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It seems many of us have parts that have bought into the myth of "Conventional Parenting" that we see in the many media images from dominant culture that bombard us. And as a result we may have concerns about "Being Acceptable" if we are not mainstream. When we are worried about being judged by others; whether it is for being divorced, a single black parent, a parent of a special needs kid, a lesbian mum or any number of "unconventional" set ups then we may find our parts taking us over to prove we are "Rock Star" parents; and they may have us "Overparenting" in public. When we do this it can disconnect us from our kids. It is important to acknowledge the challenges and helpful to become aware of our parts that react to the criticisms and judgements of others. Unless you have transgressed against someone (for which you can apologise) all their critical and judgemental parts are merely giving you information about them and how they are in the world. It has nothing to do with you. However, if a part of you gets triggered it is worth exploring.