I feel like a robot learning to be a human

I always wished I could be one of those people who can make a total stranger feel comfortable talking to me

my problems are a) I never know what to say and b) I worry a lot about making people uncomfortable when I want to engage a conversation with a stranger

The part when he said "go out and talk to people and you'll learn what's not appropriate" stuck a chord with me. I've spent years saying inappropriate things and watching people excuse themselves from a conversation with me. It's a horrible feeling to see people backing away because I just wanted to be relatable.

1970: We will have flying cars by 2020. 2020: How to talk to a person tutorial.

Everyone coming out of quarantine watching this to re-learn being a human

Rule no.1 listen twice as much as you talk. Silence is powerful. if in doubt, get people talking about themselves.

For me, the hard part was silences; I was always afraid they would make me or the other person feel awkward. It really helped when I learned that awkwardness is a normal part of life and relationships, and not a problem at all. When you embrace the fact that sometimes there will be silences and awkwardness and that it is okay, talking to anyone becomes 200% easier

My biggest problem isn’t that I’m shy to talk to people, I just don’t know what to say.

that moment when your life becomes so sad that you have to look up ‘how to talk to people’

I completed the 100 interactions challenge in 13 days. Feels amazing, though most of them were people I knew, number of interactions grew slowly as I progressed. On my way to be more confident 💪

Me offline :- introvert online :- super extrovert

I can talk to people but I always feel like I'm bothering them when I'm talking to them ;-; so I don't

“So just get out there and talk to more people,” My social anxiety: anyways what’s plan b

I'm feeling it the other way around. Texting feels so difficult. You have to understand how to come off as confident, funny, what's odd to say or what emoji fits to each situation. There are real subtleties that younger people might feel more fluent with.

Talking feels embarrassing. I’m so nervous about tripping over my words, or saying the wrong things. It feels like a weight is on my shoulder everytime I try to write or talk. I’m breaking out of this mindset and doing better to keep communication steady, flowing, and beautiful like I had when I was a child!

My biggest problem is that I have a fear of just having an awkward conversation. It just bugs me.

bruh my mind just fucking goes blank when talking to someone

The main point is to reduce online interactions and try to go and interact with people in real life to have all the factors playing like " sign language, etc. " so If we want to improve our social and communication skills we just have to try to talk to different people even by saying hi • This is what I have understood from the video and for anyone reading my comment I hope you have a great day

If there was one mistake I made in life and now regret, it was that I didn't spend the rest of my childhood going out and spending time with friends and learning, observing, and building social skills to be able to talk to people. Like everyone in the comments section, I was also socially awkward and introverted, and my dumass old self said that I didn't need to interact with people because it was a waste of time and energy to even try. That mindset led me to what I am currently feeling: loneliness, pathetic, and a lack of self-confidence and communication. Every time I try to talk, I either talk too fast or say something that people won't know because I keep on mumbling or stuttering. And the replies I get are "Sorry, I don't understand?" or "Can you speak slowly?" or "Can you repeat that one more time?" IT'S SO DAMN FRUSTRATING AND I HATE IT, NOT ON THE PEOPLE WHO ARE ACTING LIKE THIS, BUT IM MAD AT MYSELF FOR WHY I BECAME LIKE THIS. And even after multiple attempts to improve this problem, I still manage to fumble and repeat this cycle again and again. Now all I ever wanted right now is people or at least someone who I could talk to normally and to make sure I kept them accompanied and made them feel comfortable around me, not being an anti-social and awkward person who was dying on the inside and always blaming themself. Right now, I'm still finding ways to be a better social person, and I will promise to become a better person for myself and for those, I dearly want to spend my time with. (I speaking this to the commenters below, because I know you all can relate to this and it's ok, we all can have our time to overcome it if you are experiencing the same problem. Feel free to comment.)

"Just go out there and start talking to more people" *laughs in global pandemic*

- Secret To Getting Better At Talking To People ? - Talk To People. - Thanks Improvement Pill.

A lot of people need to be watching this video right now. I think all the wisdom you put into this video will help them also 🙂.

I love this channel so much. Their teachings make me a better person every day. A hug from Brazil

Pro tip that helped me break out of my shell: people are always in their thoughts. they're always thinking more about themselves than you are. Nobody is judging you as much as you think they are and if they are in the rare sitution, judgement is quite literally a reflection of how someone feels about themselves. Basic Psychology !

My problem isn't that I can't talk confidently, my problem is I stay silent when I'm in school or out of home. I only talk to people of my interest.

I’m finally getting to the point to where I can talk to people with all most no anxiety and I all most have fun,so keep on working on it you can become social!!

