60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 7/33

60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 7/33 - Addicted To Chaos

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@cindydover6170 6 ай бұрын

I can't believe how validating and life changing this information has been. I'm seriously trying my hardest to break the cycle and it is painful. But I see the benefit.

@TimFletcher 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for your comment. Don't give up on yourself. Identifying that you've got some areas to work on is a significant part of healing from it.

@susanellison5309 2 жыл бұрын

I looked for this kind of information (60 Characteristics) when I was young and it seemed counselors just didn't have the understanding then. So glad to see this being offered to anyone who wants to receive it on youtube. Hope young people find this information before they create lots of chaos in their lives.

@DonTwanX 2 жыл бұрын

My former therapist told me CPTSD is not a legitimate condition because it not in the DSM5. An obvious use of “appeal to authority” bias, but the logical fallatdidnt stop there! He told me to stop thinking about the past and use “The Secret” to build my preferred future. If you have CPTSD, emotional dysregulation will ensure you self sabotage and cut your nose off to spite your face. Such a waste of money. It was worth it to find out that talk therapy is not this panacea that some claim it is. I need to get my finances together so I can support Tim’s mission. This info can save lives. I’ve been battling suicidal thoughts for decades and this info is helping take my life back, the life my piece of shit family took from me.

@heatherbruce1668 2 жыл бұрын

@@DonTwanX just an FYI....PROGRESS!! Complex PTSD is also recognized by the United States Department of Veterans Affairs (VA), Healthdirect Australia (HDA), and the British National Health Service (NHS). -PTSD Classification The World Health Organization (WHO), in its 2018 ICD-11 (International Classification of Diseases, 11th revision), introduced the new diagnosis of Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). WHO introduced this diagnosis as a distinct but sibling condition to PTSD to reflect loss of emotional, psychological, and social resources under conditions of prolonged adversity. This diagnosis is classified under the category of "general parent disorders associated with stress."

@DonTwanX 2 жыл бұрын

Such a shame there’s not more views. Such valuable information, a karmic gift from the higher nature of consciousness.

@NuriaMelchorFer 7 ай бұрын

I felt the same way a few years back when I found this videos 😅 But it seems the channel is reaching more and more people and soon will get to the 100.000 subscribers! 🎉 I am certain it is only a matter of time and exponential growth until it reaches most people who need to get this information ❤️‍🩹

@kokoskokso 4 ай бұрын

I'm going through one video per day and it's such a godsend. Answers all of my thoughts as to why am I acting so weirdly - now it's clear and I don't have to do that anymore! Amazing to have this online for free and I keep sending this to people left and right as I'm in recovery circles. Thank you Tim for these life-changing presentations! God bless 🙏

@jennihawkins3450 2 ай бұрын

Just found this channel, and it's life changing. I wish every one could hear .

@DonTwanX 2 ай бұрын

Just think of all the broken lives that have been restored, improved to better than ever. Not possible without this foundational healing knowledge. Tim is an angel. He’s so chill about the “Christian part” that I sometimes listen to it though I’m not religious. I still get something out of it.

@OliveWeitzel 6 ай бұрын

Now I know why I started to offer my "shopping service" to my grandma: Being stuck with her was terrible, and the only chance to get out of the house was to go and shop for her; that gave me funny &relaxing entertainment, because alone with her everything was only intellectual - no games, no fun. She(48) had adopted me when I was two, and my mother left when I was 3,5. No way to get away! The trauma I had suffered never had been treated - and now that I'm 73 I wonder sometimes why I am so wierd.

@Lyrielonwind 5 ай бұрын

I think we all are weird some way or another. I'm not conventional and I understand people see me weird but I see them weird too (mainly in terms of shallowness and superficiality). Whoever is not standard (wearing a mask) seems weird. We should enjoy our "rareness" 😂. Maybe that's what makes us unique 😊

@Healing_Oaks 2 жыл бұрын

Tim Fletcher you are so thorough in these talks. These are helping me to become a better therapist. Thank you.

@dylanmilks 3 жыл бұрын

"Slow the RPMs down". That's a great reminder.

