Are you more street smart or book smart?

Not sure if anyone else feels this way, but in my case, having high social intelligence actually skyrockets my social anxiety. I am able to "read the room" quite well, and others tend to feel comfortable talking and confiding in me. However, I pick up on others' moods and nonverbals to such a painstaking degree, that it makes me terrified to speak and express myself most of the time. I constantly end up self-censoring in order to make others comfortable. As where, people with a lower social intelligence are often more free to just say what they mean and feel. Thus, they end up coming across much more genuine and authentic than I do.. Overall, I just struggle to find the balance.

Hi psychtogo This page keeps me sane with adhd and all my quiet issues

Social intelligence is the capacity to know oneself and to know others. Social intelligence is learned and developed from experience with people and learning from success and failures in social settings. Social intelligence is the ability to understand your own and others actions. Also to know when people are using your empathy against you. Empathy without boundaries is self destruction. And it's the capacity to communicate and form relationships with empathy and assertiveness. It comes from knowing yourself and exercising proper emotional management. We can say it is closely linked to emotional intelligence, but it is not exactly the same thing. I tend to make people uncomfortable because I open up too quickly and talk about things they do not want to talk about. Awkward. I also offend people because I am reading them which makes them feel judged. I do project but even moreover, I don't think about their feelings before I say things. Well, sometimes I know it will hurt to say it but, it's better than saying what people want to hear all the time.🤷 Ultimately, I would rather be hated for who I am than be loved for who I am not. People dont really comprehend what your saying anyhow. It's like they have selective hearing.

Not me misreading the title as "6 Signs You Have High School Intelligence"

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This is extremely interesting. Being able to know other’s communication needs is something that is fairly overlooked in our world I feel. It’s always good to keep an open mind.

You know, growing up with autism and being bullied for being "special Ed" back in middle school, made me want change for the better. I started to get out of my comfort zone and try to interact with others. I keep breaking the social rules but adamant to try. After a few years of trial and error, i managed to perfect it. Reading "how to win friends and influence people" was also a cherry on top to improve it. I now can go and say "hi" to anybody and strike a conversation. Plus it makes job interviews and others alot easier. Ironically the ones who called me "special Ed" made me a social butterfly and made me appreciate the world.

Man your channel is 10/10 your videos are amazing

the thing is i always listen to other people and understand them but i never know what to say 😭😭

Halfway through the video, and No. 3 _really_ jumped out at me. 💡 When perfect strangers approach me in public, asking for advice and assistance or simply speaking whatever’s on their prefrontal cortices in the moment without discomfort or awkwardness, you begin to suspect the possibility of being likeable and/or approachable at face value. Not bad for someone who spent decades ravaged by a façade of impostor syndrome… r-right? 👤 Evidently, I’m still healing even now, but it means I’m better equipped to sympathise and (hopefully) aid those who still struggle with an identity crisis in ways that mesh well with us both. 💞

Love these videos! ☀️☀️ They're always so positive!

I’m autistic, so I lack a little bit in the “reading the room” aspect of social intelligence, but I do know I have high emotional intelligence and can feel a person’s emotions on a deeper level even if I don’t know exactly why they feel that way.

I kinda used to be like that with my friends in school but ended up having no friends cuz they just want someone who judges them I know this sounds weird but I think they see people like me are trying to please people and have a weak personality, My teacher at school told me that the problem in my personality that I express my love to everyone which makes me look like I have a weak personality, I was really disappointed by that, I do that cuz I hate the feeling of being judged and I don't want other people to feel like that around me All popular students at my school are hard to be friends with and judge you so hard when u talk to them, other students tend to them cuz they find it difficult to win their friendship So recently I lost a lot of my social and empathizing skills and just became suspicious of my own personality

Timestamps 1). High in emotional intelligence 1:04 2). Understanding how others tick 2:02 3). People like talking to you 2:45 4). Appreciating differences 3:31 5). Active listening 4:29 6). Conflict management 5:14 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