One of the things that I learned from a book who I read in the past about how to talk better with other people was the golden rule of conversations : Stimulate the people talking about themselves, cause there isn't nothing more interesting to them than themselves.

The secret to get better at anything: practice.

i was a shy and timid girl, i'm so scared to talk to my friend or classmate. so my first step on practicing to communicate and open up is by greeting the cleaners in my school. i mean they are the one that keep our school clean, so i at least need to appreciate and greet them, right? just a simple "morning!" and smile then walk away, but that small step that i took really help me feel comfortable to speak today

Getting a customer service job in retail really helped me. It was really hard the first few months but it’s basically social practice with every interaction, so you catch on quickly.

This is very true. I used to have terrible anxiety, and didn't help I was autistic. Really it comes with practice. I work customer service now doing pest control so talking to several customers each day. Each time someone wants to talk with me I listen, especially if they are telling a story. You learn so many great things. Even just chatting with people on the street. You begin to realize maybe most people are not as hostile as you once thought and it gets easier.

For those who feel self conscious about not knowing how to talk to people and watching a video on how to do it, there’s nothing to feel ashamed of. Communication is a skill and can be learned and mastered over time. Let’s all become great communicators. I’m taking this journey with too.

What I've learned is that everyone is just waiting for the other person to start the conversation, which often leads to an awkward silence due to both sides waiting for the opposing person to begin engaging the topic. Talking first, or starting with an introduction or a handshake isn't really awkward. You may think that people may see you as odd or a show-off, but that is purely or mostly in your own thoughts. In contrast, in my personal experience, when someone starts the conversation first, I feel relieved more than I feel annoyed at them.

I've recently gone through a hard time and realized that main problem is how I talk to people. This helped me so thanks

you guys take it easy on yourselves everything will turn out alright. learn and be patient you will grow to be successful with time and build meaningful relationships

Me : why no ones approaching me? Also me :*giving unapproachable aura*

‘You aren’t born socially handicapped’ Autism: Am I a joke to you

this is by far the most helpful video ive seen about getting better at talking to people thank you

I learnt that small talk is a great way to start a conversation, because once you ask about how their day was and all that, you can get to the deeper stuff, and have a meaningful conversation

One thing that helps me is to realize that everyone is just a person. No matter if it’s your crush or just another person, they aren’t actively evaluating you and determining whether you are worth being around. They’re just talking to you. You’re also just a person to them and they’re not gonna think your stupid for approaching them, especially if you are already friends.

Every conversation I have feels like an FBI investigation where I just ask a bunch of questions and get one worded responses and then the conversation dies after a couple seconds.

I cannot second more what it's being said in this video. I used to be a very awkward kid, kind of nerdy and insecure in every aspect of life. So I decided to pick up a career that would put me in the game so I could master social skills: I studied and took a degree in nursing. Now I talk to people 90% of my week, I can say yes it does improve, but you still have to put some effort in it and apply to really understand the setting and stuff. But it does pay off indoubtedly (many patients now appreciate my person and enjoy socializing with me even though I still feel a little bit awkward sometimes).

Ok, this comment should be my start of my communication skills improvement journey. Let's go!🎉

I honestly just hate awkward silence. I want to talk continuously but then they say that I’m too talkative. I barely talk and I get labeled the quiet kid.

"you aren't born socialy handycaped" *asperger intensifies*

Can confirm, it worked for me. I'm still nervous to talk to people but once I get the conversation started, it essentially drives itself.

This is actually really helpful, short and always on the points of what I'm looking for.

I’ve learned to just stay calm. I used to get anxious when talking to people, especially random people who just walked up to me. Wether it’s a causal convo on the street, or a job interview, I always listen to understand, think about the question/statement, and then respond as if we are friends just having a convo. I also find that smiling and being open tends to help a lot as well, and that makes the other person feel comfortable enough to have a conversation.

I used to be super sociable as a child but over time I got put down and pushed away so I felt bad about it and ended up being very introverted and socially scared.

I liked the challenge of 100 interaction 😍 Making friends and socializing with people who will help us to improve is soo crucial. This requires us to go beneath the facade of social media, and jump on to interact with as much people as possible in real life in order to learn more from them and about them .

I've always felt too anxious to talk around my circle of friends. But they're extra gentle with me and am grateful for it.

Me : _Ho-ho so you're approaching me?_ Someone : Yes Me : *Runs away*

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too the man with 3.27m subscribers, thanks for the help. gave me perspective on how I've been viewing my personal interactions

Agreed. Only till I got a job and talked to new people/customers did I begin to feel more confident and don’t feel embarrassed anymore. Which is massive. I can still be very quiet at times when I don’t know what to say but I know im improving all the time :)

Don't go out simply to talk to others but talk to people as you attend an event or do a task. This will help you not get attached to the outcome.

