kids that bullied me were boys. They were my worst bullies bc they literally were bullying me solely based on my appearance (Not that any other bullying is “better” or anything) and things I could not exactly change at that age

@jettanyiagumbs6091 2 жыл бұрын

I was bullied too. The point is as you grow you learn they were just kids. What they said doesn't matter. I can clearly see how bullying affected me too, but I can't say as an adult I'm not right because of what some kid said to me years ago. I'm not a "Victim" and neither are any of you. We are a "Victors" and we are in control of our lives. This is good. Deep dive into your minds to understand your hang ups, but forgive as necessary and move forward. Don't play victim and ruminate. There is no power in that. I'm learning and working through these things right now too.

@tino.makota7130 2 жыл бұрын

@@jettanyiagumbs6091 I'd never thought of it like that. Those people really are/were just kids and we're grown now.

@jcortese3300 2 жыл бұрын

Same. And both teachers and my parents did basically nothing about it while it was constant, unrelenting, 24/7. I still rage when I think of what they used to say to blow it off: "Oh they just do it because they know you don't like it." WTF does that even mean?! That's the problem I have with a lot of therapy ideas: the fact that no one is looking out for me and that I have to handle things by myself and can't trust anyone else to care is not a false illusion or a wrong belief. It was and is absolutely correct and accurate. No one will look out for me but me, and if I try to get help, it won't do a thing so why bother? If you are persecuted or feel like shit, the most useless thing you can do is expect other people to make it better.

@nikolbrown8962 2 жыл бұрын

@Laura Hackstein **parenting

@aytchdelacruz7332 3 жыл бұрын

Ugh! Why is it so hard to be human? 🤦‍♀️

@davidwhitcher1708 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I feel like I don't belong among the humans.

@breakingdown2110 3 жыл бұрын

Same...

@Catlily5 3 жыл бұрын

Me too, but we all belong. It is just hard to feel it sometimes.

@jesusislord9447 2 жыл бұрын

Jesus loves you!

@susiecopithorne4215 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha I KNOW

@KathyBGood Жыл бұрын

"You probably need to watch this video more than once." Absolutely, yes!

@rubysilver3299 Жыл бұрын

I’m in my 60s. I wish someone had told me this when I was in my 20s. Thanks Dr. Marks, you’re brilliant.

@milky_quartz Жыл бұрын

I'm thankful to have discovered this information and these tools at 25

@wesbeuning1733 Жыл бұрын

50's here. Lifetime of negative programming.

@ebm6690 9 ай бұрын

Right there with you. Just hit the double-nickel and I sure could have used this 30 years ago. Dr. Marks, you are an extraordinary speaker 🙂

@schevalirae 6 ай бұрын

I am 62 and couldn't appreciate Dr. Marks and her excellent videos more than I already do. I knew after I started this one that I would watch once and then listen again and take notes so it tickled me when Dr. Marks said "... watch this again to get more out of it..." I've been in therapy most of my life since age 14 and that world famous psychiatrist said my dad was the one that should be in therapy. Go figure, right? So I am grateful for the understanding I have and receive today. If I was meant to know before now, then I would already know these things Dr. Marks brings up! I read a few comments from people who wish they'd learned sooner than now but I can't subscribe to that view. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. My life has proven this to me. Dr. Marks is definitely cutting edge in the mental health field and is fulfilling a wonderful need in our mental health care system or lack thereof in the United states. Kudos to you, Dr. Marks!!! Thank you so much for helping us all in such insightful ways! ❣️✌🏼🥀

@georgia5713 3 ай бұрын

I’ll be 60 next month, and just learning about and coming to terms with a lot of unconscious stuff.

@shauns2530 3 жыл бұрын

"If you were blocked from making your own decisions and not being allowed to fall down, you don't learn how to stand back up and be resilient." I absolutely love this. And I love your videos. They've helped me so much.

@laurenpaterson3475 2 жыл бұрын

Running on empty food therapy book explains how help yourself when you were not given right support

@echase416 2 жыл бұрын

Failing but failing forward is the essence of growth.

@esmee6308 2 жыл бұрын

I wasn't allowed to make any decisions as a child and due to my disability it was easy for my parents to isolate me. Any failure was blamed on me, any succes they took as their own, certain consequences were gaslighted to be fine if they had similar 'failures' e.g. being 3x the weight I ought to be since age 8. This continued into adulthood but I eventually broke through it when I learned myself how to walk again when doctors had given up, achieving that came along with weightloss and made me realise my truth wasn't reality. I left an abusive relationship after it nearly killed me, ended up under my parents grip again but focussed on maintaining what I had achieved, realised they are fucked up and didn't do any of it on purpose, but still ended up respectfully blocking them out of my life for a year. My best friend is acquainted with them and my aunt also kept them up to date on how I was doing. Now they're back in my life and my mother is genuinely proud of all I've achieved, however she still, I assume without realising, tries to take credit for everything positive in my life. However I now see what others see, that it's ridicilous that a nearly 500lbs woman is taking credit for my weight loss and fitness achievements being the most obvious and funny example. I let her just do it and whenever she tries to take control / help me, I unroot it at the source and luckily most people are more than willing to ignore her and deal directly with me when it involves me, even if they're awkwardly in the middle and don't blame me for it. It's absolutely terrifying how much damage well-meaning parents can do, because yes, I am 100% convinced it's well intended.

@KaiIchiRu96 2 жыл бұрын

[Well tbh it sounds like they may have a NPD... and there is a debate on it wether they do things on intention; I.e. knowing they’re hurting the person or not- or something in the middle, consciously / subconsciously-...] It sounds like a loooong long way you’ve worked yourself through + have grown a lot. Being able to walk again although doctors gave up on you is something immeasurable- something no one ever can take from you. There you’ve shown yourself your inner actual strength -despite all those problematic circumstances! I’m glad you’re finding your balance and ways of handling them in a way which is healthy for you. One of the hardest things is when your parents are having some unhealthy tendencies or even whole personality disorders... But now you’re more then we’ll suited for this And know: you’re not responsible for your parents. If they hurt you on intention -although you made clear where your boundaries are- then you are allowed to also go on no contact. Due to biochemical reasons something like this is not easy- but it’s worth it. You are/ your life is worth it :)

@42kellys 2 жыл бұрын

I had this by my overprotective and domineering mum. Yes, I relate to that, too. And I love it.

