Psych2Go *I have had my mum and dad, however, I had a rough childhood*

Psych2Go I did, it was pretty strange but I survived. I missed my dad soo much and I didn’t see him for years, then one day he called me at school and asked if I wanted to catch up on the weekend, I waited until I got home and asked my mum, she told me not to and to block him from my phone. I still don’t know why and it’s been 7 years since he rung me.

Sometimes it feels like my mom is a single parent, but she's not, my dad just doesn't really do much, one time somewhat recently, my mom had to go somewhere and she specifically told my dad to have the kids clean the house before she got back, and fully expected my dad to help, (she was gone for a few hours), when she got home she started crying because it looked like not a single person cleaned anything, and that's pretty much all she does, clean a house with 11 occupants, and take care of the kids who aren't able to go to school yet.

I grew up with no parents turns out I’m one of the must successful in the family, it helps me to view life with toll different eyes because I was able to see an opportunity on difficulties, however I live with a deep depression as a result of my loneliness so everyday has become a challenge for me.

@@BongoBon360 I'm sorry to hear.. Are you planning to reach out to him anyways at some point?

I felt the same way abt my parents. But they’re still together and still miserable

You are a very strong individual to think what's best for your parents. I'm sure they appreciate that. How are you doing now?

I felt exactly the same way as a young child. Today my parents divorced and it wasn’t easy but at the end they are happier than ever before and me and my siblings as well.

@@glenyscica5845Glad for you, you were lucky it happened. My parents almost divorced when i was 14. But in the last minute they decided to "stay together for the kids" 😐😑 . I had since then a lot of suicidal thoughts and depression.

Me too! You're not alone❤hope you're okay and be kind to yourself❤❤❤

Definitely. This isn't just about divorced parents either, but there are definitely more single parents caused by a divorce than by death.

I'm a single parent because my husband passed away. My current boyfriend is an asshole and doesn't want to spend time with us. I'm looking for someone else to love us💔

@@brendakrieger7000 drop that asshole and focus on yourself and the little one. Be very protective on your family and who you let in. Since I know it is important to have a male role model for my child, I ask my male friends to fulfill the role as uncle. Having them be an uncle is beneficial than going through various relationships. Whenever you feel you found the right person to add to the family take it slow

Yeah, I mean there are also single parent families which weren't caused by divorce or death, but just because a man or woman was a garbage person and just left the other with a child alone (in the case I am speaking about it was either during dating or because it was one night stand and the other person just didn't want to be involved in the child's life whatsoever, so no marriage involved). So that also should be included.

Yes as I child with a single parent due to death, I have grown so much closer with my dad and my siblings. I have 3 other siblings and we don't have any mental illnesses as far as we know and I think that our family is just as happy as a family with 2 parents. I don't know if these are specifically effects but I thought these facts could be interesting haha.

Oxymoronic Ray i’m here lmao

Same here, mom passed when I was 10 from cancer, and my family is in Scotland and the East Coast. I don't really remember my mom, but my dad's done a damned good job raising my brother and I. Though, I did grow up fast when reality set in, so I didn't have much of a childhood after age 7, since my mom started to get more sick then.

Oxymoronic Ray yeah in a divorce unless the mother is not qualified to be a parent then the mother usually gets the child

And also I’m very sorry about your mother

Agreed.. more people have single mothers because of divorce, myself however, has a single father as my mum also passed...

Sound like you had a really wonderful mother who knew how to make her decisions. =]

Me too

Not me, my mom was pure garbage. I love my dad ❤

Cheyenne Kemper I agree with this 100% this me as well, my father wants me to visit him for a month and I told him hell no

@@therisingrainbow251 , I think that is a smart choice. I personally believe it's best to leave toxic people alone.

What if you commit death

I wish this happens to me

@@yosrbenmousa7344 are you well?

@CO - 10DM 685174 Castlebrooke SS yes

Hala madrid

Same, especially since I experienced it.

That's an important topic. We're doing one on loneliness soon. Stay tune!

Psych2Go Yay 😁!!!Thanks for responding!

Yup i need this since all my friends dissappeared after i entered to college and it seems that i can't make any friends there :(

@@Psych2go oh thank goodness! I really need that one

Good on you for figuring that out not many do

I was raised by my mom. I have no memory of my father as I was very small when he left. I havent spoken him or seen. I feel so depressed and lonely sometimes to feel that the fathers love is not there but I am strong even though my mum keeps me company and making me strong to achieve my goals with her love. but someday I will like to meet my dad.

sonali jaya single mom’s mostly play a role in divorce situations and you’ll realize it when you grow older

Thank you!

