imagine u wake up and u see yourself used as the "less attractive" example

I swear this channel always comes a way to call me ugly and undesirable in scientific and psychological way backed by research and observation through a mono tone voice 😭💀

This is why advertisements and literally everything else has attractive people. It has such an unconscious effect on us. As someone who went from being overweight to normal weight, the look I got from women changed by a lot. They went from being dismissive and cold to open and eager to talk. Whether people want to talk about it not looks has a profound impact on the credibility of a person.

"attractive individuals are treated better, so they have no reason to rebel against a society that treats them better." SO true.

Its actually scary how obsessed I've been with seeking societal beauty.

As an ugly person, Ive noticed that pretty people can get away with almost anything, so this year I started to work out (weights & cardio) everyday, also I make healthy food choices, and finally I adopted a beauty regime and getting my teeth fixed as I really do need it. And all this in order to get all those benefits the beautiful people have. Wish me luck. 😂

I had a teacher who would assume that beautiful people were inherently smarter. She even stated it out loud. Basically talked about the Halo effect so she was aware of it but still went ahead and discriminated against less attractive students. Going as far as accusing some students of cheating when they did their own homework.

As someone who grew up unattractive and then had a glow up in my early twenties, I hate everything about this. I don’t view any of the attention I get as genuine because of the total ambivalence I experienced as an unattractive child. It just makes me hate people more.

I used to think I’m unattractive, but after watching so many of their videos I’m now 100% sure I’m unattractive as AF.

I tried to join a business fraternity in college and I noticed every single one of the actives was very attractive. I didn’t make it far in the recruitment process (I’ve got below average looks), but when I saw the new pledges after rushing was over, I wasn’t shocked to see they were all extremely attractive too. Attractiveness gives you SUCH and advantage in life.

I try to improve my looks as much as possible so people won't pay attention to issues with social skills. I'm autistic, and socializing can be difficult for me.

When I was a teenage girl I didn’t know how to take care of myself or embrace my beauty. I can see deference in how people treat me now, when I look better. People stare at me, complement me etc. Guys are more likely to act as gentlemen, for example by opening the door for me, and letting me go first. But you know there is another side to it. I feel like I’m treated like an object sometimes and many comments I get from men are really gross. When I’m with my parents or friends I’m really tensed because they notice all of this attention that I get from strangers. Also some girls are really envious of me. People often think I’m conceited so they mistreat me. They think I’m full of myself because I’m shy and can’t look straight in the eyes. I also have this pressure to always look good and I’m scared that people will notice some of my imperfections and change their mind about me.

It’s so weird to be a person of average attractiveness with polarizing looks. Like I’ve experienced some pretty privilege but not all, it only seems to happen half the time, mostly when I put effort into my appearance 🙃

I was bullied for being ugly when I was younger. Several years later I started caring about my appearance and also had a glow up thanks to a very late puberty. Insane the difference from being bullied for looking like Edna from the incredibles to being simped for because I somewhat resembled Viper from Valorant

Is there a reverse beauty premium in more intellectual settings? I often see attractive + feminine women judged as less competent.

Ok but hear me out, for a woman, it is more beneficial to be just a bit above average/cute rather than insanely stunning. If you're just pretty, you get treated decently by both men and women, your looks are nice enough to almost become less of a factor when it comes to how you are treated. However, if you're on either side of the bell curve, your looks become your defining feature and people find it hard to see past that. Sure, being a 10/10 will help you if you want to be a model or celebrity, but it will also create jealousy, resentment, the assumption that you have it easy and make people more intimidated by you. By contrast, if youre a 2/10, your looks will be your defining feature too and you get all the drawbacks of being unattractive. Being a solid 6-8 is the sweet spot.