Growing up with 2 older sisters (I’m a younger brother…✋🏾✋🏾✋🏾)……I was always told by them I was “judgmental” because, I would critique a lot of the toxic decisions they’ve made throughout the years…….They’ve struggled with a lot of certain issues in life, as we all have, but their struggles were on a much different level…Absentee fathers for their children, domestic violence almost resulting in death, no stable living environments or work, depression etc;….I’ve always had steady income (30 consecutive years since my first job at 15yrs old), stable housing and environments, and an overall outlook of positivity for everyone in life. We were all raised very similar in our core-household principles (faith, education, discipline), but I’d be remiss to say, there was some parental disparities that came from our parents to us as siblings…..These disparities undoubtedly played somewhat of a role in our overall persona’s. The main difference between my sisters and I, is that even in my most negative of times, I’ve always been more of an “observer” first, than a “doer” first (less reactionary emotionally), meaning, I’ve always been cautious in the people I tend to associate with, the environments I hang around, how I react to a situation etc;. This saved me from a lot of unnecessary grief and turmoil throughout the years….When I look at my circle of close friends, about 5 of us from childhood/high school, thru present adulthood, I was the first to befriend each one of them personally in our youth, then brought us all together over the years….Wasn’t by design, just kinda how it happened. I’ve heard stories from each and every one of my friends and family when they were down on their luck, whether it be marital problems, work related issues, major decisions….I always wondered why, I never had a “volunteered ear” to speak too when I went through downtimes, but I realized, I was the ear to everyone else, and will continue to be so….I’m fine with that….Great video!….👌🏾❤️😉

How to differentiate between ADHD and Digital Dementia??? I talked to someone senior about how I show all the symptoms of ADHD and he simply discarded it by saying it's my phone and not a disorder or something, excessive phone usage made me so much unable to focus, distracted, restless. Ps: I have been like this as a kid too 🙃

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In this video I can recognise myself in each sign, i don’t think I’m very social intelligent but I recognise myself in listening, capability of talking with everyone or adapt to the people with who I talk. The funniest is that few years before I won’t recognised myself in the video, meaning we can indeed improve our social intelligence :) Thanks for the video!

I always found your relationship videos informative & useful. 😊 I will continue to support you on KZfaq. 👍

This is is the best way to explain accomodation vs. people pleasing. I appreciate this break down 🙏🏾🧠

I have some but not all of these signs. Now I know what to work on to improve my social intelligence; thank you!

I think I can improve on “active listening” and “conflict management”. While I try to actively listen, it often happens that a certain thing they say causes an association and then I’m suddenly following my thoughts. I am then completely missing what else the other person is saying. If it is a one on one conversation I usually tell them that I went into a thought process and ask them if they can repeat what they just said. I’m not sure yet how I can avoid following my own thoughts, but maybe it isn’t always too bad either since the other person usually responds positively when I try to get back to listening. On conflict management: when a conflict occurs, mostly between two other people, I’m usually “freezing” and not sure what to do to de-escaluate the situation. These situations happen when I’m with a friend that gets into a conflict with someone we meet. I often feel somewhat bad that I do nothing and let just everything happen - even if the two persons hurt eachother (physically or verbally).

I’m good at reading emotions. I have a high EQ, understand how others tick, people like talking to me & I appreciate differences

I mostly find myself having hypothetical ideas that end up being correct but I'm never able to use the right information to do it. I think I relate to maybe being empathetic (EQ), appreciating differences (that one was a natural), active listening is something I try my best to do and maybe the understanding a little. So about half ? That's just me though. Maybe people perceive me a different way. Infact, I had problems of people NOT talking to me at a point where I cared about it. I love my alone time but it started going over what I wanted it to. That's why I question if I am or not. Halfly thanks for bringing my thoughts up ! It was useful for sure !

i suppose i am, not trynna blow my own trumpet lol, but i do understand myself a lot, and i know i have these traits honestly this was a feel-good video, i feel amazing after this!

I love your art style keep up the great work!

Great job with this. ❤

I'm so early! I love your channels videos

If you are still loving someone and neglecting the flaws and shortcomings then indeed you are incredible.

