7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone | Malavika Varadan

7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone | Malavika Varadan | TEDxBITSPilaniDubai

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8 жыл бұрын

“We mustn’t speak to strangers.” Malavika Varadan, challenges this societal norm, by presenting 7 ways to make conversation with anyone.
RJ extraordinaire, Malavika Varadan, creates waves quite literally with her morning show, Breakfast No.1 on City 101.6. An avid fitness enthusiast, positivity ninja and drama queen, she has chiseled a benchmark in the radio industry. At TEDxBITSPilaniDubai she will choose to redefine connections.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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@LakshmiDevi-ow5pp 3 жыл бұрын

A hi from an introvert to all introverts:)

@saurabhrawat3939 3 жыл бұрын

Hey dear :)

@sazelfbeifong7639 3 жыл бұрын

Hiiii

@shurbeto8345 3 жыл бұрын

Heyy😛

@erosennin2162 3 жыл бұрын

I'm an ambivert. Hi.

@akshaykumawat2910 3 жыл бұрын

Hi😄

@farooq5176 3 жыл бұрын

After watching this I started a conversation with an stranger and he is still taking to me, now I am searching for how to stop the conversation😅😂

@varchasva4829 3 жыл бұрын

Btw nice question. The end is always remembered weather its good or bad. Things happned before doesn't matter if you have f ed up in end. Lol

@mdr_vishnu4733 3 жыл бұрын

😂

@TheEnglishOpedia 3 жыл бұрын

😆😂😂😂

@farooq5176 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheEnglishOpedia funny isn't it...😆😆

@TheEnglishOpedia 3 жыл бұрын

@@farooq5176 yup 🤣😂🤣😂

@zakariaesadiki970 Жыл бұрын

1. Just do it 2. Skip small talk, ask personal questions 3. There is no room for negativity, instead find the things in common 4. Give a honest unique compliment 5. Ask for a simple opinion 6. Be present, eye-contact 7. Remember their details (Name/place ...)

@ProfOdin Жыл бұрын

Appreciate it !

@happy_biird 9 ай бұрын

i was gonna watch the whole video again to note the points. You saved my time. Thanks stranger. BTW where are you from, where do you live?

@nassermj7671 9 ай бұрын

Shukria Bhai

@Jim-pu7nq 9 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot 👏

@Rd-88 3 ай бұрын

@@happy_biird he's probably from earth

@PHNascimentoFS 8 ай бұрын

“ppl forget what you do, what you say but never forget what you make them feel” that’s a such lesson

@DJK-cq2uy Ай бұрын

Wow...never heard hat before😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 🤡

@DVelter 23 күн бұрын

@@DJK-cq2uy Wow.. you're smarter than evrybody else 😮😮🎉🎉

@DJK-cq2uy 21 күн бұрын

@@DVelter 🤡

@sakshi9w 3 жыл бұрын

Her - Eye contact is where all the magic happens. Me - eyes contact is where all the awkwardness starts 😂

@indigobrain7450 3 жыл бұрын

True 😂😂

@abhinaysingh7205 3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@changeeyecolor3891 3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

@aggie47 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@zacharykraus6161 3 жыл бұрын

Honestly it’s more awkward when you don’t look someone I’m the eye when you talk to them

@chaliejoy224 7 жыл бұрын

Plot twist she walks off stage and never talks to anyone that whole day

@jayarfa8453 7 жыл бұрын

Hahaha

@deepb5204 7 жыл бұрын

lol funny

@nKLsblahvlahblah 7 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@DaShizization 7 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@1kinyanjui 7 жыл бұрын

Cha Robertson 😂😂😂

@anandprakash4740 Жыл бұрын

That was so good and motivational when se said "what starts with Hello and ends up with marriage proposal."😂☺

@richardsucgang4712 Жыл бұрын

Exactly haha

@steveunderhill5935 28 күн бұрын

It’s a warning

@veroscript 7 ай бұрын

@oneandonlysd5061 3 ай бұрын

how to get someone to like you:

@user-qk4ov3ik6e 3 ай бұрын

@@oneandonlysd5061 be real and always have respect for the one you like whenever you have conversations with them

@shutdahellup69420 25 күн бұрын

"remember their details" My ADHD: "Allow me to introduce myself".

@janna1739 5 жыл бұрын

"Make the eye contact" Introvert have left the chat

@DiamanteDea 5 жыл бұрын

i love to make eye contact :)

@deepaklokhande2536 5 жыл бұрын

Me too 😓

@founderofself 5 жыл бұрын

Haha damn

@sauravmobarsha5760 5 жыл бұрын

Otaku spotted.. Shelter

@KASKhan_ 4 жыл бұрын

*Sociopaths have left chat*

@CrazyIrishDrunk1 7 жыл бұрын

I was a very social child, I was pretty popular at school too because I could easily hold a conversation with anyone and got along with everyone. As I got older I sort of lost that social ability. I'm not anti social, I can talk to people. Indeed I find it easier talking to strangers than some family members! But I'm working on getting my old social skills back and thankfully I succeeded. How? The only way I can explain it is: Learn not to care, learn not to be nervous, learn not to be afraid of silences and just let conversations flow naturally. Humans are social creatures, just let it come naturally. You are what you imagine yourself to be, so imagine yourself as social and talkative.

@ahnaftahmid9115 7 жыл бұрын

dude u just opened my eyes, the part where you said you are what you imagine to be really hit me

@mksingh3116 7 жыл бұрын

I have the same story,too!!!! But the difference is that I haven't yet suceeded in getting back that social ability, but ur comment made me feel that I'm not alone, I'm pretty sure, I'll get that back, soon... thnx, man!!

@CrazyIrishDrunk1 7 жыл бұрын

Yep, you are what you imagine yourself to be. Your mind is very powerful, use it to your advantage! you can be whoever you want to be!