There’s a movie directed by Guiseppe Tornatore called “Malena”, clips of which you actually used in your video about Monica Bellucci. It’s interesting because that movie (and real accounts of peoples’ experiences this movie is inspired by) is an example of the opposite of pretty privilege. A person can be ostracised (unable to get a job, forced into starvation, their life threatened etc) for being very attractive and be put in danger if the cultural context is very conservative. There are instances where people are less respected because they are assumed to have been given success based on their looks (look at how interviewers and people talk to /about Megan Fox for example) and people seem to be very eager to dogpile on someone attractive who has committed a “norm violation” as it’s an opportunity for them to feel better about themselves and when it comes to women it’s also just an opportunity for people to be misogynistic (eg if Amber Heard wasn’t attractive as she is, would people dogpile on her as much as they did?). It’s a shame you didn’t touch on this ‘dark side’ of pretty privilege.

2500 years ago, Aristotle said good looks are the best letter of recommendation. Beauty privilege is not a modern trend, nor will it ever go away. Attractive persons should be grateful for their good luck and try not to abuse the advantage. Unattractive persons should work on their other qualities, and not begrudge their better-looking neighbors.

When consumers see beautiful models, they're more willing to buy the advertised product. It's a way to imagine themselves being a little step closer to the life they desire. That's why when body positivity activists coerce a brand into using high BMI models, their sales nearly always go down. The aspirational element is gone.

Pretty privilege exists but its wild how the exchange rate varies depending on where in the world you are. I'm a minority, growing up in a place overwhelmingly caucasian. I was 'ugly' growing up because my looks were very different from the western mainstream preference. I moved to a large cosmopolitan city, thinking I'd be invisible but was shocked that many people gravitated towards my looks and that was because they were exposed to different appearances & could appreciate my looks. Take me again to my family country of origin and looks wise I am waaay above average and get so many passes in things. So I have experienced the pendulum swing on being on the st either end of the beauty privilege ladder. It is wild how much beauty ideals vary by location.

All my 3 siblings are very attractive, except for me, and from my childhood I noticed the difference in treatment, although I’m the eldest and I was sociable and a good talker, but I noticed that I was always rejected, while my siblings were quiet and didn’t initiate conversations and had many friendships wherever they went, and then I began to realize that the problem is I’m less attractive

Pretty privilege is very real, even average women experience it when they learn to do their makeup well, like I did. Unfortunately, it comes with unwanted lewd attention and harassment. Super dehumanizing. Can't cross the street without a man 30 years older than me telling me I'm beautiful and demanding my name and info. Like they're entitled to it and I should be grateful. Disgusting. Can't go anywhere without feeling unsafe unless I'm with friends.

As Indian guy with below average looks and height, I ashamedly admit I love seeing pretty looking people in tvs and movies. Hell, I even love if good looking people are around me. I have nothing against people with pretty privilege just like I have nothing against me for being not that attractive. Peace.

Beauty matters. Period.

I am a medical doctor, when I was chubbier and looked unhealthy for other reasons (cortisol, stress, lack of sleep, hormonal problems) I was looking haggard. I did not know why , only after I had seen old photos of me I noticed I had a glow up and deduced why my own patients are more open and eager to answer my questions more sincerely!

When I was in high school i had a glow up I went from being ugly to people saying I should model. I was treated way better by male teachers they even gave me higher marks than the female teachers did. The male gym teacher gave me 90-100 while the female gym teachers gave me 60-40 and I put in the same amount of effort. Even in English class female teachers would give me 70s and male teachers have me 90s. My friends on the other hand didn’t experience much difference in treatment tho. I was also very awkward socially so people would I was cute or endearing rather than weird and awkward. People suddenly found all my negatives traits as cute or quirky. On the other hand I experienced some ‘negatives’ such as people assuming I was hoe or bimbo lots of my friends hated for no reason their was tons of sexual comments from guys and sexual rumour from girls about me and my math teacher. I was never allowed to see or be around my friends bf or their crushes I was never invited out they talked bad about me all the time despite me being very nice to them. But ngl despite the ‘negatives’ I’d rather be pretty than be how I looked in middle school.

In the case of women, I think that how flirtatious a woman acts in the workplace tends to benefit her more than being super good looking . As long as she is generally healthy - pretty much lower BMI, engages in basic self care etc. she will get more promotions and make more money vs a woman that is very pretty but doesn't flirt / or doesn't make herself seem available or willing.

