Does this remind you of someone?

Who else clicked this because they were paranoid that they are the toxic one?

Can’t be a toxic friend if you don’t have friends.

Reminder: you can have toxic behaviors without being a toxic friend. You being here shows a willingness to learn and grow. And the fact you're trying means a lot when compared to the millions who don't bother.

The unsolicited advice part is so confusing for me. When people vent to me, I've always been so confused on whether to give advice or not. I used to have friends that would vent to me almost every day and I'd listen with open ears and assure them that I'd always be there to support them. But afterwards, they would sometimes get mad at me and say that that was "useless" or that "saying that doesn't actually make anything better". Then I started giving advice whenever people vented to me, but they would get mad at that if my advice wasn't always what they wanted to hear. Now I'm just unsure. Edit: Thanks for all the responses and advice, I wasn’t expecting any but it’s all really helpful!

You’re needy You’re controlling You’re inconsiderate Giving unsolicited advice You act critical of them You talk too much about yourself You’re not happy for their success

"I'd rather have an enemy who admits he hates me, than a friend who secretly put me down" Have a great day

I think I could very easily be a toxic friend if I didn’t try so hard not to be. I find I often have to stop myself from being too needy, controlling, giving advice they didn’t ask for, being critical, and talking about myself too much. I try very hard not to do those things though, and have to remember that sometimes it is best to just keep my mouth shut.

0:35 You are needy 0:58 You’re controlling 1:28 You’re inconsiderate 1:55 You give unsolicited advice 2:24 You act critical of them 2:47 You talk more about yourself than them(not true if you’re neurodivergent. It’s normal for neurodivergent people to do this.) 3:18 You’re not happy for their success

KZfaq: signs your becoming a toxic friend Me: 👁👄👁

To everyone who clicked on this video: if you recognise one or more of these signs within you, it doesn’t mean that you’re a terrible person. We’ve all made mistakes and no ones perfect. Recognising that you’re doing something wrong, even if you genuinely do love your friends, is the first step to getting better.

One of the worst qualities I have is getting jealous easily. I always think that one day my friends will think I’m so boring and stop talking to me or just find better friends. I had two friends last year and one of them I’ve known for six years and the other friend was someone I just met that year. I didn’t really have any problems with them until they both found a common interest and it wasn’t really my thing. This gave me a lot of worries that they would get closer and I’d be left behind and I let my jealousy get the better of me sometimes and acted like a total drama queen. This made us get into a lot of arguments and just became me and one of my friends just kinda competing for the attention or smth. That lasted until I moved out of the country and I feel like this was partly my fault although we were all wrong in a way. Till now I have jealousy issues and I’m trying to work on just telling myself “it’s okay for them to joke with others it’s okay that they have other friends too” makes me feel so toxic and I feel like a terrible friend. Hopefully I will stop being such a needy person at some point idk if it’s toxic to get jealous about small things but I’m trying my best. Not sure anyone will even read all of that tho

In all honesty i was very toxic last year and it took all of my friends leaving for me to understand that. Since then i’ve been owning up to my sh*t and trying to better myself, I’m still not fully there yet so this video helped me a lot. Thank you

moral of the story: dont treat your friend like how you treat your sibling(s).

The comments that say “you’re not toxic because you clicked on this” make me feel better... But you have to understand it’s not true. You could easily be manipulative and hurt their feelings without exactly realizing or admitting it to yourself.

POV: you clicked this to see if your FRIEND, not you, is toxic. seriously though, the fact that my "friend" matches all of these is overwhelming.

*When people consider you a friend but it's hard to consider them a friend*

advice: you can't be a toxic friend if you don't have friends.

The sad part is that probably the wrong friend is watching this

The worst part is that most people who watch this, even if it's true about them, they either won't realize they're like this or they're in denial.

It’s just so pleasant to watch this video, and realize how much I’ve grown as a person… like a year and a few months ago I was the majority of the things this video says, but thanks to my family, friends and specially myself, and my goals on being more secure in order to love myself, I get to change a lot trough last year and this year, becoming the person I’m now. This video just make me so happy. Though I’m not totally perfect, but I’ve grown and that’s my biggest achievement. And for those who feel bad, don’t worry! It’s just a process! Trust the process! You’ll get to be the person you wanna be starting with yourself. My best wishes and the best luck to everyone!

Me: actually being a good friend. My friends: You're a really good friend to me. My paranoid ass: Am I toxic?!