@CrazyIrishDrunk1 7 жыл бұрын

it will come, don't worry. Its also important not to blame social awkwardness only on yourself, it could be the other person who has the social issue and not you. It takes two to have a conversation. Your certainly not alone, every single person alive has had social awkwardness in their lives, everyone, from celebrities to politicians, everyone!

@bethanydusciuc2148 7 жыл бұрын

Same!!!

@emerald9054 Жыл бұрын

What I love about this is that she didn't target an audience with the mindset that they were insufficient in some way to explain their difficulties communicating with strangers. She just focused on teaching how to converse from the perspective of making it better no matter what your background. That demonstrates a high level of emotional intelligence.

@livaiwebert9823 Жыл бұрын

it's not complicate to talk with stranger it's complicate to talk AGAIN with the same stranger🤣

@jayasuryaraj Жыл бұрын

👍

@CassandraLangley 2 ай бұрын

I say the opposite. It's harder to talk to a stranger at first rather than talking to the same stranger again.

@youknowwho7253 3 жыл бұрын

Is it weird that I'm more comfortable with talking to strangers than the people I know? I just feel their judgment won't affect me at all and therefore I can be myself around them since there is a very low probability of us meeting again.

@hiidupiidu3292 3 жыл бұрын

meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

@kanushi1365 3 жыл бұрын

OMG I feel the same exact way. Glad to know that I am not alone.

@innersoul9464 3 жыл бұрын

I just say things that I have never say to my friends to someone I met on Internet

@eugeneeugene3704 3 жыл бұрын

Wow I want to develop this skill😂

@wannabyul2109 3 жыл бұрын

I can approach strangers and talk to them but I don't know how to approach with acquaintances whom i rarely talk to/didn't have the chance to talk personally, it becomes really awkward

@tanmaydeshpande5748 4 жыл бұрын

Her : hey werent we in the same school? Me : yeah.. 5 mins of awkward silence Me: so what school were you in?

@xhosawithinga 4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha. I'm lauhging out loud and I'm in the Library. Eish.

@nikhat.parveen001 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂omg that really made me laugh

@palenyang1950 4 жыл бұрын

so funny

@Vaxom 4 жыл бұрын

this comment did sweeten up my day, thank you.. so good

@Sujitha30 4 жыл бұрын

@@xhosawithinga 😂😂😂🤦‍♀🤣🤣🤣

@harshitjhalani765 10 ай бұрын

I watched this video 2 years ago as an introvert to know how to initiate convos and it was very impactful, now here I am in present watching it again as an extrovert, just to understand what an extrovert is doing wrong while talking and I must say this video can be watched from both perspectives. 😊

@AmanSharma-sn8js 4 ай бұрын

I love how when she smiles - it is preceded with her eyes starting to sparkle then followed with a HUGE warm smile.

@SumitMirpuri 5 жыл бұрын

You live on earth too?! We have so much in common.

@kirannakarmi1149 5 жыл бұрын

I'm from the same galaxy dude!

@ronitology7 4 жыл бұрын

Me too from same earth👍😀

@luisfelipecorrea4219 4 жыл бұрын

And that's how I met your mother kids.. 🤣🤣😂

@mma8113 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@angelinajack 4 жыл бұрын

sumit mirpuri 💀💀💀

@aninditabhunia395 2 жыл бұрын

I love how she speaks so smooth without any hesitation.Speaking is a SKILL.

@69aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 2 жыл бұрын

its a speech but yea shes good

@yashbhatiya9923 Жыл бұрын

How to speak fluently English language

@avatr7109 Жыл бұрын

LOL you don't know RADIO CITY 101? she is the radio host she obviuosly sppeaks while in sleep too

@Sudopia8372 Жыл бұрын

bas kar my girl

@Sleviron Жыл бұрын

speaking is a SKILL DURR

@lailaalfaddil7389 11 ай бұрын

@jamiluddinmiju 2 ай бұрын

That line "conversation can make war, conversation can make peace" respect mam❤❤🇧🇩

@humudu 7 жыл бұрын

I took the advice and said HI to someone with a huge smile on my face. She got a shock because i said it so loud, then just looked without responding, so i kept smiling as hard as i could and kept staring at her. She said she would call the police

@yuki0989 7 жыл бұрын

humudu maybe the way you talked with her scared her , because nowadays many terrible things happen and most women don't feel safe

@kkkkkkkkkk955 7 жыл бұрын

wait... maybe because you didn't smile with the forehead?

@Noone402 7 жыл бұрын

now i'm laughing and sad too

@alinan538 7 жыл бұрын

kkkkkkkkkk955

@WandersNotLost 7 жыл бұрын

😂

@aliunal1732 3 жыл бұрын

Her: Ask personal questions! Me: So... what is your bank card number?

@anonymous.990 3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

@kelvinechweya7865 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@popurichandrasekharrao5442 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@nihalg23 3 жыл бұрын

Let me know when you ask them.....after then i will ask their atm pin🤣🤣

@EpicRobloxTomboy 3 жыл бұрын

Me: "abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz. Annnd, what's your social security number?"

@nguynnguynee Жыл бұрын

Within 15 minutes she solved all the problems I was having in communication, which I spent time watching many youtube videos to be able to improve but couldn't until after watching this video I realized out many things. Thanks you so much!!!

@suruchis.5351 Жыл бұрын

Undoubtedly, conversation is a skill through which we can achieve a lot of things and also sometimes it causes an adverse situation. How beautifully she told us about the impacts of conversation.