I see a lot of “glow up” stories there, they are very interesting. I wanted to say something about kinda always being considered pretty. Because of being sexualized by men from young age I learned that being a sexual object is all I am for them, seeing how I’m treated better when looking good made me obsessed about my looks, cause for sure when I won’t be pretty no one will like me anymore. That totally ruined my view on relationships. 24 years old and never had a boyfriend, always running away from men, going to therapy for a year now and it is still hard for me to really erase this kind of thinking about men.

as you started talking about at the 8:00 minute mark: being good looking definitely impacts what behaviors are okay as well; i was socially awkward and quiet in high school and regarded as cute because of it. while some of my friends were seen as creepy despite sharing the same disposition, it was only when i started hiding my face that i saw the difference in how you're treated in full display.

I always struggled with friendships because of my looks. I also struggled as married because of jealousy. In job they were punish me with tons of work. You don't have any idea how many hate groups a beautiful person can attract for the wrong reasons. As time passed by I aged and gained some weight I saw some people accepted me for my personality. My life was a long lonely way. Finally after unfair rejections, unknown jealousy situations, unforgettable behaviors, I managed to accept myself to forgive the others and to move on.

On the scale I'm slightly attractive. I have been ignored most of my life because as a kid I wasn't as pretty as everyone else which caused me to have low self esteem and no sense of confidence. I was a fat kid In middle school I started exercising and people didn't treat me any better when I lost the weight. I got more and more obsessed with weightloss but I quit because my parents said I was starting to look like a zombie. I did all of that to get nothing out of it. I ended up just eating alot and not caring about how I look anymore . It's not guarantee that once you get slightly attractive people will treat you like luxury. I thought so but I was just delusional.

As an average looking Filipino guy (average relative to my people, below average in America), the idea of experiencing pretty privilege is such a foreign concept to my mind, it’s akin to the thought of having something like super strength or super speed.

During my child-teenage years and got bullied quite badly because of my looks. Now that I’m in my 20’s, I’m just invisible instead of being constantly insulted. On the other hand I’ve been told I could model. Don’t know what to believe lmao

There is also Pretty Backlash.

Another thing why attractive humans, from childhood, develop confidence. Thats because they never had to initiate friendships or conversations, people went to them. But conventionally unattractive people needs to work harder to get the same attention.

I was attractive until my hairline abandoned me💀

Pretty has its privileges but also has its downsides too. I was considered ugly in high school and was heavily bullied for it. However, I started receiving a lot of attention when I went to university, which made my one and only very jealous and insecure. She started accusing me of things I never did and left me for the silliest reason possible. Being a very anxious person, I was left all alone and It was really challenging for me to survive university, and now that I work in a male-dominated industry, I hate going to my job every day. I often take breaks and cry in the bathroom.The looks I receive and the comments I've heard are disheartening. Whenever I leave the area, some of the guys gather around, and I'm not sure what they discuss. But when I return, they all stop talking and return to their places.While a few of my female coworkers clearly notice all of this, they constantly remind me of these things and make me feel even more insecure.

