Thank you

thank you for making me comfortable:) ❤

:)

💖

Ty

Same.

You're more than loveable, you are love itself. You've just forgotten.

I... I never relate so much with a comment.... Exactly what I am feeling now..

Same here. I'm not going to get married because of this fact. It's my only way of getting justice.

h@@chinemeremohaeri9100 That's not justice. You only hurt yourself and maybe a person who is actually a good one.

Aww. That's was cute.may God find the right person for you.untill than love your self be happy .and just keep looking nice hot it will HAPPEN .

lmao

🤣😂🤣

I'm sorry but that is the funniest misunderstanding I've ever seen!

@@giuseppeprofiti6823 aww ok every one veiw is different thank on how they explain things..I guess it was little deep...AND MAYBE FUNNY..it's was ment for good... But thanks

I given up on love still have more money but no one talks to me no one loves me. I prefer peaceful alone life and gaming computer

@@Deernailt I'm working on being stable in my feelings and mind so that I can at least be in control of my wellbeing.

I feel that right now. I'm 25. The difference is it's always the distance and circumstances that makes everything fall apart. I think it's the ingrowing selfishness that's making it more impossible to find love. That and how everything is set up for us to just have a hard time getting on the path of love. I'm told I don't have to follow along with everyone else. But so far it looks like almost everyone else is doing the same thing, give up. I want to be a good wife to my husband. But I'm scared it won't happen for due to many forces :(

If ur a man..let's date each other..I m 39 though😂😂😂if ur interested..not love just date

Check out the black pill. Either wheat waffles or itv. It is the truth, trust me. It’s not your fault you are single. This proves it.

Factual 🎯

I used to feel that way until I realized there were some positive things about being single and that not all couples are happy. So, whenever I feel lonely or feel like I'll never find someone, I remind myself that there are worse things in life than being single. For example, I got the chance to study abroad for a semester due to a scholarship. While I still felt like a loser for not being married or even having a boyfriend, the moment my friends who were married/had kids heard I was traveling abroad for a semester, they expressed how jealous they were because they said their significant others would never let them travel anywhere like that. And many of them ended up breaking up years later due to how toxic the relationships were. I would still like a loving romantic relationship one day, but I know there are worse things in life than being single too and try to keep it in perspective.

Social media has made all things worse. People care about and pursue people that are not real or are too far away instead of focusing on those around them. And specially women get SO much attention from SO MANY men they are always tired and have no patience for men at all. Happens from time to time to attractive men as well (although I'm mostly harrassed by gay men...being heterosexual myself)

Yeah, same

Right

I can tick 5/6 of these 😄

Mine is 4/6 :')

Thanks

I feel number 3 allll too well:(

Mines all

It can be very disregulating. Having real chemistry with someone though is awesome but very elusive

YES. I have limerence (maybe you do too? Look it up, there's a good blog on it) and feeling THAT deeply, all the time, is literally life-draining for me. It's like I'm older, I grew out of videogames and I grew out of "love" too. But heck maybe one day I will settle for Mr. "good enough" because I gotta procreate.

Agreed!

Same. But if you love truly and don’t think that you must have the same back it’s just showing you that you love genuinely. That’s a start. Don’t give up on that. This kind of love is the most beautiful, it’s one of your most powerful virtues. You just have to learn what kind of people you attract and what kind of people you want to attract. And work on your boundaries-if that’s the case. Like if you give too much. It will bring you closer to that kind of a person you need. Because we attract what we are.

@@basia6222 true true. Thanks :)

It's the thing. You are too nice and women don't like that. Also, you want love too much and it's visible, even if you think it isn't visible. Women don't like that. And i'm the same way. I'm 40. I had relationship 5 years ago, but she left me really badly. I know a guy who always wants to be just alone. But everybody seeks his attention. He left a girl he spent years with and now he is with another and has child with her. He didn't even want it. He didn't want a child and not even to jump into another relationship after the last one. And that's exactly it. Everybody wants to be with him, because he wants to be alone. It is extremely weird, but that's how it is. It's like we are living in some kind of twisted matrix or something and i wanna wake up.

Sad im 35 too

Continue to learn, and try to believe in yourself alone as what's best for you.

I'm not a breath of fresh air because my 15 year marrage is in jeopardy and I'm at a huge loss loosing my loved one. But the brighter side is hoping that we find our selves in this spiritual journey on this earth. I pray that we all can find peace in these uncertain times. Amen

I feel you. I hope you find peace within yourself

same, i lost this girl who we had a good bond left, im hurt like a mf and we didn’t even date

Pain brother, I feel you.

Understandable, not everyone in this world is meant for a relationship.

Personally, feeling the most I ever was and I'll ever be is the perfect best friend "great", "funny" , "reliable", "sweet", "smart", "generous", "honest", "stubborn", "mysterious" guy... How can I believe any of that when there is nobody. Who's fucking there when it's about romantic relationshipe huh ?!! What am I in the end ? What do I do wrong in the end ? Should I just pretend I didn't love anybody If my love wasn't real, how does it comes to hurt so much inside ... I gave up, because I feel if I ever invest slightly more feelings into this, I'll just break from the inside It make no sense to me an if I happen to love someone, I just go away. I estimate they deserve better, so that I won't be hurt and they'll be happier

Damn I feel u...

@@HaydenNK3 Screw them. The world doesn't deserve you. If your virtues don't fit what most people are looking for then the world is unfitted for you.

You might be aromantic. When I think about romantic stuff it’s always in the context of some kind of media like a show, but in my own life if people try to be romantic I will probably react by getting angry and not expressing it so basically not fun time

Nope! Makes people taking about your "past relationships" weird because you have no experiences to fall back on! Literally me!