Yes thanks for understanding

How are you doing?

In the black community about 80% of children are born out of wedlock . It's a huge contributing factor to the dysfunction. Broken families, broken community.

GodsWordSaves 7 it’s just so sad and yet we go to church every Sunday

Well I'm a single parent and love it lifes simple and 4.0 kid getn college letters so stop the press.good comes out

Mine too

Glad you have such a loving mother! The bonds get stronger.

Yeah I try to be happy about my relationship with mine. Since my father has been out of the picture since birth. She never wanted to have a bf in the picture take care of me. And she had been struggling her whole adult life to realize not only was she gay but also a masculine women.

Same

im glad that you have mom i wish i can be with my mom again .......

Star ship most single moms have narcissistic tendencies due to the father not being there

Man, i wish that too. I can see how much it changed me living without my dad.

Yeah same

Same👍

I cried whishing i had at least one parent...

Are you appreciative of your mom and everyone she does though?

Project Pat I have a single dad :0

Keep your head up man, good on ya!

Project Pat Films Weldone dad,Keep it up,God bless your girls for you

Sftu. They're probably suffering 🙄

@@aikolia3144 hey you shouldn't say that 😐 that's rude your not in their life

same my grandma yells at me o.o

Mine are racist, I’m mixed btw.

That's amazing of you. To support your mom more, because of what happened. I feel that coming from a single parent household, we come to appreciate our parents a lot more.

I don't love her, both suck in their own ways but I do love my grandma.. she raised me basically, she's my real mom

Kurt Waters that's cool sorry you don't like either.😐

@@Esmeralda-rd9hf That's great you have someone who cares about you even if it's not your parents.=]

Same for me!😊

nice life and im sorry about your dad my dad and my mom split up too when i was a little kid and i dont understand whats going on but now i know it im with my dad now and i miss her very much and i love her same as my dad i also cry when i think about our memories and my friends saying 'my mom' anyways im a girl im just using my grandpa's tablet .........

have a good life god bless you what ever your name is it...

I hope to see something like this shit me one day from my son although he tells me I'm the best already. I just worry in screwing him up because it does get hard.

Sounds like she made you her emotional husband. It's called emotional incest. Not a nice word but basically I've seen this before. Love bombing and control, parental alienation

SAME!

Same my dad left me with my 3 siblings.

Same. I never grew up with a father or knew who he was. I don't feel like I missed anything.

I always wondered if mine. Just never wanted to be a parent? It wouldn't had made him a terrorible person but the reality is most men. Can't really see themselves rasing childern who are either biologically theirs or another man's own child.

I never knew my father actually. He died from lymphoma when I was 6 months old. I only knew him by my mom’s stories.

@Yee Haw Cherish every moment with them and make as many memories as possible. When they are gone it is the hardest thing you will ever go through. ❤

Grew up with neither my parents. Both my parents left me when I was a baby and left me with my grandparents.

Me tooo

Your mom is a failure at life according to your short comment. Regardless of circumstances she had a child with a unstable partner and on top of that she was not finiancially stable either yet still decided to have you. I’m happy and praise god you were born and I hope u had and are having a great life but ur mother is a poor decision maker and hopefully your grandparents thought u better. U were their second chance to do it right. Facts are facts.

Your mum wasn't a true single parent. She had co-parents (your grandparents)

I agree with you. My mother is too much connected with me and she gets depressed every time I leave home.

@@artemisfowl4399 Same here

I rather have a single parent than to live with my dad.

@@milky8471 what? you know that single parent also mean single dad?

you're real

Nice to hear that. My mom is also a single parent, I'm very grateful for her continuous support.

❤️

I think men suffer mostly

What example you are, god bless you.

ur mom is a hero

Oh hey! I've found my people!

Same here

Sameee

*laughs in Asexual*

The facts though lol

Im a bit late 😅, but im just like you, my parents divorced when i was 11 , i grew up with my dad, after my mother literally left me behind (she tried to take me with her just to make my dad angry in some type of revenge) before that she barely gave me any atention (i learned to cook since 8 because of that) , she left me at my sister's home after asking her money for a plane ticket to leave the country, she left without even saying goodbye to me. After that my father raised me while he had to pay a lot of debt left by mother, and barely worked himself to death, so we barely had time together back then, so, i most likely grew up alone, in a country House far from any city or village, all of this while dealing with bullying at school and highschool, since then, It feels like i lost a part of who i am and cant remember what It was, like a numb sensation on my chest, its hard for me to feel joy , and to make bonds with others, most of the time i prefer to be alone because leading with people stresses me TF out, but at the same time i miss having that joy and happiness i had as the extroverted kid i was. But now i dont feel like i can open up to people anymore, It makes me feel frustated and a bit sad.