this is honestly upsettingly true. As someone who grew up not very conventially attractive, I was always just in the background. I still had good friends and wasn't bullied or anything but people just never paid attention to me, unless they had to? And that was fine i thought that was completely normal because I am kind of quiet with people I don't know. Also I am Indian in a predominantly white area so it kind of led me to the messed up belief that you could only be popular or attractive if you were white. Now a few years later, after growing into my features a bit more, taking up running as a hobby and getting more interested in the way I dress/ do my makeup, it's just so different. And I know this sounds silly but now more people I don't even know will just look at me better? Like strangers are more nice and interactive idk. Even people at school just casually start convos meanwhile before it was only me talking to my close friends. And honestly it's kind of 'are these people just really nice now?' or 'is it just because I'm skinnier and dress better' It sounds really petty but I've sort of fell into that cycle where it's like if I hadn't worn a good outfit/ had mascara and lipgloss on would people have intitiated a relationship/ friendship with me in the first place?! As in people say first interactions don't matter but they do! Obviously, I feel secure with my friends now as we've stuck together through some shit but would our friendship even have started if she hadn't come up to me and called my outfit cute and invited me into her group?! idek man help I'm actually spiralling. another thing(sorry I'm actually ranting) I've noticed is the difference between how guys treat me? Guys are MUCH more friendlier I cannot stress this enough. Before they would only talk to me if I was with a mutual friend and even then it would just be me awkwardly 5th wheeling my friends. But literally this STRANGER around my age asked me out a few months ago and I was like is this a joke?! Cut the fucking cameras no way. Even at say parties a guy would come up to my friend(and I was naturally expecting to awkwardly be left out because that was the norm for me) and he actively included me in the convo and kept circling back to anything I said! I didn't really clock any of this earlier and sort of put it down as an effect of growing up? People just naturally are more comfortable and social? The thing that made me notice all this was meeting one of my old family friends and hearing her say 'you look so different now you kinda look really good now that you've kinda grown up' LIKE WTF DID I NOT LOOK GOOD BEFORE?!?! IS THAT NOT BACKHANDED AF ?!?! it literally keeps me up at night... and omg before when i was shy/ introverted, I stayed in the background and it was fine. I blamed the fact that I never really got invited to big parties/ cinema dates etc solely because i was shy(which makes sense right- if you don't put yourself out there you won't get invited to lots of things- sounds fair). But I swear if anything I'm more introverted now and all of a sudden there are so many parties/ motives/ sleepovers always going on where people actually want ME to come?? Sometimes I actually don't think it's real. Perhaps that also comes down to people growing up/ being allowed to throw more parties. ANYWAYS TO WRAP THIS ESSAY UP- it's just a bit weird because I always expected pretty privilege to only exist in 2000s rom coms but apparently not. Well done if you got up to here lol.

Pretty privilege is very real! Here’s my experience: I was further down the line in the coach, there’s a few uni students like myself with extra luggage ready to go home. The women (like 2 of them that i’ve seen) in front of me didn’t get any help from the male driver…. They put their suitcases and bags into the trunk themselves - they had quite a bit on them! When I scanned my ticket, he took my bags and suitcase and put it in the trunk for me, literally before I could realise it. I assumed I’d put my stuff away myself like the other women ahead of me. It wasn’t until this videos popped up into my head (i watched it yesterday) and I realised that the only difference between me and them was that I was of a healthier weight/ body proportions. It made me think to other times I had preferential treatment and not realised it…. I wonder how it’ll persist as I age, I’m only in my early 20’s now.

We know all this since we were children. No need for pseudo-scientific studies, statistics, and all that crap.

I have noticed that after working in sales, only good-looking people were in sales, furthermore, the even BETTER looking of good-looking individuals were the top sellers!

Looks are literally everything.

Strangers always approached me, asked for directions, or simply go with me/accompany me. Strangers also help me without asking. It might be privilege lol

I'm not extremely attractive but from what I noticed is that sometimes people assume I'm dumb because they think : she can't be both , smart and pretty. Also for some reason if you're somewhat attractive people assume you have are always in a relationship or are intimated and don't hit on you that much. These are my experiences only so yeah

Science is blackpilled.

I have a friend, who has been good-looking from the very beginning, and other children got envious and tried to mistreat her, even though her features: big doe eyes with long fluffy eyelashes, sweet roundish face, - have never been "sexy" or intimidating. Later some teachers in school tried to seduce her, because latent pedafiles are attracted to childish innocent faces & bodies. So in the early age she got lots of disadvantages from being attractive and felt indeed like a hunted doe all the time. Only later in life, when she got strong after a long intense physical training, she became capable to efficiently protect herself, her beauty & her dignity. But if her parents would have been more caring and protective, when she was a little girl, her life could be wonderful. So it is indeed, - in order to enjoy the good things you have: beauty, health, pretty clothes, nice house, - you have to be capable to protect all that, so nobody would try to spoil it. That's why pretty children, living in safe areas with good parents can enjoy their beauty, but poor children of neglecting parents from ruff neighborhoods have to be very careful in order not to become victimized for their beauty.

