Are we gonna ignore that megumi and yuuji were the example of a good friendship 🥺

*To everyone, remember this:* Having a small group of friends that really care about you is way better than having so many friends that don't care about you.

1. the friend who always needs something - true friendships involve mutual interest - only looking for something when they need something and not being reciprocated - they only take from you 2. the friend who gaslights you - constantly blaming you when something bad happens in the relationship - they only say they care for you as a way to gaslight you 3. the friend who never reaches out to you - one sided relationships - it feels like they’re doing you a favor when they reply - they make you feel underappreciated 4. the friend who only talks about themselves - your conversations with your friends get turned around and ends up being about them - you end up being the friend listening to their problem instead - you always give them your time and attention 5. the friend who always talks down on you - makes you feel inferior constantly - they brag

In addition to cutting off these kinds of people, I think it's also important for us to be self-aware and avoid becoming those people

I have this friend in college who constantly asked for everything, whether it be my papers, homeworks, notes, etc. At first, I shared them out of pity with him because he’s academically lacking… until I found him hanging out with his friends the night before a homework was due, and sure enough he came to me for answers because he didn’t have time to do them. I eventually lost my pity for him, plus I realised he wasn’t going to change if I keep ‘helping’ him this way. So when he asked me for help again… I told him the homework is easy and it’s not necessary for me to help something so simple. That’s when he exploded lol. He said “you should’ve straight up tell me if you didn’t want to help. No need to start bitching about it. You aren’t the only person I’ve asked help from.” that was when I got so heartbroken and upset. I’ve helped him more than 30 times in less than one semester, and the moment I refuse to give help. he lased out and called me bitching. Shouldn’t I be the one who’s angry? For bothering me so much and taking advantage of me without giving me ANYTHING in return. I SHOULD BE THE ONE BEING ANGRY. Then I stopped replying to him at all. Didn’t talk to him til now. A few weeks ago, he chatted with my close friend and asked why I keep distancing him. He told my friend that he didn’t expect me to be upset this long for such a simple fight. This part made me really angry because it was NEVER simple. How easy is it for him to call someone “bitching” and expect her to forgive him the next day? I’m just an engineering student in this man-dominated field, trying to survive threats here and there by doing the best I can so my peers don’t look down on me. Yet I was degraded as a bitch for this. Know I know why men label women as sensitive. They say the most hurtful, disgusting thing to women, and think their words don’t matter at all. He tried to talk to me last week. I guess it’s because he misses the homework answers I gave him. But I avoided him because I no longer want to be associated with that beast anymore. I’ve never felt so happy after cutting him off. Best decision ever. He has to repeat all major classes because he faildd. I’m not saying I’m happy, but I’m satisfied karma has done their job. Thank you for reading. I just need a place to vent. After all these months, I still cry after reading the “bitch” text til now… lol

"Wow, i'm actually a terrible friend" - Me, 2021

"There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't even jump puddles for you" - Peppa Pig

Having no family or friends guarantees my sanity and peace of mind...

I think when we get older we start to realize the people we thought we needed in our life or the people who added value to our lives changes. It's ok to shed those relationships and let them be what they were remember that it's up to you for personal growth. I have very few friends because of this and say it leaves me open to explore a relationship withyself and live an honest life with myself because thats what I value. Don't settle in relationships because there are really good people out there who want to grow along side of you

There’s a lot of videos about “cutting out toxic friends” but I think a more needed video would be on how to 1) not only recognize you are toxic, but 2), improve from it and become better. Which that sort of content is more complex than a simple six minute clip, and plus it would likely be preaching to the choir, but people often forget to or don’t even know how to focus on themselves to improve for the better. I feel that self awareness is the most important step in making your own life and the world a better place.

At first I thought she was gonna say “according to statistics, only a small percentage of you who watch our videos actually have friends”

This video reminds me of when I wasn't self-aware of the way I treated my friends until my friend brought it up. I love watching these videos help me be more mindful of my actions and the things I can improve myself of. ❤ ( I love your cotent!! )

You're better off having just people you know and not having solid friends you'll only get hurt in the end .Don't expect anything from anyone and you'll never be disappointed.

