No

Not really, my love is silent

I’ve been love bombed

Nope

Kind of, I've done that to receive love back. Sighs.

What if i don't wanna do something and they brag about how they done it for me?

… or they are manipulative.

That’s what you think

For my end my ex has low self confidence and I'm very protective of him so love bombing like a sister/still like him in a way

Me... with my ex. The problem was that i wasn't manipulative.... her mother was, but i didn't want to separate them. The relationship was flawed from the beginning.

Thank you for the detailed summary!

There was one guy who had a crush on me who called me more times then I was comfortable with, but it was the only thing on the list he did. He was a really nice guy, I just didn't feel the same way about him and didn't want him getting overbearing with the calls.

He could be codependent too

Do u have one on infactuation?

What do you mean by "being too much"? What do you personally define as "being too much" in relationships?

@@Psych2go Hm. I don't really know what I'd call "too much" on the recieving end. But I do tend to worry a lot whether I give people I love more attention than they would appreciate, if that makes any sense. Do I text too often? Does it bother them when I hug them a lot? Do I stare too long? Would they rather not get a fat bunch of goofy memes in the middle of the night? Is it weird when I want to accompany them on errands? Do I touch them too much? Do I smile too much? Will it make them uncomfortable if I buy them this cute nonsense? At what point does complimenting them go from nice to awkward? I don't want to end up not making them feel loved just because I don't know. I will try my best to read people's boundaries better.

@@Danka42they should appreciate it more since nowadays no one does this lol I would appreciate it tho. I would see this as a real friend in my life compared to others which never text me and compliment me even though I don’t do anything wrong?

@Danka42 what you’ve said was me recently. I’m close to this friend of mine. It’s weird because i thought I learned enough to control myself for being too nice and sweet from past relationships. But with my friend I tried to step back when I feel too caring and too thoughtful. I like hugs, but with him it’s difficult because I sense some tension. So I even asked for permission. Lol one more thing with him is that when I move away a little he then sends me a barrage of texts and pictures and memes trying to get my attention any time of the day. And when I do the same he backs off a little. I’m super confused. It’s always been like this. It’s a cycle. Toxic in a way. I don’t know how to move on. But recently i ended this nonsense. He was trying to hangout with me last week for the whole day. I said I can’t because I have a doctors appointment with my family. He said it’s fine. And then when I was out later that day and he just showed up. So I was happy and gave him a hug. That was that. We hangout for like 3 hours then call it a day. We hugged again when we separated. He was quiet the following day. Till nighttime I asked if everything’s okay. He said yeah. I asked if I’m acknowledging him too much and if im being too close. And then he suddenly said yeah it’s okay. You can acknowledge me and all. But don’t touch me. I was like whaaaat??? I was so confused. I never touched him inappropriately or anything under the belt. I felt so horrible for him to say that. I cried the whole night and decided to end the friendship. Then I talked to our mutual friend which is his close friend even before me and learned that he has some ptsd with getting too close. I was like maybe you should’ve warned me or he could’ve said it personally to me or something. But really it’s too late for that. That was the last straw for me. It’s a toxic relationship even from the very start.

@@danixoxo3180 I am very sorry you feel this way. Perhaps, if your friendships are otherwise fine, it might be something to just straight up ask for? People can care about you without realizing what you need from them and if they're your friends, they won't mind texting or complimenting you, once they know it would mean a lot to you. As for "appreciating" it from me... I understand it might _seem_ great when written down. I understand if this sounds like what you're missing, you'd assume this is great for everybody. But people express their affection in all kinds of ways; I cannot recommend enough _The Five Love Languages,_ the book that made me finally believe my parents and my brothers do, in fact, love me, they're just not huggers. I had no idea that was even a thing. For me it feels like the most natural thing to touch people all the time, for them it can feel invasive. I can offer spending time together, but most of my friends have tighter schedule than me and to make time for me they might need to plan around it for days, so asking them randomly to go get ice cream is putting them in the awkward position of having to refuse and now I made them feel guilty without even knowing. Eye contact can be really uncomfortable to some people, plus I have an unfortunate habit of not blinking much. I may think this gift is perfect for them, but in reality it's a piece of plastic crap that will make them smile for one second and then collect dust until they finally toss it. I want my loved ones to always know I admire them and that they kick ass, but it might come off as insincere or it's something they're not really proud of. (As a teen I used to compliment people for being really thin. I'm fat and I had no idea there is such thing as wishing you were chunkier.) Those dorky memes are eating away at my brother's data plan. What I'm saying is, the thought counts, but it's not _all_ that counts. Just because I mean well doesn't mean I can't still make people wish I _didn't._