A privilege is a right, immunity, or advantage; that is given to a certain group of people. Being attractive is a privilege, because it's an advantage. It's easier to socialize with people, when you're attractive (because being attractive builds your self-confidence) People will respect you more, if you're attractive. It's a million times easier to find a spouse if you're attractive (especially if you're an attractive male) And in many countries employers value beauty just as much/more than qualifications. Even though being pretty is a privilege. Almost everybody can become attractive if they wanted to. and you shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty for being good looking. sadly there's a lot of jealous people who will hate you just for being more attractive than them. or for having nicer things than them. or because you were born into a happy middle-class/rich family.

The hardest part of watching this video was trying to figure out which of the people shown in the pictures were considered attractive. He didn’t say which is which!

Imagine having the ability to look beyond the superficial and be able to judge someone on their energetic vibe. One day humans will see beyond their 5 senses.

It would be really interesting to see a video on how looks change how you’re perceived in the workplace, opposed to dating appeal and general attractiveness.

00:04 Pretty privilege refers to the social advantage that stems from being attractive. 01:51 The halo effect is a cognitive bias that influences the way we look at the world. 03:36 Attractive individuals tend to have higher self-esteem and are treated better 05:18 Rejection and the beauty premium have significant impacts on self-esteem and wages 07:02 Physical attractiveness influences judgments and decisions in various situations. 08:43 Attractive individuals are more likely to conform to societal norms and are treated better. 10:23 Attractive individuals are perceived to have positive intentions, leading to fewer consequences for their actions and a better quality of life. 12:07 Looks and physical attractiveness have a significant impact on desirability and reproductive benefit.

I am an ugly woman. I was bullied from a young age across 5 schools and socially withdrew from my peer group in middle school, spending all my weekends alone in my room watching anime. When I got to college, things didn't improve, but I enjoyed my classes and made a small but positive group of friends. Now I'm 23 and still a virgin. I have never been asked out and have never had a romantic relationship. So many people say it's impossible for a woman to be undesireable to most of men and how lucky women are that it's so easy for us to get sex. But I have gone so long without sex and without feeling sexually desireable that I've become mostly asexual, so even that perk of being a woman doesn't give me solace. People, especially other women, are disrespectful and rude to me because there's something wrong with my face. I feel so thoroughly ugly that when I masturbate I don't imagine myself in the fantasy, I invent attractive mental characters instead. I've had therapists tell me that I'm chemically depressed, but I don't think that's true because I complete my everyday responsibilities, take care of myself, and don't feel anything is inherently wrong with brain chemistry. What is wrong is my face. I try to comfort myself and say, someday someone will see me for more than my looks. I am definitely above average in intelligence (at least quantitative intelligence), and I am an empathetic, loyal person. But life is hard and feels hopeless. I know attractive people say they have problems because of their appearance, but I would trade lives with them in an instant. I only ever feel happy when I expect nothing, not even basic respect, from others, but that is very exhausting to maintain. I can't even talk about how my face affects my life with other people without being told that I'm beautiful when I'm clearly not. I wish people were more honest with each other about this topic because the lies hurt more.

I’ve definitely benefited from looking young/cute/innocent. Not attractive, but that combo.

The new style of editing is 🔥🔥

Imma get hate but idc, when my pretty friends complain abt men asking them out or getting drinks, catcalled I just can’t take it seriously and roll my eyes. Bro… I’d take that any day than being ugly. I’ve been called ugly since kindergarten lmao I can’t even get the same jobs as my good looking friends, horrible social status and just all in all worse life experience. When my pretty friends are loud, they’re extroverted. I am seen as annoying and told to shut up. When they’re quiet they’re mysterious. When I’m quiet people think I’m depressed and tell me to “stop looking like you want to die”. When they walk into a job interview they get hired even though they have less qualifications than me. One time my friend walked in and was hired on the spot. Like I said, I’d rather be attractive and deal with men and catcalling than be ugly ANY DAY

Could you do a video on the negatives ? I feel like that hardly gets talked about and I’ve certainly experienced both sides in life.