"I don't have Friends I Got Family" - Dom Toretto

Never once had a friendship where the other person actually talked to me without me reaching out first. If I don't talk to people, nobody talks to me.

I feel bad because I was the toxic friend.. and I did not realize it until it was too late. I was the type 2 friend who blames her friends whenever there is a problem in the relationship, and I always made them feel that I had a preference over them and that they needed me and that I could abandon them and I did not need them and I do not know if my best friend is upset about this because our friendship lasted 4 years, but in the fourth year we no longer talked much because we were not in the same class and because the sideburns had ended and we no longer had anything to talk about. Now we do not talk at all because she found friends who are more suitable for her. In fact, I am happy for her because she was the reason for my happiness and she did not abandon me and tolerated me for 4 years and she loved me and I do too and I hope we can be friends again to show her that I have improved

Your solutions to these issues are to just stop being their friend? It would definitely help to communicate how you're feeling before you just abandon the friendship

I don’t think I have any toxic friends, but this video WAS extremely helpful - cuz it’s taught me what exactly not to do in order to ensure that I never become toxic toward others 😅❤️

itadori and fushiguro being an example of good friends is so sweet :)

As someone who is autistic and has ADHD i personally struggle with a few of these. I accidentally end up sending full on books about my day because every little thing is interesting to me. I feel so bad about it and my friends definitely hate it and so I try to stop as much as possible. I also end up turning things around accidentally making them about me. I hate to admit it but I've definitely been guilty of it. It definitely hurts to know that i could be considered toxic but it's also a good thing for me to try and change!

I just got out of a toxic bestie situation.we used to be extremely close but would often get into fights when I felt like I was being ignored and forgotten. I used to be naive. For 4 years I was made to believe I am immature and incapable of selfless love. I failed to recognise the countless other people who were there for me. She abandoned me the moment she got a bf. I broke. I'm in my healing period now but realised. She was everything this video spoke about. Made me realise how foolish I was to stay when everyone I knew told me they were tired of seeing me depressed and used. Pretty much venting in public right now. But learning to let go. That's a very important lesson I hope people learn without it destroying them.

Honestly, over the years I've realized what a friend actually means. And then I realized how little friends I have, and how I may be toxic to them.

Does anyone else feel quite sad when you can’t really find some loyal, trustworthy, or simply just someone you can count on when you’re in your lowest times type of in real life friends? So instead what you decided to do is to try finding some online and not that they’re “bad” or anything, in fact, there are lots of great people online. However the thing is you just don’t get the same feelings when talking to people online, rather than irl friends?

I have a neighbour who moved into the flat below me a year ago. I've started noticing a pattern where I'm happy to help them out with basic necessities here & and there. I'm instinctively kind & if I have plenty when they have nothing, I'm happy to help out or share what I have without needing to be asked. But they only really ever do the bare minimum for me & make it out that it was a real struggle to do even that. I brought it up with them & they got really defensive about it & started to gaslight me! Needless to say, I've got no further intentions to be anywhere near as forthcoming and helpful as I have been. From now on, I only have enough for myself! It's sad that people are so shortsighted & selfish, but c'est la vie! 😂❤

These videos really calm me down , I enjoy listening to the message but overall it’s very calming, and sometimes it’s fun to spot out characters that I like drawn in a sketch

"The friend who never reaches out to you" I can't cut relationship with them, because that kind of friend is me. That why I don't want any friend I don't want to hurt them.

lol seeing a dream stan as a example for a terrible friend is literally the most funniest thing ever

I recently found this video, and I want to say thank you for making it. I never really understood what made good friends and what didn't for the longest time, a lot of my 'friends' were a mixture of the first four, especially the gaslighting and the never reaching out. I always put so much energy into them, and the energy back was never equal or never there at all. I've been working on the good friendships I have, and retaining them, and so far my life has been getting better from it but... My issue is with people who don't reach out in return. Its hard to tell which ones really care, or truly don't care at times. I'm quite social and I know some people are a bit more introverted but some people also just don't care. That's the part where I don't know how to tell if someone is just a friend that has troubles sometimes or a friend that doesn't care.