@@microwavebrain1035 I don't think so. I know that when I love it's deep so I'm probably protecting myself. I have a big problem with trusting people since you get vulnerable when you open your heart to someone.

@@katnisseverdeen219 Same

Same. Feels weirder and weirder every year as people settle around you. I blame bullying, made me afraid to open up to people. That and introversion...

Thissss part

Same bro

Nah, you did the right thing by telling her, otherwise you would lose sleep overthinking if she likes you or not. Now you have the answer and can move on.

Reminds me of my high school days. I had a lot of trouble connecting with people, let alone the opposite sex. Then I met this girl at summer school. We exchanged emails, and eventually started hanging out (she lived in a different town, about an hour away). When I finally asked her to go steady with me, something just "flipped" in my brain, and I went from being funny and playful to serious and over-emotional. And clingy. And easily jealous. It wasn't until years after she broke up with me that I had an epiphany reading through our old emails, and I could see the jarring shift in how I was behaving. I thought to myself, 'Christ, it's no wonder she left! I don't even want to read this nonsense, and I'm the one who typed it!' But I don't want to end this on a bad note. There's a lot of things I learned about myself over the years. I'm a long way from my high school days (I'm 37 now), but I've had some good relationships, some rocky relationships, some "that'll do for now" relationships, and some that never went past a date or two, for one reason or another. Some of the failures were my fault, some of them were theirs, some of it was shared. But bit by bit it helped me develop into a man that sees the worth and potential in himself, and can make his mind up if he sees potential in a possible partner or if they'll just waste his time (yes, guys can say "no" too). I'll share a few things that have helped me along the way. If you don't feel these would be useful, then you don't have to take them, but they've helped me develop a better understanding of myself and others. 1. I have little respect for the PUA community, but the only PUA I have any respect for is David DeAngelo. While most PUAs try to teach a bunch of "tricks" to try manipulating a woman into bed (which is just downright scummy and most women will see through it from a mile away anyway), David focuses on *building yourself up* to becoming a more attractive person naturally. Based on your original post, I'd say to take a look at his Deep Inner Game program, which is focused on working through your personal issues and any past trauma that might be holding you back, not just in your romantic relationships but your life as a whole. That and a good therapist (emphasis on "good" -- I've had some $#!+ty therapists over the years) will make you unstoppable. 2. Someone in a similar vein but coming from a different direction is Marni from the Winggirl Method. She talks about human attraction from a woman's perspective, and shares a lot of the same philosophy as David. I know a lot of the, ahem, 'nice guys' in the PUA community don't like taking advice from women, but where's the logic in that? "Asking a woman for dating advice is like asking a fish how to catch it." Yeah, and asking a guy who doesn't have a clue what he's doing for dating advice is like asking a guy with a soldering gun how to weld the Brooklyn Bridge together. 3. There's an amazing book called King Warrior Magician Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette talking about the human psyche, relating it to the common archetypes we've seen in pop culture over the generations, and expanding on the work of psychologist Carl Jung. It's been out of print for like 30 years, but the audio book has been posted on KZfaq several times. I highly recommend it. One of the best self-help books ever written

Check out the black pill. Either wheat waffles or itv. It is the truth, trust me. It’s not your fault you are single. This proves it. If you were Chad she would’ve been interested

If you love somebody, you should totally tell them! It's a brave thing to do, but one remarkable thing either way. You just have to work through that shame of loving somebody and what caused you to be creepy that one time. We only get one life, you're already living it to the fullest!

Honestly getting it out and telling them is gonna be your best bet. I recently told the girl I liked that I liked her and I don't expect her to like me back. She told me she doesn't feel the same but that I was nice to be honest with her. After doing that I feel so much better. However the one difference between you and me is that I probably will never see said girl again after this.

Maybe that’s a sign

For real. Like. EV👏ERY👏TIME👏🤨

It's fate for you

If this isn't meeee

exactly-

I know the feeling and felt every bit of that….

Yeah… same

Abuse/Trauma has that effect..the scars and the wrinkles are on the inside.

I hate it when they say that literally "your so young" Im just tired of hearing it

@@jacobchiago1378 same

Honestly the more you look at it the more you realize it doesn't exist. The jealously you feel is your body trying to follow its human programming. Its going to hurt if it is not fufilled. but not as badly as some of these "people" will. Hearbreak will kill you much faster than lonliness.

I'm kinda the same, I think the reason I'm so adamant about refusing to date is because I'm trying to convince myself that it's not worth it. It feels like it's for my own protection. I'm sorry those girls were horrible to you, they didn't deserve you at all. I hope people in your life now have been treating you well

What’s that lol

What kind of food is that "relationship" stuff lol.

Not having one, yeah...

I know that feel.

Ive been in one, it was last year, and honestly I dont even know if it was a legitimate relationship... I truly cant tell(still) if she actually had feelings or if she was just using me..

@@yournewfriend6247 🤗❣️stay strong !

Focus on the good in the world! There is a lot of good out there ❤️

@@janycebrown4071 you don't know that ..how much your kind words make feel so good , thank you so much ! Take Care! Have a nice day ahead! :)))

There may be some good and some bad but that doesn't matter, the only thing you matter is to do what you want, it may to much negativity in life, but that doesn't mean we should be like that, we can become who we want to be. And don't just hope there is more good people but to be like them. Let's keep spreading love and positivity to every where, to everyone. I hope everyone is doing ok and have a happy life, cause life is to short to worry about. ^^. So keep going.