@rociogallegossanchez3147 3 жыл бұрын

"You probably need to rewatch this video to get more out of it" Me, who has been dissociating the whole time and has had to rewatch it 3 times already to get to the end of it: welp, here we go again!

@CharlotteWebb1952 3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone! ❤

@melissabyrd-lloyd6055 3 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@snapdragonfly6652 3 жыл бұрын

Best to just listen and not be commenting while watching

@MartinLopez-nl1hy 3 жыл бұрын

Adhd here, it happens to many of us!

@nancyayotte2297 2 жыл бұрын

Lol. I had to watch it twice. I just spaced out the first time.🧟

@adiosepic1829 2 жыл бұрын

I think I got at least 20 psych sessions out of this one 13min video. Thank you, Dr.Marks for pushing help into channels where it is most accessible and thus needed. Your work is amazing, and so very meaningful to so many people.

@midrashchannel9940 Жыл бұрын

Hello Dr. Marks, I am Rodney Frederick and a Graduate Counseling intern at a adult mental health/recovery center. Today I used this (and your follow up) video today in a psychoeducation group today. The clients really appreciated this work. Next year, I begin a Ph.D. Counseling Psych program. You are an inspiration. Thank you!

@dreamHIGH94 Жыл бұрын

Congrats!!

@hoorayitsjackie6166 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for what you do!

@oncallempath 3 жыл бұрын

After decades of seeing therapists not a single one mentioned this to me. I’ve interviewed hundreds of therapists on my podcast “The On-Call Empath Show” as well. This is what I needed to hear 25 years ago. Thank you for what you do! I’d interviewed hundreds of therapists on my podcast and many guests would agree with you! Hope to have you as my guest very soon! Raj

@melissabyrd-lloyd6055 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, this is going to be my therapy in the future.

@mnmlst1 3 жыл бұрын

This is the most impressive thing about Dr Marks. She explains everything SO WELL. I've learned more about myself from these videos than years of therapy, psychiatrists and medication.

@natal1enonessent1al 2 жыл бұрын

Me too! I’ve been trying to get to the root of my issues for years and no one will dig with me! I can dig but I need help filling the hole again

@agrendae 2 жыл бұрын

Omg all the money I paid to therapists who didn’t know how to talk this way! Ugh! I’m so glad I found this!

@dalion7790 2 жыл бұрын

Yes plenty of therapist, counselors, psychologist ect they seem to just let us talk without giving us constructive tips and guilds to help with our issues smh

@user-gi6ee8vj1y 3 жыл бұрын

I must be a mess, because I can relate to every single scenario. After I realized that I succeeded in everything that I put an effort into, I stopped listening to the negative voices. However, there are still moments when those negative stories creep up on me.

@pescafresca2053 3 жыл бұрын

Me too! I want to stop them, or at least manage them and know that these are just my fears and not actual reality of the situation.

@user-gi6ee8vj1y 3 жыл бұрын

@@pescafresca2053 I manage my negative voices by defying them. If my thoughts are telling me that something is too hard to accomplish, I simply push those thoughts away and move forward.

@kaedatiger 3 жыл бұрын

I found that adding positive beliefs doesn't erase the negative ones so much as it buries them to pop up unexpectedly later. Still way better than drowning in the negativity though.

@rubywong3189 3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@angellee9307 3 жыл бұрын

Yup 😐

@tonyl9636 Жыл бұрын

I'm done being invalidated. My father, who was barely around me, and (almost) never did anything father's do for their sons, keeps portraying my youth as being "not that bad." He isn't a terrible person, but my inability to acknowledge my childhood trauma or deal with it well into my 20s has left me pretty lonely. My erratic behavior and abandonment issues have pushed people who loved me away. I'm not saying I don't take responsibility, but I'm finally acknowledging that everything bad about my life isn't a result of me being worthless.

@cuprunnethover2509 Жыл бұрын

I know! You're not worthless! I am not worthless either! We must now unprogram or reprogram everything we were told! It's not going to be easy but we will do it with God's help!

@clairebear1808 Жыл бұрын

🤗🥰

@vivianwalters7777 Жыл бұрын

Dude I had this issue up until now, 23 and finally realized why I'm erratic and lonely... it's kind of freeing realizing what the problem ACTUALLY is, and that there really is something I can do about it now. Good luck to you 👍

@saintejeannedarc9460 Жыл бұрын

It's great that you can realize this young. Your dad may not be capable of acknowledging what you needed. Parents will always fall short. Forgive him for being flawed and now forgive yourself for also being flawed and pushing people away. You have some great self awareness and this can really help you to rectify your issues while still young. Men often don't realize issues like this in their 70's. You'll be in a great relationship someday.

@daydrms Жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey. I had an emotional breakdown in February and quit my day job Since then, I have really delved into KZfaq research. Your videos in particular are extremely helpful. I'm still dealing with psychosis and working through a lot of PTSD and other common diagnoses. However, I wanted to give you props because I am learning how to use these tools and diagnoses to my advantage. Eventually I will go back to college. Thank you for everything you do! Highest regards.

@jeff_koli 7 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for what you are going through, as long as you are working on yourself, you'll get better

@gybx4094 3 жыл бұрын

Even seemingly small positive reinforcement helps me. I can look around my house and find "little good things" when I have negativity. My flannel pajamas are good, my guitar is good, and so on. Just acknowledging the little good things in life helps.