A lot of these points apply to me actually. Funny thing is I am usually aware of that and more often than not communicated openly when I don't see a relationship as proper friendship because of that (formerly trying to avoid "making friends" as much as possible for the longest time after noticing my feelings in highschool), but it often gets dismissed because people keep insisting on their own definitions of what friendship is, and oddly enough it NEVER has to do with genuine mutual care and chemistry. Now I am left with a truckload's worth of shame, guilt, hatred and a broken, repressed identity because I was doing very badly in general with self-doubts and lack of control and I don't see myself ever recovering. I never genuinely cared for another person in my entire life, which is something that kept nagging me because I know it's sus as hell (just like the total lack of any passion, curiosity, talent, grit or anything else that's considered good). But I really don't know what I'm supposed to do about it. Trying to force it anyway just drove me mad. It almost works in fantasies (that I'm not able to have anymore), but that's about it.

Summary: 1. The friend who always need something (will reach out to you only when there is a need). 2. The friend who Gaslights you. 3. The friend who never reaches out to you. 4. They always talk about themselves. 5. The friend who always talk down on you. In this quarantine time, I have realised true friends and family who will be there for me in my hard times. Finally, I found I'll be the only person who is going to be with me no matter what happens.

I never forget that quote that says "Because friends is not about quantity, but qualities"

I did not even realise my friends were ghosting me and was a horrible friend to me I was literally innocent and happy before I even met them

I recently joined this friend group that i didnt wanna join in the first place but im too embarrassed to say no. I only joined their group for one person i wanted to talk to since i saw her. They make fun of me all the time making fun of anything that i do and it brings me down. I wanna get to know the girl i wanted to friend, but she is always with them, and they literally control her because she thinks they are very nice because they friend her. They were making me so uncomfortable and always told me they wanted to cheat off of me in front of me. I started talking to them less every day, and now im always sitting alone doing nothing and no one even bothers to help me. They always try to make me do their homeworks basically using me. The class basically hates me. Couldnt care less but i have been lonely for 2 years with no friends and its driving me crazy.

Just want to say before you stop being friends with anyone: in my opinion you should 100% talk to them first before making a move. This gives you both the opportunity to work things out and understand why they do the things they do I believe. Edit: I would like to also mention how sometimes it is not a good idea to give someone a chance based on the circumstances. Such as them not willing to listen or comply with the chance you give them. But it's still not a horrible idea to give everyone a second chance as long as they don't take it for granted.

Having a friend that gaslights you is really painful, I just got out of that kind relationship and it was really tRaUmAtIzIng because, of course she was the one that ended the relationship and told everyone that I tried to sabotage her, so guys be careful who you befriend because I don’t wish anyone what I’ve been through not even to that friend because it drains all your energy and love of life, I’m still healing but now thanks to you PsychToGo I now understand how toxic of a friendship it was :)))

I had "friends" who fit the bill on some of these and started to feel like the friend nobody likes. Luckily I was able to find a new group who would never make me feel that way.

Pro tip: try talking out your interpersonal problems with your friend. Dont just drop friends. People can and will change if they want to.

"People I should stop being friends with?" Not a problem, I have no friends any way! :)

1. The friend who always needs something. The friend who only talks to you when they need something from you. 2.The friend who Gaslights you. Manipulater 3.The friend who never reaches out to you. Doesn't care! Doesn't care to Even reaches out. 4.The friend who always talks about themselves. Self centered and doesn't really care about you. 5.The friend who always talks down on you. Is either full of envy and just wants to feed their ego

i was always the friend who never reached out unless i needed a favour, although i would have done anything for them at the time. i didnt stop reaching out on random, nobody ever reached out to me so i decided it wasnt worth it. ended in getting ditched and ditching everyone else, too. pretty sure they forgot about me though and honestly feel better without any of them. its not always bad having no friends - sometimes its better off.