I'm shy, awkward, introverted and I overthink a lot. This is why I don't socialize. It's exhausting but I'll try. *Edit: Dude, I didn't even know it'd reach this amount of likes. I thought my comment was just cringe asf. An update in my life for those who're curious; ftf classes started and I am faced with a bunch of people to interact. The first day of school was nerve-wracking. I had to sit all by myself in the corner of the room as I knew no one. However, I was not entirely alone. There was one person in front of me who also seemed to be really nervous just as I am. Hence, I tapped on their shoulder and made light conversations like, "what's your name?" "you should sit next to me, I feel kind of lonely all alone here hahaha". One way to enhance your communicating skill is to make the first move. I, myself don't like small talks but everything has got to start from scratch. My hands were literally shaking. I was thinking of how to continue the conversation. Luckily, this dude was quite talkative, hence everything went well and we became friends. I felt awesome after that. I'm still working on how to talk to a big group of people but this much is already a big improvement on my side.*

thank you so much for this video, because here others are explaining why you can’t do it, but they never really answer the question. i’m constantly using analogies to get ideas across to others, so providing an example with a solution was very useful.

the most accurate and helpful video i found.

Literally the easiest way to talk to people is to ask questions. Most people love to talk about themselves it also keeps the conversation going and it makes people think you’re actually interested in what they’re saying

Bold of you to assume i can even text people

Really Helpful Video ✨ , and thanks for the playlist too 🤝

thanks improvement pill, i now get to know why i am like this, such a socially awkward person because in my teen i don't have much friends in school and always gets trolled after saying something, so i started talking less in school as i starting to develop the fear of getting judge and trolled, at coaching i talks a lot but again people there always talk trash and just troll each other and laugh thinking it funny, so i didn't learn much there as well, at home my parents never let me go out and talk with any stranger as well and because of this fear that i started to have since my 3rd or 4th class and became deeper in my 10th class, i started to prefer being with myself rather than being with those asshole people, got toxic friends since childhood so if i ever try to make a new friend they just didn't let me do it as well and i was such a fool to let them do it as well, and that's how my social skills became worst by time, my 11th and 12th was in lockdown period so i was so comfortable at home as no school,no more need to see those people's face again, just gave exams and straight back to home, got literally no friends in class as well, but now when i worked upon my confidence, i will definitely try to interact with people as i need to learn how to talk as soon i need to get into corporate world, so yup thanks, i think i wrote too much haha, if you read till here, thnks buddy, have a nice day :) (even i learned to communicate and express myself in comment sections better through observing other comments, how they just vent out without fear of getting judged, so thanks to it i got unfiltered in comment section communication, haha)

I used to be very shy. A couple of months ago I said life is awesome and just started naturally talking to people. Literally with anyone. When I didn't know what to say, basically the first thing that came to my mind I said it. I was talking one time with a stranger about the weather and then when the silence came, I literally started talking about the school systems out of nowhere. At first it was VERY awkward, I was like an alien, I didn't know anything but right now I'm very different than a couple of months ago. I started loving and having respect for myself. Then everything else started coming to me positively. I'm still improving but I'm not really shy anymore.

People who aren’t/weren’t allowed to go out and meet people as kids/teens definitely know the struggle of starting conversations 😭

This is one of the best videos I've seen in my life🎉

Bro I searched so many videos how to get rid of my social anxiety and this video was the most helpful one and the message is to just talk to people

COVID has truly ruined my social life.. 😭

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I'm very socially underdeveloped. I was born with bad eyesight and it's extremely difficult to "observe" the social goingons from a visual standpoint. I'm incredibly shy, and have learned the art of "becoming invisible." I have lots to do to catch up to my peers in that aspect, but I always thought it was interesting how my eyesight, albeit mixed with my introverted personality, makes it so hard to be social. I just learned the other day, that people smile at each other when they pass by each other, at least where I am. No one ever told me for almost 17 years that that's what you do, because people usually just figure it out. Sad, but absolutely fascinating to me.

I don’t really need a course but I’m definitely down the 100 interaction challenge. I’m working on improving my communication skills and found this video in my research. Thank you 🙏

I don't why, but I always feel anxious everytime I talk to people.