Well unfortunately i still cant find love on a future girlfriend i wish to have but anyways i know its not coming anytime

Sending love ❤

You sound like an interesting person to me. I wish KZfaq would bring back commenting on Channels, and msgs. Cuz when I see interesting comments on KZfaq vids, it makes me wanna contact the person to get to know them better, or become friends, but that usually ends up on another site just to do so being social.

came here to say this I really question whether or not going out and meeting strangers specifically for romantic purposes is the best way of going about it. I feel like getting to know someone as a friend first and then taking said friendship to a higher level is the real way to go about it. I mean, if you can't simply hang out and enjoy another person's company the way you would with a friend, how are you expecting to spend the rest of your life with them? But, of course, a lot of people see things differently. I've just accepted that my approach is that of an outlier, and as such, it's going to be a while before I meet someone I might seriously be able to call a romantic partner.

@@dandarr5035 I agreeee!!!!!!

@@dandarr5035 I agree as well.

@@dandarr5035 this is literally the same exact thought process i have too, it’s nice to see others relating/agreeing

@@dandarr5035 I agree 100%, my problem tho is that im introverted, how tf am I supposed to find me a introverted biddie when we dont go out much lol, except for work obviously

whatzpp her I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out.......

Good. It's old hat. Overrated.

Same here, it was sucking me dry trying to care about a cute stranger

Same. I'm all that I have

Me too comrade, me too

So true. Some people are here to learn self love. It can be good to turn inwards and examine one’s own unconscious

@@wulfsorenson8859 Agreed with this!!!

How do you self love? I'm asking this in a serious manner.

@@ExplosionMare I stopped putting others expectations of me above my own, learned to drop the guilt I carried, I study human psychology, behaviors, traumas, codependency, narcissism, etc. I became acutely aware of how I internally spoke to myself and changed those negative thought patterns, I isolated myself away from socializing and began creative endeavors, like growing plants, reading, dancing, singing, I talk to the unforseen force in my beliefs, I began being intentional in my interactions, with a mental focus of empathy and kindness, especially towards those who attempt to sway my flow out of my own current. It's not been easy, but it's best I've ever done just for myself. It's a continual exploration of within and the honoring of every single one of the qualities you discover in the exploration.

this helps me so much. thanks!

Coulda Been worse she coulda said "I thought you were gay" or "Who are you"

@@painterofplastic1968 Or coulda said *"Why are you in my house"* and *"HOW DID YOU GET IN"* I mean the nerve of some people

@@ilikestrangethingsalot8075 or "I'm telling mom"

@@ilikestrangethingsalot8075 I laughed, thanks for your comment XD

@@painterofplastic1968 But what would be so ba- ... *realization* I'm going to jail {⊙_ ⊙}

Well, you're not technically alone forever, you'll still have friends who'll help you in any way

I know how you feel

Ive decided that im not giving a new girl a chance

I decided not to give another girl any chance

They don't deserve my love

Same here. Toxic love is all around me and I've experienced it firsthand too, to a degree. My trust just keeps lowering so to put my trust in a partner completely sounds terrifying, not to mention unrealistic.

You're seeing people who have settled.. You'll know when you've found real love

🫂❤️

No need to, if you're not ready. Just keep working on yourself.

Lmao same. Especially since the pandemic hit, we’re so used to not go out and meet people

Mood

From what I've seen of dating apps, it's about as exciting as browsing boxes of cereal at the supermarket. I know it works for some, but I wonder about those people.

Aww... DON,T FORCE it ..LET GOD WORKS IT..OUT. JUST kNOW WHAT YOU are looking for..but if you close your self.off it.. won't happen..get dressed UP AND GO . about your DAY and God will let.. it. HAPPEN... good luck..

Yeah, my thoughts exactly.

Points 1 and 2 had me thinking love gave up on me, not the other way around 😥 3-6 assured me that we'd given up on each other...

I was lucky enough to go on one recently and that's the end of that story

u guys ok :(

I was thinking the same thing. Who goes on dates? How can I contact these people? I’ll pay for a dinner, even if I do get ghosted afterwards. Just to say I got out.

Trust me bro Not even a single aspect of my life is going right I don't know what it is But it happened to me all of a sudden And i feel like I'm worthless and i should fucking commit suicide

Hey my fellow human friend… I know your pain you not alone and don’t give up

@@aniruddhadewanji7266 keep holding on man. I feel pretty aimless alot but you just gotta keep pushing through it

@@aniruddhadewanji7266 Don't do that. It may seem that there is no hope for a better tomorrow, but you cannot and should not give up. Because until the sun stops rising, there will always be the chance that things will get better and it would be an awful shame for you to miss it.

@@mindovermatter1453 I'm trying

Kinda same. I am a guy who turned 22 just 4 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend before and its kinda bothering me a lot. I use dating apps but rarely get matches by some 18-23 age girls who ends up ghosting or unmatching me for no reason. I do chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school and they are all 20-22 year olds. I am having a very good chat with a girl who was 2 years my junior in our school days. Now she is 20 and I had the best chat with her for the past 3 days compared to any other girl who lives in my city. But I also like another girl who was my childhood friend when we were in elementary school in 2008-2011. Now she is 21 and only 5-6 months younger than me but we hardly chat much on IG as she doesn't reply to my last message for a week or 2.

love is a inside job noting exist outside of you the external reflects your state of mind

Depends on your gender a lot. If you're a guy, girls your age are out of high school so their dating options expand out to older men. Which is lopsided heavily against you because they've got careers, stability, experience, ect. If you're not getting any dates or matches, it's not because you're going to be forever alone. It's because you're entering the hardest dating bracket for guys age-wise. Use that time to improve yourself instead.