And you can't win either. Nothing you can do will ever help. It's too much. It's not enough. People leave you for no reason. You try to prove that you aren't that kind of person. It doesn't matter in the end. The concept of love is a failed ideology, like communism.

Unless you're Obi wan in which case you always get the high ground..

@@simpleneeds2582 "You underestimate my power!" 😤 😂

@@Maphisto86 Bully Maguire: Imma put some sand in yo eye.. gets everywhere ya know XDXD

Same here

We're glad you're using our videos to make sure that you're staying mentally healthy and that you're not a love bomber! As for your search for the one you love, how has that been going?

I am finally blessed with a best friend who is very respectful of boundaries as well, and has stated her boundaries to me as well. I was like, "she's not afraid to tell me what's what but she's nice about it. I need to keep her around!" My best friend from college with the same way, thankfully. We simply drifted apart because after we graduated we just got busy and other places. We're always happy to see each other in passing.

@@Psych2go Actually, I believe I’ve found them. We both appear happy to ourselves, and we feel completely comfortable with each other. Thank you

@@Lavenderrose73 Aw that’s nice, glad to hear

Thks for the timestamps

​@@xx_creepysukie_xx1731not a problem happy to help

As always, this always helps out. Hope you have a wonderful day as well

@@Psych2go 💗

@@Psych2go not a problem happy to help. Hope you have a nice day too 💙💙💙💙💙💙

100% talk to her first. Everybody gives and wants to recieve affection in different ways. Some people like the adoration of being "love bombed" This video is honestly really bad for villainising affection while the real toxic traits are lack of communication, manipulation and lack of respect of bounderies. With proper communication and respect "love bombing" can never be a issue and it's honestly a word you should forget. Putting a mental block on the way you give affection is really unhealthy. As long as you can adjust to what your partner wants when they ask you too there is nothing you can do wrong

@@KiallVunMyeret Agree. With people avoiding "catching feelings" just showing some emotion seems to be classified as "love bombing" since the video said "if you don't like high levels of attention" or whatever

Self-awareness 💯

​@@KiallVunMyeretexactly bro. Everybody is not the same.

First thought I really could have needed the video the past three years ,but your comment would have been even better :-: But I bet even then I wouldn't have listened to myself...

100% what it is like

It's not hard to deal with at all. "Hey i love you but it's been a bit much and i need some space to breathe and do my thing" That's it. Simple communication If they respond negativily to that the problem is with their lack of respect of your bounderies, not the love bombardment

I’ve love bombed but it was unintentional. Once someone realizes, if they are a good person they will seek out ways to fix it

I told everyone the love bombing was excessive but everyone toned it down… I even had to rationalise it! I will always follow my intuition going forward ❤!

@@KiallVunMyeret While I agree with the advice, sometimes it's hard to risk a relationship, even if it might be wrong for you. I hope anyone reading this will be strong enough to set healthy boundaries and move on if needed!

Can agree. And first experience sounds pretty much like my last and first relationship ,people can just be assholes.

This is my mom. 😢

awesome!! thank you for your help

I definitely mirror..

@@Purpleiciousbabe what do you think about next step: be open😵

Date other women. You'll be better for it

Honestly hurts how many people sound like my ex... Even that 3year age gap. Sadly I gone along with the sexual shit on phone, thought it makes him happy and was also my first relationship...

