I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met.

I'm a time saver ;) 1.Insecure Girl 2.Materialistic Girl 3.Lonely Girl with no friends 4.Lazy Girl 5.Attention addict 6.Rebound seeker

“Girl with no friends” is also a red flag for women who want to be their friend. Whenever a girl says things like “I don’t have girlfriends because girls are drama” I know immediately that that girl is the drama. I steer clear of girls like that.

My biggest red flag is a woman that's constantly on social media. Social media isn't a bad thing, but when your life revolves around it, yeah, that's not good. I enjoy your videos Courtney! Keep up the good work!

The "Girl with no girlfriends" is also the prime offender of the homie hop. Because she has no social circle of her own, she will adopt yours. So when you break up, your homebois become her dating pool.

I feel like every guy has to go through a psycho girl phase to learn what to avoid and appreciate a good woman when she comes around

Excellent video! I would also add the Damsel in Distress type. This is someone who always has a problem that she can't fix herself, and is constantly looking for someone to solve her puzzles. Problem is: her problems never seem to get solved. Another type I would avoid, is the gambler. I grew up in Las Vegas, and trust me, if a woman is intrigued by casinos and slot machines, run for your life. This one will also typically be the Damsel in Distress type, which is a symptom of a deeper problem. I am 70 now, and very fortunate that I married the right girl at a very young age. (49 years together now) I have spent a lifetime observing people, and have seen em come and go. Often while never learning the obvious lesson(s) I could write a book. Way to go, Courtney. I hope you have a lot of success with your channel.

Your list reminds me of the list in the book "How to Love". Based on that, I'd add: 1. The victim (AKA vulnerable or covert narcissist)--this is the #1 most likely thing you need to avoid 2. Other narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, mean girls (they enjoy other people's pain), hateful girls (their lives are never-ending rants), etc. 3. The girl who suffers from bipolar disorder or an excess of depression 4. Girls who suffer from borderline personality disorder 5. Hard-core addicts 6. Girls who have too much trauma to be able to form a stable, long-lasting bond (like Homer Simpson's mom or Jenny from Forrest Gump)

I'd add Party Girls to the list too… if she's always out partying & still doing drugs especially as she gets older then that's deal breaker

Remember everyone: She doesn't control you, you don't control her. She doesn't manipulate you, you don't manipulate her. Life is easier if you're good partners with someone. Make sure you choose a good partner in life as they would expect you to be a good partner as well.

Wow I've dated girls that have had one these traits a couple of times but the last relationship I just got out of she was like four of them. Hard to really analyze red flags until you take a step back, and I found out the hard way. She was Insecure, materialistic and only cared about vanity, had no girlfriends and a horrible relationship with her family, and was an attention addict and started looking to other men during the end of things. She was drop-dead gorgeous (looked like Audrey Hepburn), I was so enthralled with her beauty and the things I thought were "good" that I stayed in that relationship. Most painful seven months of my life. Then found out she was the rebound seeker and moved in with a guy a week after meeting him for a place to stay. Crazy. Very insightful, thank you for the video Courtney. Stay strong gents!

Not kidding, I was all of these traits . Girl with no friends, lonely but not materialistic. I dated my boyfriend for 3 years and relied on him so much that he was all I could talk about. I hated other women in university because they were racist and sexist. I realised that there was something toxic happening in my life. I had a lot of mental health issues and had to bring myself back to reality. I reached out to the girls I went to uni with, to my family and cousins. I have always wanted an independent career. All I need is to be self sufficient, and I’ve found that most of my girlfriends who are winners are actively avoiding dating. It’s best embodied in the ‘signs’ personality. They don’t use social media, are practically hidden from the public eye, look pretty for themselves. They put all their value into work, and hanging out with other girlfriends. They keep themselves busy. Most importantly they learn to say no, and look pretty every day as a sign of respect and love. As of right now, I put a lot of my self worth into work.