I'm 18 (male) and I'm in the same exact place, it feels so alien sometimes. It really hurts when you feel like you're incapable of experiencing any form of intimacy, It leaves me empty and anxious. But love is real, and I wish you the best of luck in finding it

I know exactly how you feel, I'm 24 years old and I haven't dated anyone, nor have I had my first kiss. I have a hard time relating to people, especially women, and the romance game is not for me. My parents say that I may have ASD since this type of behavior has been present since I was a child. I think that's one of the main reasons I've been rejected all my life and I'm so tired of looking for love that I've given up indefinitely. I'm trying to focus on myself right now, like working out, finishing college, and earning some money, but the feeling of being alone is still getting to me.

Please dont give up!

I gave up. When does it ever not hurt? How come you can spend weeks, months, years trying to make it work, I stopped playing video games for a woman, I barely saw any of my friends for about a year because she told me it seems childish to spend so much time with them and that she needs me at her side. I worked overtime for multiple months to help her pay debts she had - I did everything I thought I could somehow do for her. I was mad in love you see... Yet when she yelled at me more often, when she told me to calm down but I was barely speaking and she was filling the whole house with her voice... When I nearly had enough and told her that I can't accept it staying like that, and that I want us to work it out... She got louder again... At the start of the relationship she truly made my doubts go away, she showed me affection and that she trusted me... Yet in that moment, with a angry look in her face, she told me that she fears me, that she does not trust me - and in that moment my thoughts, my feelings, they just snapped. Colors faded in my perception, the woman I used to love above all else (within seconds) was just another woman to me. I sat down on the couch, motionless, at first without a single tear. I was just absolutely confused. All these great feelings, these months of looking in her face and seeing my eternal partner, and suddenly I realized she did not see me the same again, realized I was just as much a danger in her eyes as any other man she'd see on the street, that I was together with a woman that despised me if the mood fits. Shortly thereafter, I heard her soften her voice, asking me if everything is okay - and I looked at her in her eyes, still confused about this inner conflict, and told her that I don't know if I love her anymore, that it feels like she just broke my heart. Suddenly she looked worried. Suddenly she sounded worried. Sat down next to me, took me in her arms and apologized, but I just couldn't anymore, her touch felt threatening, felt like a bribe, it felt as though she just didn't want to lose her asset. She must've realized then that something inside me changed in that instant, honey became her words, sorrow her intention - but my heart already felt cold. I wanted to punch myself so badly, I wanted to hurt the one responsible for this mess, who gave up over a year of close contact with friends I had since we've been children, who has barely seen any family of himself that whole time, who made himself a slave to her love. I stood up and told her the way it is. That what she said to me hurt me so deeply that now I've felt completely empty emotionally. She cried, I didn't want her to cry and I wanted to somehow assure her - but I couldn't. I couldn't lie to her nor myself, and thought that the sooner it hurts the earlier she'll stop crying because of me. When I told her that it is over, she cried even more heavily. With no comfort I could've given her in that moment, I went and packed the few things I had at her house. Clothes, hygiene articles, some belongings - midway in she comes up the stairs, red face but dried up, and told me to get my shoes and jacket and that she'll pack the rest of my things in a box to carry my stuff in (I've been living about a 3 hour drive from her place originally and could come back to living with my brother for a bit of time). That whole time I was conflicted inside myself, I felt bad for her, felt angry about some of her behavior, I wanted to save myself and yet I despised myself from the bottom of my heart... She spoke to me shortly from up the stairs, angrily yelled again that now she sees that I only used her for her body - in that moment, I was both sure that leaving her was the right decision, but also it hurt so fkin deep... I never was such a guy, I wrote her poems when I had free time, she was the first in the relationship to make a move on me after I've been very careful not to rush her in any way, and yet I realized - in her story to anyone, I'll probably end up the same way she told me about her exes. About these secretly twisted men who abused her so much, supposedly. Every single one was evil pretty much, and now and despite everything, in the eyes of the woman I used to love more than myself, I turned into a monster, some scum of a man... Just a few more shoelaces... Tears started dropping on my shoes, my hands started shaking even harder - she told me to hurry up, I tries - she opened the door, I was nearly done... When she stepped behind me and before I fully got up, she kicked/ram/pushed me out the door frame, making me fall out the door into the frontyard and threw the box with my stuff after me. I slowly got up, took the box and slowly went to my car. The people in the neighborhood, or atleast those currently on the street, all stared at me in silence upon me entering the public space. I sat down the box on the passenger's seat, went around and sat in the driver seat. I thought to myself... It's over... I got away... I won't have to see her again... Some of these thoughts felt as though I was released from imprisonment and yet, as I was thinking that it's good that it's over, finally full sadness broke out. I probably cried for half an hour atleast. With my face sore and red, I calmed myself, gotta focus on the street. Thought about how likely I'd have an accident if I wouldn't focus, and I was sure that I'd just end myself then and there were I to harm someone due to drama and sadness - the drive back was an emotionless, seemingly never ending grey world. This whole deal left me scarred for the first few years after, and even now I cannot help but appreciate the highs and form a ball of sadness while laying in bed due thinking about the low's. Not everything was bad, I cannot lie to myself that other than some really toxic behavior, well other than that she was the first woman and the only ever since that I never doubted emotionally. At some time, I really thought I found her, my true and only partner. I was already struggling with love prior to that relationship, now just the mention of love in regards to me either annoys or let's me slowly slide into the next depressing few days. I don't think I will ever be able to love again. I don't think I'd even want that. I don't know if I wouldn't might draw similarities to this past and I also don't want to be unfair to someone else this way. No, others are happy if they are together with others, that's how it always was, that's how it always turned out to be. I renewed the bonds of friendship with 3 of my best friends, turns out it wasn't even that hard, 2 of them were as though nothing ever changed, 1 was a little sassy drama queen but soon joked about how I need to pay for these past crimes leaving him as a friend by buying the next pizza. :') So yeah, while I'm emotionally scarred, my friends and overall close family members are enough for me to be generally happy. Other than that, I don't know if I could survive this situation 2.0 - already just got the curve, and getting the curve in this context means living my life with quite a lil bit of depression just barely kept out of view and be a functioning human being while enjoying these few times with friends and family. Anyway, sorry for dumping a bit of trauma in here, but I think it helped me a bit, even if it hurts rn in the moment - medicine tends to be bitter, and if I don't get this off my chest somehow it just might pain me more over a longer period (ain't no wish to trauma dump fully unto my friends, they know the gist but I also don't want to take a constant emotional toll on them). So yeah, ima gon live my forseeable life as a loveless man trying to be there for those that count in his life. 2 of my best friend's already got children by now and I fill some kind of Uncle role, that already is more important than some dude and his self hating past ;)

