1. Pornography 2. Drug and Alcohol Abuse 3. Gambling 4. Infidelity 5. Debts 6. Divorce 7. Body fat

For 2020, I'm giving up beer, coffee with creamer, and soda. I've already given up on dating the modern woman. Hoping to lose 30lbs for a leaner and fit physique. Wish me luck!

Alcohol is the rabbit that leads you down the hole. It seems innocuous on its own but it will make you susceptible to all traps.

8. AVOID Marriage or cohabiting LTRs as best way to avoid Divorce

Bro, your philosophy of manhood is on point and sadly dying. Stay strong, we're a dying breed.

I would also add in, Avoid playing much video games. Gets in the way of exercising, developing relationships and chasing excellence.

Don't fall in to the trap of being judged to be right or wrong by others for things you enjoy doing.... You only need to listen to yourself.... It seems in today's society everyone is living by rules set by others.... In reality, those that judge you, seek to influence you for their own benefit.

I hate divorce brother. I grew up with divorced parents and I have a half brother in the same situation. Divorce is hard on Children and everyone involved.

Solid, straight forward, timeless advice. Applicable to any year. Good job.

Retitled: 7 things to avoid in 2020 if you're a married man

Great advice! Looking forward to a great year.

Bro. I appreciate you more and more. I totally resonate with everything you said.

The solution is called self-discipline you’re not allowed to say that word anymore

This video targeted deep rooted issues that most adult Americans are struggling with in some shape or form. This was one of the most valuable videos that I’ve ever viewed here on KZfaq. I’m passing it on to my husband, thank you for taking the time with creating it.

Great topic, awesome advice. Thanks for this video.

I am blessed that i found this channel months ago! Thank you for sharing your knowledge brother.

Thank you for the good work Ryan, Happy New year to you and the community.

Thanks for the message.

Thanx dude, this is good stuff.

Thanks for making the video.

Glad to read this such good advice!! Excellent deivered!!Thank You!!!

This was a really good video, thanks!

..fantastic channel and great presentations always. Thank you 🙏

Just found your channel this morning. Great video thanks for the wisdom

I like everything on this list, most I don't do the porn was my biggest problem but I believe I've dealt with it. The rest I stopped doing just because I saw no progression in them. About to be 40 next year and want to make the transition smooth. Thanks for the video though. It's always nice to see men on the same page.

Great topics. Absolutely needed to be said. Can't express how many people I've seen fall victim to drugs and alcohol. Alcohol is sneaky and subversive- know your enemy.

Made a decision to watch at least one of your videos every day. Great stuff bro.. ✊🏽✊🏽

This is a great list. Many people are too afraid to admit the evils of porn. It screws with our brains and the constant dopamine fix of self pleasure destroys our patience, self discipline, and prevents us from being productive.

Here's to a blessed 2020 gentleman. God bless.

Amazing points of view keep it up

Thanks for your podcasts, I try to learn English and a Listen you every day. I believe my comprehension of English is better.

I like the contents of your show keep up the good works.

Great talk!

100% agreed...great video sir

This was SOLID advice for the new year.

Great key points 👌

First and Best video to watch in year 2020 so far

These Principles and rules are so timely going into 2,020 , Great stuff.

Good list

Continually saying the shit that people need to hear, thank you.

Love your beard bro your favorite fan from Sudan 🇸🇩 🙏🏾

All great advice brother thank you I really appreciate it and do me one favor don't water down your message most men are hard-headed we need to head straight raw facts

Great Video! Point 7 was great!!!!!

all respect

This man. I respect him. We need him

Very good content

Well done sir.

Great video. I like your approach to controversial topics. Solid message, great channel. Keep up the good work in 2020.

I totally agree with the Body fat. We eat too much and move to little. THAT is a trap for sure! Your words and comments on that subject are strong. Keep up the good work.

Please make a video on "what women bring into a relationship" ?. please be real, i wish to have a genuine answer from you. Because I don't see anything other than sex and children.

Hi, thanks for the advice. Would share the titles of the stack of books behind you and what you got out of them.

Great advice! Black hat with white lettering needs to come next! Blue and Green versions are great, just prefer black hats

These are all pretty great. As you said, some of these things aren't bad within themselves but as you also mentioned, ask is there a benefit in my life that I could see by not doing some of these things? Commit to try one and stick to it for a set period of time. Track and write down over time what you learned or benefited from if anything.

Phenomenal TALKS

First comment, and as ways amazing video.