@swinxfee 7 жыл бұрын

You know you're confident when no one laughs at your joke so you do it yourself 😂

@Iamkay01 6 жыл бұрын

Simply Sookie 😂😂

@savalaslindsey274 6 жыл бұрын

Simply Sookie Haha

@parulkhanduja1789 6 жыл бұрын

Simply Sooki

@eileenbyrne1315 6 жыл бұрын

Simply Sookie my little pony

@madhukarparit9285 6 жыл бұрын

Simply Sookie Bhimrao

@Soulful_songbird 10 ай бұрын

Things I learnt from this:- 1. Just ask questions what you want. What's the worst thing can happen? 2. Skip small talk and ask personal questions (you will be surprised how much people are willing to share if you ask them) 3. Find the "me too"s 4. Give a compliment (mostly on what thinks they give efforts in for example makeup) 5. Listen to their answers and add your opinion or thoughts about it. 6. Make eye contact (see one eye at a time and move the the other afterwards) 7. After they say their name say their name (for example - hi paul!)

@codeinout9438 10 ай бұрын

What is Mee too's

@Soulful_songbird 10 ай бұрын

@@codeinout9438 That means when someone says something try to relate to it. For example your friend said I hate coffee and you too actually hate it so you say me too! This can help you be likable too as well as it can start another conversation too like your likes, dislikes, etc

@b-6870 Жыл бұрын

9:31 I came to this video after watching a shorts consisting of this part. And must say, YOU REALLY DID A GREAT JOB BRINGING THIS UP cuz believe me, today, almost everyone gives compliments without even meaning them. We must start to admire people for their real beauties (not just the external beauty but the real beauties too) with complete honesty. Thanks for bringing this up. Really appreciated.

@ILoveSoImAlive 9 ай бұрын

to be able to admire something you have to be able to see it first. to be able to see it, you have to know it. to know it, you have to invest time in it. to invest time in it, you have to know its value for your surroundings. if your surroundings value other things, you will not know it, you will not see it, you will not be able to admire it. thats what the culture is for. thats what goes lost today, especially in western society, where only competition is (over)valued. but this overvalue of competition from surroundings is indoctrination, for that people do not work together because that would make them solve their problems in small circle, and they wouldnt need to buy solutions from someone less known to them. that would be bad for busines. so overrating of competition is actually overrating of money and money system. we are ready to suffer just to stick to this system, where the money system should not be ideologically thing for the sake of itself, but should service people more than it burdens them. competition is a good thing, but like everything else, its best if it has own place and time and doesnt occupy place and time of things, which would fit there better. it is really unlikely, that this problem will be solved anytime soon. so we will have to live with the problem, that there is not so much of real admiration seen, felt, lived. and for that time most people will admire more things, you dont want them to admire, like how you can allow yourself to talk from above to a lot of people, because of your position, or admire your money, you got from other people in this sometimes sensless competition.

@damarh 7 жыл бұрын

how do i proceed after she says "i have a boyfriend" ?

@elbarto8282 7 жыл бұрын

damarh walk to the next one

@romanpirs8127 7 жыл бұрын

thats really awful, but i think thats a good reason forma not to go ahead with that person, i think that means she lets her boyfrien to control her or that she is egocentric

@suneelx63 7 жыл бұрын

damarha6 may be with "you need a better one"

@chillthcho7432 7 жыл бұрын

Say its ok i am not the jealous type

@Hi.Im.Vastur 7 жыл бұрын

+L CC lol

@theresamorley14 3 жыл бұрын

Her enthusiasm about every stranger just being a wealth of knowledge and new experience has lessened my social anxiety a lot. Thank you.

@-blackcherry3918 2 жыл бұрын

True

@preetpatel2186 2 жыл бұрын

u are shutup

@MAX-de8fe 2 жыл бұрын

@@preetpatel2186 woah

@connorfrankston5548 2 жыл бұрын

Well, that is in fact true, when you happen to be a highly attractive woman.

@carbonxkiwi 2 жыл бұрын

@@connorfrankston5548 that's what i was thinking: how these techniques would go for other demographics...

@abdulazizmuradi9390 Жыл бұрын

it's my 6th YEAR watching this multiple times every year, and I AM in love with how she explains it with so much enthusiasm

@beyourself7085 Жыл бұрын

what to do when someone have stammer prob... I want to get out of it.... I want to be a artist, public speaker, RJ type. I've all qualities to do everything... but stammer will ruin my life n carrer...

@princess.s.6018 11 ай бұрын

@@beyourself7085simple! Just be confident and BE YOURSELF

@onemillionpercent Жыл бұрын

she’s absolutely captivating. what a phenomenal TED talk given by a clearly beautiful and kind woman, oozing with charisma from her accent to her hefty and valuable material. genius!

@elfyelfy5264 3 жыл бұрын

Me trying to make a conversation : Me: hi Her:hi Me: how are you Her: good and u Me: good .30 second silence.. -how are you now Edit: the fact that I’ve certainly communicated with 1,100 people because I cannot communicate with people🤝

@peepee.poopoo 3 жыл бұрын

lol

@prajwalkhokale6742 3 жыл бұрын

lol

@sudarshanjoshi8127 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@-Naveenchalla 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@sholagebeya2863 3 жыл бұрын

I love you

@adititakale5790 4 жыл бұрын

I've heard somewhere, "A stranger is a friend you haven't met yet."

@ipapergrey6654 3 жыл бұрын

Or... Your... Next victim....

@sithumiperera5212 3 жыл бұрын

@@ipapergrey6654 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙈

@c.mirashi 3 жыл бұрын

if he/she's a friend so how he/she is a stranger??