@@__-tp4tmThat sounds very rough but I'm glad you got away from her. It is confusing when people seem like they're great, only to realize they never were. It's easy to see from the outside-in but not when you're the one invested in the person. It's never healthy for anyone to isolate you, though, I had a guy demand so much of my time online that I was pretty much ignoring my family and friends for his sake and it felt horrible. Kind of like your one woman, this one guy fractured a lot of trust I have in people in general, my idea of romance, and all sorts of things. I am still getting over anxieties that caused me to people-please because I always had to please him so he wouldn't get upset. I hope you've not had too many sad episodes and that you've been generally happy in life. It sounds like you have at least around friends. Pain like that definitely doesn't go away but all you can do with it really is learn to deal with it.

@@__-tp4tm This is one of the most touching comments I've ever read. I think you did absolutely the right thing in this situation. But... please never lose yourself or touch with your friends or family because of someone, even it's your partner. Wish you the best, Stranger.

​@@__-tp4tm Bro you're strong for going through this. After reading your story, I'm giving up on love too.

Yep, I know what you mean. Each time "you are so nice, but I don't love you like in a romantic way" or "you're cute, but too nice" fucking hell

When it comes to true love, it is false to believe that someone’s looks will secure the relationship. No matter how beautiful you are on the outside, it doesn’t matter bc at the end of the day it’s your personality that will keep a lasting relationship.

"All these other hoes are tempting, but I'm empty when she's gone." -OMI

True there are a lot of beautiful people out there, but remember looks will fade. After that…what will you have to offer? There’s got to be more than just appearance that keeps the relationship alive.

@@bbyxamy That is not correct. Sure, even a beautiful woman can fail at making a relationship last, but it's physical beauty (esp. when it comes to women) that will get you a relationship in the first place. Men are primarily interested in physical beauty. After that - i.e. if a woman fulfills this first requirement - they look at her personality. But beauty is still the point of entry. In other words: Yes, men are absolutely interested in a woman's personality. But they are only interested in personality in physically beautiful/hot women. There are exceptions to that rule, of course, but there are exceptions to everything.

@@24wallachian Amy Le was talking about true love, which is exactly the exception you are talking about. Well same way I can say women are only interested in personality in physically attractive/rich men. I guess your look rules them all, regardless of gender

If you're asexual and aromantic, shouldn't this mean that you don't want love? Maybe you've been looking for the wrong thing - instead of trying to find "love", try looking for a good friend, who'll always be by your side and support you

@@iluxa-4000aroace means something different to every aroace person. Some date some don't.

Absolutely. Finally someone said the things I've been thinking about.

:/ forever alone

its not your fault dear :( hope ure feeling better now.

Story of my life, it's the worst when they use you and come back saying they missed you when you know all they missed was your wallet. Or when they only got with you hoping for a quick roll in the bed and really wanted nothing more from you

I feel that. I was with only five guys in the last 18 years and yes, I gave up on "love". The first one cheated on me with another guy. The second one cheated with one of his friends, because she had bigger breasts. The third one hit me. The fourth one was a controlling choleric. The last one stole money and things from me to support his weed addiction. I also found out later that he cheated several times. None of these relationships lasted longer than 8 months. I don't have faith in men anymore.

Or actors! :D

Your waifu will never let you down.

Haha, so true. It is much more easier that way

The fact that you got a Xiao pfp makes this comment so much more relatable for me :D

@@MissKairelle lol

Army?!

@@kimryujin2007 yeah :)

I already am insecure, which is why these questions pop in my head 😂

@@crimson_rain_sought_flower you know, it's fine to feel like this. I am too sometimes and often keep them inside me. But at the end it only affects me and that too badly. It's hard to let out feelings. But do try to talk it out with someone you feel who'd understand you or someone you trust. Unknowns can be good listeners too so do talk it out with someone. It will make you feel better. Hope you are doing good and remember I'm proud of you. I don't know you but remember I'm proud of you. Virtual hugs to everyone who needs it. Keep smiling :)

that's why I don't date it's not a good idea if you can't even stand being with yourself

I was in the same boat, and eventually after a bad betrayal just gave up and stopped caring about love. Eventually you'll feel happier single. I'm not saying don't ever try to fall in love but I'm 42 and so far what I've seen is real true love is a pipe dream that everyone wants and few people ever find. People think being married will make them happy. If your not happy individually by yourselves your not going to last in a relationship where bolth people are relying on their significant other to make them happy. Relationships like marriage are about sharing your lives with each other, bolth the good and the bad. And unfortunately far too many guys and girls have unrealistic expectations in relationships, and many try to break it off or stop being faithful the second something goes bad. There is no such thing as a perfect happily ever after relationship without problems, how you work through those problems is what makes or breaks a good relationship. For me I'm happy being single and imo too old to be dating anyway so it's fine by me.