@chrisperrucci76 2 жыл бұрын

Appreciation of the small things - that's me too. The things and values that mean something to you may be more a part of you than the pain caused by others. That's what I find, and it helps.❤

@wombat7961 2 жыл бұрын

I think I need a cat at this point to be honest... I need to hug something, and they are pretty inexpensive too

@YeetoLavito Жыл бұрын

@@wombat7961 I have a cat. He's pretty great. Just vent to it and it doesn't judge you.

@Mushroom321- Жыл бұрын

Yes!!, exactly!! 🎉🎉😮

@sethtenrec 9 ай бұрын

@@wombat7961lol

@raina1887 3 жыл бұрын

I came into this story expecting that I'd find 2-3 of the negative stories I tell myself. Well, guess what guys?! I tell myself ALL of these stories!

@adjappleton 3 жыл бұрын

100% perfect score lol! Just trying to being some humor 😆

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Several people have said this. I guess you've got some work to do...😊

@raina1887 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks That's true! Thank you so much for your advice and guidance ❤️

@____________838 3 жыл бұрын

You’re definitely not alone in this.

@melissabyrd-lloyd6055 3 жыл бұрын

I do too and yesterday was a bad day.

@PS-xb9hc 2 жыл бұрын

What you describe is exactly what I'm working with my therapist. For the first time in my life I'm learning to be more compassionate, learn to connect with myself and stop the codependence. It has been so worth it to observe myself, set boundaries and stop the control. Thank you Dr. Marks!❤

@Bingewatchingmediacontent 2 жыл бұрын

I have generational trauma - My Mom was abused as a child and developed narcissistic tendencies because of that. My siblings and I only really realized it as adults, how much her self absorbtion when we were children negatively affected us. As well as how much damage we did to eachother by having to have kids raise eachother (thank you for addressing kids abusing kids, btw.) Now we are all dealing with the fallout from all of the negativity and neglect, coupled with guilt we were constantly bombarded with for daring to ask for anything for ourselves, we were raised with as kids. But I’m tired of being upset about it. Thank you for giving tools to do so. Too much therapy is just about simply addressing these issues and not about healing them.

@sethtenrec 9 ай бұрын

Well said

@drizzy9126 3 жыл бұрын

I have broken into tears while watching most of these videos. They are so soul touching. I feel like she has gently peeled back the many layers of calloused emotions and applied a salve of compassion and knowledge. I feel so much better after listening to and looking at her. Doc is very easy on the eyes!

@deborahbarry8458 2 жыл бұрын

“✨killing me softly with his song…✨”

@Muldoon111 Жыл бұрын

Me too. I’ve only recently discovered this wonderful lady, and yes, very easy on the eye.

@rachelg9873 3 жыл бұрын

Lol me with my ADHD and depression "I DO need to listen to this again to get the most out of it, and maybe take color coded notes."

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

LOL! I love the color coded notes. My son have a TON of colored pens just for this purpose. 😀

@TuckRob 3 жыл бұрын

My thought exactly too.

@margoparkerschellerhaadent8042 3 жыл бұрын

Best comment ever

@margoparkerschellerhaadent8042 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks, I think this segment introduced me to myself in the clearest way and I -maybe might I hope please God- want to forgive myself ... and my Mama... and abusers. Thank you again and again. Looking forward to learning more distraction techniques.

@kararuthruff9030 3 жыл бұрын

I want to listen because it is all helpful info but then I feel bored bc it's taking too long (not that anything was actually wrong with the video). So then I try to do something else on my computer (low concentration needed) and think "oh I will just listen in the background". But then I realize I haven't heard a single thing she said for the past 2 mins if I do ANYTHING else lol. I did make it thru this one straight thru. But often is a struggle because even tho I'm engaged and I like the info....I still feel a sense of "ok how much longer?" constantly.

@danielmurray9820 Жыл бұрын

It can be so deep and for so long, that it makes it impossible to see anything of this as negative self talk in the first place.

@amandaforrester7636 2 жыл бұрын

No one DOES look out for your interests, expect for you. Trust is the most valuable thing you can give away. It's earned.

@C7774u 3 жыл бұрын

I love your hair today you look so adorable .

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot Claire!

@user-gi6ee8vj1y 3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing.

@mkmcl5478 3 жыл бұрын

Love your hair too!

@C7774u 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks I always thought you were a beautiful lady but omg your hair off your face really highlighted your stunning features . Your cheek bones are to die for and were slightly hidden before just your whole pretty face came to life.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

@@C7774u OMG thank you so much! Reading this was a great end to my day 😊❤️

@ladybaabaa3294 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Dr Tracey, for mentioning that parents' actions aren't always responsible for these feelings! I definitely fall under the Unworthy Story, and yet my parents never placed high expectations on me, never pushed me or criticised me. What DID happen was, I became very shy early on due to some kids at school judging me, teasing me, laughing at me and criticising aspects of myself I was already insecure about. When you ask what voice I hear when my mind is talking about this stuff, the answer is my own voice. How I feel when I feel unworthy is...embarrassed and ugly. I somehow equate my worth with my appearance, and yet, this sort of superficiality has NEVER been instilled in me, nor do I like when others place a lot of emphasis on looks. Ugh. Thoughts and feelings are weird. lol

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Lady Baa Baa for this excellent example of how peers can create these stories. Kids can be very mean and insensitive (due to their immaturity and lack of filters) and a sensitive child can be very damaged by those early experiences. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

@ladybaabaa3294 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Thanks so much Dr Tracey! I know now that kids can be cruel due to immaturity and their own insecurities and sometimes unhappiness, and I don't have any bad feelings towards any of those people. It was a bit of a cycle. The more inferior I felt from their comments, the more shy and self conscious I became, which then attracted more unpleasant comments. It's a shame our 5-15 year old selves can't have the confidence our 30-50 year old selves do! But then if we did, we wouldn't be able to grow and we wouldn't become the people we are.