@adititakale5790 3 жыл бұрын

@@ipapergrey6654 😂😂

@adititakale5790 3 жыл бұрын

@Joey M true😂👀

@arshitsharma3193 6 ай бұрын

This video >>>>>>>>>>> my whole one month learning of soft skills classes

@mayankrajsolanki5026 11 ай бұрын

Came form an ig reel...she is totally amazing the way she tells her experience the way she understands the genuine problems of the person. Through this video I learned many things...like how u can put efforts during a conversation where u are lacking of words... mastering conversation is a great skill

@TheMajor8 11 ай бұрын

Came from the same reel ✌️

@ursassybhi Жыл бұрын

"A conversation is like reading a book, you can turn to any page you want. You can flip to you favorite chapter, you can read as long as you want and you can read what you want. And every person trust me is a really good book." Wow

@calmpsur402 Жыл бұрын

I like this metaphor

@prathameshjadhav4032 Жыл бұрын

man

@KlauduniaL07 Жыл бұрын

not true. I cannot flip to my favourite chapter and not olways I can read as long as I want

@basseygodwin7384 9 ай бұрын

Lol @@KlauduniaL07

@kyriekwsta770 8 ай бұрын

the taxi conversation is exactly what i try to avoid. sounds horrific

@joshschilling6457 3 жыл бұрын

1. First word is a flood gate (3:33) 2. Skip the small talk (5:20) 3. Find the Me-Too (7:33) 4. Pay a unique compliment (8:45) 5. Ask for an opinion (10:19) 6. Be Present (11:41) 7. Names, Places, Animals, Things (12:40) Some Important points: just start the conversation, dive right in, pay attention, make them feel valued, and find commonality and discussion topics by asking about opinions and me-too's.

@UpstreamNL 2 жыл бұрын

Doing gods work!

@dianasamayoa3020 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@BleachHorizons 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@chandanprajapati482 2 жыл бұрын

Your effort it's helped us to understand the content more clearly thanks 🙏

@PatrickOMalley-617-patrick 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome. Shame they don't put this on every KZfaq list. Thanks for doing the work.

@zaidzaeem5398 7 ай бұрын

I chose to become a beautiful book for someone i was not reachable for... This is how I started. And I'm more than happy too... it's really magical.

@azivert_1979 Жыл бұрын

I have literally just started to gain that confidence back after lockdown and this video just got recommended to me. Blessed

@psycho8545 7 жыл бұрын

I''ll save you 15 minutes. This is what contained in this video: 1.Say hello, 2.Ask personal questions, 3.Find commonalities,, 4.Give unique compliments, 5.ask for simple opinions, 6.Pay attention(Be in the moment), 7.Remember names.

@MrJ17J 7 жыл бұрын

Yup that's an accurate summary.

@-Floydimus 7 жыл бұрын

psycho Hahah she bored me a lot. This comment saved my 15 minutes. Thank you so much.

@anupamsharmaganesh9344 7 жыл бұрын

+Kashish Shah ... lolzz that was spot on. ..(y)

@b3at2 7 жыл бұрын

psycho thank you... because she was going on and on and on and oooooon.

@rahulr5147 7 жыл бұрын

Wish I had seen this 14 minutes earlier :/

@AldosWorldTV 3 жыл бұрын

Damn tough crowd no one laughed when she said world wide web lololololz

@esotericbliss5887 3 жыл бұрын

I know right! I was cracking up!

@drewjames1770 3 жыл бұрын

I instantly went to comments when she said it 😂

@4pedos 3 жыл бұрын

that is because they don´t know what the world wide web is

@harishp.n5887 3 жыл бұрын

plot twist their aint no crowd

@aryashetty3924 3 жыл бұрын

Probably crowd mic is not there

@Kashmirincanada_ Жыл бұрын

This is something I have been struggling with since childhood, making conversation. Thank you for all the motivation, tips and tricks.

@sonsanddaughtersofgod1693 Жыл бұрын

I love how she moves with a specific pattern according to her audio strength and all her hand gesture , all in all beautiful

@Charloteblahblah 7 жыл бұрын

Everyone in the comments needs to stop being so harsh and kinda racist, I'm from rural England and I can understand what she is saying. She clearly speaks English fluently and is speaking very clearly, she just has a lovely Indian accent to top it off. So shhh. Loved this TED talk.. ❤

@Luna_Anonymous 7 жыл бұрын

Thats no indian accent you should listen what they actually sound like, this is a normal and 100 times better accent plus nobody that i have seen is being racist infact everyone is saying she is soo hot, she is sexy, she looks cute etc etc.

@kamalkumarmukiri4267 7 жыл бұрын

you are right...

@Gutenberg3 7 жыл бұрын

Lovely is the least. I fell in love with her voice and accent.

@sunflowrsunshine 7 жыл бұрын

truth

@parthsanil7477 7 жыл бұрын

+Anonymous User Lol you sound ignorant ! I am indian and that is an indian accent

@moa3810 2 жыл бұрын

"Every single person in your life was once a stranger to you" - Including your parents and siblings!

@shikang6525 2 жыл бұрын

确实

@loturzelrestaurant 2 жыл бұрын

@@shikang6525 Do you know Hbomberguy, i wonder?

@belindajardim3145 2 жыл бұрын

My parents r now deceased and my 3 siblings r now my enemies

@simon_777 2 жыл бұрын

@@belindajardim3145 first of all I seriously hope you're not serious, also I have to ask are you Portuguese? Cause your name looks very Portuguese to me.

@suchipamarthi2940 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@GyanshalaEntertainmentChannel 5 ай бұрын

We should appreciate her the way she delivered such a motivational speech so eloquently and flawlessly with great sense of humour..

@rishisaraogi4350 4 ай бұрын

there s nothing in this video that i didn't know about but to listen from someone else really put things into perspective and that someone who is from communication bizz . So i really confident and motivated to act on this .

@ReelFusionbySupun 3 жыл бұрын

1. The first-word flood gates 2. Skip the small talk 3. Find me toos 4. Pay a unique compliment 5. Ask for an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name, Place, Animal, Thing

@Saveg36 3 жыл бұрын

not very helpful without context

@gabardjean-paul3779 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Bro. !

@bharatjl 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@nikhilboddu5472 3 жыл бұрын

I was searching for it..thanks bro

@muhammedhosnyessa8002 3 жыл бұрын

Thnx

@akashkvijay 7 жыл бұрын

She seems sincerely passionate about being there on the stage. She's not there just for the money. she wants to genuinely inspire people and share her ideas to others. That is beautiful. I really respect that. I'am now offically a fan of her.