I don't think you don't trust people. I think you don't trust Life.

Same. I don't trust myself cause I have a tendency to freak out when things change and I think they may leave me so I leave them first-

,@@joelmorgan1871 I don't think you're too old for that, you just don't worry about it. Choosing to be with another person doesn't have to be forced...it just happens

dont you worry about your ex having kids......when it comes down, he/she better be ready financially to raise em! I always have this joke about it.. "the best thing about having kids, is making em".

These are facts. Same talk leading nowhere

Yuuuuppp the usual questions "have you eaten? How are you?" Always tires me I feel like a bot

@@nerdinvader6740 bring up stuff that yall like or find a common interest. Take or dont take this advice I haven't had a gf ever, but thats how conversations with friends goes so idk.

Same. Most girls are boring to me and have nothing in common. I like sports, music, video games, fishing but most girls like just such lame stuff

Same😑

Love isnt real just a made up feeling thats suppose to make you left out

I don't think that's true. Sure some people try to force it but a lot of people do find love. The harsh reality however is that not everyone can

@@Entei9000 exactly. However if your not born attractive 9/10 you wont find it

This is what gave me a moment of clarity to understand everything I had ever been told about love and relationships was a complete and total lie. "Be yourself." Is the stupidest piece of advice of all time. It's be so attractive people throw themselves at you regardless of how you are portraying yourself or be stupid rich with the free time to spend it all on them. Nothing else matters.

@@chaospoet exactly

And why don't you do something about it?

@Tim M I've actually only recently booked a consultation with my gp to see if I'm eligible for a mental health plan, which means I'll be able to get free sessions with a mental health professional and hopefully will be able to get meds for my anxiety and adhd issues. Hopefully then I'll be able to focus and get my crap together.

@@mitchymoto3085 Good that you are doing something! Also you need to remember you are only 20/21. It is really young. Trust me, the best couples I know have met in their late 20s or early 30s.

Ace here 🤚

Aro ace👏👏👍same

@@ayaaly2866 yaaas!!!! Aro ace pride!!

@@adoroselatte I'm also ace but I didn't feel like mentioning it in my comment cuz it's more directed towards romance instead of romantic and sexual relations. Aro and ace pride!

@@velvet1371 happy pride

Yesss my mindset 💯

I think giving up hurts more

Same

Yes. Embrace this mindset

I agree. Insanity is doing same thing over thinking life will give anything else

Indeed. The Pollyanna's who make the claim that "everyone" is this or that, psychologically cannot process there are people outside of there existential paradigm. It's too frightening to think people stare into the abyss alone, and will forever be doing so.

Is it that you don't persue the person you like? 🤨

Wow I’m surprised too. I just went to your page and saw how handsome you are , I like your personality too

Guuuuurl for Real - I did the same thing, looked at Erik’s picture. You’re a good looking guy! Maybe think about why you haven’t pursued more relationships - flings or serious. It will give you some insight into your values. I think many women will appreciate a man who hasn’t spent his 20s jumping in and out of bed. What are common interests you would like to share with a romantic partner? If you love books, find a bookstore that has an interesting clientele. If you like chamber music, buy season tickets. I had a friend who signed up for cowboy dancing to meet women. It was something he always wanted to do and met his wife that way. Good luck to you!

Same here. I never had a boyfriend. There was a guy I liked in high school but I also had a friend who also liked him so I decided I wanted to remain friends. She offered to let me date her ex but I didn’t want to feel pitied by people so I declined. Now I wish I had been more forceful and vocalized my attraction to him. Maybe then I would actually have actually experience in love. The problem is I’m very shy and I don’t really know how to interact with people outside my family. Also I have very esoteric interests and I’m in the South right now so I don’t feel comfortable with actually going to meet people (I’m a Neodruidess by belief but I can’t build an altar because my house is small and I’m afraid my family and I will become victims of hatred if anyone finds out) who share the same interests as me. It was easier up north because I didn’t feel so in danger of being proud about my beliefs but where I’m living right now…I basically have a lot of regrets and it doesn’t help I’m older than most of the students who are in the college I’m attending so I can’t really relate to them. I wish there was a neopagan group on campus and I was younger. It would be a lot easier to talk to people that way.

same here 😟😟😟

nice

I literally relate, I had a narccistic ex who mentally abused me and I was abused growing up as a child in every way possible so it makes it rlly hard to connect to other ppl, especially being demisexual

@@psychott6 They're trying to bring them down. Rest assured this comment isn't "cringy" and I'm happy you can say the things you need to say.

You ain't alone

@@Abner-em6ov thank you for caring about children in africa ig but its not the right place to mention that you can see what's the video is about so what were you expecting in the comments? Idk who hurt you to say this but i hope ur ok

Yes. That is exactly the case. "Never settling" was invented by greed and malice, treating people like products that are higher value than another.

at this point i think im just gonna settle as long as they check enough boxes to be healthy enough in a relationship i think thats enough for me the problem is finding someone whos actually healthy everyone seems to fall short of the basic healthy relationship qualities.. communication, composure, loyalty and actively want to grow as a person

Hard as we call it, "rock hard"

"Your one step closer to hitting bottom" Tyler Durden fight club

Same here

I would never be part of a club that excepted me as members

Yeah, I feel that. My self esteem is so down the drain that I don't think I could actually believe that someone did love me. Love me in a romantic way, that is. I've tried to explain to my parents that there's a difference between them loving me and having a partner love me. They love me by virtue of being their son, I could be the biggest asshole and they'd still love me, it's biological rather than a choice. Romantic love is a choice, and therefore I place a lot more value on it.