Let's not forget the indifferent one. The one that she is constantly busy, dont have time for you, she expects you to be the one that talks to her first but she never does the same for you and when you dont contact her she gets annoyed. She always keep you waiting and she never keep her word, she can promise you to be better at something and she never does, but when you make a promise and you dont fulfill it then she gets angry at you. These are the ones that makes you say "it's better to be alone than being with bad company".

Every girl I meet is obsessed with social media so frustrating they just stare at their phone all day thanks for the advice ❤️❤️

You hit this right on the head. Especially with the girl with no friends. I've been through 20 of them and every one has a trait you described. Thanks for your work/talent.

Nothing better to hear a call out to these pitfalls, than from a woman directly. It’s like the ultimate insider, not like a whistleblower but more like a reverse hacker working as a cyber security consultant. Thanks Courtney!

Men need to become full stack men before they go out into the dating field. Full stack meaning you actually are on your purpose in life and moving forward. If you want a high value women you need to become a high value man! You attract what you are.

“Is she just insecure about her life and is projecting it on you” TLDR If she thinks you’re cheating she is cheating

I always love coming back to these videos years later, because this channel feels like a journey. So much can happen in a year!

Well done. We need more woman like you in social media. The dating world is a scary place. I think "the narcissist" is one that should be on your list and the most dangerous of all. They can carry the tendancies of the six you mentioned and are extremely deceptive and skilled at hiding in plain sight. They are extremely insecure (mostly due to childhood trauma), not necessarily gold diggers but very secretive with their own money, manipulative, love attention and hate when other people get it, and argumentative. There are more traits, but time permits. Over all, this what very insightful and gives hope to men finding a good woman. I have always said that men should be selective (picky) in whom they date. Thank you.

The materialistic girl can also be the one who says "I don't need you to buy me things, I make my own money and can afford whatever I want,. You should want to give me nice gifts to show me you love, respect, and are thinking about me.". And when you do give her a gift, it's never good enough.

I find the "no girlfriends" woman is an issue if, as a man, you yourself actually have friends. Personally, I don't have any friends I hang out with, and, as long as we have the same interests, goals and values, it definitely won't be an issue. Just my opinion as you need to actually investigate about the true reason she doesn't have any friends.

My last gf was extremely insecure, at first this came off as her being shy and introvert which actually I liked, with time she opened up to me about her feeling and what experiences brought her to be like this, I couldn’t help but to fall in love with her as I have this strong desire to help people and I mistakenly though I could be the one she needed to grow out of her traumas. Needless to say this feeling didn’t last long, she became overly controlling, scrolling through my phone, always attacking me for things I never did, always thinking I was cheating on her… Ends up I wasn’t happy anymore but I kept strong, kept trying because I still loved her, I still wanted to be that person for her. Well, one day she changes her whole mind and breaks up with me out of nowhere.. People, don’t make this same mistake I did, her flaws of insecurity hit harder if you have a “savior” mentality like I had. Fix on this part of your behavior, it won’t lead to anything good in the long run P.S. On top of that she also had no friends, no life other than work and me, and no ambitions nor hobbies. I guess I hit the jackpot on her huh? 😂

Some very useful advice in this one, thank you Courtney! 😊 Numbers 2 & 4 defo applied for me recently but loosely at the same time and this content has helped me put things into perspective! Plus kinda crossed paths with a 6 but I already knew that! 😂 cheers for the vids, keep it coming 👍

I've literally dated/had a relationship with every type you described. Long story short, I prefer being single and I'm loving it! I've gotten to the point in my life that companionship is an option not a necessity..

I have this habit of watching men's lifestyle improvement videos every night before bed and Courtney dropping 8 videos this week has been really helpful, probably one of the best things that happened this week. Cheers to you Courtney for helping us.

Spot on, exactly what I was looking for. Thank you. I appreciate that you softened it by not demonizing these women but said they just need to be alone and work on themselves for a bit.

You're a very uplifting women. To acknowledge that nobody is perfect and everybody has room for improvement without putting them below 💯

"what does she like to do.. nobody knoooows" I just thought that line was funny. Much love Courtney

I've dated a girl that fits into more than one of these categories and it was one of the most toxic relationships I've ever had. Suggesting walking away and personal growth and healing is refreshing to see in dating advice. Kind regards.