@TLPWRlifter 5 ай бұрын

I don't think I'm necessarily addicted to chaos but I grew so accustomed to it I get anxious when things are going good because I have no frame of reference for that. I don't stir shit up but I just kind of shut down. Would feel far more calm fighting multiple attackers simultaneously than sitting down at a social brunch. This has led to me avoiding social interaction entirely. It's like trying to read Chinese because I have no frame of reference for what things going good looks like or is supposed to feel like.

@amberscottcmt7400 3 жыл бұрын

I did well on this one!! I can't stand gossip and will distance myself from those that engage in it often... Maybe why I had trouble making friends in NA. The gossip problem there makes it an unsafe environment.

@alexandrugheorghe5610 Жыл бұрын

I'm 2 years late, though I'll try nevertheless - how many did you score? For me, it's half.

@amberscottcmt7400 Жыл бұрын

@@alexandrugheorghe5610 I don't recall since I watched this so long ago. I really can't do gossip though. I don't mind a person coming up in conversation more and then. And sometimes it needs to be communicated if another is not trustworthy or if we need to seek support on how to handle a situation, but talking about people's business isn't our place and speaking down about another only comes from our own judgments and lack of self worth and respect. Even if we're not yet able to truly love and accept ourselves completely, we can practice habits of using words in ways that help to bless, proposer and heal. All the best to you. 🙏🏻

@alexandrugheorghe5610 Жыл бұрын

@@amberscottcmt7400 thanks for sharing, and, I totally agree with you. I dislike gossiping as well. 👍🏻

@CarolSummer 4 ай бұрын

These videos have given me hope again… It’s incredible how sometimes just the knowledge alone (before the tough work ahead) can calm you down because you realise your response is not your fault and a perfectly normal bodily reaction in constant danger. I cannot express my gratitude, Pastor Tim, for this invaluable well of information and for spreading hope. Thank you. 🙏🏼

@Wearethechamps 4 ай бұрын

You are a star I'm so grateful the universe lead me to your videos. ❤

@w1cked001 4 ай бұрын

This is amazing stuff Tim. I’ve learnt much more about my issues from these videos and reading academic literature than I ever got from talk therapy.

@Sarnican 4 ай бұрын

After listening to this video, I think I avoid chaos I can't control at all costs, but get addicted to chaos I can control. That's especially evident in my job.

@user-jl4gh9pe8b 2 ай бұрын

That's why I'm so exhausted when going out around alot of ppl. Social anxiety. Omg thank you. 😊

@AWESOMEPRODS4 6 ай бұрын

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 You are soooo truly doing God's work. Thank you so much!!! I thank God for you Mr. Fletcher!!

@OrionOlamPiksie 6 ай бұрын

Wow this needs to go viral…

@Lyrielonwind 5 ай бұрын

Minutes 20-21; best definition of what has happened to me. After so much cortisol and adrenaline I'm in free response or dorsal vagal. My vague nervous has always been a mess but lately, I get dizzy and I'm afraid of fainting too often. It feels bad when I have been a doer and now I don't feel like doing anything. Anything seems too much for me. Thank you 😊

@melissachinnici 5 ай бұрын

I enjoyed this video but just want to highlight that the definition of trauma bonding is not commiserating with others about similar traumas, but it is the established bond between the victim/perpetrator

@kutasarri7113 5 ай бұрын

Yes. A point I was going to make as well. While bonding with others over shared traumas does happen, that is not always a negative thing ( in my opinion), but often a way to be seen and heard and to be able to offer each other support. Trauma bonding is being addicted to someone biochemically through extreme fluctuations in dopamine/cortisol and keeps a person stuck in a toxic environment, you end up looking to the person who hurt you to also heal you or make things better. It's a vicious cycle to be trapped in.

@shereeherring874 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for all of these pod cast. I am listening and seeing.

@raysaspaniol 5 ай бұрын

What a great talk. Blew my mind. Thank you.

@cattails4422 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! You explained things very well!

@sergiosalazarcavazos 5 ай бұрын

As I watch each episode, I feel like I discover myself for the first time. Everything that felt wrong and out of my control now is all part of the same effect. It's hard for me to say I lived through complex trauma, because my mind goes "liar". Somehow I feel a resistance to accept it even though it makes so much sense. I've been through abuse and neglect, I survived leaukemia and just recently discovered I have ADHD and depression. So must of what you say is scarily familiar. The warnings you point out really resonated with me. I'm so glad there is an element of how to heal in these videos, because I am currently looking for a way out of this mess and trying to get to my best life. So thank you SO much for doing this.