Same lol

On god bro, if she likes me then her standards are in absolute hell 💀

I used to be like that. Then, I started therapy, taking care of myself and letting my true self out in the world. Now the situation is upsidedown. I think that nobody is my "right match" cuz I don't feel anyone at my level. Love sucks more than college

Such a banger band with an amazing quote 💜

Dwight Yoakem , the country music dude.

I don't even listen to this kind of music but I know this song "2 can be as bad as 1 it's the loneliest number since the number 1 oh......"

You're dismissive avoidant

After a while, you realize you mistook horney for lonely.

But then it gets to a point where you will want to settle down and emotionally attach to someone, and when everyone you know is doing that and you're not able to, it starts to negatively effect your thought process

@sues anna Well said.

Am 70 years old and what u say is very 👍

It may sound cliché but you often find the best people when you aren't even looking.

@@xrstevenson That's not necessarily true. Some people don't really want a relationship, and that's okay too. In the end, even if you do you still need to be happy with yourself first. If you expect a relationship to solve every problem you force unrealistic expectations which aren't fair to the people you date.

Lust and status have been the name of the game for at least the last 100,000 years of Human evolution

Well I'd say for me in the beginning it was a search for "love" and the more it hurt me, the more I prefered the "lust" route, if you know what I mean

Very true. I don't want to have sex immediately because I was sexually abused. So many men are just after the physical aspects of love.

"Romance is dead and all is lust" - MIW, sadly it's the world we live in

And money

Damn this is me too except I'm a female. 😩

Same, but then they never take you seriously, even if you are having a breakdown.

@@soutrue310 I think that's just a terrible friends

Those traits describe me. I'm a big introvert, I know I'm not attractive whatsoever, and I don't have a funny bone in my body. I can't hardly talk to anyone I don't know face to face, without stumbling all over myself.

@@nightsilent1318 yes exactly me

Did you ever meet in person?

@asenat79 I was able to see her at a church conference months after the breakup, and I was able to get closure from it.

@@willmetcalf6746 I hope you feel better now. Blessings

high five

Same here, I’ve never really felt romantic attraction towards anyone ever, and I’m completely fine with that. I like being alone and I’m definitely more suited to it too. I might find ‘the one’ later on in life, but for now, I’m happy being single and I’m definitely going to stay this way for a while Glad to see you’re doing good :)

Highhhhh five 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

Same , I gotten to the point where a relationship seems like too much work but doesn’t mean I wouldn’t mind having one lol

Same

My professor was over 60 years old and she told me she still dating. She doesn't have any children or anything and she was a little embarrassed to tell me, but I was happy for her! I have another professor who's old and gray, I'm assuming he's above 60 years old, he has a single daughter who is 6 years old and he has a wife, so he started quite late but he seems very very happy to talk about his wife and child! Sometimes it doesn't happen, but sometimes it does!

What about a dude ?

Youre prolly gay

I'm 51. I've had boyfriends but I've never really been in love with someone. I'm only interested in men but it seems like the good ones aren't interested in me. I won't settle because I'd honestly rather be alone. I live with my mother (she's elderly and needs my help). I'd love to do some of the things that I do with her with a partner. I'm disabled and I can't go many places to meet men. So unless he falls from a tree, it's unlikely that I'll meet anybody.

you're trolling right?

I never really considered the existence of love in this era. After reading this paragraph I’m slightly convinced.

That's rare. Most relationships don't last, so i'll play it safe by ignoring all women. why date or marry when it'll eventually end? Seems like a big waste of time. Might as well do other things in life

There is also a guy who won in the lottery 6 times or so. So by your logic, everyone will win the lottery 6 times if they try it. Sure there are some exceptions that win, but for most this is only a trap into darkness.

Thank you for sharing this. This means so much❤️

This warms my heart! Thanks for sharing ♡♡♡◇

You're a Buddhist monk?

@@jamesrocket5616 😂 no I should have explained myself I’m part of a likeminded philosophy group known as mgtow although it’s technically not a movement or a group it’s a mindset on men going their own way in life and simply choosing to improve themselves first and foremost before dating or marriage, some have even sworn off marriage because of the bankruptcy that comes with the divorce that follows suit, I hope that some what explains why I have sworn off Sex or Relationships😁

Humans are social creatures it is on the side to be single because by nature most people gravitate to relationships...though the single life can still be good because friends are the same, but most thoughts tend to lean romantically especially in women,

@@meanncat3050 We are a social creature that forms tribes. Single people can contribute equally as other adults but not have children which take more resources than give. And some single people, adopt and can still look after the others young. There is lots of room for differences in a social and complex species.

Thanks for this, I'm exactly like you. I don't see any sense in a romantic relationship, and I'm a woman so it's like a sin, when i say i dont want a boyfriend everyone just choke on their air.... Like?? I dont need anyone I'm happy with myself and i couldn't ask more, if someday I fall in love with someone (which I think is improbable since I've never had a crush in 7 years) I will not let that pass, i just want to be happy, im not depressive or dumb just for like loneliness.

At least you had girlfriends before. I am a 22 year old guy and never even had any girlfriend. I use dating apps, message girls on Instagram whom I knew in my school days and also had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but no luck at all. The only girl who is nice and sweet to me is a 20 year old girl with whom I had been chatting on Instagram for almost a month. We were in the same school but now in different college in the same city. She is very sweet and makes me blush and we send each other hugs. But a couple of weeks ago she said she has a boyfriend which confuses me because she is still being flirty to me calling me cute and we send each other hugs and when I say her that I am sad about something, she says sweet things and makes me smile and we also talk about hugging one day for real so idk whether she just lied that she has a boyfriend.