No.. the founder himself is as well.. Where are you from?

@@Psych2go finland lol

@@butterflykisses4you I only had a mom too.

nah me 2

@@Psych2go aww sorry to hear it :(

That's true!

Moses Slippers big facts

Grew up with a single mother who worked full time to support us, so yeah, stress was high, barely felt like we had any attention (3 children, including me) bills were a constant stress, and I feel like it has effected me severely psychologically. I'm depressed, have anxiety, not a whole lot of self confidence and lacking direction in my life..

@@FractalNinja this is why we need more support for single parents. Those babies need a parent too!

@@kcoker9189 Then you get to 18 and expected to know everything when no one taught you anything

I have to put up with the way my mom handles herself. She came from a toxic marriage and her father was verbally abusive and often hit her. Even as an adult she can say some mean things out of line at me and keeps apologizing. It's tiring as hell to keep forgiving her. My grandmother was code dependent on her 4 husbands when she couldn't feel valitated by her own father for anything she like to do,

My dad abandoned me as a toddler and I can kind of relate to you guys, my mum treated me forever like a burden and always made sure to make me realise that I'm a baggage and the biggedt mistake of her life even when I haven't done anything but try my best at everything. My mum's mum is even worse, I feel so tired sometime but I'm working hard to get into pre med, once I'm able to, I'll be free hopefully. Parents are suppose to be supportive but mine just made me wish I didn't even exist

Sorry for your loss

I hope that you look at the option of seeking counseling to help you with your loss and feelings that traumatized you.

@@septiawoman2911 I have actually Every other Friday I am going to talk to a counselor

@ The Loud Comedian: that IS progress. Never give up in yourself. My best to you.

@@septiawoman2911 fricken thank you dude, that means alot

myrrh curie much love bro!

Same. I didn't have hate towards my mom. Just hate towards my dad because he was highly strict.

I’m in that boat right now, boyfriend is completely devastated but we are toxic with each other arguing in front of the kids; him yelling and calling me names in front of them. I’ve had peace these last few days without him, but I feel guilty he has no home

Ikr

Yeah I too was happy when my parents divorced. They've been fighting for 20years.

Same

Sara- Nova absolutely!

Thank you for pointing this out. That's exactly what was running in my head when I watched this video. I didn't find it comprehensive either. It just doesn't give a complete picture. When inaccurate or incomplete data is fed into the minds of people, it leads to contamination of society and culture..

They identified the parental situation they were discussing. It wasn't intended to mislead. It isn't their fault that they can't responsibly discuss data that doesn't exist or is insufficient.

❤

Your mom is amazing. Super mom!

I also want to hear more about single fathers. There are so many single dads out there but they're invisible. They need better resources and support.

Absolutely! In my teen years my parents got divorced so my brother and I stayed with our father. It's been really hard at first, but now I'm thankful for how the things worked out - my dad is the absolutely best! As a girl I needed a mom to share some girly stuff but instead I've been sharing it with him and it's great. So big thumb up for the good job, single dads ❤

I agree, i got ridiculed at halmark the other day when i wanted a mothersday card for a dad. My mom didnt want me and made that clear to me as a child and my dad was at every event every conference every meeting, he even quit his job so could see him at night before bed, he was my hero and i saw how everyone looked at him. Like he must have been the problem when my mom is the bad one. Single dads are the hero that looks like a villain, even though they never do anything to perpetuate that.

I have to agree. I too am a single father raising a wonderful 5 year old boy, this video is rather biased towards mothers, which I get is more common, but a bit more representation would be nice.

Jonathan Torres I’m sorry, you’re not alone. I’m a girl and I am raised by my father

Oof

They raised me but i can't even talk with them properly, I feel like am little screwed up in my mind. Plus having a lot of relationship problems, I don't know where am I going wrong in life

Thank you for such kind words. I am not a single mother, but I admire such open, moving, humble response :)

Thanks for sharing your story. There are definitely financial stress with being a single parent, but glad your dad supported your mom through his work.