@wendyleeconnelly2939 3 жыл бұрын

@@ladybaabaa3294 You are nobler than I am. I still have negative feelings towards kids at school who were bad to me, even though I have few really particular or detailed memories of the mundane events -- like she says, having flawed people left imprints on me of being flawed, and it took me some time to really see through it so even after all these years and other experiences I still resent it.

@altheaturner9805 2 жыл бұрын

Lady Baa… thanks for sharing your story. It mirrors mine. I was criticized and picked on because I was deemed to be “different”. I accepted different to be weird and not worthy of friendships so I developed an inferiority complex which I had to battle with throughout my life as that word kept resonating with me. I then had to judge the situation and ask myself” which reality am I living in?” I started on my nausea for truth and then I was able to identify the situation for what it really was.Once I saw this, I was able to work towards conquering this feelings and negative thoughts and channel my energy in a more positive way. I am still not fully there yet but a whole lot better than before. It’s definitely a work in progress,

@shatteredskiesmusic7259 2 жыл бұрын

@@wendyleeconnelly2939 Don't feel bad about that. It's normal to have negative emotional towards people who've hurt you. Those come and go and don't reflect your real personality. For example, I often feel extreme anger and jealousy when I'm in love, but to date I've never shown agression or hurt anyone because of that. I'm a peaceful person, but my jealousy comes from a lack self confidence. I bet you are a good person too, it's just that your wounds haven't truly healed yet.

@LarsOutzen Ай бұрын

Watched it once, now, however as an autistic adult, this is the story of my life. Despite chronic failures & invalidation, the only real thing I now fear in life - is other people attacking me for being me.

@ZacharyEdney 2 жыл бұрын

i love you. i hope this helps heal my wife of a horrible childhood its killing me

@sammvonupendo331 3 жыл бұрын

i love that she tells us to practice self soothing exercises to help deal with negative emotions and watching her videos is me self soothing lol

@youreincredible1648 3 жыл бұрын

I have to watch this back, i was picked on alot during childhood, and am getting out of an overly critical relationship, just trying to rebuild my self esteem.

@Amira22212 Ай бұрын

I hope you are okay now ❤

@amorphousface2401 3 жыл бұрын

For me getting older (50+) has helped me with my negative stories I tell myself.

@aphanius2003 Жыл бұрын

My whole 51 years old resumed in less than 14 minutes. Only missed another common self-punishment based on close and "caring" opinions from partners or friends: "You're always negative / Try to be more positive to success / You enjoy with negativity". In my case, this sort of guilty reinforcements have lead me towards neverending anxiety and decision blocking. For sure i'll watch this video again, not just twice but many times. Thanks for displaying in such structured way why i am who i am 🥺

@davecsaszarable 3 жыл бұрын

You were talking to my soul. I have gone through a cycle of using all those negative stories from most of my life. Fortunately having the most beautiful baby in the world made wanna be the best version of me! That was already a work in process. But as my name is David, you will be able to love yourself again! If I did it, anyone can! Believe me, there’s nothing extraordinary about me! Thanks for this and your other videos. Listening to this you can shuffle the idea in your head and let it grow! You’re doing a wonderful thing!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome David. Thanks for your comment and encouraging others. Keep loving yourself! 👍🏽

@davidryan8269 3 жыл бұрын

I figured out yesterday that what I fear in social settings is a subconscious belief that someone is going to " POUNCE " upon me. I experienced physical abuse as a child and if I acknowledge my vulnerability in those situations then someone will POUNCE ( capitalise) upon it and emotionally and mentally abuse me as well. Pouncing is a predatory thing. Ive played with kittens and cats and they love to pounce in their social activities. I however experience fear as a result of trauma. Im going to experiment next time I go out by telling myself people are just kittens and my exagerative distortion is that their lions. Peace Dr marks.

@kararuthruff9030 3 жыл бұрын

It sucks having these subconscious beliefs but is really a relief to finally bring them to the surface and make sense of things. Like the dots start to connect and can realize even tho the healing hasn't been done...there is now a direction of what to heal and realizing things don't always HAVE to be the way they have been. Good luck to you in your journey forward healing.

@shayshay-reb 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!

@clareahtee 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this!

@shannond1511 2 жыл бұрын

That was a really good interpretation/way of helping yourself. I think youre spot on.

@JayronWhitehaus Жыл бұрын

Here's a weird thing I've noticed about my ADHD/BPD self: ever memory I have seems to be horrific. I hate living in the city I grew up in because it's to the point where every street, corner, building has some memory associated with it that I wish didn't happen or that I didn't remember. Any social media "memories" that pop up always trigger some negative memory of that moment. It's not like I can't remember all the good stuff that's happened, but rather it's that the negative stuff is the immediate and available feeling to most memories. Thank you very much for this video Dr. Marks.

@maggieshort2402 2 жыл бұрын

She has such a comfortable voice to listen to that I’m already calming down! Thank you.

@Schnelker2012 3 жыл бұрын

I was subjected to peer rejection as a young child as emotional froze, then my father died when I was eleven. My mother was too self focused and sick to raise me, consequently, in I suffer social anxiety and chronic depression. The unworthy story applies

@sophiadavenport3959 3 жыл бұрын

I love this channel I learn something new everyday.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot Dionne! I love that you keep learning. 👍🏽

@thedavisdimension 3 жыл бұрын

that's good. make sure you share

@positiveenergy2205 2 жыл бұрын

Dependence story resonates with me. Always feeling that I'm not capable of making my own decisions and afraid to take appropriate risks.

@bluBlaq33 2 жыл бұрын

I have untreated adhd that mainfested into depression. People constantly yelling at you because you can’t do things right the first toke your whole life, including you parents who took you to get diagnosed is very frustrating. And the pandemic pretty much ruined my goals and plans. My family tells me “everyones plans were ruined not just your”, feeling constantly invalidated and being told in many jobs your not a great employee has led to this for me. Always letting my emotional state interfere with academics or career goals also has been difficult. I’m 29 and at the end of my rope. This video has given me so much insight and I at least have a place to start from now.