So Sandy, huh?

Thank you. Amanda has a great voice!

Her voice got me hooked on this channel

@@pkdare883 me too

I guess her voice is also the music playing in the background of the vid 😅

Wdym with "backward roles"?

@@facuuu2809 I think he's on about gender roles in a relationship. Like what was normal for a male to do a female is now or is trying to do it and vise versa.

@@dantexonline4666 that's kinda a reductionist and not s good way of seeing things, we shouldn't follow archaic gender roles, principally not in relationships y'know, love doesn't work like that

Yeah, there's no doubt that it was easier when there was such a thing as confined dating pools. The internet age has brought upon the hookup and porn era, and if you have one or both of those, many are led to believe that a real relationship is too much of a hassle.

@@thisiswarhuhwow6120 It's just deeply sad to see so many, many people view eachother as a means to an end.

At the end of the day no one is perfect, we all have to settle. You just need to choose what you're willing to settle for and accept the shortcomings. Or, you know, be alone forever lol.

"the person you're looking for" no not may not exist. this person simply don't exist and never will because it's in your mind. oyu live in dreamworld and spit on anything that is not even remotely close to it. hence you don't know to know and appreciate others. they are only the mean to an end for you.

People won't experience real authentic love because it just don't exist. It's a fallacy. The best part of any relationship is the first 6-8months. After that it goes to hell and becomes a chore. A relationship should never be a chore. It should compliment your life, not complicate it.

Love is temporary monke is eternal

@@unlimited971 Giving attention to your partner is the bare minimum. If you consider women annoying just for wanting attention from their partner, then you must've gotten little to no attention from others in the past and you could care less if they (your partner) got any, since you had to go through not receiving any attention. You may have experienced a bad relationship with the wrong person there, bud. Also, men nag all day long about things that bother them too, so it's a common thing between many human beings.

@Violet Blue …that’s where I’m at in my life

Man, human being are like pandas at this point, geeze. Super depressing we are only here to work made up jobs, for made up money, to live in a box or a collextions of boxes waiting to go back to a box to turn to dust? The only time I feel happiness is when I have people around me I can trust, but as you get older those prospect vanish. thank goodness for your off spring but even they have lives they are trying to cultivate. But with out them life would be measurable. Ever person is not toxic, but how would you know if your not open to meeting other people? This maybe more advice for myself then you. Lol

Learned that one the hard way

@@Livingmybestlife7 Love and embrace yourself for being there for you.🌹

@@violetblue3347 have been practicing that for some time now 🤣🤣💝 so many layers

The problem is most people are users and waiting for the better opportunity.

@L then whats necessary to keep a relationship going?

@@userm180 Communication, Compromise, and Open-Mindedness.

@@williamspears1627 ure right

@jordypoe somebody you love should be able to compromise, talk things out, give you respect and loyalty. That’s like the bare minimum. A lover shouldn’t be i loyal to you, disrespect you and your wishes, and turn to scream at you whenever they’re upset. It’s pretty simple?

Yeah i had the same thing.........It hurt a lot at the time, then i got over it and now i don't really think about it at all.

That's honestly what am most after of about getting into a serious relationship..also I'm so sorry 😟you take care ok.🌺

I'm an autistic INTJ and I don't understand why affection and romance exist or how they're useful.

@@greatwavefan397 Affection simply feels good. Romance? Does that involve roses and other basic acts of Rom-coms? Boring!

Romance? Bleh!

You can't be content if you don't want your life a certain way. It will be nothing short of pretending or numbing oneself to go through the motions. That's why life is often so nightmarish

True...but that's why you gotta stay off your phone for a bit to enjoy your time with others.

This is a strong fact. Something like a phone less date night might work.

This though probably why I’ve been just working out heavily and video gaming while on bus, everyone seems so closed off so I just kind of shut off my brain and wait til my stop. 🤷‍♂️

People under a certain age are glued to phone, its really destructive.

And cheating is a thing nowadays 😂😂

the "It's not you, it's me, I'm not ready for a relationship" - part I can relate to quite strongly - the last women I've been with told me she didn't want a relationship because she wanted to explore herself or some shit like this and then went into another relationship one or two months later - one year later she tried to be friends with me and complained about this relationship, thats how I found out. I was kinda shocked how she managed to make herself look this stupid and expects me to trust her in any way after this obvious lie

"I like you as a friend" Yeh uh i have enough of them, goodbye!

>"It's not you, it's me, I'm not ready for a relationship" It's just a sugarcoated way of saying "You're not my type of person"

putting more effort and getting nothing, the bare minimum human decency is the only thing i know

"So let it be war, from the skies of Terra to the Galactic rim. Let the seas boil, let the skies fall." -Horus Luprical, Warhammer 40k.

God that's so me. Especially since I can no longer have children. I feel like my chance at a true family is gone. Most people my age have already been married so I'm just some loser who hasn't. But I don't really feel like a loser anymore because I've accepted the fact that I'll be alone.

@@janejones7638 Dang that's rough, I'm only 21 and I'm afraid I might never have a family and children, although that fear is completely irrational at this time. People in my family tree naturally get married later in life (especially the men) so I just need patience.

I’m the only single woman in my large family so I completely relate

Same for me too, this world we live in really blows.

I feel you completely man. This shit sucks monkey balls🙄

same

i have the same reason

Yep. But, that doesn't mean you should stop hanging out with others completely. Sure, maybe tone it down. But still, hang out with others. Also if you keel thinking you'll hurt someone, you'll do it.

Same what a pointless shit

I’m 24 and that’s exactly how I feel too. I don’t want to be an emotional burden on someone