#1 is a difficult nut to crack because it is often caused by Personality Disorders and even past emotional traumas. I am of the mind from my own struggles with this issue in the past that it significantly tied to dopamine deficiency, meaning depression. The problem is very likely an organic one at the brain level. I recently had a lengthy conversation online about this issue with a female friend. Another friend of hers insisted it was about education. That is just not true. It is not an intellectual struggle. It is an emotional one based upon multiple issues sometimes. I am very glad you brought up the issue of the women that men chose. I have been harping on this with guys for some time. Men often choose women with whom they are completely incompatible on many levels then marry them. Not a smart choice. Men need to take responsibility to be more conscious of their marital and relationship choices. I have been married for 26 years because I chose a woman with whom I was highly compatible in terms of intellect, education level, religious beliefs, and social class. It takes time and as the old saying goes there are too many fish in the sea to be sold on the first one or even the fifth one. You need to find the right one specifically for you.

Life Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. You have only one life to live Live your life the way you want too. Everybody is trying to tell you what to do in life especially the government.

Insightful and helpful...working on debts but gambling is not a major issue...I do gamble once after a decade!!

I'm so glad people keep speaking out against these things. Some are obvious, but still pretty prevalent in our society. Some aren't as much. Especially porn. Hopefully these ideas keep catching on and we start moving towards being better and living in a less damaging society.

Couldnt agree more. Escpecially in terms of infidelity and divorce. Take it from someone who has learned the hard way. Marriage gets boring. No matter what. Temptation is out there, but definitely not worth it. And divorce is one of the most painfull, devastating things to deal with in life...

Correction: ... you dont want to rush into marriage.

Wish you all an awesome 2020. Go for it!

Summary: Go MGTOW and work on self-improvement.

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I knew from the first trap, this was going to be powerful

A lot of this is good advice. Stoicism ultimately wins out in a virtuous society. Your opinion on mortgages and debt is a bit rudimentary though. It makes sense to borrow money if you're borrowing at a lower rate than you could gain on that money by putting it into an investment. That's "good debt". While it's TRUE you shouldn't go overboard and buy a house outside your means, borrowing that remaining 80% upfront isnt a bad financial decision, it's an effective one.

About debt, it's only bad if you incur debt without BOTH the means to pay it back AND if the debt does not lead to benefit to your life. Consumer debt bad, mortgage is ai'ight.

I used to consume pornography along with drugs (weed lsd) on a daily basis , then I got psychosis and developed morbid retroactive jealousy. I would sit in a empty room and obsessively think about my gf at that time cheating on me (while she was not )for hours . Then I had to break up with her because of my delusions. Now I'm on CBT and the therapist told me that it was because of the suggestive porn that I was watching and the psychedelics were creating acute psychosis precipitating and worsening my delusions. Porn actually destroyed my sanity and my relationship with women . I am lucky that I got help at right time.

That last one though...I'm in the middle of the biggest, dirtiest bulk of my life.

Part of what makes you a adult or her thinking conscious human being is the ability to discern the ability to separate the ability to distinguish. For example a gynecologist have to separate his work from his life as does many doctors lawyers paramedics and people who work in traumatic Fields employment. Your Perspective perception has to be based on the specific for unique situation you find yourself in and does not apply to all things all the time. People tend to have a problem with that Tend To Be problem people.

'Losing faith' and, in an age of lotus-eating distraction and the ever-present immortality fallacy, 'complacency' are two big ones for me.

How can I get a hat like that brother?

Have to basically agree with your thesis; though I'm less pro-marriage than you are. And yes, unless you're sick and cannot do anything about it -- It is NOT OK for a man to be fat, not even a beer belly. Be a good animal, and you're half way to being a good man. Hard drugs and alcohol have killed people I cared about. Alcohol and emotional drama ruined most of my childhood until I went to live with my sober and hard working father. My world changed radically -- and soon I was changed for the better. Boys need fathers. Once a baby is weened, mothers are optional, fathers are indispensable.

The divorce thing. Its also important not to hold on too long either and let unacceptable behaviour exist. I tried a little too hard to save my marriage and it resulted in more financial devastation and damage overall. You have to also know when enough is enough, cut your losses and stop the bleeding. Too many men hold on way too long

Totally agree, man! I won't even have lunch with a co-worker if the co-worker is a woman. If it's a group of people, I'll go but if it's just me and the woman - can't do it. Doesn't matter if she's attractive or not - that's not the point. The point is perception and possibility. Someone (or even the coworker) may have the wrong perception. There is also the possibility that if the coworker ever got upset with me about something, all it takes is for her to say something and I'm done....even though I'd never do a thing to jeopardize my marriage. Now, I certainly don't think women are that nefarious but I'd rather caution on the safe side! PS: I have the same Jiu-Jitsu book brother - 45 years old - 3 stripe blue belt! Keep up the great work.