@KaamillieCat 3 жыл бұрын

“Hi I’m dr. tracey marks” HI DR TRACEY MARKS

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

😀 Hi Millie

@ShamikaLMoore 2 жыл бұрын

I do this with Micheal Sealey, too. 😂

@madchenyt 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@kelleybright3113 2 жыл бұрын

Hi I'm Kelly Bright glad I found this group

@TheMorganeClub 3 жыл бұрын

You’re ABSOLUTELY amazing! I can’t really have therapy sessions at the moment and it’s amazing! I mean the way you help people is impressive! So thanking from the bottom of my heart ❤️ glad to move forward

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

You are SO welcome Morgane! I'm glad you're able to get value from these.

@TheMorganeClub 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks I REALLY DID UR AMAZING ❤️

@Richard-hx6mi 2 жыл бұрын

I need to find me a 1 on 1 therapist like this! I never realized how much my upbringing has effected me. Both the good and bad. Self awareness and the will to evolve oneself is so important!

@ozlemylmaz8822 2 жыл бұрын

Realizing that all of these inner voices are present in my mind, I feel quite unable to correct them, despite that I work with a therapist. I feel it is not fair to fight with these malfunctioning thoughts and fulfil my duties and catch others in life, because of the things that has not happened under my will. I am tired, and I am yet 21.

@TracvM320 3 жыл бұрын

Love this format- the questions, then examples plus suggested solutions- really good video. Thank you- I love your presentation and the information you share is invaluable❤️

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Tracy for taking note of that. I'm always trying to find a good way to present dense information in a way that's not overwhelming,

@TracvM320 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks truly so easy to understand- and the “ insert your behavior here “ is a unique way to help filter out things I know I absolutely don’t say or do. Being overwhelmed while already wondering what might possibly be wrong is too much. Your channel is perfect in length and content- your a born educator❤️ such a gift

@rachelsimbhu4383 3 жыл бұрын

That's so very true of Dr.Tracy ! Can't get enough of her videos !

@kararuthruff9030 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey Marks for president!!!!

@MyMarsham 3 жыл бұрын

@@kararuthruff9030 Dr Marks is too good for president. She does real good knowledgeable work, whereas politics is just show business for ugly people.

@joshokello52 3 жыл бұрын

I am in tears watching this, tears of relief and joy. Everything you are saying here is true the feelings I experience. This is so powerful. Thank you for eternity Dr.Tracy

@augustsage7265 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I have been battling the unworthy and failure thought patterns for years. As awful as it sounds, there is a part of me that is afraid of letting them go. It’s like a horrible drug that is hard to leave behind. Every day I wake up, I have to consciously push back again tide of regret and self-vilification

@kirstendutoit6489 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your insight, all 6 stories absolutely resonated. I was recently diagnosed with adult ADD, at 51. Ultra low self esteem for sure, early memories of criticism, scoldings & beatings, the black sheep. Onset was estimated to be around 4 or 5; and even though it escalated during adolescence, was still manageable. Regular, ongoing corporal punishment, generally administered with rage & whip, was my father's attempt to 'cure' what was wrong with me. Possibly a generous contribution to the subconscious compulsion to marry a short tempered, physically abusive man. Wasn't that what bad, lazy, useless people deserved; weren't beatings the true expression of love? It was becoming increasingly more difficult to manage, severely impacting relationships & earning ability. Probably compounded by the pandemic, it was now completely debilitating. With the loss of function came relentless suicide ideation & an inability to start, let alone finish, even the simplest of tasks. Psychologist to psychiatrist, I was fully expecting another round of anti-depressants which, experience had shown, were ineffective & had major side effects. The adult ADHD diagnosis was completely unexpected, anxiety and depression mere symptoms of the condition, all aggravated by repeated misdiagnoses & lack of proper treatment. What a relief to finally know the root cause of my struggles & its relatively straightforward treatment. Grief too, for what was lost, the personal cost almost incalculable. The broken girl-child, beaten & bruised by a lifetime of recrimination, validated at last. The genetic origin of the disorder confirms the child's innocence, emphasising the heartlessness of inflicted injustices. Years of assault & betrayal by those who should've offered protection has inflicted deep psychic wounds & destroyed self esteem. Inner child repeatedly traumatised. Healing will most likely take its time and the path is still relatively unknown. Any advice and/or guidance for healing will be greatly appreciated!

@julie11e345 2 жыл бұрын

Oh dear, that is so much for one person to bear! I read your story and just wanted to encourage you; I also got some (way smaller) degree of neglect and late adulthood ADHD diagnosis. My search for relief has brought me here with another recent discovery: Avoidant Personality Disorder. But I really have found a new Peace and comfort in my relationship with Jesus Christ our Risen Lord. He died to truly save us from this misery, and His Word is filled with wonderful promises! To give us hope for a future and a better life, starting as soon as we put our trust in Him… He has come so we may have Life. He is close to the broken-hearted. Just ask Him, and He will come and apply His healing balm to your heart and soul… May God bless you, and keep You in His arms of Love.

@offpinto Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. You mentioned the "relatively straightforward treatment". Can you please explain what it consists of exactly?

@DrumWild 3 жыл бұрын

Most of these stories ring true for me, and I never knew why. Three years ago, I was diagnosed with High-Functioning Autism. Now I know why these things were happening, and that they were not merely stories.

@matronista 3 жыл бұрын

Just because I am paranoid doesn’t mean people aren’t out to get me. Lol

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

😀

@clerictamer 3 жыл бұрын

Nirvana!

@clerictamer 3 жыл бұрын

Gotta find a way,, a better way....

@drizzy9126 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@dodgerdog16 3 жыл бұрын

Q: When did you become so paranoid? A: When they started plotting against me.