I've had tons.of friendships that ended badly. Too many. Mostly because I never left when I saw red-flags. I was loyal, attentive, selfless, and above all else made an effort. But unfortunately plenty of people do not understand these qualities within someone and will take your kindness for weakness. Nearly everytime. And worst of all, give you excuses when they don't adhere to their own word. Personally, if I were to offer any advice to anyone it's this -- Don't expect perfection but expect to be treated the way you treat them, and if they don't, won't, or can't, they aren't a true friend. Period. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME! Life is too short to put your all into the kinda, sorta, maybe people who don't see your worth and treat you the way you deserve. So you have to find the ones that do. And they're out there, unfortunately you just have to get through the shit before you find the gold. But when you do, it'll be the true friends who treat you the way you deserve and will never take you for granted. Then it'll all be worth it. Trust me.

How many friends do you want? Comment below.

Thank you for the video you made! To be honest I had a problems with my friends before. I was in like a friend group with four other girls and we were very very close together like sisters. And I thought everything was doing fine until a girl who was very nice asked to be friends. I loved comunicating then and I said yes. Not too long she met the others. I thought I will still have my friends and that it's nice to have more people to be close to but they all started to avoid me. They were always being jealous when something good happend to me and the new girl who was also very close became my crush gf. The saddest thing is that she knew I liked him Edit: I don't say that having a big friendship group is bad but sometimes you can be forgotten.

I used to have a toxic friend. Now I have good friends, when I met them, on that day I fell and they helped me.

I'd like to say that usually cutting your friends off immediately is a bad idea. Sometimes, you should confront them about it first. They might not realize that they're doing it, and you might actually help them out by pushing them to be a better friend. If they refuse to grow, THEN you can cut them off, and only after they start trying to improve themselves should you give them a second chance.

Just Remember the six elements of friendship, *Honesty *Laughter *Kindness *Loyalty *Generosity *Magic

I had a friend that I considered my bestie. And at that time, supposedly so did she consider me. I met her at a workplace. We hit it off famously. People would ask us if we were sisters. She invited my husband and I out to her home to visit & meet her husband. I really did think I was special when her husband mentioned that she is hard to get to know and didn't think she had ever invited someone home this quickly.. Anyway, I would help her undergo some projects at her house. Painting, gardening & landscaping, restoring a wagon.. yea, not lightweight stuff and after awhile, I began to reflect onto my place and how much it too could benefit from the same & together there was nothing we couldnt do. So one day I mentioned this and 'oh of course we will - we will fix you up to' Years passed and nothing changed. Then when finally satisfied (I guess) We tried to plan for me but then she was working too many hours, had too much laundry this time, etc. . Then her check in phone calls became less and less.. I desperately needed a place to stay after trouble in paradise but there wasn't enough room for me. So I stayed with husband because although not "together", we remained good friends. He was my best friend. I'd try keeping in touch with text & at first she would respond but that became less and less as well. Then responding ceased altogether.... Then January of this year, my husband surprised everyone by having a fatal heart attack. I knew that the news would effect her some and wasn't announced in much media, etc.., SO, I did text her. I simply sent his picture with his birthrate & date of his passing.. She did respond and acted as though we never lost touch.. "oh my God honey, what happrned?" I replied with: " why have you been ignoring me and my texts?" NO response.. then I sent "oh ok, so you have nothing to say?" She said "because I don't know what to say, I didn't think I was".. I responded "OK sure, if you say so." All she'd have to do is read for herself the last 10 or so texts in our history so see that I am correct. We've been silent ever since. If that is her true colors, I prefer that.

I have had two friendships with co-workers that became intolerable when I realized all I was to them was a giant ear for them to talk incessantly into about themselves or whatever boring thing they wanted to blather on about. One would basically steal the conversation totally away from me and talk about her topic until I eventually got a chance to say "so anyway..." and go back to what I was trying to say. She never caught on and took the hint. I don't have patience to teach middle aged women how to converse normally. Both would tell sooooo much detail that if it were me, I couldn't be bothered to speak all of that blahblahblah much less think anyone else wants to hear it. I had to hear sooooo much (pretty ordinary) detail about her daughter's friend's parents' divorce and her neighbor's elderly parents' decline! I now shy away from work friendships because they're too awkward to get out of until someone retires or gets a new job.