Thank you Courtney for this good information. This is not a "revelation" so to speak. It is a reminder to me of what I have experienced in my own life. Thanks for all you do! You are a true light in this world!

thank you so much!!!! been dealing with a girl that fits in everysingle category for the las 5 years, this is an eye opener, god bless you and all the ppl in the coments!

Wow....my ex girlfriend was all of these. Would've saved myself 3 years of grief trying to make her happy and understand her. I had no chance.

Courtneys voice is so soft. It's a powerful tool for her

Doctor Ryan. Fantastic information! You have for sure enlighten me with your superb knowledge on the subject. Now, I can think of another example. "The Leach". This type of specimen has a very particular modus operandy. This specimen meets all the qualifications you described as green flags but only temporarily. Once the marriage has been consummated, things start to change slowly but continuously (like boiling a frog). Within a few months, I found myself with a wife that did not want to work anymore, watch TV and spoke on the telephone all day long, wanted to know where I was at all times and expected me to bring dinner on my way from work because she did not have time to hit the kitchen.

First time subscriber. I love the sound of your voice. It’s calm and soothing. Great information on how to avoid getting into a rocky relationship and just waiting for the right one.

Every woman I've "dated" in the past has had one or more of these red flags on a major level. Needless to say, I'd abandoned the relationships before they even really started. It's left me a rather unexperienced man in my mid 20s but I'm glad I didn't go down a route of the mental/emotional trauma those relationships would have probably caused. This was a really good video, the points prove to be really helpful in understanding what goes on.

i feel like nowadays 90% of girls are “lazy girls” all they want to do is lay down in bed and watch netflix and scroll tiktok all day

7. Hoarder/messy girl- the girl with 2 or 3 “junk rooms” that are too cluttered to open the door. Unless you wanna live surrounded by clutter. Plus if she’s that clingy about her possessions, imagine how she’ll be with you

Very interesting, not only because it helps identify aspects of recent relationship that were on the wrong side of the road, but also because I can rely on some of the elements there - yes guys can be like this as well (at least some traits)!! I started the relationship pretty confident, with my life on the side and became gradually lazy, insecure, depressive, with less and less friends time. Needless to say it ended badly. I guess those are not personality traits as much as wounds you need to see, accept, and heal actively. Thanks for the video!

Funny lies girls tell that make me laugh: "I do not care about height". "I do not judge guys on looks". "I only care about personality". "I do not have a type". "I am attracted to all kinds of guys". "I am not like other girls". "I am not shallow". "I do not care how much money a guy has". "I do not mind splitting the bill on a first date". "I have not been with that many guys". "I am not really seeing anyone right now".

Well done Courtney. I think you’re very professional. From your clothings, the contents and the way you express your opinions. It is a great video and I wish I knew it before I made a mistake.

So, glad you brought up the "girl with substance" line. Guys are forced to figure things out the hard way in life and we learn, grow and change on that journey. We would appreciate someone who can contribute.

Everyone has flaws... it bothers me that people just throw one another away. What about growing together? Learning from one another? It takes dedication and work to make a successful relationship. It’s annoying that people these days just find it so easy to throw a friendship/relationship away because they’re not perfect... NOBODY is perfect.

A woman that has passion, drive and knows what she wants is incredibly attractive! Courtney, what can I say, you're purely genuine

Courtney, you are really good at making these videos, they are addictive. Great job!

Love your stuff. Well thought out and well presented.

Definitely avoid girls with lots of guy friends

I'll definitely keep my eyes open to look for these types. Thanks again!

I know girls who hop from one relationship to the next and I have no idea how they do it. When I break up with someone I'm single for at least 2-3 years by choice, and I spend that time self reflecting and wondering how I can better myself. The ones who hop just seem to get stuck in some Groundhog Day loop of false happiness and intermittent, imminent misery and because they don't reflect on themselves they end up ruining the next rebound, then the next, and so on in the same way. These people need to learn to love themselves and appreciate their own company more, but they unfortunately never give themselves the chance and need that instant dating dopamine hit. The cycle continues.