@casioamplifier 2 жыл бұрын

I have no words for dr. Tracey marks. The way she speaks so eloquently and the way she presents it to the audience is truly amazing. I’m in pure admiration for dr. Tracey marks. I felt like she was talking directly to me and was my own psychiatrist. That’s how great she is. Truly wonderful. She is so intelligent and her communication skills are truly remarkable. Please keep making these videos!

@lioraisrael7231 2 жыл бұрын

This was incredibly helpful and spot on. As I’ve gotten older I now realize that I have a ton of unpacking to do from past trauma. I will be watching this again and implementing those exercises. I’m learning that freedom will take some work but I’m tired of carrying around so much baggage.

@jeff_koli 7 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@bs6342 3 жыл бұрын

I’m a mental health nurse; this is all great stuff 👍

@reneegordon3991 3 жыл бұрын

I wish I could truly express how much your video’s have helped me. I have bipolar 1, ADHD, PTSD, anxiety, and some other things. I’ve always wanted a normal brain. I used to pray for a normal brain, and it never worked. I’m on and off my meds, and I don’t maintain the meds the way I should. I found your videos about 10 months ago, and I just really started watching them. I will be at work getting set up for the day listening to you. This video really hit me in my feelings, those voices have been loud for way too long. I was truly blessed with 3 of the most wonderful parents on the planet. However, and I realize now they didn’t know what harm they were causing by pushing me so hard. They wanted me to be my best at all things, and not succeeding was unacceptable. My brothers could do half butt work, but mine had to be above and beyond. I need tools to get out of the negative head space, and you provided me with the start up. So short story long.... Thank you.

@pennybutler2482 Жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks , thank you for caring about those of us who are not your patients but , need professional advice. I wish I had a friend or family member like you. My mental health issues have robbed me of living my life. If you only knew , I'm sure you would be shocked. By the way I'm Penny's brother and watching you on her tablet. Thanks again, Donald.

@Marsolan 2 жыл бұрын

Just having Dr. MARKS to care enough to spend enormous amount of time to create these valuable videos is reason to trust another human being. That in itself is a wonderful positive force! Thank you so much!!! We know it takes a lot of effort to deliver complex material in such a laconic and understandable way!!!! Be well, Dr. MARKS!!!

@teebee3631 3 жыл бұрын

I identified with every story, and I recognize that these feelings my also be true for my son due to my behavior. I feel so overwhelmed.

@faithm.8958 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly.... For me thankfully it was one major person in my life.

@janethayes1908 2 жыл бұрын

Me too!! Every story, every negative sentence is my daily life!!!

@cobalius 3 жыл бұрын

I can't.. i've already adhd and i'm feeling so utterly upset and depressed because i have to throw away a pizza again! I hate it to hurt myself financially and socially like this! The horrible thing about it is, that i already know this and it still happens! And right now.. it's been 9 hours.. and i failed to bargain it, to sooth myself and to understand my conflict enough to move on.. i hate that all.. and i miss the sun... It also rains and it is dark again.. that as horibble as the other one!

@Brandon_Moves_You 2 жыл бұрын

"Whatever Happens, I'll take care of it" is my attitude towards most things. The old adage "but will it kill you?" keeps stress reactions in check for me. A great video as always, Dr. Tracey Marks always hits the "Marks".

@PraveenSriram 2 жыл бұрын

Most of the problems in my life goes back 25 years to being bullied and ostracized as a child in grade and middle school 🏫 which causes a lot of unresolved anxiety and anger today at age 38.

@KimPosteryournewpenpal 3 жыл бұрын

So relevant. I just started trauma therapy for my BPD and this is exactly what we are getting into.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Oh that's great. Save the video to refer to again later. I hope you get a lot out of your therapy!

@LaGrossePaulik 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Kim, just wishing you the best :) also in a therapy journey for BPD/anxiety!

@LateshaRenee 3 жыл бұрын

You are so pretty 😍

@miguelchippsinteligente6072 3 жыл бұрын

Ya should try listening to jorden Peterson hes educational wisdom helpful too

@miguelchippsinteligente6072 3 жыл бұрын

Jesus christ referenced living waters 💎👨‍🎓👩‍🎓Tesla referenced human energy 🌬👻science described water memory 🌊🎭psalms16:24 k,j proverbs27:19 existence psychologically god bless fight the good fight 💖👻💎💖👻💎👨‍🎓👩‍🎓🗽🤍⚖🌪🌬

@kayg1532 3 жыл бұрын

Okay I guess I just haven't had enough positive experiences in life to overcome the overwhelming negative ones.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you'll be able to accumulate more going forward. Small wins add up.

@kayg1532 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks this was helpful in recognizing the issue. Thank you

@astoldbynickgerr 3 жыл бұрын

😭💙

@jaminelson7938 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad I found these videos.

@Alexcutspie 2 жыл бұрын

it makes me near tears that I've almost always checked off all if not at least one negative thought from every category :(

@sztrife1 2 жыл бұрын

that disconnection one was really on point, i've always notice a barrier that limits me in social situations, even though i don't tend to get socially anxious and i like being around people, i've never allowed myself to connect

@egogrey4317 3 жыл бұрын

You have no idea how much you've ignited my love for psychology again. I graduated 2018 and I had no motivation whatsoever during my last year. (through out the course, learning different personalities, I knew deep down which ones were "me" and most were the ones I wasn't so happy about. I always knew I was flawed with my disorders, I just never knew it was THAT bad). I then decided not to pursue honors. Your videos reminded me WHY I chose to study psychology in the first place. Thank you.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Oh that's awesome Ego. Go forth and conquer! 👍🏽

@RogeriaBritto 3 жыл бұрын

You are a great communicator, Dr.! I love the way you talk and make things easier for us to understand! Thank you!