I’ve been a terrible friend. I’ve mistreated my friends just this year and I kept on messing up because I never realized how toxic I was until now. Now I’ve started to improve but I think almost all of them are giving up on me- they think I’ll never change. They all doubt me

It doesn’t look like anyone caught that jujutsu kaisen reference so I’m just gonna point it out and appreciate it

I'm most guilty of the "talking about myself" one - I try to keep it in mind when I'm talking to people these days. Sometimes, just shutting up, listening and following up on what they say by asking about them is the best course of action.

Truly thank you. I am in a toxic friend group who, always make fun of me, talk bad about me to my face and behind my back, pick on me about being short, dumb, stupid, and tell me nobody cares for me and to shut up. They ask to hangout, only to bully me ask for things, gaslight me and etc. for example one time I told my friend a secret and he swore he wouldn’t say anything to anyone. One week later half the ppl at my school know and he blackmails me into things with this. I will be dropping them. Thanks

Some nuances to consider! On never reaching out: Sometimes people isolate due to mental illness or addiction. Always keep this in mind, some folks aren't trying to put the responsibility on you, they're just struggling. On making things about themselves: neurodivergent people often relate to others by bringing up personal experience to show they understand! It's not always an attempt at monopolizing a conversation. Just a reminder to give people space to be human, not everything fits in neat, clear-cut boxes!

Used to have “friends” that were so mean to me that I didn’t understand how a real friendship was supposed to feel like. Looking back, they weren’t even my friends, they were literal bullies. Talking down on me, never including me, constantly ignoring me, making fun of me, laughing at me, constantly pointing out my flaws and more. Hell, one of them even told me that she would become very happy if I died as a “joke”. They both left me scarred for life. I’ll never forgive them for that.

Man i love when these type of youtubers add references to the complete opposite genre and make it make sense

I really love your amazing and cute animations, your voice is also so calimg and relaxing to listen to, thanks for your videos and helpful advices :>

this video was awesome. also I love the channel style. best regards from Spain 🙂

I love Dream at 2:04 and how he is considerated "the friend who gas lights you" by what he did in the dsmp w his friends

THis video amuses me as it furthered my belief that cutting out almost all the people I once considered friends were truly toxic. Over the years I believed them when they'd say they would change. But each of them were at least a combination of 2 or more of these types listed. It took a family member going through one of the worst things one can in life to put into perspective just how evil and malicious these people were. I've been free of them for about a year now but I can't help to think about just how many people like that are out there. Stay safe, everyone and don't be like me. Act sooner rather than later.

I believe the friend that talks down about you while increasing their own self esteem is toxic. However, sometimes friends have to talk down to you so you don't get hurt by high expectations. Keeping you grounded. That's a friend I admire.

Another really toxic type is the gossiper: Someone who calls me his "girl best friend" (which he don't is to me but that's a diffrent story) wanted to force me to unfriend a girl just because she rejected his best friend. I ended up lying that I would do it but I'm still friends with her till today

love how this channel references so many show and characters, it’s so fun

Lemme check my friendlist Ah, it's pretty empty, no worries for me. Ty for the video.

It is very true that it’s better to be alone, then dealing with that type of bs. If you feel a weight lift you’re on the right track.

I'm the friend who never reaches out but I'm always waiting for my friend to message first cuz if I contact her first I feel like I'm disturbing her. She likes talking about herself which I'm very comfortable with cuz it's good knowing more about your friend.

6. A friend who constantly tries to monopolise or ruin your relationships “Does your friend always seem to ask personal questions about your relationship to your partner but not you, do they do everything they can to convince your partner they should get with someone else simply because they can’t stand to see you happy, chances are they doing this because they aren’t happy with themselves and are looking for a way to air off their own insecurities that they deny to themselves, so if you have a friend that consistently goes behind your back whenever your out with your partner and tries to get them with anyone but you then it’s time to draw the line and cut those toxic friends out of your life for good”.