If you’re a young, beautiful and charming female people will always take care of you. Not all women that fall into that category just sit back and let it happen but at least it’s an option. Very handsome men have a lot of good choices in life but nobody just takes care of them.

Being pretty can come with both disadvantages and advantages, there are people who are jealous over you and will use their spite to mistreat you. At the same time, there are attractive people who literally can put no effort and will be the most adored people, even if they don't deserve it. They can also get away with doing shitty things, look at Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.

I've been told I look like I walked out of a magazine and that people would die to look like me, which is very kind but they see me when I'm dolled up. I feel fugly for real without makeup LOL. People may say that but I TRULY don't feel that way about myself. The amount of people that assume I have pretty privilege is crazy. I understand that it really IS a thing, but, in my experience I've been truly treated so horribly growing up that I wonder if it only applies to certain people - maybe if they are rich, have lots of friends to begin with, social, etc...? I'm none of those. Even if I fake my confidence, I still struggle. Most of the time people go out of their way to shoot bad luck or inconvenience my direction and I am wondering if it's because they think everything gets handed to me so they feel the need to take it upon themselves to treat me like "you can't have everything because you're pretty, even if you're good at what you do or deserve it so I have to be the one to show you otherwise". I feel I have to work harder than most just to prove myself and it still never is good enough. Maybe I genuinely have bad luck because I don't feel like i've ever gotten "pretty privelege". I can only think of maybe once or twice and they were just kind gestures from a couple strangers. That's it. Yes, there's beautiful people who have "pick me" and rotten attitudes but please know that not all of us are that way and we still have our struggles with confidence as well. We will always be our own worst critics.

i love the aesthetic of your videos, they are just so eye pleasing. Also love the whole content, educating and entertaining

I was a Sales Director. I managed 13 states. I started as a local rep. I do not entirely agree with a lot of this video. People are petty. Attractive people are equally discriminated against. Most women in a hiring position will not hire an attractive woman- for example. This discrimination also applies to education. Also, the best rep I ever had was just average in looks, but she had a personality that could sell sand to a dieing man in the dessert.

Reminder: Physical attractiveness is just a plus points. Character is what makes you stay on the TOP and looks beautiful. This is the reality. Just observe and see for yourself.

Hey, Qoves, if think you'd find very interesting the story of the ancient greek politician and general Alcibiades, he was known at the time as "the most beautiful", and that apparently helped him getting off the hook in the public opinion, despite doing some very outrageous stuff

this reminds me of someone commenting on some influencer going "people like to hate on pretty girls" when that influencer did some actual vile things... while yes, people can be jealous of another person's beauty, let's not forget the actions that attractive person did in context and start getting with the program by doing some actual research instead of blindly following someone you don't even know

I've noticed this phenomenon even before I knew what it was called. I've even developed a bias in the opposite direction. Physical attractiveness immediately makes me skeptical of someone's competence. Is there a name for that?

Most of our physicality concerns link back to health issues. Acne? Hyperpigmentation? Obesity? Hair loss? Stunt growth? It relates back to our health (insulin resistant, high cortisol/stress, minimal calorie deficit, leaky gut syndrome, high carb/sugar diet, lack of sleep)

Always a pleasure to be here learning all I can. 🎉

Being considered conventionally attractive and having experienced all it's still not all good, like people blame everything on your attractiveness. And, in reality it's really lonely as no one tries to approach me or when I approach people they usually are intimidated.

I mostly enjoyed my pretty privilege all my life, and it still persists in my 50s because I am well-groomed and well-spoken, and probably more attractive than before. But let me tell you; people around you see the unfairness and some will do anything to destroy you. You have to learn to be extremely tough. It is not easy for me because I am naturally soft and hate confrontation. But my looks and the privilege that comes with it have forced me to learn to develop claws and use them. Jealous people are ruthless.

Beauty is Life’s s EZ-Pass 😂

I have had pretty privilege and used it to my advantage most of my adult life. From free drinks, gifts and kind gestures. It’s fun, but not everything.

Personality and intellect don't matter much. Beauty and strength is all that matters.

I swear I was falling asleep thinking about this subject, and now Qoves puts out a video about it. It's like KZfaq can read my mind.

almost 500K... well deserved!