I absolutely love the way you think. I could not agree with you more! Thank you for being a blessing for so many people! Keep up the great work. You're Awesome and beautiful!

Types of women to date: - She helps other men dress better

The very rare woman who doesn't do social media is the woman worth your efforts.

Courtney your advice is spot on. I am 56 yr old professional and have dated women across the spectrum to include other countries outside the USA. Enjoying your content. Thanks

I can say truly I've been guilty of some and definitely not of all these warnings. I'm ashamed and proud to admit that thank you for sharing

This is really helping me realize I dodged a bullet. You were so spot on with the attention addict, connecting so many dots.

This video is scary relatable I’ve dated. Someone who fit in more than 3 of these type of girls categories. Which explains why the relationship was so toxic.

I really wanted to thank you for all the advices you're providing us ❤😘

Ah, Courtney... your voice is so nice and you look so put together. I've come across to your videos and they have great info.

This has been such a great week overall, and a big part of that is seeing your videos often!! ❤️ I’ve been making a lot of progress thanks to your channel

I love Courtney’s voice, pitch, pace, tone. Everything!! I could listen to you all day. Much love from South Africa 🇿🇦❤️. New subbie 😘

I just got to see this clip and I like to give you a huge compliment on your work. This is a very honest sharing and meaningful knowledge for men. Thank you very much for doing this.

thank you once again Courtney for a very enlightening blog . I think I last recently had a relationship with a girl that always came to me on the rebound I finally got tired of it . I just quit having anything more to do with her . no regrets so far .

Why can’t we all just find a girl like Courtney 🥺🥺🥺🥺

You missed the woman who likes to take the relationship far too fast. Unfortunately I had to learn this three times before I finally really learned. Where they bring up marriage and their desire to want to marry you after just a couple weeks of going out with you and or even meeting you. One was wanting me to save her till she fell back in love with her ex husband, one was dying and was so submissive to the worst mother you would ever meet that literally verbally and emotionally abused me and traumatized me for years and I had to take intensive therapy and abuse support groups to get over it after I finally worked up the courage to leave and decided to not commit suicide from feeling stuck, next one also dying but was also just using me the whole time for anything she could get out of me and was a horrible abusive mother to her kids. I'm so lucky I was able to find love again and allow myself to love. Been widowed twice by two of them even though I was separated at both times. Sorry if it's too much info. I actually haven't talked about it much to anyone outside of therapy. Guess I feel like you're an easy one to trust.

what an amazing list and breakdown, thank you Courtney Ryan

Thank you Miss Ryan, for your personal perspective in this particular subject matter. As usual its done with elegances and grace. Respectfully yours Eddie B.

You are my new favorite channel, Courtney. Great video. It serves as a reinforcement for women that I always try to avoid! I love your positive reinforcement and candidness. I wish your channel existed 20 years ago when I was a young man without any confidence. 🙂

GUYS Don´t the Girls who rides the CC

Having dated dozens of women over the course of my life, I did recognize many of these types of women. It was refreshing though to hear from a woman the recognizable details of these types. Guys....this is GOLD information!

Great advice Courtney. Thanks!

This is VERY informative. I almost want to say that I wish I had known these facts before going through the pain of learning by experience, but I needed to learn through the experiences. I've come to the same conclusions, and I applaud you for your work.

Hi Courtney. This one is based on my personal experiences. She's a single mum with multiple kids from multiple father.

Love your videos. The Lazy Girl seems to be everywhere in my area (without being judgemental). Many in my area just sit around and when asked goals ,dreams etc. they are like "I don't know. I 'll wing it when something comes around." Even in friendships it can be annoying.

thanks for this video, and your videos in general! super helpful and supportive 🤝

Courtney I'm loving your content lately. I cant believe you dont have way more subscribers! I think you've been steadily improving as a creator and hope to see you succeed even further. Keep it up!