@voidhog1028 2 жыл бұрын

the worst part is coming to these kinds of conclusions loosely from experience, but not being able to use them because of your situation (for example, I lived with my single mother who was refusing to acknowledge my depression and social anxiety which interfered with my life, and I also dealt with abandonment issues which were unresolved as my problems were "my own". In this situation, I didn't have the mental or emotional capacity to properly communicate my feelings, but even if I tried to and partially succeeded - my success in school was more important. It was such a frustrating and dehumanizing experience from my own parents). It's a mad world thanks for your videos :) they're very insightful

@Lavenderrose73 2 жыл бұрын

As a Christian, I firmly believe in counting my blessings even with all the hurt I've gotten from others. I'm a veteran collecting disability, and let's just say my arms and legs are just fine. But I've always strived to make the best of a situation. Thankfully, the Air Force and the VA have made it very easy to do just that. Things are brighter for me today then they have been in the past. It helps to have caring friends and a nextdoor neighbor who looks out for you.

@AsiyaIammuah 3 жыл бұрын

Even if it’s just an emoji or simply saying “great video” I’m always gonna comment on your channel and share your videos to support this channel. I love your content!! This video was sooo helpful!! More people need to benefit from these videos!!

@k8eekatt 2 жыл бұрын

That is great❤ me too. 4 actual words are enough to be counted to help her earn half a penny per view❤.

@user-nd6ww1es9s 2 жыл бұрын

🙌

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

WATCH NEXT: *2 Steps To Manage The Negative Thoughts* kzfaq.info/get/bejne/qbGkZ8ihsM3amnk.html

@sophiadavenport3959 3 жыл бұрын

Can you please do a video about the psychological effects of being raised by a abusive mother?

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

@@sophiadavenport3959 maybe. But there’s not one way that looks. There are a bunch of videos on YT about it though. It’s a very popular topic

@Chee235 3 жыл бұрын

I’m looking forward to your tips on grounding. Thanks!

@tallman7895 3 жыл бұрын

Childhood emotional neglects 😰😥😨 still experiencing it still feeling bullied family members words hurts

@SpiralCee 3 жыл бұрын

Hi, Dr. Tracey . Can you do you a video on grief, perhaps how to use CBT techniques to cope? Thank you.

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@fractalofgod6324 2 жыл бұрын

I struggle with this really badly, I've been through so much and I strangle myself with my story. I create my own living hell.

@malu1535 2 жыл бұрын

Me too...

@Whyamiherel0l 2 жыл бұрын

I had one bad moment in school on drugs and I got stuck in the failure moment when I was the opposite. I sabotage everything ! Thanks for this

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

I don't feel like I am waisting my time when I watch your videos 💓 I appreciate you for helping me learn to deal with my emotions ❣️

@d.carter 3 жыл бұрын

This was great. Especially today. I'm bipolar and am feeling most of those same emotions. I need help learning how to cope. I am alone and feel as if I need someone. I feel misunderstood. Thanks for reading if you have time.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Donna. If you haven't already seen it, here's a video I did on coping with negative emotions. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ptufl8efrLqlep8.html

@Meamia2010 2 жыл бұрын

My therapist recently shared distortions of cognitive thinking with me in a simular way this video was presented and it has changed my life and helped me in my relationship significantly....wish Younger me had this knowledge. Thank you for the video ❤

@swettybetty 2 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey, I know you’ve amassed quite a following already, but based on your knowledge and your articulation of that knowledge: clear and concise on a level that is just so relatable and understandable to so many, you should be in history books, win awards, have a plaque, a statue, etc. You are saving lives with your content and your voice! I have no doubt about that, because you have saved mine too. God’s work! Seriously, bravo. As an aspiring psychologist myself, I so admire your work. Thank you so much.

@DrTraceyMarks 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much StankyB! I really appreciate that. ❤️

@datralewis1398 3 жыл бұрын

Where have you been all my life . I'm so glad I found your channel.

@carlailenogueira3473 3 жыл бұрын

I genuinely love the way she explains things! Thank you!

@luisalvaro2137 2 жыл бұрын

The way Dr Tracey explains things is just so clear, I'm truly grateful for having found this channel

@melodieneil712 Жыл бұрын

Dr. Mark’s, I cannot thank you enough for the videos you’re gifting all of us with. I don’t believe I’m alone when I tell you that watching and listening to them are insightful and illuminating, and help to provide clarity about behaviors and thoughts we haven’t been able to understand up until this point, and how to proceed to getting ourselves the help we need.

@jingsun1859 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the great illustration. Literally trying to soothe my anxiety right before this video. My mom had depression and anxiety, I am in my early 20s and I can see myself starting to develop similar symptoms. I do a lot of self analysis to relieve my emotional suffering, your video helps a lot. Deconstruction is not easy, but it's worth the effort.

@melanie_zamboni 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the comment on how it's not always about the parents, and that what kids (or peers at school) do can be harmful too. I never thought about that and needed to hear it. 💖

@mingtoiisaac4623 2 жыл бұрын

That you, doctor. So much to unpack. I'm encouraged!

@Sunshine-yk2eg 2 жыл бұрын

This is so so so important and brilliantly explained! I have all of these and that doesn't feel so great but now that I know it, I can fix them, makes me feel so much better. Lady, i just found your channel but your content is pure gold, I hope you know that you are changing lives! ❤ I cant believe I get this help and guidance for free honestly

@kikifire9113 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey, this is the best video I've seen. I love how you've described everything in depth. Breaking it down and showing examples really helped a lot. Thank you! I'm looking forward to seeing more videos.

@pattygould8240 2 жыл бұрын

This was a trip. I distinctly remember points in my life where I realized each of these was effecting my outlook. Each epiphany was followed by an increased ability to control my behaviour and controlling the behaviour became second nature. I will watch a few times as I'm sure I didn't absorb it all on the first viewing. I love your content.

@erinsebestyen8152 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you doctor Tracy I will be rewatching and journaling for sure you are awesome

@annsmith9698 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Dr. Marks, you are a true gem and I’m so glad I came across you here. I know you’ll never see this, but you have helped me push through so much of my negativity and also gain maturity and new skills in many areas. Thank you for all you do and your contribution to mental health.