So happy I’m early for once

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I believe I am an intelligent person, though not quite “genius level”, but at least smarter than the average Joe, as I have an increased knowledge and understanding of who I am and various other topics, not to mention planning things out for the future. One thing that I would like to improve on is this area, of social intelligence.

I always love to think of myself as a very intelligent person. As a matter of fact, I've always been smart regardless.

It happened just a few hours ago. I got approached twice for directions. I felt like i had an "information desk" sign above my head. I love to help people and i guess i radiate that. Also at my new job there are some grumpy older guys who visibly lighten up when they talk to me. I'm relatively young in comparison (39). One guy came into my office which i share with an older guy (he's not that grumpy but a bit lazy ... he takes a lot of smoke breaks) and said "You guys need to do some work now and stop chatting and wipe that dumb grin of your face." i instantly reacted with "Look who's talking, going to a tea party." he was carrying a teapot. He started laughing and we joined in. :)

Im incredibly socially intelligent. Id say Im mainly emotionally intelligent, but have severe ADHD. Its hard to active listen when you cant concentrate for more than 30 seconds

I'm working on it.

hi can we make a video about INFJ depresion

Being that way intelligent i can say that background music is pleasure and at same time very upsetting

Awesome 🤔😊👍🏾

I’m kind of in the leadership position in my school coding club. I don’t know how to be a leader because I’m not as much social and because of that May impose sort of weird effect or impression on others. I genuinely care about people and want to help or listen or understand their feelings, but often fail to show that. It usually takes time for them to get comfortable or understand that I don’t have any bad intentions

0:51 well so far it fits with me being able to tell in what mood a person is just by their expression, well maybe most people don't bother actually seeing the expression they just look at it... 0:54 on the other side effective communication comes from experience and knowing how to approach a person while also considering their mood, so observing and reacting are two different things, well in my case I'm quite good at observing and quite awful at reacting unless I have been in the situation before, well even then it's not a guarantee it will turn out for the better... 1:19 well if empathy is feeling what other feel I'm quite bad at it... but I have the imagination to put my self in the place of someone else and try to see the situation from their view, I wouldn't really call this empathy because it won't allow me to feel how hurt they are be it emotional or physical pain, on the other hand if I felt what I presume they feel right now considering that I tried to put my self in their shoes, I can remember how I felt in a similar situation and well it gives me a rough idea of how they are feeling, but I wouldn't call this empathy... 2:20 reading the room is easy for me, acting accordingly is the hard part... 2:51 no... I like talking to people, well talking is not the word it's more like I like to discuss philosophical topics, I really dislike small talk... well most people are not interested in such discussions, considering that it should not make any difference if you are making small talk or talking about deep topics, well maybe small talk is more enjoyable to them just like I enjoy more to discuss the universe or the possibility of afterlife... 4:35 you know one reason to avoid conversation would be because the conversation is on an emotional topic... and if you are an emotionally unavailable person, well you would rather have an excuse to not have the conversation than engage in it, why is that.. don't know ask someone that is EU if you manage to make them talk about such things...

Social intelligence isn’t easy to master-if it were, there wouldn’t ever be another awkward conversation at a party. However, working toward a strong social intelligence can lead to a richer life-or, at least, an easier time making a few new friends.

More more more...... Please.... We want more types of intelligence

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I believe I am highly socially intelligent, always knowing what to say and do. Let's see how that changes after I see this video EDIT: I definitely am highly socially intelligent, more so that i initially realizedm

That's why I gather people around me without intent, especially considering the situation wasn't exactly personable

A new video!

I am a follower.

I might have made my friends too happy and I made my friends cry knowing they we’ll be fine :)

People enjoy talking to me but I don’t like it when people I don’t know walk up to me and try to have a conversation with me it makes me really nervous but I can usually tell if someone is a person who I can be friends with so if they talk to me I will warm up to them eventually

I was forced to have these growing up with 10 other siblings. It's crazy, but fun!

One of your few videos where none of the bullet points apply to me.