I'm sorry to say that I've had multiple close "friends" that behaved in one or more of these ways. Did cut them loose when I realized they actually didn't care about me, but sadly not before getting hurt by them. These encounters have made it hard for me to trust people to actually be friendly and not simply wanting to manipulate me in one way or another. It has also made me have a hard time trusting my own judgment of people since the people that hurt me were very close friends. The fact I don't have many friends but a few very close friends, made it that much worse when I figured out that a significant portion of my friends were actually toxic relationships... These encounters were many years ago but I still am cautious around new people to this day and it takes a fair bit for me to feel that they are a proper friend that I can trust. I've managed to take it more easy nowadays, but it is always in the back of my mind, making me doubt people's true intentions.

I have recently realized I'm becoming their toxic friend, only talking to them when i have no one else/need something, always avoiding them and never reaching out, etc. Recently my "friend" has been weird...like always talking about dirty things to others, always making comments about my siblings or my family/pets sometimes myself, and just making me feel uncomfortable, like sometimes they even make jokes about hurting kids or others (when i care about others and love kids) it's super annoying and i find it really rude. So lately i guess in response to that I've been drawing back from them. We've been friend for almost 5 years, but recently i wish they weren't my friend. They could have better friends who will actually talk with them and be able to talk about dumb nasty stuff.

I've never had friends like this. Choose the people you keep in your life wisely. You deserve only the best💕

Uff I’m the third one, never reaching out- I just assume I’m not fun to be around so I just separate myself from them; I don’t mean to hurt them in any way at all, just been in a weird mood lately which causes me to cut off contact with so many people. Thank you for the video though, I hope to improve myself to become a better friend

There's an inverse to scenario 3, where you can have people in your life who are trying way too hard to have a close friendship with you, even though you're very different people who want different things. If someone tries to make you feel like a bad friend for not doing things you've explained to them you don't want to do, then you probably need to find other people.

This is my number one pick for top 5 types of videos that grossly simplify interpersonal relationships and should thusly be neglected when making decisions to cut off people you've been with.

Please don’t be one of those people who falsely accuses all of their friends as being one of these stereotypes. We know it happened to at least one person who watched this, haha

The worst part about this would be someone who constantly talks about themselves, ask only for your help and doesn't invite you for any good moment whatsoever BUT COMES HERE and say that you're someone who's talking down when you highlight what they do. That is Gaslighting at its finest ladies and gentlemen.

It's been 7 years since I cut off people like this from my life. Haven't gone back since and I feel sooooo good! ✌️

I guess I need to stop my friendship, but we've been friends for 8 years, now idk what to do. 😔

you know what... *I don't need friends, they disappoint me* but whoever realized your one of the top above. It's okay being self aware is the number 1 step to change your ways and actions we're all human.

1.) Always needs something (never give back) 2.) Gaslights you (constantly blames you) 3.) Never reaches out to you (you keep maintaining the relationship) 4.) Always talks about themselves (always end up being about themselves) 5.) Ways talks down to you (goes out of their way to make you feel lesser)

Today i discovered smth i already knew ,I HAVE AMAZING FRIENDS,and i will cherish them forever

I think i might be three because i find it hard to keep in contact with people, and when people send too many chats, i just do not feel like answering

1 - The friend who always needs something: ...good thing covid came 2 - The friend who gas lights you: manipulating a person...good thing I know his a narcissist 3 - The friend who never reaches out to you: one-sided investment...I mean it can change, right? 4 - The friend who always talk about themselves: I mean she's a good friend, you know? I get to practice counselling and my patience ^ w ^ 5 - The friend who always talks down on you: nope, never met one, sounds like an a**

Don't forget about the friends who don't respect your boundaries and purposefully make you feel uncomfortable

Another thing I’ve seen is: Say you said your friends has anger issues, or maybe you had a fight with them and called them rude or mean. Sometimes they might say “oh, don’t mind me and my anger issues” or “sorry, I’m just really mean 😀” I’ve had friends who’ve did things like that, and I end up working my head off about them.