Blockity block block time!👊🏾

Thank you for the detailed time stamps! (And in Roman numerals too!)

@@Psych2go You are most welcome and I do like Roman Numerals! 😁

I would just have an honest conversation with your best friend about your concern of maybe doing things that are overwhelming.. you risk making your friend think something is wrong by stopping behavior you've been doing for a while. If you are honest and vulnerable you can build deeper trust and intimacy in your friendship. Ask your friend if you are making them uncomfortable..tell them about this video you saw and the insecurity that perhaps you are behaving in a way that may be coming across negatively..

@@AJourneyBackToEden Yeah! I plan on telling my friend about this, sending them the video and properly communicating about it, before I stop sending those messages. Thanks for the comment!

​@@hajimen7559glad to hear you're going to talk to your friends about it before choosing to stop sending them love over a single video. I honestly think this video is a terrible message. Every person gives and want to recieve affection differently and you shouldn't have to put mental blocks on yourself out of fear of it being to much. Give the affection you want to give and if it's too much then it's up to the reciever to properly communicate it.

@@KiallVunMyeret Yeah, While I understand what you're saying, many people who are with toxic and abusive partners end up staying with them due to love bombing and thinking "they aren't so bad". I guess this video is more relevant for the people in those circumstances.

@@hajimen7559 Yeah i can see that, but just because love bombing is used to cover up bad traits doesn't make love bombing a bad trait. Just like how parents can spoil their children by buying them gifts but that doesn't make every parent who buys something for their kids bad. I feel like they overely villainized giving affection instead of the actual toxic traits. The mayority of the people who love bomb are just people who are overwhelmed with genuinly being in love and all it takes is a single convertation to leave some breathing room. I think that making a video that makes people second guess if they should give affection in a world where affection is becoming very few and far between gives of a very bad message

After having watched the video, what do you think was the main difference between depression and love bombing?

I pretend to be caring person but actually I am love bombing and even I don't feel it because this is how my dad was in love with mom 😢 Now I have a lot of guilt and now I will change myself ❤ Thanks @psych2go

​@@SowOfficia___I've got depression too, nice to read this comment

Love and obsession is not the same thing. When you think that someone is perfect you are creating your own picture of them in your head and then you imagine the “perfect” person with the behavior that seems most perfect to you, but in reality nobody’s perfect. And you can just let the other person know that you are there for them if they need you, without forcing yourself on them.

I’m sorry to hear that my guy, some people just can’t handle it, I did the same things mostly in just expressing myself towards her, tho my situation was different she had some red flags that I kinda ignore because I was deeply in love but she never gave too much effort in the relationship honestly she just liked to be kissed or making out Either way we keep moving forward in life, and always be you be good, and learn the lessons that every relationship has taught you.

Don’t feel the guilt bro I have been there for the past 1.5 yrs. It felt suffocating and had to backup its for your own good. It felt liberating afterwards. After watching this video I final understood wha it was.

Get out of it, realising the relationship is harmful is the first step to a betterlife away from them💖

Never feel sorry about something like that. Always think about you first ,make sure you are fine and happy. She might be hurt or not, but you should be your main priority, especially if things feel fake.

I hope you atleast talked to her and let her know you needed some space to give her a chance to adjust.

I really didn’t get much on what you said, are they bad guys or something or just love bombing ?

If the end conclusion of a video is that you can't trust anyone then you should maybe second guess if you really needed it. The fact that this is what people get out of it shows what a terrible concept of a video this is. Lovebombing can never be a issue as long as there is proper communication and respect for bounderies. Making people scared to give out the love they want is the thing you shouldn't trust

Love bombing has nothing to do with your bounderies but theirs. As long as you communicate and respect what they want there is no such thing as love bombing.

@@devenmellori used to do this but recently i feel that there are monsters inside me, "all i have are negative thoughts" ... i am afraid of myself... i am losing all my good qualities.