❤️- 7 signs -❤️ 1- you are needy 2- you are controlling 3- you are inconsiderate 4- you give unsolicited advice 5- you act critical to them 6- you talk more about yourself then them 7- you aren't happy for their success

I always try to remind myself to work on two things I have become aware I do. 1. I get clingy, but it’s usually in relationships not friendships 2. I need to balance my talking about myself and them talking about themselves

I just realized I do some of this to my boyfriend. I feel really bad, he's like the sweetest and kindest person I wasn't even aware of my own actions.

To everyone watching this, congratulations! You’re not a bad person. The fact you even took the time to watch this says you want to try harder and make sure you’re not toxic without knowing. Good job.

I feel like I’m a toxic person but I don’t do any of these things I-

Today I have realized that I've also been at fault with my friends and I've been a problem in my friend ship for the longest time. I've been toxic without knowing and I haven't been the best person for my friends, my parents, my siblings, and everyone in general. I've been a selfish human being, I've been crying not because of what my friends told me but because of what I've been doing to my friends and not realizing it. My apologies have become empty and I'll never be forgiven until I take a step to change. I would also ask my friends to get me food and I would always be selfish with every chance that I got and today I've realized that I've been a guilt tripping, narcissistic, selfish and prideful friend and I need to become better. And I hope one am about to become better because most of my promises have been empty, and it's time for me to change.

Watching this awakened something in me. Especially the last point, which is enabled by several parents by making their child feel smaller and compare so often to their friends. I know one of my ex friends who did this to me. She was envious of me and even started bullying me, to the point where my grades fell. We were such good friends before, I always wondered why she changed like that. Now I know, her origin story starts from her parent's trash parenting skills.

I’m always so terrified that I’m a toxic friend, I really don’t try to be but I’m terrified I am, I related to about 2-3 of these, I just really don’t wanna be a toxic friend..

The thought of hurting others hurts me even more than when others hurt me.

This really helped, as someone who has lost many friends, even though it may have been there fault, I can look back and see where I’ve gone wrong to

I feel like I'm that and I don't want my friendships with anyone being taken away from me. Even along with my family. after watching this, I'm starting to know my own faults. It feels like I'm the one controlling others because I'm in need these days.

I’m sure we’ve all been a toxic friend at one point or another. We just don’t like to admit it. And We cry and complain about it when others do it us.

Also being a toxic friend is caring too much about the friendship. I’ve ruined so many friends by overthinking everything like this. Sometimes it’s better to just chill

I’m thankful I found this video honestly. I felt like I was becoming more of a toxic/bad friend than I realized as the years went on and forgetting to greet my friend on their birthday was the final straw. I just want to be a better friend, I wish I was a better friend. I don’t deserve them.

Ok, this makes me more at ease, and makes me understand that I wasn't the problem in a particular situation that happened during the lockdown with my (now ex) best friend...

This actually made me realise how much I talk about myself wherever I'm with friends. I do need to fix that and my insecurity

I’d say I relate to the last one. When my friends accomplish big things, I congratulate them, but on the inside I feel inferior and jealous of them.

thank you! i’ll make sure to look out for these things in the future. ur a very helpful channel !

this really helped me. i'm in a bit of a dark spot right now, and this genuinely helped me so so much with knowing i dont absolutely suck. this video is damn magnificent and i love that it was made.

It hurts when you realize that you are becoming toxic😭

I need videos like this. I need to figure out how to be a better person.

If I vent to someone I don’t care if they’re unsure about advice, I just want them to reassure me that what I’m saying is valid, and why I shouldn’t harm myself. I only vent if I’m having a serious breakdown, it helps me calm down about it

I had a friend I completely cut out at the end of high school right before we graduated. I'd known her since the 7th grade and had been trying to get rid of her since my sophomore year of high school (that was the year I started cutting the toxic people out of my life). She made me feel awful for not spending time with her and spending time with other people towards the end of our friendship. She did all of these things to me at the end of the friendship. My junior year of high school she wasn't so bad, but she for sure did all of these things unapologetically whenever I'd call her out on it. I was the only one making an effort for the other person in the friendship and she would only talk about herself. It got worse when she got a boyfriend, which I'd hoped would make it better but didn't help at all. It's nice to know that I wasn't being the bad friend even tho she guilted me for not talking to her anymore when she was hurting my mental health. Also I do the unsolicited advice sometimes but usually my friends are looking for advice so I just default to that. I also interrupt people a lot but that's partly because that was the only way I'd be heard when I was in a very toxic friend group in middle and high school

When you realize you’re a toxic friend but so are all your friends: “Let’s see who is the backstabber today??”

When you’re watching this because you are scared that you’re being toxic but also don’t talk to any friends because you’re scared that they’ll think you’re clingy. Edit: that’s a lotta likes-

This was really helpful for me. Thank you! I'm trying to change and be a better person with my friends.