Thank you for another lovely video! All my life I've had lots of trouble with #4. Even now, I don't seem to be able to find people who actually want to hear about me and my thoughts. I know I'm a good listener--is that the source of my problem? I know I'm not the most fascinating person in the world, but I think there must be times when I'm worth hearing about?

i remember having a friend that would probably have his own category here: the obsessive/pampering friend. basically, the person is pretty chill at first, and you quickly get along with each other. in fact, it's really fast how it happens, and soon enough they're already in your circle of friends. but soon it feels like the friendship's going _too_ fast and it feels off. like, it's been only a few weeks and they already want to visit your house and they always pester you about it. they also slowly start pushing you away from other friends to make more time for them. they may even start acting hostile towards you other friends and then only act kind and sweet towards you. and then before you realise it, they're already trying to insert themselves into _every single_ social situation you're in, and even start following you around (at least, with what i've experienced), and it's to the point where even thinking about their presence makes you feel uncomfortable. in some cases, they may even try to start a relationship too soon. they constantly pamper and kind of obsess over you, hence the name. i had a friend like this as a kid, who i'm gonna call V, and long story short, everything i've described above applies to his behaviour. he started the friendship way too fast and tried to cut me off from everyone, starting small with an argument between one of the my other friends to try to separate him from us. there was even an incident where i was talking with another friend privately about this situation, and i looked behind my shoulder and V was there, following us from a distance and trying to get close. we told him it was a private conversation from the get-go, but he just kept persisting. i'm glad i managed to get away from him in time before it got _really_ bad.

I love how they used Dream as an example of Gaslighting...if only they used Ranboo as the victim though but overall very happy about that lol

I’m 28 and I cut out all of my toxic friends, I don’t have close friends anymore but at least I feel better. I don’t believe in friendship anymore.

This channel helped almost the whole world you showed that mental illness is real love your channel and vids ❤❤❤❤

It’s best not to chase after a “friendship”. Especially a farewell one.

I've had one-sided friendships for years. I pulled all the weight, always was the one to reach out and ask to hang out... They haven't asked about me for ages, even now that I've stopped asking after them. I got exhausted trying to pull us together. I liked hanging with them, but it hurts, so so much, that I wasn't interesting enough for them to bother anylonger. I feel like a complete outsider. My only friends left are one who lives on the other side of the planet after moving, I can only chat with her online but maybe she'll visit this year, and then there's my best friend, the very first I made in this area. I'll just have to trust that they won't leave me like everybody else has.

I have a ‘best friend’ who does all these things. And she honestly gets angry at anything and everything and gets violent too easily. I don’t know what to do since whenever we fight, she expects ME to apologise when SHE wants the friendship back. And her mother is no better. She raised that girl to think she can do no wrong. The only problems are with me. My mental health is deteriorating and she’s asking me to apologise again. What do I do?

I totally relate to the 4th one....I have a friend who always keeps talking about their life problems and I don't even get the chance to express myself...and on some rare days when I do get the chance...they make me feel like my problem is not even real and they act weird to me...they make me do whatever they want and I clearly know that 'she' is using me....she made me leave all my good friends and I barely talk to them now....and Idk how to break my friendship with her but I really have no interest in talking to her now

My advice to anyone here is never let anyone walk over your boundaries, if someone doesn't want to be there for you in the good and bad times, try not to let them have full access to you. What I learned is you are the main character in your life and for most people, you are no more than background or side character, sometimes the antagonist. Put yourself first and trust your gut, if you feel a friendship is too transactional, walk away if that's the best move for you.