Love the video ❤❤When is Brandon going to be in a video again? I miss the male voice over every now and then

All of the above for me.

If Im right 80 to 90% of actual communication/social interaction is actually through body language, facial expression, eye contact, and etc. Not through speech, although tone is another key factor. Dont just listen to the person talking to you says. You can glean more from the body language, etc., from those around you but not talking to you to get a feel of the social atmosphere.

Thank Yiu

I can barely socialize with my parents 😭

Real!!

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Well this is something i have mastered ❤

The Dr Riggio animation is so cute

Is it possible to have high social intelligence and be a people pleaser?

Hm, seems like I’m probably not socially intelligent. I really have a hard time listening, handling my emotions, and knowing when someone has a need that isn’t met. I’ve been trying to improve but I haven’t seen much progress in about 2 years

What a fantastic video to be honest I am not an intelligent person

Cant believe i got all of them

People tell me I'm highly intelligent, but I'd say I'm pretty socially intelligent.

Bruv I need a video on how to be more social intelligence

*believes I am not socially intelligence as I am reserved* Whelp this video just proved me wrong...

This whole time I thought that having social skills were just being able to talk to people and understand emotions but wow that’s a lot of things to process TvT Sometimes I wonder whether I have high or low social skills because I’m able to talk with my friends a lot but they just say “Shut your goofy ahh ass up”. I don’t get it, what am I doing wrong. I’ve tried being nice, caring, compassionate, sympathetic. I’ve tried sharing my things, apologizing for being annoying. I have a whole guide from google on how to make friends. The same thing always happens In Every single school I go to. The only time I get acknowledged is when my friends are feeling down and they need someone to vent to because they know I would actually comfort them, as the others would most likely just say “hahaha, L, I’ve been through worse”

Your voice is soooo relaxing and beautiful. ❤️❤️💐💐

Some of this is very mixy in my opinion but I get the gist

What happens if you are socially intelligent and an introvert?

Me not knowing I've been intelegent all this while 😢 Thank you psych2go

Me with Autism: _These are confusing time_

i need a tutorial on how to do that

Yeah 👍👍😌

I think everything fits me except people like talking to me?😅 because I’m a bit quiet and probably look intimidating .. not a lot of people talk to me. But it’s ok I also don’t like to talk a lot

As someone who’s held a leadership position in almost every job I’ve had, I related to this so much. Also, I’ve been the “therapist” friend in my friend groups. People trust talking to me about sensitive and personal things, and appreciate my input when it’s asked for. I really enjoyed this one! 🩵

Hi!

I don't know If I'm socially intelligent or just really really non-confrontational

Psych2go pls make a video about a friend that don't like ugly girl,who smile eventually I wanna be her friend,but my best friend didn't let me. I was her first friend

First ❤❤

Does this mean bullies/very noisy people have very low social intelligens? (Very noisy as just obviously annoying)

It feels wrong to be this early..

I'm a super shy person, but a good excersise is talking to people on the street. Like the folks at Starbucks (not a sponsor)

This video is making me feel bad about myself😖

After watching this cartoon..I’m now leveling up

I have no social intelligence. My brain does NOT process small talk. Ask me how I am, I'll think about it for 3 mins then give an honest answer. I can't do small talk. It's my blind spot. I don't waste time, I'm direct and to the point. I'm not rude, I'm very attentive to how other people feel around me. I just don't do small talk.

Very nice good video 유익한 정보 채널입니다~. 항상 응원합니다 좋은 시간 되세요 또 뵙겠습니다

As some with high functioning autism relatable

There is this girl in my clas she stares at me in some classes but I think it as friends as she claims me as here best friend. I still dout it as my firends saw too. They are saying me they asked her t or d who would you date in the class they said she said my name so.

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how to get out of denial even after knowing u r init but its hard to leave?

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It's hard to empathize with a narcissist who constantly expresses anger just to get a rise out of people. So I don't. Other than that I can.

Can you try to make more videos about extroverts?

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High social intelligence sounds like a lot of work