@niharchandaliya1555 7 жыл бұрын

👍

@nigefal 7 жыл бұрын

Admit it you just fancy her! :)

@akashkvijay 7 жыл бұрын

nigefal Yea well, that too.

@lokeshsurage 7 жыл бұрын

i agree

@lokeshsurage 7 жыл бұрын

i agree

@n.m6249 Жыл бұрын

I love her, she's like me. Total extrovert. Her character shines through her. You don't have to be the most good looking person but people can just be in love with your personality.

@mirranjannegi4467 11 ай бұрын

Absolutely brilliant thought provoking oration by Malavika. I was visualizing and wondering in context to so many celebrities, Industrialists and people of little fame who never open their mouth in front of strangers. Great insight

@jeremytan1051 8 жыл бұрын

I recommend watching through the whole thing, but. 1. First word floodgates (3:33) "Once you've said the first word, everything just flows." 2. Skip the small talk. (5:20) Ask personal questions. Be bold, and you might be surprised how much someone might share. Asking about family might help elicit response. The lady gives a neat tip, and a neat story at (6:27) 3. Me - too's (7:34) Don't start with negatives. Start the conversation on the same side. 4. Pay a unique compliment. (8:45) Someone may forget what you say or how you look, but they would never forget how you made them feel. There are words and compliments that people are immune to. Avoid them and pay a genuine, unique compliment. 5. Ask for an opinion. (10:19) Ask generic questions like "what's your last movie and how did you find it?" instead of "what do you think about how this affects the oil prices?" That is the difference between generic conversations and exam questions. And when someone gives you an opinion, really listen; listen to listen, don't listen to reply. 6. Be present. (11:40) Don't look at your phone etc. Make eye contact. You literally feel the conversation. 7. Name, place, animal, thing (12:42) Remember their name. It's really important. Say it back to them. Places they want to go to. Their pets names, their children's names.

@Mein_KampfyChair 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this-- I needed a summary

@SamuelDarmento 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the summary!

@VitaLaDolcee 7 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the summary! Now I don't really have to watch the video haha

@ericfeng4725 7 жыл бұрын

i think this very important

@Kiritappa 7 жыл бұрын

You're the hero that KZfaq needs.

@koushikmaji7998 4 жыл бұрын

"Every person in your life was once a stranger" Family has left the chat

@gavtipor7394 3 жыл бұрын

When u were born,even dey wer a stranger 🤔😂

@j.ou.d.f 3 жыл бұрын

@@gavtipor7394 nah not your mother cause you stayed in her womb for nearly a year so it would be pretty weird to call her a stranger

@Noahnoahan 3 жыл бұрын

Except for family ofcourse duhhhh!!!!!

@AshutoshPandey-eq9xq 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you're adopted 🙂😂

@mahotsavkumar1278 3 жыл бұрын

@@AshutoshPandey-eq9xq 😂😂😂

@grizzyc9796 Жыл бұрын

this is so helpful. Being an introvert, I usually find it very difficult to talk to people. These pointers are a great roadmap to talking to people. Thanks so much

@fuckception 7 жыл бұрын

I can't even have a decent conversation with myself!

@satyamsharma14 7 жыл бұрын

HAHAHA!! I feel you, man.

@tobegan3753 7 жыл бұрын

It's hard, maybe ask better questions or try mediation to quieten your mind

@xskywakerx 7 жыл бұрын

hahahaha, funny

@fatmahassan800 7 жыл бұрын

all of us can have a conversation with ourselves. but when ourselves start the conversation we escape by doing any thing or talking with people , because we did`t have enough bravery to face ourselves!

@imNashh 7 жыл бұрын

+liffeyb im liking that .

@conradmashazhike6670 3 жыл бұрын

her public speaking abilities are amazing. its as if she is talking to you individually in a conversation

@pixitone4140 2 жыл бұрын

Right

@sekarmukilan4627 2 жыл бұрын

yes

@ju999X 2 жыл бұрын

@amigalemming 2 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what the TEDx organizers teach you, if you want to give a talk.

@abubakras-siddiq1694 2 жыл бұрын

@@amigalemming their thoughts are amazing! they are really helping us.

@ronik2003 Жыл бұрын

I also loved her talk that every person is a book it is up to you how long you want to read it

@roshansvideos 7 ай бұрын

Malavika Varadan! We have heard this a thousand times, but your talk was a breath of fresh air!

@gopukrishna521 3 жыл бұрын

It's surprising how nobody is saying anything about how cute she speaks

@luckyluke4276 3 жыл бұрын

And looks

@OffGridInvestor 3 жыл бұрын

She's indian barbie. But honestly at least the first few minutes I think she's talking to an empty room.

@lanel6745 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! She was enthusiastic and energetic and actually that looks so cute!! Idk why so many people got bored from that

@biggaming9075 3 жыл бұрын

cheryl sparkz you lucked up shoot your shot 🏀

@SubrataSarkar-us1cq 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@mikevieira6041 3 жыл бұрын

She is proof of what she preaches. When she first comes on stage, I thought her pretty but her bubbly personality came out, and the longer she spoke the more attractive she becomes. Not surprised at the taxi driver"s proposal.

@AA-ob4yg 2 жыл бұрын

Man you are just nailed it. Had the same note.

@iamo 2 жыл бұрын

was going to write the exact same comment

@prokitchendotng4646 2 жыл бұрын

my point exactly

@EskimoFreedomMovement 2 жыл бұрын

Bubbly personality? I would love to see how she respond to someone who she runs into who is really boring and always complains and tells the same story over and over again. I would love to know how she would handle that business. The more attractive and wealthy you become, the harder it gets to have a deep conversation with everybody.