I became attractive only when I was 18 (i’m 22 now) and I was even bullied in elementary school for not being pretty. It just makes me sad that we live in such superficial society and instead of focusing on kindness we focus on looks. I experienced the bad treatment as well as the good treatment, and honestly? It’s just insane that we can’t treat people as fellow human beings no matter how they look.

Something I wonder, is the intersection with confidence. Studies have also shown that confidence is a determining factor in success, sometimes even more so than attractiveness. Attractiveness helps in building self-confidence from external validation of their attractiveness, so that confidence helps them approach life in ways that would promote success (asking for more, not fearing rejection ahead of time, etc) which turns into tangible success. I wonder if the opposite is true - where average and/or less attractive people assume worse outcomes and approach life differently because of this. Also undermining each other more where attractive people don’t - Qooves did a video on this where the most attractive people were more realistic in their assessments of others attractiveness whereas average and less attractive people were much much harsher on others, even anonymously. I would imagine that just straight up looks isnt the whole truth, just a strong influence in mindset and therefore outcomes

I went from fat and ugly to maximizing my looks in my 20s back to fat and ugly again now in my 30s. During my school time I was bullied, never had a girlfriend and got avoided by people. It took a long time until I observed and realized that it didn't happen because of my personality but just because the people don't want to deal with ugly people in their daily lifes and therefore choose to not see them at the same level and therefore disrespect them. In my job I had to work harder and better than all the other workers and still got maligned as incompetent and just to bad for this job. In my mid 20s I became super fit and thin, muscular, wore expensive clothing, drove a nice car and had a well paid job. Suddenly people treated me completelly different even though my natural look still wasn't quite attractive but at least I gave the impression of a hardworking, disciplined and well-groomed guy. Even people who avoided me before were impressed by me and complimented me for becoming such a great personality, professional in work and nice to be around. In my early 30s my discipline however dimished and so I got fat and unattractive again. So I'm basically back to being treated as a 2nd class human.

As someone who was a fat kid this is absolutely true. I’m much better treated now that I’m slimmer and more developed. However, I know I’m not at my full potential, and there are just too many benefits to being more attractive that would be stupid to not pursue, so I’m committing myself to a consistent exercise regimen and strict diet. Wish me luck!

Another great video, with great editing skills 😮

You don’t address the negatives of pretty privilege such as jealousy and exclusion because of your looks by insecure individuals/groups. Also facts are people don’t tell pretty people they are pretty as they assume that they know (which again due to insecurities they don’t know) also people think pretty women are stupid and lack knowledge and depth AND if you are pretty but the wrong age/sex/ethnicity/size ect then you will have bias towards you also. Plus you are more likely to be hunted down by narcs, sociopaths and psychopaths because they want ownership over you. Pretty is NOT always a privilege.

I still believe Pretty is as Pretty does. Kindness makes a halo.

6:43 The slider icon, lol 😅😅😅, I cant! Idkw but that just cracks me up. The instant zero to hero change was too much for me.

…and once you get to know someone, that halo might slip, or fall off. I’m mindful of that

im a below average girl with a fit body, im quite muscular so i guess my body does makeup for my looks. I have noticed people compliment my body more than my face and thats fine. But im still improving myself and trying new styles to suit me and groom better to. I remember i was hanging out with my attractive friend, hes 6ft and well built and got blessed genes in looks, all the girls and aunties stared at him and complimented his looks. The aunties came up to me and greeted me. and congratulated me of my swimming skills (im a competitve swimmer) i then realised and thought, good looking people no matter how talented or untalendted they are, the looks are the main focus of them. While i may be unnatractive, im glad my talents is recognized.

People who say looks don’t matter are either: 1. Very attractive people that don’t know what it’s like to be unattractive 2. Ugly people that tell themselves that to make themselves feel better and use it as an excuse to not improve themselves

i got one of these fr, at work my strict ass manager buys me food and treats me good while she treats the others like hob goblin peasants

I do NOT treat people differently based on their looks. Crazy that so many people do. It doesn’t have to be this way!!