I’m just glad I’m not any of these things. However, it does make me think about my actions a lot more and how to be careful, I appreciate this channel as it has changed me for the better, since it help me evolve and get better in certain situations and more.

The talking about myself is just because I have isolated myself for so long I have literally nothing else to talk about lol

A message to anyone watching this: The fact you clicked on this video proves that you care about your friends, Therefore you're not toxic :)

Watching this video from start to finish, I’m starting to realize that I have some of those toxic tendencies without even realizing it and I hate it. I’m a good person at heart, I’m just trying so hard to shake off the insecurities that I have that created those toxic tendencies and I’m trying so hard to drain them out of me.

I could definitely work on stepping back with the advice. I try to be helpful, but I know sometimes I jump into advice before I think about if they want it or not.

Signs you're not a toxic friend: You clicked this.

I feel so disgusted that I can't appreciate my friend and celebrate her accomplishments just because of some petty jealousy. I know I need help with my envious feelings, I just don't know where to get it. Hey, so I know this will ruin this comment, but I just want to thank everyone that liked this. I also want to let everyone that relates to this to know that they are loved and that I am praying for them.

Im watching this video bc my mom has talked to me abt emotional manipulation since shes seen it, and i never looked to see if i feel like im in a toxic relationship because im use to being pushed around, but this helps me figure out who really are the people that lift me higher then push me down

Thanks so much for this. I was really very jealous of my best friend talking to other girl. We had a fight for it. All thanks to her, she straigh forwardly said i am being toxic. I will try to more self aware from today

Acknowledging being toxic is tough, but it’s better to acknowlegde and apologize for your actions instead of acknowledging it and denying the factual.

it’s good when the lesson is about ourselves, this way we don’t always blame others, we have flaws too, it’s not always about someone else, thanks ❤️

This was recommended and it really helped thanks

A lot of times I would have trouble making friends, I tend to talk about things I like or do, but people where never interested, I soon learned that people like it more when you ask them how they’re doing or what they like, it made me learn that not everything conversation should be one sided. I think it really helped me a lot now ^^ I hope this advice can help too

No one can avoid being a least a little toxic sometimes, if u relate to some, it’s okay atelast you’ve made yourself aware so you don’t hurt anyone

This literally described EVERYTHING my “best friend” does

I feel so relieved, I dont have any signs but when I saw the thumbnail i started panicking and questioning myself am I acctually toxic...

watching this kind of video just mean u truly love your friends

God, this is why I struggle to reach out to people, I'm worried I'm being too invasive

breaking point of realizing my friend was toxic was when i called to tell her i’d put my old dog to sleep. i was crying and devastated, and only managed to get out the sentence “had to put my baby to sleep” before she answered “that sucks. anyway-”. it was so jarring that i immediately tried to come up with a reason to leave the call and it made me evaluate the friendship. realized she’d treated me that way about much less important things too.

Very true. Thanks 4 the advice

A terrible quality I have is lashing out at loved ones when they cause me any inconvenience. I hate it and I’ve tried to work on it so many times but I’m afraid one day it’ll be too much for them.

KZfaq: Are you toxic to your friends? Me: But I dont have fr- KZfaq : *but are you though*

dude i always accidentally make things about myself without realizing so ive been trying to limit how many times i start a sentence with different variations of “i” when no one asked me about myself. it’s actually really helped!! growth is possible and i love you all :)

I don't know how do I stop this, but thank you so much

I never thought i was a toxic friend when this video popped out of my recommendations i said to myself "i didn't notice that huh." sometimes we don't notice that we become a toxic person/friend until something or someone acknowledges it.

Needy: Yes Controlling: Yes Inconsiderate: Yes Unsolicited advice: Yes Self absorbed: Yes Critical: Yes Jealous: No You are a toxic friend to yourself.

I always analyze my actions because I really don’t like people disliking me, it just feels like a bad decision in a video game.

I gotta admit, I do most of the things in this video. But usually not to my friends, I do it in usual... it’s my personality, energetic, cheerful and stubborn

This actually made me realize all my friends are toxic, they all have every single one of these traits.