I find it easy talking to people but it’s crazy how many people can’t carry a basic conversation sometimes

Thanks to your video I know how far I really am with my social skills especially by far as to how to communicate with other people and most of the time I struggle on what I need to say whenever I do have something in my mind but then I forgot what I need to say and sometimes I don't have anything to say which can be very difficult for me to start conversations with some people I'm interested in and I've been dealing with this problem since my middle and high school years.

I was way more shy before, but after I stopped worrying about making them talk I kind of just started to talk, and people really appreciate when you are the guy talking. Because it’s better for one guy to talk than for no one to talk. What you also can do is have small pauses to make them talk if they want. Talk, talk about what you do, and one more thing. Why, how and what, these are things you can ask yourself and other people to keep the conversation going😊

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For me texting is so hard but talking in person is a bit easier...

omg this makes so much sense! i started to have social anxiety after lockdown. have to people watch more often

"phone = bad"

my problem is that I forget words because of my anxiety it sucks.

Me: *Crying in introvert*

Yeah, you are correct. I get nervous while addressing people who are not familiar and kind of introvert. Not getting options to talk to people for giving chance to my brain. Thanks

thank you so much for taking the time to address this topic. Make it simple I am sharing this with my 14 yr old socially awkward grandson. This is the answer of the why

There's something so sad about these kinds of videos. As an introvert, I don't normally talk to people but as moments progress, we really meet some amazing people we want to have a conversation with and it really sucks when we don't know how to maintain them. I'm afraid I'll lose them someday because of how inexperienced I am of this. It's never easy but still, we'll get through these introverts :)

I'm just afraid of having a weird and boring conversation or being ignored And also to sit and silence fill the conversation

One thing i learned that i need in order to overcome my social anxiety is not to avoid any social setting and i am trying my best to do so. hope i will finally be able to live without fear of interaction.

Yo bro thanks on letting me know on how I could get better at talking to people, because for the most part I am really awkward and shy and don’t like meeting new people, but after seeing your video it really makes wanna go out and start a new conversations with people, but like what you say it dose take time so I’ll start practicing it so I can improve.

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I struggle to transition from small talk to deeper conversations, and im always scared of saying something stupid or weird. But i’ve been learning slowly but surely that it doesnt matter if i mess up, life goes on, and people who are worth keeping in ur life wont care about if u say something dumb or weird

Tbh I just clicked on this because the thumbnail made me feel all warm and cozy.

I changed because of these video. Thank you so much for made me feel better and enjoyed my life, before watch these video i feel so sucks and i couldn’t even talking with people because i have a lot things to thinking before i speak..

My actual handicap is my lack of interest into a communication with others. I literally can't even think of a topic to talk about and find myself too often to be way too different anyways. But in the rare case I have a similar interest like the other person, I actually find myself capable of prolonged small talk. (But heck, that's rare.)

Me: **is curious & wants to touch something** My mom: Don’t touch that Me: **wants to speak my mind** My mom: Don’t say that Me: **wants to talk to people** My mom: Don’t trust anyone Me: Mom, I think I have social anxiety My mom: Bullsh*t. I didn’t raise you like that. Now get out there.

My biggest problem is that if someone judges me of my talking. I hate and I am scared of people who judges me and I think that’s why I am always quiet and shy. When I am around my bestest friends I will be completely a whole person but when there are strangers in that room I suddenly become silent. In school also if there is any programme or interaction classes I starts to stammer while talking. My head becomes completely blank while I am talking in front of my classmates/schoolmates. Next week I am joining medical course. So I know that there will be so many cases in which I should interact so that’s why I am searching for videos that helps me interact. I wish this course will be my turning point of my life of becoming a confident and courageous person who I have always dreamed of.

Im getting better with my communication skills. All my therapists I have had in the past have helped me along the way.

I grew up in abusive household, didn't get to go out and socialize much. All those years was hell for me. I become too self-concious, had low self-esteem and severely depressed. At school, i wanted to start talking but didn't, because i felt i had no experience and i would just sound dumb. Few years later, i went to college and met inspiring people that helped me become better. Don't ever let people's negativity bury you, Don't ever be afraid of becoming better.✌️🦋

I grew up being introvert and timid so socializing to people is what I'm really scared of. I just feel like once I stutter or make mistake, they'll judge me. But then, recently I started to change my mindset and slowly practicing how to communicate without sounding awkward. It was hard but sure will get used to it if you're consistent. I'm glad I watched this video and learned a lot on how to be better at talking. So to anyone who's like me, always remember that everything takes time, so keep practicing and never give up!

I watched this video way back in january 2023, the night before my first time meeting with my online friends. Now, it's all over.

The best way is to practice it directly……Exactly what I was looking forward to hear though what I have been struggling to do😢