@annisaarthur-castro6227 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr. Mark's for this very enlightening video. I identified with nearly all of the stories because I was a precocious child and the adults around me, especially my mother, treated me like an adult/co-parent/girlfriend. So, I really wasn't nurtured. It took me a long time to understand that and now I'm working on healing myself and silencing the negative thoughts that come rushing in because I was always trying to live up to everyone's expectations of me (real or imagined). I always felt/ feel pressured, never really good enough even when I was succeeding and like an imposter when I got/get into certain spaces. I also think about the negative outcomes of a situation first or convince myself that things won't get better or would take a long time to improve when faced with adversity.

@lisacurtis8162 3 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate that you are on youtube, you are helping me. Bless you 😃

@galaxylucia1898 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks thank you for your videos. I had to pause this a number of times to cry and get through this short video, which goes to show that I have work to do. I am incredibly grateful for your wisdom, service, and generosity to make these videos, specifically this is helping me get through a difficult (but not tragic) moment in my life, a small disappointment. Five out of the six thought patterns apply to me, so I will listen to this many times more, but already through the pain (that’s really just my ego), I see my distorted thinking and also, a path to healing. If you read this far, thanks again. To everyone else, all you can do is your very best in the present moment, so forgive yourself and love yourself with compassion. Have a wonderful, heart-full day🌺🌸🌻🌼

@escobarines 2 жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks, thank you so much for putting this out there. The dissemination work you are doing is priceless! 🙏 You are able to put really complex concepts in such simple terms and just gave me the language to refer to certain things (three of these patterns are my "stories").

@naomibedek1701 3 жыл бұрын

These videos are so helpful, especially when going through a setback.

@LeonAcord Жыл бұрын

I want to personally thank you, Dr. Marks. I've been having a lot of trouble on the job(s) lately, and I'm realizing that the offices are different, but the conflict, the issues, are the same -- and that it's on ME, not them. I had a lot of childhood bullying for being gay, a very distant critical father (who, thankfully, is now much more mellow), and a few borderline traumatic events. I've been very frustrated, and I watched about 12 of your videos in a row the other day, and it really helped me (a) see my need for constant approval, and projecting when I don't get it, is my baggage, and (b) adopt tips about how to deal with self-doubt, worry, anxiety (I particularly LOVE your suggestion of SINGING the negative thoughts to make them seem ridiculous. ("La la la, I'm too stupid to understand this!") Long story short (too late?), you've really helped me get through a very difficult couple of weeks. And I very much appreciate it. PS Watching your videos make me wonder -- maybe therapy should be less about the patient carrying on for 45 minutes, and more about the patient listening to explanations of behavior. ;-) YOU ROCK!

@MBarbaraH777 2 жыл бұрын

This was no one but God, one of your videos popped up on my page randomly, all i know is I’ve been asking God to give me more tools and tactics to continue to help my mental health, thank you so much and God bless you!!!

@cameronmitchell9561 2 жыл бұрын

This is incredible! Unconsciously, i have been waiting for this explanation for decades. Thank you, Doctor Tracey.

@9RafaLo 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, Dr. Tracey. First, thank you so much for your videos. I love watching mental health videos and so far you're the most objective, didactic and, more importantly, helpful content creator I’ve found on this subject in youtube. That being sad, I'd like your opinion or maybe a link to a video regarding a specific question: I have a sister who seems to suffer from a high level of social anxiety disorder + negative emotional programming associated to failure stories. It’s been almost 20 years since this has limited her life in a sense where she does not really feel capable to do anything: from relatively simple house chores to activities necessary for her to feel fulfilled (attend college, get a job, live by herself). Besides fearing any possible failure at the attempt of any new activity (either by sabotaging herself or avoiding to take any action whatsoever), she gets very anxious around people outside our nuclear family, fearing the judgment she thinks she will inevitably receive. It’s been many many years since she’s had close friends ‘in real life’ and she avoids leaving the house. She's very unhappy and does not see a purpose in living. She’s currently doing cognitive behavioral therapy, but she seems to not believe she can get better and improve her life through mental health treatment (she dislikes her psychiatrist and has always looked down on therapy in general). She doesn’t follow her appointments and goes without therapy more often than not. What would be the best way for our family to help her? Even though she’s an adult, she does not have to do anything in the house (chores, work, etc.). Is this helpful/necessary in a sense where she wouldn’t cope on her own or can it worsen her lack of self-esteem and her negative emotional programming?

@prestonstrauss3693 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for creating this type of content. I wish I had learned these types of things earlier in life. Take care, and keep on keepin on.

@victoriawilson7292 2 жыл бұрын

There is SOOO much in this video that resonates with me. I do think my negative experiences as a child have impacted my life as an adult. I just never realised how much. Dr Tracey is excellent how she explains things so you can really take things away and apply them. I've seen some good therapists but they've always expected the 'answers' to come from me when, if I knew the answers - which is what Dr Tracey provides - I would know what to do to make changes. Excellent video.

@TheLightRoom22 2 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracy your are a major asset and necessity to our community and to the world!! Thank you so much for what you do!!💚💚

@AeriaGl0ris 3 жыл бұрын

The Failure Story has some overlap with Imposter Syndrome, doesn't it? Or one feeds into the other?

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Yes it does. Good point. 👍🏽

@mtlgirl31 3 жыл бұрын

Super helpful! I will need to re-watch many times and write things down. Looking forward to your follow-up videos! Thank you so much!!

@soniagonzalez4565 2 жыл бұрын

You're fabulous! Thank you for taking the time to intelligently explain how in just one video you have saved so many of us so much grief time and money i.e years of Therapy which really doesn't seem to help much.

@dsuthapong 2 жыл бұрын

This video is do good! I made me recognize that many of us all have similar problems and we all are a part of the same universe, fighting with similar problems. Also love how practical these videos are. Thank you Dr. Tracey!!!