@belindajardim3145 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely right, th more she engages with u th more u like her 🥰

@H-productions Жыл бұрын

It's been 18yrs since I am here on earth ......through all these years what I have learnt is that quality matters more than quantity ......a one true friend is greater than a trillion frnds for name sake .......so focus on being truthful to your existing ones rather than making new ones

@deadlydairy7634 Жыл бұрын

When you have 0 existing ones 😔

@muteebakhawar3500 11 ай бұрын

The way she speaks... Just OMG 😱 so, smooth and energetic 🎉. She completely an enchanter ❤😂.

@btul2569 7 жыл бұрын

she's amazing i'd let her marry my son but i dont have one and im not even married

@mrsenpaihd7485 7 жыл бұрын

Batool wh- what? wait.. what?? my brain cant process this.

@ampersanda.h 7 жыл бұрын

Permission denied :D

@firdacz 7 жыл бұрын

I would marry her myself! ...if I wasn't married already :D Such a charming person.

@b3at2 7 жыл бұрын

Batool lmaooooooo

@MustafaAl-Gaberey 7 жыл бұрын

wut?..

@one9853 Жыл бұрын

“Conversation can make war ,conversation can make peace “ This line ♥️♥️

@PoisonelleMisty4311 5 ай бұрын

Her tips on finding common ground and giving real compliments totally make sense. It's a cool reminder to be positive and curious in every convo.

@danish_thelearner 2 ай бұрын

So,the conclusion is we should quite 😜

@saeedcrt9444 5 ай бұрын

Conversation can make war ,conversation can make peace “ This line are just wow amazing

@DJK-cq2uy Ай бұрын

Wow...never heard that before 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂at 😂😂😂😂

@fabiograppasonno1495 Жыл бұрын

This is one of the most beautiful TedTalks I ever heard until this moment! I love conversations and I'd love to improve my way of doing them. Moreover, I think a radio presenter is one of the most prepared people on this matter, because entertain people only with voice is very difficult and the presenter needs great talent and training before start working in a radio company. I'll listen again this video and I'll try to put in practice this important tips... conversation is the base of our life!

@Enigmaticharm 3 жыл бұрын

Me trying to become a better person after quarantine: Edit : ive become a bit better! My skin also cleared so I kinda had a mini glow up

@MahimaAgrawal 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah! Same here 😊

@mirhamyusfina.g_jakut4972 3 жыл бұрын

Yoo

@level70k38 3 жыл бұрын

That is a very smart move! Keep it up and you will succeed!👍

@kendrick7379 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@shautuvas 3 жыл бұрын

Gundham's Eyeliner lol same

@poojithareddy6197 4 жыл бұрын

Definitely one day I will share my SUCCESS story on this stage .... Thank you ❣️ soo much for all your support and blessings 🙏....

@miguelborrero6329 3 жыл бұрын

Q\\

@pranavdwivedi3962 3 жыл бұрын

Sure i wil be there listening to u

@fardosomran3853 3 жыл бұрын

@@pranavdwivedi3962 me too

@Nichirvan 3 жыл бұрын

@@pranavdwivedi3962 me to

@andersonjackiesrandallfern8115 3 жыл бұрын

The Problem Is That The Stranger Is Not Watching This Video!!

@cagla3360 2 ай бұрын

fun fact: I was in the audience of this ted talk. when she told us to stick our head and tell the person next to us "hi!",there was a man sitting right next to me. we had an awkward laugh and said our hellos and learned each other's names. after 3 years of dating, we are now married for 4 years :) so yeah, go ahead and meet strangers.

@wellbodisalone Жыл бұрын

She speaks so eloquently. You can definitely learn a lot from her.

@ValentineTM07 2 жыл бұрын

Her enthousiasm is contagious: she has made me smile during all the video

@holarobbin 2 жыл бұрын

@uniqueandspecial 2 жыл бұрын

"Me too" so let's start a conversation 🙂😂

@AA-ob4yg 2 жыл бұрын

Me2

@ValentineTM07 2 жыл бұрын

@@uniqueandspecial Okay, what do you want to talk about?

@belindajardim3145 2 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed 😍a beautiful person in and out

@libertybiberty8182 2 жыл бұрын

“Ask for an opinion” Me: approaches girl Also me: *what is your opinion on the Israel-Palestine conflict?*

@suryapanditi3161 2 жыл бұрын

I don’t see the problem in asking that you gotta be sure

@monikakrok357 2 жыл бұрын

How would be your reaction if the answer was "I don't want to take any side cause I don't have enough information and experience with this conflict to make my views as objective as possible", and when this person wasn't neither from Palestine nor from Israel?

@libertybiberty8182 2 жыл бұрын

@@monikakrok357 I would be happy! That’s the exact kind of woman I would love to have. I personally have developed my own opinion on what I believe is right, but it took me a hot minute as well.

@ericcimic 2 жыл бұрын

@@monikakrok357 I don't judge people on what they believe, it's more on why they believe it. Too many people these days are just reciting everything they hear without putting any individual thought into it.

@rauf2961 2 жыл бұрын

Israel-Palestine Conflict ✖️ Israel Genocide ✔️

@theresasinger9039 Жыл бұрын

This past summer I had amazing conversations on mountain trails. Conspiracy theories seemed to be the common theme. Fascinating!

@VictorKirungi-vj7ee 4 ай бұрын

I love the fact that you said that one loses nothing to start a conversation since they haven't been talking to you

@the-terminator5682 7 жыл бұрын

The last time I started a conversation I said, "where the Pokemon at tho?"

@yabba133 7 жыл бұрын

"fam theres a rapidash like a block north of here"

@SexualizingTheHolocaust 7 жыл бұрын

"You catching that Pikachu?" and then " Damn it! He left me just like my father!"