(edited 6/8) two months ago, i wrote how i felt like my friends ignored me and i overall just had a one-sided relationship. to those who have felt similar, i’ve found some helpful information that may lift your spirits :) ❤️ there are people who will be your friend but eventually they may turn toxic. yes, this is an unhealthy relationship. if you are afraid to cut ties with a toxic friend because it may hurt them, chances are, it’s hurting you more. do not be afraid to cut ties; you are not responsible for anyones happiness. ❤️ attempt to engage your buddies with conversations and activities. you’ll know who your real friends are if they truly care about you. if they are fake, i promise it’s better off to take time alone with yourself. ❤️ don’t jump to conclusions. as harsh as it sounds, you might not consider what’s happening in another persons head. they may not even know you feel left out. should this be the case, let them know how you feel. ❤️ remember to love yourself. despite what others may tell you (or what you tell yourself) you are human. someone will always care. hope this helped :)

I'm in a bad one-sided friendship and it hurts to try to keep fighting when they only give minimum effort 😭

That first one scared me until the "but they never give anything to you" because more than half of my friends always need help... but they try their best to help when I need it so I'm good.

people with no friends: I'm four parallel universes ahead of you

"You want to find someone to vent your problems to, only to find yourself listening to your friends problem" God this hits home LOL

I have this friend, I love her a lot as a best friend. Though we were closer when we lived together in the orphanage I currently live at. We got to know each other there, since our rooms were beside each other and we considered one another as neighbors, for fun reasons of course. Though we have our individual struggles. I always listened to their struggles and lended a shoulder for them to cry on, since I genuinely care about them. Long story short..they moved out from the orphanage barely a year after moving in. We were both individually worried about how to maintain our friendship, since we knew living beside each other was the thing that brought us together. Of curse they came and visited me once a week. But I started to notice a pattern with that. They wouldn't engage in anything outside the reach of my room for 3 hours, they mainly just sat on my tablet watching tiktoks or KZfaq for those 3 hours in total. It was like that all of the time. I tried to make them engage in something outside of my room, like going for a walk or going to the nearby town, or in one of the big halls my orphanage has in which we can play and run around In. Though they always refuse, coming up with excuses like, "I don't have energy for that" or "I'm not feeling so well". I always brush it off, and respect their decision, since I don't want to force them. But I can't help but to think,,why do they even come and visit me if they don't engage? Like if they don't feel like doing anything other than staying in my room, then why visit me in the first place? We eventually started hanging out outside of the orphanage, cause I got tired and drained from doing the same routine each wee,, without any special outcome in it, whatsoever. Though, they don't even look like they are enjoying my company. They don't even smile when we go out or when I visit their house, and just looks drained from everything. They surround me with such negative energy that I can't help but think of and opportunity to leave, or feel relieved when they leave. I feel guilty for thinking like that, cause they are/ used to be my best friend. Every time we meet up, they always complain about how late I am, telling me to stop making them wait like that, though it isn't my fault the train I'm paying to travel with to see them..just malfunctions. They also like to bake, and is even kind enough to bake something for me. Though I struggle with and ed, and isn't always as delighted to eat high calorie food like sweets and cake. Last time we saw each other they complained how they spend time asking something for me, when I didn't get to eat it. So I just told them I'd be happy to drop by their home to pick up and maybe play a bit with their pets together, just so they could be satisfied and not feel like they did something for no reason. But then they complained about how I only wanted to go to their house to eat the cake and nothing else, making me sound like I was greedy. It upset me cause I already struggle with the thought of food negatively, and therefore it felt like they was shaming me for being greedy for sweets, even if I just genuinely wanted to make,e them happy. They didn't even smile the whole day we hanged out neither, and I asked if it was okay to take pictures of us together as memories for me to hang up on my wall (which is a thing I love to do, when given consent). They said they were fine with it. But they didn't even smile in the pictures we took together, and genuinely look pissed off. So I eventually lost a bit of patient and asked them to just smile for one photo. (I also didn't hang up the pictures, because of the negativity surrounding the reason behind the taken photo, and I didn't want them to feel uncomfortable). Idk, I'm currently crocheting a bag for their birthday. But it feels like I'm doing for nothing, cause I don't feel the spark between us like I used to. I think we grew apart, but I'm doubting whether if I should just cut them off, but I feel like it's such a mean thing to do..

I had a friend that that sometimes wanted me too do a favor for them and talks about themselves