@RobertJones-gq3jq 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing. This really hit home

@kindheart_peacefulmind 2 ай бұрын

So happy to have found your channel 🎉💗💗💗

@iw9338 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Tim, good teaching as usual.

@christopherleubner6633 5 ай бұрын

Yes I do. If something goes well I know I'm gonna get some kind of smack down. It is also proportional to the degree of good the event is. It makes life not worth it to be honest.😢

@shadowfax9177 4 ай бұрын

Im proud to say I only had 3 yeses. 10 years ago I would have all of them .

@bevsofroniuk1193 2 жыл бұрын

WOW, another one that really explains a lot of what my addicted daughter is about

@fionagrant2023 11 ай бұрын

Thank you l am learning much from you ❤❤❤

@neferzoe 2 жыл бұрын

Great lecture!

@JoanFFF 2 ай бұрын

Now i know why i constantly feel annoyance……

@NickName-mn6jm 5 ай бұрын

I read the title and my eyes went O.O

@shelteredsparrow2736 3 ай бұрын

Great video

@SkyeAten 27 күн бұрын

Those 18 points also sound like narcissistic behavior and narcissistic rage...

@Smichelle00 9 ай бұрын

I completely get it now .. (typing this while listening, to overstimulate myself on purpose 😭)

@user-jl4gh9pe8b 2 ай бұрын

This needs to be in recovery/therapy

@EZchzinpp 4 күн бұрын

I just realized that Tim's speech pattern is very similar to George Carlin, but slower.

@fabiovgos6240 4 ай бұрын

Awesome stuff. Thank you Tim

@wiselistener4978 4 ай бұрын

This series is amazing!

@elsewherehouse Жыл бұрын

Does he ever do a video specifically on complex trauma and its definition(s)?

@TimFletcher Жыл бұрын

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@user-jl4gh9pe8b 2 ай бұрын

Omg my exzama. It reach to stress I knew it

@user-zj1kz6mh6g 5 ай бұрын

I will be safe receving good things

@UnapologeticGen 4 ай бұрын

thank you ...

@sarahalderman3126 10 ай бұрын

Ugh… the thought of even wanting to be “one with myself”. It sounds awful. If there is anyone on this earth I want to “be with” it certainly is not myself.

@Lyrielonwind 5 ай бұрын

The point is that yourself becomes your best friend. I'm working on it too.

@C-Span222 5 ай бұрын

Thank you

@saffloweroyl3663 3 ай бұрын

Just waiting on that scythe to drop

@evil7529 3 ай бұрын

Aww man. Will normal ever not feel boring? Anyone further along the journey find normal and safe is more comfortable?

@andreamagyar5541 Ай бұрын

Looking back, safety security , a steady line of fine I wanted to feel. Time to time I still get anxious afraid I loose it to some unexpected happening is out of my control.

@MsGabiele 5 ай бұрын

Brilliant❤

@RoseTurner-lj5yc 5 ай бұрын

Hell no! I love when life goes well!!!

@wertschaetzungs.booster 4 ай бұрын

If you felt like being addicted to chaos (i always tend to call myself organized chaoticely) and you have half of the 18 yesses, could that mean one is healing?

@user-qt9or4xu9l 3 ай бұрын

Never forget manipulators grand things done

@user-tv6ks7cl8s 4 ай бұрын

Sir I'm addicted to pop corn hubby

@user-jl4gh9pe8b 2 ай бұрын

Holy cow

@phoebebeacham9816 4 ай бұрын

Holy Basil can balance cortisol

@user-qt9or4xu9l 3 ай бұрын

Do you know how many people are abusing me in 24 hours I don't .. so if they come back with needs met I rest in my reflection of no existing so escapesd that won. . My life minimal when night excercise then when bareling dosing rose like thorn from rose bushes puling out skin in shed sleeping never sleep in bed . I'm moving I'm captivity. Demoralize no consequence overreach my personal apts is feeding ground. My faith is strong but watch caoz the adults brutal. Kids come home they leave or quietly on the hunt...obesity codependency narcy enabling grounds hostile environment. Stealing gaslit is the front door open overpopulation no honest manners deceany out window.