@HannanAlisyntacticspi 7 жыл бұрын

you just made a LINK

@JunkiesTube 7 жыл бұрын

We all laughing

@Lalitsingh816 7 жыл бұрын

This makes much sense than her speech

@Slimecrazy234 7 жыл бұрын

Rule 1: Be attractive Rule 2: Don't be unattractive

@tinmvn 7 жыл бұрын

Slimecrazy234 These comments are funny, but really that doesn't make any sense. On the other hand, it's often harder to talk to an attractive person without being nervous.

@jayarfa8453 7 жыл бұрын

That's true, it's easier to start a conversation if you are good looking on the outside.

@jamesranada9702 7 жыл бұрын

More likely, is that you tried hard to accomplished something from a talk with an attractive person yet you failed . then it is useless to do so, try talking to a nice yet unattractive . yet i'm too young for this 13 yrs old .

@tinmvn 7 жыл бұрын

It may be easier for if you're attractive, but the other person can be very nervous.

@hopsinojnr8746 7 жыл бұрын

these are just excuses. and real men dont need no damn excuses. just build a lot of confidence! hang out with some nice friends, exercise at the least 15 m a day..try to talk with everyone you know! also for all men having problems, i'd recommend checking out alpha.m

@anupriya6309 Жыл бұрын

Amazed by her enthusiasm 😍😍 I have watched a lot of communication improvement videos and this one is the most interesting..

@Nyemaspeaks Жыл бұрын

Isn't she so good? I loved her analogy that every person is a good book and there is so much to discover about them.

@harrydaplatypus361 3 жыл бұрын

How to establish connections with people through conversation (not necessarily just with strangers): 1. Dare to begin, dare to say the first words 2. Skip small talks, focus on what's really interesting 3. Draw on the common ground 4. Make genuine unique compliments 5. Get people to share what they think about something, listen to listen 6. Don't multitask, be there, be in the conversation 7. Remember what you two talked about **1st big takeaway: "people can forget what you say, what you do, but they will never forget how you make them feel" **2nd big takeaway: look at them in the eye **3rd big takeaway: every person is a really good book, you just have to figure out which to read next instead of only skimming the titles

@mytho_raj 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks ❤️

@prashanthgojja 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks man

@sunilalimbu1594 3 жыл бұрын

Just the comment I was looking for

@namdevgudmewad6937 3 жыл бұрын

@@sunilalimbu1594 me too

@manumanmaneesh3390 3 жыл бұрын

@OfficialBasedologyYT 5 жыл бұрын

1. Say hi 2. Ask personal questions 3. Find me too’s 4. Pay a genuine compliment 5. Get an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name place animal thing

@sayidrayhan5442 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you sir, you just save my (un)valuable time

@SV42165 3 жыл бұрын

@@sayidrayhan5442 😔

@yogeshreddy6002 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for summarizing 👍

@user-ey1ms7dj8i 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks man

@hetvipatel2345 Ай бұрын

I really liked this ted talk. Her speech , her body language , the way she was smiling , the way she was doing hand gestures and her simplicity in explaining the whole topic and little humor in between. One of the best Ted talks. ❤

@sahil2288 Жыл бұрын

She provided so simple techniques and believe me it worked for me. 👍👍

@abigailoguntuyi4387 3 жыл бұрын

I really like how she presented her speech and her energy was so contagious. She's also pretty

@alive14ever 3 жыл бұрын

She's a cool 7

@dbasrus 3 жыл бұрын

@@alive14ever you're a socially-illiterate 2

@mathewcherian7832 3 жыл бұрын

I really wish she was my friend. Whatever she taught makes you so loveble as she is

@nimrashahid2569 3 жыл бұрын

body and face expressions and attitude really enlightens a person

@Honeyydo 7 жыл бұрын

"A conversation is an adventure." More like an anxiety-riddled obstacle course.. hence why I am here lol.

@matrixdukenukem000 7 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. Talking to strangers is more like a sweaty, panic rising and possible bad outcome for an introvert specially.

@Jamesucht 7 жыл бұрын

Small talk is like kryptonite. #IntrovertProblems

@MrMark940 7 жыл бұрын

can I have a convemesation with you?

@WantedMayhem 7 жыл бұрын

Sounds very spot on 😂😂🤣

@zackbrown5201 7 жыл бұрын

what is she files a rape case for just started talking to her

@watermelondoggo861 Жыл бұрын

I tried making a new friend yesterday, and everything was good, except I SUCKED at talking with them. Half of the time we just stood awkwardly and most of our conversations were a trainwreck. Thanks for this video!

@hoailinhvu6040 Жыл бұрын

it's important to know how to make convesation with stranger because when we start working or studying in an environment, we need to cooperate with them to make the best result. we need to feel confident and be helpful, friendly to others because that is the best way to make the conversation comfortable and natural. be always happy and keep smiling with a stranger and i'm quiet sure they will be also act to you like this way. it's right. a conversation is just like a book. open the page and create your own chapter.

@manjistharawat9144 6 жыл бұрын

We all Introverts need to watch this video

@ramizzmansuri2620 6 жыл бұрын

Manjistha Rawat right

@jowildcat40 6 жыл бұрын

"If you're an interested introvert, be an interesting extrovert. If you're an interesting extrovert, be an interested introvert." - Tom Hopkins

@harithulasidalamappo6937 6 жыл бұрын

I am an introvert

@pratyushrawat9555 6 жыл бұрын

agreed

@butterflygirl396 6 жыл бұрын

lol ikr

@britlmao 2 жыл бұрын

"and every day we meet so many strangers" I'm in my room all-day

@gurupriya8726 2 жыл бұрын

Hey! You could meet a stranger online.. Just like now 🙂

@dt_99 2 жыл бұрын

@@gurupriya8726 yes. Internet has made it a cakewalk nowadays. Hi Guru Priya!

@gurupriya8726 2 жыл бұрын

@@dt_99 Hello friend!! How are you doing?