Hey guys I could use some suggestions so I'd love to get a group of men organized in my life who resemble something like the order of man but I have no idea where to I'm open to all suggestions

I'll cast stones..... I was in Florida over the holidays at a resort, and the amount of morbid obesity was SHOCKING. I saw people drinking Coke for breakfast!!!! Ugggh ;/

Legal marriage is a trap to avoid. Marital property laws give women power over men that are unprecedented according to the law of nature. A man can control himself but that control becomes hard to exercise when your partner doesn’t control herself. If marriage is a must consider a religious ceremony without state involvement (caution: get to know your state law on common law relationships); use a prenuptial agreement and renew it periodically. In short your marriage partner, armed with the power of law, can drive you to financial ruin, into debt, into emotional ruin and into drugs and alcoholic. Your marriage partner can deny you sex sending you to look elsewhere on the internet or at the bar. You can work hard at staying fit but with the security of that marriage license your marriage partner can allow herself to become a slob without risk - she gets at least half if you leave. In short, bringing the state into your life with a marriage license is a really bad idea unless she is super rich and I mean super rich because then you enjoy a little bit of the power of the state. But the chances of that kind of a sweet deal? Slim to none.

Not my porn!..Not my booze! NOT MY DAD BOD!

I quit smoking, alcohol rather easy but porn is impossible for me, I have no idea why.

An unrelated question to this video, but do you believe in the "man cave" within a home or should there be more or less a study/quiet place where anyone in the home can essentially get away and know that there's a dedicated room for getting some quiet time?

Yes when I was married and my man wasn't home I don't care if it's his best friend he's not coming in the house . And never ever date a woman that's pregnant or has children . There's nothing worse than getting attached n having all those good memories n having to leave all that behind. Or worse being a negative and possibly loosing it n wake up in prison.

finally (for me) somebody who shares my point of view about alcohol ... cant stand that silly talks about benefits of using it

First of all, that’s a sick beard

Every sane thinking person acknowledged the governments right to regulate or outright ban pornography until about 1970, about then is when attitudes changed, a permissiveness took hold fueled by leftists and liberalism, allied to profit seeking capitalism....and that is when people began to say that "its not the governments job." ....

What are common red flags which should be addressed early before getting married?

OKAY

For the most part I agree with your perspective. I think your video should be titled 7 traps to avoid so you can be the best man you can be. The being said as a divorced guy I fall into the (women are crazy & you shouldn't ever get married with the divorce laws the way they are) group of men. Avoid narcissistic women which unfortunately seems to be a large number of them.

You know how you don't get divorced. Listen up because guys mess this up every day. Don't. Get. Married.

I agree with you across the board. The one point I want to highlight is infidelity in marriage. I know a feminist who thinks infidelity should be ok. It's become more and more normal in western society. A man can be disciple and account for his actions. How do you balance a woman to be faithful in a society that promotes promiscuity?

Where or better WHY do you draw a line between alcohol and pornography? When people need alcohol to relax or to feel socially comfortable there is already a REALLY thick parallel line. Why crossing out one out and the other one not. Especially - as some other commentator mentioned - alcohol is most of the time the rabbit that pulls you Donne that hole with force.

Discipline = Freedom

why not just join a monastery and become a monk too? Why not just accept who you are. Like say: I am what I am. All these changes that people try, never last, never work, make life boring and no fun. I've been through all that. I've come to realize life is filled with joy and woe. I just think life is meant to be enjoyed. Trust me, you'll never remember a day at the office one your death bed. But you might remember one amazing night with a tall blonde or something like that right. Or drinking with your buddies. I mean the whole monk thing, and oddly enough I did that too one time, for 2 years. It's not human.

Ryan, in regards to #1, please check out "The Great Man Within " Podcast from November 14th. It features Lisa Ann a porn actress for over 20 years, Lisa shares very valuable thoughts on the industry to help back up your point....

porn is a complicated subject I agree and disagree with you at the same time. -- I agree Alcohol and drug abuse is bad. -- I agree on gambling being bad. -- I agree with infidelity what about guys who get cheated on all the time? -- I agree with debts. -- I agree with the divorce. -- I work out all the time so no body fat for me lol

I agree that porn does skew men view of women and changes how you interact with your partner. I don’t like it never have but my husband don’t feel the same way I do.

Im 43 and almost out of debt finally still single maybe to late to have a family now

Hair color was pushing it for me but to each their own ig 🤷🏼‍♂️

Professional poker player here... please, let me clarify: poker is not gambling, poker could be gambling if you are horrible. roulete and slot machines are gambling, poker is a close relative to chess.

This advice will help you all in family court too, the judge will treated a Good man with more fairness and dignity.......right guys, come on we can do this.