I was told by wise old grandmas that if your girl friend makes you soup when your sick and offers to clean up your place , sweeping the kitchen floor etc... she is a keeper. look for these traights.

I am so very interested in the way women think and.feel. Your approach is very common sense thinking. I watch a.lot.of segments like yours. You are one of my favorites. Anything to help me understand the female psychology is very helpful. Glad I found you.

Thanks Courtney..I find this video very educating ...its well composed rich in content.

I dated a gorgeous girl some time ago, fell in love with her bad and got my heart broken. She hit many of these points that Courtney spoke about. Im over it now but it toke so long. Moral of story is be careful with women, they can literally make or break you

1:12 “we all have a little bit of insecurity, especially with the rise of social media and the constant comparison game” Spot on accurate. It’s pretty much why the mental health of people, especially younger generations, is so much worse now. And it’s why I limit the amount of social media I’m on. I just don’t need any of that. A lot of people out there would be so much better off without the drama caused by it. It’s useful to a point, like keeping contacts, but that’s what text messages and phone calls are for

You are an amazing speaker and the whole subject you cover is super interesting. I would suggest you to put also imagines in a board or to the side while talking, will make it ton easier to follow for people without perfect english.

I’ve seen some of these traits in some exes. But I also saw some things in myself as a man, so I think similar concepts apply to men and this is super informative. Thanks

Our lady helping us out 100% 🙏🏻

I foolishly tried to pursue a girl in my social circle who fit the social media addict persona you described. She never really expressed interest in me in that way and I quickly realized I wasn't missing out when she mentioned that she was having conversations with random married men.

I’m a kid and thanks for making this video, this will help me in the future, great job 👍

Solid advice honestly, thank you for sharing

Alot of great reminders for the guys out there who are trying to date during the pandemic. Sure, the process of getting to know someone might take longer at the moment but you touched on some key things that should always be in the back of our minds... great watch for females also.

I have friends but not really any in my home town. I think friendless girls are most likely to cheat if things go sour. But as we approach our 30s you naturally have less friends as you get older.

So great! ! And so accurate you’re the best Courtney

Just wanted to say thanks for the videos, advice and unbiased perspective. As a man and also just as a human, I appreciate your help. Please keep making videos! 👍

Never date a girl who has a checklist defining her perfect guy.

The insecure girl may not go through your phone while you're sleeping, she may also ask to see you're phone, you say no, and she accuses you right away of trying to hide something from her when all you want is to establish boundaries.

I agree with these. All are very logical and have good evidence to explain why they are bad for you. Enjoyed your content.

Not sure if it falls in category 1) but I once was in a relationship with a girl who suffered from "passive-aggressive" behavior (towards me, her little sister and her best friend). Whenever I visited her (we weren't living together) I never knew what to expect in terms of her mood and behavior. It could swing from positive to negative without any plausible reason. And if I would ask, it would only make things worse. It was absolutely draining my mental energy to deal with her though in my heart I cared for her. Ultimately we decided to split paths. At first I was devastated but I pretty quickly picked up life, focused on my college education, my side hustles etc and I was "out of it". She on the other hand went from therapist to therapist. I felt for her parents who were nice to me. But we never got together again and I have lost contact altogether. It's for the better. You cannot live with a passive-agressive person under one roof and women seem to suffer from this more than men. Avoid!

#5 is becoming a scary epidemic, reality challenged for sure.

Number 3 is ideal for a person that also doesn't have nor need friends. People with close friends are influenced by them way too much sometimes.

Really appreciated that you elaborate the messages and make it easier to help the universe youth thank you.

I went into this video expecting the worst, but it was actually a good video. Congratulations you’ve won me over 😊

Something I realized just a few years ago: Most girls don't have hobbies. This isn't meant as an insult, for some reason most girls I've met are literally hobbyless. What they like to do is often limited to shopping and traveling which aren't hobbies, literally everybody likes that. As a guy you need to be their entertainer 24/7 and if you can't be that, they're mad and make you feel guilty