2:34 mans straight up called her a clown 💀XD

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship

I watched this video because I just recently lost a friend who I felt became very selfish and toxic. We were actually bestfriends and I concidered her a sister but there was countless times that she would get upset with me for little things such as not wanting to hang out or simple not being able to at that exact said moment. This just carried thru out our entire friendship and I thought that maybe she would mature and get over such small things but she’s 21 now and I’m 19 an she acts the same and puts all of her problems onto other people. I guess it didn’t feel good to always be blamed for not being there for her at every beck and call and gaslit when things didn’t go her way to the point where she told me multiple times for simply not hanging out with her that “i make her feel fucking worthless” I don’t really know what I could have done differently but I do want the best for her and still love and care about her. I guess I’m just seeing friendships in a new light because most of the “signs” from this video applied in our friendship an it makes me really sad that I couldn’t even get a point across with out her having to say she was right ect. So for me I’m future friendships I have to know where to draw a line with my self and a friend I can’t always be there for someone 24/7 and feel bad that I wasn’t and I can’t have someone try to make me feel bad for not meeting their expectations. It literally felt like she wanted to be in a relationship the way she tried to control me and I just want her to realize that u dont necessarily have to hang with someone everyday to still be close and be friends with them. I also was becoming toxic in the way that I didn’t really care about our friendship anymore and was just at a breaking point already with her sh*t and felt like she was just creating problems out of the blue to get me to hang with her. Anyways have a good day to who ever reads my stupid rant🤣

Yes I admit it and I will change. Thanks for uploading this vid❤

I almost cried after watching this that Im toxic. I asked my friend if I am and she answered that if i think im toxic - I'm not. "Toxic people won't admit that they are toxic"

To everyone who is reading this, there is no such thing as the perfect friend. Because we are imperfect. That's okay! But there is a reason why we have an option to change to be better..we can do this!!

reminds me of a person who never stops talking about themself and doesnt care about things whenever i speak, they even admit to not paying attention..

i can be a bit self-centred and can give unsolicited advice. but i'd gone through a lot so i'm working on it. and i'm actively trying to talk more about them. i'll totally celebrate their successes and be there for them though.

I just got out of a “friendship” with a person who was like this. I couldn’t do anything but now I’m actually happy for the first time in 6 years :).

Seeing this in your reccomend: panik You have no friends: kalm Realizing you’re starting to get friends: PANIK

I’ve always thought I’m toxic, but watching this really helped me to become better🥰

I clicked on this video because I was worried I'm becoming a toxic friend. I can relate to 1 and 2. I never tell what my friends to do but I see myself always wanting to know who they're hanging out with and who else they're friends with. I need to not be insecure and I'll do better!

This gave me anxiety. I do call my friends when I'm upset and try my best to apologize when I feel like I've done something. I do say the wrong thing sometimes. Sometimes I do think about myself. I do feel like I'm generally a bad person nowadays, which is one of the reasons why I tried taking my life last week. I shouldn't be sharing this, I've just got absolutely no body to talk to, my parents won't even let me get a therapist or have me diagnosed for anything.

Haven't seen a summary so here ya go 1. you are Needy 2. you are controlling 3. You're inconsiderate 4. You give unsolicited advice 5. You act critical of them 6. You talk more about yourself than them 7. You're not happy for their success Hope this helped

It's very easy, after being friends with a toxic person for a long time, to develop some of those same toxic behaviours. It's normal to feel jealous or insecure, thats human. What's toxic is ACTING on those feelings, and refusing to work on yourself. Since you're already here, congratulations, you're probably not toxic! We can all learn a lot about how to be better friends to the ones we love, and you've made a great step in the right direction!

I have a really hard time not talking about myself. A lot of the time it's just that I can relate to what they are saying. So I talk about my experience, and at the end of the conversation I hate myself because somehow I turned that whole conversation in to me instead of just listening to what the other person had to say.

youtube: **recommends me this** me: **starts to have an existentional crisis**

i think ill just live without friends because ill always fear the fact they can replace me

I've never felt this lost and confused in my life💔

Nah nah nah each friendship has a different dynamic. My friend checks all of these boxes and yet it’s the perfect friendship. I mean with no context, you’d think my friends are bullying me (and vis-à-vis) but if you look at it from a our point of view, it a strong relationship. The bickering and banter keep us on our feet and the fierce protective nature of my friends is also reassuring.

I’m mostly a straightforward person who talks too much and interrupts my friends but I try to get my friends to talk with me about their issues like I do with them I tell them that I’m here for them but sometimes I feel like I’m being a bad friend for being a bit too attached but I’m trying my best to become better cause the only thing I want from people is loyalty and just friendship in general, that’s all I ask for but most of the time I feel like I’m asking too much of them. I’m sorry for this large rant I just felt the need to say my feelings

I honestly give unsolicited advice a lot, and it usually comes from a place of love. I was in the middle of texting a friend and offering support while watching this video and I'm so happy I watched it. Sometimes we all just need someone to listen to our issues. I just wanna say thankyou guys for the channel and everything you guys are putting out into the world. It's so wholesome and pure and it makes my heart so happy.

This made me cry a lot, because I just had a recent fight because I am the toxic friend apparently, and I "always make myself the victim."