Allison Smith i’m so sorry for your loss. I also live with my dad and my little sister. I have the best father ever and he loves us so much. It’s nice to know I am not alone :)

Finally, someone else with a single dad, single mom's usually get all the attention. Sorry for your loss, my parents are just divorced

I am a single father and it's hard

Well, family courts favor women more than men in most states. So single mothers are going to be more common, of course

I'm a single girl child living with my dad.. my mom and dad didn't gets divorced but there are being separate because of some conflicts.. it's been 7 yrs since I met my mom.. I'm very frustrated cuz I'm an introvert so there is no one for me to share my feelings 🥲

Parents need love as well..

Deepa D'cruz yeah but if they're a shit head to the kid and they parent doesn't care that's bad. Your kids should always come first not your love life. You had kids they didn't ask to come here.

wait till you have an emotionally hurt mum who u also need to care for, plus ur already too stressed out urself, then its worse than that in some ways

@caprice.t uhhh that was over a year ago XD thank you though, and sorry that what I said back then may of seemed mean lol

Your life can still be rough if you have more than others. Gratitude goes a long way but so does empathy and compassion

Please Stop to spread that thought around. I grew Up with an overly aggressive father, who traumatized me in my childhood and pre teenage years. I am struggling hard because of this, mentall Illness can literally lead to death. I am pretty Sure, that its better to have No father and a maybe more balanced mom, then to have an unfit, Bad one who can affect the whole household.

Thanks for the positive comment. We will let Natasha know :)

Thanks so much for your kind words and thank you for supporting Psych2Go ☺️

What were some early challenges you faced and how did you overcome them?

Hi Hailee, we agree that there are many people who have grown up with a single dad, we just tend to not hear about them as often. How was your experience growing up with a single dad?

Yay! Single dads! My dad had to raise 2 kids on his own and used to rarely get child support. My dad's a single parent and people always compliment him on raising me and my brother, he's like, "I don't know how that happened, I had a lot of help" because we live with our grandma and his best friend helps him financially sometimes

Same. Im broken 💔

Sorry to hear that your mom didn't find someone suitable. Sometimes, being remarried can be more harmful for the child than being raised by a single parent. How are coping now?

@@Psych2go Well, things are better now, especially since he stopped drinking, but a part of me has not yet forgiven him for making me feel in danger in my own home or my mother for taking him back, even after kicking him out of the house more than once. I myself got issues out of the situation, but I'll admit that I don't know where his influence ended and other factors began. Overall, things are better, but I'm still skeptical of the situation. Does that make sense?

I truly hope your doing fine. May God bless you

That person is a piece of shit and he doesn't deserve you girl

That's so encouraging to hear. I'd love to hear more about his story and how he fostered the relationship.

Psych2Go well..the father hasn’t been in the picture since he was a baby and his mom never remarried - so for over 20 years it was always the two of them. His mom always worked hard and supports him with going to college etc. I think it was important to her to never give him the feeling of having a disadvantage... And honestly, in some ways, I envy him. They are an even smaller family than I have, but they make the absolute best out of it. His grandma is also in the picture... I think growing up like this he knew that his mom sacrificed a lot to give him everything he needed and more and he never took it for granted. Therefore he became someone who never complains and even when he was a teenager I think he never acted out. He’s a people pleaser and doesn’t like too much attention or craziness. He’s very kind and has stronger connections with his female friends than his male friends. I think he can’t really open up with them. He is also very conscious about money...he therefore is very minimalistic and likes to save. For this reason, he takes his studies very serious - because he wants to make sure everything was worth it in the end and tries to become a teacher. I think he’ll be perfect for that job, because he’s great at explaining, very smart and good with most people. Definitely more patient than me. Meeting his mom for the first time was special to me - because I instantly noticed the parallels. And after all, yes he’s insecure and an introvert in some regards, but he’s perfect for me. I hate men that are overly dominant or act like somehow, working constantly makes up for zero emotional connection. My father is like that and I always knew I didn’t want that in a partner. I wanted someone who is kind and empathetic - and my boyfriend in many ways developed in a healthier way than I did, even if (or maybe even because) his father was a dick. Amen.

How r u feeling? Do u think of your dad often? Were u forced to be the father of yourself? Tbh its not about u, its about him. Maybe your dad has personal issues of his own thats why he left. Remember that you are enough and you are loved by other people.

Thank you! Let's hope it reaches more people within the end of his week.

I'm a pregnant single, my ex left me for other girl he just met... and accused me it's not his baby... I know I'll be a good mother. Thank you for sharing your story; it gives me hope.