If you're plan attractive, you have the best from both worlds, but when you fall on one side if the spectrum (either being incredibly attractive or not), that's when you start to feel the disadvantages. If you're highly attractive (and a woman) you will often get harrassed by men and judged by women. Some women will hate you even if you are nice to them, and men will impose their prejudice onto you (such as: "you must be stupid," "you must be a wh*re," etc). If you're an attractive women who is also smart, you might experience the hate and judgement of some women and the harrassment and hate of men. Both will feel intimidated by you, and will try to bring you down. Men will hate the idea of a pretty woman saying "no" and making smart choices, because they feel entitled to them. Men will only treat you good to get something out of you. Accepting help from men becomes incredibly difficult. And If you get harrassed, some women will blame you. That isn't to say attractive people have the world against them, but it's not as "pretty" as it may seem. If you still don't get what I'm trying to explain, watch the movie "Maléna" starring Monica Belluci.

Not just this, but in the gay world, it is clear that hot, muscular, masculine white gay men i.e conventionally beautiful receive less homophobic hate or judgement. Related to the norm violation point.

in my opinion people ecpect more from attractive people so attractive people are always scared that they cant meet those expectation and they also have to put up with lot of hate because of envy jelousy and all that. life is not easy when u are attractive especially when you are a women trust me. attractive people have their own problems all because they are attractive and all those problems are silent but have huge impact on their mental health.

Can you talk about the downsides of pretty privilege? I feel like people assume life is better for better looking people, but it's not always the case. Growing up, I lacked the social skills to be popular & actually was bullied by girls who I thought were my friends. They pretended to be my friend (& being so desperate not to be alone I accepted) only to tear me down & be cruel to me. My stepmom was also jealous of me & ruined my life. I've also attracted a lot of unwanted attention from creeps. I constantly have to deal with unwanted attention from guys & have to turn down men I'm not attracted to. When I tell ppl I was unpopular & a loser in hs, I've been told they assumed I was popular.. when I told someone I was bullied, she said she didn't think it would happen to me because I was pretty. I feel like attractive people have to be more careful to not be taken advantage of, because often people want to befriend them for the wrong reasons.. & also others don't empathise with them as much out of jealousy.

Treated better lol. All I get is hate from other people. All my friends had abandoned me. I only now talk with one person other than my parents. Sometimes people gang you up for no reason. My teachers from university, insults me in front of everyone. They think I'm gonna know every ans of they questions they are asking. People compete with me for no reason. Sometimes I get freaked out the amount of people watches you on street. And obviously the secret thing, people shit talk behind your back. And relationships, girls think you are a playboy. I think it is a curse.

I used to struggle with acne. I have some pimples too now but my overall complexion is better, my skin is more glowing than before. I have my signature style. I may come off as "cold" but I noticed how people stare at me as I walk now. I don't like that because no one ever looks at me that way before when I was "nothing" in their eyes. Attractive people are deemed as valuable and that is unfair. I only know one guy who never looks my way once I "become more attractive", and I think that quality and moral code he has is more attractive than beauty will ever be.

It is also about your competence , you can’t fool everybody only with your look

I really don't know if I have pretty privilege. People are always very friendly and helpful to me, but I feel like I just look kind and approachable, not beautiful per se...

I worked for a company once and everyone in my department was attractive. We all dealt directly with clients who were vital to the success/ bottom line of the company. I'd say the rest of the departments in this company consisted of support people and telemarketers who were a mix of both attractive and unattractive people, with the vast majority being on the unattractive side. Guess who made more money?

Man I struggle with mental health but watching videos like this make me more positive about life since I am conventionally attractive. I know it might come off as cocky but I don't mean to be.

I have been on (and keep experiencing) both ends of the spectrum depending on how my weight fluctuates. When I’m chubbier, I get looked down upon, disrespected and regarded as on the bottom of the totem pole, while whenever I slim down (to normal size), I am liked and well treated by everyone.

It's great to know I'm very ugly despite my best efforts

You should do a video on attractive people in stem industries how it's the thing that gets you the job also same thing that kicks you out