@dt_99 2 жыл бұрын

@@gurupriya8726 I am doing good. How are you?

@gurupriya8726 2 жыл бұрын

@@dt_99 just not as good as i would wish for lol. By the way, idk if this would be too much information, but here you go..i have a similar surname as yours, Gurupriya Takkar is my full name. Haha we got a me too topic here( not exactly me too).

@saeeghatame1830 Жыл бұрын

I watched this vid when I was in 7th grade and it has helped me in so many ways..rn I'm in clg and this vid just popped up on my feed, feels so nostalgic:)

@AnilAnvesh Жыл бұрын

After watching this talk, I have looked at myself and discovered something about myself. I am good at making conversations with strangers. But, when it comes to seeking help or asking for an opportunity, I act like mute. All of sudden, my super introverted nature kicks in. I start thinking, how they will react! I guess, now I know how to overcome that. Thanks Malavika ❤

@rohankohli Жыл бұрын

same problem is with me

@kutlwanomighty 7 ай бұрын

that too easily

@halflife8846 7 жыл бұрын

i can normally start a good conversation. but i have no idea how to continue it for a long time i mean i cant build a relation

@HelloKittyFreak96 7 жыл бұрын

half life sameeee I hate it honestly

@masteryoda8536 7 жыл бұрын

exactly man , me too :/

@lilman4350 7 жыл бұрын

STOP the porn nd learn to be in the moment...!

@HelloKittyFreak96 7 жыл бұрын

lilman4350 lmao wtf!

@Spazlites 7 жыл бұрын

lilman4350 please tell me you're joking? 😂

@R.G.962 7 жыл бұрын

Can we all take a moment and appreciate how beautiful she is

@ashishjaiswalful 7 жыл бұрын

Lande Raxial

@jayarfa8453 7 жыл бұрын

Bad hairstyle though, covers her beautiful face.

@emedi.09 7 жыл бұрын

Jay Arfa I love the hair looks so sexy

@CyberSage796 7 жыл бұрын

seriously!? her body isnt even good, its her face and clothes that make up for her "not so good body"

@R.G.962 7 жыл бұрын

Ali Zein Your body type preference isn't everyone's body type preference

@zvezdales Жыл бұрын

A very helpful video! Tomorrow I will start a new semester which means I will meet many strangers and these days I felt anxious to think that I will facing bunch of conversations with strangers. But after watching this video I feel like I'm encouraged to start to talk to strangers and suddenly I feel I can't wait to have my first conversation in this semester. This video really reduces my anxiety and I love it. Thank you Malavika!

@sohilvirani5755 9 ай бұрын

Can i have ur number for improve English communication

@citygirl7536 Жыл бұрын

I like mostly everything that she shared . It’s good to know how to talk to different type of people. Some who are outgoing and others are timid. Not everyone likes someone asking where their family lives .

@richmondmamfe4731 Жыл бұрын

Hi Ana! That's true

@richmondmamfe4731 Жыл бұрын

Can we be friends?

@Ampwich 5 жыл бұрын

Me: I like how when you smile, your nose smiles and your whole being smiles Her: I have to go.....

@thelazychef_blogs3408 5 жыл бұрын

Ampwich 😂😂😂😂😂

@benstr8156 5 жыл бұрын

Me: wait wait I'll keep you company. Her: (running away now)

@litavays4087 4 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@amanpathan8085 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@balajiakkayyagari8454 4 жыл бұрын

That makes her feel weird about me

@cappyvlogs 4 жыл бұрын

*The Problem Is That The Stranger Is Not Watching This Video!!*

@ronaldrichardmutebi7772 3 жыл бұрын

im actually

@RahulPandey-xb6gb 3 жыл бұрын

im actually

@raghavgangrade7037 3 жыл бұрын

Well, me too!

@mikereigns8134 3 жыл бұрын

Me 2

@jordan.n01 3 жыл бұрын

I'm

@user-fv1pf4wt8u 3 ай бұрын

what I learned from her, "don't listen to reply, listen to listen". Thank you Mam!

@ahsininfinti313 9 ай бұрын

The way she explains is everything... malavika varadan is beautiful

@secxybear6629 7 жыл бұрын

My problem with conversations is that I just don't care about other people. I don't ask personal questions because I generally don't care what the answer is. It feels dishonest to put it on.

@cheesecakelasagna 7 жыл бұрын

SecxyBear I know right! Doing small talks to avoid awkward silences just isn't for me.

@emiliosgregoriou8943 7 жыл бұрын

if you don't care about other people why talk to them in the first place? In fact, why are you even watching the video

@secxybear6629 7 жыл бұрын

I like talking to others and I care about people. I just don't give a shit about small talk or irrelevant personal things.

@shabaotb 7 жыл бұрын

i feel bad for your future partner

@MrMark940 7 жыл бұрын

introvert ha

@joelt7869 7 жыл бұрын

lol this was in my recommended im such a loser

@clementine5704 7 жыл бұрын

lmao same 😂😭

@You2be-Sucks 7 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@moooseypop9868 7 жыл бұрын

Same. It's a sign. 😂

@christopherortega985 7 жыл бұрын

Ha me too!

@manojkandiyil5252 7 жыл бұрын

Me 2.... And KZfaq is right again... I'm very shy around people and I usually don't know what I'm doing with my hands or feet if someone talks to me or asks me to do something.. I always concentrate on what others are thinking about me and that's a problem... That's why I don't go outside... But after sometime(long time) I adjust to my surroundings... I wonder how Ronaldo plays football while millions of people are watching him... I wonder how talk show hosts get their confidence to speak and act... I wonder how I could be like them.... I really don't know... I just wish my life turned out to be good... I know there are some struggles and I hope I can face it with the help of my dad and mom... ( she says that all this shyness will go away when I get more mature (I'm 14) ).... Anyways if u read till here then please suggest me ways to deal with the above problem... Byeee