@@hopenewman1902 as a single father I’m so sorry u have to go threw this there are still some good men out here in this world

Yes, that's what mostly happens with daughters. They become more independent quicker.

Xochiltepetzala Ilhuicamina well said

Do you think the financial stress of being a single parent has the same negative impact as two stressful parents?

@@PFULMTL May be true. But we had financial stress anyways, even with two parents. And if my parents would have splitted, my mother would have gotten financial aid from our country.

Similarly I would like to see a video on the effects of young girls growing up without any male models/figures in their life and how this affects building and maintaining healthy romantic relationships

@Nova you’re a man of course lol

@Nova how? can you tell me why

Its a constant battle isn't it!! I have this push and pull relationship with my mum.. Even though we are "close" but I have built up a lot of resentment towards her growing up because she was soo controlling over my life ( i know she just wants the best for me but still) Not until i moved out of home did i realise how toxic it really was. I struggled with expressing my emotions and speak my mind.. I didnt even know who I was.. Did you ever experience how having a single parent affects building healthy romantic relationships?

@@belkimhoang I'm 18 and didn't have and serious relationship for now but I think it's just because I'm young (maybe I'm wrong though) but I know it's really hard for me to fall in love or literally just have a crush on someone. I relate so much to what you said, it's incredible.

@@ilonaparaveman609 Ahh thanks for sharing! I struggled a lot when I was 18 I think I was craving for that male figure and seek more male friends (it was even difficult since I went to an all girls school too). I would get attached easily when I dated maybe I was just curious and filling a void. Whereas my younger sister might be like you where she didn't have that many crushes or dated much maybe cos of the fear as she was quite guarded. Where do you seek to learn how to communicate or interact with males in your life? I found myself binge watching a lot of dramas and movies to compensate for the lack of "healthy" male figures in my life (even then they were quite idealism). Do you think you would you benefit if there was something out there that would coach how to date/form healthy relationships especially growing up with a single parent? I wish there was something that taught me how to be treated and not put up with things etc

@@belkimhoang I have a lot of trouble interacting with males in general. It makes me really anxious and almost always uncomfortable. I don't have many male friends and we're not even this close. However I get attached to male fictional characters and male singers easily, I look up to them and see some of them as role models. I don't know if a coach or something like that would really help me, but if I have the possibility to know one, well why not.

All the very best to you♥️💞

Ne too

Why are you mad in the first place? And why blame your mom and sisters? They are not at fault for you being born shorter or smaller then most men. Not their fault for your school rejecting you. Not their fault for you choosing to play video games and not just choose running as your sport. Not their fault for you not reading your Bible and becoming a great Christian by obedient to Jesus commandments. Not their fault you didn't take psychology to understand your own mind and emotions which can be found on KZfaq by typing in how to handle your emotions or anger. Not their fault. You have choices.

That's just it, they don't think about what it takes to raise healthy kids, before they decide to reproduce.

If we all live in fear of being a single parent then no one will reproduce

@@miselw Not everyone is it seems (according to stories in the comments), so more power to them. It's a rational fear though, and we'll be okay if some people decide not to reproduce because of it. We're already overpopulated as it is.

Grew up with a single mom, couldn't be happier in my life. I don't really miss my father and actually thank God that we don't live together. But well, maybe that's just me because when I was born they were already separated, so I'm used to only having my mom with me. I think that the problem that most affect kids tough is parents divorcing, and bad parents, not the single parenting by itself. Oh, and also having to BE the single parent is a problem, it's much harder to raise a child if there's only one person taking the responsibilities.

You do know people change over time or your spouse can cheat right? Even some can show their true colors after birth. It’s not their fault that their spouse is a sociopath/psychopath or a terrible human being.

We can do one on absent parents soon. Do you personally have experiences with that?

@@Psych2go What about kids who are placed for adoption as babies and never get adopted. So they grow up in the foster system and are kicked to the streets when they become adults.

just watch naruto fam

Psych2Go I don’t honestly but my parents passed away when I was young, and it’s honestly a lot I have have a small video on how I think I tuned out but I still feel like I have anxiety because of it

Or drug addicted or parent in jail

We have one actually: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p9SVorx6uZbYf30.html

@@SnowFoxParty That's a very tough topic. Growing up with parents in traumatic experiences..

Im so sorry for u.My mom has cancer and my dad doesent care abt me and my sis

Definitely..

Shut up loser

@@cheesypasta8766 ??

@@cheesypasta8766 So you call me a "loser", because I wrote that single fathers exist? That's an interesting logic